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5 Survival Tips for Your Marriage

5 Survival Tips for Your Marriage

For those of you who are married, you know that marriage isn’t a perfect little honeymoon. For those of you who aren’t married, just wait a while, you’ll see. Without a doubt, marriage is a great institution, but that doesn’t make it any easier. Maintaining a strong marriage with your spouse takes work.

Here are five tips that can help you strengthen your marriage:

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1. Communicate

If you ask a couple who’s been happily married for any length of time for the secret to their success, no doubt the answer would be communication. Communication is one of the most important keys to any relationship, especially a marriage. If you think back through your past romantic relationships, its success or failure was all based on the foundation of communication. You started talking, and then going on dates, and sharing your dreams with each other. The foundation of communication is in constant need of reinforcement. Make sure you’re always able to openly communicate with each other, and your marriage will be fortified.

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2. Romance

The longer that you’re married, the more likely it is that your relationship will lose some of the romantic spark. Don’t let it go away! You can keep the romance alive by simply reminiscing. Remember the butterflies in your stomach on your first date, or the care you once put into looking fancy on your spouse. You could try making a romantic setting in the bedroom, with candles, music, and other things that properly set the mood. Set the scene for something memorable, and the rest will take care of itself. Keeping the romance strengthens your marriage.

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3. Show Your Love

Saying the words “I love you” can do wonders for your relationship, but sometimes your spouse needs more than a verbal acknowledgement. There are plenty of simple things that you can do to show your love and appreciation for a spouse. Making a delicious homemade dinner featuring your spouse’s favorite meal can do the trick. Also, you could try bringing flowers home for your wife’s enjoyment. It may sound cliche, but it’s always a lovely sentiment. It shows you were thinking of her even when she wasn’t around. In the same vein, you could go out of your way and buy something nice, just to show your spouse that you are thinking about them and you love them. Remember, it is the thought that counts.

4. Allow Room For Change

Many relationships end because one person is upset that the other person isn’t the same as when they first met. As people age and mature, change is a natural thing. Your interests change, and you grow with every experience that you have. That’s not a bad thing; it’s ok to change. Inevitably, the longer that you’re in a relationship, the closer you’ll become to the person that you’re with. You learn and grow together. Remember that change is only a sign that you are growing. Allow your spouse to change because, chances are, you will end up changing as a person too.

5. Don’t Just “Survive”

If you have the mindset that you’re “surviving” marriage, you are doing it all wrong. Marriage is meant to be enjoyed. You are with the person that you love for the rest of your lives. You can create your own family and your own traditions. There is nothing on earth that compares to that type of bond. Love your spouse and love your marriage. Remember to communicate your needs and desires. By doing this, things should work themselves out naturally, and be much more enjoyable for you. You won’t just be surviving marriage, you’ll be thriving in your marriage again.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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