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10 Ways to Become a Sexy Geek

10 Ways to Become a Sexy Geek

Do you remember back in the 80s the movie franchise “Revenge of The Nerds?” The movie was about this group of geeks and outcasts (mostly ugly ones) who were victimized and picked on by the local Jocks and how these socially mal-adjusted intellectuals eventually got their payback, which included winning over the beauty queen.

The movies had a funny way of saying that being a “Nerd” wasn’t too bad, even though there was a lot of bullying and victimization in the process.

In today’s society the term “Geek” has replaced “Nerd” and has become a Universal word to describe very smart people.

A lot has changed since then, today bullying is no longer acceptable, and more tolerance and inclusion is promoted for a more harmonious society, being different is beautiful.

Having said all that, here is my list of 10 ways to become a Sexy Geek:

Confidence is Sexy

Being true to who you are is one of the most important lessons you must learn in order to be successful. Being confident doesn’t mean arrogant, it means trusting your own abilities, instincts and values to help you shape a positive image, a greater sense of worth and achieve positive results.

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Like a magnet, confident people attract like-minded people, having that inner knowledge of how unique and wonderful you are makes you more appealing to the opposite sex. If you are not confident, develop it by focusing on what you do well and work on areas that are important to you, focus on what is positive in your life and write a list, recite it like a Mantra if you must….

Ability to Listen

No one likes someone who talks too much especially technical jargon. When in a social setting in order to get to know the person (or people) better, it is best to be inquisitive, to develop a genuine interest in the other person and listen to what is being said, ask relevant questions and you will make the other person feel validated.

We have one mouth and two ears, this is nature’s reminder we have to listen more than we speak. People who are great listeners are not only popular, but learn a great deal by opening their ears, and by default they help build others by showing a bit of interest, and it is sexy.

Believe in yourself

Life has a tendency to throw curve balls a lot of the times, and when things get tough, believing in yourself can prove the difference between success and failure.

As kids, when picking members to play ball at your local park, the kids with the most self-confidence and self belief were picked first, this is no different in Love, Commerce or War.

Focus on recent achievements no matter how small they are, if you can’t think of any off the top of your head, write them down, what have you accomplished lately?

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Develop the Ability to Smile

There is nothing sexier than a genuine and friendly smile, by focusing on what you are doing right, being proud of who you are and what you are accomplishing (note action verb); your smile will brighten even the darkest room. Gratitude for what you have is an awesome way to make you feel happy and automatically make you smile.

For example, when going out to a bar with friends, would you go up to the girl with the frown and the cloud over her head or go up to the one who is smiling, happy and open to conversation?

Smile, it makes you beautiful regardless of religion, color or creed…..

Power Dressing

The problem with some of us geeks, is our inability to follow trends and fashions because we are too busy pursuing other interests. A perfect example of poor fashion sense is Raj from “The Big Bang Theory”.

Having said that, we can make ourselves look presentable and this can be achieved without trying too hard and it doesn’t have to cost an arm and a leg, believe it or not if you are doing it tough, buying clothes from the local Salvation Army store (they have brand names) can give you a great look and if you are into recycling this is an awesome and cost effective option.

A nice suit is a must have, black, navy blue or dark greys are strong colors telling the world you mean business.

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Bright colors are cheerful also but beware; you don’t want to overdo it. Bright colors when used with neutral tones can produce a feeling of playfulness and friendliness, again, balance is the key.

Try to make a positive first impression, because a negative one is everlasting and almost impossible to shake off, make sure that your first impression counts.

Get a Great Hairdresser, Stylist or Barber

Taking pride in the way you look is not only about clothes; having neat and tidy hair is paramount, if you have a beard like me, have it trimmed and styled.

You don’t have to go to Vidal Sassoon for hairstyling; your local talent is good enough to make you look wonderful. Make sure you have clean hair, only very few beautiful people can get away with the “scruffy” look…..

Glasses are Sexy

Wearing glasses is not just a sign of intelligence but one of sophistication. All depends on what sort of frames you get. If you get the cheapest and nastiest frames, then that image will come across, like the old saying goes, “You get what you pay for.”

Fashion Designers have “designed” beautiful eye wear at affordable prices. Here in Australia we are lucky to have Alex Perry and Collette Dinnigan, who to me are exceptionally talented and their glasses are very beautiful and in reach of the average consumer.

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Develop a Charming Attitude by Complimenting Others

If you are an intelligent being (and you are) be warm, friendly and playful, people will appreciate someone who is easy to get along with, who pays nice compliments and is genuine. Flattery is a great asset when it has the heart behind it, however, when flattery is false and labored can become hollow and offensive.

Before complementing others, ask yourself if this is the sort of compliment you would like to receive.

Show Empathy

By showing empathy you show how much you care, at the end of the day, people need people in order to survive and thrive. A warm and kind hearted person goes through life reaping what they sow, and when it comes back it comes back tenfold.

Only people with a deep sense of self worth are truly empathetic and this act can even get on board our toughest of critics; and yes, it is sexy.

Wear Perfume or Aftershave

So you have the nice clothes, the stylish glasses, beautiful hair, now all you need is a scent that will tell the world you are beautiful, classy, intelligent and sophisticated. Your unique body odor will complement certain fragrances nicely; the trick is using the right amount and choosing the right scent.

It is our duty to take care of ourselves physically, mentally and spiritually it is up to you, being a Geek can be Sexy.

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Why Assuming Positive Intent Is an Amazing Productivity Driver

Why Assuming Positive Intent Is an Amazing Productivity Driver

Assuming positive intent is an important contributor to quality of life.

Most people appreciate the dividends such a mindset produces in the realm of relationships. How can relationships flourish when you don’t assume intentions that may or may not be there? And how their partner can become an easier person to be around as a result of such a shift? Less appreciated in the GTD world, however, is the productivity aspect of this “assume positive intent” perspective.

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Most of us are guilty of letting our minds get distracted, our energy sapped, or our harmony compromised by thinking about what others woulda, coulda, shoulda.  How we got wronged by someone else.  How a friend could have been more respectful.  How a family member could have been less selfish.

However, once we evolve to understanding the folly of this mindset, we feel freer and we become more productive professionally due to the minimization of unhelpful, distracting thoughts.

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The leap happens when we realize two things:

  1. The self serving benefit from giving others the benefit of the doubt.
  2. The logic inherent in the assumption that others either have many things going on in their lives paving the way for misunderstandings.

Needless to say, this mindset does not mean that we ought to not confront people that are creating havoc in our world.  There are times when we need to call someone out for inflicting harm in our personal lives or the lives of others.

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Indra Nooyi, Chairman and CEO of Pepsi, says it best in an interview with Fortune magazine:

My father was an absolutely wonderful human being. From ecent emailhim I learned to always assume positive intent. Whatever anybody says or does, assume positive intent. You will be amazed at how your whole approach to a person or problem becomes very different. When you assume negative intent, you’re angry. If you take away that anger and assume positive intent, you will be amazed. Your emotional quotient goes up because you are no longer almost random in your response. You don’t get defensive. You don’t scream. You are trying to understand and listen because at your basic core you are saying, ‘Maybe they are saying something to me that I’m not hearing.’ So ‘assume positive intent’ has been a huge piece of advice for me.

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In business, sometimes in the heat of the moment, people say things. You can either misconstrue what they’re saying and assume they are trying to put you down, or you can say, ‘Wait a minute. Let me really get behind what they are saying to understand whether they’re reacting because they’re hurt, upset, confused, or they don’t understand what it is I’ve asked them to do.’ If you react from a negative perspective – because you didn’t like the way they reacted – then it just becomes two negatives fighting each other. But when you assume positive intent, I think often what happens is the other person says, ‘Hey, wait a minute, maybe I’m wrong in reacting the way I do because this person is really making an effort.

“Assume positive intent” is definitely a top quality of life’s best practice among the people I have met so far. The reasons are obvious. It will make you feel better, your relationships will thrive and it’s an approach more greatly aligned with reality.  But less understood is how such a shift in mindset brings your professional game to a different level.

Not only does such a shift make you more likable to your colleagues, but it also unleashes your talents further through a more focused, less distracted mind.

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