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30 Reasons Why Some People Always Impress You

30 Reasons Why Some People Always Impress You
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What makes someone stand out may vary from person to person. But some people have traits that are undeniable magnetic. They always seem to easily impress you. And if you think about what makes another person stand out in your mind, it’s usually a combination of personality and individuality.

You can’t help but be impressed because there’s something about them that just seems different and real. Until there’s a way to bottle up that “wow factor,” here’s a look at the things some people do that always seem to make a great impression on us.

1. They are genuine

Sometimes it seems like everyone around has a hidden agenda. It’s nice to meet someone who asks how you are doing and actually cares to know the answer. If you take the time to show interest in someone else, it does wonders in making them want to know more about you.

2. They are morning people

Early risers get more accomplished in the first few hours of the day than some people do all day. It’s easy to become best friends with the snooze button, so it says a lot about someone who chooses to be productive and make the most of each day.

3. They are likable

One of the most important characteristics to have is likability. Even if you don’t have much in common, when someone is likable you are instantly drawn to their personality. Being likable makes people feel that they can be comfortable around you because you’re so easy to get along with.

4. They are confident

You can always tell someone is confident by how they enter a room or look directly in your eyes when being introduced. Confidence shows that you are comfortable in your own skin.

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5. They don’t have to be the center of attention

Truth be told, you don’t you have to be the loudest or biggest personality in the room to make an impression. Sometimes it’s the ability to play the background and just be yourself that captures the most eyes.

6. They remember your name

You can’t help but to be impressed with someone who takes the time to remember your name. Sometimes it’s such an easy copout to say, “oh, my memory is bad” or “I meet so many people.” When you take the time to remember a name, it shows that you connected with them as well.

7.  They are nice to strangers

It’s easy to say and do all the right things when you know someone. But it’s actually impressive when someone can also be nice to people they don’t even know.

8. They say “I’m sorry”

It takes a lot to admit that you made a mistake. Sometimes people try to make excuses or place the blame on others because it’s easier. The ability to apologize to another person or own up to a mistake displays a level of maturity that you can’t help but respect.

9. They avoid drama

Nowadays it almost seems cool to lose your cool. Reality TV and gossip news glorify drama and tantrums. But no one likes drama in real life. The ability to keep your cool is an admirable trait and shows that you are not all about negativity.

10. They are well-traveled

A person who travels a lot and usually shows a lot of diversity in tastes and knowledge. Being exposed to different cultures also shows that you are open-minded and well-rounded.

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11. They always have a positive attitude

It’s easy to tell others to be positive when all is well in your own life. But when a person is truly able to see the silver lining in their own tough situation, it shows that they practice what they preach.

12. They can play an instrument

Almost everyone took a music class at some point during school, but not as many can say they actually play an instrument. Being able to play an instrument shows a great level of disciple and creativity.

13. They do volunteer work

Time is so limited these days. You cannot help but be impressed by someone who chooses to volunteer their time towards a good cause. Using your talent to help others in need shows that you care about what’s going on around you and believe in giving back.

14. They are athletic

People who participate in sports show a great deal of passion and dedication. It’s impressive when someone takes the time to keep their body healthy and challenge their physical limits.

15. They are modest

Sometimes modesty is also the best policy. Someone may impress you because they genuinely don’t make a big deal out of something that you admire. These are the people who give without wanting credit or have a talent, but do not want to be the center of attention. It’s a positive trait when people do things from the heart and not solely for the praise.

16. They speak another language

The ability to speak multiple languages is always an impressive skill. You never know when it will come in handy and it shows a variety in the ability to communicate.

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17. They have a warm smile

There are times when it seems like everyone is walking around grumpy or always on the go. When a person smiles often, you can’t help but have a warm feeling and connect with them. It’s easy to stand out when you have a welcoming personality and always show up with a smile.

18. They give good hugs

It’s nice when someone instantly greets you with a big hug to go with a warm smile. Although everyone is not a hugger, it shows that you are a warm person who feels like a handshake isn’t always needed. Even the most guarded person can’t really be mad at a friendly hug given at just the right time.

19. They are an avid reader

The more a person reads, the more they tend to know a little of everything. People who read a lot are often able to start great conversations and there is plenty of room to discuss opinions and share your thoughts.

20. They dress well

You can tell a lot about a person by the way that they carry themselves. One of the first things you will notice about a person you meet is how they dress. Someone who carries themselves in a way that shows care and a glimpse into their personality will always stand out.

21. They are relatable

People often go by feelings and connection when interacting. When you find someone that you can relate to, you’re able to learn from them and exchange ideas. Being relatable is an easy way to impress someone because you show that you share a lot in common.

22. They are good communicators

Communication is an art, so it is a skill to be able to pull out the best in others. People who know how to carry on a conversation in a natural way makes others around them feel comfortable.

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23. They are good listeners

Sometimes it seems like good listening skills are becoming extinct. But there are people who take the time to listen and pay attention during conversations. It’s noticeable when someone actually takes in what you’re saying and doesn’t spend the time trying to think of their own stories. It’s therapeutic to be around someone who will soak in what you’re saying and care about your point of view.

24. They are the life of the party

There are some people who have such a positive energy that is so contagious, you always want them around. They bring life to the party with their ability to have fun and always have a good time no matter where they are.

25. They are patient

As the proverb goes, “patience is a virtue.” It’s easy to lose your patience with everyday stressors. A person who is able to take a step back and not get flustered understands that everything doesn’t always have to be a big rush.

26. They live in the moment

A person who is able to take in each moment truly enjoys life. Life can quickly pass you by if you keep aimlessly going through the motions. Someone who is able to enjoy every bite of a cupcake or sip of wine really appreciates the little joys of life.

27. They laugh a lot

Laughter is the best medicine. A good laugh can alleviate stress, lower blood pressure, and create a general sense of well-being. People who are able to laugh and keep a light attitude show the benefits of not stressing out. It also doesn’t hurt that laughter is contagious.

28. They love children

People who love children have a naturally youthful quality about them. They bring out the child in everyone around them and are able to see life through the eyes of children.

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29. They are reliable

It’s easy to over commit yourself or get caught up in your own life. So people who are able to put aside what’s going on in their world and always be there when needed are considered valuable and irreplaceable.

30. They motivate you

Some people are good at making you feel like you can conquer the world. Someone who is able to encourage another person and offer help when needed shows that they are invested in the success and happiness of others.  

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How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)
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You’re standing behind the curtain, just about to make your way on stage to face the many faces half-shrouded in darkness in front of you. As you move towards the spotlight, your body starts to feel heavier with each step. A familiar thump echoes throughout your body – your heartbeat has gone off the charts.

Don’t worry, you’re not the only one with glossophobia(also known as speech anxiety or the fear of speaking to large crowds). Sometimes, the anxiety happens long before you even stand on stage.

Your body’s defence mechanism responds by causing a part of your brain to release adrenaline into your blood – the same chemical that gets released as if you were being chased by a lion.

Here’s a step-by-step guide to help you overcome your fear of public speaking:

1. Prepare yourself mentally and physically

According to experts, we’re built to display anxiety and to recognize it in others. If your body and mind are anxious, your audience will notice. Hence, it’s important to prepare yourself before the big show so that you arrive on stage confident, collected and ready.

“Your outside world is a reflection of your inside world. What goes on in the inside, shows on the outside.” – Bob Proctor

Exercising lightly before a presentation helps get your blood circulating and sends oxygen to the brain. Mental exercises, on the other hand, can help calm the mind and nerves. Here are some useful ways to calm your racing heart when you start to feel the butterflies in your stomach:

Warming up

If you’re nervous, chances are your body will feel the same way. Your body gets tense, your muscles feel tight or you’re breaking in cold sweat. The audience will notice you are nervous.

If you observe that this is exactly what is happening to you minutes before a speech, do a couple of stretches to loosen and relax your body. It’s better to warm up before every speech as it helps to increase the functional potential of the body as a whole. Not only that, it increases muscle efficiency, improves reaction time and your movements.

Here are some exercises to loosen up your body before show time:

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  1. Neck and shoulder rolls – This helps relieve upper body muscle tension and pressure as the rolls focus on rotating the head and shoulders, loosening the muscle. Stress and anxiety can make us rigid within this area which can make you feel agitated, especially when standing.
  2. Arm stretches – We often use this part of our muscles during a speech or presentation through our hand gestures and movements. Stretching these muscles can reduce arm fatigue, loosen you up and improve your body language range.
  3. Waist twists – Place your hands on your hips and rotate your waist in a circular motion. This exercise focuses on loosening the abdominal and lower back regions which is essential as it can cause discomfort and pain, further amplifying any anxieties you may experience.

Stay hydrated

Ever felt parched seconds before speaking? And then coming up on stage sounding raspy and scratchy in front of the audience? This happens because the adrenaline from stage fright causes your mouth to feel dried out.

To prevent all that, it’s essential we stay adequately hydrated before a speech. A sip of water will do the trick. However, do drink in moderation so that you won’t need to go to the bathroom constantly.

Try to avoid sugary beverages and caffeine, since it’s a diuretic – meaning you’ll feel thirstier. It will also amplify your anxiety which prevents you from speaking smoothly.

Meditate

Meditation is well-known as a powerful tool to calm the mind. ABC’s Dan Harris, co-anchor of Nightline and Good Morning America weekend and author of the book titled10% Happier , recommends that meditation can help individuals to feel significantly calmer, faster.

Meditation is like a workout for your mind. It gives you the strength and focus to filter out the negativity and distractions with words of encouragement, confidence and strength.

Mindfulness meditation, in particular, is a popular method to calm yourself before going up on the big stage. The practice involves sitting comfortably, focusing on your breathing and then bringing your mind’s attention to the present without drifting into concerns about the past or future – which likely includes floundering on stage.

Here’s a nice example of guided meditation before public speaking:

2. Focus on your goal

One thing people with a fear of public speaking have in common is focusing too much on themselves and the possibility of failure.

Do I look funny? What if I can’t remember what to say? Do I look stupid? Will people listen to me? Does anyone care about what I’m talking about?’

Instead of thinking this way, shift your attention to your one true purpose – contributing something of value to your audience.

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Decide on the progress you’d like your audience to make after your presentation. Notice their movements and expressions to adapt your speech to ensure that they are having a good time to leave the room as better people.

If your own focus isn’t beneficial and what it should be when you’re speaking, then shift it to what does. This is also key to establishing trust during your presentation as the audience can clearly see that you have their interests at heart.[1]

3. Convert negativity to positivity

There are two sides constantly battling inside of us – one is filled with strength and courage while the other is doubt and insecurities. Which one will you feed?

‘What if I mess up this speech? What if I’m not funny enough? What if I forget what to say?’

It’s no wonder why many of us are uncomfortable giving a presentation. All we do is bring ourselves down before we got a chance to prove ourselves. This is also known as a self-fulfilling prophecy – a belief that comes true because we are acting as if it already is. If you think you’re incompetent, then it will eventually become true.

Motivational coaches tout that positive mantras and affirmations tend to boost your confidents for the moments that matter most. Say to yourself: “I’ll ace this speech and I can do it!”

Take advantage of your adrenaline rush to encourage positive outcome rather than thinking of the negative ‘what ifs’.

Here’s a video of Psychologist Kelly McGonigal who encourages her audience to turn stress into something positive as well as provide methods on how to cope with it:

4. Understand your content

Knowing your content at your fingertips helps reduce your anxiety because there is one less thing to worry about. One way to get there is to practice numerous times before your actual speech.

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However, memorizing your script word-for-word is not encouraged. You can end up freezing should you forget something. You’ll also risk sounding unnatural and less approachable.

“No amount of reading or memorizing will make you successful in life. It is the understanding and the application of wise thought that counts.” – Bob Proctor

Many people unconsciously make the mistake of reading from their slides or memorizing their script word-for-word without understanding their content – a definite way to stress themselves out.

Understanding your speech flow and content makes it easier for you to convert ideas and concepts into your own words which you can then clearly explain to others in a conversational manner. Designing your slides to include text prompts is also an easy hack to ensure you get to quickly recall your flow when your mind goes blank.[2]

One way to understand is to memorize the over-arching concepts or ideas in your pitch. It helps you speak more naturally and let your personality shine through. It’s almost like taking your audience on a journey with a few key milestones.

5. Practice makes perfect

Like most people, many of us are not naturally attuned to public speaking. Rarely do individuals walk up to a large audience and present flawlessly without any research and preparation.

In fact, some of the top presenters make it look easy during showtime because they have spent countless hours behind-the-scenes in deep practice. Even great speakers like the late John F. Kennedy would spend months preparing his speech beforehand.

Public speaking, like any other skill, requires practice – whether it be practicing your speech countless of times in front of a mirror or making notes. As the saying goes, practice makes perfect!

6. Be authentic

There’s nothing wrong with feeling stressed before going up to speak in front of an audience.

Many people fear public speaking because they fear others will judge them for showing their true, vulnerable self. However, vulnerability can sometimes help you come across as more authentic and relatable as a speaker.

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Drop the pretence of trying to act or speak like someone else and you’ll find that it’s worth the risk. You become more genuine, flexible and spontaneous, which makes it easier to handle unpredictable situations – whether it’s getting tough questions from the crowd or experiencing an unexpected technical difficulty.

To find out your authentic style of speaking is easy. Just pick a topic or issue you are passionate about and discuss this like you normally would with a close family or friend. It is like having a conversation with someone in a personal one-to-one setting. A great way to do this on stage is to select a random audience member(with a hopefully calming face) and speak to a single person at a time during your speech. You’ll find that it’s easier trying to connect to one person at a time than a whole room.

With that said, being comfortable enough to be yourself in front of others may take a little time and some experience, depending how comfortable you are with being yourself in front of others. But once you embrace it, stage fright will not be as intimidating as you initially thought.

Presenters like Barack Obama are a prime example of a genuine and passionate speaker:

7. Post speech evaluation

Last but not the least, if you’ve done public speaking and have been scarred from a bad experience, try seeing it as a lesson learned to improve yourself as a speaker.

Don’t beat yourself up after a presentation

We are the hardest on ourselves and it’s good to be. But when you finish delivering your speech or presentation, give yourself some recognition and a pat on the back.

You managed to finish whatever you had to do and did not give up. You did not let your fears and insecurities get to you. Take a little more pride in your work and believe in yourself.

Improve your next speech

As mentioned before, practice does make perfect. If you want to improve your public speaking skills, try asking someone to film you during a speech or presentation. Afterwards, watch and observe what you can do to improve yourself next time.

Here are some questions you can ask yourself after every speech:

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  • How did I do?
  • Are there any areas for improvement?
  • Did I sound or look stressed?
  • Did I stumble on my words? Why?
  • Was I saying “um” too often?
  • How was the flow of the speech?

Write everything you observed down and keep practicing and improving. In time, you’ll be able to better manage your fears of public speaking and appear more confident when it counts.

If you want even more tips about public speaking or delivering a great presentation, check out these articles too:

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