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5 Common Mistakes of People in Their 20s

5 Common Mistakes of People in Their 20s

You’re in your 20s and you feel like you have all the time and energy to do whatever you want – from partying ’til dawn with your friends down to eating whatever you like. But the 20s are just like any other life stage; they pass by and before you knew it, they are gone. Don’t let them pass by and leave you with regrets. Learn from these common mistakes people in their 20s make:

1. Staying in an unhealthy relationship

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    Your 20s will play an important role in shaping who you are. It is the stage that you get to know better what you want for yourself and from a partner. If the relationship is not making both of you into a better person, then maybe you should take a step back and ask yourself if it’s still worth it. Some people in their 20s make the common mistake of staying in an unhealthy relationship just because they’ve been with the person for so long. Keep in mind that it’s not the length of a relationship that counts most but the quality of your relationship.

    2. Spending money carelessly

    Buying whatever you want and eating out almost everyday may make you feel good at the moment but it will make you poor in the long run. Even if you have a salary that’s more than enough for your living expenses, you still won’t be able to make progress in your financial goals if you constantly spend more than what you earn. Remember that your financial choices today will make an impact on your future so choose where to spend your money on. Make sure that you spend them on things that will move you forward towards your financial goals.

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    3. Sticking to a dead-end job

      With piles of student debt, you find it insane just to consider quitting your job. But have you also thought of the time and energy you’re wasting on a job that doesn’t suit your skills, strengths, and interests? If you haven’t figured out yet what your dream job is, then use this stage to find out what it is.

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      Start creating a list of career ideas that you think will suit your strengths and interests then get your feet wet. Ask people who are in these industries about the job and what needs to be done to take you there. These steps may not instantly take you to your dream job but it helps build the bridge to get you there.

      4. Giving up dreams for fear of failure

      Fear is a powerful emotion. You feel it especially if you’re chasing something that’s bigger than yourself. But don’t let it stop you. Whether you dream of traveling the world or starting your own business, don’t let the fear of failure keep you from taking action. There will always be mistakes and failure will be inevitable but giving it a try won’t do you harm. The most successful people have too felt the fear but what sets them apart from the rest is that they took action anyway.

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      5. Giving in to naysayers

        In your journey towards your dreams, there will be people who will doubt your capacity and question your dreams. Don’t give in to their negativity and don’t argue with them. Just let them say what they have to say and do your own thing. Sometimes you need these kind of people to help you evaluate how badly you want your dream to happen. If you really want it that bad, then you will still pursue it even if no one believes you.
        You won’t get into this life stage again. Make the most of it and make sure that it’s always worth looking back at.

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        Last Updated on September 12, 2019

        12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

        12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

        Even the most charismatic people you know, whether in person or celebrities of some sort, experience days where they feel lost in life and isolated from everyone else.

        While it’s good to know we aren’t alone in this feeling, the question still remains:

        What should we do when we feel lost and lonely?

        Here are 12 things to remember:

        1. Recognize That It’s Okay!

        The truth is, there are times you need to be alone. If you’ve always been accustomed to being in contact with people, this may prove difficult.

        However, learning how to be alone and comfortable in your own skin will give you confidence and a sense of self reliance.

        We cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to become self reliant when we look for constant companionship.

        Learn how to embrace your me time: What Your Fear of Being Alone Is Really About and How to Get over It

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        2. Use Your Lost and Loneliness as a Self-Directing Guide

        You’ve most likely heard the expression: “You have to know where you’ve been to know where you’re going.”

        Loneliness also serves as a life signal to indicate you’re in search of something. It’s when we’re in the midst of solitude that answers come from true soul searching.

        Remember, there is more to life than what you’re feeling.

        3. Realize Loneliness Helps You Face the Truth

        Being in the constant company of others, although comforting sometimes, can often serve as a distraction when we need to face the reality of a situation.

        Solitude cuts straight to the chase and forces you to deal with the problem at hand. See it as a blessing that can serve as a catalyst to set things right!

        4. Be Aware That You Have More Control Than You Think

        Typically, when we see ourselves as being lost or lonely, it gives us an excuse to view everything we come in contact with in a negative light. It lends itself to putting ourselves in the victim mode, when the truth of the matter is that you choose your attitude in every situation.

        No one can force a feeling upon you! It is YOU who has the ultimate say as to how you choose to react.

        5. Embrace the Freedom That the Feeling of Being Alone Can Offer

        Instead of wallowing in self pity, which many are prone to do because of loneliness, try looking at your circumstance as a new-found freedom.

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        Most people are in constant need of approval of their viewpoints. Try enjoying the fact that  you don’t need everyone you care about to support your decisions.

        6. Acknowledge the Person You Are Now

        Perhaps you feel a sense of loneliness and confusion because your life circumstances have taken you away from the persona that others know to be you.

        Perhaps the new you differs radically from the old. Realize that life is about change and how we react to that change. It’s okay that you’re not who you used to be.

        Take a look at this article and learn to accept your imperfect self: Accept Yourself (Flaws and All): 7 Benefits of Being Vulnerable

        7. Keep Striving to Do Your Best

        Often those who are feeling isolated and unto themselves will develop a defeatist attitude. They’ll do substandard work because their self esteem is low and they don’t care.

        Never let this feeling take away your sense of worth! Do your best always and when you come through this dark time, others will admire how you stayed determined in spite of the obstacles you had to overcome.

        And to live your best life, you must do this ONE thing: step out of your comfort zone.

        8. Don’t Forget That Time Is Precious

        When we’re lost in a sea of loneliness and depression, it’s all too easy to reflect on regrets of past life events. This does nothing but feed negativity and perpetuate the situation.

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        Instead of falling prey to this common pitfall, put one foot in front of the other and acknowledge every positive step you take. By doing this, you can celebrate the struggles you overcome at the end of the day.

        9. Remember, Things Happen for a Reason

        Every circumstance we encounter in our life is designed to teach us and that lesson is in turn passed on to others.

        Sometimes we’re fortunate enough to figure out the lesson to be learned, while other times, we simply need to have faith that if the lesson wasn’t meant directly for us to learn from, how we handled it was observed by someone who needed to learn.

        Your solitude and feeling of lost, in this instance, although painful possibly, may be teaching someone else.

        10. Journal During This Time

        Record your thoughts when you’re at the height of loneliness and feeling lost. You’ll be amazed when you reflect back at how you viewed things at the time and how far you’ve come later.

        This time (if recorded) can give you a keen insight into who you are and what makes you feel the way you feel.

        11. Remember You Aren’t the First to Feel This Way

        It’s quite common to feel as if we’re alone and no one else has ever felt this way before. We think this because at the time of our distress, we’re silently observing others around us who are seemingly fine in every way.

        The truth is, we can’t possibly know the struggles of those around us unless they elect to share them. We ALL have known this pain!

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        Try confiding in someone you trust and ask them how they deal with these feelings when they experienced it. You may be surprised at what you learn.

        12. Ask for Help If the Problem Persists

        The feeling of being lost and lonely is common to everyone, but typically it will last for a relatively short period of time.

        Most people will confess to, at one time or another, being in a “funk.” But if the problem persists longer than you feel it should, don’t ignore it.

        When your ability to reason and consider things rationally becomes impaired, do not poo poo the problem away and think it isn’t worthy of attention. Seek medical help.

        Afraid to ask for help? Here’s how to change your outlook to aim high!

        Final Thoughts

        Loneliness and a sense of feeling lost can in many ways be extremely painful and difficult to deal with at best. However, these feelings can also serve as a catalyst for change in our lives if we acknowledge them and act.

        Above anything, cherish your mental well being and don’t underestimate its worth. Seek professional guidance if you’re unable to distinguish between a sense of freedom for yourself and a sense of despair.

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