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7 Skillful Ways You Can Learn To Enhance Your Emotional Intelligence

7 Skillful Ways You Can Learn To Enhance Your Emotional Intelligence

Emotional intelligence, often referred to as, EI or EQ, is a form of intelligence that affects people’s self-esteem and interaction with others. There are four aspects to emotional intelligence that lead to a centered lifestyle. These are self-awareness, self-management of emotions, social relationship, and relationship management. When you raise your EQ, negative emotions are lowered and more positive decisions can be followed through with. Through strengthening these core elements, a healthy lifestyle balance can be achieved and emotional intelligence is enhanced.

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    Pay Attention To Feelings

    Take time to assess how you feel about a situation. The identification of emotions strengthens the ability to recognize emotions as they arise. Learn to assess emotions even when they are discomforting. Appraise emotions through writing down how a situation or crisis is being addressed while avoiding interrupting the chain of emotions. Let yourself feel the full impact of how you are being affected by even strong emotions. This is an ongoing enterprise; take stock of feelings and emotions frequently. Through noting emotions, especially in a stressful situation, emotions can be brought under control.

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      Allow Feelings To Flow

      Avoid judging what is being felt. Feelings come unbidden and there is no sense in judging too harshly what is being felt. This allows feelings, even very strong ones, to lessen their impact over time. A person thus learns to give themselves and others a non-judgmental way of emotional release without reservation. Allow yourself to feel what you are feeling without attempting to interrupt or avoid the feeling. Avoidance of feelings, especially very strong ones only tend to build up over time and become untenable and very difficult to live with.

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        Recognize and Manage Stress

        There is no doubt that life is stressful. How you manage stress has a direct impact on emotional intelligence. Enhancing time-management skills may be one area where stress can be reduced. Prioritize tasks and learn how to politely refuse requests that are time-consuming but not beneficial. For example, take time to help out a friend but leave the dishes for later. Make and act on those decisions that are best for you. Don’t spend time worrying about what others would do or what others think or believe about you. Take a walk to soothe and clear a mind cluttered with emotions.

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          Develop An Open Mind

          Learn to at least listen to the other side of an argument. Listening does not necessarily mean agreement. Be eager to learn and enhance your own natural intellectual curiosity. These tips help you to grow emotionally and intellectually. A means to understanding and getting along with others is in refusing to always be right; after all, no one is ever right all the time. You will also develop a means of dealing with conflict with confidence and poise. Frequently listen to debates, political and otherwise, on television and radio.

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            Develop Extrovert and Empathetic Tendencies

            Empathy is the ability to understand another’s reactions and emotions in a given situation. This important skill is developed through thinking about how others are being treated. Refuse to be isolated. Volunteering skills and getting to know people can help you develop extroversion. Through getting involved with others, you become a person who is selfless and helpful. Development of these tendencies make you a better person, more skilled toward benefiting and helping others. This does not mean allowing others to simply use or walk all over you. Rather, you become an individual willing to set boundaries and happily engage in social interactions.

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              Be Analytical and Responsive

              Think about how a decision will impact your life. Completely weigh options before acting. Be pro-active in decision-making. This is where a creative and imaginative mind serve you well. Consider the impact of hypothetical situations, such as changing jobs, getting involved in a new relationship, or moving. The consideration of a pretend scenario impacts the way a life changing situation can and will be addressed. Form goals, and write down short and long-term goals and the steps toward their ultimate achievement.

              To Thine Own Self Be True

              Ultimately, at the end of the day you must act on those decisions that impact you. Making decisions that are in alignment with your values and goal make decision-making easier. Learn to get to know yourself and like yourself both for who you are and who you will be. In recognizing your own emotions you will be more likely to develop the emotions and motivations of others around you. Know your motivations, strengths, and weaknesses. Through knowing what drives you, you will be better able to move forward with a sense of direction and confidence.

              You will gain a sense of ownership over decisions made and actions taken in your life. Engage others around you to share in all that life offers. In strengthening emotional intelligence you will cultivate a better self-esteem and a calm sense of reality.

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              References:

              http://www.helpguide.org/mental/eq5_raising_emotional_intelligence.htm

              http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/how-to-control-your-emotions/

              http://www.wikihow.com/Improve-Emotional-Intelligence http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/your-mind-your-body/201201/10-ways-enhance-your-emotional-intelligence

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              Last Updated on December 2, 2018

              How to Flow Your Way to a More Productive Life

              How to Flow Your Way to a More Productive Life

              Ebb and flow. Contraction and expansion. Highs and lows. It’s all about the cycles of life.

              The entire course of our life follows this up and down pattern of more and then less. Our days flow this way, each following a pattern of more energy, then less energy, more creativity and periods of greater focus bookended by moments of low energy when we cringe at the thought of one more meeting, one more call, one more sentence.

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              The key is in understanding how to use the cycles of ebb and flow to our advantage. The ability to harness these fluctuations, understand how they affect our productivity and mood and then apply that knowledge as a tool to improve our lives is a valuable strategy that few individuals or corporations have mastered.

              Here are a few simple steps to start using this strategy today:

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              Review Your Past Flow

              Take just a few minutes to look back at how your days and weeks have been unfolding. What time of the day are you the most focused? Do you prefer to be more social at certain times of the day? Do you have difficulty concentrating after lunch or are you energized? Are there days when you can’t seem to sit still at your desk and others when you could work on the same project for hours?

              Do you see a pattern starting to emerge? Eventually you will discover a sort of map or schedule that charts your individual productivity levels during a given day or week.  That’s the first step. You’ll use this information to plan your days going forward.

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              Schedule According to Your Flow Pattern

              Look at the types of things you do each day…each week. What can you move around so that it’s a better fit for you? Can you suggest to your team that you schedule meetings for late morning if you can’t stand to be social first thing? Can you schedule detailed project work or highly creative tasks, like writing or designing when you are best able to focus? How about making sales calls or client meetings on days when you are the most social and leaving billing or reports until another time when you are able to close your door and do repetitive tasks.

              Keep in mind that everyone is different and some things are out of our control. Do what you can. You might be surprised at just how flexible clients and managers can be when they understand that improving your productivity will result in better outcomes for them.

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              Account for Big Picture Fluctuations

              Look at the bigger picture. Consider what happens during different months or times during the year. Think about what is going on in the other parts of your life. When is the best time for you to take on a new project, role or responsibility? Take into account other commitments that zap your energy. Do you have a sick parent, a spouse who travels all the time or young children who demand all of your available time and energy?

              We all know people who ignore all of this advice and yet seem to prosper and achieve wonderful success anyway, but they are usually the exception, not the rule. For most of us, this habitual tendency to force our bodies and our brains into patterns of working that undermine our productivity result in achieving less than desired results and adding more stress to our already overburdened lives.

              Why not follow the ebb and flow of your life instead of fighting against it?

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