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You Should Thank Your Friends If They Have Done These 15 Things

You Should Thank Your Friends If They Have Done These 15 Things

Your best friends are some of the most important people in your life. You have laughed together, cried together, and you have probably had some of the best times of your lives with each other. No matter what happens, your best friends are always there for you. You probably often thank them for all of the little things, but what about the most important things?

Here are 15 things you may have forgotten to thank your best friends for.

1. They Are Always Available – Even At Four In The Morning

Your best friends are always there for you, no matter what the time is. From watching hours of re-runs, to turning up at your house with a bottle of vodka at midnight, your best friends are willing to do whatever it takes to make sure you’re okay.

2. They Always Share Everything

Their alcohol, food, Netflix, clothes – your best friends are always happy to share everything they own with you. After all, everything is better when you share it with someone you love.

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3. They Always Listen – Even When You Don’t

Sometimes all you want to do is vent about the problems in your life. But before you know it, you’ve been talking/shouting for over half an hour, without letting your best friends say a word – and when they finally do, you immediately cut them off to continue with your rant.
But they always see where you’re coming from, so they wait patiently and listen.

4. They Never Say ‘I Told You So’

Your friendship is more important than who is right. And let’s face it – you’ve been wrong a few times, but your best friend cares more about your friendship than gloating.

5. They Are There When You’re Ill

If you feel really sick, you can always count on your best friends to be there. Whether you have a horrible virus or simply the hangover from hell, you trust your best friends to look after you without complaining.

6. They Let You Borrow Anything

Your best friend is willing to lend you almost anything, from their clothes to their Game of Thrones box set. And even if you lose it, or grow so attached to it that you ‘forget’ to return it, they never make you feel guilty for doing so.

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7. They Make The Best Plans

If your best friends plan your birthday, you’re probably going to have the most entertaining 24 hours of your life. This also applies to holidays, and any nights out you go on – they know everything you love, and exactly how to make sure you are having the most fun you could possibly have.

8. They Let You Treat Their Home Like It’s Yours

You have spent so much time at your best friend’s house you no longer feel the need to act like a guest. You take food from the fridge, leave your stuff everywhere, and charge your phone at the wall. Thankfully your best friend doesn’t mind, because they do the same thing at your house.

9. They Always See The Best In You

Your best friends are always talking about your best traits, from your straightforward attitude to your hairstyle. If you ever question yourself after a bad day, you know a quick conversation with your bestie will leave your confidence sky-high.

10. They Are Present Without Being Pushy

A healthy friendship will never leave you feeling like you should sacrifice other parts of your life. They are always there for you if you need them, but they are also happy for you to speak to your partner or another friend if that is what you’d prefer to do.

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11. They Always Tell You The Truth

For casual friends, it is often easier to tell a white lie rather than the truth. However, you can always rely on your best friends to be honest with you. Even if the truth hurts, having someone you can rely on to be totally honest with you is a great feeling.

12.They Know When Something Is Wrong

Even if you haven’t said anything, your best friend can sense that there is something wrong. They love you and pay close attention to you, and can help cheer you up when you don’t even want to talk about what’s wrong.

13. They Always Push You Forward

From telling you to apply for your dream job, to being an unsure participant in your professional projects, your best friends are always subtly pushing you forward – often without you realizing.

14. They Let You Come Back After You’ve Left Them

Occasionally, friendships can be neglected due to other things in your life; your career, a new relationship, or just a lack of free time. However, your best friend understand that no matter what is going on in your life, eventually you will realize how much you miss them.

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15. They Are Loyal

Even if your best friend lives in a different country and you haven’t seen them for a year, you know they will always remain loyal and supportive of you and your choices. The strength of your bond is one of the reasons why you’re so happy to have them in your life.
Can you think of any other things you should thank your best friends for? Comment your suggestions below!

Featured photo credit: Paul Proshin via unsplash.com

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Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

How often have you said something simple, only to have the person who you said this to misunderstand it or twist the meaning completely around? Nodding your head in affirmative? Then this means that you are being unclear in your communication.

Communication should be simple, right? It’s all about two people or more talking and explaining something to the other. The problem lies in the talking itself, somehow we end up being unclear, and our words, attitude or even the way of talking becomes a barrier in communication, most of the times unknowingly. We give you six common barriers to communication, and how to get past them; for you to actually say what you mean, and or the other person to understand it as well…

The 6 Walls You Need to Break Down to Make Communication Effective

Think about it this way, a simple phrase like “what do you mean” can be said in many different ways and each different way would end up “communicating” something else entirely. Scream it at the other person, and the perception would be anger. Whisper this is someone’s ear and others may take it as if you were plotting something. Say it in another language, and no one gets what you mean at all, if they don’t speak it… This is what we mean when we say that talking or saying something that’s clear in your head, many not mean that you have successfully communicated it across to your intended audience – thus what you say and how, where and why you said it – at times become barriers to communication.[1]

Perceptual Barrier

The moment you say something in a confrontational, sarcastic, angry or emotional tone, you have set up perceptual barriers to communication. The other person or people to whom you are trying to communicate your point get the message that you are disinterested in what you are saying and sort of turn a deaf ear. In effect, you are yelling your point across to person who might as well be deaf![2]

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The problem: When you have a tone that’s not particularly positive, a body language that denotes your own disinterest in the situation and let your own stereotypes and misgivings enter the conversation via the way you talk and gesture, the other person perceives what you saying an entirely different manner than say if you said the same while smiling and catching their gaze.

The solution: Start the conversation on a positive note, and don’t let what you think color your tone, gestures of body language. Maintain eye contact with your audience, and smile openly and wholeheartedly…

Attitudinal Barrier

Some people, if you would excuse the language, are simply badass and in general are unable to form relationships or even a common point of communication with others, due to their habit of thinking to highly or too lowly of them. They basically have an attitude problem – since they hold themselves in high esteem, they are unable to form genuine lines of communication with anyone. The same is true if they think too little of themselves as well.[3]

The problem: If anyone at work, or even in your family, tends to roam around with a superior air – anything they say is likely to be taken by you and the others with a pinch, or even a bag of salt. Simply because whenever they talk, the first thing to come out of it is their condescending attitude. And in case there’s someone with an inferiority complex, their incessant self-pity forms barriers to communication.

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The solution: Use simple words and an encouraging smile to communicate effectively – and stick to constructive criticism, and not criticism because you are a perfectionist. If you see someone doing a good job, let them know, and disregard the thought that you could have done it better. It’s their job so measure them by industry standards and not your own.

Language Barrier

This is perhaps the commonest and the most inadvertent of barriers to communication. Using big words, too much of technical jargon or even using just the wrong language at the incorrect or inopportune time can lead to a loss or misinterpretation of communication. It may have sounded right in your head and to your ears as well, but if sounded gobbledygook to the others, the purpose is lost.

The problem: Say you are trying to explain a process to the newbies and end up using every technical word and industry jargon that you knew – your communication has failed if the newbie understood zilch. You have to, without sounding patronizing, explain things to someone in the simplest language they understand instead of the most complex that you do.

The solution: Simplify things for the other person to understand you, and understand it well. Think about it this way: if you are trying to explain something scientific to a child, you tone it down to their thinking capacity, without “dumbing” anything down in the process.[4]

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Emotional Barrier

Sometimes, we hesitate in opening our mouths, for fear of putting our foot in it! Other times, our emotional state is so fragile that we keep it and our lips zipped tightly together lest we explode. This is the time that our emotions become barriers to communication.[5]

The problem: Say you had a fight at home and are on a slow boil, muttering, in your head, about the injustice of it all. At this time, you have to give someone a dressing down over their work performance. You are likely to transfer at least part of your angst to the conversation then, and talk about unfairness in general, leaving the other person stymied about what you actually meant!

The solution: Remove your emotions and feelings to a personal space, and talk to the other person as you normally would. Treat any phobias or fears that you have and nip them in the bud so that they don’t become a problem. And remember, no one is perfect.

Cultural Barrier

Sometimes, being in an ever-shrinking world means that inadvertently, rules can make cultures clash and cultural clashes can turn into barriers to communication. The idea is to make your point across without hurting anyone’s cultural or religious sentiments.

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The problem: There are so many ways culture clashes can happen during communication and with cultural clashes; it’s not always about ethnicity. A non-smoker may have problems with smokers taking breaks; an older boss may have issues with younger staff using the Internet too much.

The solution: Communicate only what is necessary to get the point across – and eave your personal sentiments or feelings out of it. Try to be accommodative of the other’s viewpoint, and in case you still need to work it out, do it one to one, to avoid making a spectacle of the other person’s beliefs.[6]

Gender Barrier

Finally, it’s about Men from Mars and Women from Venus. Sometimes, men don’t understand women and women don’t get men – and this gender gap throws barriers in communication. Women tend to take conflict to their graves, literally, while men can move on instantly. Women rely on intuition, men on logic – so inherently, gender becomes a big block in successful communication.[7]

The problem: A male boss may inadvertently rub his female subordinates the wrong way with anti-feminism innuendoes, or even have problems with women taking too many family leaves. Similarly, women sometimes let their emotions get the better of them, something a male audience can’t relate to.

The solution: Talk to people like people – don’t think or classify them into genders and then talk accordingly. Don’t make comments or innuendos that are gender biased – you don’t have to come across as an MCP or as a bra-burning feminist either. Keep gender out of it.

And remember, the key to successful communication is simply being open, making eye contact and smiling intermittently. The battle is usually half won when you say what you mean in simple, straightforward words and keep your emotions out of it.

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