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The Five Key Principles of Personal Needs

The Five Key Principles of Personal Needs

Within the past month I and a member of my team became DDI Certified Facilitators. DDI stands for Development Dimensions International. DDI is a 34-year-old company focused on talent management and leadership development. Much of the certification program was learning about their philosophy on how they work with leaders to get the best results from their teams. One specific area of focus was on DDI’s Key Principles to Meet Personal Needs. DDI has identified five key personal needs that must get attention when we interact with others to get the best results.

If we make an effort to be mindful of these five principles when interacting with others, their personal needs will be fulfilled, which will help them to perform more efficiently. As leaders, our jobs are to make those around us better and help maximize their potential. DDI’s Key Principles will help us do that.

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1. Esteem

Every interaction we have has the potential to end in two ways. The people we are working with feel good about themselves and what is going on, or they don’t.  By focusing on the esteem of the people we work with, we can make sure we are doing everything we can to promote a healthy culture and build their esteem and confidence, which will lead to better results. When people experience insecurity and don’t feel good about who they are or what they are doing, this hinders their self-confidence, motivation, engagement, and potential. Giving focus to the esteem of others is good for them and you! How will you enhance another person’s self esteem today? To learn more about esteem, Psychology Today has more information on their page.

2. Empathy

Merriam-Webster defines empathy as “the feeling that you understand and share another person’s experiences and emotions.” A great way to relate to people, build trust, and show them you care is to empathize with them. Simply letting people know you are listening and understanding what they are experiencing will keep them engaged and motivated. How can you be more empathetic with those you interact with on a daily basis? This article on the Six Habits of Highly Empathetic People can be very helpful.

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3. Involvement

People want to be involved and contribute. Give them that opportunity. Allowing others to contribute makes them feel part of a community. It also gives them a sense of purpose and a feeling of being valued. Last week I read an article on Psychology Today that posed the question: Do Religious People Really Live Longer? My take away from the article is that life expectancy is related to community, having a feeling of belonging, and being valued within a community or culture. Your workplace is its own community and its own culture. By allowing people to be involved and contribute, you are providing a sense of belonging while showing that you value them. This allows both of you to achieve your goals. What initiatives do you have where you could benefit having other people involved?

4. Opportunity to share

Everyone needs a productive way to express their positive and not-so-positive thoughts, feelings, and opinions. Giving others that opportunity will not only fulfill their need to be heard, which builds trust, but it gives us the chance to learn and be better prepared to productively work together. Karl A. Menninger, an American psychiatrist, said, “Listening is a magnetic and strange thing, a creative force. The friends who listen to us are the ones we move toward. When we are listened to, it creates us, makes us unfold, and expand.” How are you allowing others to share their thoughts, feelings, and opinions with you?

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5. Support without removing responsibility

Support goes along with community. Having a support system gives us security, a sense of belonging, and lets us know we aren’t alone. Think about everything you’ve experienced and all the support you had in various situations. Now think about what some situations might have been like without the support of others. What kind of support did you receive and would you have succeeded without it? How can you better lend support to those around you?

At the end of the day, we are social creatures who have to work together. The better we work together, the more effective we will be, and the more efficiently we will reach our goals. Giving attention to DDI’s Five Key Principles of Personal Needs when we work with others is good for everyone!

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Last Updated on August 15, 2018

When You Start to Enjoy Being Single, These 12 Things Will Happen

When You Start to Enjoy Being Single, These 12 Things Will Happen

Being single can make you weary, especially if you didn't initiate a breakup, it could be easy to get carried away with reminiscing and what-if scenarios. Staying caught up in the past is toxic to your growth, however, and interferes with your ability to move forward. Single life can be self-actualizing and enjoyable, but you need to embrace it first. No matter where you are on your journey in coming to terms with being single, the following 12 fantastic things will happen when you accept it.

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1. You will be more focused.

    Once you start to treasure your new-found freedom, you will realize that taking time for yourself will show you what is most important in your life. Enjoying your single time will make what you want clearer and reveal which areas of your life you should build upon. Additionally, studies show that experiencing something alone results in our brain forming a more clear and longer lasting memory.

    2. You will be more active.

      Studies show that unmarried people are also more fit than their hitched counterparts. Let yourself welcome being single, and use this time to your benefit. You'll be more confident and in control when you do meet someone special.

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      3. You will be more likely to have high goals.

        Being single means you can't settle. In case someone who captures your heart comes along, you need to be at the top of your game. By embracing your time being single, you will be more able to pursue your goals and work towards a more complete, fulfilling future.

        4. You will be more creative.

          Spending time alone is also linked to an increase in creative thinking. Spending more time alone will force you to be a deeper thinker, and could lead you to solutions and projects you wouldn't have thought of otherwise.

          5. Your schedule will be your own.

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            Once you get past feeling lonely and realize how wonderful being single is, you will become aware of one of the best perks – your schedule is now completely your own. No longer do you need to have nights out approved, nor will long days at work get interrupted. Relax into loving your single life because nothing is quite as liberating as deciding every moment of your weekly schedule.

            6. You will likely save money.

              Dating is a great way to wave goodbye to all your hard earned cash. When you're with someone, there's nothing more important than impressing them, including your income. However, when the relationship fizzles, you realize how this tactic doesn't pay off. Not only are we more prone to spending when dating, married couples are more likely to have credit card debt than unmarried singles. So don't get depressed when you're eating cheap meals alone – it's really a form of investing in your future!

              7. You won't need to compromise on entertainment.

                Particularly if your significant other tends to have different tastes than you, being single can be a blessing. As soon as you can appreciate being single, you will realize how freeing it is to always watch exactly what you want. There is no longer any need to skimp on your favorite movies, plays, or TV shows that others don't appreciate.

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                8. You will have more time for your family.

                  Another thing you will realize once you learn to relish being single is you now have much more time for family. Especially when it comes to older relatives, time spent with them truly is precious. Make the most of your single time by reconnecting with family members in your life you may have been neglecting.

                  9. You have more time for your friends.

                    Once you start basking in your single glory, you will also find that you have more time for your friends. Not only will increased free time let you reconnect with friends you may have neglected while being half of a couple, studies also show that married people have much weaker social lives than those who are unmarried.

                    10. You will find new haunts in your city.

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                      Once you start to enjoy your single life again you will also find that you have plenty of time to rediscover your city. Where relationships see us fall into the same habit of favorite spots to drink, eat, or dance, when you're on your own you will naturally start to explore fresh venues again.

                      11. You'll find more interests.

                        Similarly, enjoying your time being single will give you more time to consider new hobbies and interests. Instead of repeating the same go-to dates, you can now freely explore activities that really make you passionate.

                        12. You will be more aware of what you want.

                          Ultimately, taking time to ourselves is an important ingredient in discovering what type of person is our ideal match, or what career we can happily commit to. By delighting in your uninhibited life, you are more able to experiment and thereby find out what works for you and what doesn't. Don't look at being single as a drawback, since learning more about yourself and finding out what makes you tick are crucial in forming balanced, healthy relationships in the future.

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