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When You’re A Daddy’s Girl, These 10 Amazing Things Happen

When You’re A Daddy’s Girl, These 10 Amazing Things Happen

Each relationship we have in life has its own joy. Each relationship needs a different perspective. The father-daughter relationship has always been a special one. When a girl is born, its her daddy who is the first one to promise to protect her like a princess. That protection and care itself is named, as we all know, love. For every girl, her daddy is the first man who she observes closely – how he eats, how he lives, how he thinks, how he speaks – everything is seen by her, and, in fact, for most girls an ideal life partner is similar to her father. Hence Being a daddy’s girl impacts her life and decisions. A strong daughter-daddy bond has a very positive impact. It completes her life in a very beautifully pure and lovely way.

To the Daddies: Read further to know how much your little daughter needs you,

To the Daughters: Read further , just to learn about the amazing things that have happened and will happen when you are a Daddy’s girl.

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    1. You will know that someone has and will always care about you

    He was waiting for your eyes to open for the first time. He was waiting for you to learn to walk. He listened to “what happened at school.” There is this one man on earth who has always seen you with caring eyes. He took you to school and waited an hour longer, just to see you and make sure you were enjoying it there. He has always made you his smiling sweet princess, and you have every right to proudly enjoy that “Princess Attitude.”

    2. You will cherish that someone has always worked hard to get you the best life

    Just to ensure that you got to go to a better school and got the best education possible, he worked a little longer than others in the office. Just to ensure that you became a peace loving happy person, he gave up his “angry young man” image after becoming your daddy. Just to see you smile, he gave a special birthday surprise to you, every year. To allow you to see the world, he planned and paid for family trips.

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    3. You have the faith that someone will always support you, no matter what you do

    When you are a daddy’s girl, you know that he loves you and will always be there with you – to support you, to strengthen you, to make you strong. You will become fearless, because you can make your own decisions and stand by them. If you succeed you celebrate, and if you fail, you learn a lesson. Whether in celebration or contemplation, in both times, you have your daddy with you.

    4. You will clearly understand what personality traits you want in your future husband

    After seeing her caring daddy, who is a family man, who has spent his life structuring the family and ensuring their protection, the little daughter knows what love and care is. Being a daddy’s girl will make you realize that how a man makes you feel is much more important than the gifts and the flowery words. Being a daddy’s girl comes with a smaller chance of choosing the wrong guy. You will know what it actually means to be like a princess in someone’s world

    5. You will agree that your dad has the insight to deny/accept your choice guy

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      Love is blind. If you are an independent strong lady, you have all the rights to choose your guy. But, you owe a lot to your dad, who gave you that strength and independence in your life. He provided you with all the basic needs, showed you the dreams and gave you the sky to fly in. So, being a daddy’s girl you will seek his advice before tying the knot. Since your dad knows you and your expectations, a daddy’s girl will recognize that he should be allowed to ensure that you are with the right guy.

      6. You will be strong and won’t cry as easily because someone hates to see you cry

      You lost the championship or did not do well at the office or made a bad career choice.  Whatever happens, you will be strong. You may drop a tear, but you won’t allow that sadness to dwell in you. The reason is that you have your daddy, your strengthening  support who tells you, “come on my darling, be strong and fight once more, with all your courage; life is a big game of many small events”.

      7. You will be smart enough to distinguish between fake and real relationships

      Since childhood, you have known what it feels like to be cared for and loved. You can identify that “touch of love and care.” You can see it in the eyes of someone. You can feel it. It doesn’t matter to you how the person is. You have developed that ability to distinguish between real and fake relationships, whether it is friendship or romantic relationship. Gifts can’t impress you, only a true person can. The credit for this emotional intelligence goes to your daddy for his selfless love. Also, kudos to you for being a daddy’s girl!

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      8. You will know what it means to be loved and accepted for who you are, just the way you are

      The best part of being a daddy’s girl is you know you are the best version of yourself. No matter how you look or what you achieve/don’t achieve in life, you know you are a very special person to someone and you are truly loved and needed in his life. You know that even after fighting with him every day for your “bad girl” habits, he loves you and still checks in every night to see if you have slept and waits every morning for you at the breakfast table. He may scold you, cut still makes you believe that you are his priceless daughter.

      9. You will know that a gardening project or cycling trip (with your Daddy), which makes you look dirty, is worthy

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        We all know that sharing is caring. Spending time together is the best way to strengthen the daughter-daddy relationship. Being a daddy’s girl, you don’t mind trying gardening/cycling with him, even after the manicure/pedicure you just received the day before. I too love connecting with my dad and visit the local market with him. Seeing him choose the fresh fruits/vegetables and buying from his favorite shopkeepers is a treat. These shopkeepers are his favorite because they are honest and help him in making a wise choice. Just like he taught me.

        10. You will share the same basic life principles as your daddy

        Last, but not the least, by being a daddy’s girl you will realize you have picked up his passions or habits while growing up. You will find that the two of you live by the same basic principles. You may have a different outlook or different opinions because of the prevailing generation gap, but you both are bounded by the same philosophy of life.

        It was recently that I realized that I have a tendency to want to experience life, an eagerness to help others, an urge to travel and spend money on experiences rather than buying stuff. I got all of this from my dad. It was this that made me realize I must write about the amazing things of being a Daddy’s girl. Maybe I have missed some points. You, daughters and daddies, are most welcome to comment about it below!

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        Published on April 7, 2021

        6 Signs Of A Controlling Person To Be Aware Of

        6 Signs Of A Controlling Person To Be Aware Of

        Some of the most manipulative people are so good at what they do that their words and actions can convince you into thinking they truly care about what’s best for you when in reality, it’s quite the opposite. The most common signs of a controlling person are rarely obvious to outside observers. And for someone enmeshed in a controlling relationship or friendship, it can be incredibly challenging to stay away from this toxic person, even if you’re aware of their emotionally abusive tendencies.

        While it’s ultimately up to you to decide whether to preserve or leave a lopsided, unfulfilling relationship, it’s nevertheless critical to understand the following six signs of controlling people so you can better advocate for yourself and mitigate the influence of their manipulative tendencies in your own life.

        1. They Push Their Own Personal Agenda

        Do you know someone who always tries to micromanage the words, behaviors, and attitudes of people around them? Does this person act like they have the right to know anything they want about you, including your location, what you’re doing in a given moment, who you’re talking to online, or any other private information about you? And when planning events and special occasions, does this person dominate conversations, steer plans in their own preferred directions, disparage others’ suggestions, and refuse to collaborate with anyone who might disagree with them?

        If you answered “yes” to some of the above questions, then those are clear signs of a controlling person whom you absolutely need to be cautious around. Controlling people are reluctant to even consider alternative ideas, let alone enthusiastically work with people who have differing views. They prefer to be the captain of every ship—regardless of how much or how little an issue personally impacts them—and they have an arsenal of manipulative tactics to deploy if someone stands in the way of them achieving their own personal agendas.

        In long-term relationships with controlling people, you may feel constantly pressured to meet their demands, follow their schedule, and focus on whatever they feel is most important. It’s not an exaggeration to say that these people act like the universe revolves around them, which can be exhausting to deal with for their family members, friends, and colleagues.

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        2. They Make Everything Transactional

        Controlling people aren’t always self-centered, but they’re not too empathetic either. Empathy for them tends to appear in the form of strategic concessions they use as a means to get what they want. They typically view interpersonal relationships as transactional opportunities to extract more value from people surrounding them, which can have a draining effect on those they interact with.

        For example, one sign of a controlling person may be their insistence on “keeping score.” This can involve doing nice things for you with the ulterior motive of demanding something from you at a later date in exchange for what you thought was just an act of kindness or a friendly support.

        Perhaps they shower you in praise (also known as “love-bombing”) or gifts then blow up at you if you don’t intuitively know they’re expecting something back from you. None of us are mind-readers, but controlling people behave as though everyone else should think and act like they want others to and those who fall out of line are punished for failing to meet their impossible expectations.

        A controlling person may also threaten to withhold support if you don’t adhere to their demands, but they do so in such subtle ways that the guilt they impose blinds you from the unreasonable nature of their behaviors.

        Some statements to be wary of include:

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        • “I did ___________ for you. What do you mean you can’t do ___________ for me?”
        • “Remember how I helped you with ___________? That took a lot of time and energy from me, but I guess you didn’t appreciate my help.”
        • “I always give you ___________. Don’t you care about my needs too?”
        • “You’re so selfish!” or “You don’t care about me at all!” (gaslighting if you respond with hesitation or politely decline their request for help for perfectly valid reasons, such as not having enough time or resources to assist them)

        3. They Criticize Everything

        One of the most common telltale signs of a controlling person is their capacity to criticize anything and everything, even small things that seemingly don’t matter. As with many toxic traits in relationships, these problems typically start out so small that you may not even notice. At first, you may even agree with their criticism or at least be able to understand their perspective when they bring up an issue.

        However, the criticism tends to get more intense, more constant, and more perplexing for people who maintain relationships with controlling people. You’ll likely notice how they rarely seem to criticize something they do. It’s almost always other-oriented and these types of people are so manipulative that any rationale they offer can seem plausibly legitimate.

        Some warning signs of a controlling person who’s overly critical to the point of abusiveness include:

        • Criticizing things about you that you have little to no control over (e.g., appearance, disability, family)
        • Criticizing your personal choices and interests, such as educational pursuits, career, clothing, favorite music, time spent on your hobbies, etc.
        • Punishing you for expressing vulnerability by invalidating thoughts and feelings you share with them
        • Attacking you whenever you express an opinion counter to theirs

        4. They Balk When Someone Criticizes Them

        We all know the adage, “what goes around, comes around.” But this statement doesn’t apply as much to toxic, controlling people. They’d much prefer to dish out criticism without ever having to take it in return.

        For instance, if your friend constantly talks about your appearance with little regard for your emotions but flips out if you make just a single comment about their appearance, there’s a possibility that they could have some hidden controlling tendencies left unchecked. Remember, these people aren’t just controlling in their behaviors towards others. They’re also actively trying to stay in complete control over every aspect of their lives, which includes how others view them.

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        This seemingly insatiable desire for control can prompt them to lash out against even the smallest bits of criticism, leaving people around them too weary or scared to speak up again in the future. While it’s possible they may suffer from something called rejection sensitivity dysphoria, this does not excuse them from the consequences of their words and actions. They should seek professional help to better manage their reactions to criticism.

        5. They Socially Isolate You

        Not all controlling people do this, but for manipulative narcissists, socially isolating victims is a go-to strategy for maintaining control because it’s effective at preventing people from truly understanding how toxic their partner, family member, or friend is treating them. Think of it this way—if you don’t talk to many other people in your life, there’s less of a risk that you’ll damage their reputation by revealing their abusive tendencies.

        Socially isolating others also gives the person more control over you and your life as it becomes more difficult to break away from them if you don’t have other healthier channels of communication and interpersonal support to turn to.

        This process doesn’t happen overnight, nor is it something you can readily recognize as abusive. At first, it may seem reasonable, such as asking you to stop engaging so often with family members with whom both of you disagree on major social or political issues. As the social isolation progresses, they may suggest cutting people out of your life—especially if they don’t like that person, regardless of how you personally feel—or even conjure up high-stakes problems like “it’s me or them” under the guise of saving you from people in your life whom they don’t like for whatever reason.

        In a controlling person’s life narrative, they’re always the protagonist who’s incapable of any wrongdoing. The blame is always redirected at someone else, whether that’s you or other people in your life. The more they isolate you from other supportive people in your life, the more susceptible you’ll be to falsely believing that they’re right and you “don’t need” your other friends and family when you have someone as perfect as this person.

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        6. They’re Emotionally Abusive

        It’s hard enough to be in control of your own emotions but when someone else is constantly belittling you and your interests or leveraging guilt and shame to manipulate you into saying or doing what they want, this can make it even more challenging to stay in control of your own life and emotional well-being.

        Emotional abuse is another sign of a controlling person that is often overlooked in relationships. After all, human personalities vary widely in terms of passivity, and it’s not uncommon for one person in a relationship to be significantly more passive than the other. This becomes an issue when the controlling partner or friend exudes signs of emotional abuse, which can start subtly and become much more pronounced over time.

        Concerning signs of emotionally abusive language or behavior to watch out for include:

        • Dismissing your needs and/or belittling your interests in counterproductive ways
        • Privately or publicly shaming or humiliating you
        • Making you feel as though you can never live up to their expectations or do anything right (according to their own vague, subjective standards)
        • Gaslighting you into thinking they said or did something that never actually happened (making you question your own reality)

        Final Thoughts

        It’s sometimes hard to see the negative things about someone with whom we have a relationship. We may sometimes unconsciously overlook the signs of a controlling person, especially if that person is someone we have known for a long time or are close to us. However, cutting them off your life is the best thing you can do for yourself. Just watch out for these six signs of a controlling person and take immediate action when you spot them.

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