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30 Reasons Why Some People Always Impress You

30 Reasons Why Some People Always Impress You

What makes someone stand out may vary from person to person. But some people have traits that are undeniable magnetic. They always seem to easily impress you. And if you think about what makes another person stand out in your mind, it’s usually a combination of personality and individuality.

You can’t help but be impressed because there’s something about them that just seems different and real. Until there’s a way to bottle up that “wow factor,” here’s a look at the things some people do that always seem to make a great impression on us.

1. They are genuine

Sometimes it seems like everyone around has a hidden agenda. It’s nice to meet someone who asks how you are doing and actually cares to know the answer. If you take the time to show interest in someone else, it does wonders in making them want to know more about you.

2. They are morning people

Early risers get more accomplished in the first few hours of the day than some people do all day. It’s easy to become best friends with the snooze button, so it says a lot about someone who chooses to be productive and make the most of each day.

3. They are likable

One of the most important characteristics to have is likability. Even if you don’t have much in common, when someone is likable you are instantly drawn to their personality. Being likable makes people feel that they can be comfortable around you because you’re so easy to get along with.

4. They are confident

You can always tell someone is confident by how they enter a room or look directly in your eyes when being introduced. Confidence shows that you are comfortable in your own skin.

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5. They don’t have to be the center of attention

Truth be told, you don’t you have to be the loudest or biggest personality in the room to make an impression. Sometimes it’s the ability to play the background and just be yourself that captures the most eyes.

6. They remember your name

You can’t help but to be impressed with someone who takes the time to remember your name. Sometimes it’s such an easy copout to say, “oh, my memory is bad” or “I meet so many people.” When you take the time to remember a name, it shows that you connected with them as well.

7.  They are nice to strangers

It’s easy to say and do all the right things when you know someone. But it’s actually impressive when someone can also be nice to people they don’t even know.

8. They say “I’m sorry”

It takes a lot to admit that you made a mistake. Sometimes people try to make excuses or place the blame on others because it’s easier. The ability to apologize to another person or own up to a mistake displays a level of maturity that you can’t help but respect.

9. They avoid drama

Nowadays it almost seems cool to lose your cool. Reality TV and gossip news glorify drama and tantrums. But no one likes drama in real life. The ability to keep your cool is an admirable trait and shows that you are not all about negativity.

10. They are well-traveled

A person who travels a lot and usually shows a lot of diversity in tastes and knowledge. Being exposed to different cultures also shows that you are open-minded and well-rounded.

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11. They always have a positive attitude

It’s easy to tell others to be positive when all is well in your own life. But when a person is truly able to see the silver lining in their own tough situation, it shows that they practice what they preach.

12. They can play an instrument

Almost everyone took a music class at some point during school, but not as many can say they actually play an instrument. Being able to play an instrument shows a great level of disciple and creativity.

13. They do volunteer work

Time is so limited these days. You cannot help but be impressed by someone who chooses to volunteer their time towards a good cause. Using your talent to help others in need shows that you care about what’s going on around you and believe in giving back.

14. They are athletic

People who participate in sports show a great deal of passion and dedication. It’s impressive when someone takes the time to keep their body healthy and challenge their physical limits.

15. They are modest

Sometimes modesty is also the best policy. Someone may impress you because they genuinely don’t make a big deal out of something that you admire. These are the people who give without wanting credit or have a talent, but do not want to be the center of attention. It’s a positive trait when people do things from the heart and not solely for the praise.

16. They speak another language

The ability to speak multiple languages is always an impressive skill. You never know when it will come in handy and it shows a variety in the ability to communicate.

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17. They have a warm smile

There are times when it seems like everyone is walking around grumpy or always on the go. When a person smiles often, you can’t help but have a warm feeling and connect with them. It’s easy to stand out when you have a welcoming personality and always show up with a smile.

18. They give good hugs

It’s nice when someone instantly greets you with a big hug to go with a warm smile. Although everyone is not a hugger, it shows that you are a warm person who feels like a handshake isn’t always needed. Even the most guarded person can’t really be mad at a friendly hug given at just the right time.

19. They are an avid reader

The more a person reads, the more they tend to know a little of everything. People who read a lot are often able to start great conversations and there is plenty of room to discuss opinions and share your thoughts.

20. They dress well

You can tell a lot about a person by the way that they carry themselves. One of the first things you will notice about a person you meet is how they dress. Someone who carries themselves in a way that shows care and a glimpse into their personality will always stand out.

21. They are relatable

People often go by feelings and connection when interacting. When you find someone that you can relate to, you’re able to learn from them and exchange ideas. Being relatable is an easy way to impress someone because you show that you share a lot in common.

22. They are good communicators

Communication is an art, so it is a skill to be able to pull out the best in others. People who know how to carry on a conversation in a natural way makes others around them feel comfortable.

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23. They are good listeners

Sometimes it seems like good listening skills are becoming extinct. But there are people who take the time to listen and pay attention during conversations. It’s noticeable when someone actually takes in what you’re saying and doesn’t spend the time trying to think of their own stories. It’s therapeutic to be around someone who will soak in what you’re saying and care about your point of view.

24. They are the life of the party

There are some people who have such a positive energy that is so contagious, you always want them around. They bring life to the party with their ability to have fun and always have a good time no matter where they are.

25. They are patient

As the proverb goes, “patience is a virtue.” It’s easy to lose your patience with everyday stressors. A person who is able to take a step back and not get flustered understands that everything doesn’t always have to be a big rush.

26. They live in the moment

A person who is able to take in each moment truly enjoys life. Life can quickly pass you by if you keep aimlessly going through the motions. Someone who is able to enjoy every bite of a cupcake or sip of wine really appreciates the little joys of life.

27. They laugh a lot

Laughter is the best medicine. A good laugh can alleviate stress, lower blood pressure, and create a general sense of well-being. People who are able to laugh and keep a light attitude show the benefits of not stressing out. It also doesn’t hurt that laughter is contagious.

28. They love children

People who love children have a naturally youthful quality about them. They bring out the child in everyone around them and are able to see life through the eyes of children.

29. They are reliable

It’s easy to over commit yourself or get caught up in your own life. So people who are able to put aside what’s going on in their world and always be there when needed are considered valuable and irreplaceable.

30. They motivate you

Some people are good at making you feel like you can conquer the world. Someone who is able to encourage another person and offer help when needed shows that they are invested in the success and happiness of others.  

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Last Updated on January 24, 2021

How to Say No When You Know You Say Yes Too Often

How to Say No When You Know You Say Yes Too Often

Do you say yes so often that you no longer feel that your own needs are being met? Are you wondering how to say no to people?

For years, I was a serial people pleaser[1]. Known as someone who would step up, I would gladly make time, especially when it came to volunteering for certain causes. I proudly carried this role all through grade school, college, even through law school. For years, I thought saying “no” meant I would disappoint a good friend or someone I respected.

But somewhere along the way, I noticed I wasn’t quite living my life. Instead, I seem to have created a schedule that was a strange combination of meeting the expectations of others, what I thought I should be doing, and some of what I actually wanted to do. The result? I had a packed schedule that left me overwhelmed and unfulfilled.

It took a long while, but I learned the art of saying no. Saying no meant I no longer catered fully to everyone else’s needs and could make more room for what I really wanted to do. Instead of cramming too much in, I chose to pursue what really mattered. When that happened, I became a lot happier.

And guess what? I hardly disappointed anyone.

The Importance of Saying No

When you learn the art of saying no, you begin to look at the world differently. Rather than seeing all of the things you could or should be doing (and aren’t doing), you start to look at how to say yes to what’s important.

In other words, you aren’t just reacting to what life throws at you. You seek the opportunities that move you to where you want to be.

Successful people aren’t afraid to say no. Oprah Winfrey, considered one of the most successful women in the world, confessed that it was much later in life when she learned how to say no. Even after she had become internationally famous, she felt she had to say yes to virtually everything.

Being able to say no also helps you manage your time better.

Warren Buffett views “no” as essential to his success. He said:

“The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything.”

When I made “no” a part of my toolbox, I drove more of my own success, focusing on fewer things and doing them well.

How We Are Pressured to Say Yes

It’s no wonder a lot of us find it hard to say no.

From an early age, we are conditioned to say yes. We said yes probably hundreds of times in order to graduate from high school and then get into college. We said yes to find work, to get a promotion, to find love and then yes again to stay in a relationship. We said yes to find and keep friends.

We say yes because we feel good when we help someone, because it can seem like the right thing to do, because we think that is key to success, and because the request might come from someone who is hard to resist.

And that’s not all. The pressure to say yes doesn’t just come from others. We put a lot of pressure on ourselves.

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At work, we say yes because we compare ourselves to others who seem to be doing more than we are. Outside of work, we say yes because we are feeling bad that we aren’t doing enough to spend time with family or friends.

The message, no matter where we turn, is nearly always, “You really could be doing more.” The result? When people ask us for our time, we are heavily conditioned to say yes.

How Do You Say No Without Feeling Guilty?

Deciding to add the word “no” to your toolbox is no small thing. Perhaps you already say no, but not as much as you would like. Maybe you have an instinct that if you were to learn the art of no that you could finally create more time for things you care about.

But let’s be honest, using the word “no” doesn’t come easily for many people.

3 Rules of Thumbs for Saying No

1. You Need to Get Out of Your Comfort Zone

Let’s face it. It is hard to say no. Setting boundaries around your time, especially you haven’t done it much in the past, will feel awkward. Your comfort zone is “yes,” so it’s time to challenge that and step outside that.

If you need help getting out of your comfort zone, check out this article.

2. You Are the Air Traffic Controller of Your Time

When you want to learn how to say no, remember that you are the only one who understands the demands for your time. Think about it: who else knows about all of the demands in your life? No one.

Only you are at the center of all of these requests. You are the only one that understands what time you really have.

3. Saying No Means Saying Yes to Something That Matters

When we decide not to do something, it means we can say yes to something else that we may care more about. You have a unique opportunity to decide how you spend your precious time.

6 Ways to Start Saying No

Incorporating that little word “no” into your life can be transformational. Turning some things down will mean you can open doors to what really matters. Here are some essential tips to learn the art of no:

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1. Check in With Your Obligation Meter

One of the biggest challenges to saying no is a feeling of obligation. Do you feel you have a responsibility to say yes and worry that saying no will reflect poorly on you?

Ask yourself whether you truly have the duty to say yes. Check your assumptions or beliefs about whether you carry the responsibility to say yes. Turn it around and instead ask what duty you owe to yourself.

2. Resist the Fear of Missing out (FOMO)

Do you have a fear of missing out (FOMO)? FOMO can follow us around in so many ways. At work, we volunteer our time because we fear we won’t move ahead. In our personal lives, we agree to join the crowd because of FOMO, even while we ourselves aren’t enjoying the fun.

Check in with yourself. Are you saying yes because of FOMO or because you really want to say yes? More often than not, running after fear doesn’t make us feel better[2].

3. Check Your Assumptions About What It Means to Say No

Do you dread the reaction you will get if you say no? Often, we say yes because we worry about how others will respond or because of the consequences. We may be afraid to disappoint others or think we will lose their respect. We often forget how much we are disappointing ourselves along the way.

Keep in mind that saying no can be exactly what is needed to send the right message that you have limited time. In the tips below, you will see how to communicate your no in a gentle and loving way.

You might disappoint someone initially, but drawing a boundary can bring you the freedom you need so that you can give freely of yourself when you truly want to. And it will often help others have more respect for you and your boundaries, not less.

4. When the Request Comes in, Sit on It

Sometimes, when we are in the moment, we instinctively agree. The request might make sense at first. Or we typically have said yes to this request in the past.

Give yourself a little time to reflect on whether you really have the time or can do the task properly. You may decide the best option is to say no. There is no harm in giving yourself the time to decide.

5. Communicate Your “No” with Transparency and Kindness

When you are ready to tell someone no, communicate your decision clearly. The message can be open and honest[3] to ensure the recipient that your reasons have to do with your limited time.

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    Resist the temptation not to respond or communicate all. But do not feel obligated to provide a lengthy account about why you are saying no.

    Clear communication with a short explanation is all that is needed. I have found it useful to tell people that I have many demands and need to be careful with how I allocate my time. I will sometimes say I really appreciate that they came to me and for them to check in again if the opportunity arises another time.

    6. Consider How to Use a Modified No

    If you are under pressure to say yes but want to say no, you may want to consider downgrading a “yes” to a “yes but…” as this will give you an opportunity to condition your agreement to what works best for you.

    Sometimes, the condition can be to do the task, but not in the time frame that was originally requested. Or perhaps you can do part of what has been asked.

    Final Thoughts

    Beginning right now, you can change how you respond to requests for your time. When the request comes in, take yourself off autopilot where you might normally say yes.

    Use the request as a way to draw a healthy boundary around your time. Pay particular attention to when you place certain demands on yourself.

    Try it now. Say no to a friend who continues to take advantage of your goodwill. Or, draw the line with a workaholic colleague and tell them you will complete the project, but not by working all weekend. You’ll find yourself much happier.

    More Tips on How to Say No

    Featured photo credit: Chris Ainsworth via unsplash.com

    Reference

    [1] Science of People: 11 Expert Tips to Stop Being a People Pleaser and Start Doing You
    [2] Anxiety and Depression Association of America: Tips to Get Over Your FOMO, or Fear of Missing Out
    [3] Cooks Hill Counseling: 9 Healthy Ways to Say “No”

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