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7 Double Date Tips You Need to Follow

7 Double Date Tips You Need to Follow

Going on a double date seems like the ultimate way to spend an evening. However, it can be easy to alienate members of the group. Since leaving one person out is sure to make for a difficult night, it’s crucial that the evening always feels like a group activity. So find your favorite couple and clear your weekend—these seven double date tips will ensure your evening goes well.

1. Don’t overdo affection

An important thing to remember on double dates is to keep your public displays of affection to a minimum. Yes, a date is normally the time you like to get a little cozy with your love interest, but for double dates, it’s important to be considerate. Getting to freaky with public displays of affection will make most people uncomfortable. Especially if the other couple is at a different stage in the relationship than you, too much affection, or more affection than the other couple is comfortable with, can quickly lead to an uneasy situation.

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2. Keep everyone feeling welcome

When on a double date, it is important to let everyone feel welcome. If you focus on topics few people understand, or spend too much time speaking with the same person for example, you risk alienating the rest of the group. Try to ask questions about the friends you know less well to let everyone feel embraced.

3. Moderate your alcohol

When going out on a double date it’s best to moderate your booze intake. There’s nothing wrong with a drink or two at dinner, but getting sloshed will quickly lead to disaster. Know how much alcohol you can comfortably handle, and take it slow. No one likes taking care of one drunk friend, let alone two or three.

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4. No fighting

Another crucial way to make sure everyone feels involved a double date is to avoid fighting. Bringing up disagreements or being abrasive can make everyone feel uncomfortable. Even if it starts as play fighting, tensions can easily escalate to make the night uneasy.

5. Minimize inside jokes

This goes along with making sure everyone feels involved. Inside jokes are best avoided on a double date, since they are exclusive by nature. Situations are rarely as funny when you explain them, and dwelling on times when others weren’t there can make others feel left out. Refraining from inside jokes with whoever you know best in the group will make for a more pleasant night for everyone.

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6. Avoid movies

While a favorite movie is a great way to spend the night with your significant other, on a double date it can be awkward. Aside from the fact that four people may have trouble deciding on one movie to see, movies don’t let you get to know anyone else there. Either you sit in silence and don’t really get to know each other, or you’re tempted to get too familiar with your date.

7. Plan well

Finally, it’s always in your best interest to take one last moment to review your plans.The smoother the night, the better the date. Make sure you have adequate transportation, know your reservations or business open hours, and have your phone charged. By keeping the evening free of potential complications, you make it easier for everyone to stay relaxed. Knowing any potential scheduling conflicts beforehand will make your night a breeze. 

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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