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7 Double Date Tips You Need to Follow

7 Double Date Tips You Need to Follow

Going on a double date seems like the ultimate way to spend an evening. However, it can be easy to alienate members of the group. Since leaving one person out is sure to make for a difficult night, it’s crucial that the evening always feels like a group activity. So find your favorite couple and clear your weekend—these seven double date tips will ensure your evening goes well.

1. Don’t overdo affection

An important thing to remember on double dates is to keep your public displays of affection to a minimum. Yes, a date is normally the time you like to get a little cozy with your love interest, but for double dates, it’s important to be considerate. Getting to freaky with public displays of affection will make most people uncomfortable. Especially if the other couple is at a different stage in the relationship than you, too much affection, or more affection than the other couple is comfortable with, can quickly lead to an uneasy situation.

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2. Keep everyone feeling welcome

When on a double date, it is important to let everyone feel welcome. If you focus on topics few people understand, or spend too much time speaking with the same person for example, you risk alienating the rest of the group. Try to ask questions about the friends you know less well to let everyone feel embraced.

3. Moderate your alcohol

When going out on a double date it’s best to moderate your booze intake. There’s nothing wrong with a drink or two at dinner, but getting sloshed will quickly lead to disaster. Know how much alcohol you can comfortably handle, and take it slow. No one likes taking care of one drunk friend, let alone two or three.

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4. No fighting

Another crucial way to make sure everyone feels involved a double date is to avoid fighting. Bringing up disagreements or being abrasive can make everyone feel uncomfortable. Even if it starts as play fighting, tensions can easily escalate to make the night uneasy.

5. Minimize inside jokes

This goes along with making sure everyone feels involved. Inside jokes are best avoided on a double date, since they are exclusive by nature. Situations are rarely as funny when you explain them, and dwelling on times when others weren’t there can make others feel left out. Refraining from inside jokes with whoever you know best in the group will make for a more pleasant night for everyone.

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6. Avoid movies

While a favorite movie is a great way to spend the night with your significant other, on a double date it can be awkward. Aside from the fact that four people may have trouble deciding on one movie to see, movies don’t let you get to know anyone else there. Either you sit in silence and don’t really get to know each other, or you’re tempted to get too familiar with your date.

7. Plan well

Finally, it’s always in your best interest to take one last moment to review your plans.The smoother the night, the better the date. Make sure you have adequate transportation, know your reservations or business open hours, and have your phone charged. By keeping the evening free of potential complications, you make it easier for everyone to stay relaxed. Knowing any potential scheduling conflicts beforehand will make your night a breeze. 

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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