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7 Little Words That Have Incredible Meaning

7 Little Words That Have Incredible Meaning

Words, words, words: we speak them everyday. At times we just blurt them out, and other times we carefully craft our words together. How many times do we stop to think about how powerful or meaningful our words are? Here are 7 small, little — even tiny — words that have incredible meaning.

1. Joy

Joy is defined as keen pleasure or a state of happiness. This sounds simple enough, doesn’t it? I mean, everyone should have joy in their life, shouldn’t they? Yet it seems as though many people are trudging through life robotically, without pleasure, and are constantly seeking some form of happiness. Their search may take them to new places, jobs, or even relationships, and yet it is all futile. Joy springs from the inside of a person. External objects, whether they be things or people, do not bring joy. In order to experience this small word “joy”, you need to be present in the moment! When we live in the past or fret over the future, we rob ourselves of the essence of joy! When we tap into our inner joy, we are able to face each moment of our day with a changed perspective. Having joy does not mean the absence of hardship; it means being able to face obstacles with an underlying strength of inner peace and confidence. Fill your life with joy and see what a difference it makes!

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    2. Sing

    To sing is to produce melodious sounds. Music is a powerful tool. Think of how movie producers utilize music and you can understand how music stimulates all kinds of emotions within us. We all have experienced sitting on the edge of our seats because from the sound of the music we just know something big is about to happen in the movie. Although we use music predominantly as a means of entertainment, it can be so much more. Singing has been proven to lower blood pressure, stress and even to produce pain blockers in our bodies. The best part is you don’t have to be a star to sing. Just sing it out! Sing like no one is listening.

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      3. Hug

      Hug is such a small word, yet when practiced has incredible meaning! Did you know that a simple hug has the power to reduce heart rates and lower blood pressure? It has been proven through studies that hugs — not sexual relations — do more to keep marriages together. Touch is a very important, but often overlooked, part of the human makeup. You might remember the “Free Hugs” campaign that started with one person trying to practice random acts of kindness by giving hugs. This went viral on YouTube. A hug given early in the morning can change you for the whole day. Besides, a hug is the only gift you can give away and yet receive at the same time!  Pretty cool, I say! 

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        4. Free

        Free means not enslaved, or personal liberty. Such a beautiful concept! Are you free? Or are you living as though you are in slavery to something or someone? Such happiness comes when one is truly living in freedom. To be able to express your authentic self is a gift. Take this gift and live your life free. After all, it doesn’t cost you — it’s free!                                                       

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          5. Home

          Home should signify the place that you live in and are most at ease. Your home should be a haven from everyday life. There are many stresses from work and others in our lives. It is vital to have your own space filled with peace and harmony. Reflect on what your home means to you. Is this the place you go to take refuge from the world? Do you have places of beauty in your home to comfort your spirit? If not, then you need to re-examine your space. Get rid of clutter and add some warmth. Decorating your space with objects that bring you happiness will add a sense of quality to your home. As you look around your home how do you feel? Is there a sense of contentment, or do you feel ill-at-ease? Every few seasons you need to re-evaluate what possessions you have. Have you gathered so many things that they crowd out your home? Do you need to let go of objects that no longer serve you? It is true that an organized space with less clutter reduces stress. Take the time to de-clutter your home. Make it a sanctuary that is full of love and peace.

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          Anyone can build a house, but it takes relationships to build a home. How are your family dynamics? Is there respect for one another in your family? Do you take the time to nurture your family relationships? It is crucial that you spend time cultivating genuine love with the members of your family. There are many other sources that influence today’s family. A healthy relationship between members of the same family requires time spent together. Spend quality time in your homes. Create traditions that you carry out each year. Have special date nights designed for the family. Let your home be the place that laughter and joy echo through the walls.

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            6. Play

            In our task-orientated society many people have forgotten the importance of play. While it is important to work hard and complete what is necessary, it is equally important to spend time playing. What are the things you enjoy to do for recreation? Schedule routine times of just playing. You can be involved in sports or simply playing board games with your family or friends. The body and mind need times that they can relax and not focus on work or issues that are preoccupying you. Relax, let go, and learn the art of playfulness. You will be glad you did!

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              7. Love

              Love — what a word! I love your hair…I love my car…I love my life…I love this pasta dish…I LOVE YOU! As you see, the word love can be used on so many levels. The word love was originally used over 5,000 years ago to describe a deep affection for something. Although today the word may be overused in a more general way, it still holds a connection to the deepest emotion that a human can experience. Don’t hold back, tell the ones close to you that you love them! Life is way too short not to spread the love.

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                Last Updated on September 18, 2020

                13 Helping Points When Things Don’t Go Your Way

                13 Helping Points When Things Don’t Go Your Way

                For the original article by Celestine: 13 Helping Points When Things Don’t Go Your Way

                “We all have problems. The way we solve them is what makes us different.” ~Unknown

                “It’s not stress that kills us, it is our reaction to it.” – Hans Selye

                Have you ever experienced moments when things just don’t go your way? For example, losing your keys, accidentally spilling your drink, waking up late, missing your buses/trains, forgetting to bring your things, and so on?

                You’re not alone. All of us, myself included, experience times when things don’t go as we expect.

                Here is my guide on how to deal with daily setbacks.

                1. Take a step back and evaluate

                When something bad happens, take a step back and evaluate the situation. Some questions to ask yourself:

                1. What is the problem?
                2. Are you the only person facing this problem in the world today?
                3. How does this problem look like at an individual level? A national level? On a global scale?
                4. What’s the worst possible thing that can happen to you as a result of this?
                5. How is it going to impact your life in the next 1 year? 5 years? 10 years?

                Doing this exercise is not to undermine the problem or disclaiming responsibility, but to consider different perspectives, so you can adopt the best approach for it. Most problems we encounter daily may seem like huge issues when they crop up, but most, if not all, don’t have much impact in our life beyond that day.

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                2. Vent if you have to, but don’t linger on the problem

                If you feel very frustrated and need to let off some steam, go ahead and do that. Talk to a friend, complain, crib about it, or scream at the top of your lungs if it makes you happy.

                At the same time, don’t get caught up with venting. While venting may temporarily relieve yourself, it’s not going to solve the problem ultimately. You don’t want to be an energy vampire.

                Vent if there’s a need to, but do it for 15 to 20 minutes. Then move on.

                3. Realize there are others out there facing this too

                Even though the situation may be frustrating, you’re not alone. Remember there are almost 7 billion people in the world today, and chances are that other people have faced the same thing before too. Knowing it’s not just you helps you to get out of a self-victimizing mindset.

                4. Process your thoughts/emotions

                Process your thoughts/emotions with any of the four methods:

                1. Journal. Write your unhappiness in a private diary or in your blog. It doesn’t have to be formal at all – it can be a brain dump on rough paper or new word document. Delete after you are done.
                2. Audio taping. Record yourself as you talk out what’s on your mind. Tools include tape recorder, your PC (Audacity is a freeware for recording/editing audio) and your mobile (most mobiles today have audio recording functions). You can even use your voice mail for this. Just talking helps you to gain awareness of your emotions. After recording, play back and listen to what you said. You might find it quite revealing.
                3. Meditation. At its simplest form, meditation is just sitting/lying still and observing your reality as it is – including your thoughts and emotions. Some think that it involves some complex mambo-jumbo, but it doesn’t.
                4. Talking to someone. Talking about it with someone helps you work through the issue. It also gets you an alternate viewpoint and consider it from a different angle.

                5. Acknowledge your thoughts

                Don’t resist your thoughts, but acknowledge them. This includes both positive and negative thoughts.

                By acknowledging, I mean recognizing these thoughts exist. So if say, you have a thought that says, “Wow, I’m so stupid!”, acknowledge that. If you have a thought that says, “I can’t believe this is happening to me again”, acknowledge that as well.

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                Know that acknowledging the thoughts doesn’t mean you agree with them. It’s simply recognizing the existence of said thoughts so that you can stop resisting yourself and focus on the situation on hand.

                6. Give yourself a break

                If you’re very stressed out by the situation, and the problem is not time sensitive, then give yourself a break. Take a walk, listen to some music, watch a movie, or get some sleep. When you’re done, you should feel a lot more revitalized to deal with the situation.

                7. Uncover what you’re really upset about

                A lot of times, the anger we feel isn’t about the world. You may start off feeling angry at someone or something, but at the depth of it, it’s anger toward yourself.

                Uncover the root of your anger. I have written a five part anger management series on how to permanently overcome anger.

                After that, ask yourself: How can you improve the situation? Go to Step #9, where you define your actionable steps. Our anger comes from not having control on the situation. Sitting there and feeling infuriated is not going to change the situation. The more action we take, the more we will regain control over the situation, the better we will feel.

                8. See this as an obstacle to be overcome

                As Helen Keller once said,

                “Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experiences of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition inspired and success achieved.”

                Whatever you’re facing right now, see it as an obstacle to be overcome. In every worthy endeavor, there’ll always be countless obstacles that emerge along the way. These obstacles are what separate the people who make it, and those who don’t. If you’re able to push through and overcome them, you’ll emerge a stronger person than before. It’ll be harder for anything to get you down in the future.

                9. Analyze the situation – Focus on actionable steps

                In every setback, there are going to be things that can’t be reversed since they have already occurred. You want to focus on things that can still be changed (salvageable) vs. things that have already happened and can’t be changed. The only time the situation changes is when you take steps to improve it. Rather than cry over spilt milk, work through your situation:

                1. What’s the situation?
                2. What’s stressing you about this situation?
                3. What are the next steps that’ll help you resolve them?
                4. Take action on your next steps!

                After you have identified your next steps, act on them. The key here is to focus on the actionable steps, not the inactionable steps. It’s about regaining control over the situation through direct action.

                10. Identify how it occurred (so it won’t occur again next time)

                A lot of times we react to our problems. The problem occurs, and we try to make the best out of what has happened within the context. While developing a healthy coping mechanism is important (which is what the other helping points are on), it’s also equally important, if not more, to understand how the problem arose. This way, you can work on preventing it from taking place next time, vs. dealing reactively with it.

                Most of us probably think the problem is outside of our control, but reality is most of the times it’s fully preventable. It’s just a matter of how much responsibility you take over the problem.

                For example, for someone who can’t get a cab for work in the morning, he/she may see the problem as a lack of cabs in the country, or bad luck. However, if you trace to the root of the problem, it’s probably more to do with (a) Having unrealistic expectations of the length of time to get a cab. He/she should budget more time for waiting for a cab next time. (b) Oversleeping, because he/she was too tired from working late the previous day. He/she should allocate enough time for rest next time. He/she should also pick up better time management skills, so as to finish work in lesser time.

                11. Realize the situation can be a lot worse

                No matter how bad the situation is, it can always be much worse. A plus point vs. negative point analysis will help you realize that.

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                12. Do your best, but don’t kill yourself over it

                No matter how bad your situation may seem, do your best, but don’t kill yourself over it. Life is too beautiful to worry so much over daily issues. Take a step back (#1), give yourself a break if you need to (#6), and do what you can within your means (#9). Everything else will unfold accordingly. Worrying too much about the outcome isn’t going to change things or make your life any better.

                13. Pick out the learning points from the encounter

                There’s something to learn from every encounter. What have you learned from this situation? What lessons have you taken away?

                After you identify your learning points, think about how you’re going to apply them moving forward. With this, you’ve clearly gained something from this encounter. You’ve walked away a stronger, wiser, better person, with more life lessons to draw from in the future.

                Get the manifesto version of this article: [Manifesto] What To Do When Things Don’t Go Your Way

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