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5 Common Mistakes of People in Their 20s

5 Common Mistakes of People in Their 20s

You’re in your 20s and you feel like you have all the time and energy to do whatever you want – from partying ’til dawn with your friends down to eating whatever you like. But the 20s are just like any other life stage; they pass by and before you knew it, they are gone. Don’t let them pass by and leave you with regrets. Learn from these common mistakes people in their 20s make:

1. Staying in an unhealthy relationship

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    Your 20s will play an important role in shaping who you are. It is the stage that you get to know better what you want for yourself and from a partner. If the relationship is not making both of you into a better person, then maybe you should take a step back and ask yourself if it’s still worth it. Some people in their 20s make the common mistake of staying in an unhealthy relationship just because they’ve been with the person for so long. Keep in mind that it’s not the length of a relationship that counts most but the quality of your relationship.

    2. Spending money carelessly

    Buying whatever you want and eating out almost everyday may make you feel good at the moment but it will make you poor in the long run. Even if you have a salary that’s more than enough for your living expenses, you still won’t be able to make progress in your financial goals if you constantly spend more than what you earn. Remember that your financial choices today will make an impact on your future so choose where to spend your money on. Make sure that you spend them on things that will move you forward towards your financial goals.

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    3. Sticking to a dead-end job

      With piles of student debt, you find it insane just to consider quitting your job. But have you also thought of the time and energy you’re wasting on a job that doesn’t suit your skills, strengths, and interests? If you haven’t figured out yet what your dream job is, then use this stage to find out what it is.

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      Start creating a list of career ideas that you think will suit your strengths and interests then get your feet wet. Ask people who are in these industries about the job and what needs to be done to take you there. These steps may not instantly take you to your dream job but it helps build the bridge to get you there.

      4. Giving up dreams for fear of failure

      Fear is a powerful emotion. You feel it especially if you’re chasing something that’s bigger than yourself. But don’t let it stop you. Whether you dream of traveling the world or starting your own business, don’t let the fear of failure keep you from taking action. There will always be mistakes and failure will be inevitable but giving it a try won’t do you harm. The most successful people have too felt the fear but what sets them apart from the rest is that they took action anyway.

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      5. Giving in to naysayers

        In your journey towards your dreams, there will be people who will doubt your capacity and question your dreams. Don’t give in to their negativity and don’t argue with them. Just let them say what they have to say and do your own thing. Sometimes you need these kind of people to help you evaluate how badly you want your dream to happen. If you really want it that bad, then you will still pursue it even if no one believes you.
        You won’t get into this life stage again. Make the most of it and make sure that it’s always worth looking back at.

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        Last Updated on November 15, 2018

        Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

        Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

        What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

        As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

        The Success Mindset

        Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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        The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

        The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

        The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

        How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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        How To Create a Success Mindset

        People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

        1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

        How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

        A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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        There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

        2. Look For The Successes

        It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

        3. Eliminate Negativity

        You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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        When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

        4. Create a Vision

        Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

        If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

        An Inspirational Story…

        For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

        What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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