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Why Being Single Is Better Than Being With the Wrong Person

Why Being Single Is Better Than Being With the Wrong Person

A relationship is like a tree, it needs to planted and cultivated. It takes time, energy, resources and attention. It also takes the commitment of the two individuals involved to make it grow. It hurts when a relationship is not going in the right direction and that is why being single and loving yourself sometimes makes you happy. Because at the end of the day we really want to be understood and appreciated. This is why it is important to be in a relationship only for the right reasons.

1. You don’t wallow in regrets

Being with the wrong person means you are trying to please and give to someone who doesn’t understand the depth of your emotions. You have to offer your emotions to the right one. At the end of the day you feel contented that you have fulfilled nature’s cause. Living with the regrets of “what ifs,” “how come,” “what went wrong,” only builds into disappointment, anger and revenge.

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2. You deserve to be happy

Being happy is a right we should all have as a given. So why spoil it by showering the wrong person with affection? When you’re single you are able to identify your priorities and pursue those things that really make you happy. You will be able to spend time with people who understand and care about you. Focus on discovering where to invest your energy.

3. Your life is too short

If only we had all the time in the world, we could explore a singular option for so many years! But we do not have the splendor of enough time. It is important to explore and reach out to people and things that would give our life a meaning. The wrong person won’t, so why waste your time and theirs?

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4. You are not awkward at showing your love

Even when showing or displaying your affection results in you coming off stupidly, you should have someone who loves you in return and appreciates such a stupid gesture. You don’t deserve to be disrespected or ill-treated for your remarkable feeling. Nothing should ever be awkward about loving someone.

5. You don’t deserve to be broken

We know how that feeling is like, shutting ourselves indoors and lamenting over our loss. Perhaps we believed he or she would have been the perfect match and it just didn’t happen? When you are single you have control over your emotions, you can manage your situations alone and somehow you are detached and unbroken. Because of this stability you become a pillar of support not only to yourself but also to others.

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6. You have your self-esteem

Hurt disappointment and anger doesn’t build confidence or self-esteem. Your self-esteem is built upon being in perfect relationships. Why compromise your self-worth or self-esteem for someone who is not deserving of it? Perhaps looking inwards at those relationships that count should be a priority rather than offering it all to someone who doesn’t desire it. You should keep only a relationship that credits you rather than discredit you.

7. You experience freedom

Freedom is a rare commodity and an asset – not everyone has it. Negative circumstances like being in a wrong relationship stifle and deter you from being at your best. You should eat when you want, you should be able to create your own schedule and hang out when you feel like it. Your happiness should be controlled and determined by you and not someone else.

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Being alone and loving yourself is one of the most remarkable relationships there can be. You value, discover and learn to adore yourself. These elements are significant to your growth as an individual. Maybe you have to be selfish to attain this growth, but along the way you will find out that it is necessary to validate your relationship status… And that should ONLY be with the right person.

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Last Updated on June 26, 2020

10 Things To Remember When Everything Goes Wrong

10 Things To Remember When Everything Goes Wrong

Problems and heartaches in life are inevitable. However, there are some things to remember when you’re right in the thick of it that can help you get through it. When everything seems to be going wrong, practice telling yourself these things.

1. This Too Shall Pass

Sometimes life’s rough patches feel like they’re going to last forever. Whether you’re dealing with work-related issues, family problems, or stressful situations, very few problems last for a lifetime. So remind yourself, that things won’t be this bad forever.

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2. Some Things are Going Right

When things are going wrong, it’s hard to recognize what is going right. It’s easy to screen out the good things and only focus on the bad things. Remind yourself that some things are going right. Purposely look for the positive, even if it is something very small.

3. I Have Some Control

One of the most most important things to remember is that you have some control of the situation. Even if you aren’t in complete control of the situation, one thing you can always control is your attitude and reaction. Focus on managing what is within your control.

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4. I Can Ask for Help

Asking for help can be hard sometimes. However, it’s one of the best ways to deal with tough situations. Tell people what you need specifically if they offer to help. Don’t be afraid to call on friends and family and ask them for help, whether you need financial assistance, emotional support, or practical help.

5. Much of This Won’t Matter in a Few Years

Most of the problems we worry about today won’t actually matter five years from now. Remind yourself that whatever is going wrong now is only a small percentage of your actual life. Even if you’re dealing with a major problem, like a loved one’s illness, remember that a lot of good things are likely to happen in the course of a year or two as well.

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6. I Can Handle This

A lack of confidence in handling tough times can add to stress. One of the best things to remember is that you can handle tough situations. Even though you might feel angry, hurt, disappointed, or sad, it won’t kill you. You can get through it.

7. Something Good Will Come Out of This

No matter how bad a situation is, it’s almost certain that something good will come out of it. At the very least, it’s likely that you will learn a life lesson. Perhaps you learn not to repeat the same mistake in the future or maybe you move on from a bad situation and find something better. Look for the one good thing that can result when bad things happen.

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8. I Can Accept What’s Out of my Control

There are many things that aren’t within your control. You can’t change the past, another person’s behavior, or a loved one’s health issues. Don’t waste time trying to force others to change or trying to make things be different if it isn’t within your control. Investing time and energy into trying to things you can’t will cause you to feel helpless and exhausted. Acceptance is one of the best way to establish resilience.

9. I Have Overcome Past Difficulties

One of the things to remember when you’re facing difficulties, is that you’ve handled problems in the past. Don’t overlook past difficulties that you’ve dealt with successfully. Remind yourself of all the past problems you’ve overcome and you’ll gain confidence in dealing with the current issues.

10. I Need to Take Care of Myself

When everything seems to be going wrong, take care of yourself. Get plenty of rest, get some exercise, eat healthy, and spend some time doing leisure activities. When you’re taking better care of yourself you’ll be better equipped to deal with your problems.

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