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7 Skillful Ways You Can Learn To Enhance Your Emotional Intelligence

7 Skillful Ways You Can Learn To Enhance Your Emotional Intelligence

Emotional intelligence, often referred to as, EI or EQ, is a form of intelligence that affects people’s self-esteem and interaction with others. There are four aspects to emotional intelligence that lead to a centered lifestyle. These are self-awareness, self-management of emotions, social relationship, and relationship management. When you raise your EQ, negative emotions are lowered and more positive decisions can be followed through with. Through strengthening these core elements, a healthy lifestyle balance can be achieved and emotional intelligence is enhanced.

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    Pay Attention To Feelings

    Take time to assess how you feel about a situation. The identification of emotions strengthens the ability to recognize emotions as they arise. Learn to assess emotions even when they are discomforting. Appraise emotions through writing down how a situation or crisis is being addressed while avoiding interrupting the chain of emotions. Let yourself feel the full impact of how you are being affected by even strong emotions. This is an ongoing enterprise; take stock of feelings and emotions frequently. Through noting emotions, especially in a stressful situation, emotions can be brought under control.

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      Allow Feelings To Flow

      Avoid judging what is being felt. Feelings come unbidden and there is no sense in judging too harshly what is being felt. This allows feelings, even very strong ones, to lessen their impact over time. A person thus learns to give themselves and others a non-judgmental way of emotional release without reservation. Allow yourself to feel what you are feeling without attempting to interrupt or avoid the feeling. Avoidance of feelings, especially very strong ones only tend to build up over time and become untenable and very difficult to live with.

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        Recognize and Manage Stress

        There is no doubt that life is stressful. How you manage stress has a direct impact on emotional intelligence. Enhancing time-management skills may be one area where stress can be reduced. Prioritize tasks and learn how to politely refuse requests that are time-consuming but not beneficial. For example, take time to help out a friend but leave the dishes for later. Make and act on those decisions that are best for you. Don’t spend time worrying about what others would do or what others think or believe about you. Take a walk to soothe and clear a mind cluttered with emotions.

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          Develop An Open Mind

          Learn to at least listen to the other side of an argument. Listening does not necessarily mean agreement. Be eager to learn and enhance your own natural intellectual curiosity. These tips help you to grow emotionally and intellectually. A means to understanding and getting along with others is in refusing to always be right; after all, no one is ever right all the time. You will also develop a means of dealing with conflict with confidence and poise. Frequently listen to debates, political and otherwise, on television and radio.

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            Develop Extrovert and Empathetic Tendencies

            Empathy is the ability to understand another’s reactions and emotions in a given situation. This important skill is developed through thinking about how others are being treated. Refuse to be isolated. Volunteering skills and getting to know people can help you develop extroversion. Through getting involved with others, you become a person who is selfless and helpful. Development of these tendencies make you a better person, more skilled toward benefiting and helping others. This does not mean allowing others to simply use or walk all over you. Rather, you become an individual willing to set boundaries and happily engage in social interactions.

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              Be Analytical and Responsive

              Think about how a decision will impact your life. Completely weigh options before acting. Be pro-active in decision-making. This is where a creative and imaginative mind serve you well. Consider the impact of hypothetical situations, such as changing jobs, getting involved in a new relationship, or moving. The consideration of a pretend scenario impacts the way a life changing situation can and will be addressed. Form goals, and write down short and long-term goals and the steps toward their ultimate achievement.

              To Thine Own Self Be True

              Ultimately, at the end of the day you must act on those decisions that impact you. Making decisions that are in alignment with your values and goal make decision-making easier. Learn to get to know yourself and like yourself both for who you are and who you will be. In recognizing your own emotions you will be more likely to develop the emotions and motivations of others around you. Know your motivations, strengths, and weaknesses. Through knowing what drives you, you will be better able to move forward with a sense of direction and confidence.

              You will gain a sense of ownership over decisions made and actions taken in your life. Engage others around you to share in all that life offers. In strengthening emotional intelligence you will cultivate a better self-esteem and a calm sense of reality.

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              References:

              http://www.helpguide.org/mental/eq5_raising_emotional_intelligence.htm

              http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/how-to-control-your-emotions/

              http://www.wikihow.com/Improve-Emotional-Intelligence http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/your-mind-your-body/201201/10-ways-enhance-your-emotional-intelligence

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              Last Updated on October 15, 2019

              How To Be Successful In Life? 13 Tips From The Most Successful People

              How To Be Successful In Life? 13 Tips From The Most Successful People

              What is success to you? How to be successful in life?

              To some, when they think of success, they imagine wealth; others want power; some just want to make a positive impact on the world.

              All of these are perfectly valid, indeed success is a concept that means different things to different people. Though no matter what success is to you, it almost certainly isn’t something will come easily.

              There are countless guides and books to being successful, however, as success is personal and unique to each individual. The advice contained in these books can often not be relevant. Therefore following the advice of a single individual can often be unhelpful.

              With this in mind, considering the advice of a great many people, people whose ideas of success were different both to each other, and quite possibly, to you can be a good alternative.

              What follows is a list of thirteen of the best pieces of advice from some of the most successful people who have ever lived. If you want to learn how to be successful, these 13 tips are essential:

              1. Think Big

                From Michelangelo Buonarroti, Great Renaissance Artist:

                “The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark.”

                There are few artists as influential as Michaelangelo. Today centuries after his death, his work still inspires and connects to people. His work is world famous, just think of his statue of David, or the Mural in the Sistine Chapel in the Vatican.

                Imagine then, if he decided not to work as an artist.

                Being a successful artist has always been extremely difficult, imagine if he decided to give up this ambition in favour of something easier?

                Oftentimes, people often decided to put their dreams aside for something more “realistic”. To give up their dream for something easier. This quote teaches us the danger of such a point of view.
                Instead be ambitious.

                2. Find What You Love to Do and Do It

                  From Oprah Winfrey, Media Mogul:

                  “You know you are on the road to success if you would do your job and not be paid for it.”

                  This is a good quote to remember and think about when you’re at work.

                  Imagine being as successful as possible in your current job. Ultimately you’ll probably find yourself working extremely hard and this it will take up much of your time.

                  If it’s a job you hate, then being successful at it might only mean filling your life with something you hate to do. What’s the sense in this?

                  Instead, why not focus on doing something you love? When you’ve found what you’re passionate about, you get the motivation to keep you moving. Success at this means the fulfilment of your dreams.

                  Not sure what your passion is yet? You should learn about this Motivation Engine first.

                  Even if you’re not successful, you still filled your time with something you love to do. Many successful musicians spent years of their lives doing unpaid performances, the only reason they kept playing was because they loved to perform.

                  3. Learn How to Balance Life

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                    From Phil Knight, CEO of Nike Inc.:

                    “There is an immutable conflict at work in life and in business, a constant battle between peace and chaos. Neither can be mastered, but both can be influenced. How you go about that is the key to success.”

                    All too often, people think that to be successful, they need to make the object of their success their life.

                    If a person thinks their job will lead them to success, then they may spend countless hours per day, and well into the evening working hard.

                    However this comes at the cost of rest, your health and having an enjoyable life. Ultimately they may burn out and cease to be successful at their job anyway.

                    If success comes from having a strong social life and a good group of friends, their job may suffer; meaning that they may lose their job, and then be unable to afford going out with friends.

                    In these ways, success, as Phil Knight says above, is helped by balance. Think of it as a balance between rest and work, or work and play.

                    To achieve that balance, this Ultimate Guide to Prioritizing Your Work And Life can help you.

                    4. Do Not Be Afraid of Failure

                      From Henry Ford, Founder of Ford Motors:

                      “Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.”

                      There is a story, it’s unconfirmed whether it actually happened, yet the message within is none the less true:

                      Thomas Edison inventing the lightbulb was the result of several hundred failed attempts. In an interview, he was asked “How do you feel after all of your failed attempts?”

                      His response was great, “I didn’t fail, I learned hundreds of ways not to invent the lightbulb”

                      He saw each “failure” as a lesson. From that lesson he learned what won’t work, and also might work instead.

                      Each failed attempt, each rejection, were key steps on his path to success. It is easy to feel like you should give up after a failure. But perhaps in that failure is a lesson.

                      Pay attention to your failures, study them. Perhaps then you’ll learn how to succeed.

                      If you find it difficult to fight your fear of failure, here’s a guide for you: Why You Have the Fear of Failure (And How to Conquer It Step-By-Step)

                      5. Have an Unwavering Resolution to Succeed

                        From Colonel Sanders, Founder of KFC:

                        “I made a resolve then that I was going to amount to something if I could. And no hours, nor amount of labor, nor amount of money would deter me from giving the best that there was in me. And I have done that ever since, and I win by it. I know.”

                        This, in many ways relates to the above quote about learning from your failures.

                        It’s the easiest thing in the world to give up from a failure. The only way to push on is if you have the true burning desire to succeed, to not be moved or dissuaded from your goals.

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                        If you are not truly dedicated towards success, then each failure will hurt more, each set back will slow you down.

                        Success is hard; without the unwavering desire to succeed, this difficulty may seem insurmountable. With the desire, it is merely an obstacle to go through.

                        6. Be a Person of Action

                          From Leonardo da Vinci, Renaissance Genius:

                          “It had long since come to my attention that people of accomplishment rarely sat back and let things happen to them. They went out and happened to things.”

                          Though it was said hundreds of years ago, it works just as much today as it ever had. It applies to literally any successful person.

                          Think about it, picture someone like William Shakespeare:

                          When we think of the time he lived in, we think of the time in a way shaped by him. When we think of Renaissance era Italy, we think of Michelangelo and Leonardo Da Vinci. Or think about the present day, Bill Gates or Steve Jobs. Our current way of life would simply be incomparably different if they didn’t accomplish what they did.

                          You’re probably reading this article on a device by a company that they either founded or companies influenced by them.

                          All these figures were proactive, they saw ways to do things differently and did them. If they let the world shape them, then they’d simply fit into the background. Instead they shaped the world.

                          Applying this to you?

                          Don’t be afraid of going outside the norm. If you can think of a better way to do something, do it that way. If you fail, try again.

                          7. Cultivate Positive Relationships

                            From Theodore Roosevelt, 26th President of America: “

                            The most important single ingredient in the formula of success is knowing how to get along with people.”

                            The best leaders and some of the most influential people (and Theodore Roosevelt is one of the best leaders and one of the most influential people to have lived) were not those who caused commotions, who fought with people or disregarded people; but were people who were friendly to those around them.

                            People liked them. They wanted them to do well.

                            This is key to good leadership.

                            It’s logical. If someone likes you, they want to help you; if you give them a suggestion, they’ll gladly follow through with it.

                            But if someone doesn’t like you, they may either refuse to help or actively get in your way.

                            What’s more, it’s always a good idea to cultivate good relationships. You can never tell who will prove to become someone who’ll be able to help you in a big way, or even be a good and supportive friend.

                            As such, help people and they may help you; and be good to people, and they my be good to you.

                            8. Don’t Be Afraid of Introducing New Ideas

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                              From Mark Twain, Famed Author:

                              “A person with a new idea is a crank until the idea succeeds.”

                              It is an unfortunate truth that those with the boldest ideas are often disregarded.

                              Most of us are taught from an early age to think and do things similarly to everyone else. This can be great to fill an existing role. But to truly do things differently (and all successful people did things differently), you need to think differently.

                              If you have a new idea, don’t throw it away because it’s new and different; instead, celebrate it. Your strange new idea might one day be the one that leads you to success.

                              9. Believe in Your Capacity to Succeed

                                From Walter Disney, Founder of Walt Disney Company:

                                “If you can dream it, you can do it.”

                                Success has to be something you can imagine yourself achieving.

                                It is possible that you will come across those who doubt you and your ability to succeed. You must not become one of these people because the moment you cease believing and dreaming is the moment these dreams fall away.

                                Keep dreaming!

                                10. Always Maintain a Positive Mental Attitude

                                  From Thomas Jefferson, 3rd President of America:

                                  “Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude.”

                                  Like the above quote says, you need to trust in your ability to succeed. This is the only way to cultivate the right mindset.

                                  Replace negative thoughts with the positive ones. You need to approach problems, not as obstacles stopping you, but merely tasks that need to be completed for you to keep going.

                                  If you stay positive and think like this, setbacks won’t affect you so much, people’s doubts won’t impact you and even the biggest obstacles will seem like minor problems.

                                  However with the wrong mindset of doubt, you’ll be much easier to stop.

                                  11. Don’t Let Discouragement Stop You from Pressing On

                                    From Abraham Lincoln, 16th President of America:

                                    “Let no feeling of discouragement prey upon you, and in the end you are sure to succeed.”

                                    It is an unfortunate fact of human nature — all of us in some way, doubt ourselves. This can be made far worse if others doubt us too.

                                    When surrounded by doubts, giving up can actually seem like a good idea.

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                                    Don’t pay attention to the doubts. If you are discouraged, ignore it.

                                    If this discouragement moves into your mind and you begin to doubt yourself. It is important to ignore this too.

                                    This is How Self Doubt Keeps You Stuck and How to Overcome It

                                    12. Be Willing to Work Hard

                                      From JC Penny, Founder of JC Penney Inc.:

                                      “Unless you are willing to drench yourself in your work beyond the capacity of the average man, you are just not cut out for positions at the top.”

                                      You might have heard the quote that “success is 1% inspiration, 99% perspiration” or you may have heard about the 10,000 hours idea.

                                      Whichever way you frame it, they say one thing:

                                      True success comes from work.

                                      You’ll never become successful if you don’t work towards your goal in life and keep working towards it.

                                      Check out this article and you’ll understand Why Hard Work Beats Talent.

                                      13. Be Brave Enough to Follow Your Intuition

                                        From Steve Jobs, Co-founder of Apple Inc.:

                                        “Have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”

                                        In ancient Greece, there was a group of Oracles who lived in Delphi. Everyone who needed advice or to know their future visited them, from the poorest of society to kings. Above the doorway of the temple were the words “know thyself”.

                                        If you strongly believe and desire something, chances are that you already have an idea how to get there. If not, you may naturally know what things will help you and what things will slow you down.

                                        It’s like how your body can detect danger even when things seem safe.

                                        Ultimately then, you need to trust your own instincts.

                                        Final Thoughts

                                        What you might have noticed is that many of the above lessons are similar — most are about developing the right state of mind. This clearly suggests that the key to achieving success, in whatever you wish, comes down to the way you approach it mentally.

                                        Moreover, no matter what stage of life you’re at now, you can still make a difference and pursue success. You can make resetting your life possible when you do this: How to Start Over and Reboot Your Life When It Seems Too Late

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