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Book Review: Kiss That Frog!

Book Review: Kiss That Frog!

    There are plenty of blogs and websites out there that attempt to lift your spirits and turn negatives into positives, and Brain Tracy and Christina Tracy Stein have now written a book on the subject. Kiss That Frog! 12 Great Ways to Turn Negatives into Positives in Your Life and Work promises to deliver simple (and yet powerful) techniques that can take every problem you face and turn it on its ear, creating a more positive feeling.

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    And it, in fact, does deliver.

    Kiss That Frog offers a step-by-step process to help you take all of the negatives going on in your life and work and transform them into something that can work for you. The seven steps outlined in the book are as follows:

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    1. Engage in positive self-talk. Rather than saying negative things about yourself and your experiences, you should “change your scripts”.
    2. Practice positive visualization. Instead of thinking that bad things will happen, visualize success.
    3. Hang around positive people. They can help stave off negativity.
    4. Consume positive mental food. One way to do this is by reading motivating and inspiring books (and blogs — like Lifehack, for example).
    5. Engage in positive training and development. You can do this by committing to lifelong learning.
    6. Practice positive health habits.
    7. Develop positive expectations. Do this by not allowing yourselves to be negative (or even skeptical).

    The authors point out that expectations and lives are both something that we can control and the negative thoughts (and resulting emotions) can cause you to get stuck in a rut of negativity for longer than we’d like to imagine — or admit. They argue that if you take charge of your life, you can transform your negative experiences into positive ones and break free from that rut of your own making. Powerful stuff, but simply stated and something that readers both familiar with Tracy’s work and new to it can buy into very easily.

    To be fair, Kiss That Frog doesn’t explore waters that haven’t been before, but instead serves as a reminder on how to make sure you have a framework in place to make it happen. A lot of books (and blogs) do this, but Tracy and Tracy Stein do this adeptly throughout — making the process accessible for readers of all varieties. While Lifehack readers may not be unaware of these steps (because they’ve been discussed several times at Lifehack, for example), having a refresher is worthwhile for sure.

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    If you’re finding that you’re mind tends to go to the negative far more than the positive, then Kiss That Frog is going to be a great read for you. If not, then it doesn’t hurt to have this book staring at you from your bookshelf when you mind does go there.

    (Photo credit: Pretty Young Blond Woman Kissing Frog via Shutterstock)

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      Last Updated on February 18, 2019

      Why It’s Never Too Late To Redefine Yourself

      Why It’s Never Too Late To Redefine Yourself

      The ability to reinvent and redefine yourself is a bold, daring and purposeful choice. It doesn’t just happen. You have to make a conscious, intentional choice and then follow through.

      If the thought of forging a new path, changing habits, thought patterns and your inner circle of friends scares you – you’re not alone. Change can be a very scary thing. It takes courage, fortitude and a bit of faith to decide to shed your old self and don a new persona. However, it is one of the most critical processes one must repeatedly endure in the pursuit of destiny. Change unlocks new levels of potential.

      The Need for Change

      Everyday when we wake up, we make a decision. We decide to follow our routine or we decide to go off script and shake things up a bit. For those who are creatures of habit, routine is comfortable, easy and produces very little stress. The problem with this is, after a while you stop growing.

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      We all reinvent ourselves at some point in our lives. It is absolutely necessary to achieve certain levels of success.

      Reflect back on who you were as a teenager and then who you were at 25. Those are two very different people. Most of us are completely different. Your thought patterns changed, your appearance, job, level of education and even your friends– changed. We like to refer to this as “growing up” or maturing and consider it to be one of life’s natural progressions. However the changes you made were purposeful and deliberate.

      This process must be a lifelong and continuous cycle. You are never too old to refresh yourself.

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        Signs It’s Time to Redefine

        “Just as established products and brands need updating to stay alive and vibrant, you periodically need to refresh or reinvent yourself.”– Mireille Guiliano

        So how do you know when it’s time for a system upgrade? There are signs along the way that alert you that it is time for an overhaul. The first sign is the feeling of being stuck. If you feel like you are in a rut, you’re bored with life or you need some newness and excitement, a self reinvention may be in order. Re-evaluate your life vision and your goals. Is that vision still valid and are your goals consistent with your vision and–are they achievable? If you are off course, it’s time for a change. If you are not moving forward and making progress, it’s time for a change.

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        In life, there’s no such thing as neutrality–you’re either moving forward or you are moving backward. Time constantly moves forward and if you are standing still, you are actually losing ground. No matter your age or stage in life– there is always room for improvement.

        “You’re never too old to set another goal or dream a new dream.” ~C. S. Lewis

        The second sign that you are due for a change is the occurrence of major life events in which change is forced upon you. Getting married, starting a new job, being promoted, ending a relationship, becoming a parenting or relocating are all prime opportunities to completely overhaul your life.

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        When these major shifts occur in your life–you have to shift with them. You can’t have a single mentality and have a successful marriage. You can’t remain selfish and irresponsible, and raise a healthy, well-adjusted child. You can’t be promoted to a supervisory position and keep the same subordinate attitude. Each level of success requires something different from you.

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          Consider, for a moment, Arnold Schwarzenegger. People may have different opinions about his character and some of his life choices, but he is a master at reinventing himself. He achieved the ultimate success as a professional body builder by earning the title “Mr. Universe” three times. He then earned a tremendous amount of fame and fortune in the entertainment industry making action/adventure films. And in his latest role, he served two terms as the Governor of California. He succeeded as a professional body builder, a film star and a politician. Each role required massive amounts of change, commitment, strength and hard work.

          And if Arnold can do it…so can you!

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