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21 Thoughtful Valentine’s Day Gift Ideas For Her

21 Thoughtful Valentine’s Day Gift Ideas For Her

There is a lot of hype involved with Valentine’s Day, but I guess it’s like that for most holidays. The big problem here is that since it is a lucrative business, many companies are pushing a whole bunch of generic products onto the market and effectively killing romance. There use to be a time when gifts were a very personal affair and actually meant something to both the giver and the receiver, and we should strive to get back to these romantic roots. In that vein I have prepared a list of thoughtful Valentine’s Day gifts that will help you show your girl that you care about her.

1. First edition of her favorite book

Leatherbound books

    It’s difficult to find a good old-fashioned book these days. Everyone just reads e-books on a tablet or listens to audio books while walking. Even when you get a physical copy it’s usually a pretty flimsy little thing with a colorful cover. You rarely see those thick leather-bound hardcovers with beautiful ornaments, the kind of book that you wouldn’t want to drop on your foot. If your girl has a favorite book that she’s read over and over for a hundred times, you can track down an old edition of it, gift wrap it and give it to her with a single flower and a Valentine’s Day card.

    2. Sky-Writing

    In the words of the great English poet, Edmund Spenser: “My verse your virtues rare shall eternize, and in the heavens write your glorious name: where, when as Death shall all the world subdue, our love shall live, and later life renew”. Enough said. Follow this romantic gesture with quiet, home-cooked dinner or an evening of live music and dancing.

    3. Adopt a pet

    I would advise this only to more mature and serious couples, as a pet is a lot of responsibility and there are some people out there who just aren’t capable of taking care of a pet properly. That being said, there are very few things that can compare to a puppy, kitten or little bunny rabbit when it comes to cuteness. This is definitely something you should go for if you really want to melt your woman’s heart.

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    4. Accessories like handbags and belts

    For this gift to work, you will need someone with fashion sense—a sister, cousin or friend—roughly the same age as your partner to serve as an adviser. It’s much easier to shop for such things if you know that there is a particular handbag or other fashion accessory that your girl has been dying to have, but didn’t have any extra money to spend on, so be on the lookout and ask a few questions if you have to. However, when it comes to smaller things belts and scarves, you can’t really mess up as long as you look for something that fits in with your girl’s style.

    5. Shoes

    Womens shoes

      Many women love shoes, and they all have their own preferences when it comes to choosing the right pair. You’ve got style, color, height, and material to worry about, so it’s best to just take your significant other for some light shopping a couple of weeks earlier and have her try out some dresses and shoes “just for the fun of it.” When she sets her eyes on a particular pair, you’ll know what to get. I would recommend shoes as a Valentine’s Day gift only to couples who have been together for a while and are a bit more serious about their relationship.

      6. Coupons for a spa center

      If you are the type of couple who enjoys spending a lot of time together, but seldom get the chance to do it because of the hectic city life, with demanding jobs and tight schedules, then a relaxing treatment at a spa center is just what the doctor ordered. You and your girl can get the rest that you deserve and recharge your batteries, or you could give organize a date night on Valentine’s Day and give her the coupon so she could go and have some time to herself.

      7. Romantic getaway

      This is a great gift, especially for couples who have been together for a few years and need to rekindle their passion. You will have to give this gift a couple of days in advance so you can celebrate Valentine’s Day at your chosen destination. Some great options include mountain resorts, going abroad to a warmer climate or even a simple hiking trip and a dinner at cottage.

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      8. Beauty products

      A great way to organize a present for your loved one is to give her some things that she needs and uses all the time. With beauty products, you can be sure that every woman who likes to wear makeup always needs more, so your present will be well-received. Eyeliners, lipsticks, eye shadows, sets of brushes, exfoliating creams and similar products are a pretty safe bet—you can take a look at the products she uses to give you an idea of what to buy and you can’t really go wrong.

      9. A dress

      Black dresses

        Here is yet another gift idea that requires a keen fashion sense and a more detailed knowledge of your partners personal style and preferences. There is, however, a sort of cheat that makes choosing a good dress a little easier. Thanks to Coco Chanel, who first popularized the idea of the little black dress, most women will be perfectly satisfied with a simple, yet elegant black dress. You’ll need to know your girls size and what type of clothes fit her best, so you can use some of her other dresses as a reference point or take her shopping for a few small things beforehand and have her try out some dresses.

        10. Sexy lingerie

        Some women are very turned on by the fact that they can make their partner go crazy over them and they enjoy showing their erotic side. For all those sexy ladies out there who aren’t afraid to show off their wild side, some sexy lingerie is a very good Valentine’s Day gift. Don’t be afraid to spoil your girl a little during this romantic holiday, make it all about her and give her the present in the evening when you are starting to relax back home with some wine and snacks.

        11. Write her a love letter

        Sometimes a simple Valentine’s Day card just won’t cut it. A great gift doesn’t have to flamboyant or expensive, but it needs to be creative. Pick out the right envelope and some fancy paper. Use a fountain pen to write and try be natural when expressing your feelings. Use your own conversational style and just write whatever comes to mind. Give her the letter along with some flowers or a small present, a simple little object like a necklace or toy can be enough.

        12. Jewelry

        A timeless classic, piece of jewelry is probably the most popular gift. However, you have to be careful as some women can feel that opting for jewelry is kind of like saying, “I don’t know you well enough to come up with a very personal gift, nor can I be bothered to actually work on a gift for hours or days, so here’s something shiny.” Once again, I have to stress the importance of making it personal. You can do this by choosing a particular style she likes, certain shapes, specific gemstones, engraving it and so on. A lucky-charm bracelet with figurines that have some meaning for her—e.g. her favorite animal, zodiac sign, musical instrument and various symbols—is a good example of creating a very personal item.

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        13. Personalized items

        Engraved gift

          There are a number of things, both useful tools and simple ornaments, that can be personalized for your loved one. The simplest way of achieving this is by buying small trinkets with symbolic value, tools she uses daily or decorative items and having them engraved with an image and/or message. It can be an inside joke just the two of you know, a deep and meaningful message from you to her or a thought-provoking romantic quote. As long as you focus on making it truly heartfelt and personal, something that carries emotional value for her and has a deeper symbolic meaning, your efforts will be rewarded tenfold.

          14. Chocolate and wine

          Chocolates are often considered filler or a secondary gift to go with something more substantial, but there are your average supermarket chocolates and then there are fine, expensive chocolates. The same goes for wine, although with wine you really have a wide range of options to choose from and it is best to talk to a sommelier when looking for an appropriate wine for the occasion. With a couple of bottles of fine wine and some exquisite chocolate at your side there is no heart that you cannot conquer.

          15. Flowers

          Flowers should go well with any other gift on the list, but they can also be a standalone gift. A big, beautiful bouquet that was arrange with a particular purpose in mind can be a very romantic gift. There is a lot of symbolism attached to the different types of flowers and their colors, something an experienced florist will be able to help you with. Tell them what you want to convey and they will set you up with the right combination—you can even explain the symbolism in your note so that your partner knows that you’ve really given it some thought. A potted flower for her room can also be nice little surprise.

          16. Gift basket

          Why choose any one specific gift when you can create the ultimate romantic hodgepodge that will take her a good 5-10 minutes to go through, becoming happier with each little item she takes out. First of all you’ll need a pretty basket to put all the goodies in and some filler material like little plastic hearts, small candy, some soft fabric to use as lining and a length of ribbon. As far as the goodies go you can have some scented candles, soaps, bath salts, chocolates, beauty products, flowers, wine, small fluffy toys and, most importantly, an elegant handwritten Valentine’s Day card where you can try and express the feelings you have for her—just don’t overdo it with the romantic cliches and try to right in your own words.

          17. Create a scent just for her

          Parfume scents

            Perfumes are an excellent gift choice, but they often lack that personal touch that makes the difference between a good Valentine’s Day gift and a earth-shatteringly epic Valentine’s Day gift. For the ultimate sensory experience, you can create a brand new aroma specifically for your darling, using a number of distinct scents and combining them into a unique fragrance. For that extra touch, you can get a glass perfume bottle engraved with her name.

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            18. Items related to her favorite hobby

            Show her that you care about the things she enjoys doing by picking out a nice little present related to her hobby. Depending on what your significant other likes to do in her spare time, you can have a lot of opportunity to be caring and practical at the same time. If she likes to run or do some form of fitness training, than she will surely appreciate a good pair of running shoes; if she likes to cook, recipe books and professional chef’s knife sets would make a good gift; if she is a collector you can add some great new additions to her collection, and so on.

            19. Custom made clothing

            Picking out clothes can be tricky at times, so don’t try to get too fancy when shopping for women’s clothes unless you know your girl’s tastes and size pretty well. That being said you can go for something basic and comfortable that she could wear around the house or to casual events, like a T-shirt or a sweatshirt, and have a custom design printed. Pick out a design that is cute and funny and present it to her in a nice gift box.

            20. Puzzle picture

            Choose a picture that captures one of your first or finest moments together—the two of you making goofy faces at the camera the night you first met at some party, you carrying her in your arms on the beach just a few hours before you first told her you love her or some other significant moment—and have it printed out and turned into a puzzle. You can add a pretty frame and perhaps some type of memento from the time the picture was taken, such as a shell you found on the beach or the concert tickets from your first date, and give her these as a separate present after she has finished putting the puzzle together.

            21. Cool gadgets

            Stylish headphones

              A Valentine’s Day gift doesn’t have to be heart-shaped, fluffy, cuddly or edible for your girl to be wowed by your gesture—practical things can also be very romantic if done right. In this day and age, everyone has a craving for the latest gadgets, so think about buying her a pair of stylish, high-quality headphones, a cool mouse and keyboard, one of those new smartwatches, a kindle, or any other interesting new gizmo that she might enjoy using.

              Armed with this knowledge on good Valentine’s Day gift ideas, you can hit the streets and start shopping, but just remember that it is also the thought that counts, so try to work on the little details like packaging, accessories and presentation in order to make your girl feel really special and show her that you actually put some time and effort into preparing the gift.

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              Ivan Dimitrijevic

              Ivan is the CEO and founder of a digital marketing company. He has years of experiences in team management, entrepreneurship and productivity.

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              How to Control Your Thoughts and Be the Master of Your Mind

              How to Control Your Thoughts and Be the Master of Your Mind

              Your mind is the most powerful tool you have for the creation of good in your life, but if not used correctly, can also be the most destructive force in your life.

              Your mind, more specifically, your thoughts, affect your perception and therefore, your interpretation of reality. (And here’s Why Your Perception Is Your Reality.)

              I have heard that the average person thinks around 70,000 thoughts a day. That’s a lot, especially if they are unproductive, self-abusive and just a general waste of energy.

              You can let your thoughts run amok, but why would you? It is your mind, your thoughts; isn’t it time to take your power back? Isn’t it time to take control?

              Choose to be the person who is actively, consciously thinking your thoughts. Become the master of your mind.

              When you change your thoughts, you will change your feelings as well, and you will also eliminate the triggers that set off those feelings. Both of these outcomes provide you with a greater level of peace in your mind.

              I currently have few thoughts that are not of my own choosing or a response from my reprogramming. I am the master of my mind, so now my mind is quite peaceful. Yours can be too!

              Who Is Thinking My Thoughts?

              Before you can become the master of your mind, you must recognize that you are currently at the mercy of several unwanted “squatters” living in your mind, and they are in charge of your thoughts. If you want to be the boss of them, you must know who they are and what their motivation is, and then you can take charge and evict them.

              Here are four of the “squatters” in your head that create the most unhealthy and unproductive thoughts:

              1. The Inner Critic

              This is your constant abuser who is often a conglomeration of:

              • Other people’s words; many times your parents.
              • Thoughts you have created based on your own or other peoples expectations.
              • Comparing yourself to other people, including those in the media.
              • The things you told yourself as a result of painful experiences such as betrayal and rejection. Your interpretation creates your self-doubt and self-blame, which are most likely undeserved in cases of rejection and betrayal.

              The Inner Critic is motivated by pain, low self-esteem, lack of self-acceptance and lack of self-love.

              Why else would this person abuse you? And since this person is actually you– why else would you abuse yourself? Why would you let anyone treat you this badly?

              2. The Worrier

              This person lives in the future; in the world of “what ifs.”

              The Worrier is motivated by fear which is often irrational and with no basis for it. Occasionally, this person is motivated by fear that what happened in the past will happen again.

              3. The Reactor or Trouble-Maker

              This is the one that triggers anger, frustration and pain. These triggers stem from unhealed wounds of the past. Any experience that is even closely related to a past wound will set him off.

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              This person can be set off by words or feelings, and can even be set off by sounds and smells.

              The Reactor has no real motivation and has poor impulse control and is run by past programming that no longer serves you, if it ever did.

              4. The Sleep Depriver

              This can be a combination of any number of different squatters including the inner planner, the rehasher, and the ruminator, along with the inner critic and the worrier.

              The Sleep Depriver’s motivation can be:

              • As a reaction to silence, which he fights against
              • Taking care of the business you neglected during the day
              • Self-doubt, low self-esteem, insecurity and generalized anxiety
              • As listed above for the inner critic and worrier

              How can you control these squatters?

              How to Master Your Mind

              You are the thinker and the observer of your thoughts. You must pay attention to your thoughts so you can identify “who” is running the show; this will determine which technique you will want to use.

              Begin each day with the intention of paying attention to your thoughts and catching yourself when you are thinking undesirable thoughts.

              There are two ways to control your thoughts:

              • Technique A – Interrupt and replace them
              • Technique B – Eliminate them altogether

              This second option is what is known as peace of mind!

              The technique of interrupting and replacing is a means of reprogramming your subconscious mind. Eventually, the replacement thoughts will become the “go to” thoughts in the applicable situations.

              Use Technique A with the Inner Critic and Worrier; and Technique B with the Reactor and Sleep Depriver.

              For the Inner Critic

              When you catch yourself thinking something negative about yourself (calling yourself names, disrespecting yourself, or berating yourself), interrupt it.

              You can yell (in your mind), “Stop! No!” or, “Enough! I’m in control now.” Then, whatever your negative thought was about yourself, replace it with an opposite or counter thought or an affirmation that begins with “I am.”

              For example, if your thought is, “I’m such a loser,” you can replace it with, “I am a Divine Creation of the Universal Spirit. I am a perfect spiritual being learning to master the human experience. I am a being of energy, light, and matter. I am magnificent, brilliant, and beautiful. I love and approve of myself just as I am.”

              You can also have a dialogue with yourself with the intention of discrediting the ‘voice’ that created the thought, if you know whose voice it is:

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              “Just because so-and-so said I was a loser doesn’t make it true. It was his or her opinion, not a statement of fact. Or maybe they were joking and I took it seriously because I’m insecure.”

              If you recognize that you have recurring self-critical thoughts, you can write out or pre-plan your counter thoughts or affirmation so you can be ready. This is the first squatter you should evict, forcefully, if necessary:

              • They rile up the Worrier.
              • The names you call yourself become triggers when called those names by others, so he also maintains the presence of the Reactor.
              • They are often present when you try to fall asleep so he perpetuates the Sleep Depriver.
              • They are a bully and is verbally and emotionally abusive.
              • They are the destroyer of self-esteem. They convince you that you’re not worthy. They’re a liar! In the interest of your self-worth, get them out!

              Eliminate your worst critic and you will also diminish the presence of the other three squatters.

              Replace them with your new best friends who support, encourage, and enhance your life. This is a presence you want in your mind.

              For the Worrier

              Prolonged anxiety is mentally, emotionally and physically unhealthy. It can have long-term health implications.

              Fear initiates the fight or flight response, creates worry in the mind and creates anxiety in the body.

              You should be able to recognize a “worry thought” immediately by how you feel. The physiological signs that the fight or flight response of fear has kicked in are:

              • Increased heart rate, blood pressure, or surge of adrenaline
              • Shallow breathing or breathlessness
              • Muscles tense

              Use the above stated method to interrupt any thought of worry and then replace it. But this time you will replace your thoughts of worry with thoughts of gratitude for the outcome you wish for.

              If you believe in a higher power, this is the time to engage with it. Here is an example:

              Instead of worrying about my loved ones traveling in bad weather, I say the following (I call it a prayer):

              “Thank you great spirit for watching over _______. Thank you for watching over his/her car and keeping it safe, road-worthy, and free of maintenance issues without warning. Thank you for surrounding him/her with only safe, conscientious, and alert drivers. And thank you for keeping him/her safe, conscientious, and alert.”

              Smile when you think about it or say it aloud, and phrase it in the present tense; both of these will help you feel it and possibly even start to believe it.

              If you can visualize what you are praying for, the visualization will enhance the feeling so you will increase the impact in your vibrational field.

              Now take a calming breath, slowly in through your nose, and slowly out through the mouth. Take as many as you like!

              Replacing fearful thoughts with gratitude will decrease reactionary behavior, taking the steam out of the Reactor.

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              For example:

              If your child gets lost in the mall, the typical parental reaction that follows the fearful thoughts when finding them is to yell at them.

              “I told you never to leave my sight.” This reaction just adds to the child’s fear level from being lost in the first place. Plus, it also teaches them that mom and/or dad will get mad when he or she makes a mistake, which may make them lie to you or not tell you things in the future.

              Change those fearful thoughts when they happen:

              “Thank You (your choice of Higher Power) for watching over my child and keeping him safe. Thank you for helping me find him soon.”

              Then, when you see your child after this thought process, your only reaction will be gratitude, and that seems like a better alternative for all people involved.

              For the Trouble-Maker, Reactor or Over-Reactor

              Permanently eliminating this squatter will take a bit more attention and reflection after the fact to identify and heal the causes of the triggers; but until then, you can prevent the Reactor from getting out of control by initiating conscious breathing as soon as you recognize his presence.

              The Reactor’s thoughts or feelings activate the fight or flight response just like with the Worrier. The physiological signs of his presence will be the same. With a little attention, you should be able to tell the difference between anxiety, anger, frustration, or pain:

              • Increased heart rate and blood pressure; surge of adrenaline
              • Shallow breathing or breathlessness
              • Muscles tension

              I’m sure you’ve heard the suggestion to count to ten when you get angry—well, you can make those ten seconds much more productive if you are breathing consciously during that time.

              Conscious breathing is as simple as it sounds; just be conscious of your breathing. Pay attention to the air going in and coming out.

              Breathe in through your nose:

              • Feel the air entering your nostrils.
              • Feel your lungs filling and expanding.
              • Focus on your belly rising.

              Breathe out through your nose:

              • Feel your lungs emptying.
              • Focus on your belly falling.
              • Feel the air exiting your nostrils.

              Do this for as long as you like. Leave the situation if you want. This gives the adrenaline time to normalize.

              Now you can address the situation with a calmer, more rational perspective and avoid damaging behavior.

              One of the troubles this squatter causes is that it adds to the sleep depriver’s issues. By evicting, or at least controlling the Reactor, you will decrease reactionary behavior, which will decrease the need for the rehashing and ruminating that may keep you from falling asleep.

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              Master your mind and stop the Reactor from bringing stress to you and your relationships!

              For the Sleep Depriver

              (They’re made up of the Inner Planner, the Rehasher and the Ruminator, along with the Inner Critic and the Worrier.)

              I was plagued with a very common problem: not being able to turn off my mind at bedtime. This inability prevented me from falling asleep and thus, getting a restful and restorative night’s sleep.

              Here’s how I mastered my mind and evicted the Sleep Depriver and all his cronies.

              1. I started by focusing on my breathing—paying attention to the rise and fall of my belly—but that didn’t keep the thoughts out for long. (Actually, I now start with checking my at-rest mouth position to keep me from clenching.)
              2. Then I came up with replacement strategy that eliminated uncontrolled thinking—imagining the word in while breathing in and thinking the word out when breathing out. I would (and do) elongate the word to match the length of my breath.

              When I catch myself thinking, I shift back to in, out. With this technique, I am still thinking, sort of, but the wheels are no longer spinning out of control. I am in control of my mind and I choose quiet.

              From the first time I tried this method I started to yawn after only a few cycles and am usually asleep within ten minutes.

              For really difficult nights, I add an increase of attention by holding my eyes in a looking-up position (Closed, of course!). Sometimes I try to look toward my third eye but that really hurts my eyes.

              If you have trouble falling asleep because you can’t shut off your mind, I strongly recommend you try this technique. I still use it every night. You can start sleeping better tonight!

              You can also use this technique any time you want to:

              • Fall back to sleep if you wake up too soon.
              • Shut down your thinking.
              • Calm your feelings.
              • Simply focus on the present moment. 

              The Bottom Line

              Your mind is a tool, and like any other tool, it can be used for constructive purposes or for destructive purposes.

              You can allow your mind to be occupied by unwanted, undesirable and destructive tenants, or you can choose desirable tenants like peace, gratitude, compassion, love, and joy.

              Your mind can become your best friend, your biggest supporter, and someone you can count on to be there and encourage you. The choice is yours!

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