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You Should Never Turn Your Dreams Into Reality If…

You Should Never Turn Your Dreams Into Reality If…

Reality bites, but you can never bite reality. And at times, you will be forced to face the fact that sometimes it is better not to turn your dreams into reality.

When we were young, we were always asked what we would like to be in the future. Our dreams were far-fetched, yet they were tolerated because we were given the benefit of the doubt and because we were just children.

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But in the process of growing up, we’re exposed to the messy reality of the things that are possible and those that can only be true when we are asleep.

One example may be the love of arts we had when we were still young. We were inclined to draw, to sing, and to dance. But such fondness for art may fade, or may be abruptly cut by people surrounding us who are “concerned” with our future. Many will say that an occupation in the arts will not bring food to our plate or lead us to greener pastures. Some of us are cut out for an artistic career, but others are not. It’s important to recognize the difference.

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Your dreams might be selfish.

There are some personal interests that can indeed change the world. Rene Descartes, for example, developed the philosophy of the scientific method. This was the result of his dream of reforming and unifying the sciences. We can also name the well-known Beatles, who auditioned in Decca but were turned down. But now they’re considered as a musical legend.

However, some dreams are far too selfish, rather than beneficial for the common good. At times in pursuing a dream, we forget that there are other people surrounding us who need us. And at times, even these people must be sacrificed for us to pursue a dream. So you want to be a world renowned painter, but you already have a family to feed and the food that must be bought was turned to paint and brush? Maybe it’s about time to reconsider your priorities in life. Just like a painting, it’s not always colorful. You must make alterations.

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Your dream is just a guide.

As we grow older, we develop a deeper thirst and hunger for what we want to become in the near future. Yet, most of the time we are deviated by circumstances that might either make our determination stronger or make us realize that it’s not worth it. The cost of living becomes higher, health risk soars, priorities change and options grow for other ventures. We might not realize it, but at some point we just need to acknowledge that we fell in love with the journey rather than the result. Then surely, your dream was just a guide to something better.

You dream to impress, not to express.

We were rich in innocence when we were young. But now that we are grown-ups, we are measured by our paycheck, our car, our educational background or our status in society. And we can rarely just say that we dream of being a lawyer to defend the poor, not for the money or the title alone. In most cases, why do we want to pursue these sought-after professions? Is it the money? Is it the fame? Or is it really the full realization of our expressed advocacy? Sometimes, wrong choice of underlying motivation can lead us astray.

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We no longer live in a society in which “the dreams that we dare to dream really do come true,” or where “bluebirds fly in the sky, why can’t I?” We are now living in a world where not all dreams are possible, and birds can fly and humans can’t (at least not without help from technology). So don’t expect to fly like a bird, because we have airplanes to do that for us. Wake up!

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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