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7 Double Date Tips You Need to Follow

7 Double Date Tips You Need to Follow

Going on a double date seems like the ultimate way to spend an evening. However, it can be easy to alienate members of the group. Since leaving one person out is sure to make for a difficult night, it’s crucial that the evening always feels like a group activity. So find your favorite couple and clear your weekend—these seven double date tips will ensure your evening goes well.

1. Don’t overdo affection

An important thing to remember on double dates is to keep your public displays of affection to a minimum. Yes, a date is normally the time you like to get a little cozy with your love interest, but for double dates, it’s important to be considerate. Getting to freaky with public displays of affection will make most people uncomfortable. Especially if the other couple is at a different stage in the relationship than you, too much affection, or more affection than the other couple is comfortable with, can quickly lead to an uneasy situation.

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2. Keep everyone feeling welcome

When on a double date, it is important to let everyone feel welcome. If you focus on topics few people understand, or spend too much time speaking with the same person for example, you risk alienating the rest of the group. Try to ask questions about the friends you know less well to let everyone feel embraced.

3. Moderate your alcohol

When going out on a double date it’s best to moderate your booze intake. There’s nothing wrong with a drink or two at dinner, but getting sloshed will quickly lead to disaster. Know how much alcohol you can comfortably handle, and take it slow. No one likes taking care of one drunk friend, let alone two or three.

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4. No fighting

Another crucial way to make sure everyone feels involved a double date is to avoid fighting. Bringing up disagreements or being abrasive can make everyone feel uncomfortable. Even if it starts as play fighting, tensions can easily escalate to make the night uneasy.

5. Minimize inside jokes

This goes along with making sure everyone feels involved. Inside jokes are best avoided on a double date, since they are exclusive by nature. Situations are rarely as funny when you explain them, and dwelling on times when others weren’t there can make others feel left out. Refraining from inside jokes with whoever you know best in the group will make for a more pleasant night for everyone.

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6. Avoid movies

While a favorite movie is a great way to spend the night with your significant other, on a double date it can be awkward. Aside from the fact that four people may have trouble deciding on one movie to see, movies don’t let you get to know anyone else there. Either you sit in silence and don’t really get to know each other, or you’re tempted to get too familiar with your date.

7. Plan well

Finally, it’s always in your best interest to take one last moment to review your plans.The smoother the night, the better the date. Make sure you have adequate transportation, know your reservations or business open hours, and have your phone charged. By keeping the evening free of potential complications, you make it easier for everyone to stay relaxed. Knowing any potential scheduling conflicts beforehand will make your night a breeze. 

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Last Updated on September 17, 2018

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

Relationships are complicated and when you’re unhappy, it can be difficult to tell what’s causing it and what needs to change.

Sometimes it’s as easy as opening up to your partner about your problems, while other times it may be necessary to switch partners or roll solo to get your mind straight.

When you’re in the thick of things, it can be difficult to tell if you’re unhappy in your relationship or just unhappy in general (in which case, a relationship may be just the cure you need).

Here’re signs of an unhappy relationship that is possibly making you feel stuck:

1. You’re depressed about your home life.

No matter what you do in life, you’re going to have good and bad days. Your relationship is no different.

However, no matter what you’re going through at home, you have to feel comfortable in your own home.

If you constantly dread going home because your significant other is there, there’s a problem. Maybe it’s something you already know about, everyone has an argument or just needs some alone time.

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When that yearning to be alone becomes an insatiable obsession over the course of months and years, it’s time to realize you’re not the exception to the rule.

You’re unhappy in your relationship, and you need to take a look in the mirror and do whatever it takes to make yourself smile.

2. You aren’t comfortable being yourself.

Remember all those things you discovered about yourself when you first got together? The way your partner made you feel when you met that made you fall in love with him or her in the first place.

If they don’t make you feel that way anymore, it’s not the end of the world. If your partner makes you uncomfortable about being you, then her or she is only dragging you down. It’s up to you to decide how to handle that.

You need to be comfortable with who you are. This means being comfortable in your skin and with the way you walk, talk, look, breath, move, and all the other things that make you uniquely you.

If the person who supposedly loves you doesn’t make you feel good about yourself, know that you can do better. They’re not even one in a billion.

3. You can’t stop snooping.

Mutual trust is necessary in any relationship. The only way to get that trust is with respect.

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I can find you anywhere online, no matter how private and secure you think you are. The odds of you having a password I can’t crack are slim. If we’ve met in person, I could install a remote key logger on your device without even touching it.

Finding your information online hardly takes a clandestine organization. Any idiot with a Wi-Fi-enabled device can cyberstalk you. I’m just the only idiot in the village admitting it.

So now that we know everyone snoops, it’s time to address your personal habits. Governments snoop because they don’t trust us. If you’re snooping on your partner, it’s because you don’t trust them.

It’s ok to have doubts, and it’s perfectly normal to look into anything that looks weird, but keep in mind that data collection is only half of an investigation.

If you find yourself constantly snooping and questioning everything, clearly there’s a trust issue and the relationship likely needs to end.

4. You’re afraid of commitment.

If you’ve been dating longer than a year and you aren’t engaged, it’s never going to happen.

Commitment is important. People will come up with a million ways to describe why they can’t be committed.

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No matter who you are if you like it, you need to put a ring on it. Find an engagement ring, stick a gemstone in it and marry the person. If you’re not legally able to get married or you don’t believe in it for one reason or another, have a child (or adopt one, however you’re able to) or treat your partner’s family like your own. It’s a huge financial and mental commitment.

If you’re not ready for one or the other after some time, don’t waste anymore of your precious life on the relationship.

Your relationship should be something that propels you forward. If it’s not going anywhere, make it an open relationship and call it what it is—dating multiple people.

5. You imagine a happier life without your partner.

If all you’re doing is imagining a happier life without your partner, it’s a sign that you’re in the wrong relationship. You’re unhappy and you need to get out.

Your partner should be included in your dreams. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a future with someone.

Try to remember what you dreamed of before you got your heart broken by the realities of life, love and the pursuit of human success.

Remember when you would crush on that cute kid in class? You would secretly imagine marrying him or her and going on an adventure—that’s the way life should be.

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If you’re not at least imagining adventures together, then why are you in that relationship?

6. You resent, rather than love your partner.

When a relationship starts to crumble, you begin to resent your partner for all the things you once loved about him or her.

When you’ve reached this point, your partner has reached at least No. 2 on this list. From your partner’s perspective, your unhappiness with them is picked up as bashing them for being who they are.

If you’re both unhappy in the relationship, it’s better if it ends as quickly and painlessly as possible.

7. You chase past feelings.

It’s okay to reminisce about the past, but if all you do is wish things were like they used to be, it’s a sign you’re not on the right path.

You’re unhappy and, at the very least, you need to have an open dialogue about it. This isn’t necessarily a sign that the relationship should end, but it definitely needs a spark.

When you talk to your partner candidly about what it is you’re looking for, you never know how they’ll react. The risk alone is worth it, good or bad.

Final thoughts

If you’re feeling stuck in your current relationship, it’s time to reflect about it with your partner. Don’t ignore these signs of an unhappy relationship as they will slowly go worse and harm both you and your partner in long-term.

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