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10 Ways to Become a Sexy Geek

10 Ways to Become a Sexy Geek

Do you remember back in the 80s the movie franchise “Revenge of The Nerds?” The movie was about this group of geeks and outcasts (mostly ugly ones) who were victimized and picked on by the local Jocks and how these socially mal-adjusted intellectuals eventually got their payback, which included winning over the beauty queen.

The movies had a funny way of saying that being a “Nerd” wasn’t too bad, even though there was a lot of bullying and victimization in the process.

In today’s society the term “Geek” has replaced “Nerd” and has become a Universal word to describe very smart people.

A lot has changed since then, today bullying is no longer acceptable, and more tolerance and inclusion is promoted for a more harmonious society, being different is beautiful.

Having said all that, here is my list of 10 ways to become a Sexy Geek:

Confidence is Sexy

Being true to who you are is one of the most important lessons you must learn in order to be successful. Being confident doesn’t mean arrogant, it means trusting your own abilities, instincts and values to help you shape a positive image, a greater sense of worth and achieve positive results.

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Like a magnet, confident people attract like-minded people, having that inner knowledge of how unique and wonderful you are makes you more appealing to the opposite sex. If you are not confident, develop it by focusing on what you do well and work on areas that are important to you, focus on what is positive in your life and write a list, recite it like a Mantra if you must….

Ability to Listen

No one likes someone who talks too much especially technical jargon. When in a social setting in order to get to know the person (or people) better, it is best to be inquisitive, to develop a genuine interest in the other person and listen to what is being said, ask relevant questions and you will make the other person feel validated.

We have one mouth and two ears, this is nature’s reminder we have to listen more than we speak. People who are great listeners are not only popular, but learn a great deal by opening their ears, and by default they help build others by showing a bit of interest, and it is sexy.

Believe in yourself

Life has a tendency to throw curve balls a lot of the times, and when things get tough, believing in yourself can prove the difference between success and failure.

As kids, when picking members to play ball at your local park, the kids with the most self-confidence and self belief were picked first, this is no different in Love, Commerce or War.

Focus on recent achievements no matter how small they are, if you can’t think of any off the top of your head, write them down, what have you accomplished lately?

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Develop the Ability to Smile

There is nothing sexier than a genuine and friendly smile, by focusing on what you are doing right, being proud of who you are and what you are accomplishing (note action verb); your smile will brighten even the darkest room. Gratitude for what you have is an awesome way to make you feel happy and automatically make you smile.

For example, when going out to a bar with friends, would you go up to the girl with the frown and the cloud over her head or go up to the one who is smiling, happy and open to conversation?

Smile, it makes you beautiful regardless of religion, color or creed…..

Power Dressing

The problem with some of us geeks, is our inability to follow trends and fashions because we are too busy pursuing other interests. A perfect example of poor fashion sense is Raj from “The Big Bang Theory”.

Having said that, we can make ourselves look presentable and this can be achieved without trying too hard and it doesn’t have to cost an arm and a leg, believe it or not if you are doing it tough, buying clothes from the local Salvation Army store (they have brand names) can give you a great look and if you are into recycling this is an awesome and cost effective option.

A nice suit is a must have, black, navy blue or dark greys are strong colors telling the world you mean business.

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Bright colors are cheerful also but beware; you don’t want to overdo it. Bright colors when used with neutral tones can produce a feeling of playfulness and friendliness, again, balance is the key.

Try to make a positive first impression, because a negative one is everlasting and almost impossible to shake off, make sure that your first impression counts.

Get a Great Hairdresser, Stylist or Barber

Taking pride in the way you look is not only about clothes; having neat and tidy hair is paramount, if you have a beard like me, have it trimmed and styled.

You don’t have to go to Vidal Sassoon for hairstyling; your local talent is good enough to make you look wonderful. Make sure you have clean hair, only very few beautiful people can get away with the “scruffy” look…..

Glasses are Sexy

Wearing glasses is not just a sign of intelligence but one of sophistication. All depends on what sort of frames you get. If you get the cheapest and nastiest frames, then that image will come across, like the old saying goes, “You get what you pay for.”

Fashion Designers have “designed” beautiful eye wear at affordable prices. Here in Australia we are lucky to have Alex Perry and Collette Dinnigan, who to me are exceptionally talented and their glasses are very beautiful and in reach of the average consumer.

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Develop a Charming Attitude by Complimenting Others

If you are an intelligent being (and you are) be warm, friendly and playful, people will appreciate someone who is easy to get along with, who pays nice compliments and is genuine. Flattery is a great asset when it has the heart behind it, however, when flattery is false and labored can become hollow and offensive.

Before complementing others, ask yourself if this is the sort of compliment you would like to receive.

Show Empathy

By showing empathy you show how much you care, at the end of the day, people need people in order to survive and thrive. A warm and kind hearted person goes through life reaping what they sow, and when it comes back it comes back tenfold.

Only people with a deep sense of self worth are truly empathetic and this act can even get on board our toughest of critics; and yes, it is sexy.

Wear Perfume or Aftershave

So you have the nice clothes, the stylish glasses, beautiful hair, now all you need is a scent that will tell the world you are beautiful, classy, intelligent and sophisticated. Your unique body odor will complement certain fragrances nicely; the trick is using the right amount and choosing the right scent.

It is our duty to take care of ourselves physically, mentally and spiritually it is up to you, being a Geek can be Sexy.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

The Best Way to Create a Vision for the Life You Want

The Best Way to Create a Vision for the Life You Want

Creating a vision for your life might seem like a frivolous, fantastical waste of time, but it’s not: creating a compelling vision of the life you want is actually one of the most effective strategies for achieving the life of your dreams. Perhaps the best way to look at the concept of a life vision is as a compass to help guide you to take the best actions and make the right choices that help propel you toward your best life.

your vision of where or who you want to be is the greatest asset you have

    Why You Need a Vision

    Experts and life success stories support the idea that with a vision in mind, you are more likely to succeed far beyond what you could otherwise achieve without a clear vision. Think of crafting your life vision as mapping a path to your personal and professional dreams. Life satisfaction and personal happiness are within reach. The harsh reality is that if you don’t develop your own vision, you’ll allow other people and circumstances to direct the course of your life.

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    How to Create Your Life Vision

    Don’t expect a clear and well-defined vision overnight—envisioning your life and determining the course you will follow requires time, and reflection. You need to cultivate vision and perspective, and you also need to apply logic and planning for the practical application of your vision. Your best vision blossoms from your dreams, hopes, and aspirations. It will resonate with your values and ideals, and will generate energy and enthusiasm to help strengthen your commitment to explore the possibilities of your life.

    What Do You Want?

    The question sounds deceptively simple, but it’s often the most difficult to answer. Allowing yourself to explore your deepest desires can be very frightening. You may also not think you have the time to consider something as fanciful as what you want out of life, but it’s important to remind yourself that a life of fulfillment does not usually happen by chance, but by design.

    It’s helpful to ask some thought-provoking questions to help you discover the possibilities of what you want out of life. Consider every aspect of your life, personal and professional, tangible and intangible. Contemplate all the important areas, family and friends, career and success, health and quality of life, spiritual connection and personal growth, and don’t forget about fun and enjoyment.

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    Some tips to guide you:

    • Remember to ask why you want certain things
    • Think about what you want, not on what you don’t want.
    • Give yourself permission to dream.
    • Be creative. Consider ideas that you never thought possible.
    • Focus on your wishes, not what others expect of you.

    Some questions to start your exploration:

    • What really matters to you in life? Not what should matter, what does matter.
    • What would you like to have more of in your life?
    • Set aside money for a moment; what do you want in your career?
    • What are your secret passions and dreams?
    • What would bring more joy and happiness into your life?
    • What do you want your relationships to be like?
    • What qualities would you like to develop?
    • What are your values? What issues do you care about?
    • What are your talents? What’s special about you?
    • What would you most like to accomplish?
    • What would legacy would you like to leave behind?

    It may be helpful to write your thoughts down in a journal or creative vision board if you’re the creative type. Add your own questions, and ask others what they want out of life. Relax and make this exercise fun. You may want to set your answers aside for a while and come back to them later to see if any have changed or if you have anything to add.

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    What Would Your Best Life Look Like?

    Describe your ideal life in detail. Allow yourself to dream and imagine, and create a vivid picture. If you can’t visualize a picture, focus on how your best life would feel. If you find it difficult to envision your life 20 or 30 years from now, start with five years—even a few years into the future will give you a place to start. What you see may surprise you. Set aside preconceived notions. This is your chance to dream and fantasize.

    A few prompts to get you started:

    • What will you have accomplished already?
    • How will you feel about yourself?
    • What kind of people are in your life? How do you feel about them?
    • What does your ideal day look like?
    • Where are you? Where do you live? Think specifics, what city, state, or country, type of community, house or an apartment, style and atmosphere.
    • What would you be doing?
    • Are you with another person, a group of people, or are you by yourself?
    • How are you dressed?
    • What’s your state of mind? Happy or sad? Contented or frustrated?
    • What does your physical body look like? How do you feel about that?
    • Does your best life make you smile and make your heart sing? If it doesn’t, dig deeper, dream bigger.

    It’s important to focus on the result, or at least a way-point in your life. Don’t think about the process for getting there yet—that’s the next stepGive yourself permission to revisit this vision every day, even if only for a few minutes. Keep your vision alive and in the front of your mind.

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    Plan Backwards

    It may sound counter-intuitive to plan backwards rather than forwards, but when you’re planning your life from the end result, it’s often more useful to consider the last step and work your way back to the first. This is actually a valuable and practical strategy for making your vision a reality.

    • What’s the last thing that would’ve had to happen to achieve your best life?
    • What’s the most important choice you would’ve had to make?
    • What would you have needed to learn along the way?
    • What important actions would you have had to take?
    • What beliefs would you have needed to change?
    • What habits or behaviors would you have had to cultivate?
    • What type of support would you have had to enlist?
    • How long will it have taken you to realize your best life?
    • What steps or milestones would you have needed to reach along the way?

    Now it’s time to think about your first step, and the next step after that. Ponder the gap between where you are now and where you want to be in the future. It may seem impossible, but it’s quite achievable if you take it step-by-step.

    It’s important to revisit this vision from time to time. Don’t be surprised if your answers to the questions, your technicolor vision, and the resulting plans change. That can actually be a very good thing; as you change in unforeseeable ways, the best life you envision will change as well. For now, it’s important to use the process, create your vision, and take the first step towards making that vision a reality.

    Featured photo credit: Matt Noble via unsplash.com

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