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Focus on the Journey, Not the Endgame, with These 5 Tips

Focus on the Journey, Not the Endgame, with These 5 Tips

Regardless of your background, all of us find ourselves too absorbed in day-to-day stresses. When the responsibilities of life weigh on you too heavily, however, it can be easy to obsess over where we’re going. Too much concern with our goals over our reality can be tiring and make you lose perspective. Learning to enjoy life’s journey is a critical part of being content and happy. To focus on enjoying your journey more, and every day stress less, these five life approaches are indispensable.

1. Live in the Present.

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    The most important thing you can do to start enjoying the journey more is to live in the present. While lessons from our past are important to learn from, focusing too much of our time there is draining. Similarly, focusing too much time on the future is also tiring, since no one can control the time ahead. To make your life more meaningful, practice absorbing each moment as it comes. Let yourself feel peaceful and content with what you have right now. All things are temporary in life, so taking time to appreciate your gifts is critical. Freeing yourself from from future or past anxieties is empowering and comforting, and will help you focus on the present.

    2. Enrich your life.

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      A key ingredient to focusing on the journey is ensuring your journey is rich with experiences. Take time to pursue a passion or become more active in your community. An easy way to accomplish this is to look around for free events, local nature spots, shows or classes. Don’t forget that many free online resources are out there, making many subjects more accessible than ever before.

      3. Stay positive.

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        Perhaps the simplest way to better enjoy your journey through life is to focus on the positive. Try to accentuate the things that are going well for you in order to keep a healthy perspective on life. We all have concerns and stresses, but appreciating what you do have will help you feel less like you’re missing out. Should counting your blessings not be enough, you can always be a force for good as well. Try volunteering for those in need or donating to charity.

        4. Unplug.

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          Another helpful way to focus on your journey over your accomplishments is to unplug every now and again. Nothing puts work stress in perspective quite like turning off your computer and phone for a weekend, and just being. Though it’s a good thing to have goals and dreams, taking a real break from the work week can help you focus on what life truly means; plus, it lets you spend quality time with those who mean the most to you.

          5. Relax.

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            Relaxing is a healthy habit; however taking time to be calm can also help you to live in the present. Switching gears after a busy day for breathing exercises, meditation, or yoga can be helpful in letting you focus on the journey. Practicing being calm and in tune with yourself helps to separate what’s important from what isn’t in life. Not only that, letting yourself feel tranquil and content makes you appreciate the present more, and worry less about things you can’t control.

            Featured photo credit: Panos Photographia via flickr.com

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            Last Updated on January 18, 2019

            7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

            7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

            Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

            But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

            If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

            1. Limit the time you spend with them.

            First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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            In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

            Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

            2. Speak up for yourself.

            Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

            3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

            This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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            But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

            4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

            Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

            This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

            Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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            5. Change the subject.

            When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

            Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

            6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

            Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

            I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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            You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

            Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

            7. Leave them behind.

            Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

            If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

            That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

            You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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