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5 Myths so Good That They’ve Been Embraced as Truths

5 Myths so Good That They’ve Been Embraced as Truths

For the past couple of years, rumors have been flying around that this economy is so tough, that the recession has hit so hard, and it’s just getting worse—oh Gosh Molly, it’s so bad. In fact, it’s so bad that people are using their last pennies to buy tickets to Miley Cyrus concerts (FYI those sold out). Geez, yeah, we’ve never seen such bad times. The world was flat, until it wasn’t.

I respect experts and I love conducting thorough research just so I can feel that much more confident about what I “know.” Sometimes after a while, your own birth-given intelligence kicks in and you wonder, “Wait a minute…” Not everything is meant to be questioned, but below are some well-known facts, where, at second glance, are not all that factual.

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1. “If you keep doing what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.”

Nothing has ever been further from the truth. Think back to RIM’s BlackBerry: they came out as one of the most powerful companies and they did what they did and got 55.3% smart phone market share, they kept doing what they did and that number dropped significantly to about 0.6%. Kodak kept doing what they were doing and filed for bankruptcy. Dinosaurs kept on keeping on and became extinct. You get the picture.

2. “You have as many hours as [insert name of very successful and powerful business man].”

Actually you don’t. Maybe when they were plain and ordinary like you, but think of Bill Gates, founder of Microsoft: he has over 90,000 employees. Multiply that by, let’s say they work a normal 9–5 job, so that’s roughly 8 hours (lets exclude workaholics who work weekends and fortune 500 executives who are known for working 80+ hours weekly). When that math adds up, Bill Gates has approximately 720,000 extra hours a day. So the saying here should be, “you have as many hours as the people who are just like you; to get as many hours as Bill Gates, start employing people and buying their time.”

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3. “Entrepreneurship means being your own boss.”

It’s a statement that should be taken with lots of salt if your main reason for going the entrepreneur route is to become your own boss. Maybe you won’t have someone micro managing you or someone to report to when you clock in and before clocking out, but try having your customer as a direct boss. You set up your calendar according to their schedule, and you want to make sure they’re happy. Even when you were holding down a job, the customer was number one priority but an unhappy customer didn’t threaten your job as much as it would if it were your company.

4. “Good things come to those who wait.”

“Yeah Molly, so I was just like sitting and waiting and it all just happened. Hey, everything I’ve ever wanted, like, it just like, fell on my lap.” Patience is good; it is a great virtue, but good things come to those who go out there, take action and make things happen and have never waited for anyone to give them the go ahead on their dreams and goals.

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5. “Fail your way to success.”

*Disclaimer: failure is sometimes the best thing that can happen to someone. I must admit that this was a tough one to put in. It holds a lot of weight, and it’s true to an extent. I do not believe failure is a rite of passage to becoming successful. Yes, it’s important when it happens, and you MUST make certain you learn everything that lesson has to teach. It can also become an excuse for people to not plan, and then execute poorly. The Internet is packed with information on just about anything, so failure can be mitigated and more manageable. There’s nothing new under the sun, so if you follow and take guidance from people who’ve walked that road, your chances for success should outweigh the possibilities of failure.

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Last Updated on September 17, 2018

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

Relationships are complicated and when you’re unhappy, it can be difficult to tell what’s causing it and what needs to change.

Sometimes it’s as easy as opening up to your partner about your problems, while other times it may be necessary to switch partners or roll solo to get your mind straight.

When you’re in the thick of things, it can be difficult to tell if you’re unhappy in your relationship or just unhappy in general (in which case, a relationship may be just the cure you need).

Here’re signs of an unhappy relationship that is possibly making you feel stuck:

1. You’re depressed about your home life.

No matter what you do in life, you’re going to have good and bad days. Your relationship is no different.

However, no matter what you’re going through at home, you have to feel comfortable in your own home.

If you constantly dread going home because your significant other is there, there’s a problem. Maybe it’s something you already know about, everyone has an argument or just needs some alone time.

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When that yearning to be alone becomes an insatiable obsession over the course of months and years, it’s time to realize you’re not the exception to the rule.

You’re unhappy in your relationship, and you need to take a look in the mirror and do whatever it takes to make yourself smile.

2. You aren’t comfortable being yourself.

Remember all those things you discovered about yourself when you first got together? The way your partner made you feel when you met that made you fall in love with him or her in the first place.

If they don’t make you feel that way anymore, it’s not the end of the world. If your partner makes you uncomfortable about being you, then her or she is only dragging you down. It’s up to you to decide how to handle that.

You need to be comfortable with who you are. This means being comfortable in your skin and with the way you walk, talk, look, breath, move, and all the other things that make you uniquely you.

If the person who supposedly loves you doesn’t make you feel good about yourself, know that you can do better. They’re not even one in a billion.

3. You can’t stop snooping.

Mutual trust is necessary in any relationship. The only way to get that trust is with respect.

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I can find you anywhere online, no matter how private and secure you think you are. The odds of you having a password I can’t crack are slim. If we’ve met in person, I could install a remote key logger on your device without even touching it.

Finding your information online hardly takes a clandestine organization. Any idiot with a Wi-Fi-enabled device can cyberstalk you. I’m just the only idiot in the village admitting it.

So now that we know everyone snoops, it’s time to address your personal habits. Governments snoop because they don’t trust us. If you’re snooping on your partner, it’s because you don’t trust them.

It’s ok to have doubts, and it’s perfectly normal to look into anything that looks weird, but keep in mind that data collection is only half of an investigation.

If you find yourself constantly snooping and questioning everything, clearly there’s a trust issue and the relationship likely needs to end.

4. You’re afraid of commitment.

If you’ve been dating longer than a year and you aren’t engaged, it’s never going to happen.

Commitment is important. People will come up with a million ways to describe why they can’t be committed.

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No matter who you are if you like it, you need to put a ring on it. Find an engagement ring, stick a gemstone in it and marry the person. If you’re not legally able to get married or you don’t believe in it for one reason or another, have a child (or adopt one, however you’re able to) or treat your partner’s family like your own. It’s a huge financial and mental commitment.

If you’re not ready for one or the other after some time, don’t waste anymore of your precious life on the relationship.

Your relationship should be something that propels you forward. If it’s not going anywhere, make it an open relationship and call it what it is—dating multiple people.

5. You imagine a happier life without your partner.

If all you’re doing is imagining a happier life without your partner, it’s a sign that you’re in the wrong relationship. You’re unhappy and you need to get out.

Your partner should be included in your dreams. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a future with someone.

Try to remember what you dreamed of before you got your heart broken by the realities of life, love and the pursuit of human success.

Remember when you would crush on that cute kid in class? You would secretly imagine marrying him or her and going on an adventure—that’s the way life should be.

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If you’re not at least imagining adventures together, then why are you in that relationship?

6. You resent, rather than love your partner.

When a relationship starts to crumble, you begin to resent your partner for all the things you once loved about him or her.

When you’ve reached this point, your partner has reached at least No. 2 on this list. From your partner’s perspective, your unhappiness with them is picked up as bashing them for being who they are.

If you’re both unhappy in the relationship, it’s better if it ends as quickly and painlessly as possible.

7. You chase past feelings.

It’s okay to reminisce about the past, but if all you do is wish things were like they used to be, it’s a sign you’re not on the right path.

You’re unhappy and, at the very least, you need to have an open dialogue about it. This isn’t necessarily a sign that the relationship should end, but it definitely needs a spark.

When you talk to your partner candidly about what it is you’re looking for, you never know how they’ll react. The risk alone is worth it, good or bad.

Final thoughts

If you’re feeling stuck in your current relationship, it’s time to reflect about it with your partner. Don’t ignore these signs of an unhappy relationship as they will slowly go worse and harm both you and your partner in long-term.

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