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19 Things Every New Mother Should Know Will Happen to Them

19 Things Every New Mother Should Know Will Happen to Them

If you’re a woman and you want to have kids some day, you’re probably wondering what a new mother should know. I am a husband and a father. I live with the mother of my children, and I was raised by a great mother.

I am also surrounded by great moms, and interact with them everyday. And l meet plenty of young ladies who aspire to be moms, and I’m inspired by the passion they have for motherhood.

Let’s face it: the world wouldn’t get by without mothers. I’m not disregarding the important role fathers play in society; we all play significant roles in making this world a better place.

But after watching my wife grow to become an amazing mother, I have been touched and proud of the things she has accomplished, and the person she has become. When a lady becomes a mother, great things happen. And because l do not know all of these things, I asked my wife and other great moms the amazing things that happened to them after they became a mother.

Below is what they said. I hope their words will inspire and motivate you, all mothers, and anyone who hopes to become a mother.

1. You will do enough research to qualify for a doctorate degree.

When you become a mother you begin to research everything like crazy. You will suddenly have a tremendous drive to know everything that has any impact on your baby.

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2. You will care about what you feed yourself and your children.

Food will no longer be something for you alone; your baby will depend on you to survive. Things you didn’t give a second thought about eating, pre-pregnancy, you now wouldn’t touch with a ten-foot pole.

You will learn the effects of dyes, additives, and genetically modified ingredients. You will memorize the definition of food items you once couldn’t even pronounce.

3. You will wonder what you used to do with all your alone time.

You will value those sacred seconds you get to pee alone. Or just have full use of both hands at the same time.

4. You will develop a superhuman ability to wake up in the middle of the night when your baby lets out so much as a whimper.

Seriously. A change of breathing rhythm and you will be wide awake, holding your breath with your hand over your baby’s chest to see if he/she is still breathing.

Once you feel the soft rise and fall of their little belly, you will be able to sleep for another five minutes before you do it all over again.

5. You will discover a whole new kind of love.

It will be unique, and one that you have never experienced before. You will love unconditionally, in a different way, and never stop loving your kids even when they do things you do not agree with. It’s a love you never thought was even possible. Can your heart expand this much?

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This love doesn’t always happen right away, the way you see it portrayed in movies and birth documentaries. It’s love for a whole new person who is a stranger to this world. The best part is that it will grow as you get to know your baby.

6. You will become your biggest critic.

You will doubt yourself and sometimes feel like you are the worst mom in the world. You will feel like a failure when things are not going great for you as a mom. That’s normal, but you will also have to learn to cut yourself some slack.

7. You will discover a new love for your husband or significant other that never existed.

That is, provided he actually steps up to his role and helps you with taking care of your baby. (Guys, this is a sexy thing mothers love to see. Heck, I believe even most women who aren’t moms love seeing it, too. Hint, hint!)

8. You will be pushed to your physical, emotional, and intellectual limits.

Every. Single. Day. Your limits will be tested, stretched, and exhausted. This will cause you to grow.

9. You will appreciate sleep.

Surviving on interrupted, small amounts of sleep that you never thought a human could function on will become a natural thing. It could even last for over a year. You will kick yourself for all the naps you refused to take as a child wishing you could have saved them up for now.

When your childless friends complain about being tired you will fight the urge to laugh manically and scream, “Just you wait!” while also thinking to yourself that they have absolutely no idea what exhaustion means.

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10. You will cherish every second you can pee alone or have use of both hands at once.

Oh, wait—did I already mention that? Yeah, it’s that big of a deal.

11. You will learn to do a lot of things one-handed (or with your elbow).

This might even become the most important skill for you.

12. You will grow eyes in the back of your head.

You will see things that haven’t happened yet, the possible outcomes, the what-ifs, and you will watch them all play out in your head.

13. You will realize you don’t know everything.

Before becoming a parent we think we know how we will be, how it will be, and then it actually happens and everything goes out the window.

14. You will learn that silence is suspicious.

Because it usually means your baby is redecorating your living room walls with a Sharpie, getting into something you don’t want them to, or flushing rolls of toilet paper and toys down the potty.

15. You will be able to heal booboos with kisses.

This is a superpower women receive after they become a mother or are put in a motherly role.

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16. You will learn the sport of baby-proofing.

Yes, it will become a sport. You will baby-proof a lot of things in order to prevent your baby from hurting themself. Did you know you can baby proof your toilet?

17. You will learn that no two children are the same (but only after you have two kids).

What works for one baby, will not work for the other. Heck, you will have this experience even while you are pregnant with your second baby.

18. You will see your breasts become more functional.

But everyone can enjoy the new upgrades. That is, in addition to the side effect of waking up soaked in the middle of the night.

19. You will learn a whole new language.

You know that look that other people give you when your child rambles on in what sounds like gibberish, and you translate. You also start using words like boo boo, potty, pee pee, nuh-night. The first time your partner announces he has to go potty to you, you won’t even think twice.

Doesn’t motherhood sound like an amazing experience?

Featured photo credit: Gaborfejes via pixabay.com

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Last Updated on September 20, 2018

How to Stay Calm and Cool When You Are Extremely Stressful

How to Stay Calm and Cool When You Are Extremely Stressful

Being in a hurry all the time drains your energy. Your work and routine life make you feel overwhelmed. Getting caught up in things beyond your control stresses you out…

If you’d like to stay calm and cool in stressful situations, put the following 8 steps into practice:

1. Breathe

The next time you’re faced with a stressful situation that makes you want to hurry, stop what you’re doing for one minute and perform the following steps:

  • Take five deep breaths in and out (your belly should come forward with each inhale).
  • Imagine all that stress leaving your body with each exhale.
  • Smile. Fake it if you have to. It’s pretty hard to stay grumpy with a goofy grin on your face.

Feel free to repeat the above steps every few hours at work or home if you need to.

2. Loosen up

After your breathing session, perform a quick body scan to identify any areas that are tight or tense. Clenched jaw? Rounded shoulders? Anything else that isn’t at ease?

Gently touch or massage any of your body parts that are under tension to encourage total relaxation. It might help to imagine you’re in a place that calms you: a beach, hot tub, or nature trail, for example.

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3. Chew slowly

Slow down at the dinner table if you want to learn to be patient and lose weight. Shoveling your food down as fast as you can is a surefire way to eat more than you need to (and find yourself with a bellyache).

Be a mindful eater who pays attention to the taste, texture, and aroma of every dish. Chew slowly while you try to guess all of the ingredients that were used to prepare your dish.

Chewing slowly will also reduce those dreadful late-night cravings that sneak up on you after work.

4. Let go

Cliche as it sounds, it’s very effective.

The thing that seems like the end of the world right now?

It’s not. Promise.

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Stressing and worrying about the situation you’re in won’t do any good because you’re already in it, so just let it go.

Letting go isn’t easy, so here’s a guide to help you:

21 Things To Do When You Find It Hard To Let Go

5. Enjoy the journey

Focusing on the end result can quickly become exhausting. Chasing a bold, audacious goal that’s going to require a lot of time and patience? Split it into several mini-goals so you’ll have several causes for celebration.

Stop focusing on the negative thoughts. Giving yourself consistent positive feedback will help you grow patience, stay encouraged, and find more joy in the process of achieving your goals.

6. Look at the big picture

The next time you find your stress level skyrocketing, take a deep breath, and ask yourself:

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Will this matter to me…

  • Next week?
  • Next month?
  • Next year?
  • In 10 years?

Hint: No, it won’t.

I bet most of the stuff that stresses you wouldn’t matter the next week, maybe not even the next day.

Stop agonizing over things you can’t control because you’re only hurting yourself.

7. Stop demanding perfection of yourself

You’re not perfect and that’s okay. Show me a person who claims to be perfect and I’ll show you a dirty liar.

Demanding perfection of yourself (or anybody else) will only stress you out because it just isn’t possible.

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8. Practice patience every day

Below are a few easy ways you can practice patience every day, increasing your ability to remain calm and cool in times of stress:

  • The next time you go to the grocery store, get in the longest line.
  • Instead of going through the drive-thru at your bank, go inside.
  • Take a long walk through a secluded park or trail.

Final thoughts

Staying calm in stressful situations is possible, all you need is some daily practice.

Taking deep breaths and eat mindfully are some simple ways to train your brain to be more patient. But changing the way you think of a situation and staying positive are most important in keeping cool whenever you feel overwhelmed and stressful.

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