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7 Life Lessons From Steve Jobs That Everyone Needs To Remember

7 Life Lessons From Steve Jobs That Everyone Needs To Remember

As a computer nerd, I’ve always loved Steve Jobs. I still get in a mood during the fall to watch a documentary or movie about him. I haven’t seen Ashton Butcher’s inaccurate portrayal of my hero yet, but I’ve read enough jokes and negativity about him online that I want to make sure I add something positive into the internet’s vast collective voice about Steve Jobs, the man, and how he affected humanity.

I decided the best way to do this is to write a proper eulogy for the man. I’m no good with looking death in the face, so I’ve never written a eulogy. Luckily, I stumbled upon Eulogy Consultants, who had a blog breaking down exactly what I wanted to do: memorialize the man by demonstrating the impact of his words.

Everybody Ages

“It’s rare that you see an artist in his 30s or 40s able to really contribute something amazing.” (Playboy, Feb 1985)

Steve Jobs understood that innovation is driven by youth; it’s the children who are driving our world. Because of Jobs’ spiritual and experimental days, he saw the world in a much different way than everyone else. You need to get your mind straight as soon as possible, because all those great things you hear and see in the media are being done by people in their 20s. Even Eminem, who was supposedly the greatest MC in the history of rap, was artistically washed up by his 40s.

Perspective Matters

“Do you want to spend the rest of your life selling sugared water or do you want a chance to change the world?” (Odyssey: Pepsi to Apple, 1987)

Life is all about perspective. You would think every CEO is the same – greedy, detached from the average citizen, etc. There’s a huge difference between Steve Jobs and Bill Gates, though. The difference is in their perspective. Steve Jobs cared about what he was selling, and, as The Beatles taught us, that love makes all the difference in the world.

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Independence and Freedom

“Why join the Navy . . . if you can be a pirate?” (Young Guns, 2009)

If you understand hacker culture, you understand what Jobs is saying here. Basically, if you’re going to get your hands dirty, do it for yourself. It’s much more fun to be Jack Sparrow than the uptight British Navy admiral – there’s less responsibility, and you move faster, accomplish more, and reap the whole of your rewards. A battle is a battle, regardless of who you’re fighting for, so I’ll always choose the pirate’s life.

Taking Responsibility

“Sometimes when you innovate, you make mistakes. It is best to admit them quickly, and get on with improving your other innovations.” (Steve Jobs, the Journey Is the Reward, 1988)

Everybody makes mistakes. Everyone has a bad day or does something wrong, with or without thought for how it affects the people around them. In order to be a true innovator, you have to be willing to accept these mistakes and correct them. I always hated finger pointing – if something’s broken, just fix it. It’s when you start pointing fingers that nothing gets done. Pick up the phone, and get your team working on moving forward. Looking back is a luxury best saved for later.

Courage and Persistence

“You know, I’ve got a plan that could rescue Apple. I can’t say any more than that it’s the perfect product and the perfect strategy for Apple. But nobody there will listen to me.” (Fortune, Sept 1995)

Never forget Steve Jobs’ greatest successes came after he was fired from his own company – the company he built. He stood his ground through thick and thin, and he did things his way. Steve Jobs may have been controlling and a perfectionist, but he was successful. His contributions will be remembered long after any stories of his transgressions. It was his persistence and willingness to do anything for his company to win that turned Apple from the PC Wars loser into the iGeneration winner.

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Art and Transparency

“We have always been shameless about stealing great ideas.” (Triumph of the Nerds, 1996)

The music and movie industries want us to believe they control all media and that anyone who dares to use any of their work should be destroyed. The problem is the individual actors, musicians, writers, DJs, etc., don’t get to keep any of these profits, so I’m not interested in purchasing that line of garbage. Art is free, and anybody can steal whatever they want. Yes, the artist should get credit, and how that artist monetizes that credit is at the discretion of that artist. That’s how a truly free market works.

Simplicity

“That’s been one of my mantras — focus and simplicity. Simple can be harder than complex; you have to work hard to get your thinking clean to make it simple.” (iSteve, 2011)

The biggest thing we all need to learn from Steve Jobs is that simplicity is the essence of life. Rather than walking around with your head in the clouds, upload your data to the clouds, submit yourself to your Google, Facebook, and Apple masters, and continue maintaining the drone army. We’re living in 1984, it’s just not what we thought it would be. It wouldn’t be so bad if we had control over our own privacy. As we move toward integrated, wearable tech as the norm, be prepared for an entirely new world.

Whatever happens, just remember what you wanted when you woke up for the very first time. Concentrate on your breath, your smile, and making a positive contribution to the world. That’s what Steve would do – that’s what iDo…

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12 Simple Ways to Boost Your Confidence Right Now

12 Simple Ways to Boost Your Confidence Right Now

The way you feel about yourself greatly influences how you live and interact with others. If you are confident about yourself, you tend to see yourself positively and actually enjoy spending time with and around people. You don’t feel self-conscious or awkward around others, and that allows you to live your fullest and happiest life.

However, if you’re drowning in a sea of self-doubt, hesitancy and shyness, you often withdraw and isolate yourself from others and avoid interacting and connecting with people. That anxiety you feel in the pit of your stomach when you are around people is holding you back greatly and it is not good for your emotional health and overall well-being. You need to do something about it if you are low in self-confidence or have friends or family members who are not confident.

“Confidence isn’t walking into a room thinking you’re better than everyone, it’s walking in not having to compare yourself to anyone” – Anonymous

Here are simple, practical tips to boost your confidence right now and make you feel and act your best.

1. Stop labeling yourself as awkward, timid or shy.

When you label yourself as awkward, timid or shy, you sub-consciously tell your mind to act accordingly and psychologically feel inclined to live up to those expectations. Instead of labeling and entertaining negative self-talk, visualize and affirm yourself as confident and strong. Close your eyes for a minute and visualize yourself in different situation as you would like to be.

Be your own cheerleader. Experts believe that positive affirmation and good mental practices like picturing yourself winning or achieving a goal can lead to greater feelings of self-assurance and prepare your brain for success.[1] As the saying goes, “seeing is believing.” Picture yourself as confident and soon enough you will begin to manifest behavior that gives evidence to this new ‘fact.’

2. Recognize that the world is not focused on you (unless, of course, you are Kanye West).

That means you don’t have to be excessively sensitive about who you are or what you are doing (or not doing). You are not on the center stage; there is no need for preoccupation with self and perfectionism. As rap music star Rocko sings, “You just do you and I will do me, aight?”

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Forget about trying to please everyone or being perfect. Trying to be perfect and being a people-pleaser puts too much pressure on you and creates unnecessary anxiety. Besides, people are too preoccupied with their own issues to pay much attention to your every move unless, of course, you are a mega famous, super celebrity like Beyonce or Kanye West.

3. Focus on other people as opposed to yourself.

If you are low on confidence, self-conscious, nervous and shy in social situations, focus your attention on other people and what they are saying or doing instead of focusing on your own awkwardness.

For example, think about what it is that is interesting about the person who’s the centre of the party or the guy or girl you are talking with. Prompt them to talk more about themselves and be genuinely curious and interested in what they say. You will instantly come across as confident and warmhearted.

People generally want to talk about themselves, be heard and understood. They will love it when you’re eager and willing to listen to them and really hear what they have to say.

This habit of focusing more on what you love in others as opposed to what you dislike in yourself will not only help you become more assertive and comfortable in virtually all social situations, but also instantly make you feel great about yourself.

4. Know (and accept) yourself for who you are.

Chinese military general, strategist and philosopher Sun Tzu, author of the internationally acclaimed book The Art of War, said, “Know yourself and you will win all battles.” Even in the battle with lack of confidence, you will need to know yourself to win.

Knowing yourself starts with understanding that people are not all the same, neither are all social situation suitable for everyone. You might not be confident in large gatherings, but you could be bold and confident in one-on-one and small group interactions. We all have our own unique gifts and unique ways of expressing ourselves. Embrace yours!

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Introverts, for example, have a quiet confidence that is, unfortunately, often confused for shyness. They are naturally low key and prefer to spend time alone. However, this natural disposition affords them certain unique gifts, such as an ability to listen better than most people and notice things that others don’t.

Your uniqueness is where your strength and advantage lies. You won’t be comfortable and confident in all situations all the time. Albert Einstein said,

“Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”

5. Crack a smile.

If there is one sure way to instantly boost your confidence, it’s cracking a smile. Christine Clapp, a public speaking expert at The George Washington University, says that flashing those pretty, pearly white teeth will immediately make you appear both confident and composed. But, the effect of smiling is not just external. Studies show that smiling can also help nix feelings of stress and pave the way for a happier and more relaxed you.[2]

Not a bad return for something seemingly so trite, wouldn’t you agree?

6. Break a sweat—with exercise.

Working out is another great way to make yourself feel amazing and confident. Science has shown that exercising increases your endorphins, helps reduce stress, tones your muscles and makes you feel happy and confident.[3]

And hey, all you have to do is take a walk a few times a week and you’ll see the benefits. What seems to matter—as far as your confidence goes—is whether you break a sweat, not how strenuous your session is, which is pretty cool. Start working out now.

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7. Groom yourself.

This might seem mundane, but it’s amazing how much of a difference a shower and shave can have on your confidence and self-image. And when you spritz on a scent, the boost on confidence and self-esteem is incredible. As it turns out, your favorite fragrance does more than make you smell oh-so-nice.

A study found that a fragrance can inspire confidence in men. Interestingly, the study also found that the more a man likes the fragrance, the more confident he might feel. Another study found that 90% of women feel more confident while wearing a scent than those who go fragrance-free.

8. Dress nicely.

Another one that might seem trite, but it works. If you dress nicely, you’ll instantly feel good about yourself and give your confidence a real boost. That is largely because you’ll feel attractive, presentable and sometimes even successful in nice clothes.

While dressing nicely means something different for everyone, it does not necessarily mean wearing $500 designer outfits. It means wearing clothes that are clean, that you are comfortable in and that are nice-looking and presentable, including casual clothes.

9. Do activities you enjoy.

Whether it is reading a book, playing a musical instrument, riding your bicycle or going fishing, do what you really enjoy and what makes you truly happy often. It will boost your self-esteem, soothe your ego and allow you to identify with your gifts and talents. That will in turn bolster your self-belief and grow your confidence exponentially.

You might not become popular for doing what you love, but you might not even want to be popular at all. Being popular doesn’t make you happy; doing what you love does.

10. Prepare for the possibility of rejection / setback.

Late World No. 1 professional tennis player Arthur Ashe said, “One important key to success is self-confidence. A key to self-confidence is preparation.” You need to prepare for the possibility of rejection and setback.

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Why?

Everybody suffers rejection and setback at one point or another. You are not exempted. The question on your mind, therefore, should not be if you will be rejected, but how you will handle rejection when it comes.

Prepare yourself adequately in every situation to minimize the risk and effect of rejection and so that your confidence is not broken. For example, learn public speaking and rehearse what you are going to say beforehand if you have landed a public speaking engagement. That way, you are sure of yourself and confident you have what it takes to hack it. If you are rejected, don’t take it personally.

Rejection and setbacks happen to the best of us. Take it as a learning experience. Learn from your mistakes and move on.

11. Face uncomfortable situations square in the face.

Don’t run away from uncomfortable situations. Running away from people or situations because you feel scared, shy or timid only confirms and reinforces your shyness. Instead, face the situation that makes you uneasy square in the face. For example, go ahead and talk to that person you are afraid to approach, or go straight to the front of your yoga class! What’s the worst that can happen?

Prepare and be ready for any eventuality. The more you face your fears, the more you realize you are stronger than you thought and the more confident you get. This simple, yet admittedly courageous, act makes you unstoppable. You get comfortable being uncomfortable and begin to feel like you can take on the world. And that is the hallmark of someone destined for great things.

12. Sit up straight and walk tall—you are awesome!

Yes, sit up straight and believe you are awesome. Don’t slump in your chair or slouch your shoulders. Experts say the right stance can not only keep your self-esteem and mood lifted, but also lead to more confidence in your own thoughts.[4]

The way to sit is to open up your chest and keep your head level so that you look and feel poised and assured. And when you get up, stand tall and walk like you’re on a mission. People who sit up straight and walk tall are more attractive and instantly feel more confident. Try it now: you’ll feel fierce and confident just by sitting up straight and walking tall.

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