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The 17 Priceless Things We’ve Forgotten To Thank Our Best Friends For

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The 17 Priceless Things We’ve Forgotten To Thank Our Best Friends For

Best friends are truely responsible for making our lifes worth living. Not only are they always up for fun experiences but they are also the ones who are there for us when we need them the most. So, the next time you meet your best friends, thank them for the following 17 priceless things.

1. Thank you for being completely honest with me – even when I don’t want to hear it.

It’s not easy to hear the truth when you don’t want to hear it. There’s something different about hearing the truth from your best friend that makes it a little more bearable. Your best friend knows that always being honest with you will make you trust them, and that’s what friendship is about.

2. Thank you for always bringing my mood up.

Anytime you’re around your best friend your mood automatically gets better. You know you are with someone who knows you inside and out, and you can be your true self around them. How can that not put you in a better mood instantly?

3. Thank you for being just as weird as I am – and enjoying every second of it.

You two wouldn’t be best friends if you weren’t the right amount of weird for each other. Your best friend is someone you can drive around with and sing every song at the top of your lungs, have specific dance moves for these songs, and not give a damn if the cars around you can see. Let’s be honest, the two of you should probably have a reality show.

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4. Thank you for being selfless. You have truly made this world a better place by caring more for others than for yourself. You are an inspiration.

Your best friend inspires you to be a better person. Through their daily life they show you how to put others above yourself, and how to enjoy doing so. It takes a special person to be selfless and put others before themselves, if you are lucky enough to have this type of person as a best friend, cherish them.

5. Thank you for knowing when something is wrong with me, and what to do to make it better.

You can’t fool your best friend. They know when something isn’t right with you, even when you try to lie through your teeth. Instead of getting frustrated with you they help you. If you are going through a breakup, they bring you your favorite type of ice cream and help you eat the whole thing. Basically, no matter what’s going on with you they know the remedy to fix it.

6. Thank you for thinking about me.

A simple text asking how you’re doing, or how your day was can instantly change your day around. Your best friend checks in with you just to say hi, because they are thinking about you. It’s a great feeling to know someone cares about you that much. You both take time out of your day just to check in.

7. Thank you for not judging me.

This is one of the most important aspects of our best friends that we forget to thank them for. We don’t always make the best decisions, but they don’t judge us for it. We can tell them anything and they listen without thinking poorly about us. They understand who we are enough to not need to judge us for anything. They love us unconditionally.

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8. Thank you for being a true friend – even when we are apart.

Distance can hurt a lot of relationships, but movement is a part of life. Your best friend is someone who has your back even when you aren’t there. They stay true to your friendship through all the miles. You two keep up with what’s going on in each other’s lives because you really care, not because you have to.

9. Thank you for being there through the good times and the bad.

No matter what you are going through you can count on your best friend to be right by your side. Whether you two are celebrating a new turning point in your life, or crying with you through a loss – you know you can always count on them.

10. Thank you for all the happy memories we share.

Let’s face it, life just wouldn’t be as much fun without your best friend. You share more memories with them then you can probably even recall. They keep things interesting and fun. Without them you wouldn’t have so many amazing experiences to look back on.

11. Thank you for going out of your way for me, even when it’s not convenient.

A best friend will go out of their way to help you out. Whether it’s picking you up from the airport during rush hour, or changing their plans for you. A true friendship isn’t always convenient, but neither of you care about that.

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12. Thank you for believing in me and encouraging me when I stray.

Sometimes you just need a little extra push. Your best friend encourages you to make changes and believe that you will not fail. They have your best interest at hand and only want you to succeed. When you’re feeling down they know what words of encouragement to use to help get you back on track.

13. Thank you for sincerely loving me, and considering me family.

A best friend loves you for you, and nothing else. When you are acting out of the norm they will call you out on it, all because they care. They (and their family) consider you as their own. You can walk into their house without ringing the doorbell and no one would bat an eye. Card games, family dinners, and vacations are just some perks of having a best friend.

14. Thank you for forgiving me and being patient when we argue.

Arguments happen in any relationship. Your best friend will forgive you for an argument. You both might need some time to cool off, but afterwards things will be as if the fight never happened. At the end of the day, you fight with those you care most about. Your best friend will forgive you, and you will forgive them.

15. Thank you for all the drunken dance parties, cab rides, and heart-to-hearts.

Because who wants to do any of that by themselves? Your best friend will be right beside you on the dance floor, talking the cabbies ear off, and then having serious conversations about life with you. You wouldn’t want to share those drunken moments with anyone else.

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16. Thank you for breaking me out of my shell.

Your best friend will push your boundaries. They will make you go places and meet people you never would have on your own. As long as you have them by your side you aren’t afraid to try new things.

17. Thank you for being YOU!

Plain and simple.

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Last Updated on July 20, 2021

How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

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How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

You’re standing behind the curtain, just about to make your way on stage to face the many faces half-shrouded in darkness in front of you. As you move towards the spotlight, your body starts to feel heavier with each step. A familiar thump echoes throughout your body – your heartbeat has gone off the charts.

Don’t worry, you’re not the only one with glossophobia(also known as speech anxiety or the fear of speaking to large crowds). Sometimes, the anxiety happens long before you even stand on stage.

Your body’s defence mechanism responds by causing a part of your brain to release adrenaline into your blood – the same chemical that gets released as if you were being chased by a lion.

Here’s a step-by-step guide to help you overcome your fear of public speaking:

1. Prepare yourself mentally and physically

According to experts, we’re built to display anxiety and to recognize it in others. If your body and mind are anxious, your audience will notice. Hence, it’s important to prepare yourself before the big show so that you arrive on stage confident, collected and ready.

“Your outside world is a reflection of your inside world. What goes on in the inside, shows on the outside.” – Bob Proctor

Exercising lightly before a presentation helps get your blood circulating and sends oxygen to the brain. Mental exercises, on the other hand, can help calm the mind and nerves. Here are some useful ways to calm your racing heart when you start to feel the butterflies in your stomach:

Warming up

If you’re nervous, chances are your body will feel the same way. Your body gets tense, your muscles feel tight or you’re breaking in cold sweat. The audience will notice you are nervous.

If you observe that this is exactly what is happening to you minutes before a speech, do a couple of stretches to loosen and relax your body. It’s better to warm up before every speech as it helps to increase the functional potential of the body as a whole. Not only that, it increases muscle efficiency, improves reaction time and your movements.

Here are some exercises to loosen up your body before show time:

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  1. Neck and shoulder rolls – This helps relieve upper body muscle tension and pressure as the rolls focus on rotating the head and shoulders, loosening the muscle. Stress and anxiety can make us rigid within this area which can make you feel agitated, especially when standing.
  2. Arm stretches – We often use this part of our muscles during a speech or presentation through our hand gestures and movements. Stretching these muscles can reduce arm fatigue, loosen you up and improve your body language range.
  3. Waist twists – Place your hands on your hips and rotate your waist in a circular motion. This exercise focuses on loosening the abdominal and lower back regions which is essential as it can cause discomfort and pain, further amplifying any anxieties you may experience.

Stay hydrated

Ever felt parched seconds before speaking? And then coming up on stage sounding raspy and scratchy in front of the audience? This happens because the adrenaline from stage fright causes your mouth to feel dried out.

To prevent all that, it’s essential we stay adequately hydrated before a speech. A sip of water will do the trick. However, do drink in moderation so that you won’t need to go to the bathroom constantly.

Try to avoid sugary beverages and caffeine, since it’s a diuretic – meaning you’ll feel thirstier. It will also amplify your anxiety which prevents you from speaking smoothly.

Meditate

Meditation is well-known as a powerful tool to calm the mind. ABC’s Dan Harris, co-anchor of Nightline and Good Morning America weekend and author of the book titled10% Happier , recommends that meditation can help individuals to feel significantly calmer, faster.

Meditation is like a workout for your mind. It gives you the strength and focus to filter out the negativity and distractions with words of encouragement, confidence and strength.

Mindfulness meditation, in particular, is a popular method to calm yourself before going up on the big stage. The practice involves sitting comfortably, focusing on your breathing and then bringing your mind’s attention to the present without drifting into concerns about the past or future – which likely includes floundering on stage.

Here’s a nice example of guided meditation before public speaking:

2. Focus on your goal

One thing people with a fear of public speaking have in common is focusing too much on themselves and the possibility of failure.

Do I look funny? What if I can’t remember what to say? Do I look stupid? Will people listen to me? Does anyone care about what I’m talking about?’

Instead of thinking this way, shift your attention to your one true purpose – contributing something of value to your audience.

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Decide on the progress you’d like your audience to make after your presentation. Notice their movements and expressions to adapt your speech to ensure that they are having a good time to leave the room as better people.

If your own focus isn’t beneficial and what it should be when you’re speaking, then shift it to what does. This is also key to establishing trust during your presentation as the audience can clearly see that you have their interests at heart.[1]

3. Convert negativity to positivity

There are two sides constantly battling inside of us – one is filled with strength and courage while the other is doubt and insecurities. Which one will you feed?

‘What if I mess up this speech? What if I’m not funny enough? What if I forget what to say?’

It’s no wonder why many of us are uncomfortable giving a presentation. All we do is bring ourselves down before we got a chance to prove ourselves. This is also known as a self-fulfilling prophecy – a belief that comes true because we are acting as if it already is. If you think you’re incompetent, then it will eventually become true.

Motivational coaches tout that positive mantras and affirmations tend to boost your confidents for the moments that matter most. Say to yourself: “I’ll ace this speech and I can do it!”

Take advantage of your adrenaline rush to encourage positive outcome rather than thinking of the negative ‘what ifs’.

Here’s a video of Psychologist Kelly McGonigal who encourages her audience to turn stress into something positive as well as provide methods on how to cope with it:

4. Understand your content

Knowing your content at your fingertips helps reduce your anxiety because there is one less thing to worry about. One way to get there is to practice numerous times before your actual speech.

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However, memorizing your script word-for-word is not encouraged. You can end up freezing should you forget something. You’ll also risk sounding unnatural and less approachable.

“No amount of reading or memorizing will make you successful in life. It is the understanding and the application of wise thought that counts.” – Bob Proctor

Many people unconsciously make the mistake of reading from their slides or memorizing their script word-for-word without understanding their content – a definite way to stress themselves out.

Understanding your speech flow and content makes it easier for you to convert ideas and concepts into your own words which you can then clearly explain to others in a conversational manner. Designing your slides to include text prompts is also an easy hack to ensure you get to quickly recall your flow when your mind goes blank.[2]

One way to understand is to memorize the over-arching concepts or ideas in your pitch. It helps you speak more naturally and let your personality shine through. It’s almost like taking your audience on a journey with a few key milestones.

5. Practice makes perfect

Like most people, many of us are not naturally attuned to public speaking. Rarely do individuals walk up to a large audience and present flawlessly without any research and preparation.

In fact, some of the top presenters make it look easy during showtime because they have spent countless hours behind-the-scenes in deep practice. Even great speakers like the late John F. Kennedy would spend months preparing his speech beforehand.

Public speaking, like any other skill, requires practice – whether it be practicing your speech countless of times in front of a mirror or making notes. As the saying goes, practice makes perfect!

6. Be authentic

There’s nothing wrong with feeling stressed before going up to speak in front of an audience.

Many people fear public speaking because they fear others will judge them for showing their true, vulnerable self. However, vulnerability can sometimes help you come across as more authentic and relatable as a speaker.

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Drop the pretence of trying to act or speak like someone else and you’ll find that it’s worth the risk. You become more genuine, flexible and spontaneous, which makes it easier to handle unpredictable situations – whether it’s getting tough questions from the crowd or experiencing an unexpected technical difficulty.

To find out your authentic style of speaking is easy. Just pick a topic or issue you are passionate about and discuss this like you normally would with a close family or friend. It is like having a conversation with someone in a personal one-to-one setting. A great way to do this on stage is to select a random audience member(with a hopefully calming face) and speak to a single person at a time during your speech. You’ll find that it’s easier trying to connect to one person at a time than a whole room.

With that said, being comfortable enough to be yourself in front of others may take a little time and some experience, depending how comfortable you are with being yourself in front of others. But once you embrace it, stage fright will not be as intimidating as you initially thought.

Presenters like Barack Obama are a prime example of a genuine and passionate speaker:

7. Post speech evaluation

Last but not the least, if you’ve done public speaking and have been scarred from a bad experience, try seeing it as a lesson learned to improve yourself as a speaker.

Don’t beat yourself up after a presentation

We are the hardest on ourselves and it’s good to be. But when you finish delivering your speech or presentation, give yourself some recognition and a pat on the back.

You managed to finish whatever you had to do and did not give up. You did not let your fears and insecurities get to you. Take a little more pride in your work and believe in yourself.

Improve your next speech

As mentioned before, practice does make perfect. If you want to improve your public speaking skills, try asking someone to film you during a speech or presentation. Afterwards, watch and observe what you can do to improve yourself next time.

Here are some questions you can ask yourself after every speech:

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  • How did I do?
  • Are there any areas for improvement?
  • Did I sound or look stressed?
  • Did I stumble on my words? Why?
  • Was I saying “um” too often?
  • How was the flow of the speech?

Write everything you observed down and keep practicing and improving. In time, you’ll be able to better manage your fears of public speaking and appear more confident when it counts.

If you want even more tips about public speaking or delivering a great presentation, check out these articles too:

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