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Why Being Single Is Better Than Being With the Wrong Person

Why Being Single Is Better Than Being With the Wrong Person

A relationship is like a tree, it needs to planted and cultivated. It takes time, energy, resources and attention. It also takes the commitment of the two individuals involved to make it grow. It hurts when a relationship is not going in the right direction and that is why being single and loving yourself sometimes makes you happy. Because at the end of the day we really want to be understood and appreciated. This is why it is important to be in a relationship only for the right reasons.

1. You don’t wallow in regrets

Being with the wrong person means you are trying to please and give to someone who doesn’t understand the depth of your emotions. You have to offer your emotions to the right one. At the end of the day you feel contented that you have fulfilled nature’s cause. Living with the regrets of “what ifs,” “how come,” “what went wrong,” only builds into disappointment, anger and revenge.

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2. You deserve to be happy

Being happy is a right we should all have as a given. So why spoil it by showering the wrong person with affection? When you’re single you are able to identify your priorities and pursue those things that really make you happy. You will be able to spend time with people who understand and care about you. Focus on discovering where to invest your energy.

3. Your life is too short

If only we had all the time in the world, we could explore a singular option for so many years! But we do not have the splendor of enough time. It is important to explore and reach out to people and things that would give our life a meaning. The wrong person won’t, so why waste your time and theirs?

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4. You are not awkward at showing your love

Even when showing or displaying your affection results in you coming off stupidly, you should have someone who loves you in return and appreciates such a stupid gesture. You don’t deserve to be disrespected or ill-treated for your remarkable feeling. Nothing should ever be awkward about loving someone.

5. You don’t deserve to be broken

We know how that feeling is like, shutting ourselves indoors and lamenting over our loss. Perhaps we believed he or she would have been the perfect match and it just didn’t happen? When you are single you have control over your emotions, you can manage your situations alone and somehow you are detached and unbroken. Because of this stability you become a pillar of support not only to yourself but also to others.

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6. You have your self-esteem

Hurt disappointment and anger doesn’t build confidence or self-esteem. Your self-esteem is built upon being in perfect relationships. Why compromise your self-worth or self-esteem for someone who is not deserving of it? Perhaps looking inwards at those relationships that count should be a priority rather than offering it all to someone who doesn’t desire it. You should keep only a relationship that credits you rather than discredit you.

7. You experience freedom

Freedom is a rare commodity and an asset – not everyone has it. Negative circumstances like being in a wrong relationship stifle and deter you from being at your best. You should eat when you want, you should be able to create your own schedule and hang out when you feel like it. Your happiness should be controlled and determined by you and not someone else.

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Being alone and loving yourself is one of the most remarkable relationships there can be. You value, discover and learn to adore yourself. These elements are significant to your growth as an individual. Maybe you have to be selfish to attain this growth, but along the way you will find out that it is necessary to validate your relationship status… And that should ONLY be with the right person.

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Casey Imafidon

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Last Updated on April 8, 2020

11 Things Overachievers Do Differently

11 Things Overachievers Do Differently

We all know some overachievers: supermoms who manage to get online degrees between cleaning, cooking, and taking kids to practice; students who write 10-page papers when the directions call for 4; managers whose resumes look more like pages from the Guinness book of Records.

How do they do it all? How is it possible that one person can graduate at the top of their class, found an orphanage in India, run 30k marathons, write a best-selling book, travel all over the world and learn to speak Mandarin Chinese while having a full-time job?

What’s the secret of an overachiever? Here’re 11 things overachievers do differently that you can learn from.

1. They Know How to Manage Their Time

It’s pretty simple actually – you can never become an overachiever if you don’t know how to organize your time efficiently.

The great thing is that overachievers are ready to share their knowledge and time management talent with the rest of the world. Read The 4-Hour Workweek or The 4-Hour Body by Timothy Ferriss, and you’ll know what I’m talking about.

2. They Don’t Spend Hours Watching TV or Playing Computer Games

Mostly because they have better things to do, like exercising, reading, spending an evening with their family or volunteering to work in the local soup kitchen. Their philosophy is simple – the world is full of wonderful things to try, explore and experience. Watching TV is not one of them.

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3. They Are Obsessed With Perfection

Imagine Steve Jobs’ work approach and you’ll understand the level of perfection and painfully high standards that overachievers set for themselves and those around them. Often it pays off (especially if they focus on just one domain). But sometimes compulsive over-striving turns into a sure-fire road to disappointments and unfinished tasks.

Learn how to strike a balance: How Not to Let Perfectionism Secretly Screw You Up

4. They Know How To Inspire

Overachievers learn quickly that it is much easier to achieve goals through collaboration (and especially delegation). So they know how to inspire, encourage, persuade and motivate people around them. Even though they often drive their team crazy with their stubbornness and perfectionism, people quickly follow under the spell of their enthusiasm and greater vision.

Learn these 10 Powerful Ways to Influence People Positively.

5. They Set Clear Goals

The term “overachiever” itself implies that they know how to achieve goals. That is kind of hard to do if your goals are vague, unclear and lack specific deadline, which is why overachievers educate themselves, read goal-setting books, and think about the best way to approach a new task.

Although, it’s worth mentioning that overachievers usually use their time management and goal-setting skills towards competitive, “I want to kick butt” type of goals rather than self-improvement, mastery goals.

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Take a look at these tips to help you set clearer goals: What Are SMART Goals (And How to Use Them to Become Successful)

6. They Are Organized

It’s hard to imagine a disorganized overachiever, isn’t it? Their great organizational and planning skills usually serve three main purposes: keeping track of time, keeping track of progress and keeping track of achievements.

This hasn’t been confirmed by scientific research yet, but overachievers might actually get a “runner’s high” from crossing tasks off their to-do lists, and making new to-do lists.

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7. They Try to Avoid Failure at All Costs

Some psychologists believe that overachievers place their self-worth on their competence, driven by an underlying fear of failure. Rather than setting and striving for goals based on a pure desire to achieve, their core motivation becomes avoiding failure. This may explain the fact that overachiever beat themselves up for even little setbacks and seemingly-insignificant mistakes.

But be aware that having a strong fear of failure can wrek havoc your productivity. So the best thing to do? Learn to conquer the fear: Why You Have the Fear of Failure (And How to Conquer It)

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8. They Love Awards

Who doesn’t love them, right? True enough, but unlike most people who like to feel acknowledged and appreciated for their efforts, overachievers are bent on collecting ‘awards’, be it university degrees, spelling bee prizes or unusual destinations.

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9. They Don’t Understand the Concept of Work Hours

Don’t get surprised if you receive a work-related email anywhere between 8 p.m. and midnight. It’s something overachievers usually do and you weren’t the only one. At least 20 more emails have been sent during these hours to other people. The concepts of over-achieving and working overtime usually go hand in hand.

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10. They Rest

Overachievers might often be labeled as “workaholics”, because they often ignore bodily signs of hunger, fatigue and even a full bladder, hoping to finish just one last little part. This doesn’t mean that overachievers don’t know how to disconnect and relax.

True that they tend to work in the highest gear, but they also have enough sense to give themselves time to rest and recharge. Of course, they do it in their own overachieving way, preferring climbing Mount Kilimanjaro or hiking through the Amazon jungle to lazing on the beach.

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11. Overachievers Continuously Educate Themselves

A great quality that most overachievers have is the hunger for knowledge. They surround themselves with bright people. They know how to listen, and most importantly, they get tons of mentoring.

Despite the fact that overachievers want to excel at everything they set their minds on, they are humble enough to admit that to get on top of their game, they need help. And they are willing to pay someone to push, coach and guide them.

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