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7 Things Only Best Friends Would Understand

7 Things Only Best Friends Would Understand

Best friends often make life way more fun than it should be (let’s face it, things become pretty bleak when there’s nobody around to laugh at your terrible jokes). There’s nothing quite like having someone around who totally understands you and won’t judge you (or will judge you, depending on the situation). They’re brutally honest, interesting even after they’ve recited the same story to you a thousand times, and are aware of all the little inside jokes that crack both of you up no matter how many times you say them. Thanks to this close connection there’s a bunch of things that you’d only understand if you’re someone’s best friend, and I’ve listed a chunk of them below.

1. The look of abject horror on your best friend’s face when they see someone they hate.

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    Everybody hates somebody (insert laugh track here)! So it’s nice when your best friend is there to nod their head and say, “don’t worry man, I know exactly how you feel.” It’s even better if they proceed to join you in glaring at said hated person.

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    2. That hysterical expression you both make when you see the person who has been the brunt of your inside jokes for the past several years.

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      In my small little group of best friends we’ve been dragging along an inside joke that’s lasted for several years, and it’s all based around one particular (unintentionally) hysterical person. When we see him, we can barely control ourselves.

      3. The fear and trepidation you both feel when arriving at a party that’s either full of creeps or people you don’t know.

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        So your best friend thought it’d be a good idea to drive out into the middle of nowhere and go to a party hosted by an acquaintance he knew in his freshmen English class a couple years back. You arrive and neither of you see anybody you know. Simultaneously, everyone in the party turns to glare at you suspiciously as you waltz in. You’re thankful you have a buddy because at this point you and your best friend might as well be (mentally) holding hands.

        4. If you’re of the opposite sex, having people think one of you friendzoned the other.

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          Having a best friend of the opposite sex is often a bit of an ordeal, as you’ll get people saying that you’re perfect for each other or assuming that one of you secretly has a crush on the other. In reality, you’re as platonic as can be and would much rather go out and be each other’s wingman/wingwoman than to do anything freaky together! That being said…

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          5. Planning to marry your best friend in case all of your plans fall through.

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            Hey, you may not actually love your best friend in anything more than a “let’s drink beers and talk about Doctor Who” way, but it’s always nice to have a “we’ll marry each other when we’re 40” plan in place in the case that for some strange reason you’re both still alone!

            6. Downing a lot of alcohol together before dealing with people you aren’t comfortable with.

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              Everyone’s been in this situation before. You’re in your dingy little college apartment, vodka in one hand, whiskey in the other. Your best friend looks at you with an “eh, might as well” expression, and you both proceed to down as much as you can before the annoying acquaintance people show up at your doorstep. After a few minutes of sharing bottles and patting each other on the back, you’re finally ready to treat the incoming outsiders as if they were family (no matter how much this may freak them out).

              7. Feeling like you’ve just talked yesterday, when in reality you haven’t seen each other in months or years.

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                This is the mark of a true best friend! I often had friends go away in college for programs abroad only to pick up right where we left off when they got back. Same with my high school best friends: our relationships are almost exactly how they used to be, despite the fact that we’ve all been separated for multiple years due to college. You really can’t ask for more!

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                Last Updated on September 12, 2019

                12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

                12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

                Even the most charismatic people you know, whether in person or celebrities of some sort, experience days where they feel lost in life and isolated from everyone else.

                While it’s good to know we aren’t alone in this feeling, the question still remains:

                What should we do when we feel lost and lonely?

                Here are 12 things to remember:

                1. Recognize That It’s Okay!

                The truth is, there are times you need to be alone. If you’ve always been accustomed to being in contact with people, this may prove difficult.

                However, learning how to be alone and comfortable in your own skin will give you confidence and a sense of self reliance.

                We cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to become self reliant when we look for constant companionship.

                Learn how to embrace your me time: What Your Fear of Being Alone Is Really About and How to Get over It

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                2. Use Your Lost and Loneliness as a Self-Directing Guide

                You’ve most likely heard the expression: “You have to know where you’ve been to know where you’re going.”

                Loneliness also serves as a life signal to indicate you’re in search of something. It’s when we’re in the midst of solitude that answers come from true soul searching.

                Remember, there is more to life than what you’re feeling.

                3. Realize Loneliness Helps You Face the Truth

                Being in the constant company of others, although comforting sometimes, can often serve as a distraction when we need to face the reality of a situation.

                Solitude cuts straight to the chase and forces you to deal with the problem at hand. See it as a blessing that can serve as a catalyst to set things right!

                4. Be Aware That You Have More Control Than You Think

                Typically, when we see ourselves as being lost or lonely, it gives us an excuse to view everything we come in contact with in a negative light. It lends itself to putting ourselves in the victim mode, when the truth of the matter is that you choose your attitude in every situation.

                No one can force a feeling upon you! It is YOU who has the ultimate say as to how you choose to react.

                5. Embrace the Freedom That the Feeling of Being Alone Can Offer

                Instead of wallowing in self pity, which many are prone to do because of loneliness, try looking at your circumstance as a new-found freedom.

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                Most people are in constant need of approval of their viewpoints. Try enjoying the fact that  you don’t need everyone you care about to support your decisions.

                6. Acknowledge the Person You Are Now

                Perhaps you feel a sense of loneliness and confusion because your life circumstances have taken you away from the persona that others know to be you.

                Perhaps the new you differs radically from the old. Realize that life is about change and how we react to that change. It’s okay that you’re not who you used to be.

                Take a look at this article and learn to accept your imperfect self: Accept Yourself (Flaws and All): 7 Benefits of Being Vulnerable

                7. Keep Striving to Do Your Best

                Often those who are feeling isolated and unto themselves will develop a defeatist attitude. They’ll do substandard work because their self esteem is low and they don’t care.

                Never let this feeling take away your sense of worth! Do your best always and when you come through this dark time, others will admire how you stayed determined in spite of the obstacles you had to overcome.

                And to live your best life, you must do this ONE thing: step out of your comfort zone.

                8. Don’t Forget That Time Is Precious

                When we’re lost in a sea of loneliness and depression, it’s all too easy to reflect on regrets of past life events. This does nothing but feed negativity and perpetuate the situation.

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                Instead of falling prey to this common pitfall, put one foot in front of the other and acknowledge every positive step you take. By doing this, you can celebrate the struggles you overcome at the end of the day.

                9. Remember, Things Happen for a Reason

                Every circumstance we encounter in our life is designed to teach us and that lesson is in turn passed on to others.

                Sometimes we’re fortunate enough to figure out the lesson to be learned, while other times, we simply need to have faith that if the lesson wasn’t meant directly for us to learn from, how we handled it was observed by someone who needed to learn.

                Your solitude and feeling of lost, in this instance, although painful possibly, may be teaching someone else.

                10. Journal During This Time

                Record your thoughts when you’re at the height of loneliness and feeling lost. You’ll be amazed when you reflect back at how you viewed things at the time and how far you’ve come later.

                This time (if recorded) can give you a keen insight into who you are and what makes you feel the way you feel.

                11. Remember You Aren’t the First to Feel This Way

                It’s quite common to feel as if we’re alone and no one else has ever felt this way before. We think this because at the time of our distress, we’re silently observing others around us who are seemingly fine in every way.

                The truth is, we can’t possibly know the struggles of those around us unless they elect to share them. We ALL have known this pain!

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                Try confiding in someone you trust and ask them how they deal with these feelings when they experienced it. You may be surprised at what you learn.

                12. Ask for Help If the Problem Persists

                The feeling of being lost and lonely is common to everyone, but typically it will last for a relatively short period of time.

                Most people will confess to, at one time or another, being in a “funk.” But if the problem persists longer than you feel it should, don’t ignore it.

                When your ability to reason and consider things rationally becomes impaired, do not poo poo the problem away and think it isn’t worthy of attention. Seek medical help.

                Afraid to ask for help? Here’s how to change your outlook to aim high!

                Final Thoughts

                Loneliness and a sense of feeling lost can in many ways be extremely painful and difficult to deal with at best. However, these feelings can also serve as a catalyst for change in our lives if we acknowledge them and act.

                Above anything, cherish your mental well being and don’t underestimate its worth. Seek professional guidance if you’re unable to distinguish between a sense of freedom for yourself and a sense of despair.

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