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7 Simple Things To Make Your Day Perfect Even If Things Go Wrong

7 Simple Things To Make Your Day Perfect Even If Things Go Wrong

We all have those day where everything seems to go wrong—people are annoying you and you just want to crawl under a rock and never emerge again! Well, what if I told you there was a way to create a perfect day? You wouldn’t believe me, would you? Well, not only am I going to share with you how to make your day perfect, but also how to have a perfect day even if things go wrong!

1. Wake up in quiet time.

Instead of waking up and immediately thinking about going to work or the daunting, stressful day you will have, begin your wake-up routine in quiet time. One way to do this can be by meditating or just spending a few moments in asking the universe for guidance and strength. Think of a few moments that bring you joy and just say thank you that you are alive and well. There is nothing complicated involved, but this will have a great impact on the kind of day you will have.

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2. Practice being present.

Allowing yourself to be present means you are not thinking about the future, possibly getting yourself worked up about what’s ahead, and you’re also not dwelling on past events that leave you feeling deflated. There is only one moment in time, and that is the present, so by only focusing on the here and now, you will feel more energy, calmness, focus and peace.

3. Be the best you can be for today.

Quit putting limits on yourself by doing the best you can in all that you do. (Being present helps too!) Don’t get caught up by comparing yourself to others either; you are an individual and YOUR best is good enough. Give yourself credit for what you do. There is no need to overdo things to make yourself feel better. Do your best and do enough for today.

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4. Start the day on a positive vibe.

During your morning routine, I want you to think about where you have come from to where you are today, and be thankful. Think about your dreams and how amazing it will be when you are living them. What does this look like and feel like? Visualize and get excited about it!

Having a perfect day

    5. Deal with negative people the right way.

    So you’ve gotten your day off to a great start—your dreams are swishing around in your brain, you’re present and experiencing happiness for the first time in ages, and then someone comes along and ruins the moment! What do you do? (No, please don’t do that). Instead of reacting, you are going to learn how to respond—there is a difference.

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    “Learn to love people for who they are and forgive them for who they are not.”

    – Tim Russert

    Step one—Think before you speak. Has someone said something to you that is ridiculously untrue, like insulting you and calling you a name? Have they come into your space with a bag of negative vibes complaining about everything? Step two—Breathe, be responsible for your reactions, forgive them, and don’t take it personally. It is easier said than done, but as with everything, practice makes perfect.

    6. Find something to smile about.

    Always find something to laugh and smile about throughout the day this will keep your mood up and you will have a great day. Your positive energy attracts more positive things in your life; remember this always.

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    7. End the day being grateful.

    Looking back on your day and searching for the awesome things that happened, no matter how small, can make a big difference to the end of your day. You will feel relaxed and have better sleep too. Instead of worrying about all the uncompleted tasks and what tomorrow may bring, write down or visualize what you are grateful for. Let’s face it: if you followed the previous advice you would have lots of amazing things to be grateful for, like the perfect day you just had (even if things did go wrong)!

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    Last Updated on August 6, 2020

    6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

    6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

    We’ve all done it. That moment when a series of words slithers from your mouth and the instant regret manifests through blushing and profuse apologies. If you could just think before you speak! It doesn’t have to be like this, and with a bit of practice, it’s actually quite easy to prevent.

    “Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another.” – Napolean Hill

    Are we speaking the same language?

    My mum recently left me a note thanking me for looking after her dog. She’d signed it with “LOL.” In my world, this means “laugh out loud,” and in her world it means “lots of love.” My kids tell me things are “sick” when they’re good, and ”manck” when they’re bad (when I say “bad,” I don’t mean good!). It’s amazing that we manage to communicate at all.

    When speaking, we tend to color our language with words and phrases that have become personal to us, things we’ve picked up from our friends, families and even memes from the internet. These colloquialisms become normal, and we expect the listener (or reader) to understand “what we mean.” If you really want the listener to understand your meaning, try to use words and phrases that they might use.

    Am I being lazy?

    When you’ve been in a relationship for a while, a strange metamorphosis takes place. People tend to become lazier in the way that they communicate with each other, with less thought for the feelings of their partner. There’s no malice intended; we just reach a “comfort zone” and know that our partners “know what we mean.”

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    Here’s an exchange from Psychology Today to demonstrate what I mean:

    Early in the relationship:

    “Honey, I don’t want you to take this wrong, but I’m noticing that your hair is getting a little thin on top. I know guys are sensitive about losing their hair, but I don’t want someone else to embarrass you without your expecting it.”

    When the relationship is established:

    “Did you know that you’re losing a lot of hair on the back of your head? You’re combing it funny and it doesn’t help. Wear a baseball cap or something if you feel weird about it. Lots of guys get thin on top. It’s no big deal.”

    It’s pretty clear which of these statements is more empathetic and more likely to be received well. Recognizing when we do this can be tricky, but with a little practice it becomes easy.

    Have I actually got anything to say?

    When I was a kid, my gran used to say to me that if I didn’t have anything good to say, I shouldn’t say anything at all. My gran couldn’t stand gossip, so this makes total sense, but you can take this statement a little further and modify it: “If you don’t have anything to say, then don’t say anything at all.”

    A lot of the time, people speak to fill “uncomfortable silences,” or because they believe that saying something, anything, is better than staying quiet. It can even be a cause of anxiety for some people.

    When somebody else is speaking, listen. Don’t wait to speak. Listen. Actually hear what that person is saying, think about it, and respond if necessary.

    Am I painting an accurate picture?

    One of the most common forms of miscommunication is the lack of a “referential index,” a type of generalization that fails to refer to specific nouns. As an example, look at these two simple phrases: “Can you pass me that?” and “Pass me that thing over there!”. How often have you said something similar?

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    How is the listener supposed to know what you mean? The person that you’re talking to will start to fill in the gaps with something that may very well be completely different to what you mean. You’re thinking “pass me the salt,” but you get passed the pepper. This can be infuriating for the listener, and more importantly, can create a lack of understanding and ultimately produce conflict.

    Before you speak, try to label people, places and objects in a way that it is easy for any listeners to understand.

    What words am I using?

    It’s well known that our use of nouns and verbs (or lack of them) gives an insight into where we grew up, our education, our thoughts and our feelings.

    Less well known is that the use of pronouns offers a critical insight into how we emotionally code our sentences. James Pennebaker’s research in the 1990’s concluded that function words are important keys to someone’s psychological state and reveal much more than content words do.

    Starting a sentence with “I think…” demonstrates self-focus rather than empathy with the speaker, whereas asking the speaker to elaborate or quantify what they’re saying clearly shows that you’re listening and have respect even if you disagree.

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    Is the map really the territory?

    Before speaking, we sometimes construct a scenario that makes us act in a way that isn’t necessarily reflective of the actual situation.

    A while ago, John promised to help me out in a big way with a project that I was working on. After an initial meeting and some big promises, we put together a plan and set off on its execution. A week or so went by, and I tried to get a hold of John to see how things were going. After voice mails and emails with no reply and general silence, I tried again a week later and still got no response.

    I was frustrated and started to get more than a bit vexed. The project obviously meant more to me than it did to him, and I started to construct all manner of crazy scenarios. I finally got through to John and immediately started a mild rant about making promises you can’t keep. He stopped me in my tracks with the news that his brother had died. If I’d have just thought before I spoke…

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