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7 Uncomfortable Risks We Need To Take To Live A Better Life

7 Uncomfortable Risks We Need To Take To Live A Better Life

It’s too easy to develop a routine in your life and stick with it, but if your days are monotonous, when will anything change? When will you have any fun? It might seem scary, but it’s important to take risks sometimes. Put yourself out there more, or in a different way, and see what new doors open for you. Here are seven uncomfortable risks we need to take to live a better life.

1. Admit life isn’t all good.

This may seem like a depressing note to start off on, but it’s important to acknowledge. Too often, people think they need to be happy and optimistic all the time. That’s not realistic. Life has ups and downs. Bad things will happen whether you take risks or not, but it’s important to know that one of the risks you need to take is to admit that life can be hard. It might be difficult to go out there without a smile on your face, pretending like everything is fine when you’re actually depressed, but it’s worth it. By acknowledging that life isn’t all good, you’re making yourself more relatable. You’re making it easier for when you’ll need more help later, instead of being the happy-go-lucky one everyone else comes to.

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2. Be optimistic, but logical.

This isn’t the opposite of the first point, but rather a continuation of sorts. Don’t always get your hopes up. Don’t always assume that you’ll be the employee who gets promoted, because if you’re not, then it could crush you. It’s harder to come back from a major disappointment than it is to just keep on truckin’ from a minor setback. Be optimistic in thinking that you’re a great worker, qualified for the promotion, but be logical in admitting that you have many wonderful co-workers as well, and any of them could deserve that same promotion. It’s a risk to not assume that you’ll always get what you want, but it’s better to hold back extreme hope and instead keep focusing on the future.

3. Bend the rules.

This goes for if you’re a leader or a follower! Don’t be a stickler for the rules all the time. For example, let the kids stay up a little later if they’ve done all their homework. Sometimes just a small change in the rules can seem like a major reward. Also, don’t be afraid to bend the rules yourself, to forge a new path. So what if everyone in your office always does exactly what your boss says? Do you think you have a better way, and do you think you’ll have the results to follow up your reasoning? Then go for it! It’s better to bend the rules and try something new than stick with the same old thing and produce mediocre results.

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4. Take advantage of every opportunity.

If you met someone socially who could help you make a major career move, would you feel comfortable selling yourself to them? It might seem weird to do so at a party, but you need to be prepared to take advantage of every opportunity that comes your way. This doesn’t mean you need to have your business card at the ready every time you go to the grocery store, but just be prepared to talk if the chance arises. Too often people will hesitate and miss the chance, then spend far too long wishing they had reacted differently. Don’t be that person—take a risk!

5. Be authentic.

It might not sound like a risk, but it really is. How hard is it to be yourself in a major meeting at work? Or at a party where other guests might be more well off than you? You might feel like you’re being looked down on in both of those situations, but you’ll be judged more if you’re acting fake. People value honesty above all else, and being yourself is the easiest way you can be truthful. Also, if everyone was the same, we’d never get anywhere! We’d all have the same ideas and nothing would ever change. So embrace your true self and your ideas and show them to the world.

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6. Tell people how you really feel.

OK, this one is scary. It’s so easy to hurt people’s feelings, even if you don’t mean to. It’s also scary to put yourself on the line by speaking up honestly, when you could just sit back and take it. But it’s important to tell people how you really feel—about them, about their ideas, about their attitudes. This applies in both your personal and professional life. Don’t let people walk all over you or take credit for your ideas. Stand up for yourself and speak the truth; you’ll find it’s not only easier than it seems, but the rewards are well worth it.

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    7. Stand up for what’s right.

    It’s easy to sit back and expect someone else to fight the battle for greater good, but what if no one does? What if it’s all up to you? Could you do it? One of the hardest things in life is to be the only one fighting a battle, but if it’s worth it to you, then you should do it. You’ll be praised for doing something so difficult, and you’ll set an example for others who might want to speak up but don’t have the courage.

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    Last Updated on November 15, 2018

    Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

    Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

    What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

    As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

    The Success Mindset

    Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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    The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

    The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

    The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

    How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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    How To Create a Success Mindset

    People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

    1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

    How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

    A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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    There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

    2. Look For The Successes

    It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

    3. Eliminate Negativity

    You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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    When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

    4. Create a Vision

    Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

    If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

    An Inspirational Story…

    For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

    What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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