8 Ways To Cultivate More Love in Life

8 Ways To Cultivate More Love in Life

As we grow more connected to the outside world, we also paradoxically distance ourselves from the “real” people right in front of us. Between Twitter, Facebook, email, and the ever-increasing prevalence of the computer in our lives, it’s becoming increasingly rare to have a face-to-face conversation about anything at all, let alone anything of real substantive value to ourselves and our loved ones.

I advocate a “back to basics” approach that cuts off the ongoing encroachment of technology and reminds us that we’re not cyborgs, but fully functioning human beings. Here are 8 ways to cultivate more love in life that will help you “ground” yourself and interact more completely with your life, instead of just reporting on it on social media.

1) Take a technology detox.



    You mean…

    Yes. I mean.

    Take a full day. That’s 24 hours. From the time you get up to the time you go to bed, no computer, cell phone, email, or “just popping on to check out what Miley Cyrus did today.” None. Zip. Zero. Nada. Instead of watching TV, radio (music’s still okay, but try to steer clear of the computer to get at it, hmm?), or playing on the computer, take a walk, call some friends, or do something‒ANYTHING!‒but avoid messing around with social media or anything that might somehow tempt you to do so. Post a sign if you have to, so all your friends will know that NO, you haven’t seen Charlene’s latest Facebook update about her breakup with her boyfriend. You can catch up tomorrow. Promise.


    2) Read a good book.

    This is perhaps one of the most overlooked “simple pleasures” we have. A Kindle’s great, a PDF will do in a pinch, but there is just no substitute for the feel and smell of wood pulp in your hands and actually, physically turning the pages of a book. Many people say that, although e-reading is great, there’s just something about being able to physically touch a book that gives a deeper connection to it. I don’t know how it works, since I’m a writer and not a psychologist, but I can tell you with absolute, 100% certainty that it does. Make today the day you rediscover an old favorite, or support your local independent bookstore and see about scoring some new ones!

    3) Meditate on who you are.


      It’s almost a cliche that although we can look back through Facebook and tell you what we ate for breakfast three years, two months, sixteen days and ten hours ago, we have no idea who we really are today. You can counter this tendency by taking a little time to quietly ponder who you are and who you’ve become. Do you like what you see? Are some changes in order? This is a great way to inject some love into your life, because if you don’t like who you are, now is the time to change it. Not on New Year’s Eve, not next week. If you really want to change, the time is now.


      4) Remind yourself that you, and others, are worthy of love and attention.

      If you feel like you’re being ignored a lot, ask yourself if you’re giving what you’d like to receive. If you are, then it’s time to seek out a new social circle, because the people you’re hanging out with are clearly too self-absorbed. If you’re not, then this is a good time to start giving out what you want to receive. You’ll be liked a lot more, and people will be more likely to pay attention to you when you need them as well.

      5) Ask, “How was your day?”and LISTEN to the answer.

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        “How was your day?” is almost a pro forma question these days. We hear the answer, but don’t really listen because we just can’t wait to get on to the really important topic of OUR day. if you’re not willing to listen to the answer, don’t ask the question; conversely, if you’re going to ask, you owe it to yourself and the other person to listen. Otherwise you’re just wasting your breath asking, and they’re wasting their breath telling you. You can tell if this is happening in your life because when you ask, the other person is reluctant to say anything at all. The more love, attention, and respect you give, the more compassion you’ll receive.


        6) Touch.


          This is such a simple thing, but too often it goes ignored. The act of touching conveys much more than simple physical contact. It is a sign that you care about someone enough to get in their space, and to allow them into yours as well. Human beings need touch in order to feel secure and comfortable; it is a social and spiritual act. This can be a friendly or amorous touch, familial or comradely, but everything from a high-five to sex with your lover shows that you care. If you feel lonely, isolated, or unloved, try touching someone you care about. You may be surprised where it leads.

          7) Schedule a game night.

          No, I don’t mean watching football, hockey, or soccer. I mean an old-fashioned table game. Whether you like to play dice, cards, Monopoly, or even beer pong, a game night is a good way to break up the routine and allow some real socialization with friends or family (Sorry, online versions don’t count here). This is an excellent way to reconnect with others and disconnect from the Internet for a night. You’ll be surprised at how much warmer and more cared-for you’ll feel at the end of the evening, too!

          8) Watch the sunset.


            There are just some things that cannot be simulated or duplicated. Why not take your lover out around sunset and watch the sun go down? Not only is it a great, intimate way to spend a little time, but it will also help you think about some of life’s bigger questions, like why the things we place such a premium on really don’t matter much in the end. This is a perfect time to tell your partner, “I love you and I’m so thankful that you’re in my life.” You’ll also feel more at peace, which is always a worthy outcome!

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            60 Things To Be Thankful For In Life

            60 Things To Be Thankful For In Life

            Sometimes it’s easier to focus on what we don’t have, rather than what we do have. It’s important to take time out and remember all of the things to be thankful for that many of us take for granted.

              Here you’ll find 60 very solid things to be thankful for in your everyday life. These are great reminders for you to treasure everything you have.

              1. Good Health

              Even if you’re health isn’t great, it could be worse and you likely still have some working parts to be thankful for.

              2. Money in the Bank

              Having just a few coins makes you richer than most people on Earth.

              3. Good Friends

              Often, it’s the quality of friendships, not the quantity.

              4. Freedom of Religion

              Being able to worship whomever and however you want is something many people don’t ever experience.

              5. Your Parents

              Even if they’re dysfunctional, they gave you life.

              6. Weekends

              There’s something magical about weekends.

              7.Having a Partner

              Being in a romantic relationship can teach you so much about the world and yourself.

              8. Pets

              Pets offer one of the best examples of unconditional love.

              9. Learning from Mistakes

              If we never made mistakes, we wouldn’t learn much so it is one of those things we should be thankful for.

              10. Opportunity to Get an Education

              The opportunity to attend school is something many people don’t have.


              11. Having a Home

              Whether you live in an apartment, a mansion, or a tent, having a place to call home is something to be thankful for.

              12. An Ability to Read

              If you’re reading this right now, you have a lot to be thankful for.

              13. Breathing Fresh Air

              Being able to step outside to breathe in fresh air is a good reminder how many little things we should be thankful for.

              14. A Bed to Sleep

              A bed is one of those things that’s easy to take for granted, until you don’t have one.

              15. Laughter

              Without laughter, the world would be a sad place.

              16. Safety and Security

              Being able to wake up without immense fear frees us up to really live life.

              17. Cars

              Without cars, it would take a lot longer to get our activities done.

              18. Sunshine

              The sun’s warmth can brighten any day.

              19. Time

              Although we often don’t think there’s enough of it, time is something we shouldn’t take for granted.

              20. Clean Water

              Many people on earth lack access to clean water.

              21. Cell Phones

              Cell phones make talking to loved ones easy.

              22. Love

              The world sure would be a different place if we lacked the ability to love.

              23. Books

              Books provide an opportunity to enter another world all from the comfort of your own home.


              24. Kindness of Strangers

              Never take the kindness of a stranger for granted.

              25. Campfires

              The simplicity of a campfire creates lifelong memories.

              26. Pain

              Without pain, it would be difficulty to appreciate life’s joys.

              27. Art

              The world would be less beautiful if art didn’t exist.

              28. Holidays

              Any reason to celebrate is something we should be thankful for.

              29. Freedom of Speech

              Being able to express your thoughts and feelings freely should never be taken for granted.

              30. Rainbows

              The beauty of a rainbow is unmatched.

              31. Tears

              Sometimes when there are no words to say, tears express how we feel for us.

              32. Waking up Today

              Simply waking up today means you have things to be thankful for.

              33. Indoor Plumbing

              Indoor plumbing not only provides convenience, it spares us from disease.

              34. Wisdom that Comes with Age

              Thankfully, we grow smarter over time.

              35. Mountains

              Mountains provide us with beauty and recreation.

              36. Eyesight

              Being able to see allows us to view the world’s beauty.


              37. Grocery Stores

              Grocery stores mean we don’t have to spend all of our time getting our own food.

              38. Sunsets

              Sunsets are a reminder that we should enjoy the simple things in life.

              39. Entertainment

              Entertainment gives us a way to relax and enjoy life.

              40. Your Mind

              Being able to think, remember, and solve problems sure makes life easier.

              41. Employment

              Even if you don’t like your job, being employed means someone thought you were special enough to hire.

              42. Diversity

              The world would be a boring place without diversity.

              43. Moon and Stars

              The moon and stars encourage us to dream.

              44. Electricity

              Electricity makes most of our chores efficient.

              45. Air Conditioning

              Staying cool on a hot day is something people wouldn’t have dreamed about in past centuries.

              46. Hearing

              Being able to hear your loved one’s voice is something that not everyone gets to do.

              47. Children

              Watching children laugh, grow, and dream can keep things in perspective.

              48. Ability to Learn

              The ability to learn new things means we have endless potential.

              49. People Willing to Teach

              Whether it’s your grandmother teaching you to knit or your plumber showing you how to prevent future problems, be grateful that others are willing to use their time and talents to teach you something new.


              50. Oceans

              The sea creatures in the ocean almost seem too mystical to be real.

              51. Modern Medicine

              Without advances in modern medicine, many of us wouldn’t be alive.

              52. Music

              Music brings out new emotions.

              53. Entrepreneurs

              Some of life’s best inventions resulted from an entrepreneur who was willing to take a risk.

              54. Warm Clothing

              On a cold day, there’s nothing more important than warm clothing.

              55. Freedom to Vote

              Being able to have a say in the laws should never be taken for granted.

              56. An Internet Connection

              It’s hard to believe how easy it is to take the internet for granted, seeing how none of us had just a couple of decades ago.

              57. Challenges

              Without challenges in life, we wouldn’t be the people we are now.

              58. Hiking Trails

              Hiking trails give us the chance to enjoy mother’s nature beauty.

              59. Vaccines

              Many of us wouldn’t be alive without today’s vaccinations.

              60. Armed Forces

              Our lives would likely be very different if we didn’t have protection from the armed forces.

              Realizing all the things you should be thankful for is the first step, practicing gratitude is what you should start doing:

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