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Why Dating a Successful Woman is Important to Your Success

Why Dating a Successful Woman is Important to Your Success

Many men are intimidated by strong, successful women because males still think they need to be the head of the household. A lot of men feel a sense of competition with women who are in the workforce, even if they’re in different fields, working in different offices, doing different job duties. This can cause a rift in relationships, because relationships should be nurturing, and both partners should encourage each other in all aspects of life. So guys, instead of being intimidated by successful women, check out these reasons why dating a successful woman is important to your success.

1. She is independent.

Women who have their own career to focus on are independent in all aspects of their lives. They understand when you need to work overtime or, conversely, when you need time to yourself, or time with the guys. Successful women aren’t dependent on you, they don’t always need you around to entertain them or validate them. They have their own careers, their own money, their own friends, and they can manage it all on their own. This makes things even better when you come back together and have that much more to talk about and share.

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2. She can help you make strides in life.

Successful women are eager to move their own lives and careers forward, and they will do the same for you. They’re intent on doing the best the can in every aspect, and they’ll want that same thing for their partner. Smart women can help you brainstorm for work projects and keep you on deadlines. They’ll encourage you in your career because they want an equal partner, but this also transfers to home life. Because both of you are successful, driven, employed adults, you’ll need to split home chores evenly, so she will be able to help you out in that realm as well.

3. She can impress your boss.

The stereotypical dream for guys is to have a wife who doubles as arm candy when you go out. This might impress superficial people, but imagine taking a gorgeous, shallow woman to a work event and introducing her to your boss. He asks her what she does and she can barely form a sentence. She can’t talk about current events over dinner. What if you could have a smart, successful woman, still attractive, of course! (Talk about stereotypes – smart women can and are still beautiful! You don’t have to sacrifice beauty for brains.) Not only is she arm candy, but she’ll impress your boss with her knowledge and personal success, and she’ll be able to talk to your boss’ spouse and help forge a more personal relationship, which will only make you look more appealing and interesting to your boss and coworkers.

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4. You will have more money as a couple.

What’s not to love about dual incomes? A successful woman cares about her job and makes sure she’s getting paid what she’s worth, and will more than likely request raises when she feels it’s time. This means you don’t have to worry about supporting the entire household by yourself. You’ll be able to live on one check for a month, and the other income can be for fun, travel, dinners out, and more! Conversely, you can save more and build a dream house or retire early and see the world.

5. She will appreciate the small things.

Successful women often have to deal with a lot of crap at work. They have a lot of responsibility and work really hard at their duties, so they might be more stressed when they’re home. This means they’ll appreciate the small things you do that much more. Imagine how relieved she’d feel when she comes home and sees dinner on the table, or when you offer to do the dishes before bed! Instead of expecting you to give her the world, a successful woman knows she can provide all of that stuff for herself – so the little things are going to stand out so much more. Be considerate and think of what you can do to make her life a little easier, and you’ll reap the rewards in terms of her love and happiness.

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6. She will help your ego.

Who doesn’t like to brag about their partner! Instead of floundering when someone asks what your other half does, you’ll be able to brag about her job position and how many sales she made last month, or how she’s started changing the company – or started her own company! Instead of having to say your wife spent the day getting a manicure or cleaning up the kids’ rooms, you get to say that your partner accomplished something major at work or closed a big deal. Your partner’s accomplishments will make you look and feel even better because you’re paired with such an amazing person.

7. She will be successful in many different ways.

A woman doesn’t have to just be successful in her career. If she works hard in the office, you can rest assured that she will work that hard at home, too. She’ll be a great wife because she’ll tackle home chores just as she does work duties. She’ll be a great mother because she’ll raise the children to be successful, just like the two of you are. She’ll be great at managing a social life on top of everything because that’s who she is! She’s successful and driven and worth it!

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The Gentle Art of Saying No

The Gentle Art of Saying No

No!

It’s a simple fact that you can never be productive if you take on too many commitments — you simply spread yourself too thin and will not be able to get anything done, at least not well or on time.

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But requests for your time are coming in all the time — through phone, email, IM or in person. To stay productive, and minimize stress, you have to learn the Gentle Art of Saying No — an art that many people have problems with.

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What’s so hard about saying no? Well, to start with, it can hurt, anger or disappoint the person you’re saying “no” to, and that’s not usually a fun task. Second, if you hope to work with that person in the future, you’ll want to continue to have a good relationship with that person, and saying “no” in the wrong way can jeopardize that.

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But it doesn’t have to be difficult or hard on your relationship. Here are the Top 10 tips for learning the Gentle Art of Saying No:

  1. Value your time. Know your commitments, and how valuable your precious time is. Then, when someone asks you to dedicate some of your time to a new commitment, you’ll know that you simply cannot do it. And tell them that: “I just can’t right now … my plate is overloaded as it is.”
  2. Know your priorities. Even if you do have some extra time (which for many of us is rare), is this new commitment really the way you want to spend that time? For myself, I know that more commitments means less time with my wife and kids, who are more important to me than anything.
  3. Practice saying no. Practice makes perfect. Saying “no” as often as you can is a great way to get better at it and more comfortable with saying the word. And sometimes, repeating the word is the only way to get a message through to extremely persistent people. When they keep insisting, just keep saying no. Eventually, they’ll get the message.
  4. Don’t apologize. A common way to start out is “I’m sorry but …” as people think that it sounds more polite. While politeness is important, apologizing just makes it sound weaker. You need to be firm, and unapologetic about guarding your time.
  5. Stop being nice. Again, it’s important to be polite, but being nice by saying yes all the time only hurts you. When you make it easy for people to grab your time (or money), they will continue to do it. But if you erect a wall, they will look for easier targets. Show them that your time is well guarded by being firm and turning down as many requests (that are not on your top priority list) as possible.
  6. Say no to your boss. Sometimes we feel that we have to say yes to our boss — they’re our boss, right? And if we say “no” then we look like we can’t handle the work — at least, that’s the common reasoning. But in fact, it’s the opposite — explain to your boss that by taking on too many commitments, you are weakening your productivity and jeopardizing your existing commitments. If your boss insists that you take on the project, go over your project or task list and ask him/her to re-prioritize, explaining that there’s only so much you can take on at one time.
  7. Pre-empting. It’s often much easier to pre-empt requests than to say “no” to them after the request has been made. If you know that requests are likely to be made, perhaps in a meeting, just say to everyone as soon as you come into the meeting, “Look guys, just to let you know, my week is booked full with some urgent projects and I won’t be able to take on any new requests.”
  8. Get back to you. Instead of providing an answer then and there, it’s often better to tell the person you’ll give their request some thought and get back to them. This will allow you to give it some consideration, and check your commitments and priorities. Then, if you can’t take on the request, simply tell them: “After giving this some thought, and checking my commitments, I won’t be able to accommodate the request at this time.” At least you gave it some consideration.
  9. Maybe later. If this is an option that you’d like to keep open, instead of just shutting the door on the person, it’s often better to just say, “This sounds like an interesting opportunity, but I just don’t have the time at the moment. Perhaps you could check back with me in [give a time frame].” Next time, when they check back with you, you might have some free time on your hands.
  10. It’s not you, it’s me. This classic dating rejection can work in other situations. Don’t be insincere about it, though. Often the person or project is a good one, but it’s just not right for you, at least not at this time. Simply say so — you can compliment the idea, the project, the person, the organization … but say that it’s not the right fit, or it’s not what you’re looking for at this time. Only say this if it’s true — people can sense insincerity.

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