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Book Review: Kiss That Frog!

Book Review: Kiss That Frog!

    There are plenty of blogs and websites out there that attempt to lift your spirits and turn negatives into positives, and Brain Tracy and Christina Tracy Stein have now written a book on the subject. Kiss That Frog! 12 Great Ways to Turn Negatives into Positives in Your Life and Work promises to deliver simple (and yet powerful) techniques that can take every problem you face and turn it on its ear, creating a more positive feeling.

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    And it, in fact, does deliver.

    Kiss That Frog offers a step-by-step process to help you take all of the negatives going on in your life and work and transform them into something that can work for you. The seven steps outlined in the book are as follows:

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    1. Engage in positive self-talk. Rather than saying negative things about yourself and your experiences, you should “change your scripts”.
    2. Practice positive visualization. Instead of thinking that bad things will happen, visualize success.
    3. Hang around positive people. They can help stave off negativity.
    4. Consume positive mental food. One way to do this is by reading motivating and inspiring books (and blogs — like Lifehack, for example).
    5. Engage in positive training and development. You can do this by committing to lifelong learning.
    6. Practice positive health habits.
    7. Develop positive expectations. Do this by not allowing yourselves to be negative (or even skeptical).

    The authors point out that expectations and lives are both something that we can control and the negative thoughts (and resulting emotions) can cause you to get stuck in a rut of negativity for longer than we’d like to imagine — or admit. They argue that if you take charge of your life, you can transform your negative experiences into positive ones and break free from that rut of your own making. Powerful stuff, but simply stated and something that readers both familiar with Tracy’s work and new to it can buy into very easily.

    To be fair, Kiss That Frog doesn’t explore waters that haven’t been before, but instead serves as a reminder on how to make sure you have a framework in place to make it happen. A lot of books (and blogs) do this, but Tracy and Tracy Stein do this adeptly throughout — making the process accessible for readers of all varieties. While Lifehack readers may not be unaware of these steps (because they’ve been discussed several times at Lifehack, for example), having a refresher is worthwhile for sure.

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    If you’re finding that you’re mind tends to go to the negative far more than the positive, then Kiss That Frog is going to be a great read for you. If not, then it doesn’t hurt to have this book staring at you from your bookshelf when you mind does go there.

    (Photo credit: Pretty Young Blond Woman Kissing Frog via Shutterstock)

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      10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks

      10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks

      The ability to take risks by stepping outside your comfort zone is the primary way by which we grow. But we are often afraid to take that first step.

      In truth, comfort zones are not really about comfort, they are about fear. Break the chains of fear to get outside. Once you do, you will learn to enjoy the process of taking risks and growing in the process.

      Here are 10 ways to help you step out of your comfort zone and get closer to success:

      1. Become aware of what’s outside of your comfort zone

      What are the things that you believe are worth doing but are afraid of doing yourself because of the potential for disappointment or failure?

      Draw a circle and write those things down outside the circle. This process will not only allow you to clearly identify your discomforts, but your comforts. Write identified comforts inside the circle.

      2. Become clear about what you are aiming to overcome

      Take the list of discomforts and go deeper. Remember, the primary emotion you are trying to overcome is fear.

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      How does this fear apply uniquely to each situation? Be very specific.

      Are you afraid of walking up to people and introducing yourself in social situations? Why? Is it because you are insecure about the sound of your voice? Are you insecure about your looks?

      Or, are you afraid of being ignored?

      3. Get comfortable with discomfort

      One way to get outside of your comfort zone is to literally expand it. Make it a goal to avoid running away from discomfort.

      Let’s stay with the theme of meeting people in social settings. If you start feeling a little panicked when talking to someone you’ve just met, try to stay with it a little longer than you normally would before retreating to comfort. If you stay long enough and practice often enough, it will start to become less uncomfortable.

      4. See failure as a teacher

      Many of us are so afraid of failure that we would rather do nothing than take a shot at our dreams.

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      Begin to treat failure as a teacher. What did you learn from the experience? How can you take that lesson to your next adventure to increase your chance of success?

      Many highly successful people failed plenty of times before they succeeded. Here’re some examples:

      10 Famous Failures to Success Stories That Will Inspire You to Carry On

      5. Take baby steps

      Don’t try to jump outside your comfort zone, you will likely become overwhelmed and jump right back in.

      Take small steps toward the fear you are trying to overcome. If you want to do public speaking, start by taking every opportunity to speak to small groups of people. You can even practice with family and friends.

      Take a look at this article on how you can start taking baby steps:

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      The Number One Secret to Life Success: Baby Steps

      6. Hang out with risk takers

      There is no substitute for this step. If you want to become better at something, you must start hanging out with the people who are doing what you want to do and start emulating them. (Here’re 8 Reasons Why Risk Takers Are More Likely To Be Successful).

      Almost inevitably, their influence will start have an effect on your behavior.

      7. Be honest with yourself when you are trying to make excuses

      Don’t say “Oh, I just don’t have the time for this right now.” Instead, be honest and say “I am afraid to do this.”

      Don’t make excuses, just be honest. You will be in a better place to confront what is truly bothering you and increase your chance of moving forward.

      8. Identify how stepping out will benefit you

      What will the ability to engage in public speaking do for your personal and professional growth? Keep these potential benefits in mind as motivations to push through fear.

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      9. Don’t take yourself too seriously

      Learn to laugh at yourself when you make mistakes. Risk taking will inevitably involve failure and setbacks that will sometimes make you look foolish to others. Be happy to roll with the punches when others poke fun.

      If you aren’t convinced yet, check out these 6 Reasons Not to Take Life So Seriously.

      10. Focus on the fun

      Enjoy the process of stepping outside your safe boundaries. Enjoy the fun of discovering things about yourself that you may not have been aware of previously.

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