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7 Things Happy People Do That They Won’t Tell You

7 Things Happy People Do That They Won’t Tell You

If there was one common thing that every soul searched on this holy planet, it would be happiness. After all, who doesn’t want to live a stress-free life? It’s the ultimate goal of every human being that helps them to explore the hidden treasures of life.

Happiness can’t be acquired through artificial means. It can only be attained through wisdom. And wisdom can be discovered only in the deepest corner of a person’s subconscious. It is a strenuous activity that demands perseverance and dedication. And these qualities gradually help a person to walk on the path of happiness.

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Likewise, a happy person has certain traits that instinctively help them stand out in the crowd. Here’s a list of seven things that happy people do all the time, but that aren’t that obvious to the casual observer:

1. They practice and preach self-love

Happy people put themselves first every time because they understand the importance of following one’s own passions. If they weren’t serious about mending their own ways, how would they assist others on the road to perfection? When happy people reveal themselves as a complete human being with special and exclusive qualities, others get most of the benefits. Through knowledge and experience they become even more generous and caring. Self-love is totally logical if it empowers other people along with you.

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2. They respect and embrace impermanence

In life, nothing is permanent. Happy people accept this harsh reality with wide-open arms. Time brings about a lot of changes in every person’s life, and people who want to keep pace with it maintain a balance between things to keep and things to let go. Quite often, a happy person releases the unproductive things that do not serve them. They don’t shy away from bringing about a change in their life because they have a bigger plan in mind. One secret to a happy and improved life is letting things go without shedding tears about it. And happy people are masters of this complicated, yet effective quality.

3. They don’t express regret or apology about their dreams and desires

Happy people have the magical ability to ignore all the unnecessary criticism and censure they receive from other people, who are just jealous anyway. When they dream about something big, they dedicate their heart and soul towards achieving it. And it doesn’t matter who tries to be an obstacle on their path to success. They develop a fearless force that assists them to achieve the targets they set for themselves and for others.

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4. They don’t need you to like them

Happy people live in their own world, full of confidence and motivation. They are not concerned about how others perceive them as an individual. An onlooker might call them selfish or obstinate, but happy people are usually not bothered about their views. Instead, they take it as a compliment and move on towards bettering their lives. Through self-confidence they achieve a strange level of selflessness, which many others tend to like in them.

5. They take rejection as protection

Happy people are grateful for other people’s rejection and denial because it motivates them to realize that something bigger is waiting for them ahead in life. They don’t waste time and energy in contemplating what went wrong with others. Instead, they stay focused and never take rejection personally.

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6. They are spiritually inclined

We all know that the creator of this universe, whatever you believe that to be, is the ultimate source of energy for the entire human race. Happy people practice spirituality to grab that unseen energy, which helps them to face bad times with courage. With the help of an ineffable force, they connect with the creator to accomplish the tasks they were put on this planet to achieve.

7. They encourage social relationships

The happiest people on this planet are the ones surrounded by people who add meaning and value to their lives. Happy people nurture social relationships with a big smile on their face. They are always connected to a circle of friends who define their existence, and they tend to make fast friends too.

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The Gentle Art of Saying No

The Gentle Art of Saying No

No!

It’s a simple fact that you can never be productive if you take on too many commitments — you simply spread yourself too thin and will not be able to get anything done, at least not well or on time.

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But requests for your time are coming in all the time — through phone, email, IM or in person. To stay productive, and minimize stress, you have to learn the Gentle Art of Saying No — an art that many people have problems with.

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What’s so hard about saying no? Well, to start with, it can hurt, anger or disappoint the person you’re saying “no” to, and that’s not usually a fun task. Second, if you hope to work with that person in the future, you’ll want to continue to have a good relationship with that person, and saying “no” in the wrong way can jeopardize that.

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But it doesn’t have to be difficult or hard on your relationship. Here are the Top 10 tips for learning the Gentle Art of Saying No:

  1. Value your time. Know your commitments, and how valuable your precious time is. Then, when someone asks you to dedicate some of your time to a new commitment, you’ll know that you simply cannot do it. And tell them that: “I just can’t right now … my plate is overloaded as it is.”
  2. Know your priorities. Even if you do have some extra time (which for many of us is rare), is this new commitment really the way you want to spend that time? For myself, I know that more commitments means less time with my wife and kids, who are more important to me than anything.
  3. Practice saying no. Practice makes perfect. Saying “no” as often as you can is a great way to get better at it and more comfortable with saying the word. And sometimes, repeating the word is the only way to get a message through to extremely persistent people. When they keep insisting, just keep saying no. Eventually, they’ll get the message.
  4. Don’t apologize. A common way to start out is “I’m sorry but …” as people think that it sounds more polite. While politeness is important, apologizing just makes it sound weaker. You need to be firm, and unapologetic about guarding your time.
  5. Stop being nice. Again, it’s important to be polite, but being nice by saying yes all the time only hurts you. When you make it easy for people to grab your time (or money), they will continue to do it. But if you erect a wall, they will look for easier targets. Show them that your time is well guarded by being firm and turning down as many requests (that are not on your top priority list) as possible.
  6. Say no to your boss. Sometimes we feel that we have to say yes to our boss — they’re our boss, right? And if we say “no” then we look like we can’t handle the work — at least, that’s the common reasoning. But in fact, it’s the opposite — explain to your boss that by taking on too many commitments, you are weakening your productivity and jeopardizing your existing commitments. If your boss insists that you take on the project, go over your project or task list and ask him/her to re-prioritize, explaining that there’s only so much you can take on at one time.
  7. Pre-empting. It’s often much easier to pre-empt requests than to say “no” to them after the request has been made. If you know that requests are likely to be made, perhaps in a meeting, just say to everyone as soon as you come into the meeting, “Look guys, just to let you know, my week is booked full with some urgent projects and I won’t be able to take on any new requests.”
  8. Get back to you. Instead of providing an answer then and there, it’s often better to tell the person you’ll give their request some thought and get back to them. This will allow you to give it some consideration, and check your commitments and priorities. Then, if you can’t take on the request, simply tell them: “After giving this some thought, and checking my commitments, I won’t be able to accommodate the request at this time.” At least you gave it some consideration.
  9. Maybe later. If this is an option that you’d like to keep open, instead of just shutting the door on the person, it’s often better to just say, “This sounds like an interesting opportunity, but I just don’t have the time at the moment. Perhaps you could check back with me in [give a time frame].” Next time, when they check back with you, you might have some free time on your hands.
  10. It’s not you, it’s me. This classic dating rejection can work in other situations. Don’t be insincere about it, though. Often the person or project is a good one, but it’s just not right for you, at least not at this time. Simply say so — you can compliment the idea, the project, the person, the organization … but say that it’s not the right fit, or it’s not what you’re looking for at this time. Only say this if it’s true — people can sense insincerity.

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