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How You Can Create Luck In Everyday Life

How You Can Create Luck In Everyday Life

Creating luck in everyday life is not about carrying a rabbit’s foot around with you, avoiding black cats or wearing lucky pants. There is one main difference between people who are lucky and unlucky—and that’s their mindset.

People who seem to have all the luck are not usually blessed by an outrageous amount of good fortune. They simply have a healthy attitude, which enables them to capitalize on situations. Those who are closed minded and negative simply don’t allow as many good things into their lives, or if good things appear, they don’t even recognize them.

Having a positive way of organizing your thoughts allows you to create your own luck in everyday life. Here are 11 top tips for creating your own luck.

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Focus On What You Want

Whatever you focus on, you tend to get more of. Have you ever broken a limb, and suddenly noticed how many other people there were walking around on crutches or with plaster casts? It wasn’t that there were suddenly more people having accidents, it was that you were noticing them more because that’s what you were paying attention to. Many people spend time thinking about what they don’t want—and, lo and behold, that same horrible stuff keeps showing up in their lives. If you pay attention to what you do want instead, you’ll end up becoming more aware of avenues to getting it.

Be Flexible

Closed-minded people don’t often come up with solutions, because they see only one way of achieving something, and if that doesn’t work out, they just give up. If you open your mind to alternative options and possibilities, you’ll find that things start working out where you thought they wouldn’t. It seems like luck, but it’s your open-mindedness and flexibility that allowed it to happen.

Be Determined

Many celebrities, tycoons and business owners are called lucky, with everyone assuming that they got a break to be where they are now. But often success is down to determination rather than luck. If you work hard and do the right things, it will be acknowledged, and you will be rewarded with more luck in everyday life.

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See the Good in the Past

It is easy to believe that you never have any luck in everyday life if you don’t seem to be getting any breaks. People sometimes bemoan their past for holding them back. They blame their parents, their schooling or their background for not setting them up for success. But having had a difficult life gives you unique lessons and develops strengths and qualities you might never have had if you hadn’t been through tough patches. Be grateful for the good that came from your past.

Try Something New

Luck doesn’t just happen upon us—it comes to us when we’re open. Trying something new is a great way of getting more opportunities. Learning a new skills, visiting a new place, or trying a new hobby are all great ways of expanding your opportunities and your mindset.

Be Grateful For What You Have

Some people are already lucky, and they just don’t know it. Instead of focusing on what’s lacking, look at how lucky you already are. You no doubt have some wonderful friends, family, a roof over your head and food on the table. By acknowledging these things regularly, you can instantly feel more lucky.

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Network

The more people you connect with, the luckier you will be. Knowing different people can get you access to skills, opportunities, connections and more. You never know what wonderful chances each individual could bring to you or how they might enrich your life, until you get to know them.

Be Generous

If you ever want other people to give you opportunities, you have to consider what sort of vibe you are putting out into the world. You can not expect to receive if you never give. Be generous with your time and attention, and you’ll be surprised how many lucky opportunities people may offer you.

Ask For Help

Sometimes people would be prepared to help us out, if they only knew what we needed. If you need a hand with dealing with something, rather than waiting for someone to offer you a lucky break, take the initiative and ask them if they will help you out.

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Be Positive About the Future

People who view the future as threatening, dangerous or uncertain are unlikely to draw any luck to them. Having a negative view of what is to come makes you likely to be mentally and emotionally withdrawn into a place where you won’t even see any lucky opportunities. Be positive and excited about what they future may hold, and you should find many lucky opportunities on the horizon.

Take Action

You’ll never create any luck if you sit there waiting for it to fall into your lap. Take steps towards your goals and dreams and greet every challenge with a positive mindset. You will find you create more luck in everyday life.

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Last Updated on February 11, 2021

Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

How often have you said something simple, only to have the person who you said this to misunderstand it or twist the meaning completely around? Nodding your head in affirmative? Then this means that you are being unclear in your communication.

Communication should be simple, right? It’s all about two people or more talking and explaining something to the other. The problem lies in the talking itself, somehow we end up being unclear, and our words, attitude or even the way of talking becomes a barrier in communication, most of the times unknowingly. We give you six common barriers to communication, and how to get past them; for you to actually say what you mean, and or the other person to understand it as well…

The 6 Walls You Need to Break Down to Make Communication Effective

Think about it this way, a simple phrase like “what do you mean” can be said in many different ways and each different way would end up “communicating” something else entirely. Scream it at the other person, and the perception would be anger. Whisper this is someone’s ear and others may take it as if you were plotting something. Say it in another language, and no one gets what you mean at all, if they don’t speak it… This is what we mean when we say that talking or saying something that’s clear in your head, many not mean that you have successfully communicated it across to your intended audience – thus what you say and how, where and why you said it – at times become barriers to communication.[1]

Perceptual Barrier

The moment you say something in a confrontational, sarcastic, angry or emotional tone, you have set up perceptual barriers to communication. The other person or people to whom you are trying to communicate your point get the message that you are disinterested in what you are saying and sort of turn a deaf ear. In effect, you are yelling your point across to person who might as well be deaf![2]

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The problem: When you have a tone that’s not particularly positive, a body language that denotes your own disinterest in the situation and let your own stereotypes and misgivings enter the conversation via the way you talk and gesture, the other person perceives what you saying an entirely different manner than say if you said the same while smiling and catching their gaze.

The solution: Start the conversation on a positive note, and don’t let what you think color your tone, gestures of body language. Maintain eye contact with your audience, and smile openly and wholeheartedly…

Attitudinal Barrier

Some people, if you would excuse the language, are simply badass and in general are unable to form relationships or even a common point of communication with others, due to their habit of thinking to highly or too lowly of them. They basically have an attitude problem – since they hold themselves in high esteem, they are unable to form genuine lines of communication with anyone. The same is true if they think too little of themselves as well.[3]

The problem: If anyone at work, or even in your family, tends to roam around with a superior air – anything they say is likely to be taken by you and the others with a pinch, or even a bag of salt. Simply because whenever they talk, the first thing to come out of it is their condescending attitude. And in case there’s someone with an inferiority complex, their incessant self-pity forms barriers to communication.

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The solution: Use simple words and an encouraging smile to communicate effectively – and stick to constructive criticism, and not criticism because you are a perfectionist. If you see someone doing a good job, let them know, and disregard the thought that you could have done it better. It’s their job so measure them by industry standards and not your own.

Language Barrier

This is perhaps the commonest and the most inadvertent of barriers to communication. Using big words, too much of technical jargon or even using just the wrong language at the incorrect or inopportune time can lead to a loss or misinterpretation of communication. It may have sounded right in your head and to your ears as well, but if sounded gobbledygook to the others, the purpose is lost.

The problem: Say you are trying to explain a process to the newbies and end up using every technical word and industry jargon that you knew – your communication has failed if the newbie understood zilch. You have to, without sounding patronizing, explain things to someone in the simplest language they understand instead of the most complex that you do.

The solution: Simplify things for the other person to understand you, and understand it well. Think about it this way: if you are trying to explain something scientific to a child, you tone it down to their thinking capacity, without “dumbing” anything down in the process.[4]

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Emotional Barrier

Sometimes, we hesitate in opening our mouths, for fear of putting our foot in it! Other times, our emotional state is so fragile that we keep it and our lips zipped tightly together lest we explode. This is the time that our emotions become barriers to communication.[5]

The problem: Say you had a fight at home and are on a slow boil, muttering, in your head, about the injustice of it all. At this time, you have to give someone a dressing down over their work performance. You are likely to transfer at least part of your angst to the conversation then, and talk about unfairness in general, leaving the other person stymied about what you actually meant!

The solution: Remove your emotions and feelings to a personal space, and talk to the other person as you normally would. Treat any phobias or fears that you have and nip them in the bud so that they don’t become a problem. And remember, no one is perfect.

Cultural Barrier

Sometimes, being in an ever-shrinking world means that inadvertently, rules can make cultures clash and cultural clashes can turn into barriers to communication. The idea is to make your point across without hurting anyone’s cultural or religious sentiments.

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The problem: There are so many ways culture clashes can happen during communication and with cultural clashes; it’s not always about ethnicity. A non-smoker may have problems with smokers taking breaks; an older boss may have issues with younger staff using the Internet too much.

The solution: Communicate only what is necessary to get the point across – and eave your personal sentiments or feelings out of it. Try to be accommodative of the other’s viewpoint, and in case you still need to work it out, do it one to one, to avoid making a spectacle of the other person’s beliefs.[6]

Gender Barrier

Finally, it’s about Men from Mars and Women from Venus. Sometimes, men don’t understand women and women don’t get men – and this gender gap throws barriers in communication. Women tend to take conflict to their graves, literally, while men can move on instantly. Women rely on intuition, men on logic – so inherently, gender becomes a big block in successful communication.[7]

The problem: A male boss may inadvertently rub his female subordinates the wrong way with anti-feminism innuendoes, or even have problems with women taking too many family leaves. Similarly, women sometimes let their emotions get the better of them, something a male audience can’t relate to.

The solution: Talk to people like people – don’t think or classify them into genders and then talk accordingly. Don’t make comments or innuendos that are gender biased – you don’t have to come across as an MCP or as a bra-burning feminist either. Keep gender out of it.

And remember, the key to successful communication is simply being open, making eye contact and smiling intermittently. The battle is usually half won when you say what you mean in simple, straightforward words and keep your emotions out of it.

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