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5 Myths so Good That They’ve Been Embraced as Truths

5 Myths so Good That They’ve Been Embraced as Truths

For the past couple of years, rumors have been flying around that this economy is so tough, that the recession has hit so hard, and it’s just getting worse—oh Gosh Molly, it’s so bad. In fact, it’s so bad that people are using their last pennies to buy tickets to Miley Cyrus concerts (FYI those sold out). Geez, yeah, we’ve never seen such bad times. The world was flat, until it wasn’t.

I respect experts and I love conducting thorough research just so I can feel that much more confident about what I “know.” Sometimes after a while, your own birth-given intelligence kicks in and you wonder, “Wait a minute…” Not everything is meant to be questioned, but below are some well-known facts, where, at second glance, are not all that factual.

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1. “If you keep doing what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.”

Nothing has ever been further from the truth. Think back to RIM’s BlackBerry: they came out as one of the most powerful companies and they did what they did and got 55.3% smart phone market share, they kept doing what they did and that number dropped significantly to about 0.6%. Kodak kept doing what they were doing and filed for bankruptcy. Dinosaurs kept on keeping on and became extinct. You get the picture.

2. “You have as many hours as [insert name of very successful and powerful business man].”

Actually you don’t. Maybe when they were plain and ordinary like you, but think of Bill Gates, founder of Microsoft: he has over 90,000 employees. Multiply that by, let’s say they work a normal 9–5 job, so that’s roughly 8 hours (lets exclude workaholics who work weekends and fortune 500 executives who are known for working 80+ hours weekly). When that math adds up, Bill Gates has approximately 720,000 extra hours a day. So the saying here should be, “you have as many hours as the people who are just like you; to get as many hours as Bill Gates, start employing people and buying their time.”

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3. “Entrepreneurship means being your own boss.”

It’s a statement that should be taken with lots of salt if your main reason for going the entrepreneur route is to become your own boss. Maybe you won’t have someone micro managing you or someone to report to when you clock in and before clocking out, but try having your customer as a direct boss. You set up your calendar according to their schedule, and you want to make sure they’re happy. Even when you were holding down a job, the customer was number one priority but an unhappy customer didn’t threaten your job as much as it would if it were your company.

4. “Good things come to those who wait.”

“Yeah Molly, so I was just like sitting and waiting and it all just happened. Hey, everything I’ve ever wanted, like, it just like, fell on my lap.” Patience is good; it is a great virtue, but good things come to those who go out there, take action and make things happen and have never waited for anyone to give them the go ahead on their dreams and goals.

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5. “Fail your way to success.”

*Disclaimer: failure is sometimes the best thing that can happen to someone. I must admit that this was a tough one to put in. It holds a lot of weight, and it’s true to an extent. I do not believe failure is a rite of passage to becoming successful. Yes, it’s important when it happens, and you MUST make certain you learn everything that lesson has to teach. It can also become an excuse for people to not plan, and then execute poorly. The Internet is packed with information on just about anything, so failure can be mitigated and more manageable. There’s nothing new under the sun, so if you follow and take guidance from people who’ve walked that road, your chances for success should outweigh the possibilities of failure.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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