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The Five Key Principles of Personal Needs

The Five Key Principles of Personal Needs

Within the past month I and a member of my team became DDI Certified Facilitators. DDI stands for Development Dimensions International. DDI is a 34-year-old company focused on talent management and leadership development. Much of the certification program was learning about their philosophy on how they work with leaders to get the best results from their teams. One specific area of focus was on DDI’s Key Principles to Meet Personal Needs. DDI has identified five key personal needs that must get attention when we interact with others to get the best results.

If we make an effort to be mindful of these five principles when interacting with others, their personal needs will be fulfilled, which will help them to perform more efficiently. As leaders, our jobs are to make those around us better and help maximize their potential. DDI’s Key Principles will help us do that.

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1. Esteem

Every interaction we have has the potential to end in two ways. The people we are working with feel good about themselves and what is going on, or they don’t.  By focusing on the esteem of the people we work with, we can make sure we are doing everything we can to promote a healthy culture and build their esteem and confidence, which will lead to better results. When people experience insecurity and don’t feel good about who they are or what they are doing, this hinders their self-confidence, motivation, engagement, and potential. Giving focus to the esteem of others is good for them and you! How will you enhance another person’s self esteem today? To learn more about esteem, Psychology Today has more information on their page.

2. Empathy

Merriam-Webster defines empathy as “the feeling that you understand and share another person’s experiences and emotions.” A great way to relate to people, build trust, and show them you care is to empathize with them. Simply letting people know you are listening and understanding what they are experiencing will keep them engaged and motivated. How can you be more empathetic with those you interact with on a daily basis? This article on the Six Habits of Highly Empathetic People can be very helpful.

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3. Involvement

People want to be involved and contribute. Give them that opportunity. Allowing others to contribute makes them feel part of a community. It also gives them a sense of purpose and a feeling of being valued. Last week I read an article on Psychology Today that posed the question: Do Religious People Really Live Longer? My take away from the article is that life expectancy is related to community, having a feeling of belonging, and being valued within a community or culture. Your workplace is its own community and its own culture. By allowing people to be involved and contribute, you are providing a sense of belonging while showing that you value them. This allows both of you to achieve your goals. What initiatives do you have where you could benefit having other people involved?

4. Opportunity to share

Everyone needs a productive way to express their positive and not-so-positive thoughts, feelings, and opinions. Giving others that opportunity will not only fulfill their need to be heard, which builds trust, but it gives us the chance to learn and be better prepared to productively work together. Karl A. Menninger, an American psychiatrist, said, “Listening is a magnetic and strange thing, a creative force. The friends who listen to us are the ones we move toward. When we are listened to, it creates us, makes us unfold, and expand.” How are you allowing others to share their thoughts, feelings, and opinions with you?

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5. Support without removing responsibility

Support goes along with community. Having a support system gives us security, a sense of belonging, and lets us know we aren’t alone. Think about everything you’ve experienced and all the support you had in various situations. Now think about what some situations might have been like without the support of others. What kind of support did you receive and would you have succeeded without it? How can you better lend support to those around you?

At the end of the day, we are social creatures who have to work together. The better we work together, the more effective we will be, and the more efficiently we will reach our goals. Giving attention to DDI’s Five Key Principles of Personal Needs when we work with others is good for everyone!

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5 Smart Reasons to Start Journal Writing Today

5 Smart Reasons to Start Journal Writing Today

Here’s the truth: your effectiveness at life is not what it could be. You’re missing out.

Each day passes by and you have nothing to prove that it even happened. Did you achieve something? Go on a date? Have an emotional breakthrough? Who knows?

But what you do know is that you don’t want to make the same mistakes that you’ve made in the past.

Our lives are full of hidden gems of knowledge and insight, and the most recent events in our lives contain the most useful gems of all. Do you know why? It’s simple, those hidden lessons are the most up to date, meaning they have the largest impact on what we’re doing right now.

But the question is, how do you get those lessons? There’s a simple way to do it, and it doesn’t involve time machines:

Journal writing.

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Improved mental clarity, the ability to see our lives in the big picture, as well as serving as a piece of evidence cataloguing every success we’ve ever had; we are provided all of the above and more by doing some journal writing.

Journal writing is a useful and flexible tool to help shed light on achieving your goals.

Here’s 5 smart reasons why you should do journal writing:

1. Journals Help You Have a Better Connection with Your Values, Emotions, and Goals

By journaling about what you believe in, why you believe it, how you feel, and what your goals are, you understand your relationships with these things better. This is because you must sort through the mental clutter and provide details on why you do what you do and feel what you feel.

Consider this:

Perhaps you’ve spent the last year or so working at a job you don’t like. It would be easy to just suck it up and keep working with your head down, going on as if it’s supposed to be normal to not like your job. Nobody else is complaining, so why should you, right?

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But a little journal writing will set things straight for you. You don’t like your job. You feel like it’s robbing you of happiness and satisfaction, and you don’t see yourself better there in the future.

The other workers? Maybe they don’t know, maybe they don’t care. But you do, you know and care enough to do something about it. And you’re capable of fixing this problem because your journal writing allows you to finally be honest with yourself about it.

2. Journals Improve Mental Clarity and Help Improve Your Focus

If there’s one thing journal writing is good for, it’s clearing the mental clutter.

How does it work? Simply, whenever you have a problem and write about it in a journal, you transfer the problem from your head to the paper. This empties the mind, allowing allocation of precious resources to problem-solving rather than problem-storing.

Let’s say you’ve been juggling several tasks at work. You’ve got data entry, testing, e-mails, problems with the boss, and so on—enough to overwhelm you—but as you start journal writing, things become clearer and easier to understand: Data entry can actually wait till Thursday; Bill kindly offered earlier to do my testing; For e-mails, I can check them now; the boss is just upset because Becky called in sick, etc.

You become better able to focus and reason your tasks out, and this is an indispensable and useful skill to have.

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3. Journals Improve Insight and Understanding

As a positive consequence of improving your mental clarity, you become more open to insights you may have missed before. As you write your notes out, you’re essentially having a dialogue with yourself. This draws out insights that you would have missed otherwise; it’s almost as if two people are working together to better understand each other. This kind of insight is only available to the person who has taken the time to connect with and understand themselves in the form of writing.

Once you’ve gotten a few entries written down, new insights can be gleaned from reading over them. What themes do you see in your life? Do you keep switching goals halfway through? Are you constantly dating the same type of people who aren’t good for you? Have you slowly but surely pushed people out of your life for fear of being hurt?

All of these questions can be answered by simply self-reflecting, but you can only discover the answers if you’ve captured them in writing. These questions are going to be tough to answer without a journal of your actions and experiences.

4. Journals Track Your Overall Development

Life happens, and it can happen fast. Sometimes we don’t take the time to stop and look around at what’s happening to us at each moment. We don’t get to see the step-by-step progress that we’re making in our own lives. So what happens? One day it’s the future, and you have no idea how you’ve gotten there.

Journal writing allows you to see how you’ve changed over time, so you can see where you did things right, and you can see where you took a misstep and fell.

The great thing about journals is that you’ll know what that misstep was, and you can make sure it doesn’t happen again—all because you made sure to log it, allowing yourself to learn from your mistakes.

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5. Journals Facilitate Personal Growth

The best thing about journal writing is that no matter what you end up writing about, it’s hard to not grow from it. You can’t just look at a past entry in which you acted shamefully and say “that was dumb, anyway!” No, we say “I will never make a dumb choice like that again!”

It’s impossible not to grow when it comes to journal writing. That’s what makes journal writing such a powerful tool, whether it’s about achieving goals, becoming a better person, or just general personal-development. No matter what you use it for, you’ll eventually see yourself growing as a person.

Kickstart Journaling

How can journaling best be of use to you? To vent your emotions? To help achieve your goals? To help clear your mind? What do you think makes journaling such a useful life skill?

Know the answer? Then it’s about time you reap the benefits of journal writing and start putting pen to paper.

Here’s what you can do to start journaling:

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