A relationship is like a tree, it needs to planted and cultivated. It takes time, energy, resources and attention. It also takes the commitment of the two individuals involved to make it grow. It hurts when a relationship is not going in the right direction and that is why being single and loving yourself sometimes makes you happy. Because at the end of the day we really want to be understood and appreciated. This is why it is important to be in a relationship only for the right reasons.
1. You don’t wallow in regrets
Being with the wrong person means you are trying to please and give to someone who doesn’t understand the depth of your emotions. You have to offer your emotions to the right one. At the end of the day you feel contented that you have fulfilled nature’s cause. Living with the regrets of “what ifs,” “how come,” “what went wrong,” only builds into disappointment, anger and revenge.
2. You deserve to be happy
Being happy is a right we should all have as a given. So why spoil it by showering the wrong person with affection? When you’re single you are able to identify your priorities and pursue those things that really make you happy. You will be able to spend time with people who understand and care about you. Focus on discovering where to invest your energy.
3. Your life is too short
If only we had all the time in the world, we could explore a singular option for so many years! But we do not have the splendor of enough time. It is important to explore and reach out to people and things that would give our life a meaning. The wrong person won’t, so why waste your time and theirs?
4. You are not awkward at showing your love
Even when showing or displaying your affection results in you coming off stupidly, you should have someone who loves you in return and appreciates such a stupid gesture. You don’t deserve to be disrespected or ill-treated for your remarkable feeling. Nothing should ever be awkward about loving someone.
5. You don’t deserve to be broken
We know how that feeling is like, shutting ourselves indoors and lamenting over our loss. Perhaps we believed he or she would have been the perfect match and it just didn’t happen? When you are single you have control over your emotions, you can manage your situations alone and somehow you are detached and unbroken. Because of this stability you become a pillar of support not only to yourself but also to others.
6. You have your self-esteem
Hurt disappointment and anger doesn’t build confidence or self-esteem. Your self-esteem is built upon being in perfect relationships. Why compromise your self-worth or self-esteem for someone who is not deserving of it? Perhaps looking inwards at those relationships that count should be a priority rather than offering it all to someone who doesn’t desire it. You should keep only a relationship that credits you rather than discredit you.
7. You experience freedom
Freedom is a rare commodity and an asset – not everyone has it. Negative circumstances like being in a wrong relationship stifle and deter you from being at your best. You should eat when you want, you should be able to create your own schedule and hang out when you feel like it. Your happiness should be controlled and determined by you and not someone else.
Being alone and loving yourself is one of the most remarkable relationships there can be. You value, discover and learn to adore yourself. These elements are significant to your growth as an individual. Maybe you have to be selfish to attain this growth, but along the way you will find out that it is necessary to validate your relationship status… And that should ONLY be with the right person.
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