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31 Life Lessons We Can Learn From Robin Williams’ Movies

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31 Life Lessons We Can Learn From Robin Williams’ Movies

Robin Williams lived out loud as a messenger. Robin’s movies are filled with life lessons and profound wisdom. They made our hearts skip a few beats. They made us think. And even though he was just an actor playing his part, each one of us felt as if he was speaking directly to us when he delivered his lines. His words came from the depths of his soul, jumped out of the screen and went straight into our souls. His roles were unforgettable like memories from a family scrapbook. Although he was here on this planet for too short a time, he was here to teach us. Why was he so powerful making us cry from laughing so hard or crying so hard? Maybe it’s because we knew that he wasn’t acting at all.

1. Popeye

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    “Even though you’re bigger than me, you can’t win, ’cause you’re bad, and the good always wins over the bad.” Lesson: Believe in goodness. It can conquer over anything.

    2. The World According to Garp

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      Remember, Helen.

      What, my love?

      Everything.

      Lesson: Too often, you focus only on the bad and forget the good times. Remember everything.

      3. Moscow on the Hudson

       

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        “This is a free country, welcome to almost anyone. Yes, in America almost anything is possible.

        ” Lesson: Appreciate your freedom.

        4. Awakenings

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          “What we do know is that, as the chemical window closed, another awakening took place; that the human spirit is more powerful than any drug – and THAT is what needs to be nourished: with work, play, friendship, family. THESE are the things that matter. This is what we’d forgotten – the simplest things.

          Lesson: The human spirit should not be forgotten. Simple things matter the most.

          5. Good Morning Vietnam

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            Good Morning Vietnam: Goooooood morning, Vietnam! Hey, this is not a test. This is rock and roll. Time to rock it from the delta to the DMZ.

            Lesson: In the midst of scariest times (even war); a positive attitude, humor, and sharing laughter can get you through the day.

            6. The Adventures of Baron Munchausan

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              “Because I’m tired of the world and the world is evidently tired of me. Why! Because it’s all logic and reason now. Science, progress, laws of hydraulics, laws of social dynamics, laws of this, that, and the other. No place for three-legged cyclops in the South Seas. No place for cucumber trees and oceans of wine. No place for me.”

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              Lesson: Everyone doesn’t fit into the same mold. You must find a place for your creativity to run free.

              7. Dead Poet’s Society (This entire movie is one huge life lesson.)

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                “They’re not that different from you, are they? Same haircuts. Full of hormones, just like you. Invincible, just like you feel. The world is their oyster. They believe they’re destined for great things, just like many of you, their eyes are full of hope, just like you…. Go on, lean in. Listen, you hear it? – – Carpe – – hear it? – – Carpe, carpe diem, seize the day boys, make your lives extraordinary.” And the human race is filled with passion… O me, O life?” Answer. That you are here – that life exists, and identity; that the powerful play goes on and you may contribute a verse. That the powerful play *goes on* and you may contribute a verse. What will your verse be?”

                Lesson: Every person has the potential for greatness. Be extraordinary. Make an impact on the world. Do something meaningful. Leave your mark.

                8. Good Will Hunting

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                  “But you’ve never looked at a woman and been totally vulnerable. Known someone that could level you with her eyes. Feelin’ like God put an angel on Earth just for you, who could rescue you from the depths of hell. —And you wouldn’t know what it’s like to be her angel, to have that love for her there forever. You don’t know about real loss, ’cause that only occurs when you love something more than you love yourself.

                  Lesson: True love is being vulnerable enough to love someone more than you love yourself. 

                  9. Dead Again

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                    “You take what you’ve learned from this life and use it in the next. That’s karma.”

                    Lesson: Learn from your mistakes. What you give out, comes back to you.

                    10. Aladdin

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                      “But oh, to be free. Not to have to go “Poof! What do you need, “Poof! What do you need?” To be my own master. Such a thing would be greater than all the magic and all the treasures in all the world.

                      Lesson: Freedom comes from living your truth. Be your own master.

                      11. The Fisher King

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                        One day a fool wandered into the castle and found the king alone. And being a simple-minded fool, he didn’t see a king. He only saw a man alone in pain. He asked the king, “What ails you friend?” The king replied, “I’m thirsty. I need some water to cool my throat”. So the fool took a cup from beside his bed, filled it with water and handed it to the king. As the king began to drink, he realized his wound was healed. He looked in his hands and there was the Holy Grail which he sought all of his life. And he turned to the fool and said with amazement, “How can you find that which my brightest and bravest could not?” The fool replied, “I don’t know. I only knew that you were thirsty.”

                        Lesson: See a person as another human being without judgment. Do not treat people according to their job or role in life.

                        12. Hook

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                          Granny Wendy: So… your adventures are over. Peter: Oh, no. To live… to live would be an awfully big adventure.

                          Lesson: Life is an adventure. Live it to the fullest.

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                          13. Toys

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                            In the words of Mahatma Gandhi: “We are toys of tolerance, but there’s only so much that a toy can tolerate.”

                            Lesson: Accept that life becomes intolerable sometimes but continue to push through it.

                            14. Mrs. Doubtfire

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                              There are all sorts of different families, Katie. But if there’s love, dear… those are the ties that bind, and you’ll have a family in your heart, forever. All my love to you, poppet, you’re going to be all right… bye-bye.

                              Lesson: No matter what type of family you come from as long as there is love, everything will eventually turn out alright.

                              15. Being Human

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                                There’s never enough time. No time to stop and think, “What have I learned?” Try to stay in control. It’s not as easy as it sounds. Is this the same for everyone? Are we all doing this to one another? This bickering and mocking? Can it be better than this? We’re all in it together, making the same mistakes, getting into the same jams, having lousy Fridays over and over and over and over and over…

                                Lesson: Everyone is struggling to get through life. Become compassionate. Stop fighting and start learning how to make life better.

                                16. Jumanji

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                                  “Twenty-six years buried in the deepest darkest jungle, and I still became my father.”

                                  Lesson: Free yourself from the pain of your past or you may become a person you don’t want to be.

                                  17. The Birdcage

                                   

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                                    “Yes, I wear foundation. Yes, I live with a man. Yes, I’m a middle-aged fag. But I know who I am, Val. It took me twenty years to get here, and I’m not gonna let some idiot senator destroy that.”

                                    Lesson: Be yourself and don’t let anyone take that from you.

                                    18. Jack

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                                      “Have you ever seen a shooting star, Jack? It’s wonderful. It passes quickly, but while it’s here it just lights up the whole sky – it’s the most beautiful thing you’d ever want to see. So beautiful that the other stars stop and watch. You almost never see one. Because they’re very rare. But I saw one. I did. Jack: I just want to be a regular star. Lawrence: Jack, you’ll never be regular. You’re spectacular. Jack: What do I want to be when I grow up? Alive.”

                                      Lesson: Light up the sky. Be your spectacular self. Live your life to the fullest.

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                                      19. Father’s Day

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                                        “For years I’ve thought about killing myself. It’s the only thing that kept me going.”

                                        Lesson:  Sometimes you become attached to your sadness, that it becomes all you think about.

                                        20. Deconstructing Harry

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                                          “All people know the same truth. Our lives consist of how we choose to distort it.”

                                          Lesson: You have the power to choose your perspective.

                                          21. What Dreams May Come

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                                            “That’s when I realized I’m part of the problem. Not because I remind you. But because I couldn’t join you. So I left you alone. Don’t give up, okay?”

                                            Lesson: It’s easy to become part of someone else’s problems, fearing that if you leave them, they might give up.

                                            22. Patch Adams

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                                              “You treat a disease, you win, you lose. You treat a person, I guarantee you, you’ll win, no matter what the outcome 

                                              Lesson: If you treat a person as a human being and not focus on their problems, flaws, burdens, or illness, even if things don’t turn out great, you made an impact on someone else’s soul.

                                              23. Jakob the Liar

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                                                “Hunger for hope may be worse than hunger for food.”

                                                Lesson: There is nothing worse than living without hope.

                                                24. Bicentennial Man

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                                                  “I try to make sense of things. Which is why, I guess, I believe in destiny. There must be a reason that I am as I am. There must be.”

                                                  Lesson: Every person has a purpose. Find yours.

                                                  25. A.I.

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                                                    “Come away O human child / To the waters and the wild / With a fairy hand in hand / For the world’s more full of weeping / Than you can understand.”

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                                                    Lesson: Don’t be afraid to experience all of life. Lessons, clarity and understanding come from pain.

                                                    26. One Hour Photo

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                                                      “The shutter is clicked. The flash goes off and they’ve stopped time, as if just for the blink of an eye.” Lesson: Memories stop the clock. In a split second, moments last a lifetime.

                                                      27. Insomnia

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                                                        “You’re a good man. I know that. Even if you’ve forgotten it.”

                                                        Lesson: Other people can see the good that you can not see in yourself.

                                                        28. Night at the Museum

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                                                          “Some men are born great; others have greatness thrust upon them.”

                                                          Lesson: Some people are born with special talents, gifts, and abilities. Even if you are not born with greatness, great things can happen to you.

                                                          29. Death to Smoochy

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                                                            Friends come in all sizes/ One might say grasp while the other says snatch/Size doesn’t matter/ When you want some friendly patter/ From a pal who is true/ And will lift you up when you’re blue/ You can count on him/ He can count on you/ It’s true/Friends come in all sizes!/Yes, they do!

                                                            Lesson: A true friend is someone you can count on. Nothing else matters.

                                                            30. August Rush

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                                                              “What do you want to be in the world? I mean the whole world. What do you want to be? Close your eyes and think about that.”

                                                              Lesson: What do you want to be? Think about that. Become it.

                                                              31. World’s Greatest Dad

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                                                                “I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone. It’s not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people that make you feel all alone.”

                                                                Lesson: Reach deeper into someone’s soul. Connect with them. Let them feel your presence. Tell them you love them and show them how much you care.

                                                                Not only were there profound lessons in his roles but ironically, they were all too prophetic. Robin Williams left us with messages, memories, and movies that will live on. He will be there for us whenever we feel dark and alone. All we have to do is just turn on movie and listen to the lessons he wanted us to learn.

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                                                                How to Deal With Anger (The Ultimate Anger Management Guide)

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                                                                How to Deal With Anger (The Ultimate Anger Management Guide)

                                                                We all lose our temper from time to time, and expressing anger is actually a healthy thing to do in our relationships with others. Expressing our differences in opinion allows us to have healthy conflict and many times come to an agreement or understanding that works for everyone. However, there are times when anger can become overwhelming or damaging, and during these times, it’s important to learn how to deal with anger.

                                                                Expressing anger inappropriately can be harmful to relationships, both personal and professional. You may express too much anger, too often, or at times that are only going to make things worse, not better. In this article we will look at anger management techniques that will help you better control your emotions.

                                                                Let’s take a deeper look at how to deal with anger.

                                                                Expressing Anger

                                                                Anger is a natural and normal part of almost any relationship. This includes relationships with your significant other, kids, boss, friends, family, etc. Anger provides us with valuable information if we are willing to listen to it. It clues us in to areas where we disagree with others and things that need to be changed or altered.

                                                                Unhealthy Ways to Express Anger

                                                                Here are some common yet unhealthy ways to express anger that you should avoid:

                                                                Being Passive-Aggressive

                                                                This is a term many of us are familiar with. Passive-aggressive behavior happens when someone is angry but uses indirect communication to express their anger.

                                                                Some of the more common passive-aggressive behaviors include the silent treatment, making comments about someone behind their back, being grumpy, moody, or pouting, or simply not doing tasks or assignments that they should.

                                                                This is a passive-aggressive person’s way of showing their anger. It’s not very productive but extremely common.

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                                                                Poorly-Timed

                                                                Some people get overwhelmed and express anger in a situation where it can’t really do any good.

                                                                An example would be getting angry at one person in front of a crowd of people. All that does is make people uncomfortable and shuts them down. It’s not a healthy way to express anger or disagreement with someone.

                                                                Ongoing Anger

                                                                Being angry all the time is most often a symptom of something else. It’s healthy and normal to express anger when you disagree with someone. However, if someone is angry most of the time and always seems to be expressing their anger to everyone around them, this won’t serve them well.

                                                                Over time, people will start to avoid this person and have as little contact as possible. The reason being is no one likes being around someone who is angry all the time; it’s a no-win situation.

                                                                Healthy Ways to Express Anger

                                                                What about the healthy ways[1] to adapt? When learning how to deal with anger, here are some healthy ways to get you started.

                                                                Being Honest

                                                                Express your anger or disagreement honestly. Be truthful about what it is that is making you angry. Sometimes this will entail walking away and thinking about it for a bit before you respond.

                                                                Don’t say you’re mad at something someone did or said when it’s really something else that upset you.

                                                                Being Direct

                                                                Similar to being honest, being direct is a healthy way to express anger.

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                                                                Don’t talk around something that is making you angry. Don’t say that one thing is making you angry when it’s really something else, and don’t stack items on top of each other so you can unload on someone about 10 different things 6 months from now.

                                                                Be direct and upfront about what is making you angry. Ensure you are expressing your anger to the person who upset you or you are angry at, not to someone else. This is very counterproductive.

                                                                Being Timely

                                                                When something makes you angry, it’s much better to express it in a timely manner. Don’t keep it bottled up inside of you, as that’s only going to do more harm than good.

                                                                Think of the marriages that seem to go up in flames out of nowhere when the reality is someone kept quiet for years until they hit their breaking point.

                                                                Expressing anger as it occurs is a much healthier way of using anger to help us guide our relationships in the moment.

                                                                How to Deal With Anger

                                                                If you feel angry, how should you deal with it right at that moment?

                                                                1. Slow Down

                                                                From time to time, I receive an email at work that makes me so angry that steam is probably pouring out of my ears.

                                                                In my less restrained moments, I have been known to fire off a quick response, and that typically has ended about as well as you might imagine.

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                                                                When I actually walk away from my computer and go do something else for a while, I am able to calm down and think more rationally. After that happens, I am able to respond in a more appropriate and productive manner. Doing things that helps you learn how to release anger can make an uncomfortable situation more manageable before it gets out of hand.

                                                                2. Focus on the “I”

                                                                Remember that you are the one that’s upset. Don’t accuse people of making you upset because, in the end, it’s your response to what someone did that really triggered your anger. You don’t want to place blame by saying something like “Why don’t you ever put away your dishes?” Say something more like “Having dirty dishes laying on the counter upsets me—can you work with me to come to a solution?”

                                                                When you are accusatory towards someone, all that does is increase the tension. This doesn’t usually do anything except make your anger rise higher.

                                                                3. Work out

                                                                When learning how to deal with anger, exercise is a great outlet. If something happens that angers you, see if you have the opportunity to burn off some of the anger.

                                                                Being able to hit the gym to get a hard workout in is great. If this isn’t an option, see if you can go for a run or a bike ride. If you are at work when you become angry and the weather permits, at least go outside for a brisk walk.

                                                                Besides working some of your anger out through exercise, this also helps to give your mind a chance to work through some ways to address what it is that upset you.

                                                                4. Seek Help When Needed

                                                                There are times when we could all use some help. Life can be stressful and overwhelming. It’s perfectly fine to seek some help from a mental health professional if it will help you get back to a healthy balance.If you find that you are angry all the time, it might be a good idea to go talk to an expert about learning to control intense emotions. They can give you some sound advice and ideas on how to get your anger to a more manageable and healthy level.

                                                                5. Practice Relaxation

                                                                We all seem to lead incredibly busy lives, and that’s a good thing if we are loving the life we are living. That being said, it is very beneficial to our physical and mental well-being to take time out for relaxation.

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                                                                That can mean spending time doing things that help us calm down and relax, like being around people we enjoy, practicing deep breathing or listening to music. It could be making time for things that help bring us balance like a healthy diet and physical activity.

                                                                Many people incorporate techniques such as yoga and meditation to calm their minds and release tension when learning how to deal with anger. Whatever your choice is, ensure you take time out to relax when warning signs of anger start to bubble up.

                                                                6. Laugh

                                                                Incorporating humor and laughter on a regular basis will help keep anger in check and help you get over a bad mood and feelings of anger more quickly. This isn’t part of formal anger management techniques, but you’ll be surprised by how well it works. Remember, life is a journey that’s meant to be enjoyed fully along the way through healthy emotion. Make sure you take time to laugh and have fun.Surround yourself with people that like to laugh and enjoy life. Don’t work at a job that just causes you stress, which can lead to anger. Work at something you enjoy doing.

                                                                7. Be Grateful

                                                                It’s easy to focus on the bad in life and the things that cause us negative emotions. It’s vitally important to remind ourselves of all the wonderful things in life that bring us positive emotions, things that we easily forget because we get caught up in the whirlwind of day to day life.

                                                                Take time out each day to remind yourself of a few things you are grateful for in order to help you learn how to release anger and invite in more positive feelings.

                                                                Final Thoughts

                                                                Life can be overwhelming at times. We seem to have constant pressure to achieve more and to always be on the go or motivated. People we are around and situations we are in can cause stress, anger, and negative emotions. At times, it can seem to be too much, and we get angry and our emotions start to get out of control.

                                                                During these times, keep in mind that life is an incredible journey, full of wonder and things that bring you joy. When you find yourself angry more often than is healthy, take time out to remember the good things in life—the things that we seem to forget yet bring us so much positive energy and emotions.

                                                                Use some of the tips included here to help with how to deal with anger and better control your emotions.

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