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If You Can’t Stop Doing These 10 Things, You’re Not Ready To Get Married

If You Can’t Stop Doing These 10 Things, You’re Not Ready To Get Married

Tying the knot is a big decision, a life-changing one at that. Then why do we see some people so eager to lock it down as well as some people so afraid of marriage that they convince their friends and relatives to never ever to fall in this trap.

You must have met both the types at some point of your life or other. You may have faced the same dilemma yourself. Wondering whether this person is right for you. You love each other a lot. Nothing can go wrong. And you are gonna live happily ever after. But what if something goes wrong? What if you lose interest in each other after a few years? What will happen to our marriage?

There are no clear cut answers to those questions or definite rules according to which you can decide whether your partner is the right choice or not. But you can definitely decide a few things for yourself. If you can’t stop doing these 10 things, you’re not ready to get married.

1. You keep thinking about a future which you cannot see your partner in.

You want to become a billionaire, buy an island and travel the world but cannot speculate how your partner feels about it. You keep thinking about your own long term goals without showing much interest in his/her aims in life. These things matter a lot. If this is the case with you, you are probably more inclined to lead your life as a lone wolf.

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2. You cannot stand a single dispute or disagreement with your partner.

Instead of trying to work things out, you either tend to shut off or lose your calm and start having second thoughts about your choice. This clearly shows that you are emotionally not ready for any big fights that may come in the future after marriage. You don’t seem to understand the fact that relationships require patience and a lot of work.

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    3. You have trust issues.

    It may be that you were neglected by your mom or dad, betrayed by your best friend or dumped by your ex. You don’t seem to trust anybody other than yourself and you don’t allow anyone to come near you emotionally. You feel guarded that way. You constantly fight the urge to check on your partner’s texts, calls or emails. If you fall in this category, you are definitely not ready to get hitched at the moment.

    4. You totally avoid meeting your partner’s friends and family members.

    You feel alienated and weird around them. If you don’t want to spend a minute more than necessary with your future in-laws, you probably don’t see them as your future in-laws.

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    5. You constantly find ways to get your partner to change and cannot accept/love them for who they are.

    You feel that you do this to better your relationship. But you don’t realize that this will ultimately cause resentment on both sides. You cannot wait for him/her to get inspired to change for the better. You want to take all the matters in your hand. If this sounds familiar, you might want to think again before popping the question.

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      6. You just don’t like sharing.

      Period. Be it food, electricity bills, a new wardrobe, a few chairs, anything. It may be that you are not very confident about the whole idea of getting married, staying together, share your life, etc. You want a clear sense of who owns what.

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        7.  You are really jealous.

        It’s even cute sometimes (in limits). But if you are the person who can go to lengths to make your partner jealous despite the fact that it makes him or her very uneasy, you have huge fights with them because of this habit. If you crack jokes about breaking up or you wish to hook up with someone else, you are surely not marriage material.

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          8. You are indecisive.

          You cannot decide what to have for dinner. You are not so sure of your career choice. You have a hard time believing that someone would ask you about your opinion on something. If this is you, you need a lot of time to even start thinking about your marriage.

          9. You lie.

          Every time. When you are asked the reason of being late. When you are asked a simple question of whether you had your lunch or not. When you are asked to give your partner a lift from workplace. You make silly excuses for various stuff. You just cannot be honest. Maybe you have valid reasons for lying and cheating. But it’s not the way you want to spend your entire life, right?

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            10. You don’t want to deal with your issues and baggage.

            Probably you are too lazy to do so. But this will eventually catch up with you and you can never have a deep relationship with your partner till you clear things from your past up .

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              So, take your own time and decide what’s best for you.

              Featured photo credit: Emily Goodstein via flickr.com

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              Last Updated on July 15, 2019

              41 Beautiful Pictures That Show What True Love Is All About

              41 Beautiful Pictures That Show What True Love Is All About

              Some things in life are hard to describe, yet we can recognize them when we see them.

              Love is one of those things.

              True love comes in many different forms, but here are some that many of us know well.

              True love means supporting those who can’t support themselves

              supportive couple

                A young man comforts his date in Times Square, New York City. Image by mbtrama

                strong hug

                  A young man holds his significant other close to him. Image by Brad Fults

                  running help

                    A young track competitor helps one of her injured opponents over the finish line. Image from ViralNova.com

                    feeding kitten

                      A soldier in the Korean War takes time to feed a baby kitten. Image from US Naval Insititute

                      It’s having the perfect selfie partner

                      mom and daughter selfie

                        A mother and her daughter take a selfie together. Image by Andrew Fysh

                        girlfriends

                          Two young girls pose for the camera. Image by Rolands Lakis

                          selfies

                            A happy couple takes a picture together. Image by Kayla Heineman

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                            selfie

                              Two best friends take a selfie together. Image by Jason Wahido

                              dude selfie

                                Friends take a selfie together. Image by Glenn Scofield Williams

                                It’s all the warm fuzzies

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                                  A young man spends time with his dog on a beach. Image by Magdalena Roeseler

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                                    A pet owner hugs his dog while on a day trip in San Francisco. Image by Taro the Shiba Inu

                                    It means having a friend to photobomb you

                                    photobomb

                                      A boy makes a funny face as he poses for a picture with his brother. Image by Michael Bentley

                                      old man photobomb

                                        A man photobombs his wife while their grandson snaps a picture. Image by Frank

                                        family photobomb

                                          Family members photobomb their relatives’ Thanksgiving day family photo. Image by Beth Scupham

                                          boyfriend photobomb

                                            A friend photobombs the photographer and their friend, the woman in the foreground of this photo. Image by Lachlan Hardy

                                            True love means being there even when life gets unbearably hard

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                                            shoulder to cry on

                                              A family watches the Vermont National Guard depart for Afghanistan. Image by The U.S. Army

                                              flood dog

                                                During a monsoon in the Philippines, a boy carries his dog to safety. Image by Romeo Ranoco

                                                A woman is rescued from flood waters by a resident standing on top of her car during heavy rain in Chalandri suburb north of Athens

                                                  A man helps a woman out of her vehicle during a flood in Chalandri, Greece. Image by John Kolesidis

                                                  lunch

                                                    A woman has lunch with her husband every day, even after he’s passed away. Image from ViralNova.com

                                                    hug

                                                      A woman hugs the mother of 6-year-old Noah Ponzer, who was one of the victims of the Sandy Hook shootings. Image by Spencer Platt

                                                      rubble

                                                        An Oklahoma couple pauses while trying to salvage belongings from a family member’s home after a tornado. Image by Adrees Latif

                                                        sister and brother

                                                          A girl puts her arm around her little brother as they wait outside of Sandy Hook Elementary after gunshots are fired. Image by Reuters.

                                                          headstone

                                                            A woman sits at her husband’s grave the day before their wedding anniversary. Image from NBC news

                                                            It means taking the time for long goodbyes

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                                                              A man says goodbye to his son before deploying. Image by Official U.S. Navy Page

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                                                              national guard goodbye

                                                                A South Carolina man says goodbye to his son before deploying for Afghanistan. Image by The National Guard

                                                                saying goodbye

                                                                  A Sergeant hugs both of his sons before being deployed to Afghanistan. Image by The National Guard

                                                                  And cherishing reunions

                                                                  husband home

                                                                    A woman hugs her husband as she sees him for the first time since his deployment to Iraq. Image by The U.S. Army

                                                                    boyfriend home

                                                                      A young  woman hugs her significant other as he returns home for Kuwait. Image by The National Guard

                                                                      mother hug

                                                                        A mother drops to her knees as she hugs her son on her return home from the Persian Gulf. Image by The National Guard

                                                                        True love is letting yourself feel young when they’re around

                                                                        elderly women

                                                                          Two friends on their smartphones. Image by Robert Neff

                                                                          feeling young

                                                                            A young couple getting their picture taken. Image by db Photograph

                                                                            sprinkler dad

                                                                              A father plays in a sprinkler with his daughter at Millennium Park in Chicago. Image by Ben Forsberg

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                                                                              subway couple

                                                                                A young couple on a subway enjoys sharing time together, while the girlfriend’s father sneaks a photo of them. Image by Gareth Williams

                                                                                wheelchairs

                                                                                  A couple holds hands on a fall day. Image by David Amsler

                                                                                  It’s letting yourself be silly… just because they’ll enjoy it

                                                                                  silly faces

                                                                                    A grandfather makes faces at the camera with his granddaughters. Image by Tim Pierce

                                                                                    vote for pedro

                                                                                      A woman’s father wears a Napoleon Dynamite t-shirt to make his daughter laugh. Image by emdot

                                                                                      True love is allowing yourself to show how you really feel

                                                                                      date night

                                                                                        A young couple kisses in the back of a restaurant in Washington, D.C. Image by Derek Key

                                                                                        playing violin

                                                                                          Violinist Nancy Dinovo plays at a memorial service for the victims of 9/11. Image by Christopher Morris

                                                                                          True love is timeless

                                                                                          old friends

                                                                                            Friends spending some time together. Image by Cristian Bortes

                                                                                            sitting around a fire

                                                                                              A group of friends sits around a campfire eating. Image by New Old Stock

                                                                                              elderly couple

                                                                                                An elderly couple walks down a street together. Image by Matteo Paciotti

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