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6 Signs That You Are Already Successful

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6 Signs That You Are Already Successful

Have you ever felt that you could do whatever you want in life but somehow obstacles are always in the way ? Have you ever questioned yourself as to when you’ll be successful? Have you ever gotten tired of waiting and trying hard for years, and hungry for that success of which you dream? There is a good news for all the dreamers who always thought of themselves as an unsuccessful person. The news is that YOU ARE ALREADY SUCCESSFUL. You just need to believe that. But believing that is the toughest thing in the world. So here are six powerful and real reasons which prove that you are already successful even though you feel now that you are not.

1. You have the time.

Most of the people who want to start their own business use a common excuse they that they don’t have enough time after their day job.

Let me ask you a direct question. “I understand that you don’t have enough time, then what do you have time for? You are always forced to make time for things you don’t want to do. Then can’t you find some time for those things which you want to do?” This is common sense yet people can be the victims of their excuses. They are the slaves of their comfort.

It’s not difficult to find one hour each day to start working on something you love. Do you have a long commute? Listen to podcast of your field of interest. Get up 15 minutes earlier. Shop online and save time every weekend going to malls and devote that time working on your dream life. Gather knowledge about your ideal life or business by reading articles during your lunch time, while waiting in a queue or during a break from work. Watch TV for 15 minutes less  and read newspaper for only 10 minutes.

Devoting five minutes to your 15-30 minutes task will get you to add that 1 hour easily into your day. Find such time gaps and fill them. Moreover, whatever age you are, you have enough time to start their business. People of all ages have started businesses. If they can do it, you can.

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2. You have the ability to think and learn.

Think of all the luxuries you are enjoying right now. Who invented such things? Was it by someone who thought he was not successful?

It was by those who thought they were successful and worked hard to invent an idea with their thinking and learning abilities even before they became successful. And it is with these abilities that we are enjoying all the luxuries of life. When are we going to take advantage of this?

Very few people in the world are constant thinkers and lifelong learners. Make the habit of constantly reading because all great leaders are great readers. Think of how you can add value to others with the help of your strengths and skills. Because only when you think, then can you make it happen in reality.

3. You don’t need money.

Yes, you do need the money but relying solely on money for being successful and making that excuse is not going to get you anywhere.

Most people have no experience of starting a business and they complain no one is giving them thousands of dollars to start their business. How can anyone trust you when they haven’t seen you trying or working for your dream? Rather than this, start small with some money which if you lose will not cost you much. If your business requires a huge capital, then start working for someone doing that and then slowly build upon the skills.

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Only by taking small steps in direction of your dreams everyday, you create a successful business. And when you become a master in that skill, you will make it easier to find money for your business.

4. You have the resources.

Another excuse people make is they don’t have enough knowledge or contacts which is stopping them from moving ahead.

Knowing what not to do is not a big deal. You didn’t knew anything when you came into this world but you learned everything. So give up this childish mentality and go out and start meeting people and attending events.

The internet is loaded with all the information you need. And if you still can’t figure out how to do, find a mentor, virtually or in real life and learn from them. Even though you don’t know them, ask them politely that you are very much influenced by them and want to learn how they are doing what they are doing. No generous person will ever say no to such a request. At worst, they will give you some advice you don’t like but still it will have something to learn.

You can also hire people to do things that are too complicated for you.

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5. You live in the most modern society.

You live in a society where almost everyone uses an internet, has access to all basic modern amenities and are willing to try new things in their day to day lives.

Almost all the things which people used to do themselves few years before are now being outsourced. Find a creative way to help people by using latest solutions which help them save time and money

. Also, see if you have a happy which can be monetized. This is the advantage you have. Don’t let it go waste. Read point no. 2 again if you are stuck.

6. You are reading this.

Yes you are successful because you are reading this. You read the above five reasons why you are already successful and this sixth reason is equally important because everyone needs motivation and when you are motivated, it can help you overcome any obstacle in life and help you take action no matter what.

It was my small try to motivate you by reading this. Not everyone will read this piece of advice but those who will, I am sure they will start thinking themselves as successful the moment they finish reading this article and that is what we need more in this world.

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We need more people who think they are already successful. Now stop being so serious and go out make it happen .You are already successful. Problem is that no one ever tells us this. This is your day as I tell you that you are already successful. Sometimes this is more than enough and this is all we need.

Green lights to you all for your bright future.

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How to Deal With Anger (The Ultimate Anger Management Guide)

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How to Deal With Anger (The Ultimate Anger Management Guide)

We all lose our temper from time to time, and expressing anger is actually a healthy thing to do in our relationships with others. Expressing our differences in opinion allows us to have healthy conflict and many times come to an agreement or understanding that works for everyone. However, there are times when anger can become overwhelming or damaging, and during these times, it’s important to learn how to deal with anger.

Expressing anger inappropriately can be harmful to relationships, both personal and professional. You may express too much anger, too often, or at times that are only going to make things worse, not better. In this article we will look at anger management techniques that will help you better control your emotions.

Let’s take a deeper look at how to deal with anger.

Expressing Anger

Anger is a natural and normal part of almost any relationship. This includes relationships with your significant other, kids, boss, friends, family, etc. Anger provides us with valuable information if we are willing to listen to it. It clues us in to areas where we disagree with others and things that need to be changed or altered.

Unhealthy Ways to Express Anger

Here are some common yet unhealthy ways to express anger that you should avoid:

Being Passive-Aggressive

This is a term many of us are familiar with. Passive-aggressive behavior happens when someone is angry but uses indirect communication to express their anger.

Some of the more common passive-aggressive behaviors include the silent treatment, making comments about someone behind their back, being grumpy, moody, or pouting, or simply not doing tasks or assignments that they should.

This is a passive-aggressive person’s way of showing their anger. It’s not very productive but extremely common.

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Poorly-Timed

Some people get overwhelmed and express anger in a situation where it can’t really do any good.

An example would be getting angry at one person in front of a crowd of people. All that does is make people uncomfortable and shuts them down. It’s not a healthy way to express anger or disagreement with someone.

Ongoing Anger

Being angry all the time is most often a symptom of something else. It’s healthy and normal to express anger when you disagree with someone. However, if someone is angry most of the time and always seems to be expressing their anger to everyone around them, this won’t serve them well.

Over time, people will start to avoid this person and have as little contact as possible. The reason being is no one likes being around someone who is angry all the time; it’s a no-win situation.

Healthy Ways to Express Anger

What about the healthy ways[1] to adapt? When learning how to deal with anger, here are some healthy ways to get you started.

Being Honest

Express your anger or disagreement honestly. Be truthful about what it is that is making you angry. Sometimes this will entail walking away and thinking about it for a bit before you respond.

Don’t say you’re mad at something someone did or said when it’s really something else that upset you.

Being Direct

Similar to being honest, being direct is a healthy way to express anger.

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Don’t talk around something that is making you angry. Don’t say that one thing is making you angry when it’s really something else, and don’t stack items on top of each other so you can unload on someone about 10 different things 6 months from now.

Be direct and upfront about what is making you angry. Ensure you are expressing your anger to the person who upset you or you are angry at, not to someone else. This is very counterproductive.

Being Timely

When something makes you angry, it’s much better to express it in a timely manner. Don’t keep it bottled up inside of you, as that’s only going to do more harm than good.

Think of the marriages that seem to go up in flames out of nowhere when the reality is someone kept quiet for years until they hit their breaking point.

Expressing anger as it occurs is a much healthier way of using anger to help us guide our relationships in the moment.

How to Deal With Anger

If you feel angry, how should you deal with it right at that moment?

1. Slow Down

From time to time, I receive an email at work that makes me so angry that steam is probably pouring out of my ears.

In my less restrained moments, I have been known to fire off a quick response, and that typically has ended about as well as you might imagine.

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When I actually walk away from my computer and go do something else for a while, I am able to calm down and think more rationally. After that happens, I am able to respond in a more appropriate and productive manner. Doing things that helps you learn how to release anger can make an uncomfortable situation more manageable before it gets out of hand.

2. Focus on the “I”

Remember that you are the one that’s upset. Don’t accuse people of making you upset because, in the end, it’s your response to what someone did that really triggered your anger. You don’t want to place blame by saying something like “Why don’t you ever put away your dishes?” Say something more like “Having dirty dishes laying on the counter upsets me—can you work with me to come to a solution?”

When you are accusatory towards someone, all that does is increase the tension. This doesn’t usually do anything except make your anger rise higher.

3. Work out

When learning how to deal with anger, exercise is a great outlet. If something happens that angers you, see if you have the opportunity to burn off some of the anger.

Being able to hit the gym to get a hard workout in is great. If this isn’t an option, see if you can go for a run or a bike ride. If you are at work when you become angry and the weather permits, at least go outside for a brisk walk.

Besides working some of your anger out through exercise, this also helps to give your mind a chance to work through some ways to address what it is that upset you.

4. Seek Help When Needed

There are times when we could all use some help. Life can be stressful and overwhelming. It’s perfectly fine to seek some help from a mental health professional if it will help you get back to a healthy balance.If you find that you are angry all the time, it might be a good idea to go talk to an expert about learning to control intense emotions. They can give you some sound advice and ideas on how to get your anger to a more manageable and healthy level.

5. Practice Relaxation

We all seem to lead incredibly busy lives, and that’s a good thing if we are loving the life we are living. That being said, it is very beneficial to our physical and mental well-being to take time out for relaxation.

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That can mean spending time doing things that help us calm down and relax, like being around people we enjoy, practicing deep breathing or listening to music. It could be making time for things that help bring us balance like a healthy diet and physical activity.

Many people incorporate techniques such as yoga and meditation to calm their minds and release tension when learning how to deal with anger. Whatever your choice is, ensure you take time out to relax when warning signs of anger start to bubble up.

6. Laugh

Incorporating humor and laughter on a regular basis will help keep anger in check and help you get over a bad mood and feelings of anger more quickly. This isn’t part of formal anger management techniques, but you’ll be surprised by how well it works. Remember, life is a journey that’s meant to be enjoyed fully along the way through healthy emotion. Make sure you take time to laugh and have fun.Surround yourself with people that like to laugh and enjoy life. Don’t work at a job that just causes you stress, which can lead to anger. Work at something you enjoy doing.

7. Be Grateful

It’s easy to focus on the bad in life and the things that cause us negative emotions. It’s vitally important to remind ourselves of all the wonderful things in life that bring us positive emotions, things that we easily forget because we get caught up in the whirlwind of day to day life.

Take time out each day to remind yourself of a few things you are grateful for in order to help you learn how to release anger and invite in more positive feelings.

Final Thoughts

Life can be overwhelming at times. We seem to have constant pressure to achieve more and to always be on the go or motivated. People we are around and situations we are in can cause stress, anger, and negative emotions. At times, it can seem to be too much, and we get angry and our emotions start to get out of control.

During these times, keep in mind that life is an incredible journey, full of wonder and things that bring you joy. When you find yourself angry more often than is healthy, take time out to remember the good things in life—the things that we seem to forget yet bring us so much positive energy and emotions.

Use some of the tips included here to help with how to deal with anger and better control your emotions.

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