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You Should Never Turn Your Dreams Into Reality If…

You Should Never Turn Your Dreams Into Reality If…

Reality bites, but you can never bite reality. And at times, you will be forced to face the fact that sometimes it is better not to turn your dreams into reality.

When we were young, we were always asked what we would like to be in the future. Our dreams were far-fetched, yet they were tolerated because we were given the benefit of the doubt and because we were just children.

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But in the process of growing up, we’re exposed to the messy reality of the things that are possible and those that can only be true when we are asleep.

One example may be the love of arts we had when we were still young. We were inclined to draw, to sing, and to dance. But such fondness for art may fade, or may be abruptly cut by people surrounding us who are “concerned” with our future. Many will say that an occupation in the arts will not bring food to our plate or lead us to greener pastures. Some of us are cut out for an artistic career, but others are not. It’s important to recognize the difference.

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Your dreams might be selfish.

There are some personal interests that can indeed change the world. Rene Descartes, for example, developed the philosophy of the scientific method. This was the result of his dream of reforming and unifying the sciences. We can also name the well-known Beatles, who auditioned in Decca but were turned down. But now they’re considered as a musical legend.

However, some dreams are far too selfish, rather than beneficial for the common good. At times in pursuing a dream, we forget that there are other people surrounding us who need us. And at times, even these people must be sacrificed for us to pursue a dream. So you want to be a world renowned painter, but you already have a family to feed and the food that must be bought was turned to paint and brush? Maybe it’s about time to reconsider your priorities in life. Just like a painting, it’s not always colorful. You must make alterations.

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Your dream is just a guide.

As we grow older, we develop a deeper thirst and hunger for what we want to become in the near future. Yet, most of the time we are deviated by circumstances that might either make our determination stronger or make us realize that it’s not worth it. The cost of living becomes higher, health risk soars, priorities change and options grow for other ventures. We might not realize it, but at some point we just need to acknowledge that we fell in love with the journey rather than the result. Then surely, your dream was just a guide to something better.

You dream to impress, not to express.

We were rich in innocence when we were young. But now that we are grown-ups, we are measured by our paycheck, our car, our educational background or our status in society. And we can rarely just say that we dream of being a lawyer to defend the poor, not for the money or the title alone. In most cases, why do we want to pursue these sought-after professions? Is it the money? Is it the fame? Or is it really the full realization of our expressed advocacy? Sometimes, wrong choice of underlying motivation can lead us astray.

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We no longer live in a society in which “the dreams that we dare to dream really do come true,” or where “bluebirds fly in the sky, why can’t I?” We are now living in a world where not all dreams are possible, and birds can fly and humans can’t (at least not without help from technology). So don’t expect to fly like a bird, because we have airplanes to do that for us. Wake up!

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Last Updated on June 26, 2020

10 Things To Remember When Everything Goes Wrong

10 Things To Remember When Everything Goes Wrong

Problems and heartaches in life are inevitable. However, there are some things to remember when you’re right in the thick of it that can help you get through it. When everything seems to be going wrong, practice telling yourself these things.

1. This Too Shall Pass

Sometimes life’s rough patches feel like they’re going to last forever. Whether you’re dealing with work-related issues, family problems, or stressful situations, very few problems last for a lifetime. So remind yourself, that things won’t be this bad forever.

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2. Some Things are Going Right

When things are going wrong, it’s hard to recognize what is going right. It’s easy to screen out the good things and only focus on the bad things. Remind yourself that some things are going right. Purposely look for the positive, even if it is something very small.

3. I Have Some Control

One of the most most important things to remember is that you have some control of the situation. Even if you aren’t in complete control of the situation, one thing you can always control is your attitude and reaction. Focus on managing what is within your control.

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4. I Can Ask for Help

Asking for help can be hard sometimes. However, it’s one of the best ways to deal with tough situations. Tell people what you need specifically if they offer to help. Don’t be afraid to call on friends and family and ask them for help, whether you need financial assistance, emotional support, or practical help.

5. Much of This Won’t Matter in a Few Years

Most of the problems we worry about today won’t actually matter five years from now. Remind yourself that whatever is going wrong now is only a small percentage of your actual life. Even if you’re dealing with a major problem, like a loved one’s illness, remember that a lot of good things are likely to happen in the course of a year or two as well.

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6. I Can Handle This

A lack of confidence in handling tough times can add to stress. One of the best things to remember is that you can handle tough situations. Even though you might feel angry, hurt, disappointed, or sad, it won’t kill you. You can get through it.

7. Something Good Will Come Out of This

No matter how bad a situation is, it’s almost certain that something good will come out of it. At the very least, it’s likely that you will learn a life lesson. Perhaps you learn not to repeat the same mistake in the future or maybe you move on from a bad situation and find something better. Look for the one good thing that can result when bad things happen.

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8. I Can Accept What’s Out of my Control

There are many things that aren’t within your control. You can’t change the past, another person’s behavior, or a loved one’s health issues. Don’t waste time trying to force others to change or trying to make things be different if it isn’t within your control. Investing time and energy into trying to things you can’t will cause you to feel helpless and exhausted. Acceptance is one of the best way to establish resilience.

9. I Have Overcome Past Difficulties

One of the things to remember when you’re facing difficulties, is that you’ve handled problems in the past. Don’t overlook past difficulties that you’ve dealt with successfully. Remind yourself of all the past problems you’ve overcome and you’ll gain confidence in dealing with the current issues.

10. I Need to Take Care of Myself

When everything seems to be going wrong, take care of yourself. Get plenty of rest, get some exercise, eat healthy, and spend some time doing leisure activities. When you’re taking better care of yourself you’ll be better equipped to deal with your problems.

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