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19 Things Every New Mother Should Know Will Happen to Them

19 Things Every New Mother Should Know Will Happen to Them

If you’re a woman and you want to have kids some day, you’re probably wondering what a new mother should know. I am a husband and a father. I live with the mother of my children, and I was raised by a great mother.

I am also surrounded by great moms, and interact with them everyday. And l meet plenty of young ladies who aspire to be moms, and I’m inspired by the passion they have for motherhood.

Let’s face it: the world wouldn’t get by without mothers. I’m not disregarding the important role fathers play in society; we all play significant roles in making this world a better place.

But after watching my wife grow to become an amazing mother, I have been touched and proud of the things she has accomplished, and the person she has become. When a lady becomes a mother, great things happen. And because l do not know all of these things, I asked my wife and other great moms the amazing things that happened to them after they became a mother.

Below is what they said. I hope their words will inspire and motivate you, all mothers, and anyone who hopes to become a mother.

1. You will do enough research to qualify for a doctorate degree.

When you become a mother you begin to research everything like crazy. You will suddenly have a tremendous drive to know everything that has any impact on your baby.

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2. You will care about what you feed yourself and your children.

Food will no longer be something for you alone; your baby will depend on you to survive. Things you didn’t give a second thought about eating, pre-pregnancy, you now wouldn’t touch with a ten-foot pole.

You will learn the effects of dyes, additives, and genetically modified ingredients. You will memorize the definition of food items you once couldn’t even pronounce.

3. You will wonder what you used to do with all your alone time.

You will value those sacred seconds you get to pee alone. Or just have full use of both hands at the same time.

4. You will develop a superhuman ability to wake up in the middle of the night when your baby lets out so much as a whimper.

Seriously. A change of breathing rhythm and you will be wide awake, holding your breath with your hand over your baby’s chest to see if he/she is still breathing.

Once you feel the soft rise and fall of their little belly, you will be able to sleep for another five minutes before you do it all over again.

5. You will discover a whole new kind of love.

It will be unique, and one that you have never experienced before. You will love unconditionally, in a different way, and never stop loving your kids even when they do things you do not agree with. It’s a love you never thought was even possible. Can your heart expand this much?

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This love doesn’t always happen right away, the way you see it portrayed in movies and birth documentaries. It’s love for a whole new person who is a stranger to this world. The best part is that it will grow as you get to know your baby.

6. You will become your biggest critic.

You will doubt yourself and sometimes feel like you are the worst mom in the world. You will feel like a failure when things are not going great for you as a mom. That’s normal, but you will also have to learn to cut yourself some slack.

7. You will discover a new love for your husband or significant other that never existed.

That is, provided he actually steps up to his role and helps you with taking care of your baby. (Guys, this is a sexy thing mothers love to see. Heck, I believe even most women who aren’t moms love seeing it, too. Hint, hint!)

8. You will be pushed to your physical, emotional, and intellectual limits.

Every. Single. Day. Your limits will be tested, stretched, and exhausted. This will cause you to grow.

9. You will appreciate sleep.

Surviving on interrupted, small amounts of sleep that you never thought a human could function on will become a natural thing. It could even last for over a year. You will kick yourself for all the naps you refused to take as a child wishing you could have saved them up for now.

When your childless friends complain about being tired you will fight the urge to laugh manically and scream, “Just you wait!” while also thinking to yourself that they have absolutely no idea what exhaustion means.

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10. You will cherish every second you can pee alone or have use of both hands at once.

Oh, wait—did I already mention that? Yeah, it’s that big of a deal.

11. You will learn to do a lot of things one-handed (or with your elbow).

This might even become the most important skill for you.

12. You will grow eyes in the back of your head.

You will see things that haven’t happened yet, the possible outcomes, the what-ifs, and you will watch them all play out in your head.

13. You will realize you don’t know everything.

Before becoming a parent we think we know how we will be, how it will be, and then it actually happens and everything goes out the window.

14. You will learn that silence is suspicious.

Because it usually means your baby is redecorating your living room walls with a Sharpie, getting into something you don’t want them to, or flushing rolls of toilet paper and toys down the potty.

15. You will be able to heal booboos with kisses.

This is a superpower women receive after they become a mother or are put in a motherly role.

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16. You will learn the sport of baby-proofing.

Yes, it will become a sport. You will baby-proof a lot of things in order to prevent your baby from hurting themself. Did you know you can baby proof your toilet?

17. You will learn that no two children are the same (but only after you have two kids).

What works for one baby, will not work for the other. Heck, you will have this experience even while you are pregnant with your second baby.

18. You will see your breasts become more functional.

But everyone can enjoy the new upgrades. That is, in addition to the side effect of waking up soaked in the middle of the night.

19. You will learn a whole new language.

You know that look that other people give you when your child rambles on in what sounds like gibberish, and you translate. You also start using words like boo boo, potty, pee pee, nuh-night. The first time your partner announces he has to go potty to you, you won’t even think twice.

Doesn’t motherhood sound like an amazing experience?

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Last Updated on November 18, 2020

50 Habits of Highly Successful People You Should Learn

50 Habits of Highly Successful People You Should Learn

If you’re like me and really into self-development, you’ve probably read many of the thousands of self-help books out there on the market. But also like me, you probably find all the information a bit overwhelming.

That’s why I wanted to do the self-less task of taking the most important, life-changing lessons I’ve drawn from these books and condensed them into 50 key points.

Here’re 50 habits of successful people you should learn:

1. Believe It to See It

Our minds tend to focus on what’s happening around us and refuse to see what could happen. Only when you trust in what’s possible and dare to dream big, big things can happen for you.

2. See Problems as a Wonderful Gift

While others only see problems and give up, successful people use the problem as a lesson to find improvement in themselves or the task at hand.

3. Keep Looking for Solutions

Even if they’re knee-deep in problems, successful people will still put all of their focus on finding solutions.

4. Remember It’s All About the Journey

Successful people are conscious and methodical in creating their own success. They don’t sit around doing the bare minimum, hoping success finds them.

5. Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway

There’s so much fear on the road to success, but instead of letting that fear control and limit them, successful people do a good job of just forging ahead regardless.

6. Always Ask Productive Questions

It’s all about asking the right questions. Successful people make sure they are questions that will elicit information for a more productive, creative and positive mindset moving forward.

7. Understand the Best Waste of Energy Is Complaining

Successful people know that choosing to see the negative side of things will only create a useless and unproductive state.

8. Don’t Play the Blame Game

Taking responsibility for actions and outcomes is a form of empowerment that you can build your success upon. While the act of blaming others or outside circumstances takes this empowerment away from you.

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9. Maximize Your Strengths

Not every successful person is simply more talented than the rest, but they do use what they know they’re good at to achieve more successful results.

10. Be in It to Win It

Successful people are busy, productive and proactive. Instead of sitting around over-thinking and over-planning a great idea, they just take a step towards it no matter how small.

11. Know That Success Attracts Success

People who are successful surround themselves and seek out like-minded people. They understand the importance of being part of a team and forge win-win relationships.

12. Actually Choose to Be Successful

Dreaming big is a massive part of being successful even if your dream seems impossible. Ambition is a mindset that needs to be a daily conscious choice.

13. Visualize, Visualize, Visualize!

You’ve got to see your success in your mind’s eye even before it comes. Successful people clarify and get that certainty about what they want their reality to look like rather than being mere spectators of life.

14. Be a One-Off Original

Successful people look for what’s working and then create a unique spin on it. Imitating only regurgitates other people’s ideas with no originality.

15. The Perfect Time to Act Is Now

Waiting for the right time to act is basically procrastination wrapped up in an excuse. Successful people know there’s never a perfect time so they may as well just do it now.

16. Keep Learning, Keep Growing

Continuous learning is the key to a successful life. Whether it’s academic, being a student of life or actionable learning, it’s all about expanding your knowledge and personal development.

17. Always Look on the Bright Side of Life

Successful people have the knack for finding positive aspects in all people and circumstances no matter what.

18. Having a Bad Day? Do It Anyway!

We all have bad moods but it shouldn’t be an excuse to stop everything. Giving into a bad mood just stop-starts your life, slowing success way down.

19. Sometimes Risky Business Is Needed

Calculated risks are a must for success. It’s about weighing the pros and cons while moving forward with that element of trust.

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20. Accept Challenge All the Time

Dealing with problems head-on is a must to be successful. Successful people also face challenges in order to improve themselves.

21. Make Your Own Luck

In the mindset of a successful person, there’s no such thing as ‘luck’ or ‘fate’. They take control to actively and consciously create their own best life.

22. Ignite Your Initiative

While many people are reactive, successful people are proactive – taking action before they have to.

23. Be the Master of Your Emotions

Being effective at managing emotions is key on the road to success. That’s not to say successful people don’t feel like we all do, but they’re just not slaves to their emotions.

24. Champion in Communication

Consciously working on effective communication skills gets anyone closer to success.

25. Plan Your Life Strategically

Successful people’s lives aren’t a clumsy series of unplanned events and outcomes, they methodically work at turning their plans into a reality.

26. Become Exceptional at What You Do

To become exceptional, you typically have to do things that most won’t. To become successful, hard decisions need to be made and acting on them is crucial.

27. Choose to Live Outside of Your Comfort Zone

While many people are pleasure junkies and avoid pain and discomfort at all costs, successful people understand the value and benefits of working through the tough stuff that most would avoid.

28. Live by Core Values

Successful people firstly identify their core values and what’s important to them, then do their best to live a life that reflects these values.

29. Realize Money Isn’t Everything

Money and success are not interchangeable and the most successful people understand this. Putting money on a pedestal and equating it to success is a dangerous mindset to have. Success comes in many forms.

30. Don’t Get Carried Away

Successful people understand the importance of discipline and self-control and as a result they are happy to take the road less travelled.

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31. Self-Worth Is Not Tied to Success

Successful people are secure. They do not derive their self-worth from what they own, who they know, where they live or what they look like.

32. Kindness Breeds Kindness (And Success)

Generosity and kindness is a common trait among long-term successful people. It’s important to take pleasure in helping others achieve.

33. More Humility, Less Arrogance

Successful people are humble and happy to admit and apologize for mistakes. This is because they’re confident in their ability. They are happy to learn from others and happy to make others look good rather than seek their own personal glory.

34. Change Opens New Doors

People who are successful are adaptable and embrace change, while the majority are creatures of comfort and habit. They are comfortable with, and embrace, the new and the unfamiliar.

35. Success Requires a Healthy Body

It’s not just how you think, it’s about how you show up for success. Successful people understand the importance of being physically well, not for vain reasons but because being in tiptop condition creates a better personal life for success.

36. Laziness Just Doesn’t Exist

Successful people are never considered lazy. Yes, they can relax when they need to, but working hard is their game.

37. Resilience by the Bucket Load

When difficulty strikes, most would throw in the towel, but successful people are just warming up.

38. Feedback Is Just Another Chance to Improve

How people react to feedback determines their potential for success. Being open to constructive criticism and acting on it to improve is most seen in those who are successful.

39. Your Vibe Attracts Your Tribe

If people are hanging out with toxic and negative people, then they need to take a look at themselves. Successful people hang out with others who are positive and supportive.

40. Can’t Control It? Forget It

Successful people don’t invest time or emotional energy into things which they have no control of.

41. Swim Against the Tide

Successful people are not people-pleasers and they don’t need constant approval from others in order to move ahead.

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42. Alone Time Is Valuable Time

More self-worth means being more comfortable with your own company. Successful people are more happy and see the value in spending time alone.

43. Self-Standard Is Higher Than Most

Everyone has a choice to set high standards for themselves. Successful people do this, which in turn produces greater commitment, more momentum, a better work ethic and of course, better results.

44. Failure Isn’t Rationalized

While many use age, health, lack of time, ‘bad luck’, or lack of opportunity to explain away their failure, the key to success is finding a way to succeed despite facing these challenges.

45. Down Time Is an Important Part of a Routine

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46. Career Isn’t Who You Are, It’s What You Do

Successful people know their career isn’t their identity. They are multi-dimensional and don’t define themselves by their job.

47. Be Interested in Only the Path of Resistance

While most people look for the easiest way or the shortcut, successful people are more interested in the most effective way. They look for the course of action which will produce the best results over the long term.

48. Follow Through

Many spend their life starting things that they never finish, but successful people get the job done. Even when the excitement and the novelty has worn off they still follow through and finish.

49. Invest in All Your Dimensions

We’re not just physical and psychological beings, but emotional and spiritual creatures as well. Successful people consciously work at being healthy and productive on all levels.

50. Put Your Money Where Your Mouth Is

To obtain success, it’s important to practice what you preach. Successful people don’t talk about the theory, they live the reality.

So there you have it, a summary of what I’ve learned from self-help books. But of course, you need to start taking actions so you will get closer to success too.

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