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6 Signs That You Are Already Successful

6 Signs That You Are Already Successful

Have you ever felt that you could do whatever you want in life but somehow obstacles are always in the way ? Have you ever questioned yourself as to when you’ll be successful? Have you ever gotten tired of waiting and trying hard for years, and hungry for that success of which you dream? There is a good news for all the dreamers who always thought of themselves as an unsuccessful person. The news is that YOU ARE ALREADY SUCCESSFUL. You just need to believe that. But believing that is the toughest thing in the world. So here are six powerful and real reasons which prove that you are already successful even though you feel now that you are not.

1. You have the time.

Most of the people who want to start their own business use a common excuse they that they don’t have enough time after their day job.

Let me ask you a direct question. “I understand that you don’t have enough time, then what do you have time for? You are always forced to make time for things you don’t want to do. Then can’t you find some time for those things which you want to do?” This is common sense yet people can be the victims of their excuses. They are the slaves of their comfort.

It’s not difficult to find one hour each day to start working on something you love. Do you have a long commute? Listen to podcast of your field of interest. Get up 15 minutes earlier. Shop online and save time every weekend going to malls and devote that time working on your dream life. Gather knowledge about your ideal life or business by reading articles during your lunch time, while waiting in a queue or during a break from work. Watch TV for 15 minutes less  and read newspaper for only 10 minutes.

Devoting five minutes to your 15-30 minutes task will get you to add that 1 hour easily into your day. Find such time gaps and fill them. Moreover, whatever age you are, you have enough time to start their business. People of all ages have started businesses. If they can do it, you can.

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2. You have the ability to think and learn.

Think of all the luxuries you are enjoying right now. Who invented such things? Was it by someone who thought he was not successful?

It was by those who thought they were successful and worked hard to invent an idea with their thinking and learning abilities even before they became successful. And it is with these abilities that we are enjoying all the luxuries of life. When are we going to take advantage of this?

Very few people in the world are constant thinkers and lifelong learners. Make the habit of constantly reading because all great leaders are great readers. Think of how you can add value to others with the help of your strengths and skills. Because only when you think, then can you make it happen in reality.

3. You don’t need money.

Yes, you do need the money but relying solely on money for being successful and making that excuse is not going to get you anywhere.

Most people have no experience of starting a business and they complain no one is giving them thousands of dollars to start their business. How can anyone trust you when they haven’t seen you trying or working for your dream? Rather than this, start small with some money which if you lose will not cost you much. If your business requires a huge capital, then start working for someone doing that and then slowly build upon the skills.

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Only by taking small steps in direction of your dreams everyday, you create a successful business. And when you become a master in that skill, you will make it easier to find money for your business.

4. You have the resources.

Another excuse people make is they don’t have enough knowledge or contacts which is stopping them from moving ahead.

Knowing what not to do is not a big deal. You didn’t knew anything when you came into this world but you learned everything. So give up this childish mentality and go out and start meeting people and attending events.

The internet is loaded with all the information you need. And if you still can’t figure out how to do, find a mentor, virtually or in real life and learn from them. Even though you don’t know them, ask them politely that you are very much influenced by them and want to learn how they are doing what they are doing. No generous person will ever say no to such a request. At worst, they will give you some advice you don’t like but still it will have something to learn.

You can also hire people to do things that are too complicated for you.

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5. You live in the most modern society.

You live in a society where almost everyone uses an internet, has access to all basic modern amenities and are willing to try new things in their day to day lives.

Almost all the things which people used to do themselves few years before are now being outsourced. Find a creative way to help people by using latest solutions which help them save time and money

. Also, see if you have a happy which can be monetized. This is the advantage you have. Don’t let it go waste. Read point no. 2 again if you are stuck.

6. You are reading this.

Yes you are successful because you are reading this. You read the above five reasons why you are already successful and this sixth reason is equally important because everyone needs motivation and when you are motivated, it can help you overcome any obstacle in life and help you take action no matter what.

It was my small try to motivate you by reading this. Not everyone will read this piece of advice but those who will, I am sure they will start thinking themselves as successful the moment they finish reading this article and that is what we need more in this world.

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We need more people who think they are already successful. Now stop being so serious and go out make it happen .You are already successful. Problem is that no one ever tells us this. This is your day as I tell you that you are already successful. Sometimes this is more than enough and this is all we need.

Green lights to you all for your bright future.

Featured photo credit: succe via projectmanage.com

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Last Updated on September 18, 2020

13 Helping Points When Things Don’t Go Your Way

13 Helping Points When Things Don’t Go Your Way

For the original article by Celestine: 13 Helping Points When Things Don’t Go Your Way

“We all have problems. The way we solve them is what makes us different.” ~Unknown

“It’s not stress that kills us, it is our reaction to it.” – Hans Selye

Have you ever experienced moments when things just don’t go your way? For example, losing your keys, accidentally spilling your drink, waking up late, missing your buses/trains, forgetting to bring your things, and so on?

You’re not alone. All of us, myself included, experience times when things don’t go as we expect.

Here is my guide on how to deal with daily setbacks.

1. Take a step back and evaluate

When something bad happens, take a step back and evaluate the situation. Some questions to ask yourself:

  1. What is the problem?
  2. Are you the only person facing this problem in the world today?
  3. How does this problem look like at an individual level? A national level? On a global scale?
  4. What’s the worst possible thing that can happen to you as a result of this?
  5. How is it going to impact your life in the next 1 year? 5 years? 10 years?

Doing this exercise is not to undermine the problem or disclaiming responsibility, but to consider different perspectives, so you can adopt the best approach for it. Most problems we encounter daily may seem like huge issues when they crop up, but most, if not all, don’t have much impact in our life beyond that day.

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2. Vent if you have to, but don’t linger on the problem

If you feel very frustrated and need to let off some steam, go ahead and do that. Talk to a friend, complain, crib about it, or scream at the top of your lungs if it makes you happy.

At the same time, don’t get caught up with venting. While venting may temporarily relieve yourself, it’s not going to solve the problem ultimately. You don’t want to be an energy vampire.

Vent if there’s a need to, but do it for 15 to 20 minutes. Then move on.

3. Realize there are others out there facing this too

Even though the situation may be frustrating, you’re not alone. Remember there are almost 7 billion people in the world today, and chances are that other people have faced the same thing before too. Knowing it’s not just you helps you to get out of a self-victimizing mindset.

4. Process your thoughts/emotions

Process your thoughts/emotions with any of the four methods:

  1. Journal. Write your unhappiness in a private diary or in your blog. It doesn’t have to be formal at all – it can be a brain dump on rough paper or new word document. Delete after you are done.
  2. Audio taping. Record yourself as you talk out what’s on your mind. Tools include tape recorder, your PC (Audacity is a freeware for recording/editing audio) and your mobile (most mobiles today have audio recording functions). You can even use your voice mail for this. Just talking helps you to gain awareness of your emotions. After recording, play back and listen to what you said. You might find it quite revealing.
  3. Meditation. At its simplest form, meditation is just sitting/lying still and observing your reality as it is – including your thoughts and emotions. Some think that it involves some complex mambo-jumbo, but it doesn’t.
  4. Talking to someone. Talking about it with someone helps you work through the issue. It also gets you an alternate viewpoint and consider it from a different angle.

5. Acknowledge your thoughts

Don’t resist your thoughts, but acknowledge them. This includes both positive and negative thoughts.

By acknowledging, I mean recognizing these thoughts exist. So if say, you have a thought that says, “Wow, I’m so stupid!”, acknowledge that. If you have a thought that says, “I can’t believe this is happening to me again”, acknowledge that as well.

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Know that acknowledging the thoughts doesn’t mean you agree with them. It’s simply recognizing the existence of said thoughts so that you can stop resisting yourself and focus on the situation on hand.

6. Give yourself a break

If you’re very stressed out by the situation, and the problem is not time sensitive, then give yourself a break. Take a walk, listen to some music, watch a movie, or get some sleep. When you’re done, you should feel a lot more revitalized to deal with the situation.

7. Uncover what you’re really upset about

A lot of times, the anger we feel isn’t about the world. You may start off feeling angry at someone or something, but at the depth of it, it’s anger toward yourself.

Uncover the root of your anger. I have written a five part anger management series on how to permanently overcome anger.

After that, ask yourself: How can you improve the situation? Go to Step #9, where you define your actionable steps. Our anger comes from not having control on the situation. Sitting there and feeling infuriated is not going to change the situation. The more action we take, the more we will regain control over the situation, the better we will feel.

8. See this as an obstacle to be overcome

As Helen Keller once said,

“Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experiences of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition inspired and success achieved.”

Whatever you’re facing right now, see it as an obstacle to be overcome. In every worthy endeavor, there’ll always be countless obstacles that emerge along the way. These obstacles are what separate the people who make it, and those who don’t. If you’re able to push through and overcome them, you’ll emerge a stronger person than before. It’ll be harder for anything to get you down in the future.

9. Analyze the situation – Focus on actionable steps

In every setback, there are going to be things that can’t be reversed since they have already occurred. You want to focus on things that can still be changed (salvageable) vs. things that have already happened and can’t be changed. The only time the situation changes is when you take steps to improve it. Rather than cry over spilt milk, work through your situation:

  1. What’s the situation?
  2. What’s stressing you about this situation?
  3. What are the next steps that’ll help you resolve them?
  4. Take action on your next steps!

After you have identified your next steps, act on them. The key here is to focus on the actionable steps, not the inactionable steps. It’s about regaining control over the situation through direct action.

10. Identify how it occurred (so it won’t occur again next time)

A lot of times we react to our problems. The problem occurs, and we try to make the best out of what has happened within the context. While developing a healthy coping mechanism is important (which is what the other helping points are on), it’s also equally important, if not more, to understand how the problem arose. This way, you can work on preventing it from taking place next time, vs. dealing reactively with it.

Most of us probably think the problem is outside of our control, but reality is most of the times it’s fully preventable. It’s just a matter of how much responsibility you take over the problem.

For example, for someone who can’t get a cab for work in the morning, he/she may see the problem as a lack of cabs in the country, or bad luck. However, if you trace to the root of the problem, it’s probably more to do with (a) Having unrealistic expectations of the length of time to get a cab. He/she should budget more time for waiting for a cab next time. (b) Oversleeping, because he/she was too tired from working late the previous day. He/she should allocate enough time for rest next time. He/she should also pick up better time management skills, so as to finish work in lesser time.

11. Realize the situation can be a lot worse

No matter how bad the situation is, it can always be much worse. A plus point vs. negative point analysis will help you realize that.

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12. Do your best, but don’t kill yourself over it

No matter how bad your situation may seem, do your best, but don’t kill yourself over it. Life is too beautiful to worry so much over daily issues. Take a step back (#1), give yourself a break if you need to (#6), and do what you can within your means (#9). Everything else will unfold accordingly. Worrying too much about the outcome isn’t going to change things or make your life any better.

13. Pick out the learning points from the encounter

There’s something to learn from every encounter. What have you learned from this situation? What lessons have you taken away?

After you identify your learning points, think about how you’re going to apply them moving forward. With this, you’ve clearly gained something from this encounter. You’ve walked away a stronger, wiser, better person, with more life lessons to draw from in the future.

Get the manifesto version of this article: [Manifesto] What To Do When Things Don’t Go Your Way

Featured photo credit: Alice Donovan Rouse via unsplash.com

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