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Why Dating a Successful Woman is Important to Your Success

Why Dating a Successful Woman is Important to Your Success

Many men are intimidated by strong, successful women because males still think they need to be the head of the household. A lot of men feel a sense of competition with women who are in the workforce, even if they’re in different fields, working in different offices, doing different job duties. This can cause a rift in relationships, because relationships should be nurturing, and both partners should encourage each other in all aspects of life. So guys, instead of being intimidated by successful women, check out these reasons why dating a successful woman is important to your success.

1. She is independent.

Women who have their own career to focus on are independent in all aspects of their lives. They understand when you need to work overtime or, conversely, when you need time to yourself, or time with the guys. Successful women aren’t dependent on you, they don’t always need you around to entertain them or validate them. They have their own careers, their own money, their own friends, and they can manage it all on their own. This makes things even better when you come back together and have that much more to talk about and share.

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2. She can help you make strides in life.

Successful women are eager to move their own lives and careers forward, and they will do the same for you. They’re intent on doing the best the can in every aspect, and they’ll want that same thing for their partner. Smart women can help you brainstorm for work projects and keep you on deadlines. They’ll encourage you in your career because they want an equal partner, but this also transfers to home life. Because both of you are successful, driven, employed adults, you’ll need to split home chores evenly, so she will be able to help you out in that realm as well.

3. She can impress your boss.

The stereotypical dream for guys is to have a wife who doubles as arm candy when you go out. This might impress superficial people, but imagine taking a gorgeous, shallow woman to a work event and introducing her to your boss. He asks her what she does and she can barely form a sentence. She can’t talk about current events over dinner. What if you could have a smart, successful woman, still attractive, of course! (Talk about stereotypes – smart women can and are still beautiful! You don’t have to sacrifice beauty for brains.) Not only is she arm candy, but she’ll impress your boss with her knowledge and personal success, and she’ll be able to talk to your boss’ spouse and help forge a more personal relationship, which will only make you look more appealing and interesting to your boss and coworkers.

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4. You will have more money as a couple.

What’s not to love about dual incomes? A successful woman cares about her job and makes sure she’s getting paid what she’s worth, and will more than likely request raises when she feels it’s time. This means you don’t have to worry about supporting the entire household by yourself. You’ll be able to live on one check for a month, and the other income can be for fun, travel, dinners out, and more! Conversely, you can save more and build a dream house or retire early and see the world.

5. She will appreciate the small things.

Successful women often have to deal with a lot of crap at work. They have a lot of responsibility and work really hard at their duties, so they might be more stressed when they’re home. This means they’ll appreciate the small things you do that much more. Imagine how relieved she’d feel when she comes home and sees dinner on the table, or when you offer to do the dishes before bed! Instead of expecting you to give her the world, a successful woman knows she can provide all of that stuff for herself – so the little things are going to stand out so much more. Be considerate and think of what you can do to make her life a little easier, and you’ll reap the rewards in terms of her love and happiness.

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6. She will help your ego.

Who doesn’t like to brag about their partner! Instead of floundering when someone asks what your other half does, you’ll be able to brag about her job position and how many sales she made last month, or how she’s started changing the company – or started her own company! Instead of having to say your wife spent the day getting a manicure or cleaning up the kids’ rooms, you get to say that your partner accomplished something major at work or closed a big deal. Your partner’s accomplishments will make you look and feel even better because you’re paired with such an amazing person.

7. She will be successful in many different ways.

A woman doesn’t have to just be successful in her career. If she works hard in the office, you can rest assured that she will work that hard at home, too. She’ll be a great wife because she’ll tackle home chores just as she does work duties. She’ll be a great mother because she’ll raise the children to be successful, just like the two of you are. She’ll be great at managing a social life on top of everything because that’s who she is! She’s successful and driven and worth it!

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Last Updated on January 16, 2020

12 Simple Ways to Boost Your Confidence Right Now

12 Simple Ways to Boost Your Confidence Right Now

The way you feel about yourself greatly influences how you live and interact with others. If you are confident about yourself, you tend to see yourself positively and actually enjoy spending time with and around people. You don’t feel self-conscious or awkward around others, and that allows you to live your fullest and happiest life.

However, if you’re drowning in a sea of self-doubt, hesitancy and shyness, you often withdraw and isolate yourself from others and avoid interacting and connecting with people. That anxiety you feel in the pit of your stomach when you are around people is holding you back greatly and it is not good for your emotional health and overall well-being. You need to do something about it if you are low in self-confidence or have friends or family members who are not confident.

“Confidence isn’t walking into a room thinking you’re better than everyone, it’s walking in not having to compare yourself to anyone” – Anonymous

Here are simple, practical tips to boost your confidence right now and make you feel and act your best.

1. Stop labeling yourself as awkward, timid or shy.

When you label yourself as awkward, timid or shy, you sub-consciously tell your mind to act accordingly and psychologically feel inclined to live up to those expectations. Instead of labeling and entertaining negative self-talk, visualize and affirm yourself as confident and strong. Close your eyes for a minute and visualize yourself in different situation as you would like to be.

Be your own cheerleader. Experts believe that positive affirmation and good mental practices like picturing yourself winning or achieving a goal can lead to greater feelings of self-assurance and prepare your brain for success.[1] As the saying goes, “seeing is believing.” Picture yourself as confident and soon enough you will begin to manifest behavior that gives evidence to this new ‘fact.’

2. Recognize that the world is not focused on you (unless, of course, you are Kanye West).

That means you don’t have to be excessively sensitive about who you are or what you are doing (or not doing). You are not on the center stage; there is no need for preoccupation with self and perfectionism. As rap music star Rocko sings, “You just do you and I will do me, aight?”

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Forget about trying to please everyone or being perfect. Trying to be perfect and being a people-pleaser puts too much pressure on you and creates unnecessary anxiety. Besides, people are too preoccupied with their own issues to pay much attention to your every move unless, of course, you are a mega famous, super celebrity like Beyonce or Kanye West.

3. Focus on other people as opposed to yourself.

If you are low on confidence, self-conscious, nervous and shy in social situations, focus your attention on other people and what they are saying or doing instead of focusing on your own awkwardness.

For example, think about what it is that is interesting about the person who’s the centre of the party or the guy or girl you are talking with. Prompt them to talk more about themselves and be genuinely curious and interested in what they say. You will instantly come across as confident and warmhearted.

People generally want to talk about themselves, be heard and understood. They will love it when you’re eager and willing to listen to them and really hear what they have to say.

This habit of focusing more on what you love in others as opposed to what you dislike in yourself will not only help you become more assertive and comfortable in virtually all social situations, but also instantly make you feel great about yourself.

4. Know (and accept) yourself for who you are.

Chinese military general, strategist and philosopher Sun Tzu, author of the internationally acclaimed book The Art of War, said, “Know yourself and you will win all battles.” Even in the battle with lack of confidence, you will need to know yourself to win.

Knowing yourself starts with understanding that people are not all the same, neither are all social situation suitable for everyone. You might not be confident in large gatherings, but you could be bold and confident in one-on-one and small group interactions. We all have our own unique gifts and unique ways of expressing ourselves. Embrace yours!

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Introverts, for example, have a quiet confidence that is, unfortunately, often confused for shyness. They are naturally low key and prefer to spend time alone. However, this natural disposition affords them certain unique gifts, such as an ability to listen better than most people and notice things that others don’t.

Your uniqueness is where your strength and advantage lies. You won’t be comfortable and confident in all situations all the time. Albert Einstein said,

“Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”

5. Crack a smile.

If there is one sure way to instantly boost your confidence, it’s cracking a smile. Christine Clapp, a public speaking expert at The George Washington University, says that flashing those pretty, pearly white teeth will immediately make you appear both confident and composed. But, the effect of smiling is not just external. Studies show that smiling can also help nix feelings of stress and pave the way for a happier and more relaxed you.[2]

Not a bad return for something seemingly so trite, wouldn’t you agree?

6. Break a sweat—with exercise.

Working out is another great way to make yourself feel amazing and confident. Science has shown that exercising increases your endorphins, helps reduce stress, tones your muscles and makes you feel happy and confident.[3]

And hey, all you have to do is take a walk a few times a week and you’ll see the benefits. What seems to matter—as far as your confidence goes—is whether you break a sweat, not how strenuous your session is, which is pretty cool. Start working out now.

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7. Groom yourself.

This might seem mundane, but it’s amazing how much of a difference a shower and shave can have on your confidence and self-image. And when you spritz on a scent, the boost on confidence and self-esteem is incredible. As it turns out, your favorite fragrance does more than make you smell oh-so-nice.

A study found that a fragrance can inspire confidence in men. Interestingly, the study also found that the more a man likes the fragrance, the more confident he might feel. Another study found that 90% of women feel more confident while wearing a scent than those who go fragrance-free.

8. Dress nicely.

Another one that might seem trite, but it works. If you dress nicely, you’ll instantly feel good about yourself and give your confidence a real boost. That is largely because you’ll feel attractive, presentable and sometimes even successful in nice clothes.

While dressing nicely means something different for everyone, it does not necessarily mean wearing $500 designer outfits. It means wearing clothes that are clean, that you are comfortable in and that are nice-looking and presentable, including casual clothes.

9. Do activities you enjoy.

Whether it is reading a book, playing a musical instrument, riding your bicycle or going fishing, do what you really enjoy and what makes you truly happy often. It will boost your self-esteem, soothe your ego and allow you to identify with your gifts and talents. That will in turn bolster your self-belief and grow your confidence exponentially.

You might not become popular for doing what you love, but you might not even want to be popular at all. Being popular doesn’t make you happy; doing what you love does.

10. Prepare for the possibility of rejection / setback.

Late World No. 1 professional tennis player Arthur Ashe said, “One important key to success is self-confidence. A key to self-confidence is preparation.” You need to prepare for the possibility of rejection and setback.

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Why?

Everybody suffers rejection and setback at one point or another. You are not exempted. The question on your mind, therefore, should not be if you will be rejected, but how you will handle rejection when it comes.

Prepare yourself adequately in every situation to minimize the risk and effect of rejection and so that your confidence is not broken. For example, learn public speaking and rehearse what you are going to say beforehand if you have landed a public speaking engagement. That way, you are sure of yourself and confident you have what it takes to hack it. If you are rejected, don’t take it personally.

Rejection and setbacks happen to the best of us. Take it as a learning experience. Learn from your mistakes and move on.

11. Face uncomfortable situations square in the face.

Don’t run away from uncomfortable situations. Running away from people or situations because you feel scared, shy or timid only confirms and reinforces your shyness. Instead, face the situation that makes you uneasy square in the face. For example, go ahead and talk to that person you are afraid to approach, or go straight to the front of your yoga class! What’s the worst that can happen?

Prepare and be ready for any eventuality. The more you face your fears, the more you realize you are stronger than you thought and the more confident you get. This simple, yet admittedly courageous, act makes you unstoppable. You get comfortable being uncomfortable and begin to feel like you can take on the world. And that is the hallmark of someone destined for great things.

12. Sit up straight and walk tall—you are awesome!

Yes, sit up straight and believe you are awesome. Don’t slump in your chair or slouch your shoulders. Experts say the right stance can not only keep your self-esteem and mood lifted, but also lead to more confidence in your own thoughts.[4]

The way to sit is to open up your chest and keep your head level so that you look and feel poised and assured. And when you get up, stand tall and walk like you’re on a mission. People who sit up straight and walk tall are more attractive and instantly feel more confident. Try it now: you’ll feel fierce and confident just by sitting up straight and walking tall.

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