Today a gentleman is endangered species. And we men know that too. There are lots of distractions in this world that blocks our way to inherit a character of a gentleman.
Even as the time passes by, the word “man” has no same meaning as before. If we define it by the archaic method, a man means to “fortify the spirits or courage of.”
These days’ people even confuse the meaning of a gentleman. Opening the car for you lady won’t make you a gentleman, but your overall behavior will.
Today we will remind ourselves of the nine traits of a legit gentleman.
Being chivalrous is being gallant. Paying special attention to women and being polite with them is one of the first traits of a gentleman. Not opening the car and being a jackass after, not opening the door and letting her down after, but a man who gives special attention that every women seeks.
Being polite and respectful in a considerate manner is to be courteous. I’ve seen men dressed in tuxedos, having a beautiful haircut, great shoes and yet they answer the phone when their women is in the middle of her story. That’s disrespectful and definitely not polite.
To be courteous we have to behave all of our lives in a considerate manner.
3. Honorable man
An honorable man will never hurt his woman. He is warm, respectful, and he will always make time for his lady. And the most important is that he doesn’t play games. Games are for high school relationships. It’s really bad that most of the time both men and women are stuck in the games cycle. They think that relationships couldn’t last if there were no games. That type of behavior is not the one of a lady and definitely not of a gentleman.
The next trait of a real gentleman is to be realistic. People often don’t want to see reality. They would rather live in a false one than to be faced with the real situation.
A true gentleman always oversees things realistically. If the car tire is broken, it needs to be fixed. We are not going to drive with broken tire. It’s same in relationship. If something doesn’t work out, we should fix it. Otherwise it will accumulate bigger problems that often end up in breakup, or worst case in a divorce.
Politeness is an expression of concern for other people’s feelings. Being linguistically polite involves a highly complex mix of appropriate words, grammar, intonation and tone of voice.
Positive politeness’ is used to emphasize goodwill and it helps preserve the other person’s positive feeling. Paying compliments, saying “Okay” or “Mhm … ” in all the right places and calling someone by a nickname can all be ways of being positively polite.
A man who is much concerned with his dress and appearance is a gallant person. Although it might be uncertain to some, appearance is the first thing that speaks your language, or let me say, shows your qualities. To be a true gentleman we have to be concerned of our bearing every second of the day. If I would give any example, I could put Harvey Specter from “Suits” as a gallant person.
Respect is to hold someone in high regard and honor their achievements. If you are respectful of your partner, you show them that you recognize that they are their own person. Being respectful means you not only admire them, but listen to them and understand that their goals are as important as yours.
We could be noble in personality which means we are trustworthy and honest. Or we could be a noble meaning we have royal blood in us. We will stick to the first one.
These days finding a trustworthy and honest person is like finding treasure! We should strive more for the nobility and the so-called “human treasure.” That’s what makes one person a pure gentleman.
The word decent has a vast meaning. But to be really a decent gentleman, puts everything right in the spot. One decent gentleman is proper, correct, appropriate (especially for his woman), reasonable, fair and acceptable.
Featured photo credit: Distinguished Gentleman (2)/Michiel Souren via flickr.com