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6 Signs That You Are Already Successful

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6 Signs That You Are Already Successful

Have you ever felt that you could do whatever you want in life but somehow obstacles are always in the way ? Have you ever questioned yourself as to when you’ll be successful? Have you ever gotten tired of waiting and trying hard for years, and hungry for that success of which you dream? There is a good news for all the dreamers who always thought of themselves as an unsuccessful person. The news is that YOU ARE ALREADY SUCCESSFUL. You just need to believe that. But believing that is the toughest thing in the world. So here are six powerful and real reasons which prove that you are already successful even though you feel now that you are not.

1. You have the time.

Most of the people who want to start their own business use a common excuse they that they don’t have enough time after their day job.

Let me ask you a direct question. “I understand that you don’t have enough time, then what do you have time for? You are always forced to make time for things you don’t want to do. Then can’t you find some time for those things which you want to do?” This is common sense yet people can be the victims of their excuses. They are the slaves of their comfort.

It’s not difficult to find one hour each day to start working on something you love. Do you have a long commute? Listen to podcast of your field of interest. Get up 15 minutes earlier. Shop online and save time every weekend going to malls and devote that time working on your dream life. Gather knowledge about your ideal life or business by reading articles during your lunch time, while waiting in a queue or during a break from work. Watch TV for 15 minutes less  and read newspaper for only 10 minutes.

Devoting five minutes to your 15-30 minutes task will get you to add that 1 hour easily into your day. Find such time gaps and fill them. Moreover, whatever age you are, you have enough time to start their business. People of all ages have started businesses. If they can do it, you can.

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2. You have the ability to think and learn.

Think of all the luxuries you are enjoying right now. Who invented such things? Was it by someone who thought he was not successful?

It was by those who thought they were successful and worked hard to invent an idea with their thinking and learning abilities even before they became successful. And it is with these abilities that we are enjoying all the luxuries of life. When are we going to take advantage of this?

Very few people in the world are constant thinkers and lifelong learners. Make the habit of constantly reading because all great leaders are great readers. Think of how you can add value to others with the help of your strengths and skills. Because only when you think, then can you make it happen in reality.

3. You don’t need money.

Yes, you do need the money but relying solely on money for being successful and making that excuse is not going to get you anywhere.

Most people have no experience of starting a business and they complain no one is giving them thousands of dollars to start their business. How can anyone trust you when they haven’t seen you trying or working for your dream? Rather than this, start small with some money which if you lose will not cost you much. If your business requires a huge capital, then start working for someone doing that and then slowly build upon the skills.

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Only by taking small steps in direction of your dreams everyday, you create a successful business. And when you become a master in that skill, you will make it easier to find money for your business.

4. You have the resources.

Another excuse people make is they don’t have enough knowledge or contacts which is stopping them from moving ahead.

Knowing what not to do is not a big deal. You didn’t knew anything when you came into this world but you learned everything. So give up this childish mentality and go out and start meeting people and attending events.

The internet is loaded with all the information you need. And if you still can’t figure out how to do, find a mentor, virtually or in real life and learn from them. Even though you don’t know them, ask them politely that you are very much influenced by them and want to learn how they are doing what they are doing. No generous person will ever say no to such a request. At worst, they will give you some advice you don’t like but still it will have something to learn.

You can also hire people to do things that are too complicated for you.

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5. You live in the most modern society.

You live in a society where almost everyone uses an internet, has access to all basic modern amenities and are willing to try new things in their day to day lives.

Almost all the things which people used to do themselves few years before are now being outsourced. Find a creative way to help people by using latest solutions which help them save time and money

. Also, see if you have a happy which can be monetized. This is the advantage you have. Don’t let it go waste. Read point no. 2 again if you are stuck.

6. You are reading this.

Yes you are successful because you are reading this. You read the above five reasons why you are already successful and this sixth reason is equally important because everyone needs motivation and when you are motivated, it can help you overcome any obstacle in life and help you take action no matter what.

It was my small try to motivate you by reading this. Not everyone will read this piece of advice but those who will, I am sure they will start thinking themselves as successful the moment they finish reading this article and that is what we need more in this world.

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We need more people who think they are already successful. Now stop being so serious and go out make it happen .You are already successful. Problem is that no one ever tells us this. This is your day as I tell you that you are already successful. Sometimes this is more than enough and this is all we need.

Green lights to you all for your bright future.

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Last Updated on July 20, 2021

How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

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How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

You’re standing behind the curtain, just about to make your way on stage to face the many faces half-shrouded in darkness in front of you. As you move towards the spotlight, your body starts to feel heavier with each step. A familiar thump echoes throughout your body – your heartbeat has gone off the charts.

Don’t worry, you’re not the only one with glossophobia(also known as speech anxiety or the fear of speaking to large crowds). Sometimes, the anxiety happens long before you even stand on stage.

Your body’s defence mechanism responds by causing a part of your brain to release adrenaline into your blood – the same chemical that gets released as if you were being chased by a lion.

Here’s a step-by-step guide to help you overcome your fear of public speaking:

1. Prepare yourself mentally and physically

According to experts, we’re built to display anxiety and to recognize it in others. If your body and mind are anxious, your audience will notice. Hence, it’s important to prepare yourself before the big show so that you arrive on stage confident, collected and ready.

“Your outside world is a reflection of your inside world. What goes on in the inside, shows on the outside.” – Bob Proctor

Exercising lightly before a presentation helps get your blood circulating and sends oxygen to the brain. Mental exercises, on the other hand, can help calm the mind and nerves. Here are some useful ways to calm your racing heart when you start to feel the butterflies in your stomach:

Warming up

If you’re nervous, chances are your body will feel the same way. Your body gets tense, your muscles feel tight or you’re breaking in cold sweat. The audience will notice you are nervous.

If you observe that this is exactly what is happening to you minutes before a speech, do a couple of stretches to loosen and relax your body. It’s better to warm up before every speech as it helps to increase the functional potential of the body as a whole. Not only that, it increases muscle efficiency, improves reaction time and your movements.

Here are some exercises to loosen up your body before show time:

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  1. Neck and shoulder rolls – This helps relieve upper body muscle tension and pressure as the rolls focus on rotating the head and shoulders, loosening the muscle. Stress and anxiety can make us rigid within this area which can make you feel agitated, especially when standing.
  2. Arm stretches – We often use this part of our muscles during a speech or presentation through our hand gestures and movements. Stretching these muscles can reduce arm fatigue, loosen you up and improve your body language range.
  3. Waist twists – Place your hands on your hips and rotate your waist in a circular motion. This exercise focuses on loosening the abdominal and lower back regions which is essential as it can cause discomfort and pain, further amplifying any anxieties you may experience.

Stay hydrated

Ever felt parched seconds before speaking? And then coming up on stage sounding raspy and scratchy in front of the audience? This happens because the adrenaline from stage fright causes your mouth to feel dried out.

To prevent all that, it’s essential we stay adequately hydrated before a speech. A sip of water will do the trick. However, do drink in moderation so that you won’t need to go to the bathroom constantly.

Try to avoid sugary beverages and caffeine, since it’s a diuretic – meaning you’ll feel thirstier. It will also amplify your anxiety which prevents you from speaking smoothly.

Meditate

Meditation is well-known as a powerful tool to calm the mind. ABC’s Dan Harris, co-anchor of Nightline and Good Morning America weekend and author of the book titled10% Happier , recommends that meditation can help individuals to feel significantly calmer, faster.

Meditation is like a workout for your mind. It gives you the strength and focus to filter out the negativity and distractions with words of encouragement, confidence and strength.

Mindfulness meditation, in particular, is a popular method to calm yourself before going up on the big stage. The practice involves sitting comfortably, focusing on your breathing and then bringing your mind’s attention to the present without drifting into concerns about the past or future – which likely includes floundering on stage.

Here’s a nice example of guided meditation before public speaking:

2. Focus on your goal

One thing people with a fear of public speaking have in common is focusing too much on themselves and the possibility of failure.

Do I look funny? What if I can’t remember what to say? Do I look stupid? Will people listen to me? Does anyone care about what I’m talking about?’

Instead of thinking this way, shift your attention to your one true purpose – contributing something of value to your audience.

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Decide on the progress you’d like your audience to make after your presentation. Notice their movements and expressions to adapt your speech to ensure that they are having a good time to leave the room as better people.

If your own focus isn’t beneficial and what it should be when you’re speaking, then shift it to what does. This is also key to establishing trust during your presentation as the audience can clearly see that you have their interests at heart.[1]

3. Convert negativity to positivity

There are two sides constantly battling inside of us – one is filled with strength and courage while the other is doubt and insecurities. Which one will you feed?

‘What if I mess up this speech? What if I’m not funny enough? What if I forget what to say?’

It’s no wonder why many of us are uncomfortable giving a presentation. All we do is bring ourselves down before we got a chance to prove ourselves. This is also known as a self-fulfilling prophecy – a belief that comes true because we are acting as if it already is. If you think you’re incompetent, then it will eventually become true.

Motivational coaches tout that positive mantras and affirmations tend to boost your confidents for the moments that matter most. Say to yourself: “I’ll ace this speech and I can do it!”

Take advantage of your adrenaline rush to encourage positive outcome rather than thinking of the negative ‘what ifs’.

Here’s a video of Psychologist Kelly McGonigal who encourages her audience to turn stress into something positive as well as provide methods on how to cope with it:

4. Understand your content

Knowing your content at your fingertips helps reduce your anxiety because there is one less thing to worry about. One way to get there is to practice numerous times before your actual speech.

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However, memorizing your script word-for-word is not encouraged. You can end up freezing should you forget something. You’ll also risk sounding unnatural and less approachable.

“No amount of reading or memorizing will make you successful in life. It is the understanding and the application of wise thought that counts.” – Bob Proctor

Many people unconsciously make the mistake of reading from their slides or memorizing their script word-for-word without understanding their content – a definite way to stress themselves out.

Understanding your speech flow and content makes it easier for you to convert ideas and concepts into your own words which you can then clearly explain to others in a conversational manner. Designing your slides to include text prompts is also an easy hack to ensure you get to quickly recall your flow when your mind goes blank.[2]

One way to understand is to memorize the over-arching concepts or ideas in your pitch. It helps you speak more naturally and let your personality shine through. It’s almost like taking your audience on a journey with a few key milestones.

5. Practice makes perfect

Like most people, many of us are not naturally attuned to public speaking. Rarely do individuals walk up to a large audience and present flawlessly without any research and preparation.

In fact, some of the top presenters make it look easy during showtime because they have spent countless hours behind-the-scenes in deep practice. Even great speakers like the late John F. Kennedy would spend months preparing his speech beforehand.

Public speaking, like any other skill, requires practice – whether it be practicing your speech countless of times in front of a mirror or making notes. As the saying goes, practice makes perfect!

6. Be authentic

There’s nothing wrong with feeling stressed before going up to speak in front of an audience.

Many people fear public speaking because they fear others will judge them for showing their true, vulnerable self. However, vulnerability can sometimes help you come across as more authentic and relatable as a speaker.

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Drop the pretence of trying to act or speak like someone else and you’ll find that it’s worth the risk. You become more genuine, flexible and spontaneous, which makes it easier to handle unpredictable situations – whether it’s getting tough questions from the crowd or experiencing an unexpected technical difficulty.

To find out your authentic style of speaking is easy. Just pick a topic or issue you are passionate about and discuss this like you normally would with a close family or friend. It is like having a conversation with someone in a personal one-to-one setting. A great way to do this on stage is to select a random audience member(with a hopefully calming face) and speak to a single person at a time during your speech. You’ll find that it’s easier trying to connect to one person at a time than a whole room.

With that said, being comfortable enough to be yourself in front of others may take a little time and some experience, depending how comfortable you are with being yourself in front of others. But once you embrace it, stage fright will not be as intimidating as you initially thought.

Presenters like Barack Obama are a prime example of a genuine and passionate speaker:

7. Post speech evaluation

Last but not the least, if you’ve done public speaking and have been scarred from a bad experience, try seeing it as a lesson learned to improve yourself as a speaker.

Don’t beat yourself up after a presentation

We are the hardest on ourselves and it’s good to be. But when you finish delivering your speech or presentation, give yourself some recognition and a pat on the back.

You managed to finish whatever you had to do and did not give up. You did not let your fears and insecurities get to you. Take a little more pride in your work and believe in yourself.

Improve your next speech

As mentioned before, practice does make perfect. If you want to improve your public speaking skills, try asking someone to film you during a speech or presentation. Afterwards, watch and observe what you can do to improve yourself next time.

Here are some questions you can ask yourself after every speech:

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  • How did I do?
  • Are there any areas for improvement?
  • Did I sound or look stressed?
  • Did I stumble on my words? Why?
  • Was I saying “um” too often?
  • How was the flow of the speech?

Write everything you observed down and keep practicing and improving. In time, you’ll be able to better manage your fears of public speaking and appear more confident when it counts.

If you want even more tips about public speaking or delivering a great presentation, check out these articles too:

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