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You Should Thank Your Friends If They Have Done These 15 Things

You Should Thank Your Friends If They Have Done These 15 Things

Your best friends are some of the most important people in your life. You have laughed together, cried together, and you have probably had some of the best times of your lives with each other. No matter what happens, your best friends are always there for you. You probably often thank them for all of the little things, but what about the most important things?

Here are 15 things you may have forgotten to thank your best friends for.

1. They Are Always Available – Even At Four In The Morning

Your best friends are always there for you, no matter what the time is. From watching hours of re-runs, to turning up at your house with a bottle of vodka at midnight, your best friends are willing to do whatever it takes to make sure you’re okay.

2. They Always Share Everything

Their alcohol, food, Netflix, clothes – your best friends are always happy to share everything they own with you. After all, everything is better when you share it with someone you love.

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3. They Always Listen – Even When You Don’t

Sometimes all you want to do is vent about the problems in your life. But before you know it, you’ve been talking/shouting for over half an hour, without letting your best friends say a word – and when they finally do, you immediately cut them off to continue with your rant.
But they always see where you’re coming from, so they wait patiently and listen.

4. They Never Say ‘I Told You So’

Your friendship is more important than who is right. And let’s face it – you’ve been wrong a few times, but your best friend cares more about your friendship than gloating.

5. They Are There When You’re Ill

If you feel really sick, you can always count on your best friends to be there. Whether you have a horrible virus or simply the hangover from hell, you trust your best friends to look after you without complaining.

6. They Let You Borrow Anything

Your best friend is willing to lend you almost anything, from their clothes to their Game of Thrones box set. And even if you lose it, or grow so attached to it that you ‘forget’ to return it, they never make you feel guilty for doing so.

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7. They Make The Best Plans

If your best friends plan your birthday, you’re probably going to have the most entertaining 24 hours of your life. This also applies to holidays, and any nights out you go on – they know everything you love, and exactly how to make sure you are having the most fun you could possibly have.

8. They Let You Treat Their Home Like It’s Yours

You have spent so much time at your best friend’s house you no longer feel the need to act like a guest. You take food from the fridge, leave your stuff everywhere, and charge your phone at the wall. Thankfully your best friend doesn’t mind, because they do the same thing at your house.

9. They Always See The Best In You

Your best friends are always talking about your best traits, from your straightforward attitude to your hairstyle. If you ever question yourself after a bad day, you know a quick conversation with your bestie will leave your confidence sky-high.

10. They Are Present Without Being Pushy

A healthy friendship will never leave you feeling like you should sacrifice other parts of your life. They are always there for you if you need them, but they are also happy for you to speak to your partner or another friend if that is what you’d prefer to do.

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11. They Always Tell You The Truth

For casual friends, it is often easier to tell a white lie rather than the truth. However, you can always rely on your best friends to be honest with you. Even if the truth hurts, having someone you can rely on to be totally honest with you is a great feeling.

12.They Know When Something Is Wrong

Even if you haven’t said anything, your best friend can sense that there is something wrong. They love you and pay close attention to you, and can help cheer you up when you don’t even want to talk about what’s wrong.

13. They Always Push You Forward

From telling you to apply for your dream job, to being an unsure participant in your professional projects, your best friends are always subtly pushing you forward – often without you realizing.

14. They Let You Come Back After You’ve Left Them

Occasionally, friendships can be neglected due to other things in your life; your career, a new relationship, or just a lack of free time. However, your best friend understand that no matter what is going on in your life, eventually you will realize how much you miss them.

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15. They Are Loyal

Even if your best friend lives in a different country and you haven’t seen them for a year, you know they will always remain loyal and supportive of you and your choices. The strength of your bond is one of the reasons why you’re so happy to have them in your life.
Can you think of any other things you should thank your best friends for? Comment your suggestions below!

Featured photo credit: Paul Proshin via unsplash.com

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Amy is a writer who blogs about relationships and lifestyle advice.

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Published on May 4, 2021

How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

They say we are the average of the five persons we spend the most time with. For a minute, consider the people around you. Are they truly who your “tribe” should be or who you aspire to become in the future? Are they really genuine people who want to see you succeed? Or are they fake people who don’t really want to see you happy?

In this article, I’ll review why it is important to surround yourself with genuine individuals—the ones who care, bring something to our table, and first and foremost, who leave all fakeness behind.

How to Spot Fake People?

When you’ve been working in the helping professions for a while, spotting fake people gets a bit easier. There are some very clear signs that the person you are looking at is hiding something, acting somehow, or simply wanting to get somewhere. Most often, there is a secondary gain—perhaps attention, sympathy, or even a promotion.

Whatever it is, you’re better off working their true agenda and staying the hell away. Here are some things you should look out for to help spot fake people.

1. Full of Themselves

Fake people like to show off. They love looking at themselves in the mirror. They collect photos and videos of every single achievement they had and every part of their body and claim to be the “best at what they do.”

Most of these people are actually not that good in real life. But they act like they are and ensure that they appear better than the next person. The issue for you is that you may find yourself always feeling “beneath” them and irritated at their constant need to be in the spotlight.

2. Murky in Expressing Their Emotions

Have you ever tried having a deep and meaningful conversation with a fake person? It’s almost impossible. It’s because they have limited emotional intelligence and don’t know how they truly feel deep down—and partly because they don’t want to have their true emotions exposed, no matter how normal these might be.

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It’s much harder to say “I’m the best at what I do” while simultaneously sharing “average” emotions with “equal” people.

3. Zero Self-Reflection

To grow, we must accept feedback from others. We must be open to our strengths and to our weaknesses. We must accept that we all come in different shapes and can always improve.

Self-reflection requires us to think, forgive, admit fault, and learn from our mistakes. But to do that, we have to be able to adopt a level of genuineness and depth that fake people don’t routinely have. A fake person generally never apologizes, but when they do, it is often followed with a “but” in the next breath.

4. Unrealistic Perceptions

Fake people most often have an unrealistic perception of the world—things that they want to portray to others (pseudo achievements, materialistic gains, or a made-up sense of happiness) or simply how they genuinely regard life outside themselves.

A lot of fake people hide pain, shame, and other underlying reasons in their behavior. This could explain why they can’t be authentic and/or have difficulties seeing their environment for the way it objectively is (both good and bad).

5. Love Attention

As I mentioned earlier, the biggest sign that something isn’t quite right with someone’s behavior can be established by how much they love attention. Are you being interrupted every time you speak by someone who wants to make sure that the spotlight gets reverted back to them? Is the focus always on them, no matter the topic? If yes, you’re probably dealing with a fake person.

6. People Pleaser

Appreciation feels nice but having everyone like you is even better. While it is completely unrealistic for most people to please everyone all the time, fake people seem to always say yes in pursuit of constant approval.

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Now, this is a problem for two reasons. Firstly, these people are simply saying yes to things for their own satisfaction. Secondly, they often end up changing their minds or retracting their offer for one reason or another (“I would have loved to, but my grandmother suddenly fell ill.”), leaving you in the lurch for the 100th time this year.

7. Sarcasm and Cynicism

Behind the chronic pasted smile, fake people are well known for brewing resentment, jealousy, or anger. This is because, behind the postcard life, they are often unhappy. Sarcasm and cynicism are well known to act as a defense mechanism, sometimes even a diversion—anything so they can remain feeling on top of the world, whether it is through boosting themselves or bringing people down.

8. Crappy friend

Fake people are bad friends. They don’t listen to you, your feelings, and whatever news you might have to share. In fact, you might find yourself migrating away from them when you have exciting or bad news to share, knowing that it will always end up one way—their way. In addition, you might find that they’re not available when you truly need them or worse, cancel plans at the last minute.

It’s not unusual to hear that a fake person talks constantly behind people’s backs. Let’s be honest, if they do it to others, they’re doing it to you too. If your “friend” makes you feel bad constantly, trust me, they’re not achieving their purpose, and they’re simply not a good person to have around.

The sooner you learn to spot these fake people, the sooner you can meet meaningful individuals again.

How to Cope With Fake People Moving Forward?

It is important to remind yourself that you deserve more than what you’re getting. You are worthy, valuable, precious, and just as important as the next person.

There are many ways to manage fake people. Here are some tips on how to deal with them.

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1. Boundaries

Keep your boundaries very clear. As explained in the book Unlock Your Resilience, boundaries are what keep you sane when the world tries to suffocate you. When fake people become emotional vampires, make sure to keep your distances, limit contact, and simply replace them with more valuable interactions.

2. Don’t Take Their Behavior Personally

Sadly, they most likely have behaved this way before they knew you and will continue much longer after you have moved on. It isn’t about you. It is about their inner need to meet a void that you are not responsible for. And in all honesty, unless you are a trained professional, you are unlikely to improve it anyway.

3. Be Upfront and Honest About How You Feel

If your “friend” has been hurtful or engaged in behaviors you struggle with, let them know—nicely, firmly, however you want, but let them know that they are affecting you. If it works, great. If it doesn’t, you’ll feel better and when you’re ready to move on, you’ll know you tried to reach out. Your conscience is clear.

4. Ask for Advice

If you’re unsure about what you’re seeing or feeling, ask for advice. Perhaps a relative, a good friend, or a colleague might have some input as to whether you are overreacting or seeing some genuine concerns.

Now, don’t confuse asking for advice with gossiping behind the fake person’s back because, in the end, you don’t want to stoop down to their level. However, a little reminder as to how to stay on your own wellness track can never hurt.

5. Dig Deeper

Now, this one, I offer with caution. If you are emotionally strong, up to it, guaranteed you won’t get sucked into it, and have the skills to manage, perhaps you could dig into the reasons a fake person is acting the way they do.

Have they suffered recent trauma? Have they been rejected all their lives? Is their self-esteem so low that they must resort to making themselves feel good in any way they can? Sometimes, having an understanding of a person’s behavior can help in processing it.

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6. Practice Self-Care!

Clearly, putting some distance between the fake person and yourself is probably the way to go. However, sometimes, it takes time to get there. In the meantime, make sure to practice self-care, be gentle with yourself, and compensate with lots of positives!

Self-care can be as simple as taking a hot shower after talking to them or declining an invitation when you’re not feeling up to the challenge.

Spotting fake people isn’t too hard. They generally glow with wanna-be vibes. However, most often, there are reasons as to why they are like this. Calling their behavior might be the first step. Providing them with support might be the second. But if these don’t work, it’s time to stay away and surround yourself with the positivity that you deserve.

Final Thoughts

Remember that life is a rollercoaster. It has good moments, tough moments, and moments you wouldn’t change for the world. So, look around and make sure that you take the time to choose the right people to share it all with.

We are the average of the five people we spend the most time with, so take a good look around and choose wisely!

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