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7 Things Happy People Do That They Won’t Tell You

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7 Things Happy People Do That They Won’t Tell You

If there was one common thing that every soul searched on this holy planet, it would be happiness. After all, who doesn’t want to live a stress-free life? It’s the ultimate goal of every human being that helps them to explore the hidden treasures of life.

Happiness can’t be acquired through artificial means. It can only be attained through wisdom. And wisdom can be discovered only in the deepest corner of a person’s subconscious. It is a strenuous activity that demands perseverance and dedication. And these qualities gradually help a person to walk on the path of happiness.

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Likewise, a happy person has certain traits that instinctively help them stand out in the crowd. Here’s a list of seven things that happy people do all the time, but that aren’t that obvious to the casual observer:

1. They practice and preach self-love

Happy people put themselves first every time because they understand the importance of following one’s own passions. If they weren’t serious about mending their own ways, how would they assist others on the road to perfection? When happy people reveal themselves as a complete human being with special and exclusive qualities, others get most of the benefits. Through knowledge and experience they become even more generous and caring. Self-love is totally logical if it empowers other people along with you.

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2. They respect and embrace impermanence

In life, nothing is permanent. Happy people accept this harsh reality with wide-open arms. Time brings about a lot of changes in every person’s life, and people who want to keep pace with it maintain a balance between things to keep and things to let go. Quite often, a happy person releases the unproductive things that do not serve them. They don’t shy away from bringing about a change in their life because they have a bigger plan in mind. One secret to a happy and improved life is letting things go without shedding tears about it. And happy people are masters of this complicated, yet effective quality.

3. They don’t express regret or apology about their dreams and desires

Happy people have the magical ability to ignore all the unnecessary criticism and censure they receive from other people, who are just jealous anyway. When they dream about something big, they dedicate their heart and soul towards achieving it. And it doesn’t matter who tries to be an obstacle on their path to success. They develop a fearless force that assists them to achieve the targets they set for themselves and for others.

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4. They don’t need you to like them

Happy people live in their own world, full of confidence and motivation. They are not concerned about how others perceive them as an individual. An onlooker might call them selfish or obstinate, but happy people are usually not bothered about their views. Instead, they take it as a compliment and move on towards bettering their lives. Through self-confidence they achieve a strange level of selflessness, which many others tend to like in them.

5. They take rejection as protection

Happy people are grateful for other people’s rejection and denial because it motivates them to realize that something bigger is waiting for them ahead in life. They don’t waste time and energy in contemplating what went wrong with others. Instead, they stay focused and never take rejection personally.

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6. They are spiritually inclined

We all know that the creator of this universe, whatever you believe that to be, is the ultimate source of energy for the entire human race. Happy people practice spirituality to grab that unseen energy, which helps them to face bad times with courage. With the help of an ineffable force, they connect with the creator to accomplish the tasks they were put on this planet to achieve.

7. They encourage social relationships

The happiest people on this planet are the ones surrounded by people who add meaning and value to their lives. Happy people nurture social relationships with a big smile on their face. They are always connected to a circle of friends who define their existence, and they tend to make fast friends too.

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10 Proven Ways to Judge a Person’s Character

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10 Proven Ways to Judge a Person’s Character

We all fall into the trap of judging a person’s character by their appearance. How wrong we are! All too often, the real character of the person only appears when some negative event hits them or you. Then you may see a toxic person emerging from the ruins and it is often a shock.

A truly frightening example is revealed in the book by O’Toole in Bowman called Dangerous Instincts: How Gut Instincts Betray Us. A perfectly respectable, charming, well dressed neighbor was found to have installed a torture chamber in his garage where he was systematically abusing kidnapped women. This is an extreme example, but it does show how we can be totally deceived by a person’s physical appearance, manners and behavior.

So, what can you do? You want to be able to assess personal qualities when you come into contact with colleagues, fresh acquaintances and new friends who might even become lifelong partners. You want to know if they are:

  • honest
  • reliable
  • competent
  • kind and compassionate
  • capable of taking the blame
  • able to persevere
  • modest and humble
  • pacific and can control anger.

The secret is to reserve judgment and take your time. Observe them in certain situations; look at how they react. Listen to them talking, joking, laughing, explaining, complaining, blaming, praising, ranting, and preaching. Only then will you be able to judge their character. This is not foolproof, but if you follow the 10 ways below, you have a pretty good chance of not ending up in an abusive relationship.

1. Is anger a frequent occurrence?

All too often, angry reactions which may seem to be excessive are a sign that there are underlying issues. Do not think that every person who just snaps and throws his/her weight around mentally and physically is just reacting normally. Everyone has an occasional angry outburst when driving or when things go pear-shaped.

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But if this is almost a daily occurrence, then you need to discover why and maybe avoid that person. Too often, anger will escalate to violent and aggressive behavior. You do not want to be near someone who thinks violence can solve personal or global problems.

2. Can you witness acts of kindness?

How often do you see this person being kind and considerate? Do they give money to beggars, donate to charity, do voluntary work or in some simple way show that they are willing to share the planet with about 7 billion other people?

I was shocked when a guest of mine never showed any kindness to the weak and disadvantaged people in our town. She was ostensibly a religious person, but I began to doubt the sincerity of her beliefs.

“The best index to a person’s character is how he treats people who can’t do him any good, and how he treats people who can’t fight back.”

Abigail Van Buren

3. How does this person take the blame?

Maybe you know that s/he is responsible for a screw-up in the office or even in not turning up on time for a date. Look at their reaction. If they start blaming other colleagues or the traffic, well, this is an indication that they are not willing to take responsibility for their mistakes.

4. Don’t use Facebook as an indicator.

You will be relieved to know that graphology (the study of that forgotten skill of handwriting) is no longer considered a reliable test of a person’s character. Neither is Facebook stalking, fortunately. A study showed that Facebook use of foul language, sexual innuendo and gossip were not reliable indicators of a candidate’s character or future performance in the workplace.

5. Read their emails.

Now a much better idea is to read the person’s emails. Studies show that the use of the following can indicate certain personality traits:

  • Too many exclamation points may reveal a sunny disposition
  • Frequent errors may indicate apathy
  • Use of smileys is the only way a person can smile at you
  • Use of the third person may reveal a certain formality
  • Too many question marks can show anger
  • Overuse of capital letters is regarded as shouting. They are a definite no-no in netiquette, yet a surprising number of  people still use them.

6. Watch out for the show offs.

Listen to people as they talk. How often do they mention their achievements, promotions, awards and successes? If this happens a lot, it is a sure indication that this person has an over-inflated view of his/her achievements. They are unlikely to be modest or show humility. What a pity!  Another person to avoid.

7. Look for evidence of perseverance.

A powerful indicator of grit and tenacity is when a person persists and never gives up when they really want to achieve a life goal. Look for evidence of them keeping going in spite of enormous difficulties.

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Great achievements by scientists and inventors all bear the hallmark of perseverance. We only have to think of Einstein, Edison (who failed thousands of times) and Nelson Mandela to get inspiration. The US Department of Education is in no doubt about how grit, tenacity and perseverance will be key success factors for youth in the 21st century.

8. Their empathy score is high.

Listen to how they talk about the less fortunate members of our society such as the poor, immigrants and the disabled. Do you notice that they talk in a compassionate way about these people? The fact that they even mention them is a strong indicator of empathy.

People with zero empathy will never talk about the disadvantaged. They will rarely ask you a question about a difficult time or relationship. They will usually steer the conversation back to themselves. These people have zero empathy and in extreme cases, they are psychopaths who never show any feelings towards their victims.

9. Learn how to be socially interactive.

We are social animals and this is what makes us so uniquely human. If a person is isolated or a loner, this may be a negative indicator of their character. You want to meet a person who knows about trust, honesty and loyalty. The only way to practice these great qualities is to actually interact socially. The great advantage is that you can share problems and celebrate success and joy together.

“One can acquire everything in solitude, except character.”

Stendhal

 10. Avoid toxic people.

These people are trying to control others and often are failing to come to terms with their own failures. Typical behavior and conversations may concern:

  • Envy or jealousy
  • Criticism of partners, colleagues and friends
  • Complaining about their own lack of success
  • Blaming others for their own bad luck or failure
  • Obsession with themselves and their problems

Listen to these people talk and you will quickly discover that you need to avoid them at all costs because their negativity will drag you down. In addition, as much as you would like to help them, you are not qualified to do so.

Now, having looked at some of the best ways to judge a person, what about yourself? How do others see you? Why not take Dr. Phil’s quiz and find out. Can you bear it?

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