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Everybody Lies: 7 Wrong Things They’ve Told You About Life

Everybody Lies: 7 Wrong Things They’ve Told You About Life

There is no reason to deny the fact we all depend on society somehow and that our surroundings influence our thoughts and world views in general. As children, we believe everything our parents tell us. As pupils, we listen to our teachers. As students, we listen to our professors carefully, and we trust their knowledge and life experience. Certainly, they do not want to hurt us, and they do not want to lie. But the truth is that they do sometimes lie to us.

What do we have as a result? Disappointment. When young people suddenly find out that nothing they were told actually works, they feel lost, and they do not know what to do. It is high time to reveal seven common lies each of us heard about life. Do not they sound familiar to you?

You are good at everything you do

You must confess that it is always easier to tell a child he is great at something than to hurt him and say he is not. We do not want to offend anyone, and we think that it is bad to disappoint a young person and tell him the ugly truth when he is only 5 years old. Everyone believes that this kid will understand everything himself while growing up, and he will see for himself what is good and what is bad about him.

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So, we lie instead of supporting REAL talents and achievements. As a result, the child gets older and does not understand why his new friends at school do not agree with the fact he is a good artist, singer, mathematician, etc.

You should do everything perfectly!

Did your parents or teachers at school tell that you should do everything as perfectly as possible? Do it well, or do not do it at all! And you grow up with a strong belief you should be perfect; otherwise, you will not achieve anything. But there is no success without a failure! And there is nothing wrong with the fact you can’t find a job of your dream right after your graduation, or that your first piece of art did not get positive feedback from critics.

Marry before you are 30

Who says? Why do we all believe we should build a family before a definite moment? Will your life end if you do not have a husband or wife when you are 31 or 35? We all understand that everyone has his time for a marriage, but we feel guilty anyway, seeing all of our married friends around and listening to parents who can’t stop asking us “when.”

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It is difficult for some people to ignore a societal pressure. But remember: you do not owe anything to others around you, and you have your own time to build a family. And who knows, maybe a marriage is just not for you? Yes, it happens. And there is nothing wrong with that!

Only the right college will help you succeed

Do you still believe that? There are many examples of bright and successful people who did not graduate from universities at all! Do not be narrow-minded! Give yourself more credit in life: go to a college YOU (not your parents or teachers) like, try yourself in different spheres and environments. You can find your path anywhere, not only in a prestigious college, though education and being a college student are important part of course.

You will not get a good job without education

As we’ve already said, education is important. And certainly, the majority of employers will pay attention to your diploma. But the truth is that they do not need students who did nothing but show up for class for four years.

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The most valuable things are often learned outside of your classroom. That is why your degree means nothing without any other skills and experience you could get.

The first job means everything for your future career

Students are often told that their first job will define their careers, so they sit and wait for the perfect moment or hope to find the right job right away. Do not ignore any experience you can get, even if it does not fit your diploma! Even if you work as a waiter when you have a degree in IT, this job can bring you new knowledge and experience that can unexpectedly help you with searching for the job of your dreams.

You will earn much more than your parents

I do not know why, but many young people believe they will become rich and successful once they leave parents’ home and start working. At the same time, they have no idea what their parents actually do, and how they earn money for living. Such an impression is that money will just appear from nowhere.

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It is nonsense to suppose that you will get everything at once, while your parents needed 20 years to achieve that. To get something means to work hard on it, spend much time and energy on it, and even fail sometimes.

Just build your own path, and try to follow your own thoughts and views. There is no need to continue believing postulates that do not work for everyone today.

 

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Last Updated on December 2, 2018

7 Public Speaking Techniques To Help Connect With Your Audience

7 Public Speaking Techniques To Help Connect With Your Audience

When giving a presentation or speech, you have to engage your audience effectively in order to truly get your point across. Unlike a written editorial or newsletter, your speech is fleeting; once you’ve said everything you set out to say, you don’t get a second chance to have your voice heard in that specific arena.

You need to make sure your audience hangs on to every word you say, from your introduction to your wrap-up. You can do so by:

1. Connecting them with each other

Picture your typical rock concert. What’s the first thing the singer says to the crowd after jumping out on stage? “Hello (insert city name here)!” Just acknowledging that he’s coherent enough to know where he is is enough for the audience to go wild and get into the show.

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It makes each individual feel as if they’re a part of something bigger. The same goes for any public speaking event. When an audience hears, “You’re all here because you care deeply about wildlife preservation,” it gives them a sense that they’re not just there to listen, but they’re there to connect with the like-minded people all around them.

2. Connect with their emotions

Speakers always try to get their audience emotionally involved in whatever topic they’re discussing. There are a variety of ways in which to do this, such as using statistics, stories, pictures or videos that really show the importance of the topic at hand.

For example, showing pictures of the aftermath of an accident related to drunk driving will certainly send a specific message to an audience of teenagers and young adults. While doing so might be emotionally nerve-racking to the crowd, it may be necessary to get your point across and engage them fully.

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3. Keep going back to the beginning

Revisit your theme throughout your presentation. Although you should give your audience the credit they deserve and know that they can follow along, linking back to your initial thesis can act as a subconscious reminder of why what you’re currently telling them is important.

On the other hand, if you simply mention your theme or the point of your speech at the beginning and never mention it again, it gives your audience the impression that it’s not really that important.

4. Link to your audience’s motivation

After you’ve acknowledged your audience’s common interests in being present, discuss their motivation for being there. Be specific. Using the previous example, if your audience clearly cares about wildlife preservation, discuss what can be done to help save endangered species’ from extinction.

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Don’t just give them cold, hard facts; use the facts to make a point that they can use to better themselves or the world in some way.

5. Entertain them

While not all speeches or presentations are meant to be entertaining in a comedic way, audiences will become thoroughly engaged in anecdotes that relate to the overall theme of the speech. We discussed appealing to emotions, and that’s exactly what a speaker sets out to do when he tells a story from his past or that of a well-known historical figure.

Speakers usually tell more than one story in order to show that the first one they told isn’t simply an anomaly, and that whatever outcome they’re attempting to prove will consistently reoccur, given certain circumstances.

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6. Appeal to loyalty

Just like the musician mentioning the town he’s playing in will get the audience ready to rock, speakers need to appeal to their audience’s loyalty to their country, company, product or cause. Show them how important it is that they’re present and listening to your speech by making your words hit home to each individual.

In doing so, the members of your audience will feel as if you’re speaking directly to them while you’re addressing the entire crowd.

7. Tell them the benefits of the presentation

Early on in your presentation, you should tell your audience exactly what they’ll learn, and exactly how they’ll learn it. Don’t expect them to listen if they don’t have clear-cut information to listen for. On the other hand, if they know what to listen for, they’ll be more apt to stay engaged throughout your entire presentation so they don’t miss anything.

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