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I Am A Real Gentleman. That’s Why I Am A Winner In Love.

I Am A Real Gentleman. That’s Why I Am A Winner In Love.

Today a gentleman is endangered species. And we men know that too. There are lots of distractions in this world that blocks our way to inherit a character of a gentleman.

Even as the time passes by, the word “man” has no same meaning as before. If we define it by the archaic method, a man means to “fortify the spirits or courage of.”

These days’ people even confuse the meaning of a gentleman. Opening the car for you lady won’t make you a gentleman, but your overall behavior will.

Today we will remind ourselves of the nine traits of a legit gentleman.

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1. Chivalrous

Being chivalrous is being gallant. Paying special attention to women and being polite with them is one of the first traits of a gentleman. Not opening the car and being a jackass after, not opening the door and letting her down after, but a man who gives special attention that every women seeks.

2. Courteous

Being polite and respectful in a considerate manner is to be courteous. I’ve seen men dressed in tuxedos, having a beautiful haircut, great shoes and yet they answer the phone when their women is in the middle of her story. That’s disrespectful and definitely not polite.

To be courteous we have to behave all of our lives in a considerate manner.

3. Honorable man

An honorable man will never hurt his woman. He is warm, respectful, and he will always make time for his lady. And the most important is that he doesn’t play games. Games are for high school relationships. It’s really bad that most of the time both men and women are stuck in the games cycle. They think that relationships couldn’t last if there were no games. That type of behavior is not the one of a lady and definitely not of a gentleman.

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4. Realistic

The next trait of a real gentleman is to be realistic. People often don’t want to see reality. They would rather live in a false one than to be faced with the real situation.

A true gentleman always oversees things realistically. If the car tire is broken, it needs to be fixed. We are not going to drive with broken tire. It’s same in relationship. If something doesn’t work out, we should fix it. Otherwise it will accumulate bigger problems that often end up in breakup, or worst case in a divorce.

5. Polite

Politeness is an expression of concern for other people’s feelings. Being linguistically polite involves a highly complex mix of appropriate words, grammar, intonation and tone of voice.

Positive politeness’ is used to emphasize goodwill and it helps preserve the other person’s positive feeling. Paying compliments, saying “Okay” or “Mhm … ” in all the right places and calling someone by a nickname can all be ways of being positively polite.

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6. Gallant

A man who is much concerned with his dress and appearance is a gallant person. Although it might be uncertain to some, appearance is the first thing that speaks your language, or let me say, shows your qualities. To be a true gentleman we have to be concerned of our bearing every second of the day. If I would give any example, I could put Harvey Specter from “Suits” as a gallant person.

7. Respectful

Respect is to hold someone in high regard and honor their achievements. If you are respectful of your partner, you show them that you recognize that they are their own person. Being respectful means you not only admire them, but listen to them and understand that their goals are as important as yours.

8. Noble

We could be noble in personality which means we are trustworthy and honest. Or we could be a noble meaning we have royal blood in us. We will stick to the first one.

These days finding a trustworthy and honest person is like finding treasure! We should strive more for the nobility and the so-called “human treasure.” That’s what makes one person a pure gentleman.

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9. Decent

The word decent has a vast meaning. But to be really a decent gentleman, puts everything right in the spot. One decent gentleman is proper, correct, appropriate (especially for his woman), reasonable, fair and acceptable.

Featured photo credit: Distinguished Gentleman (2)/Michiel Souren via flickr.com

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Last Updated on August 16, 2018

10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks

10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks

The ability to take risks by stepping outside your comfort zone is the primary way by which we grow. But we are often afraid to take that first step.

In truth, comfort zones are not really about comfort, they are about fear. Break the chains of fear to get outside. Once you do, you will learn to enjoy the process of taking risks and growing in the process.

Here are 10 ways to help you step out of your comfort zone and get closer to success:

1. Become aware of what’s outside of your comfort zone

What are the things that you believe are worth doing but are afraid of doing yourself because of the potential for disappointment or failure?

Draw a circle and write those things down outside the circle. This process will not only allow you to clearly identify your discomforts, but your comforts. Write identified comforts inside the circle.

2. Become clear about what you are aiming to overcome

Take the list of discomforts and go deeper. Remember, the primary emotion you are trying to overcome is fear.

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How does this fear apply uniquely to each situation? Be very specific.

Are you afraid of walking up to people and introducing yourself in social situations? Why? Is it because you are insecure about the sound of your voice? Are you insecure about your looks?

Or, are you afraid of being ignored?

3. Get comfortable with discomfort

One way to get outside of your comfort zone is to literally expand it. Make it a goal to avoid running away from discomfort.

Let’s stay with the theme of meeting people in social settings. If you start feeling a little panicked when talking to someone you’ve just met, try to stay with it a little longer than you normally would before retreating to comfort. If you stay long enough and practice often enough, it will start to become less uncomfortable.

4. See failure as a teacher

Many of us are so afraid of failure that we would rather do nothing than take a shot at our dreams.

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Begin to treat failure as a teacher. What did you learn from the experience? How can you take that lesson to your next adventure to increase your chance of success?

Many highly successful people failed plenty of times before they succeeded. Here’re some examples:

10 Famous Failures to Success Stories That Will Inspire You to Carry On

5. Take baby steps

Don’t try to jump outside your comfort zone, you will likely become overwhelmed and jump right back in.

Take small steps toward the fear you are trying to overcome. If you want to do public speaking, start by taking every opportunity to speak to small groups of people. You can even practice with family and friends.

Take a look at this article on how you can start taking baby steps:

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The Number One Secret to Life Success: Baby Steps

6. Hang out with risk takers

There is no substitute for this step. If you want to become better at something, you must start hanging out with the people who are doing what you want to do and start emulating them. (Here’re 8 Reasons Why Risk Takers Are More Likely To Be Successful).

Almost inevitably, their influence will start have an effect on your behavior.

7. Be honest with yourself when you are trying to make excuses

Don’t say “Oh, I just don’t have the time for this right now.” Instead, be honest and say “I am afraid to do this.”

Don’t make excuses, just be honest. You will be in a better place to confront what is truly bothering you and increase your chance of moving forward.

8. Identify how stepping out will benefit you

What will the ability to engage in public speaking do for your personal and professional growth? Keep these potential benefits in mind as motivations to push through fear.

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9. Don’t take yourself too seriously

Learn to laugh at yourself when you make mistakes. Risk taking will inevitably involve failure and setbacks that will sometimes make you look foolish to others. Be happy to roll with the punches when others poke fun.

If you aren’t convinced yet, check out these 6 Reasons Not to Take Life So Seriously.

10. Focus on the fun

Enjoy the process of stepping outside your safe boundaries. Enjoy the fun of discovering things about yourself that you may not have been aware of previously.

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