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8 Inspiring Lessons I Learned From Steve Jobs

8 Inspiring Lessons I Learned From Steve Jobs

Steve Jobs was a visionary and cult figure who inspired millions. His quotes almost attained the attributes of a scripture. Here are some to live by:

“People don’t know what they want until you show it to them”

You are right Steve; we didn’t know what we wanted until we experienced your vision of Apple. As you have rightfully said, “Don’t sell your products, sell people their dreams, they will follow you”. You empowered us with the power we barely knew and helped in achieving our dreams.

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“You’ve got to find what you love”

You proved that, Steve. You loved simplifying the technology for masses. Falling in love with work is essential; because it is going to fill a large part of our life. The only way to be truly satisfied is to do what we believe is great work, and the only way to do great work is to love what we do. Period.

“Connecting the dots”

I believe you, Steve. You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. Since then, I have stopped worrying about the harsh times; somehow these dots would definitely connect in the future. So whatever happens in your life, just be calm and believe that in every adversity, there would be a blessing in disguise that we may not understand now.

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“Remembering that you are going to die is the best way to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose”

Truly said, Steve; everyone is going to die but no one believes it. There is no reason not to follow your heart.  We are already naked; there is no point in not following our dreams. Our life has got some purpose and we have to define it by ourselves; nobody is going to lead you towards the path of enlightenment except you.

“Stay Hungry, Stay Foolish”

It took time for me to understand. But believe me, it’s a revelation. It says, “Don’t settle down until you find what you love to do”. Until then “STAY HUNGRY, STAY FOOLISH”; everything else is secondary. Even if we fail, we fail daring greatly so that we can never be like cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.

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“Keep evolving always”

Darwin said, “Survival of the fittest, not the survival of strongest”. Those who are adaptable to change will survive at the end of the day. Apple never stopped with the success of Macintosh, it continually pushed the limits to create new line of products that people would die to own them. Bob Dylan famously puts, “If you are not busy being born, you are busy dying”. So never stop with the success because success is never final.

“Less is more”

Declutter, declutter, and declutter because less is always more. Implementing this philosophy in Apple created wonders in Steve’s life. Having been inspired from Zen’s philosophy of Minimalism, Apple is revolutionary in creating products with such a simple design that people would cherish grabbing on the first day. No wonder that all the Apple products come without a manual, they are too simple to understand and operate. So remember always, less is more.

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“I would trade all of my technology for an afternoon with Socrates”

Steve, being an avid follower of Socrates, evidently knew the importance of philosophy in his life. Many of us would think that Philosophy is an elite subject that is confusing. However, philosophy is a manual of our lives and Steve rightfully knew it or else it would have been highly difficult for him to create the market for computers that actually didn’t exist when he started “APPLE”. Philosophy tames you to accept the paradoxes of life. Hence nothing bothers, except your vision as Steve once had.

Many come and go but only a few leave lasting impressions in the history of mankind. We owe you in many ways, Steve. As long as innovations keep flowing you are alive because you are the one who inspired innovation.

APPLE may not be APPLE without you. We love APPLE because of you.

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Last Updated on April 19, 2021

How to Deal With Anger (The Ultimate Anger Management Guide)

How to Deal With Anger (The Ultimate Anger Management Guide)

We all lose our temper from time to time, and expressing anger is actually a healthy thing to do in our relationships with others. Expressing our differences in opinion allows us to have healthy conflict and many times come to an agreement or understanding that works for everyone. However, there are times when anger can become overwhelming or damaging, and during these times, it’s important to learn how to deal with anger.

Expressing anger inappropriately can be harmful to relationships, both personal and professional. You may express too much anger, too often, or at times that are only going to make things worse, not better. In this article we will look at anger management techniques that will help you better control your emotions.

Let’s take a deeper look at how to deal with anger.

Expressing Anger

Anger is a natural and normal part of almost any relationship. This includes relationships with your significant other, kids, boss, friends, family, etc. Anger provides us with valuable information if we are willing to listen to it. It clues us in to areas where we disagree with others and things that need to be changed or altered.

Unhealthy Ways to Express Anger

Here are some common yet unhealthy ways to express anger that you should avoid:

Being Passive-Aggressive

This is a term many of us are familiar with. Passive-aggressive behavior happens when someone is angry but uses indirect communication to express their anger.

Some of the more common passive-aggressive behaviors include the silent treatment, making comments about someone behind their back, being grumpy, moody, or pouting, or simply not doing tasks or assignments that they should.

This is a passive-aggressive person’s way of showing their anger. It’s not very productive but extremely common.

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Poorly-Timed

Some people get overwhelmed and express anger in a situation where it can’t really do any good.

An example would be getting angry at one person in front of a crowd of people. All that does is make people uncomfortable and shuts them down. It’s not a healthy way to express anger or disagreement with someone.

Ongoing Anger

Being angry all the time is most often a symptom of something else. It’s healthy and normal to express anger when you disagree with someone. However, if someone is angry most of the time and always seems to be expressing their anger to everyone around them, this won’t serve them well.

Over time, people will start to avoid this person and have as little contact as possible. The reason being is no one likes being around someone who is angry all the time; it’s a no-win situation.

Healthy Ways to Express Anger

What about the healthy ways[1] to adapt? When learning how to deal with anger, here are some healthy ways to get you started.

Being Honest

Express your anger or disagreement honestly. Be truthful about what it is that is making you angry. Sometimes this will entail walking away and thinking about it for a bit before you respond.

Don’t say you’re mad at something someone did or said when it’s really something else that upset you.

Being Direct

Similar to being honest, being direct is a healthy way to express anger.

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Don’t talk around something that is making you angry. Don’t say that one thing is making you angry when it’s really something else, and don’t stack items on top of each other so you can unload on someone about 10 different things 6 months from now.

Be direct and upfront about what is making you angry. Ensure you are expressing your anger to the person who upset you or you are angry at, not to someone else. This is very counterproductive.

Being Timely

When something makes you angry, it’s much better to express it in a timely manner. Don’t keep it bottled up inside of you, as that’s only going to do more harm than good.

Think of the marriages that seem to go up in flames out of nowhere when the reality is someone kept quiet for years until they hit their breaking point.

Expressing anger as it occurs is a much healthier way of using anger to help us guide our relationships in the moment.

How to Deal With Anger

If you feel angry, how should you deal with it right at that moment?

1. Slow Down

From time to time, I receive an email at work that makes me so angry that steam is probably pouring out of my ears.

In my less restrained moments, I have been known to fire off a quick response, and that typically has ended about as well as you might imagine.

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When I actually walk away from my computer and go do something else for a while, I am able to calm down and think more rationally. After that happens, I am able to respond in a more appropriate and productive manner. Doing things that helps you learn how to release anger can make an uncomfortable situation more manageable before it gets out of hand.

2. Focus on the “I”

Remember that you are the one that’s upset. Don’t accuse people of making you upset because, in the end, it’s your response to what someone did that really triggered your anger. You don’t want to place blame by saying something like “Why don’t you ever put away your dishes?” Say something more like “Having dirty dishes laying on the counter upsets me—can you work with me to come to a solution?”

When you are accusatory towards someone, all that does is increase the tension. This doesn’t usually do anything except make your anger rise higher.

3. Work out

When learning how to deal with anger, exercise is a great outlet. If something happens that angers you, see if you have the opportunity to burn off some of the anger.

Being able to hit the gym to get a hard workout in is great. If this isn’t an option, see if you can go for a run or a bike ride. If you are at work when you become angry and the weather permits, at least go outside for a brisk walk.

Besides working some of your anger out through exercise, this also helps to give your mind a chance to work through some ways to address what it is that upset you.

If you’re not sure where to start with an exercise routine, check out Lifehack’s free Simple Cardio Home Workout Plan.

4. Seek Help When Needed

There are times when we could all use some help. Life can be stressful and overwhelming. It’s perfectly fine to seek some help from a mental health professional if it will help you get back to a healthy balance.If you find that you are angry all the time, it might be a good idea to go talk to an expert about learning to control intense emotions. They can give you some sound advice and ideas on how to get your anger to a more manageable and healthy level.

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5. Practice Relaxation

We all seem to lead incredibly busy lives, and that’s a good thing if we are loving the life we are living. That being said, it is very beneficial to our physical and mental well-being to take time out for relaxation.

That can mean spending time doing things that help us calm down and relax, like being around people we enjoy, practicing deep breathing or listening to music. It could be making time for things that help bring us balance like a healthy diet and physical activity.

Many people incorporate techniques such as yoga and meditation to calm their minds and release tension when learning how to deal with anger. Whatever your choice is, ensure you take time out to relax when warning signs of anger start to bubble up.

6. Laugh

Incorporating humor and laughter on a regular basis will help keep anger in check and help you get over a bad mood and feelings of anger more quickly. This isn’t part of formal anger management techniques, but you’ll be surprised by how well it works. Remember, life is a journey that’s meant to be enjoyed fully along the way through healthy emotion. Make sure you take time to laugh and have fun.Surround yourself with people that like to laugh and enjoy life. Don’t work at a job that just causes you stress, which can lead to anger. Work at something you enjoy doing.

7. Be Grateful

It’s easy to focus on the bad in life and the things that cause us negative emotions. It’s vitally important to remind ourselves of all the wonderful things in life that bring us positive emotions, things that we easily forget because we get caught up in the whirlwind of day to day life.

Take time out each day to remind yourself of a few things you are grateful for in order to help you learn how to release anger and invite in more positive feelings.

Final Thoughts

Life can be overwhelming at times. We seem to have constant pressure to achieve more and to always be on the go or motivated. People we are around and situations we are in can cause stress, anger, and negative emotions. At times, it can seem to be too much, and we get angry and our emotions start to get out of control.

During these times, keep in mind that life is an incredible journey, full of wonder and things that bring you joy. When you find yourself angry more often than is healthy, take time out to remember the good things in life—the things that we seem to forget yet bring us so much positive energy and emotions.

Use some of the tips included here to help with how to deal with anger and better control your emotions.

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