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10 Ways to Become a Sexy Geek

10 Ways to Become a Sexy Geek

Do you remember back in the 80s the movie franchise “Revenge of The Nerds?” The movie was about this group of geeks and outcasts (mostly ugly ones) who were victimized and picked on by the local Jocks and how these socially mal-adjusted intellectuals eventually got their payback, which included winning over the beauty queen.

The movies had a funny way of saying that being a “Nerd” wasn’t too bad, even though there was a lot of bullying and victimization in the process.

In today’s society the term “Geek” has replaced “Nerd” and has become a Universal word to describe very smart people.

A lot has changed since then, today bullying is no longer acceptable, and more tolerance and inclusion is promoted for a more harmonious society, being different is beautiful.

Having said all that, here is my list of 10 ways to become a Sexy Geek:

Confidence is Sexy

Being true to who you are is one of the most important lessons you must learn in order to be successful. Being confident doesn’t mean arrogant, it means trusting your own abilities, instincts and values to help you shape a positive image, a greater sense of worth and achieve positive results.

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Like a magnet, confident people attract like-minded people, having that inner knowledge of how unique and wonderful you are makes you more appealing to the opposite sex. If you are not confident, develop it by focusing on what you do well and work on areas that are important to you, focus on what is positive in your life and write a list, recite it like a Mantra if you must….

Ability to Listen

No one likes someone who talks too much especially technical jargon. When in a social setting in order to get to know the person (or people) better, it is best to be inquisitive, to develop a genuine interest in the other person and listen to what is being said, ask relevant questions and you will make the other person feel validated.

We have one mouth and two ears, this is nature’s reminder we have to listen more than we speak. People who are great listeners are not only popular, but learn a great deal by opening their ears, and by default they help build others by showing a bit of interest, and it is sexy.

Believe in yourself

Life has a tendency to throw curve balls a lot of the times, and when things get tough, believing in yourself can prove the difference between success and failure.

As kids, when picking members to play ball at your local park, the kids with the most self-confidence and self belief were picked first, this is no different in Love, Commerce or War.

Focus on recent achievements no matter how small they are, if you can’t think of any off the top of your head, write them down, what have you accomplished lately?

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Develop the Ability to Smile

There is nothing sexier than a genuine and friendly smile, by focusing on what you are doing right, being proud of who you are and what you are accomplishing (note action verb); your smile will brighten even the darkest room. Gratitude for what you have is an awesome way to make you feel happy and automatically make you smile.

For example, when going out to a bar with friends, would you go up to the girl with the frown and the cloud over her head or go up to the one who is smiling, happy and open to conversation?

Smile, it makes you beautiful regardless of religion, color or creed…..

Power Dressing

The problem with some of us geeks, is our inability to follow trends and fashions because we are too busy pursuing other interests. A perfect example of poor fashion sense is Raj from “The Big Bang Theory”.

Having said that, we can make ourselves look presentable and this can be achieved without trying too hard and it doesn’t have to cost an arm and a leg, believe it or not if you are doing it tough, buying clothes from the local Salvation Army store (they have brand names) can give you a great look and if you are into recycling this is an awesome and cost effective option.

A nice suit is a must have, black, navy blue or dark greys are strong colors telling the world you mean business.

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Bright colors are cheerful also but beware; you don’t want to overdo it. Bright colors when used with neutral tones can produce a feeling of playfulness and friendliness, again, balance is the key.

Try to make a positive first impression, because a negative one is everlasting and almost impossible to shake off, make sure that your first impression counts.

Get a Great Hairdresser, Stylist or Barber

Taking pride in the way you look is not only about clothes; having neat and tidy hair is paramount, if you have a beard like me, have it trimmed and styled.

You don’t have to go to Vidal Sassoon for hairstyling; your local talent is good enough to make you look wonderful. Make sure you have clean hair, only very few beautiful people can get away with the “scruffy” look…..

Glasses are Sexy

Wearing glasses is not just a sign of intelligence but one of sophistication. All depends on what sort of frames you get. If you get the cheapest and nastiest frames, then that image will come across, like the old saying goes, “You get what you pay for.”

Fashion Designers have “designed” beautiful eye wear at affordable prices. Here in Australia we are lucky to have Alex Perry and Collette Dinnigan, who to me are exceptionally talented and their glasses are very beautiful and in reach of the average consumer.

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Develop a Charming Attitude by Complimenting Others

If you are an intelligent being (and you are) be warm, friendly and playful, people will appreciate someone who is easy to get along with, who pays nice compliments and is genuine. Flattery is a great asset when it has the heart behind it, however, when flattery is false and labored can become hollow and offensive.

Before complementing others, ask yourself if this is the sort of compliment you would like to receive.

Show Empathy

By showing empathy you show how much you care, at the end of the day, people need people in order to survive and thrive. A warm and kind hearted person goes through life reaping what they sow, and when it comes back it comes back tenfold.

Only people with a deep sense of self worth are truly empathetic and this act can even get on board our toughest of critics; and yes, it is sexy.

Wear Perfume or Aftershave

So you have the nice clothes, the stylish glasses, beautiful hair, now all you need is a scent that will tell the world you are beautiful, classy, intelligent and sophisticated. Your unique body odor will complement certain fragrances nicely; the trick is using the right amount and choosing the right scent.

It is our duty to take care of ourselves physically, mentally and spiritually it is up to you, being a Geek can be Sexy.

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8 Simple Mindfulness Exercises to Bring Peace and Happiness to Your Life

8 Simple Mindfulness Exercises to Bring Peace and Happiness to Your Life

In life, we all need to be conscientious of what we are doing. You don’t need to live a life of stress if you don’t want to. You can achieve peace and happiness in life by carefully building mindfulness exercises into your life’s routine.

Exercising mindfulness isn’t rocket science and as importantly, you can do it. It will, however, take a few tries to get into the groove of things but once you get it, it is like riding a bike, you will never lose it.

Trust me. It’s in your best interest to learn and put these mindfulness exercises into practice. In this article, I will share with you 8 mindfulness exercises that will help you to boost your energy, vitality and live a more peaceful and happier life.

Why Is It Hard to Live A Peaceful And Happy Life?

Our Habitat Has Become Too Technological

The world has accepted the idea that technology is often the cure for all evil. We have accepted, as a society, that everything technological will make us live a better life without fully investigating the many side effects that modernity brings.

There are a number of technological side effects that have a tremendous impact on your life that the media rarely tells you about.[1] Some of them include self-harm, economic inequality, having less sex, and even suicide. The global community is becoming less happy because of technology.

How can anybody live a peaceful and happy life when they are depressed? Technology advancements, ladies and gents, is a major reason for why we are living a poor life because it has infiltrated our lives too much.

According to my research, Americans spend an average of 8 hours a day looking at the computer screen — The average screen time spent on smartphones alone is about 20 hours per week. That’s a lot! No wonder why living a happy and peaceful life is so difficult these days.

Too Many People Don’t Want to Unplug

Americans check their phones an average of 80 times during vacation.[2] Some admit to checking their smartphones 300 times every single day. In countries like Brazil, India and China, the situation is no different.

The reality is that people are constantly plugged into technological devices and this behavior is literally making people all over the globe fight an inner war with themselves, which consequently makes them very sad. As we know, war is the enemy of peace which won’t make anybody happy.

Listen carefully:

We have a global anxiety epidemic because people don’t want to unplug from their smartphones and most people aren’t doing anything to fix it. It is a sad state of affairs but very real. This obsession with technology is turning us into perishable robots who live terrible lives.

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The era of anxiety is here to stay. There is little doubt about it. We can, however, fight back with the best remedy of all — We call it mindfulness!

Thank God there is an antidote to this whole technological madness. Without further ado, let’s go straight to the mindful exercises.

8 Mindfulness Exercises to Start Practicing

There are tons of mindfulness exercises available for you to engage with out there.[3] In the paragraphs below, I will include the best ones I’ve personally tried or have seen my close friends and family members try.

Are you ready for it? Let’s go!

1. Pray Daily

You should pray on a daily basis. Why is that you may ask — Well, because science has told us to do so.

When people pray, they feel peaceful, almost eliminating anxiety. Worries become secondary, and often gives people energy and hope to cope with the difficulties of life.

Prayer can make you more confident and focused. Prayer also helps you with self-control, helps to control pain, and can protect you against illnesses and disorders like cancer and high blood pressure. At least, this is what researchers from Harvard Medical School have said.[4]

Pray. You won’t regret it.[5]

2. Pay Attention to Your Inner Thoughts

A lot of people allow themselves to be influenced by their negative thoughts. Be different and resist believing in them. It is a bad habit that can lead to unhappiness.

By the way, if you do feel this way, chances are high that somebody other than you put these thoughts into your head.

Here is my secret to combat this cancer — look at things objectively. I bet that if you look at things as they are, you will realize that most if not all of your negative thoughts are only inside of your head.

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If you pay close attention, you will quickly realize that these voices aren’t worth your time. Believe me — Ignoring them and looking at things with objectivity is often the best course of action.

This article can guide you to beat negative thoughts:

How to Stop Automatic Negative Thoughts When You’re Overwhelmed

3. Smile Often

Smiling will slow down your heart. It will also relax your body because when you smile, your body releases endorphins which in itself has a number of positive benefits for you as a person.

Smile often! You may want to smile early in the morning, during the day, and late in the evening. It is amazing what happens to you when you decide to smile instead of being grumpy.

Surrender your problems to a nice smile. You will notice two things. First, most people just don’t which makes them live a miserable life. Second, if you decide to smile often, you will eventually smile unconsciously which is the ideal.

The moment that you smile unconsciously, you then know that you are truly happy.

4. Organize Your Working Desk

A messy desk will make you less productive and can agitate and overstimulate you. You don’t want that.

When you clear your desk, you engage in deep inner-thinking and your systematic decision making ends up becoming therapeutic.

Most people realize that they are most creative when their creative space is clean and organized. The former often makes people more aware of what they are doing which lends to less stress and more productivity.

Organizing your desk will also make you more energetic and focused because order often decreases chaos which is a condition that often slows down daily progress.

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5. Celebrate Your Friend’s Victories

I love this mindful exercise. One of the best ways to live a happy and peaceful life is to celebrate the victories of others. When you do that, you automatically make your friends in a better mood which makes you in a better mood, as well.

Happiness is contagious! We might as well celebrate others as much as we can. If you find out that your peer has won an award, celebrate with him! If your friend is the recipient of a local charity award, celebrate with her!

What is also awesome is that when you celebrate with others, they often celebrate with you in return. This, ladies and gentleman, will make you feel fantastic. You can’t go wrong with this one, period.

6. Listen to Your Spouse/Partner

God put someone in your life for a reason. You might as well listen to him or her.

I listen to my wife everyday. In fact, I often ask the following question to her, “Amanda, what are your thoughts about…” or “What am I missing about…” It is shocking what I hear back from her. Without her having much context and perspective, by the art of observation in my own nonverbal behavior and the behavior of others, she accurately gives me incredible insights which helps me out with living my life to the fullest.

I’m a firm believer that spouses are supposed to engage in interpersonal communication every day. I most definitely do and will continue doing it. You should do the same.

7. Give Yourself a Break from Technology

You can’t be in total equilibrium if your computerized devices control your life. You must get away from technology on a daily basis.[6]

How do you do that? This is my formula:

First, take this smartphone control test. It is only ten questions but this test will place you somewhere in the human robot cycle continuum.

If your score is between 25-30, take a break from the computer (or smartphone, pad, laptop/desktop) every twenty minutes and stop being on a computerized device after 8:00pm.

If you score between 30-35, still take a break every 20 minutes but stop being on these devices at 5:00pm.

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If you score more than 35, you need to take action immediately.

Limit computer use as much as possible throughout the day. Give yourself as many breaks from the computer as possible. Are you ready for the challenge?

8. Go Exercise

Go exercise at least three times a week. I don’t care if you need to workout early in the morning, late in the evening, on the weekends or during work days. Working out is absolutely imperative for you to live happy and peaceful life.

The stresses of the modern world are too much for you to neglect this important mindfulness exercise. When you go to the gym, you burn calories, focus on activities one step at a time, your mind relaxes, anxiety decreases, you sweat and often think about topics unrelated to your work place among many other benefits.

You must exercise at least three hours each week for optimum results. Why? Just take a look at all the benefits of regular exercising:

12 Benefits of Regular Exercise You Should Know

The Bottom Line

It’s in your best interest to learn and put these mindfulness exercises into practice. Now that our habitat has become too technological and many people just don’t want to unplug, engaging in daily prayer, celebrate your friends’ victories, and listening to your spouse are among the best ways to be mindful about what you are doing and how you are living.

It is possible to live a happy and peaceful life. It only depends on you.

Go exercise! Take a break from technology and invest in you! Life is too short for distractions.

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