“Be a first rate version of yourself, not a second rate version of someone else.” – Judy Garland
Our roles in life don’t make us who we are. We tend to base our idea of who we are on everyday roles such as parents and spouse or even what we do in our jobs or what qualifications we have. We even go to the extent of changing our personas in different social situations & acting out of character because we think we have to. Realize that by acting in this way you are not being you at your deepest level. When you begin to use the following steps to become your authentic self you will begin to experience the benefits of a happier life.
Benefits of becoming your authentic self Include:
- Being happier
- Feeling of fulfilment
- Decision making becomes easier
- Awareness increases
- Truthful to self & others
- Doing things on your own terms
- Doing what you really want
- Doing what you love
- Satisfying your needs
- A sense of purpose
- Helping you prioritize how you live
- Being in alignment with goals & dreams
Research suggests that authentic people are well-liked, and they benefit from social support and the many other positive outcomes associated with enjoying close relationships with others.Advertising
Your Authentic Self in 3 Easy Steps
Choosing your values are what is important to you in life.
Knowing your values helps you understand what drives you—what you enjoy, what inspires you, and what you’d like more of. By building a life and lifestyle around our values we create a life that is more satisfying and meaningful to us.
Values change over time, and deepen as you understand yourself better.Advertising
Finally, the values list below is only to give you some ideas of values. We are each unique, so there will undoubtedly be words that are missing from this list, and different words that sum up your value better. If so, feel free to add those words to the list below. There are hundreds of
Sample Values List
Choose up to 10 words that resonate with you and make you feel good. These are the values you want to live in your everyday life. Write them down or create a poster so you can see them every day.Advertising
So as an example, one of my values is family: I have children, I have always spent time with and meet regularly with my extended family too, and I am also close with my cousins.
Action Plan: Ensure my children’s needs are met and that they are getting my attention by having fun time, activities together, showing my love & being there for them. As for other family members I stay in contact on a regular basis.
For me I feel this is necessary because this is who I am. I would otherwise feel frustrated and guilty if I didn’t do this. However, things may be different for you.Advertising
Make a list of 5 to 10 activities you love to do and 5 goals you want to achieve. Look at the work you do & look at the relationships you have. Do your values you have chosen currently align with what you want to do? If not make the necessary changes. Make a plan for how you will include your activities into your life & make steps for achieving your goals. Look out for values that are sabotaging your time and energy & live for the ones that bring out your authenticity making you happy and likely to achieve your goals. Values are not set in stone so change they may change over time.
That’s it! You will find you no longer have to fill many versions of yourself only the best one. Because by following your values you live with integrity, truth and being a happier you. Don’t let your role in life define who you are, take action to become your authentic self.
Last Updated on August 16, 2018
10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks
The ability to take risks by stepping outside your comfort zone is the primary way by which we grow. But we are often afraid to take that first step.
In truth, comfort zones are not really about comfort, they are about fear. Break the chains of fear to get outside. Once you do, you will learn to enjoy the process of taking risks and growing in the process.
Here are 10 ways to help you step out of your comfort zone and get closer to success:
1. Become aware of what’s outside of your comfort zone
What are the things that you believe are worth doing but are afraid of doing yourself because of the potential for disappointment or failure?
Draw a circle and write those things down outside the circle. This process will not only allow you to clearly identify your discomforts, but your comforts. Write identified comforts inside the circle.
2. Become clear about what you are aiming to overcome
Take the list of discomforts and go deeper. Remember, the primary emotion you are trying to overcome is fear.
How does this fear apply uniquely to each situation? Be very specific.
Are you afraid of walking up to people and introducing yourself in social situations? Why? Is it because you are insecure about the sound of your voice? Are you insecure about your looks?
Or, are you afraid of being ignored?
3. Get comfortable with discomfort
One way to get outside of your comfort zone is to literally expand it. Make it a goal to avoid running away from discomfort.
Let’s stay with the theme of meeting people in social settings. If you start feeling a little panicked when talking to someone you’ve just met, try to stay with it a little longer than you normally would before retreating to comfort. If you stay long enough and practice often enough, it will start to become less uncomfortable.
4. See failure as a teacher
Many of us are so afraid of failure that we would rather do nothing than take a shot at our dreams.
Begin to treat failure as a teacher. What did you learn from the experience? How can you take that lesson to your next adventure to increase your chance of success?
Many highly successful people failed plenty of times before they succeeded. Here’re some examples:
5. Take baby steps
Don’t try to jump outside your comfort zone, you will likely become overwhelmed and jump right back in.
Take small steps toward the fear you are trying to overcome. If you want to do public speaking, start by taking every opportunity to speak to small groups of people. You can even practice with family and friends.
Take a look at this article on how you can start taking baby steps:
6. Hang out with risk takers
There is no substitute for this step. If you want to become better at something, you must start hanging out with the people who are doing what you want to do and start emulating them. (Here’re 8 Reasons Why Risk Takers Are More Likely To Be Successful).
Almost inevitably, their influence will start have an effect on your behavior.
7. Be honest with yourself when you are trying to make excuses
Don’t say “Oh, I just don’t have the time for this right now.” Instead, be honest and say “I am afraid to do this.”
Don’t make excuses, just be honest. You will be in a better place to confront what is truly bothering you and increase your chance of moving forward.
8. Identify how stepping out will benefit you
What will the ability to engage in public speaking do for your personal and professional growth? Keep these potential benefits in mind as motivations to push through fear.
9. Don’t take yourself too seriously
Learn to laugh at yourself when you make mistakes. Risk taking will inevitably involve failure and setbacks that will sometimes make you look foolish to others. Be happy to roll with the punches when others poke fun.
If you aren’t convinced yet, check out these 6 Reasons Not to Take Life So Seriously.
10. Focus on the fun
Enjoy the process of stepping outside your safe boundaries. Enjoy the fun of discovering things about yourself that you may not have been aware of previously.
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