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Why Dating a Successful Woman is Important to Your Success

Why Dating a Successful Woman is Important to Your Success

Many men are intimidated by strong, successful women because males still think they need to be the head of the household. A lot of men feel a sense of competition with women who are in the workforce, even if they’re in different fields, working in different offices, doing different job duties. This can cause a rift in relationships, because relationships should be nurturing, and both partners should encourage each other in all aspects of life. So guys, instead of being intimidated by successful women, check out these reasons why dating a successful woman is important to your success.

1. She is independent.

Women who have their own career to focus on are independent in all aspects of their lives. They understand when you need to work overtime or, conversely, when you need time to yourself, or time with the guys. Successful women aren’t dependent on you, they don’t always need you around to entertain them or validate them. They have their own careers, their own money, their own friends, and they can manage it all on their own. This makes things even better when you come back together and have that much more to talk about and share.

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2. She can help you make strides in life.

Successful women are eager to move their own lives and careers forward, and they will do the same for you. They’re intent on doing the best the can in every aspect, and they’ll want that same thing for their partner. Smart women can help you brainstorm for work projects and keep you on deadlines. They’ll encourage you in your career because they want an equal partner, but this also transfers to home life. Because both of you are successful, driven, employed adults, you’ll need to split home chores evenly, so she will be able to help you out in that realm as well.

3. She can impress your boss.

The stereotypical dream for guys is to have a wife who doubles as arm candy when you go out. This might impress superficial people, but imagine taking a gorgeous, shallow woman to a work event and introducing her to your boss. He asks her what she does and she can barely form a sentence. She can’t talk about current events over dinner. What if you could have a smart, successful woman, still attractive, of course! (Talk about stereotypes – smart women can and are still beautiful! You don’t have to sacrifice beauty for brains.) Not only is she arm candy, but she’ll impress your boss with her knowledge and personal success, and she’ll be able to talk to your boss’ spouse and help forge a more personal relationship, which will only make you look more appealing and interesting to your boss and coworkers.

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4. You will have more money as a couple.

What’s not to love about dual incomes? A successful woman cares about her job and makes sure she’s getting paid what she’s worth, and will more than likely request raises when she feels it’s time. This means you don’t have to worry about supporting the entire household by yourself. You’ll be able to live on one check for a month, and the other income can be for fun, travel, dinners out, and more! Conversely, you can save more and build a dream house or retire early and see the world.

5. She will appreciate the small things.

Successful women often have to deal with a lot of crap at work. They have a lot of responsibility and work really hard at their duties, so they might be more stressed when they’re home. This means they’ll appreciate the small things you do that much more. Imagine how relieved she’d feel when she comes home and sees dinner on the table, or when you offer to do the dishes before bed! Instead of expecting you to give her the world, a successful woman knows she can provide all of that stuff for herself – so the little things are going to stand out so much more. Be considerate and think of what you can do to make her life a little easier, and you’ll reap the rewards in terms of her love and happiness.

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6. She will help your ego.

Who doesn’t like to brag about their partner! Instead of floundering when someone asks what your other half does, you’ll be able to brag about her job position and how many sales she made last month, or how she’s started changing the company – or started her own company! Instead of having to say your wife spent the day getting a manicure or cleaning up the kids’ rooms, you get to say that your partner accomplished something major at work or closed a big deal. Your partner’s accomplishments will make you look and feel even better because you’re paired with such an amazing person.

7. She will be successful in many different ways.

A woman doesn’t have to just be successful in her career. If she works hard in the office, you can rest assured that she will work that hard at home, too. She’ll be a great wife because she’ll tackle home chores just as she does work duties. She’ll be a great mother because she’ll raise the children to be successful, just like the two of you are. She’ll be great at managing a social life on top of everything because that’s who she is! She’s successful and driven and worth it!

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Last Updated on January 15, 2021

7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

The popular idiomatic saying that “actions speak louder than words” has been around for centuries, but even to this day, most people struggle with at least one area of nonverbal communication. Consequently, many of us aspire to have more confident body language but don’t have the knowledge and tools necessary to change what are largely unconscious behaviors.

Given that others’ perceptions of our competence and confidence are predominantly influenced by what we do with our faces and bodies, it’s important to develop greater self-awareness and consciously practice better posture, stance, eye contact, facial expressions, hand movements, and other aspects of body language.

Posture

First things first: how is your posture? Let’s start with a quick self-assessment of your body.

  • Are your shoulders slumped over or rolled back in an upright posture?
  • When you stand up, do you evenly distribute your weight or lean excessively to one side?
  • Does your natural stance place your feet relatively shoulder-width apart or are your feet and legs close together in a closed-off position?
  • When you sit, does your lower back protrude out in a slumped position or maintain a straight, spine-friendly posture in your seat?

All of these are important considerations to make when evaluating and improving your posture and stance, which will lead to more confident body language over time. If you routinely struggle with maintaining good posture, consider buying a posture trainer/corrector, consulting a chiropractor or physical therapist, stretching daily, and strengthening both your core and back muscles.

Facial Expressions

Are you prone to any of the following in personal or professional settings?

  • Bruxism (tight, clenched jaw or grinding teeth)
  • Frowning and/or furrowing brows
  • Avoiding direct eye contact and/or staring at the ground

If you answered “yes” to any of these, then let’s start by examining various ways in which you can project confident body language through your facial expressions.

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1. Understand How Others Perceive Your Facial Expressions

A December 2020 study by UC Berkeley and Google researchers utilized a deep neural network to analyze facial expressions in six million YouTube clips representing people from over 140 countries. The study found that, despite socio-cultural differences, people around the world tended to use about 70% of the same facial expressions in response to different emotional stimuli and situations.[1]

The study’s researchers also published a fascinating interactive map to demonstrate how their machine learning technology assessed various facial expressions and determined subtle differences in emotional responses.

This study highlights the social importance of facial expressions because whether or not we’re consciously aware of them—by gazing into a mirror or your screen on a video conferencing platform—how we present our faces to others can have tremendous impacts on their perceptions of us, our confidence, and our emotional states. This awareness is the essential first step towards

2. Relax Your Face

New research on bruxism and facial tension found the stresses and anxieties of Covid-19 lockdowns led to considerable increases in orofacial pain, jaw-clenching, and teeth grinding, particularly among women.[2]

The National Institute of Dental and Craniofacial Research estimates that more than 10 million Americans alone have temporomandibular joint dysfunction (TMJ syndrome), and facial tension can lead to other complications such as insomnia, wrinkles, dry skin, and dark, puffy bags under your eyes.[3])

To avoid these unpleasant outcomes, start practicing progressive muscle relaxation techniques and taking breaks more frequently throughout the day to moderate facial tension.[4] You should also try out some biofeedback techniques to enhance your awareness of involuntary bodily processes like facial tension and achieve more confident body language as a result.[5]

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3. Improve Your Eye Contact

Did you know there’s an entire subfield of kinesic communication research dedicated to eye movements and behaviors called oculesics?[6] It refers to various communication behaviors including direct eye contact, averting one’s gaze, pupil dilation/constriction, and even frequency of blinking. All of these qualities can shape how other people perceive you, which means that eye contact is yet another area of nonverbal body language that we should be more mindful of in social interactions.

The ideal type (direct/indirect) and duration of eye contact depends on a variety of factors, such as cultural setting, differences in power/authority/age between the parties involved, and communication context. Research has shown that differences in the effects of eye contact are particularly prominent when comparing East Asian and Western European/North American cultures.[7]

To improve your eye contact with others, strive to maintain consistent contact for at least 3 to 4 seconds at a time, consciously consider where you’re looking while listening to someone else, and practice eye contact as much as possible (as strange as this may seem in the beginning, it’s the best way to improve).

3. Smile More

There are many benefits to smiling and laughing, and when it comes to working on more confident body language, this is an area that should be fun, low-stakes, and relatively stress-free.

Smiling is associated with the “happiness chemical” dopamine and the mood-stabilizing hormone, serotonin. Many empirical studies have shown that smiling generally leads to positive outcomes for the person smiling, and further research has shown that smiling can influence listeners’ perceptions of our confidence and trustworthiness as well.

4. Hand Gestures

Similar to facial expressions and posture, what you do with your hands while speaking or listening in a conversation can significantly influence others’ perceptions of you in positive or negative ways.

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It’s undoubtedly challenging to consciously account for all of your nonverbal signals while simultaneously trying to stay engaged with the verbal part of the discussion, but putting in the effort to develop more bodily awareness now will make it much easier to unconsciously project more confident body language later on.

5. Enhance Your Handshake

In the article, “An Anthropology of the Handshake,” University of Copenhagen social anthropology professor Bjarke Oxlund assessed the future of handshaking in wake of the Covid-19 pandemic:[8]

“Handshakes not only vary in function and meaning but do so according to social context, situation and scale. . . a public discussion should ensue on the advantages and disadvantages of holding on to the tradition of shaking hands as the conventional gesture of greeting and leave-taking in a variety of circumstances.”

It’s too early to determine some of the ways in which Covid-19 has permanently changed our social norms and professional etiquette standards, but it’s reasonable to assume that handshaking may retain its importance in American society even after this pandemic. To practice more confident body language in the meantime, the video on the science of the perfect handshake below explains what you need to know.

6. Complement Your Verbals With Hand Gestures

As you know by now, confident communication involves so much more than simply smiling more or sounding like you know what you’re talking about. What you do with your hands can be particularly influential in how others perceive you, whether you’re fidgeting with an object, clenching your fists, hiding your hands in your pockets, or calmly gesturing to emphasize important points you’re discussing.

Social psychology researchers have found that “iconic gestures”—hand movements that appear to be meaningfully related to the speaker’s verbal content—can have profound impacts on listeners’ information retention. In other words, people are more likely to engage with you and remember more of what you said when you speak with complementary hand gestures instead of just your voice.[9]

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Further research on hand gestures has shown that even your choice of the left or right hand for gesturing can influence your ability to clearly convey information to listeners, which supports the notion that more confident body language is readily achievable through greater self-awareness and deliberate nonverbal actions.[10]

Final Takeaways

Developing better posture, enhancing your facial expressiveness, and practicing hand gestures can vastly improve your communication with other people. At first, it will be challenging to consciously practice nonverbal behaviors that many of us are accustomed to performing daily without thinking about them.

If you ever feel discouraged, however, remember that there’s no downside to consistently putting in just a little more time and effort to increase your bodily awareness. With the tips and strategies above, you’ll be well on your way to embracing more confident body language and amplifying others’ perceptions of you in no time.

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