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19 Things Every New Mother Should Know Will Happen to Them

19 Things Every New Mother Should Know Will Happen to Them

If you’re a woman and you want to have kids some day, you’re probably wondering what a new mother should know. I am a husband and a father. I live with the mother of my children, and I was raised by a great mother.

I am also surrounded by great moms, and interact with them everyday. And l meet plenty of young ladies who aspire to be moms, and I’m inspired by the passion they have for motherhood.

Let’s face it: the world wouldn’t get by without mothers. I’m not disregarding the important role fathers play in society; we all play significant roles in making this world a better place.

But after watching my wife grow to become an amazing mother, I have been touched and proud of the things she has accomplished, and the person she has become. When a lady becomes a mother, great things happen. And because l do not know all of these things, I asked my wife and other great moms the amazing things that happened to them after they became a mother.

Below is what they said. I hope their words will inspire and motivate you, all mothers, and anyone who hopes to become a mother.

1. You will do enough research to qualify for a doctorate degree.

When you become a mother you begin to research everything like crazy. You will suddenly have a tremendous drive to know everything that has any impact on your baby.

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2. You will care about what you feed yourself and your children.

Food will no longer be something for you alone; your baby will depend on you to survive. Things you didn’t give a second thought about eating, pre-pregnancy, you now wouldn’t touch with a ten-foot pole.

You will learn the effects of dyes, additives, and genetically modified ingredients. You will memorize the definition of food items you once couldn’t even pronounce.

3. You will wonder what you used to do with all your alone time.

You will value those sacred seconds you get to pee alone. Or just have full use of both hands at the same time.

4. You will develop a superhuman ability to wake up in the middle of the night when your baby lets out so much as a whimper.

Seriously. A change of breathing rhythm and you will be wide awake, holding your breath with your hand over your baby’s chest to see if he/she is still breathing.

Once you feel the soft rise and fall of their little belly, you will be able to sleep for another five minutes before you do it all over again.

5. You will discover a whole new kind of love.

It will be unique, and one that you have never experienced before. You will love unconditionally, in a different way, and never stop loving your kids even when they do things you do not agree with. It’s a love you never thought was even possible. Can your heart expand this much?

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This love doesn’t always happen right away, the way you see it portrayed in movies and birth documentaries. It’s love for a whole new person who is a stranger to this world. The best part is that it will grow as you get to know your baby.

6. You will become your biggest critic.

You will doubt yourself and sometimes feel like you are the worst mom in the world. You will feel like a failure when things are not going great for you as a mom. That’s normal, but you will also have to learn to cut yourself some slack.

7. You will discover a new love for your husband or significant other that never existed.

That is, provided he actually steps up to his role and helps you with taking care of your baby. (Guys, this is a sexy thing mothers love to see. Heck, I believe even most women who aren’t moms love seeing it, too. Hint, hint!)

8. You will be pushed to your physical, emotional, and intellectual limits.

Every. Single. Day. Your limits will be tested, stretched, and exhausted. This will cause you to grow.

9. You will appreciate sleep.

Surviving on interrupted, small amounts of sleep that you never thought a human could function on will become a natural thing. It could even last for over a year. You will kick yourself for all the naps you refused to take as a child wishing you could have saved them up for now.

When your childless friends complain about being tired you will fight the urge to laugh manically and scream, “Just you wait!” while also thinking to yourself that they have absolutely no idea what exhaustion means.

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10. You will cherish every second you can pee alone or have use of both hands at once.

Oh, wait—did I already mention that? Yeah, it’s that big of a deal.

11. You will learn to do a lot of things one-handed (or with your elbow).

This might even become the most important skill for you.

12. You will grow eyes in the back of your head.

You will see things that haven’t happened yet, the possible outcomes, the what-ifs, and you will watch them all play out in your head.

13. You will realize you don’t know everything.

Before becoming a parent we think we know how we will be, how it will be, and then it actually happens and everything goes out the window.

14. You will learn that silence is suspicious.

Because it usually means your baby is redecorating your living room walls with a Sharpie, getting into something you don’t want them to, or flushing rolls of toilet paper and toys down the potty.

15. You will be able to heal booboos with kisses.

This is a superpower women receive after they become a mother or are put in a motherly role.

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16. You will learn the sport of baby-proofing.

Yes, it will become a sport. You will baby-proof a lot of things in order to prevent your baby from hurting themself. Did you know you can baby proof your toilet?

17. You will learn that no two children are the same (but only after you have two kids).

What works for one baby, will not work for the other. Heck, you will have this experience even while you are pregnant with your second baby.

18. You will see your breasts become more functional.

But everyone can enjoy the new upgrades. That is, in addition to the side effect of waking up soaked in the middle of the night.

19. You will learn a whole new language.

You know that look that other people give you when your child rambles on in what sounds like gibberish, and you translate. You also start using words like boo boo, potty, pee pee, nuh-night. The first time your partner announces he has to go potty to you, you won’t even think twice.

Doesn’t motherhood sound like an amazing experience?

Featured photo credit: Gaborfejes via pixabay.com

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Last Updated on September 16, 2019

How to Stop Procrastinating: 11 Practical Ways for Procrastinators

How to Stop Procrastinating: 11 Practical Ways for Procrastinators

You have a deadline looming. However, instead of doing your work, you are fiddling with miscellaneous things like checking email, social media, watching videos, surfing blogs and forums. You know you should be working, but you just don’t feel like doing anything.

We are all familiar with the procrastination phenomenon. When we procrastinate, we squander away our free time and put off important tasks we should be doing them till it’s too late. And when it is indeed too late, we panic and wish we got started earlier.

The chronic procrastinators I know have spent years of their life looped in this cycle. Delaying, putting off things, slacking, hiding from work, facing work only when it’s unavoidable, then repeating this loop all over again. It’s a bad habit that eats us away and prevents us from achieving greater results in life.

Don’t let procrastination take over your life. Here, I will share my personal steps on how to stop procrastinating. These 11 steps will definitely apply to you too:

1. Break Your Work into Little Steps

Part of the reason why we procrastinate is because subconsciously, we find the work too overwhelming for us. Break it down into little parts, then focus on one part at the time. If you still procrastinate on the task after breaking it down, then break it down even further. Soon, your task will be so simple that you will be thinking “gee, this is so simple that I might as well just do it now!”.

For example, I’m currently writing a new book (on How to achieve anything in life). Book writing at its full scale is an enormous project and can be overwhelming. However, when I break it down into phases such as –

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  • (1) Research
  • (2) Deciding the topic
  • (3) Creating the outline
  • (4) Drafting the content
  • (5) Writing Chapters #1 to #10,
  • (6) Revision
  • (7) etc.

Suddenly it seems very manageable. What I do then is to focus on the immediate phase and get it done to my best ability, without thinking about the other phases. When it’s done, I move on to the next.

2. Change Your Environment

Different environments have different impact on our productivity. Look at your work desk and your room. Do they make you want to work or do they make you want to snuggle and sleep? If it’s the latter, you should look into changing your workspace.

One thing to note is that an environment that makes us feel inspired before may lose its effect after a period of time. If that’s the case, then it’s time to change things around. Refer to Steps #2 and #3 of 13 Strategies To Jumpstart Your Productivity, which talks about revamping your environment and workspace.

3. Create a Detailed Timeline with Specific Deadlines

Having just 1 deadline for your work is like an invitation to procrastinate. That’s because we get the impression that we have time and keep pushing everything back, until it’s too late.

Break down your project (see tip #1), then create an overall timeline with specific deadlines for each small task. This way, you know you have to finish each task by a certain date. Your timelines must be robust, too – i.e. if you don’t finish this by today, it’s going to jeopardize everything else you have planned after that. This way it creates the urgency to act.

My goals are broken down into monthly, weekly, right down to the daily task lists, and the list is a call to action that I must accomplish this by the specified date, else my goals will be put off.

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Here’re more tips on setting deadlines: 22 Tips for Effective Deadlines

4. Eliminate Your Procrastination Pit-Stops

If you are procrastinating a little too much, maybe that’s because you make it easy to procrastinate.

Identify your browser bookmarks that take up a lot of your time and shift them into a separate folder that is less accessible. Disable the automatic notification option in your email client. Get rid of the distractions around you.

I know some people will out of the way and delete or deactivate their facebook accounts. I think it’s a little drastic and extreme as addressing procrastination is more about being conscious of our actions than counteracting via self-binding methods, but if you feel that’s what’s needed, go for it.

5. Hang out with People Who Inspire You to Take Action

I’m pretty sure if you spend just 10 minutes talking to Steve Jobs or Bill Gates, you’ll be more inspired to act than if you spent the 10 minutes doing nothing. The people we are with influence our behaviors. Of course spending time with Steve Jobs or Bill Gates every day is probably not a feasible method, but the principle applies — The Hidden Power of Every Single Person Around You

Identify the people, friends or colleagues who trigger you – most likely the go-getters and hard workers – and hang out with them more often. Soon you will inculcate their drive and spirit too.

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As a personal development blogger, I “hang out” with inspiring personal development experts by reading their blogs and corresponding with them regularly via email and social media. It’s communication via new media and it works all the same.

6. Get a Buddy

Having a companion makes the whole process much more fun. Ideally, your buddy should be someone who has his/her own set of goals. Both of you will hold each other accountable to your goals and plans. While it’s not necessary for both of you to have the same goals, it’ll be even better if that’s the case, so you can learn from each other.

I have a good friend whom I talk to regularly, and we always ask each other about our goals and progress in achieving those goals. Needless to say, it spurs us to keep taking action.

7. Tell Others About Your Goals

This serves the same function as #6, on a larger scale. Tell all your friends, colleagues, acquaintances and family about your projects. Now whenever you see them, they are bound to ask you about your status on those projects.

For example, sometimes I announce my projects on The Personal Excellence Blog, Twitter and Facebook, and my readers will ask me about them on an ongoing basis. It’s a great way to keep myself accountable to my plans.

8. Seek out Someone Who Has Already Achieved the Outcome

What is it you want to accomplish here, and who are the people who have accomplished this already? Go seek them out and connect with them. Seeing living proof that your goals are very well achievable if you take action is one of the best triggers for action.

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9. Re-Clarify Your Goals

If you have been procrastinating for an extended period of time, it might reflect a misalignment between what you want and what you are currently doing. Often times, we outgrow our goals as we discover more about ourselves, but we don’t change our goals to reflect that.

Get away from your work (a short vacation will be good, else just a weekend break or staycation will do too) and take some time to regroup yourself. What exactly do you want to achieve? What should you do to get there? What are the steps to take? Does your current work align with that? If not, what can you do about it?

10. Stop Over-Complicating Things

Are you waiting for a perfect time to do this? That maybe now is not the best time because of X, Y, Z reasons? Ditch that thought because there’s never a perfect time. If you keep waiting for one, you are never going to accomplish anything.

Perfectionism is one of the biggest reasons for procrastination. Read more about why perfectionist tendencies can be a bane than a boon: Why Being A Perfectionist May Not Be So Perfect.

11. Get a Grip and Just Do It

At the end, it boils down to taking action. You can do all the strategizing, planning and hypothesizing, but if you don’t take action, nothing’s going to happen. Occasionally, I get readers and clients who keep complaining about their situations but they still refuse to take action at the end of the day.

Reality check:

I have never heard anyone procrastinate their way to success before and I doubt it’s going to change in the near future.  Whatever it is you are procrastinating on, if you want to get it done, you need to get a grip on yourself and do it.

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