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15 Ways to Lead a New Life You Love

15 Ways to Lead a New Life You Love

Do you want to surf a wave, learn a language or write a book?  It’s never too late to lead a new life you love and become the person you’ve always dreamed you could be.

The reality is that you can be anyone or do anything you desire.  You already have all of the tools; you just need to dust off the toolbox and get to work.

That’s what this article is going to do.  It’s going to give you a blueprint for making the changes you’ve always dreamed of.

There is a concept discussed in Buddhist practices that you may or may not be familiar with called impermanence.  It’s actually a huge, enormous, life-changing concept, and if you can grasp it, you will be well on your way to completing your blueprint for a new life.

There are major changes that we clearly see: we were once young, and now we are old, and one day we will die.  These gross changes are apparent and certain.  But in order for these gross changes to occur there are also tiny, subtle changes that are taking place within all animals, people and things all the time.

We often overlook the subtle changes and focus only on the gross changes.  But the answer to creating a brand new life lies in these subtle changes and the recognition that in every moment there is a constant flux of change happening.

A common visual used to show subtle impermanence: a seed is planted, this seed creates a seedling, which goes on to create a tree.  Now that we have a tree the seed or the seedling no longer exists, even though they produced the tree.  Finally, the fruit that the tree produced is also not the tree, though it was produced by the tree.  In order for the seed to produce the fruit, it went though endless subtle changes.

Our cells are dying and being reborn.  With each moment that passes, we are an empty canvas and we can paint a new picture; each moment leads to the next with renewed possibilities.  We are the artists of our painting, and we have a choice how the subtle brush strokes shape and form the ending masterpiece.

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Contemplate These Questions:

1.  What do you want out of life?

2.  What do you want to change about your life or yourself?

3.  What is holding you back?  Money, fear, creativity or relationships?

4.  Are you making fear-based decisions?  Do you base your decisions around what you love, or do you base your decisions around what you are afraid of losing?

5.  What’s the worst and best that can happen with any change you may or may not make?

Record your thoughts.  Focus on deep and meaningful contemplation rather than a shallow field of answers.  Everyone’s painting will look different, but let’s all start by writing down our intentions.  After you have a clear intention, we can begin to apply some of the tips below for turning your dreams into reality.

1. Throw Away Your Preconceived Notions

Have you always told yourself that you’re lacking in creativity or originality?  Do you tell yourself you’re not good, smart or funny enough?  Stop these thoughts; this is your mind repeating the same old story, and it is deluding your true capabilities with self doubt.  Every moment is fresh.  You are a blank canvas, so imagine yourself as such and allow yourself the chance to create a new story.

Tap in and experience your truest form: you are rich, alive and buzzing.  Nothing will change that.

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2.  Realize Your Potential

Everyone has limitless potential, and so do you.  Sometimes your life may go through dark and overcast periods, but underneath the clouds is always a blue sky.  Focus on the blue sky; don’t identify with your true nature as being the clouds.

Do you think Beethoven set out to be one of the greatest composers of all time?  Follow your passions, and you might discover huge success.

3.  Start With Change Every Day

The only way to make change happen is to implement it daily.  We can’t every have immediate results, and this applies to everything.  If your goal is to be physically fit, write a book, change careers or simply to just be happier, all of these desires start with today.  Today you have to make small changes that inch you forward in the right direction.

One day you will wake up, and you will be living the life you want.  It’s that simple.

4.  Change Your Routine

Sometimes we get stuck in a rut: working 9 to 5, eating at the same restaurants, or even watching the same TV programs.  Change your routine.  Even the smallest change can make you feel excited about life again.  Maybe you don’t even need a major life overhaul; maybe you just need a few small tweaks.

5.  Nourish Your Mind, Body and Soul

Consider the following habits and lifestyle changes that will not only change your life, but also support any other goal you want to accomplish.

  • Healthy eating
  • Daily exercise
  • Daily meditation
  • Daily affirmations

6.  Live in The Moment and Practice Mindfulness

No matter what changes you would like to make in your life, none of them matter if you don’t practice mindfulness.  It’s easy to tick items off the bucket list, but as we do that we might not feel any happier or satisfied.

By bringing a moment to moment awareness to all tasks, even the mundane, we can truly appreciate, savour and live life.

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7. Change Your Attitude

Be positive. No matter what you have, where you live or who you’re with, your attitude around your circumstances are more important than the circumstances themselves.

There are people who have practically nothing in this world – less money, less comfort, less resources and opportunities – and yet they are happier.  Similarly, there are people who are rich and have enormous comforts, but they feel miserable.

Often times we have everything we need or could possibly want right in front of us.  Being grateful turns what we have into enough and more.

8. Take Off The Mask: Find Your Tribe

Stop pretending to be something you are not.  Do you ever feel like life is a masquerade ball?  That everyone, including yourself, seems to be putting on a show, pretending to be perfect or to have perfect lives?

Take off the mask.  If people don’t like that, then find new people to spend time with.  It’s cliché, but be yourself; you can’t make any real meaningful changes until you do.

9.  Get Out of Your Comfort Zone

Don’t be afraid to try something new.  Talk to new people, take up a new hobby or simply read something out of the ordinary.  You never know what changes could occur just by making a new friend.  Doors of possibility swing open with every hello.

10.  Be Inspired

It’s easy to fall into an uninspired rut and go through dry patches where everything feels utterly mundane.  Rediscover your passions, whether it’s a good book, brilliant music or watching a powerful film.

Finding something you are passionate about will motivate you to make changes.

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11.  Connect With Your Loved Ones

Everything is better when we have meaningful relationships.  Reconnect with those who mean the most to you: friends, siblings, parents, coworkers, kids and partners.  Having a strong network of support will help you along your journey.

12.  Get Out in Nature

If getting out in nature every day isn’t realistic, then you should aim to do this at least once per week.  Connecting with nature is the best way to ground yourself, release stress and quiet the mind.  By connecting with nature and getting quiet, you allow peace and stillness in so that you can connect with your true self.  You can learn a lot about what changes will truly make you happy.

13.  Give up Booze and Cigarettes

When you lose the suffocating grip that alcohol and cigarettes can have over your life, many facets of your life can improve.  This in itself is a great first step to changing your life.  You will exercise more, your looks improve, weekends feel longer, you will develop new hobbies, likely make new friends, have more patience and find out who you really are.  It’s like a fog is lifted from your life.

14.  Rid Your Life of Excess

Rid your life of everything you don’t need so you can make room for what you do need.

The accumulation of stuff is like an anchor; it ties us down. We are always terrified of losing all of our stuff.  Let it go, and you will free yourself from greed, debt, and the feeling of constantly being overworked.

15.  Stay Motivated and Hold Yourself Accountable

Tell someone the changes you plan to make who will check in with you and hold you accountable.  If you have to answer to someone. it will keep you working towards it.

The potential to make great changes lies in all of us.  We just need to define it, work towards it and believe it.

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Last Updated on September 16, 2019

How to Stop Procrastinating: 11 Practical Ways for Procrastinators

How to Stop Procrastinating: 11 Practical Ways for Procrastinators

You have a deadline looming. However, instead of doing your work, you are fiddling with miscellaneous things like checking email, social media, watching videos, surfing blogs and forums. You know you should be working, but you just don’t feel like doing anything.

We are all familiar with the procrastination phenomenon. When we procrastinate, we squander away our free time and put off important tasks we should be doing them till it’s too late. And when it is indeed too late, we panic and wish we got started earlier.

The chronic procrastinators I know have spent years of their life looped in this cycle. Delaying, putting off things, slacking, hiding from work, facing work only when it’s unavoidable, then repeating this loop all over again. It’s a bad habit that eats us away and prevents us from achieving greater results in life.

Don’t let procrastination take over your life. Here, I will share my personal steps on how to stop procrastinating. These 11 steps will definitely apply to you too:

1. Break Your Work into Little Steps

Part of the reason why we procrastinate is because subconsciously, we find the work too overwhelming for us. Break it down into little parts, then focus on one part at the time. If you still procrastinate on the task after breaking it down, then break it down even further. Soon, your task will be so simple that you will be thinking “gee, this is so simple that I might as well just do it now!”.

For example, I’m currently writing a new book (on How to achieve anything in life). Book writing at its full scale is an enormous project and can be overwhelming. However, when I break it down into phases such as –

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  • (1) Research
  • (2) Deciding the topic
  • (3) Creating the outline
  • (4) Drafting the content
  • (5) Writing Chapters #1 to #10,
  • (6) Revision
  • (7) etc.

Suddenly it seems very manageable. What I do then is to focus on the immediate phase and get it done to my best ability, without thinking about the other phases. When it’s done, I move on to the next.

2. Change Your Environment

Different environments have different impact on our productivity. Look at your work desk and your room. Do they make you want to work or do they make you want to snuggle and sleep? If it’s the latter, you should look into changing your workspace.

One thing to note is that an environment that makes us feel inspired before may lose its effect after a period of time. If that’s the case, then it’s time to change things around. Refer to Steps #2 and #3 of 13 Strategies To Jumpstart Your Productivity, which talks about revamping your environment and workspace.

3. Create a Detailed Timeline with Specific Deadlines

Having just 1 deadline for your work is like an invitation to procrastinate. That’s because we get the impression that we have time and keep pushing everything back, until it’s too late.

Break down your project (see tip #1), then create an overall timeline with specific deadlines for each small task. This way, you know you have to finish each task by a certain date. Your timelines must be robust, too – i.e. if you don’t finish this by today, it’s going to jeopardize everything else you have planned after that. This way it creates the urgency to act.

My goals are broken down into monthly, weekly, right down to the daily task lists, and the list is a call to action that I must accomplish this by the specified date, else my goals will be put off.

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Here’re more tips on setting deadlines: 22 Tips for Effective Deadlines

4. Eliminate Your Procrastination Pit-Stops

If you are procrastinating a little too much, maybe that’s because you make it easy to procrastinate.

Identify your browser bookmarks that take up a lot of your time and shift them into a separate folder that is less accessible. Disable the automatic notification option in your email client. Get rid of the distractions around you.

I know some people will out of the way and delete or deactivate their facebook accounts. I think it’s a little drastic and extreme as addressing procrastination is more about being conscious of our actions than counteracting via self-binding methods, but if you feel that’s what’s needed, go for it.

5. Hang out with People Who Inspire You to Take Action

I’m pretty sure if you spend just 10 minutes talking to Steve Jobs or Bill Gates, you’ll be more inspired to act than if you spent the 10 minutes doing nothing. The people we are with influence our behaviors. Of course spending time with Steve Jobs or Bill Gates every day is probably not a feasible method, but the principle applies — The Hidden Power of Every Single Person Around You

Identify the people, friends or colleagues who trigger you – most likely the go-getters and hard workers – and hang out with them more often. Soon you will inculcate their drive and spirit too.

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As a personal development blogger, I “hang out” with inspiring personal development experts by reading their blogs and corresponding with them regularly via email and social media. It’s communication via new media and it works all the same.

6. Get a Buddy

Having a companion makes the whole process much more fun. Ideally, your buddy should be someone who has his/her own set of goals. Both of you will hold each other accountable to your goals and plans. While it’s not necessary for both of you to have the same goals, it’ll be even better if that’s the case, so you can learn from each other.

I have a good friend whom I talk to regularly, and we always ask each other about our goals and progress in achieving those goals. Needless to say, it spurs us to keep taking action.

7. Tell Others About Your Goals

This serves the same function as #6, on a larger scale. Tell all your friends, colleagues, acquaintances and family about your projects. Now whenever you see them, they are bound to ask you about your status on those projects.

For example, sometimes I announce my projects on The Personal Excellence Blog, Twitter and Facebook, and my readers will ask me about them on an ongoing basis. It’s a great way to keep myself accountable to my plans.

8. Seek out Someone Who Has Already Achieved the Outcome

What is it you want to accomplish here, and who are the people who have accomplished this already? Go seek them out and connect with them. Seeing living proof that your goals are very well achievable if you take action is one of the best triggers for action.

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9. Re-Clarify Your Goals

If you have been procrastinating for an extended period of time, it might reflect a misalignment between what you want and what you are currently doing. Often times, we outgrow our goals as we discover more about ourselves, but we don’t change our goals to reflect that.

Get away from your work (a short vacation will be good, else just a weekend break or staycation will do too) and take some time to regroup yourself. What exactly do you want to achieve? What should you do to get there? What are the steps to take? Does your current work align with that? If not, what can you do about it?

10. Stop Over-Complicating Things

Are you waiting for a perfect time to do this? That maybe now is not the best time because of X, Y, Z reasons? Ditch that thought because there’s never a perfect time. If you keep waiting for one, you are never going to accomplish anything.

Perfectionism is one of the biggest reasons for procrastination. Read more about why perfectionist tendencies can be a bane than a boon: Why Being A Perfectionist May Not Be So Perfect.

11. Get a Grip and Just Do It

At the end, it boils down to taking action. You can do all the strategizing, planning and hypothesizing, but if you don’t take action, nothing’s going to happen. Occasionally, I get readers and clients who keep complaining about their situations but they still refuse to take action at the end of the day.

Reality check:

I have never heard anyone procrastinate their way to success before and I doubt it’s going to change in the near future.  Whatever it is you are procrastinating on, if you want to get it done, you need to get a grip on yourself and do it.

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