Last Updated on December 1, 2020

7 Things Millennials Can Do to Beat the Quarter Life Crisis

7 Things Millennials Can Do to Beat the Quarter Life Crisis

Everyone has heard of the midlife crisis, but some may not be aware of the quarter life crisis. This is a period in one’s twenties when you may feel anxiety over where you’re going in life or the quality of the life you’re currently living. It can be marked with self-doubt and general uncertainty. The term has only recently become popularized in relation to the current generation of young people in their 20s to early 30s who collectively answer to the term “millennials.”

Typical features of the quarter life crisis are:

  • Anxiety
  • Frustration
  • An overwhelming dissatisfaction with the direction of one’s life
  • Feeling as if life has no specific purpose
  • Feelings of self-doubt and confusion

Left unchecked, these feelings can trigger a downward spiral from anxiety to depression, or worse. One recent report by public-health groups Trust for America’s Health and Well Being Trust points out that drug, alcohol, and suicide deaths have risen in nearly every age group over the last decade, but the increase has been especially pronounced for younger Americans, the so-called millennials[1].

Statistics on the Quarter-Life Crisis | Business Wire

    If the quarter life crisis is responsible for playing any part in these troubling stats by increasing a sense of despair and hopelessness, then finding ways to overcome it early on could be incredibly important[2].

    Here are 7 simple steps that an individual at risk can take to give the quarter life crisis a side-step:

    1. Identify Your Top 3 Personal Values

    Really knowing what makes you tick, what turns you on to life, is incredibly empowering. This information can act like a compass for you as you go through life, giving you a sense of clarity in your decision making. This clarity will eliminate a lot of the mental fog that can cause self-doubt and confusion.


    Your personal values are the things that are at your core, that make up your essence, and which you consider to be highly important across every aspect of life.

    Examples of personal values are: Creativity, Growth, Honesty, Responsibility, Persistence, etc. Getting down to just 3 values can be tough, but when you do narrow it down, you will have a clear focus for everything you do.

    2. Detox Your Mind

    On an average day, most of us are overloaded with more information and communication than we can handle or process. Sometimes the clutter of all this information and mental noise can fog what’s really important to us, and for us.

    In the same way that our physical bodies can benefit from a good detox – eliminating the bad, and flushing out our systems with the good – so too can our minds feel refreshed and renewed after consciously deciding to monitor the information we let into it for a period of time.

    Try one week without reality TV, soaps, gossip magazines, news, social media, etc. Try flushing your mind out with a combination of silence and carefully selected positive material designed to boost your mental well-being.

    Instead of scrolling through Facebook, try picking up a good book. Instead of that dramatic reality show, turn on a documentary about the real world instead. You may discover something new you enjoy doing, and, at the very least, you’ll learn something along the way.

    3. Adopt an Attitude of Personal Responsibility

    This is one of the easiest tips to implement if you are mentally prepared to take it on during a quarter life crisis. Your attitude is nothing more than a choice. This piece of advice puts you fully in the driving seat of everything that happens around you.


    100% responsibility means that even if something isn’t your fault, you still take responsibility for how the outcome has impacted you. This gives you the opportunity to open your eyes to how you might actually be affecting things that you previously thought were outside of your control.

    This is especially important if the effects that you have been experiencing have been less than positive. 100% responsibility means always asking, “What could I have done differently? How can I change my behavior in the future to positively affect the outcome?” Ask these questions instead of looking at what other people have done wrong, or how they are to blame for a given set of circumstances or outcome.

    The next time you feel some frustration or anger building up inside you towards someone or something else, just ask yourself, “How might I have contributed to this situation? What would I do differently if it were to occur again?”

    If you have trouble reflecting on these kinds of questions, try adding in some mindfulness meditation to make some space in your mind for these analyses. You can get started here.

    4. Practice Responding Rather Than Reacting

    For most of us, most of the time, when we speak or act, we are reacting instinctively to something that has been said, or something that has happened immediately beforehand. Responding means that we allow a little pause, some space, between what is said or done, and what we choose to say or do as a result.

    It doesn’t have to be a big dramatic pause, just enough time for us to give brief consideration to the things we do and say. In this pause, we can do a quick mental check, which will eventually become automatic, to see if we are responding in a way that aligns with our core values and is in line with us taking 100% responsibility[3].


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      Try using that space in your next conversation, and see if you don’t feel a great sense of calm about your communications and interactions.

      5. Pick a Destination and Enjoy the Journey There

      This tip refers to the principle of having a specific overall purpose to your life, and learning to enjoy the process that will help you to achieve it. Once you are clear on your values, it becomes much easier to identify what direction you want to take your life in, and for what specific purpose. That is your destination, and it will help you move through a quarter life crisis with more confidence.

      Doing the things that will take you towards that destination will be what makes up a substantial part of your life, so it is important that you see it all as part of a process that you can enjoy. Take pride in this because you know it is all contributing to you achieving your purpose.

      One activity that can help in identifying what purpose you want to have in life is to write a letter to yourself from the perspective of an older version of yourself.

      What will that version of you have accomplished? Where will they be in life, and how will they feel? With all of that, what would they tell you, their younger self, about the next steps to take?

      Your 20s and 30s can feel like a lot of back and forth as you explore what does and doesn’t work for your life. This can lead to a sense of feeling lost and unbalanced. Try to remember that this is all temporary and that once you find your niche, things will get easier.

      6. Keep It All in Check With Balance

      Balance here refers not to balancing all the different roles and responsibilities that you need to fulfill on a daily basis in order to manage a quarter life crisis, but rather balancing the 3 elements that make it possible for you fulfill those roles in the first place – your physical body, your thinking mind, and your guiding spirit.


      Balancing them doesn’t necessarily mean spending equal time on each, but being aware of each and giving them acknowledgement of the role they each play in your life. For your body, this means eating right, resting well and getting some exercise. For your mind, this could mean that after your mental detox, you adopt some new habits about what goes into your mind, and the space you give it to process the information overload each day.

      Depending on your beliefs, your spirit may be as simple as your gut feelings. The emotions that we feel can be a guiding voice regarding a particular situation. This is not to say that you should be ruled by your emotions, but equally, don’t ignore your inner voice – it’s often giving the wisest advice.

      7. Put Your Life in Your Hands With a Plan

      Chances are, if you’ve ever planned anything important, you’ve had a written plan. Starting a business, planning a wedding, a project at work…it all gets written down. How much more important is this for your life?

      Imagine holding a document in your hands containing the plans for the next 5 years of your life. Identifying your top 3 values is a great start. From there, you could go on to create your bucket list. Then, pick the top thing from there that you would like to prioritize for achieving in the next 12 months.

      Then, jot down a list of everything that you would need to do to make it happen. What are the major stepping stones for achieving that thing? What are the specific tasks that you would need to do to achieve each of those steps? When will you do each of these steps?

      These are some of the basic questions that you would need to ask yourself to give yourself a great chance of making that thing happen. If you take a little bit of action on each of these steps on a regular basis, you will reduce your risk of being hit by the quarter life crisis. You’ll also increase your ability to deal with it, if that is where you already find yourself.

      The Bottom Line

      The quarter life crisis is not an inevitable transition into full blown adulthood for young adults. You can find a way to eliminate or reduce its effects before it even starts by simply identifying your values and recognizing which direction you want to head in. The first few steps are always going to be the hardest, but they’ll be the most rewarding if you can push through them.


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      20 Invaluable Things Money Can’t Buy

      20 Invaluable Things Money Can’t Buy

      George Lorimer contends,

      “It’s good to have money and all the things that money can buy, but it’s good, too, to check up once in a while and make sure that you haven’t lost the things money can’t buy.”

      In reality, everyone likes money. It has enough power to determine happy or sad moments for some people. This happens partially because money can trigger your emotions. However, there are many invaluable things money can’t buy.

      Money will allow you to experience the luxury of things like a Tesla, an estate, or first-class tickets to anywhere in the world. But, money cannot buy you everything. There are aspects of your life, yourself, relationships, and encounters that forever will be priceless.

      So, what are 20 invaluable things money can’t buy?

      1. Love

      You must have seen this one coming because of how much it is preached throughout life.

      Love is a genuine action with beautiful emotions that develops between people who know each other to an extent.

      People fall in “love” for different reasons. Love is unconditional and keeps people in connection with each other.

      Money may earn you attraction and attention, but love? Not at all.

      2. True Friends

      Everyone likes to have money because there’s almost no way to survive if we didn’t have a cent or two. And it’s only normal for people to associate themselves with people who are making efforts to make the money.

      But sometimes, people are only attracted to what you have and what you can give; not who you are.


      It works just like love. When your money runs low, true friends should remain.

      3. Family

      We all know that family consists of a father, mother, and children, so let’s consider the individual elements.

      A father is only a father as a result of the relationship between him and his child. Can money buy a relationship?

      The same concept applies to the mother and child and if a relationship with a father cannot be bought, then neither can one with a mother nor child be bought.

      Even if it’s an extended family, you still have to have a relationship with someone who connects you to the other person. It’s not rocket science.

      4. Wisdom

      Someone defined wisdom as “the mother of knowledge,” and how does one acquire knowledge? He or she receives it from experience.

      So, if you cannot buy experience, then you cannot buy knowledge. And if you cannot buy both, then wisdom is definitely out of your league. You have to study, meet people and just experience life to earn it.

      5. Happiness

      In the words of Eleanor Roosevelt,

      “Happiness is not in the mere possession of money; it lies in the joy of achievement, in the thrill of creative effort.”

        Mrs. Roosevelt even acknowledges things money can’t buy. She emphasizes that money can’t buy happiness.


        Despite all the money a person may have in the bank, he or she still may not have the happiness that we all crave and deserve. Money cannot afford happiness.

        6. Health

        Money can help us afford the best health care services, but health itself? Not exactly.

        We’ve seen millionaires and billionaires lose their lives to a range of diseases that all their money put together could not cure.

        The Dalai Lama said,

        “What surprises me most is ‘man’ because he sacrifices his health to make money then he sacrifices his money to recuperate his health.”

          So, besides the fact that it doesn’t buy us health, sometimes the pursuit of it takes good health away from us.

          7. Long life

          During birthdays, we wish people a long, prosperous and healthy life. Money would be the best gift to send to loved ones to buy these things.

          But since you can’t, you wish these individuals the best life has to offer. You may also give them fun and loving experiences without money.

          8. Time

          The universe has been impartial enough to give us all 24 hours to do whatever we want to. But nobody, with all his or her wealth, has been able to purchase an extra hour, not even a second.

          9. Respect

          They say it is reciprocal. In other words, you can only get respect when you give respect and the last time we checked, there was no money for respect.


          So if you can’t give something in any currency, then you can’t receive it in any currency either.

          10. Character

          Character is the sum of a person’s attitude. Attitude has to do with the way you behave and although money can influence a person’s character, it cannot buy a good one.

          11. Confidence

          Any “confidence” built on money really isn’t confidence. It’s a shade of pride and usually ends in sheer show-off. That, dear friend, is not confidence. Confidence is a quality you build with time.

          12. Beauty

          There are countless beauty products in the market and all of them cost money. These beauty products can only enhance beauty by covering up blemishes and some go as far as altering some features of the body.

          But none has been able to change the natural beauty of anybody. If you consider surgery, then you are still altering the natural features, not changing it. You can’t buy good looks from your mother’s womb. It’s just not possible.

          13. Sense of Humor

          Some individuals are born with the gift to make others laugh. Most of the comedians around became wealthy as a result of their sense of humor.

          The humor did not come after the money. Nobody became funny overnight because of a swell in their bank account.

          14. Trust

          Why do you trust people? Because they’ve proved themselves to be trustworthy by character. Their character earned them that trust.

          15. Talent

          Talent is a natural skill that has to be discovered and honed. Just like beauty and every other thing that comes naturally, talent cannot be purchased.

          16. Purpose

          People attend conferences and seminars to help them discover their purpose in life. These conferences may be free or paid but the money did not buy them the purpose.

          They already had the purpose way before realizing that they needed to find it. Lots of poor people discovered their purpose and leveraged it to become rich. This goes on to illustrate that money can come as a result of finding purpose but it cannot get you the purpose.


          17. Satisfaction

          If there’s one thing that money can never buy, it is satisfaction. Even if money finds a way to get any of the other items on this list, it can never afford satisfaction. Money increases our desire for more money. The more the money, the more the hunger.

          18. Empathy

          Never have we ever heard of a man who bought the ability to empathize and never would we ever because empathy is a feeling. Feelings cannot be bought.

          19. Peace

          Why do people employ sophisticated security systems? Because they want to have peace when they go to bed but even with all of that, peace has never been received in exchange for money. It comes as a result of a clear conscience and a good heart.

          Ironically, money may bring enemies which would end up disrupting your peace.

          20. A Good Name

          A proverb says “a good name is better than silver.” This is like comparing two different things: a name and silver (which could be referred to as money).

          What is a “name?” It is a form of identity and how is it received? Your way of life and character helps people to receive you.


            Overall, these things are invaluable and confidently show that money can’t buy everything.

            While this is the case, money is necessary, so don’t quit your job just because it can’t buy you happiness. And do spend your money and time wisely.

            Also, go out of your way to make people happy. Their money can’t provide this needed emotion. Do not lose or mismanage your health trying to get money.

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