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8 Ways To Keep Your Whimsy

8 Ways To Keep Your Whimsy

As we grow into our lives, into the people we are, there are a few qualities we gain: maturity, patience, independence, all those traits that we perceive as being ‘adult’. But there is one quality that doesn’t get nearly enough attention; whimsy. Mike Burns of The Other Side of Complexity shares 8 ways you can hold on to and embrace your inner playful, quirky, happiness:

I have some good friends who told me they prioritize “whimsy” in their relationships and life pursuits. Whimsy is defined as, “playfully quaint or fanciful behaviour or humour.” It’s not just a future goal for these two. It shows in their daily behaviour, now.

And I love it. I want this characteristic to be true of me, as well. I want to take life seriously. I want to be sober and make a difference. But, I want to have fun in the process! I don’t want the tougher parts of life to choke the happy out of me.

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Here are a few ideas on how to maintain your whimsy:

Laugh at yourself.

We can’t take ourselves so seriously. We have to learn to giggle at the goofy things we do each day. Don’t get upset when someone else laughs at something you say or do. You’ll be much better off if you learn to join them! Mock your own missteps. Imitate your own strange voices. You’ll be WAY more fun than if you were uptight about it.

Laugh by yourself.

Yes.  By yourself. When nobody else is looking. When nobody else would benefit. When you’re wondering if you’ve gone mad because you just said something in a crazy voice for-your-ears-only. There’s something very healthy about that. Try it.

Pause production.

You can’t work all the time. It’s good that you love to create things. You love to bring things into existence. But you have to have healthy rhythms. You’ve got to figure out when you can say,“I’m not going to produce right now.” Maybe for a day. Maybe for a few hours. Get some rest. Don’t get so busy driving that you forget to stop for gas.

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Get a hobby.

Find something that you love to do, and make time for it. You might not be able to do it as much as you’d prefer, but you can do it on occasion! There are as many different possibilities for hobbies as there are people reading this post. Discover yours.

Find fun in your daily rhythms.

It’s possible to take our repetitive, everyday tasks and make them enjoyable! Our attitude and approach can make all the difference. Admittedly, some tasks are easier to “funify” than others. Whatever the case, be creative and see how you can turn your tasks into some kind of play. You might use a different accent. Perhaps you can count how many times you hear a particular sound. Maybe you can shout, “Well, thar she blows!” every time you fold a towel. I hesitated even making suggestions because what’s funny to one person may be ridiculous to another. Do what works for you.

Look for the good in things.

I get it. Life can be crappy. But good happens, too. Look for that! Make sure you continuously expose yourself to stories of the beautiful parts of humanity. I’m not asking you to be naive, just intentional. Make sure you don’t allow the negative to have complete domination in your mind. Look for the good in people and situations.

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Make people smile.

Seeing people smile as a result of your efforts is very rewarding. There is enough bad stuff going on that makes people sad. Find ways to bring a moment of joy to the people around you. You can tell jokes or make faces or open a door for someone or compliment them. Make your community a better place to be. Leave the people you meet better off than they were when you found them.

Love deeply.

It’s a lot easier to be positive and playful when your relationships are healthy. Give your best effort to the people in your closest circles. Love deeply. Love well. Make time for them and let them know you care. Say it and show it.

Those are the few suggestions that came to mind today when I was thinking about “whimsy.”

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What thoughts did these trigger in your mind?

What suggestions would you add to the list?

Mike Burns blogs about Living Well and Focusing on What’s Most Important at theothersideofcomplexity.com.  He has also written books about decluttering. You can connect with him on Twitter (@mikemikeburns) and Facebook (facebook.com/theothersideofcomplexity).

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The Best Way to Create a Vision for the Life You Want

The Best Way to Create a Vision for the Life You Want

Creating a vision for your life might seem like a frivolous, fantastical waste of time, but it’s not: creating a compelling vision of the life you want is actually one of the most effective strategies for achieving the life of your dreams. Perhaps the best way to look at the concept of a life vision is as a compass to help guide you to take the best actions and make the right choices that help propel you toward your best life.

your vision of where or who you want to be is the greatest asset you have

    Why You Need a Vision

    Experts and life success stories support the idea that with a vision in mind, you are more likely to succeed far beyond what you could otherwise achieve without a clear vision. Think of crafting your life vision as mapping a path to your personal and professional dreams. Life satisfaction and personal happiness are within reach. The harsh reality is that if you don’t develop your own vision, you’ll allow other people and circumstances to direct the course of your life.

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    How to Create Your Life Vision

    Don’t expect a clear and well-defined vision overnight—envisioning your life and determining the course you will follow requires time, and reflection. You need to cultivate vision and perspective, and you also need to apply logic and planning for the practical application of your vision. Your best vision blossoms from your dreams, hopes, and aspirations. It will resonate with your values and ideals, and will generate energy and enthusiasm to help strengthen your commitment to explore the possibilities of your life.

    What Do You Want?

    The question sounds deceptively simple, but it’s often the most difficult to answer. Allowing yourself to explore your deepest desires can be very frightening. You may also not think you have the time to consider something as fanciful as what you want out of life, but it’s important to remind yourself that a life of fulfillment does not usually happen by chance, but by design.

    It’s helpful to ask some thought-provoking questions to help you discover the possibilities of what you want out of life. Consider every aspect of your life, personal and professional, tangible and intangible. Contemplate all the important areas, family and friends, career and success, health and quality of life, spiritual connection and personal growth, and don’t forget about fun and enjoyment.

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    Some tips to guide you:

    • Remember to ask why you want certain things
    • Think about what you want, not on what you don’t want.
    • Give yourself permission to dream.
    • Be creative. Consider ideas that you never thought possible.
    • Focus on your wishes, not what others expect of you.

    Some questions to start your exploration:

    • What really matters to you in life? Not what should matter, what does matter.
    • What would you like to have more of in your life?
    • Set aside money for a moment; what do you want in your career?
    • What are your secret passions and dreams?
    • What would bring more joy and happiness into your life?
    • What do you want your relationships to be like?
    • What qualities would you like to develop?
    • What are your values? What issues do you care about?
    • What are your talents? What’s special about you?
    • What would you most like to accomplish?
    • What would legacy would you like to leave behind?

    It may be helpful to write your thoughts down in a journal or creative vision board if you’re the creative type. Add your own questions, and ask others what they want out of life. Relax and make this exercise fun. You may want to set your answers aside for a while and come back to them later to see if any have changed or if you have anything to add.

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    What Would Your Best Life Look Like?

    Describe your ideal life in detail. Allow yourself to dream and imagine, and create a vivid picture. If you can’t visualize a picture, focus on how your best life would feel. If you find it difficult to envision your life 20 or 30 years from now, start with five years—even a few years into the future will give you a place to start. What you see may surprise you. Set aside preconceived notions. This is your chance to dream and fantasize.

    A few prompts to get you started:

    • What will you have accomplished already?
    • How will you feel about yourself?
    • What kind of people are in your life? How do you feel about them?
    • What does your ideal day look like?
    • Where are you? Where do you live? Think specifics, what city, state, or country, type of community, house or an apartment, style and atmosphere.
    • What would you be doing?
    • Are you with another person, a group of people, or are you by yourself?
    • How are you dressed?
    • What’s your state of mind? Happy or sad? Contented or frustrated?
    • What does your physical body look like? How do you feel about that?
    • Does your best life make you smile and make your heart sing? If it doesn’t, dig deeper, dream bigger.

    It’s important to focus on the result, or at least a way-point in your life. Don’t think about the process for getting there yet—that’s the next stepGive yourself permission to revisit this vision every day, even if only for a few minutes. Keep your vision alive and in the front of your mind.

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    Plan Backwards

    It may sound counter-intuitive to plan backwards rather than forwards, but when you’re planning your life from the end result, it’s often more useful to consider the last step and work your way back to the first. This is actually a valuable and practical strategy for making your vision a reality.

    • What’s the last thing that would’ve had to happen to achieve your best life?
    • What’s the most important choice you would’ve had to make?
    • What would you have needed to learn along the way?
    • What important actions would you have had to take?
    • What beliefs would you have needed to change?
    • What habits or behaviors would you have had to cultivate?
    • What type of support would you have had to enlist?
    • How long will it have taken you to realize your best life?
    • What steps or milestones would you have needed to reach along the way?

    Now it’s time to think about your first step, and the next step after that. Ponder the gap between where you are now and where you want to be in the future. It may seem impossible, but it’s quite achievable if you take it step-by-step.

    It’s important to revisit this vision from time to time. Don’t be surprised if your answers to the questions, your technicolor vision, and the resulting plans change. That can actually be a very good thing; as you change in unforeseeable ways, the best life you envision will change as well. For now, it’s important to use the process, create your vision, and take the first step towards making that vision a reality.

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