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15 Ways to Lead a New Life You Love

15 Ways to Lead a New Life You Love

Do you want to surf a wave, learn a language or write a book?  It’s never too late to lead a new life you love and become the person you’ve always dreamed you could be.

The reality is that you can be anyone or do anything you desire.  You already have all of the tools; you just need to dust off the toolbox and get to work.

That’s what this article is going to do.  It’s going to give you a blueprint for making the changes you’ve always dreamed of.

There is a concept discussed in Buddhist practices that you may or may not be familiar with called impermanence.  It’s actually a huge, enormous, life-changing concept, and if you can grasp it, you will be well on your way to completing your blueprint for a new life.

There are major changes that we clearly see: we were once young, and now we are old, and one day we will die.  These gross changes are apparent and certain.  But in order for these gross changes to occur there are also tiny, subtle changes that are taking place within all animals, people and things all the time.

We often overlook the subtle changes and focus only on the gross changes.  But the answer to creating a brand new life lies in these subtle changes and the recognition that in every moment there is a constant flux of change happening.

A common visual used to show subtle impermanence: a seed is planted, this seed creates a seedling, which goes on to create a tree.  Now that we have a tree the seed or the seedling no longer exists, even though they produced the tree.  Finally, the fruit that the tree produced is also not the tree, though it was produced by the tree.  In order for the seed to produce the fruit, it went though endless subtle changes.

Our cells are dying and being reborn.  With each moment that passes, we are an empty canvas and we can paint a new picture; each moment leads to the next with renewed possibilities.  We are the artists of our painting, and we have a choice how the subtle brush strokes shape and form the ending masterpiece.

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Contemplate These Questions:

1.  What do you want out of life?

2.  What do you want to change about your life or yourself?

3.  What is holding you back?  Money, fear, creativity or relationships?

4.  Are you making fear-based decisions?  Do you base your decisions around what you love, or do you base your decisions around what you are afraid of losing?

5.  What’s the worst and best that can happen with any change you may or may not make?

Record your thoughts.  Focus on deep and meaningful contemplation rather than a shallow field of answers.  Everyone’s painting will look different, but let’s all start by writing down our intentions.  After you have a clear intention, we can begin to apply some of the tips below for turning your dreams into reality.

1. Throw Away Your Preconceived Notions

Have you always told yourself that you’re lacking in creativity or originality?  Do you tell yourself you’re not good, smart or funny enough?  Stop these thoughts; this is your mind repeating the same old story, and it is deluding your true capabilities with self doubt.  Every moment is fresh.  You are a blank canvas, so imagine yourself as such and allow yourself the chance to create a new story.

Tap in and experience your truest form: you are rich, alive and buzzing.  Nothing will change that.

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2.  Realize Your Potential

Everyone has limitless potential, and so do you.  Sometimes your life may go through dark and overcast periods, but underneath the clouds is always a blue sky.  Focus on the blue sky; don’t identify with your true nature as being the clouds.

Do you think Beethoven set out to be one of the greatest composers of all time?  Follow your passions, and you might discover huge success.

3.  Start With Change Every Day

The only way to make change happen is to implement it daily.  We can’t every have immediate results, and this applies to everything.  If your goal is to be physically fit, write a book, change careers or simply to just be happier, all of these desires start with today.  Today you have to make small changes that inch you forward in the right direction.

One day you will wake up, and you will be living the life you want.  It’s that simple.

4.  Change Your Routine

Sometimes we get stuck in a rut: working 9 to 5, eating at the same restaurants, or even watching the same TV programs.  Change your routine.  Even the smallest change can make you feel excited about life again.  Maybe you don’t even need a major life overhaul; maybe you just need a few small tweaks.

5.  Nourish Your Mind, Body and Soul

Consider the following habits and lifestyle changes that will not only change your life, but also support any other goal you want to accomplish.

  • Healthy eating
  • Daily exercise
  • Daily meditation
  • Daily affirmations

6.  Live in The Moment and Practice Mindfulness

No matter what changes you would like to make in your life, none of them matter if you don’t practice mindfulness.  It’s easy to tick items off the bucket list, but as we do that we might not feel any happier or satisfied.

By bringing a moment to moment awareness to all tasks, even the mundane, we can truly appreciate, savour and live life.

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7. Change Your Attitude

Be positive. No matter what you have, where you live or who you’re with, your attitude around your circumstances are more important than the circumstances themselves.

There are people who have practically nothing in this world – less money, less comfort, less resources and opportunities – and yet they are happier.  Similarly, there are people who are rich and have enormous comforts, but they feel miserable.

Often times we have everything we need or could possibly want right in front of us.  Being grateful turns what we have into enough and more.

8. Take Off The Mask: Find Your Tribe

Stop pretending to be something you are not.  Do you ever feel like life is a masquerade ball?  That everyone, including yourself, seems to be putting on a show, pretending to be perfect or to have perfect lives?

Take off the mask.  If people don’t like that, then find new people to spend time with.  It’s cliché, but be yourself; you can’t make any real meaningful changes until you do.

9.  Get Out of Your Comfort Zone

Don’t be afraid to try something new.  Talk to new people, take up a new hobby or simply read something out of the ordinary.  You never know what changes could occur just by making a new friend.  Doors of possibility swing open with every hello.

10.  Be Inspired

It’s easy to fall into an uninspired rut and go through dry patches where everything feels utterly mundane.  Rediscover your passions, whether it’s a good book, brilliant music or watching a powerful film.

Finding something you are passionate about will motivate you to make changes.

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11.  Connect With Your Loved Ones

Everything is better when we have meaningful relationships.  Reconnect with those who mean the most to you: friends, siblings, parents, coworkers, kids and partners.  Having a strong network of support will help you along your journey.

12.  Get Out in Nature

If getting out in nature every day isn’t realistic, then you should aim to do this at least once per week.  Connecting with nature is the best way to ground yourself, release stress and quiet the mind.  By connecting with nature and getting quiet, you allow peace and stillness in so that you can connect with your true self.  You can learn a lot about what changes will truly make you happy.

13.  Give up Booze and Cigarettes

When you lose the suffocating grip that alcohol and cigarettes can have over your life, many facets of your life can improve.  This in itself is a great first step to changing your life.  You will exercise more, your looks improve, weekends feel longer, you will develop new hobbies, likely make new friends, have more patience and find out who you really are.  It’s like a fog is lifted from your life.

14.  Rid Your Life of Excess

Rid your life of everything you don’t need so you can make room for what you do need.

The accumulation of stuff is like an anchor; it ties us down. We are always terrified of losing all of our stuff.  Let it go, and you will free yourself from greed, debt, and the feeling of constantly being overworked.

15.  Stay Motivated and Hold Yourself Accountable

Tell someone the changes you plan to make who will check in with you and hold you accountable.  If you have to answer to someone. it will keep you working towards it.

The potential to make great changes lies in all of us.  We just need to define it, work towards it and believe it.

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Last Updated on April 6, 2020

How To Be Successful In Life: 13 Life-Changing Tips

How To Be Successful In Life: 13 Life-Changing Tips

What is success to you? How to be successful in life?

To some, when they think of success, they imagine wealth; others want power; some just want to make a positive impact on the world.

All of these are perfectly valid, indeed success is a concept that means different things to different people. Though no matter what success is to you, it almost certainly isn’t something will come easily.

There are countless guides and books to being successful, however, as success is personal and unique to each individual. The advice contained in these books can often not be relevant. Therefore following the advice of a single individual can often be unhelpful.

With this in mind, considering the advice of a great many people, people whose ideas of success were different both to each other, and quite possibly, to you can be a good alternative.

What follows is a list of 13 of the best pieces of advice from some of the most successful people who have ever lived. If you want to learn how to be successful, these tips are essential:

1. Think Big

    From Michelangelo Buonarroti, Great Renaissance Artist:

    “The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark.”

    There are few artists as influential as Michaelangelo. Today centuries after his death, his work still inspires and connects to people. His work is world famous, just think of his statue of David, or the Mural in the Sistine Chapel in the Vatican.

    Imagine then, if he decided not to work as an artist.

    Being a successful artist has always been extremely difficult, imagine if he decided to give up this ambition in favour of something easier?

    Oftentimes, people often decided to put their dreams aside for something more “realistic”. To give up their dream for something easier. This quote teaches us the danger of such a point of view.
    Instead be ambitious.

    2. Find What You Love to Do and Do It

      From Oprah Winfrey, Media Mogul:

      “You know you are on the road to success if you would do your job and not be paid for it.”

      This is a good quote to remember and think about when you’re at work.

      Imagine being as successful as possible in your current job. Ultimately you’ll probably find yourself working extremely hard and this it will take up much of your time.

      If it’s a job you hate, then being successful at it might only mean filling your life with something you hate to do. What’s the sense in this?

      Instead, why not focus on doing something you love? When you’ve found what you’re passionate about, you get the motivation to keep you moving. Success at this means the fulfilment of your dreams.

      Not sure what your passion is yet? You should learn about this Motivation Engine first.

      Even if you’re not successful, you still filled your time with something you love to do. Many successful musicians spent years of their lives doing unpaid performances, the only reason they kept playing was because they loved to perform.

      3. Learn How to Balance Life

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        From Phil Knight, CEO of Nike Inc.:

        “There is an immutable conflict at work in life and in business, a constant battle between peace and chaos. Neither can be mastered, but both can be influenced. How you go about that is the key to success.”

        All too often, people think that to be successful, they need to make the object of their success their life.

        If a person thinks their job will lead them to success, then they may spend countless hours per day, and well into the evening working hard.

        However this comes at the cost of rest, your health and having an enjoyable life. Ultimately they may burn out and cease to be successful at their job anyway.

        If success comes from having a strong social life and a good group of friends, their job may suffer; meaning that they may lose their job, and then be unable to afford going out with friends.

        In these ways, success, as Phil Knight says above, is helped by balance. Think of it as a balance between rest and work, or work and play.

        To achieve that balance, this Ultimate Guide to Prioritizing Your Work And Life can help you.

        4. Do Not Be Afraid of Failure

          From Henry Ford, Founder of Ford Motors:

          “Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.”

          There is a story, it’s unconfirmed whether it actually happened, yet the message within is none the less true:

          Thomas Edison inventing the lightbulb was the result of several hundred failed attempts. In an interview, he was asked “How do you feel after all of your failed attempts?”

          His response was great, “I didn’t fail, I learned hundreds of ways not to invent the lightbulb”

          He saw each “failure” as a lesson. From that lesson he learned what won’t work, and also might work instead.

          Each failed attempt, each rejection, were key steps on his path to success. It is easy to feel like you should give up after a failure. But perhaps in that failure is a lesson.

          Pay attention to your failures, study them. Perhaps then you’ll learn how to succeed.

          If you find it difficult to fight your fear of failure, here’s a guide for you: Why You Have the Fear of Failure (And How to Conquer It Step-By-Step)

          5. Have an Unwavering Resolution to Succeed

            From Colonel Sanders, Founder of KFC:

            “I made a resolve then that I was going to amount to something if I could. And no hours, nor amount of labor, nor amount of money would deter me from giving the best that there was in me. And I have done that ever since, and I win by it. I know.”

            This, in many ways relates to the above quote about learning from your failures.

            It’s the easiest thing in the world to give up from a failure. The only way to push on is if you have the true burning desire to succeed, to not be moved or dissuaded from your goals.

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            If you are not truly dedicated towards success, then each failure will hurt more, each set back will slow you down.

            Success is hard; without the unwavering desire to succeed, this difficulty may seem insurmountable. With the desire, it is merely an obstacle to go through.

            6. Be a Person of Action

              From Leonardo da Vinci, Renaissance Genius:

              “It had long since come to my attention that people of accomplishment rarely sat back and let things happen to them. They went out and happened to things.”

              Though it was said hundreds of years ago, it works just as much today as it ever had. It applies to literally any successful person.

              Think about it, picture someone like William Shakespeare:

              When we think of the time he lived in, we think of the time in a way shaped by him. When we think of Renaissance era Italy, we think of Michelangelo and Leonardo Da Vinci. Or think about the present day, Bill Gates or Steve Jobs. Our current way of life would simply be incomparably different if they didn’t accomplish what they did.

              You’re probably reading this article on a device by a company that they either founded or companies influenced by them.

              All these figures were proactive, they saw ways to do things differently and did them. If they let the world shape them, then they’d simply fit into the background. Instead they shaped the world.

              Applying this to you?

              Don’t be afraid of going outside the norm. If you can think of a better way to do something, do it that way. If you fail, try again.

              7. Cultivate Positive Relationships

                From Theodore Roosevelt, 26th President of America: “

                The most important single ingredient in the formula of success is knowing how to get along with people.”

                The best leaders and some of the most influential people (and Theodore Roosevelt is one of the best leaders and one of the most influential people to have lived) were not those who caused commotions, who fought with people or disregarded people; but were people who were friendly to those around them.

                People liked them. They wanted them to do well.

                This is key to good leadership.

                It’s logical. If someone likes you, they want to help you; if you give them a suggestion, they’ll gladly follow through with it.

                But if someone doesn’t like you, they may either refuse to help or actively get in your way.

                What’s more, it’s always a good idea to cultivate good relationships. You can never tell who will prove to become someone who’ll be able to help you in a big way, or even be a good and supportive friend.

                As such, help people and they may help you; and be good to people, and they my be good to you.

                8. Don’t Be Afraid of Introducing New Ideas

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                  From Mark Twain, Famed Author:

                  “A person with a new idea is a crank until the idea succeeds.”

                  It is an unfortunate truth that those with the boldest ideas are often disregarded.

                  Most of us are taught from an early age to think and do things similarly to everyone else. This can be great to fill an existing role. But to truly do things differently (and all successful people did things differently), you need to think differently.

                  If you have a new idea, don’t throw it away because it’s new and different; instead, celebrate it. Your strange new idea might one day be the one that leads you to success.

                  9. Believe in Your Capacity to Succeed

                    From Walter Disney, Founder of Walt Disney Company:

                    “If you can dream it, you can do it.”

                    Success has to be something you can imagine yourself achieving.

                    It is possible that you will come across those who doubt you and your ability to succeed. You must not become one of these people because the moment you cease believing and dreaming is the moment these dreams fall away.

                    Keep dreaming!

                    10. Always Maintain a Positive Mental Attitude

                      From Thomas Jefferson, 3rd President of America:

                      “Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude.”

                      Like the above quote says, you need to trust in your ability to succeed. This is the only way to cultivate the right mindset.

                      Replace negative thoughts with the positive ones. You need to approach problems, not as obstacles stopping you, but merely tasks that need to be completed for you to keep going.

                      If you stay positive and think like this, setbacks won’t affect you so much, people’s doubts won’t impact you and even the biggest obstacles will seem like minor problems.

                      However with the wrong mindset of doubt, you’ll be much easier to stop.

                      11. Don’t Let Discouragement Stop You from Pressing On

                        From Abraham Lincoln, 16th President of America:

                        “Let no feeling of discouragement prey upon you, and in the end you are sure to succeed.”

                        It is an unfortunate fact of human nature — all of us in some way, doubt ourselves. This can be made far worse if others doubt us too.

                        When surrounded by doubts, giving up can actually seem like a good idea.

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                        Don’t pay attention to the doubts. If you are discouraged, ignore it.

                        If this discouragement moves into your mind and you begin to doubt yourself. It is important to ignore this too.

                        This is How Self Doubt Keeps You Stuck and How to Overcome It

                        12. Be Willing to Work Hard

                          From JC Penny, Founder of JC Penney Inc.:

                          “Unless you are willing to drench yourself in your work beyond the capacity of the average man, you are just not cut out for positions at the top.”

                          You might have heard the quote that “success is 1% inspiration, 99% perspiration” or you may have heard about the 10,000 hours idea.

                          Whichever way you frame it, they say one thing:

                          True success comes from work.

                          You’ll never become successful if you don’t work towards your goal in life and keep working towards it.

                          Check out this article and you’ll understand Why Hard Work Beats Talent.

                          13. Be Brave Enough to Follow Your Intuition

                            From Steve Jobs, Co-founder of Apple Inc.:

                            “Have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”

                            In ancient Greece, there was a group of Oracles who lived in Delphi. Everyone who needed advice or to know their future visited them, from the poorest of society to kings. Above the doorway of the temple were the words “know thyself”.

                            If you strongly believe and desire something, chances are that you already have an idea how to get there. If not, you may naturally know what things will help you and what things will slow you down.

                            It’s like how your body can detect danger even when things seem safe.

                            Ultimately then, you need to trust your own instincts.

                            Final Thoughts

                            What you might have noticed is that many of the above lessons are similar — most are about developing the right state of mind. This clearly suggests that the key to achieving success, in whatever you wish, comes down to the way you approach it mentally.

                            Moreover, no matter what stage of life you’re at now, you can still make a difference and pursue success. You can make resetting your life possible when you do this: How to Start Over and Reboot Your Life When It Seems Too Late

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                            Featured photo credit: Ryan Wong via unsplash.com

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