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You Should Thank Your Friends If They Have Done These 15 Things

You Should Thank Your Friends If They Have Done These 15 Things

Your best friends are some of the most important people in your life. You have laughed together, cried together, and you have probably had some of the best times of your lives with each other. No matter what happens, your best friends are always there for you. You probably often thank them for all of the little things, but what about the most important things?

Here are 15 things you may have forgotten to thank your best friends for.

1. They Are Always Available – Even At Four In The Morning

Your best friends are always there for you, no matter what the time is. From watching hours of re-runs, to turning up at your house with a bottle of vodka at midnight, your best friends are willing to do whatever it takes to make sure you’re okay.

2. They Always Share Everything

Their alcohol, food, Netflix, clothes – your best friends are always happy to share everything they own with you. After all, everything is better when you share it with someone you love.

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3. They Always Listen – Even When You Don’t

Sometimes all you want to do is vent about the problems in your life. But before you know it, you’ve been talking/shouting for over half an hour, without letting your best friends say a word – and when they finally do, you immediately cut them off to continue with your rant.
But they always see where you’re coming from, so they wait patiently and listen.

4. They Never Say ‘I Told You So’

Your friendship is more important than who is right. And let’s face it – you’ve been wrong a few times, but your best friend cares more about your friendship than gloating.

5. They Are There When You’re Ill

If you feel really sick, you can always count on your best friends to be there. Whether you have a horrible virus or simply the hangover from hell, you trust your best friends to look after you without complaining.

6. They Let You Borrow Anything

Your best friend is willing to lend you almost anything, from their clothes to their Game of Thrones box set. And even if you lose it, or grow so attached to it that you ‘forget’ to return it, they never make you feel guilty for doing so.

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7. They Make The Best Plans

If your best friends plan your birthday, you’re probably going to have the most entertaining 24 hours of your life. This also applies to holidays, and any nights out you go on – they know everything you love, and exactly how to make sure you are having the most fun you could possibly have.

8. They Let You Treat Their Home Like It’s Yours

You have spent so much time at your best friend’s house you no longer feel the need to act like a guest. You take food from the fridge, leave your stuff everywhere, and charge your phone at the wall. Thankfully your best friend doesn’t mind, because they do the same thing at your house.

9. They Always See The Best In You

Your best friends are always talking about your best traits, from your straightforward attitude to your hairstyle. If you ever question yourself after a bad day, you know a quick conversation with your bestie will leave your confidence sky-high.

10. They Are Present Without Being Pushy

A healthy friendship will never leave you feeling like you should sacrifice other parts of your life. They are always there for you if you need them, but they are also happy for you to speak to your partner or another friend if that is what you’d prefer to do.

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11. They Always Tell You The Truth

For casual friends, it is often easier to tell a white lie rather than the truth. However, you can always rely on your best friends to be honest with you. Even if the truth hurts, having someone you can rely on to be totally honest with you is a great feeling.

12.They Know When Something Is Wrong

Even if you haven’t said anything, your best friend can sense that there is something wrong. They love you and pay close attention to you, and can help cheer you up when you don’t even want to talk about what’s wrong.

13. They Always Push You Forward

From telling you to apply for your dream job, to being an unsure participant in your professional projects, your best friends are always subtly pushing you forward – often without you realizing.

14. They Let You Come Back After You’ve Left Them

Occasionally, friendships can be neglected due to other things in your life; your career, a new relationship, or just a lack of free time. However, your best friend understand that no matter what is going on in your life, eventually you will realize how much you miss them.

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15. They Are Loyal

Even if your best friend lives in a different country and you haven’t seen them for a year, you know they will always remain loyal and supportive of you and your choices. The strength of your bond is one of the reasons why you’re so happy to have them in your life.
Can you think of any other things you should thank your best friends for? Comment your suggestions below!

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How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

Example 1

You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

Example 2

You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

Example 3

You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

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The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

Example 4

You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

  • Understand your own communication style
  • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
  • Communicate with precision and care
  • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

1. Understand Your Communication Style

To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

2. Learn Others Communication Styles

Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

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If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

“How do you prefer to receive information?”

This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

3. Exercise Precision and Care

A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

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In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

“Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

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It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

The Bottom Line

When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

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