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20 Simple Ways To Make Someone Happy

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20 Simple Ways To Make Someone Happy

Happiness is something that we all wanted. It could even be somebody’s life goal. Could you imagine how beautiful our world would be if everyone of us could spend some time everyday and do one thing that lift someone up in the midst of their misery?

Happiness may not simply be a feel good emotion, but a weapon to fight all of the negativity in the cruelty of reality.

The thought of “why should we should be the good person while no one has done any good to us” always cross my mind. Turns out doing good deeds have might benefits than you may ever thought.

Benefits Of Making Someone Happy

Relieve Stress

Research on the relationship between volunteering and hypertension had shown that charitable work have significant impact on blood pressure. Those who volunteer more are less likely to develop hypertension in a 4 year period.

Higher life expectancy

It is scientifically proved that giving and unselfishness have a link to a lower risk of early death. Various other reports have also show that regular volunteers have a better health and lower mortality rate.

Better relationships

Being unselfish makes you a better partner! A study of over 10,000 people ages 20-25 from 33 countries found that kindness was more attractive than good looks. Kindness is a sign of gratitude, and gratitude is definitely important in building a relationship.

Make you want to help someone again

A 2012 study published in Psychological Science found that thinking about times you’ve helped others will make you want to help others again. Thinking of the time that you give rather than receive would make you willing to help people again and again.

Fewer negative emotions

There is no doubt that a random act of kindness would bring happiness. It is known to have a connection between kindness, volunteering and altruism with less depression. Studies of people fighting disease, chronic pain, and emotional trauma have also shown that kindness can help them cope better and combat negative emotions.

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Things You Can Do To Make Someone Happy!

1. Make Eye Contact with strangers, smile and Say “Hello” 

Don’t be shy! A random “Hello” or a small talk could be sign of acknowledgement and appreciation of their existence. Such a small gesture could have already save someone’s day. Try this next time when you met someone new!

2. Call a Friend for No Reason

Most of us resort to texting these days and save phone calls for when we need something. But actually sometimes all we need for happiness is just a good chat. Surprise a friend with a random phone call and say, “I actually don’t have a reason for calling, I was just wondering how you’re doing?”

3. Send a Thoughtful E-mail

If a co-worker has been talking about something they hope to accomplish (like writing a book or learning a new language), find a helpful article relevant to their goal and send it to them. They will appreciate the thought.

4. Offer Baby-Sitting Services

If you are a trusted friend of a couple who you know is very busy and unable to go out on dates too often, offer to hang out with the kids next weekend so they can escape the house for some much-needed alone time. Your friend will remember your kindness.

5. Check Up on Your Parents

Sometimes life gets too overwhelming and you forgot those who loved you the most. You know you don’t call your parents

6. Donate to Charity

Giving to charity is one of the easiest way to show your courtesy. How many of the clothes in your closet do you actually wear? How many toys do your kids really need? Eliminate the clutter from your home and give it to someone who needs it. You can even involve your child in the process so they learn the importance of giving.

7. Throw a Party

There is nothing better than having fun with a bunch of friends. It doesn’t have to be anything elaborate, but choose 5-10 of your closest friends and decide on a date that is convenient for all of you. Ask everyone to bring over a single dish or bottle of wine for a great night of bonding and conversation.

8. Offer Encouragement

Do you know a friend who wants to accomplish a big goal in life? Tell them that you believe they can do it and offer your support.

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9. Get people around to sign a card for a specific person.

Let say If someone around you is having a really hard time, take the initiative to get a card and have everyone in the office sign it. Show that you guys care about what happened. It would be nice to have this kind of support during harsh times.

10. Plan something special for your partner

Surprises are always great for a burst of delight. Plan a fun night-out with your partner, but don’t inform them of any of the details. You could get tickets to a live play or concert they would enjoy, reserve spots in a dance class, or simply go on a peaceful hike. Explain the proper attire, but don’t tell them the rest.

11. Celebrate their “belated birthdays”

We have all forgotten about a birthday of a close friend, but that doesn’t mean you can’t make them happy. Surprise them with a thoughtful gift days or even weeks after the fact. Write a little note saying something like, “I kinda forgot about your birthday and feel like a big goof, but hey, this present more than makes up for it, am I right?”

12. Write a Thank You Note

If someone helped you move furniture, land a job or prepare for a big project, write a note expressing your gratitude. Make sure they know that if they ever could use your help, you’d be more than happy to return the favor.

13. Dance the Night Away

This point is mostly targeted to men because I know a lot of you prefer sitting-on-the-side-lines in the club, but don’t you think your partner might like it if you joined her on the dance floor? Your manhood will not wither away and you are not going to look silly, I promise.

14. Do Some Chores

If some friends invited you over for dinner, march over to the sink and start working on the dishes without as much as asking if they could use your help. Such small favor is the courtesy you’ll need.

15. Brew a New Pot

Walking into the break room is a moment of terror that fills all coffee fiends with dread. Save your co-workers from this nightmare by brewing a new pot if you get the last cup. Such simple act of kindness won’t hurt.

16. Make People Laugh

Share a funny cartoon at the office. Tell a silly joke to your kids. Go to a stand-up comedy show with your partner. Laughter is one of the best representation of how happy you are so it’s great to make people laugh.

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17. Be a Good Listener

Do you know someone who is having a really hard time? Ask them if they would like to talk about it and listen without judgment or interruption. Sometimes the greatest gift we can offer is silence and understanding.

18. Appreciate waiters’ effort and tip Generously 

Surprise your waiter or waitress with a tip that is far above the norm. If your lunch was $10, you could make their day with $5.

19. Put Other People First

As soon as you walk inside from work, hug your children, kiss your partner, and/or rub your dog’s belly. These people have missed you all day, so express your love to them before you do anything for yourself.

20. Speak Kind Words

Send a text, email, or Facebook comment to a friend just to say they are a wonderful person and you are thankful that they are a part of your life. Even better, give a specific compliment about one of their strongest qualities as a person, like, “I just want you to know that I’m really glad we’re friends. You have a way of making me laugh when I need it the most.”

21. Write a love letter to a loved one.

Sometimes you just need to show your love directly. Then why not use the old fancy way? Not only is it romantic, it also is a good way to surprise them.

22. List the things you love about them.

There is nothing better then knowing someone that truly love you for what you are. It might just be the warmest thing ever If you can write a list about what you feel affectionate about them.

23. Express your gratitude for what is too often taken for granted

There are so much things in life that we always take for granted and they deserve some recognition. So next time if you see your mother doing all the housework for you, tell her that you are grateful to have her with you. Remember you don’t need to wait for Thanksgiving to give thanks. Go thank everyone that helped you in your life.

24. Spend quality time with them

It may not take much to be happy. All you need could be some quality time. Have a hike with a bunch of friends or even just chill and watch a good movie together. That could be all the fun you need.

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25. Say I love you.

There is no embarrassment of showing your affection to the one you loved. Remind them that you loved them just as every other day. It is nice to know that you are needed by someone in this world.

26. Help out practically with advice.

A helping hand is always a saving grace. If you found someone in trouble or misery, pure support may not be enough. Try your best to provide help.  Not only will you feel good about yourself, you might just saved someone from their rock bottom.

27. Buy them their favorite food if they have had a bad day.

Personally i found food to be one of the greatest source of happiness. A delicious meal or a delightful dessert can wipe away all your worries and bring you pure joy. So if you know someone who are struggling with things in their lives, buy them their favourite food. It could be great tool for stress relieve.

28. Hide a secret note for him or her to find.

It is the unnoticeable things that really arouse the emotions. Leave some secret note around places for people to find. Maybe just a simple line of encourage or bless. These random notes could light up someone’s day.

29. Smile

You won’t be spreading positivity if you are not showing the positivity in yourself! Smile more. Smile to everyone. Let them know that you are happy, and you want them to be happy as well.

30. Be happy yourself.

Now you have read so much on how to make somebody else happy, please do not forget above all that, you need to first be happy yourself. There is no way you can spread positivity if you yourself ain’t happy in the first place. Work on the things that you like to do, spend more time with the people you loved. Selfless does not mean that you have to sacrifice yourself for the better good, it is to share the happiness equally among you and everybody else.

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Daniel is a writer who focuses on blogging about happiness and motivation at Lifehack.

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Last Updated on July 20, 2021

How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

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How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

You’re standing behind the curtain, just about to make your way on stage to face the many faces half-shrouded in darkness in front of you. As you move towards the spotlight, your body starts to feel heavier with each step. A familiar thump echoes throughout your body – your heartbeat has gone off the charts.

Don’t worry, you’re not the only one with glossophobia(also known as speech anxiety or the fear of speaking to large crowds). Sometimes, the anxiety happens long before you even stand on stage.

Your body’s defence mechanism responds by causing a part of your brain to release adrenaline into your blood – the same chemical that gets released as if you were being chased by a lion.

Here’s a step-by-step guide to help you overcome your fear of public speaking:

1. Prepare yourself mentally and physically

According to experts, we’re built to display anxiety and to recognize it in others. If your body and mind are anxious, your audience will notice. Hence, it’s important to prepare yourself before the big show so that you arrive on stage confident, collected and ready.

“Your outside world is a reflection of your inside world. What goes on in the inside, shows on the outside.” – Bob Proctor

Exercising lightly before a presentation helps get your blood circulating and sends oxygen to the brain. Mental exercises, on the other hand, can help calm the mind and nerves. Here are some useful ways to calm your racing heart when you start to feel the butterflies in your stomach:

Warming up

If you’re nervous, chances are your body will feel the same way. Your body gets tense, your muscles feel tight or you’re breaking in cold sweat. The audience will notice you are nervous.

If you observe that this is exactly what is happening to you minutes before a speech, do a couple of stretches to loosen and relax your body. It’s better to warm up before every speech as it helps to increase the functional potential of the body as a whole. Not only that, it increases muscle efficiency, improves reaction time and your movements.

Here are some exercises to loosen up your body before show time:

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  1. Neck and shoulder rolls – This helps relieve upper body muscle tension and pressure as the rolls focus on rotating the head and shoulders, loosening the muscle. Stress and anxiety can make us rigid within this area which can make you feel agitated, especially when standing.
  2. Arm stretches – We often use this part of our muscles during a speech or presentation through our hand gestures and movements. Stretching these muscles can reduce arm fatigue, loosen you up and improve your body language range.
  3. Waist twists – Place your hands on your hips and rotate your waist in a circular motion. This exercise focuses on loosening the abdominal and lower back regions which is essential as it can cause discomfort and pain, further amplifying any anxieties you may experience.

Stay hydrated

Ever felt parched seconds before speaking? And then coming up on stage sounding raspy and scratchy in front of the audience? This happens because the adrenaline from stage fright causes your mouth to feel dried out.

To prevent all that, it’s essential we stay adequately hydrated before a speech. A sip of water will do the trick. However, do drink in moderation so that you won’t need to go to the bathroom constantly.

Try to avoid sugary beverages and caffeine, since it’s a diuretic – meaning you’ll feel thirstier. It will also amplify your anxiety which prevents you from speaking smoothly.

Meditate

Meditation is well-known as a powerful tool to calm the mind. ABC’s Dan Harris, co-anchor of Nightline and Good Morning America weekend and author of the book titled10% Happier , recommends that meditation can help individuals to feel significantly calmer, faster.

Meditation is like a workout for your mind. It gives you the strength and focus to filter out the negativity and distractions with words of encouragement, confidence and strength.

Mindfulness meditation, in particular, is a popular method to calm yourself before going up on the big stage. The practice involves sitting comfortably, focusing on your breathing and then bringing your mind’s attention to the present without drifting into concerns about the past or future – which likely includes floundering on stage.

Here’s a nice example of guided meditation before public speaking:

2. Focus on your goal

One thing people with a fear of public speaking have in common is focusing too much on themselves and the possibility of failure.

Do I look funny? What if I can’t remember what to say? Do I look stupid? Will people listen to me? Does anyone care about what I’m talking about?’

Instead of thinking this way, shift your attention to your one true purpose – contributing something of value to your audience.

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Decide on the progress you’d like your audience to make after your presentation. Notice their movements and expressions to adapt your speech to ensure that they are having a good time to leave the room as better people.

If your own focus isn’t beneficial and what it should be when you’re speaking, then shift it to what does. This is also key to establishing trust during your presentation as the audience can clearly see that you have their interests at heart.[1]

3. Convert negativity to positivity

There are two sides constantly battling inside of us – one is filled with strength and courage while the other is doubt and insecurities. Which one will you feed?

‘What if I mess up this speech? What if I’m not funny enough? What if I forget what to say?’

It’s no wonder why many of us are uncomfortable giving a presentation. All we do is bring ourselves down before we got a chance to prove ourselves. This is also known as a self-fulfilling prophecy – a belief that comes true because we are acting as if it already is. If you think you’re incompetent, then it will eventually become true.

Motivational coaches tout that positive mantras and affirmations tend to boost your confidents for the moments that matter most. Say to yourself: “I’ll ace this speech and I can do it!”

Take advantage of your adrenaline rush to encourage positive outcome rather than thinking of the negative ‘what ifs’.

Here’s a video of Psychologist Kelly McGonigal who encourages her audience to turn stress into something positive as well as provide methods on how to cope with it:

4. Understand your content

Knowing your content at your fingertips helps reduce your anxiety because there is one less thing to worry about. One way to get there is to practice numerous times before your actual speech.

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However, memorizing your script word-for-word is not encouraged. You can end up freezing should you forget something. You’ll also risk sounding unnatural and less approachable.

“No amount of reading or memorizing will make you successful in life. It is the understanding and the application of wise thought that counts.” – Bob Proctor

Many people unconsciously make the mistake of reading from their slides or memorizing their script word-for-word without understanding their content – a definite way to stress themselves out.

Understanding your speech flow and content makes it easier for you to convert ideas and concepts into your own words which you can then clearly explain to others in a conversational manner. Designing your slides to include text prompts is also an easy hack to ensure you get to quickly recall your flow when your mind goes blank.[2]

One way to understand is to memorize the over-arching concepts or ideas in your pitch. It helps you speak more naturally and let your personality shine through. It’s almost like taking your audience on a journey with a few key milestones.

5. Practice makes perfect

Like most people, many of us are not naturally attuned to public speaking. Rarely do individuals walk up to a large audience and present flawlessly without any research and preparation.

In fact, some of the top presenters make it look easy during showtime because they have spent countless hours behind-the-scenes in deep practice. Even great speakers like the late John F. Kennedy would spend months preparing his speech beforehand.

Public speaking, like any other skill, requires practice – whether it be practicing your speech countless of times in front of a mirror or making notes. As the saying goes, practice makes perfect!

6. Be authentic

There’s nothing wrong with feeling stressed before going up to speak in front of an audience.

Many people fear public speaking because they fear others will judge them for showing their true, vulnerable self. However, vulnerability can sometimes help you come across as more authentic and relatable as a speaker.

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Drop the pretence of trying to act or speak like someone else and you’ll find that it’s worth the risk. You become more genuine, flexible and spontaneous, which makes it easier to handle unpredictable situations – whether it’s getting tough questions from the crowd or experiencing an unexpected technical difficulty.

To find out your authentic style of speaking is easy. Just pick a topic or issue you are passionate about and discuss this like you normally would with a close family or friend. It is like having a conversation with someone in a personal one-to-one setting. A great way to do this on stage is to select a random audience member(with a hopefully calming face) and speak to a single person at a time during your speech. You’ll find that it’s easier trying to connect to one person at a time than a whole room.

With that said, being comfortable enough to be yourself in front of others may take a little time and some experience, depending how comfortable you are with being yourself in front of others. But once you embrace it, stage fright will not be as intimidating as you initially thought.

Presenters like Barack Obama are a prime example of a genuine and passionate speaker:

7. Post speech evaluation

Last but not the least, if you’ve done public speaking and have been scarred from a bad experience, try seeing it as a lesson learned to improve yourself as a speaker.

Don’t beat yourself up after a presentation

We are the hardest on ourselves and it’s good to be. But when you finish delivering your speech or presentation, give yourself some recognition and a pat on the back.

You managed to finish whatever you had to do and did not give up. You did not let your fears and insecurities get to you. Take a little more pride in your work and believe in yourself.

Improve your next speech

As mentioned before, practice does make perfect. If you want to improve your public speaking skills, try asking someone to film you during a speech or presentation. Afterwards, watch and observe what you can do to improve yourself next time.

Here are some questions you can ask yourself after every speech:

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  • How did I do?
  • Are there any areas for improvement?
  • Did I sound or look stressed?
  • Did I stumble on my words? Why?
  • Was I saying “um” too often?
  • How was the flow of the speech?

Write everything you observed down and keep practicing and improving. In time, you’ll be able to better manage your fears of public speaking and appear more confident when it counts.

If you want even more tips about public speaking or delivering a great presentation, check out these articles too:

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