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19 Things Every New Mother Should Know Will Happen to Them

19 Things Every New Mother Should Know Will Happen to Them

If you’re a woman and you want to have kids some day, you’re probably wondering what a new mother should know. I am a husband and a father. I live with the mother of my children, and I was raised by a great mother.

I am also surrounded by great moms, and interact with them everyday. And l meet plenty of young ladies who aspire to be moms, and I’m inspired by the passion they have for motherhood.

Let’s face it: the world wouldn’t get by without mothers. I’m not disregarding the important role fathers play in society; we all play significant roles in making this world a better place.

But after watching my wife grow to become an amazing mother, I have been touched and proud of the things she has accomplished, and the person she has become. When a lady becomes a mother, great things happen. And because l do not know all of these things, I asked my wife and other great moms the amazing things that happened to them after they became a mother.

Below is what they said. I hope their words will inspire and motivate you, all mothers, and anyone who hopes to become a mother.

1. You will do enough research to qualify for a doctorate degree.

When you become a mother you begin to research everything like crazy. You will suddenly have a tremendous drive to know everything that has any impact on your baby.

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2. You will care about what you feed yourself and your children.

Food will no longer be something for you alone; your baby will depend on you to survive. Things you didn’t give a second thought about eating, pre-pregnancy, you now wouldn’t touch with a ten-foot pole.

You will learn the effects of dyes, additives, and genetically modified ingredients. You will memorize the definition of food items you once couldn’t even pronounce.

3. You will wonder what you used to do with all your alone time.

You will value those sacred seconds you get to pee alone. Or just have full use of both hands at the same time.

4. You will develop a superhuman ability to wake up in the middle of the night when your baby lets out so much as a whimper.

Seriously. A change of breathing rhythm and you will be wide awake, holding your breath with your hand over your baby’s chest to see if he/she is still breathing.

Once you feel the soft rise and fall of their little belly, you will be able to sleep for another five minutes before you do it all over again.

5. You will discover a whole new kind of love.

It will be unique, and one that you have never experienced before. You will love unconditionally, in a different way, and never stop loving your kids even when they do things you do not agree with. It’s a love you never thought was even possible. Can your heart expand this much?

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This love doesn’t always happen right away, the way you see it portrayed in movies and birth documentaries. It’s love for a whole new person who is a stranger to this world. The best part is that it will grow as you get to know your baby.

6. You will become your biggest critic.

You will doubt yourself and sometimes feel like you are the worst mom in the world. You will feel like a failure when things are not going great for you as a mom. That’s normal, but you will also have to learn to cut yourself some slack.

7. You will discover a new love for your husband or significant other that never existed.

That is, provided he actually steps up to his role and helps you with taking care of your baby. (Guys, this is a sexy thing mothers love to see. Heck, I believe even most women who aren’t moms love seeing it, too. Hint, hint!)

8. You will be pushed to your physical, emotional, and intellectual limits.

Every. Single. Day. Your limits will be tested, stretched, and exhausted. This will cause you to grow.

9. You will appreciate sleep.

Surviving on interrupted, small amounts of sleep that you never thought a human could function on will become a natural thing. It could even last for over a year. You will kick yourself for all the naps you refused to take as a child wishing you could have saved them up for now.

When your childless friends complain about being tired you will fight the urge to laugh manically and scream, “Just you wait!” while also thinking to yourself that they have absolutely no idea what exhaustion means.

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10. You will cherish every second you can pee alone or have use of both hands at once.

Oh, wait—did I already mention that? Yeah, it’s that big of a deal.

11. You will learn to do a lot of things one-handed (or with your elbow).

This might even become the most important skill for you.

12. You will grow eyes in the back of your head.

You will see things that haven’t happened yet, the possible outcomes, the what-ifs, and you will watch them all play out in your head.

13. You will realize you don’t know everything.

Before becoming a parent we think we know how we will be, how it will be, and then it actually happens and everything goes out the window.

14. You will learn that silence is suspicious.

Because it usually means your baby is redecorating your living room walls with a Sharpie, getting into something you don’t want them to, or flushing rolls of toilet paper and toys down the potty.

15. You will be able to heal booboos with kisses.

This is a superpower women receive after they become a mother or are put in a motherly role.

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16. You will learn the sport of baby-proofing.

Yes, it will become a sport. You will baby-proof a lot of things in order to prevent your baby from hurting themself. Did you know you can baby proof your toilet?

17. You will learn that no two children are the same (but only after you have two kids).

What works for one baby, will not work for the other. Heck, you will have this experience even while you are pregnant with your second baby.

18. You will see your breasts become more functional.

But everyone can enjoy the new upgrades. That is, in addition to the side effect of waking up soaked in the middle of the night.

19. You will learn a whole new language.

You know that look that other people give you when your child rambles on in what sounds like gibberish, and you translate. You also start using words like boo boo, potty, pee pee, nuh-night. The first time your partner announces he has to go potty to you, you won’t even think twice.

Doesn’t motherhood sound like an amazing experience?

Featured photo credit: Gaborfejes via pixabay.com

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Last Updated on March 13, 2019

How to Get out of a Rut: 12 Useful Ways to Get Unstuck

How to Get out of a Rut: 12 Useful Ways to Get Unstuck

Have you gotten into a rut before? Or are you in a rut right now?

You know you’re in a rut when you run out of ideas and inspiration. I personally see a rut as a productivity vacuum. It might very well be a reason why you aren’t getting results. Even as you spend more time on your work, you can’t seem to get anything constructive done. While I’m normally productive, I get into occasional ruts (especially when I’ve been working back-to-back without rest). During those times, I can spend an entire day in front of the computer and get nothing done. It can be quite frustrating.

Over time, I have tried and found several methods that are helpful to pull me out of a rut. If you experience ruts too, whether as a working professional, a writer, a blogger, a student or other work, you will find these useful. Here are 12 of my personal tips to get out of ruts:

1. Work on the small tasks.

When you are in a rut, tackle it by starting small. Clear away your smaller tasks which have been piling up. Reply to your emails, organize your documents, declutter your work space, and reply to private messages.

Whenever I finish doing that, I generate a positive momentum which I bring forward to my work.

2. Take a break from your work desk.

Get yourself away from your desk and go take a walk. Go to the washroom, walk around the office, go out and get a snack.

Your mind is too bogged down and needs some airing. Sometimes I get new ideas right after I walk away from my computer.

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3. Upgrade yourself

Take the down time to upgrade yourself. Go to a seminar. Read up on new materials (#7). Pick up a new language. Or any of the 42 ways here to improve yourself.

The modern computer uses different typefaces because Steve Jobs dropped in on a calligraphy class back in college. How’s that for inspiration?

4. Talk to a friend.

Talk to someone and get your mind off work for a while.

Talk about anything, from casual chatting to a deep conversation about something you really care about. You will be surprised at how the short encounter can be rejuvenating in its own way.

5. Forget about trying to be perfect.

If you are in a rut, the last thing you want to do is step on your own toes with perfectionist tendencies.

Just start small. Do what you can, at your own pace. Let yourself make mistakes.

Soon, a little trickle of inspiration will come. And then it’ll build up with more trickles. Before you know it, you have a whole stream of ideas.

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6. Paint a vision to work towards.

If you are continuously getting in a rut with your work, maybe there’s no vision inspiring you to move forward.

Think about why you are doing this, and what you are doing it for. What is the end vision in mind?

Make it as vivid as possible. Make sure it’s a vision that inspires you and use that to trigger you to action.

7. Read a book (or blog).

The things we read are like food to our brain. If you are out of ideas, it’s time to feed your brain with great materials.

Here’s a list of 40 books you can start off with. Stock your browser with only the feeds of high quality blogs, such as Lifehack.org, DumbLittleMan, Seth Godin’s Blog, Tim Ferris’ Blog, Zen Habits or The Personal Excellence Blog.

Check out the best selling books; those are generally packed with great wisdom.

8. Have a quick nap.

If you are at home, take a quick nap for about 20-30 minutes. This clears up your mind and gives you a quick boost. Nothing quite like starting off on a fresh start after catching up on sleep.

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9. Remember why you are doing this.

Sometimes we lose sight of why we do what we do, and after a while we become jaded. A quick refresher on why you even started on this project will help.

What were you thinking when you thought of doing this? Retrace your thoughts back to that moment. Recall why you are doing this. Then reconnect with your muse.

10. Find some competition.

Nothing quite like healthy competition to spur us forward. If you are out of ideas, then check up on what people are doing in your space.

Colleagues at work, competitors in the industry, competitors’ products and websites, networking conventions.. you get the drill.

11. Go exercise.

Since you are not making headway at work, might as well spend the time shaping yourself up.

Sometimes we work so much that we neglect our health and fitness. Go jog, swim, cycle, whichever exercise you prefer.

As you improve your physical health, your mental health will improve, too. The different facets of ourselves are all interlinked.

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Here’re 15 Tips to Restart the Exercise Habit (and How to Keep It).

12. Take a good break.

Ruts are usually signs that you have been working too long and too hard. It’s time to get a break.

Beyond the quick tips above, arrange for a 1-day or 2-days of break from your work. Don’t check your (work) emails or do anything work-related. Relax and do your favorite activities. You will return to your work recharged and ready to start.

Contrary to popular belief, the world will not end from taking a break from your work. In fact, you will be much more ready to make an impact after proper rest. My best ideas and inspiration always hit me whenever I’m away from my work.

Take a look at this to learn the importance of rest: The Importance of Scheduling Downtime

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