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5 Simple Steps To Help You Learn Love

5 Simple Steps To Help You Learn Love

Everybody is looking for something. Everything we do in our daily life is to find fulfillment. But it is hard to feel it if you try to find it in things you can touch, understand with the mind or explain to others. Deep inside everybody looks for love. Learn love, to feel it and see it in any little thing which you receive in your life, is something which can make you free, awake your soul and live the life God wished for.

Everybody tries to explain what love is. Everybody has an opinion. But how to reach it, how to feel it in every step you make so you can tell others what love is? So you can become the love.

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Anything that surrounds you is filled with love. Anybody, any situation or simple thing, when you stop looking with your eyes trying to put everything in your mind, you can set yourself free by seeing and believing – THERE IS LOVE.

We have gone so far from our true being, when we knew what love, gratitude, forgiveness, kindness, and the joy of life really are. When you could easily feel those subtle pure feelings.

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This life has been given to you to come back to your true being, to connect with universe and divine love.

1. Stop and be here and now.

We are so used to chasing something. Time, money, goals that you totally forget to be here and now. Whether you regret something in the past or you live in worries about the future totally forgetting this moment which creates your future and can change your past. You can miss something being in hurry; life and the universe give so many opportunities that you can’t notice because you are too busy worrying about something you can’t see. The here and now has all the answers, the joy, the meaning of being alive.

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2. Appreciate what you have.

There are so many things in your life to be thankful for. Take your time and feel gratitude for anything that has happened, what is happening and what will happen with you. Even for what hasn’t happened to you. There is a reason for everything that is in your life. You have created it. It is the best for you. To learn love is not about wanting something else, but really appreciating and being grateful for what you have. Simple, daily things.

3. Embrace anything inside you and around you.

Everybody wants a better life, thinking if you will have this or that or you don’t have this or that, you will be happy after all. But it is a fight with reality you can’t win. You can’t change anything with the fight. When you accept your weaknesses you stop giving them energy. It is easier to change them. When you release the outer world and let it be as it is made, you can see how much beauty there is. How much to be thankful for and how much love there is. When you are in nature, you don’t think this flower is not beautiful enough, you appreciate it without rush or worries about the future. The same with other people or yourself. See the beauty no matter what color it is made of, the smell or shape. Accept who you are and others and see how easy it is to live, how much energy you have when you stop fighting.

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4. Forgive yourself and others.

Regrets hold you back. It is like a trailer reminding you what you have done wrong. But there is nothing wrong or right; it is the way it is – with a lesson for you, with an opportunity to put your mind aside and look with your heart and soul and feel yourself.

5. Have faith.

No worries, no fears, just a deep faith that everything will be alright. You trust yourself. When your mind is calm, when you have stopped your daily rush with no fight with yourself and outer world, you can hear your inner voice and connect with the subtle world and receive answers, visions and opportunities which help you to grow and be one.

The most complicated things are the easiest. What you are looking for far away, is right here in your heart. Take all your courage and let yourself live each day with love. With no questions made in mind, with no fears of the unknown. You are a beautiful part of the universe. Shine within and set yourself free.

Featured photo credit: Water Drops/Steve Wall via flickr.com

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Last Updated on September 16, 2019

How to Stop Procrastinating: 11 Practical Ways for Procrastinators

How to Stop Procrastinating: 11 Practical Ways for Procrastinators

You have a deadline looming. However, instead of doing your work, you are fiddling with miscellaneous things like checking email, social media, watching videos, surfing blogs and forums. You know you should be working, but you just don’t feel like doing anything.

We are all familiar with the procrastination phenomenon. When we procrastinate, we squander away our free time and put off important tasks we should be doing them till it’s too late. And when it is indeed too late, we panic and wish we got started earlier.

The chronic procrastinators I know have spent years of their life looped in this cycle. Delaying, putting off things, slacking, hiding from work, facing work only when it’s unavoidable, then repeating this loop all over again. It’s a bad habit that eats us away and prevents us from achieving greater results in life.

Don’t let procrastination take over your life. Here, I will share my personal steps on how to stop procrastinating. These 11 steps will definitely apply to you too:

1. Break Your Work into Little Steps

Part of the reason why we procrastinate is because subconsciously, we find the work too overwhelming for us. Break it down into little parts, then focus on one part at the time. If you still procrastinate on the task after breaking it down, then break it down even further. Soon, your task will be so simple that you will be thinking “gee, this is so simple that I might as well just do it now!”.

For example, I’m currently writing a new book (on How to achieve anything in life). Book writing at its full scale is an enormous project and can be overwhelming. However, when I break it down into phases such as –

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  • (1) Research
  • (2) Deciding the topic
  • (3) Creating the outline
  • (4) Drafting the content
  • (5) Writing Chapters #1 to #10,
  • (6) Revision
  • (7) etc.

Suddenly it seems very manageable. What I do then is to focus on the immediate phase and get it done to my best ability, without thinking about the other phases. When it’s done, I move on to the next.

2. Change Your Environment

Different environments have different impact on our productivity. Look at your work desk and your room. Do they make you want to work or do they make you want to snuggle and sleep? If it’s the latter, you should look into changing your workspace.

One thing to note is that an environment that makes us feel inspired before may lose its effect after a period of time. If that’s the case, then it’s time to change things around. Refer to Steps #2 and #3 of 13 Strategies To Jumpstart Your Productivity, which talks about revamping your environment and workspace.

3. Create a Detailed Timeline with Specific Deadlines

Having just 1 deadline for your work is like an invitation to procrastinate. That’s because we get the impression that we have time and keep pushing everything back, until it’s too late.

Break down your project (see tip #1), then create an overall timeline with specific deadlines for each small task. This way, you know you have to finish each task by a certain date. Your timelines must be robust, too – i.e. if you don’t finish this by today, it’s going to jeopardize everything else you have planned after that. This way it creates the urgency to act.

My goals are broken down into monthly, weekly, right down to the daily task lists, and the list is a call to action that I must accomplish this by the specified date, else my goals will be put off.

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Here’re more tips on setting deadlines: 22 Tips for Effective Deadlines

4. Eliminate Your Procrastination Pit-Stops

If you are procrastinating a little too much, maybe that’s because you make it easy to procrastinate.

Identify your browser bookmarks that take up a lot of your time and shift them into a separate folder that is less accessible. Disable the automatic notification option in your email client. Get rid of the distractions around you.

I know some people will out of the way and delete or deactivate their facebook accounts. I think it’s a little drastic and extreme as addressing procrastination is more about being conscious of our actions than counteracting via self-binding methods, but if you feel that’s what’s needed, go for it.

5. Hang out with People Who Inspire You to Take Action

I’m pretty sure if you spend just 10 minutes talking to Steve Jobs or Bill Gates, you’ll be more inspired to act than if you spent the 10 minutes doing nothing. The people we are with influence our behaviors. Of course spending time with Steve Jobs or Bill Gates every day is probably not a feasible method, but the principle applies — The Hidden Power of Every Single Person Around You

Identify the people, friends or colleagues who trigger you – most likely the go-getters and hard workers – and hang out with them more often. Soon you will inculcate their drive and spirit too.

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As a personal development blogger, I “hang out” with inspiring personal development experts by reading their blogs and corresponding with them regularly via email and social media. It’s communication via new media and it works all the same.

6. Get a Buddy

Having a companion makes the whole process much more fun. Ideally, your buddy should be someone who has his/her own set of goals. Both of you will hold each other accountable to your goals and plans. While it’s not necessary for both of you to have the same goals, it’ll be even better if that’s the case, so you can learn from each other.

I have a good friend whom I talk to regularly, and we always ask each other about our goals and progress in achieving those goals. Needless to say, it spurs us to keep taking action.

7. Tell Others About Your Goals

This serves the same function as #6, on a larger scale. Tell all your friends, colleagues, acquaintances and family about your projects. Now whenever you see them, they are bound to ask you about your status on those projects.

For example, sometimes I announce my projects on The Personal Excellence Blog, Twitter and Facebook, and my readers will ask me about them on an ongoing basis. It’s a great way to keep myself accountable to my plans.

8. Seek out Someone Who Has Already Achieved the Outcome

What is it you want to accomplish here, and who are the people who have accomplished this already? Go seek them out and connect with them. Seeing living proof that your goals are very well achievable if you take action is one of the best triggers for action.

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9. Re-Clarify Your Goals

If you have been procrastinating for an extended period of time, it might reflect a misalignment between what you want and what you are currently doing. Often times, we outgrow our goals as we discover more about ourselves, but we don’t change our goals to reflect that.

Get away from your work (a short vacation will be good, else just a weekend break or staycation will do too) and take some time to regroup yourself. What exactly do you want to achieve? What should you do to get there? What are the steps to take? Does your current work align with that? If not, what can you do about it?

10. Stop Over-Complicating Things

Are you waiting for a perfect time to do this? That maybe now is not the best time because of X, Y, Z reasons? Ditch that thought because there’s never a perfect time. If you keep waiting for one, you are never going to accomplish anything.

Perfectionism is one of the biggest reasons for procrastination. Read more about why perfectionist tendencies can be a bane than a boon: Why Being A Perfectionist May Not Be So Perfect.

11. Get a Grip and Just Do It

At the end, it boils down to taking action. You can do all the strategizing, planning and hypothesizing, but if you don’t take action, nothing’s going to happen. Occasionally, I get readers and clients who keep complaining about their situations but they still refuse to take action at the end of the day.

Reality check:

I have never heard anyone procrastinate their way to success before and I doubt it’s going to change in the near future.  Whatever it is you are procrastinating on, if you want to get it done, you need to get a grip on yourself and do it.

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