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30 Reasons Why Some People Always Impress You

30 Reasons Why Some People Always Impress You

What makes someone stand out may vary from person to person. But some people have traits that are undeniable magnetic. They always seem to easily impress you. And if you think about what makes another person stand out in your mind, it’s usually a combination of personality and individuality.

You can’t help but be impressed because there’s something about them that just seems different and real. Until there’s a way to bottle up that “wow factor,” here’s a look at the things some people do that always seem to make a great impression on us.

1. They are genuine

Sometimes it seems like everyone around has a hidden agenda. It’s nice to meet someone who asks how you are doing and actually cares to know the answer. If you take the time to show interest in someone else, it does wonders in making them want to know more about you.

2. They are morning people

Early risers get more accomplished in the first few hours of the day than some people do all day. It’s easy to become best friends with the snooze button, so it says a lot about someone who chooses to be productive and make the most of each day.

3. They are likable

One of the most important characteristics to have is likability. Even if you don’t have much in common, when someone is likable you are instantly drawn to their personality. Being likable makes people feel that they can be comfortable around you because you’re so easy to get along with.

4. They are confident

You can always tell someone is confident by how they enter a room or look directly in your eyes when being introduced. Confidence shows that you are comfortable in your own skin.

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5. They don’t have to be the center of attention

Truth be told, you don’t you have to be the loudest or biggest personality in the room to make an impression. Sometimes it’s the ability to play the background and just be yourself that captures the most eyes.

6. They remember your name

You can’t help but to be impressed with someone who takes the time to remember your name. Sometimes it’s such an easy copout to say, “oh, my memory is bad” or “I meet so many people.” When you take the time to remember a name, it shows that you connected with them as well.

7.  They are nice to strangers

It’s easy to say and do all the right things when you know someone. But it’s actually impressive when someone can also be nice to people they don’t even know.

8. They say “I’m sorry”

It takes a lot to admit that you made a mistake. Sometimes people try to make excuses or place the blame on others because it’s easier. The ability to apologize to another person or own up to a mistake displays a level of maturity that you can’t help but respect.

9. They avoid drama

Nowadays it almost seems cool to lose your cool. Reality TV and gossip news glorify drama and tantrums. But no one likes drama in real life. The ability to keep your cool is an admirable trait and shows that you are not all about negativity.

10. They are well-traveled

A person who travels a lot and usually shows a lot of diversity in tastes and knowledge. Being exposed to different cultures also shows that you are open-minded and well-rounded.

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11. They always have a positive attitude

It’s easy to tell others to be positive when all is well in your own life. But when a person is truly able to see the silver lining in their own tough situation, it shows that they practice what they preach.

12. They can play an instrument

Almost everyone took a music class at some point during school, but not as many can say they actually play an instrument. Being able to play an instrument shows a great level of disciple and creativity.

13. They do volunteer work

Time is so limited these days. You cannot help but be impressed by someone who chooses to volunteer their time towards a good cause. Using your talent to help others in need shows that you care about what’s going on around you and believe in giving back.

14. They are athletic

People who participate in sports show a great deal of passion and dedication. It’s impressive when someone takes the time to keep their body healthy and challenge their physical limits.

15. They are modest

Sometimes modesty is also the best policy. Someone may impress you because they genuinely don’t make a big deal out of something that you admire. These are the people who give without wanting credit or have a talent, but do not want to be the center of attention. It’s a positive trait when people do things from the heart and not solely for the praise.

16. They speak another language

The ability to speak multiple languages is always an impressive skill. You never know when it will come in handy and it shows a variety in the ability to communicate.

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17. They have a warm smile

There are times when it seems like everyone is walking around grumpy or always on the go. When a person smiles often, you can’t help but have a warm feeling and connect with them. It’s easy to stand out when you have a welcoming personality and always show up with a smile.

18. They give good hugs

It’s nice when someone instantly greets you with a big hug to go with a warm smile. Although everyone is not a hugger, it shows that you are a warm person who feels like a handshake isn’t always needed. Even the most guarded person can’t really be mad at a friendly hug given at just the right time.

19. They are an avid reader

The more a person reads, the more they tend to know a little of everything. People who read a lot are often able to start great conversations and there is plenty of room to discuss opinions and share your thoughts.

20. They dress well

You can tell a lot about a person by the way that they carry themselves. One of the first things you will notice about a person you meet is how they dress. Someone who carries themselves in a way that shows care and a glimpse into their personality will always stand out.

21. They are relatable

People often go by feelings and connection when interacting. When you find someone that you can relate to, you’re able to learn from them and exchange ideas. Being relatable is an easy way to impress someone because you show that you share a lot in common.

22. They are good communicators

Communication is an art, so it is a skill to be able to pull out the best in others. People who know how to carry on a conversation in a natural way makes others around them feel comfortable.

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23. They are good listeners

Sometimes it seems like good listening skills are becoming extinct. But there are people who take the time to listen and pay attention during conversations. It’s noticeable when someone actually takes in what you’re saying and doesn’t spend the time trying to think of their own stories. It’s therapeutic to be around someone who will soak in what you’re saying and care about your point of view.

24. They are the life of the party

There are some people who have such a positive energy that is so contagious, you always want them around. They bring life to the party with their ability to have fun and always have a good time no matter where they are.

25. They are patient

As the proverb goes, “patience is a virtue.” It’s easy to lose your patience with everyday stressors. A person who is able to take a step back and not get flustered understands that everything doesn’t always have to be a big rush.

26. They live in the moment

A person who is able to take in each moment truly enjoys life. Life can quickly pass you by if you keep aimlessly going through the motions. Someone who is able to enjoy every bite of a cupcake or sip of wine really appreciates the little joys of life.

27. They laugh a lot

Laughter is the best medicine. A good laugh can alleviate stress, lower blood pressure, and create a general sense of well-being. People who are able to laugh and keep a light attitude show the benefits of not stressing out. It also doesn’t hurt that laughter is contagious.

28. They love children

People who love children have a naturally youthful quality about them. They bring out the child in everyone around them and are able to see life through the eyes of children.

29. They are reliable

It’s easy to over commit yourself or get caught up in your own life. So people who are able to put aside what’s going on in their world and always be there when needed are considered valuable and irreplaceable.

30. They motivate you

Some people are good at making you feel like you can conquer the world. Someone who is able to encourage another person and offer help when needed shows that they are invested in the success and happiness of others.  

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What Does Self-Conscious Mean? (And How to Stop Being It)

What Does Self-Conscious Mean? (And How to Stop Being It)

Have you ever walked into a room and felt like your nerves simply couldn’t handle it? Your heart beats fast, you start to sweat, and you feel like all eyes are on you (even if they’re really not). This is just one of the many ways that being self-conscious can rear its ugly head.

You may not even realize you’re self-conscious, and you may be wondering, “What does self-conscious mean?” That’s a good place to start.

This article will define self-consciousness, show how practically everyone has faced it at one point or another, and give you tips to avoid it.

What Does Self-Conscious Mean?

According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, self-conscious is defined as “conscious of one’s own acts or states as belonging to or originating in oneself.”[1]

Not so bad, right? There’s another definition, though — one that speaks more to what you’re going through: “feeling uncomfortably conscious of oneself as an object of the observation of others.” For those of us who regularly deal with extreme self-consciousness, that second definition sounds about right.

There are many different ways self-consciousness can spring up. You may feel self-conscious around people you know, like your family members or closest friends. You may feel self-conscious at work, even though you spend hours every week around your co-workers. Or you may feel self-conscious when out in public and surrounded by strangers. However, you probably don’t feel self-conscious when you’re home alone.

How to Stop Being Too Self-Conscious

When you’re in the throes of self-consciousness, it’s nearly impossible to remember how to stop feeling that way. That’s why it’s so important to prepare ahead of time, when you’re feeling ready to tackle the problem instead of succumbing to it.

Here are a variety of ways to feel better about yourself and stop thinking about how others see you.

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1. Ask Yourself, “So What?”

One way to banish negative, self-conscious thoughts is to do just that: banish them.

The next time you walk into a room and feel your face getting red, think to yourself, “So what?” How much does it really matter if people don’t like how you look or act? What’s the worst that could happen?

Most of the time, you’ll find that you don’t have a good answer to this question. Then, you can immediately start assigning such thoughts less importance. With self-awareness, you can acknowledge that your negative thoughts are present and realize that you don’t agree with them.[2] They’re just thoughts, after all.

2. Be Honest

A lie that self-consciousness might tell is that there’s one way to act or feel. Honestly, though, everyone else is just figuring life out as well. There isn’t a preferred way to show up to an event, gathering, or public place. What you can do is be honest with your feelings and thoughts.[3]

If you feel offended by something someone says, you don’t have to smile to be polite or laugh to fit in with the crowd. Instead, you can politely say why you disagree or excuse yourself and find a group of people who you relate to better. If you’re nervous, don’t overcompensate by trying to look relaxed and casual — it’ll be obvious you’re putting on a front. Instead, nothing is more endearing than saying, “I’m a little nervous!” to a room of people who probably feel the exact same way.

On the same note, if you don’t understand why someone wants you to do something, question it. You can do this at work, at home, or even with people you don’t know well. Nobody should force you to do something you don’t want to do.

Also, even if you’re willing to do what’s asked of you, there’s nothing wrong with asking for more clarification. People will realize that you’re not a person to be bossed around.

3. Understand Why You’re Struggling at Work

Being self-conscious at work can get in the way of your daily responsibilities, your relationships with co-workers, and even your career as a whole. If you’re facing some sort of conflict but you’re too nervous to speak up, you may be at the whim of what happens to you instead of taking some control.

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If you’re usually confident at work, you may be wondering where this new self-consciousness is coming from. It’s possible that you’re dealing with burnout.[4] Common signs are anxiety, fatigue and distraction, all of which can leave you feeling under-confident.

4. Succeed at Something

When you create success in your life, it’s easier to feel confident[5] and less self-conscious. If you feel self-conscious at work, finish the project that’s been looming over your head. If you feel self-conscious in the gym, complete an advanced workout class.

Exposing yourself to what you’re scared of and then succeeding at it in some way (even just by finishing it) can do wonders for your self-esteem. The more confidence you build, the more likely you are to have more success in the future, which will create a cycle of confidence-building.

5. Treat All of You — Not Just Your Self-Consciousness

Trying to solve your self-consciousness alone may not treat the root of the problem. Instead, take a well-rounded approach to lower your self-consciousness and build confidence in areas where you may struggle.

Even professional counselors are embracing this holistic type of treatment[6] because they feel that the health of the mind and body are inextricably linked. This approach combines physical, spiritual, and psychological components. Common activities and treatments include meditation, yoga, massage, and healthy changes to diet and exercise.

If much of this is new to you, it will pay to give it a try. You never know how it will impact you.

If you’re feeling self-conscious about how your body looks, a massage that makes you feel great could boost your confidence. If you try a new workout, you could have something exciting to talk about the next time you’re in a group setting.

Putting yourself in a new situation and learning that you can get through it with grace can give you the confidence to get through all sorts of events and nerve-wracking moments.

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6. Make the Changes That Are Within Your Control

Let’s say you walk into a room and you’re self-conscious about how you look. However, you may have put a lot of time and effort into your outfit. Even though it may stand out, this is how you have chosen to express yourself.

You have to work on your internal confidence, not your external appearance. There’s nothing to change other than your outlook.

On the other hand, maybe there’s something that you don’t like about yourself that you can change. For example, maybe you hate how a birthmark on your face looks or have varicose veins that you think are unsightly. If you can do something about these things, do it! There’s nothing wrong with changing your appearance (or skills, education, etc.) if it’s going to make you more confident.

You don’t have to accept your current situation for acceptance’s sake. There’s no award for putting up with something you hate. Confidence is also required to make changes that are scary, even if they’re for the better. Plus, it may be an easier fix than you thought. For example, treating varicose veins doesn’t have to involve surgery — sometimes simple compression stockings will take care of the problem.[7]

7. Realize That Everyone Has Awkward Moments

Everyone has said something awkward to someone else and lived to tell the tale. We’ve all forgotten somebody’s name or said, “You too!” when the concession stand girl says to enjoy our movie. Not only are these things uber-common, but they’re not nearly as embarrassing as you feel they are.

Think about how you react when someone else does something awkward. Do you think, “Wow, that person’s such a loser!” or do you think, “What a relief, I’m not the only one who does that.” Chances are good that’s the same reaction others have to you when you stumble.

Remember, self-consciousness is a state of mind that you have control over. You don’t have to feel this way. Do what you need to in order to build your confidence, put your self-consciousness in perspective, and start exercising your “I feel awesome about myself” muscle. It’ll get easier with time.

When Is Being Self-Conscious a Good Thing?

Self-consciousness can sometimes be a good thing[8], but you have to take the awkwardness and nerves out of it.

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In this case, “self-aware” is a much better term. Knowing how you come off to people is an excellent trait; you’ll be able to read a room and understand how what you do and say affects others. These are fantastic skills for people work and personal relationships.

Self-awareness helps you dress appropriately for the occasion, tells you that you’re talking too loud or not loud enough, and guides a conversation so you don’t offend or bore anyone.

It’s not about being someone you’re not — that can actually have adverse effects, just like self-consciousness. Instead, it’s about turning up certain aspects of yourself to perform well in the situation.

Final Thoughts

When you’re self-conscious, you’re constantly battling with yourself in an effort to control how other people view you. You try to change yourself to suit what you think other people want to see.

The truth, though, is that you can’t actually control how other people view you — and you may not even be correct about how they view you in the first place.

Being confident doesn’t happen overnight. Instead, it happens in small steps as you slowly build your confidence and say “no” to your self-consciousness. It also requires accepting that you’re going to feel self-conscious sometimes, and that’s okay.

Sometimes worrying that there is a problem can be more stressful than the problem itself. Feeling bad for feeling self-conscious can be more troublesome than simply feeling it and getting on with the day.

Forgive yourself for being human and make the small changes that will lead to better confidence in the future.

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Reference

[1] Merriam-Webster: Self-conscious
[2] Bustle: 7 Tips On How To Stop Feeling Self-Conscious
[3] Marc and Angel: 10 Things to Remember When You Feel Unsure of Yourself
[4] Bostitch: How to Protect Small Businesses From Burnout
[5] Psychology Today: Self-conscious? Get Over It
[6] Wake Forest University: Embracing Holistic Medicine
[7] Center for Vein Restoration: What Causes Venous Ulcers, and How Are They Treated?
[8] Scientific American: The Pros and Cons of Being Self-Aware

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