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20 Simple Ways To Make Someone Happy

20 Simple Ways To Make Someone Happy

Happiness is something that we all wanted. It could even be somebody’s life goal. Could you imagine how beautiful our world would be if everyone of us could spend some time everyday and do one thing that lift someone up in the midst of their misery?

Happiness may not simply be a feel good emotion, but a weapon to fight all of the negativity in the cruelty of reality.

The thought of “why should we should be the good person while no one has done any good to us” always cross my mind. Turns out doing good deeds have might benefits than you may ever thought.

Benefits Of Making Someone Happy

Relieve Stress

Research on the relationship between volunteering and hypertension had shown that charitable work have significant impact on blood pressure. Those who volunteer more are less likely to develop hypertension in a 4 year period.

Higher life expectancy

It is scientifically proved that giving and unselfishness have a link to a lower risk of early death. Various other reports have also show that regular volunteers have a better health and lower mortality rate.

Better relationships

Being unselfish makes you a better partner! A study of over 10,000 people ages 20-25 from 33 countries found that kindness was more attractive than good looks. Kindness is a sign of gratitude, and gratitude is definitely important in building a relationship.

Make you want to help someone again

A 2012 study published in Psychological Science found that thinking about times you’ve helped others will make you want to help others again. Thinking of the time that you give rather than receive would make you willing to help people again and again.

Fewer negative emotions

There is no doubt that a random act of kindness would bring happiness. It is known to have a connection between kindness, volunteering and altruism with less depression. Studies of people fighting disease, chronic pain, and emotional trauma have also shown that kindness can help them cope better and combat negative emotions.

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Things You Can Do To Make Someone Happy!

1. Make Eye Contact with strangers, smile and Say “Hello” 

Don’t be shy! A random “Hello” or a small talk could be sign of acknowledgement and appreciation of their existence. Such a small gesture could have already save someone’s day. Try this next time when you met someone new!

2. Call a Friend for No Reason

Most of us resort to texting these days and save phone calls for when we need something. But actually sometimes all we need for happiness is just a good chat. Surprise a friend with a random phone call and say, “I actually don’t have a reason for calling, I was just wondering how you’re doing?”

3. Send a Thoughtful E-mail

If a co-worker has been talking about something they hope to accomplish (like writing a book or learning a new language), find a helpful article relevant to their goal and send it to them. They will appreciate the thought.

4. Offer Baby-Sitting Services

If you are a trusted friend of a couple who you know is very busy and unable to go out on dates too often, offer to hang out with the kids next weekend so they can escape the house for some much-needed alone time. Your friend will remember your kindness.

5. Check Up on Your Parents

Sometimes life gets too overwhelming and you forgot those who loved you the most. You know you don’t call your parents

6. Donate to Charity

Giving to charity is one of the easiest way to show your courtesy. How many of the clothes in your closet do you actually wear? How many toys do your kids really need? Eliminate the clutter from your home and give it to someone who needs it. You can even involve your child in the process so they learn the importance of giving.

7. Throw a Party

There is nothing better than having fun with a bunch of friends. It doesn’t have to be anything elaborate, but choose 5-10 of your closest friends and decide on a date that is convenient for all of you. Ask everyone to bring over a single dish or bottle of wine for a great night of bonding and conversation.

8. Offer Encouragement

Do you know a friend who wants to accomplish a big goal in life? Tell them that you believe they can do it and offer your support.

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9. Get people around to sign a card for a specific person.

Let say If someone around you is having a really hard time, take the initiative to get a card and have everyone in the office sign it. Show that you guys care about what happened. It would be nice to have this kind of support during harsh times.

10. Plan something special for your partner

Surprises are always great for a burst of delight. Plan a fun night-out with your partner, but don’t inform them of any of the details. You could get tickets to a live play or concert they would enjoy, reserve spots in a dance class, or simply go on a peaceful hike. Explain the proper attire, but don’t tell them the rest.

11. Celebrate their “belated birthdays”

We have all forgotten about a birthday of a close friend, but that doesn’t mean you can’t make them happy. Surprise them with a thoughtful gift days or even weeks after the fact. Write a little note saying something like, “I kinda forgot about your birthday and feel like a big goof, but hey, this present more than makes up for it, am I right?”

12. Write a Thank You Note

If someone helped you move furniture, land a job or prepare for a big project, write a note expressing your gratitude. Make sure they know that if they ever could use your help, you’d be more than happy to return the favor.

13. Dance the Night Away

This point is mostly targeted to men because I know a lot of you prefer sitting-on-the-side-lines in the club, but don’t you think your partner might like it if you joined her on the dance floor? Your manhood will not wither away and you are not going to look silly, I promise.

14. Do Some Chores

If some friends invited you over for dinner, march over to the sink and start working on the dishes without as much as asking if they could use your help. Such small favor is the courtesy you’ll need.

15. Brew a New Pot

Walking into the break room is a moment of terror that fills all coffee fiends with dread. Save your co-workers from this nightmare by brewing a new pot if you get the last cup. Such simple act of kindness won’t hurt.

16. Make People Laugh

Share a funny cartoon at the office. Tell a silly joke to your kids. Go to a stand-up comedy show with your partner. Laughter is one of the best representation of how happy you are so it’s great to make people laugh.

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17. Be a Good Listener

Do you know someone who is having a really hard time? Ask them if they would like to talk about it and listen without judgment or interruption. Sometimes the greatest gift we can offer is silence and understanding.

18. Appreciate waiters’ effort and tip Generously 

Surprise your waiter or waitress with a tip that is far above the norm. If your lunch was $10, you could make their day with $5.

19. Put Other People First

As soon as you walk inside from work, hug your children, kiss your partner, and/or rub your dog’s belly. These people have missed you all day, so express your love to them before you do anything for yourself.

20. Speak Kind Words

Send a text, email, or Facebook comment to a friend just to say they are a wonderful person and you are thankful that they are a part of your life. Even better, give a specific compliment about one of their strongest qualities as a person, like, “I just want you to know that I’m really glad we’re friends. You have a way of making me laugh when I need it the most.”

21. Write a love letter to a loved one.

Sometimes you just need to show your love directly. Then why not use the old fancy way? Not only is it romantic, it also is a good way to surprise them.

22. List the things you love about them.

There is nothing better then knowing someone that truly love you for what you are. It might just be the warmest thing ever If you can write a list about what you feel affectionate about them.

23. Express your gratitude for what is too often taken for granted

There are so much things in life that we always take for granted and they deserve some recognition. So next time if you see your mother doing all the housework for you, tell her that you are grateful to have her with you. Remember you don’t need to wait for Thanksgiving to give thanks. Go thank everyone that helped you in your life.

24. Spend quality time with them

It may not take much to be happy. All you need could be some quality time. Have a hike with a bunch of friends or even just chill and watch a good movie together. That could be all the fun you need.

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25. Say I love you.

There is no embarrassment of showing your affection to the one you loved. Remind them that you loved them just as every other day. It is nice to know that you are needed by someone in this world.

26. Help out practically with advice.

A helping hand is always a saving grace. If you found someone in trouble or misery, pure support may not be enough. Try your best to provide help.  Not only will you feel good about yourself, you might just saved someone from their rock bottom.

27. Buy them their favorite food if they have had a bad day.

Personally i found food to be one of the greatest source of happiness. A delicious meal or a delightful dessert can wipe away all your worries and bring you pure joy. So if you know someone who are struggling with things in their lives, buy them their favourite food. It could be great tool for stress relieve.

28. Hide a secret note for him or her to find.

It is the unnoticeable things that really arouse the emotions. Leave some secret note around places for people to find. Maybe just a simple line of encourage or bless. These random notes could light up someone’s day.

29. Smile

You won’t be spreading positivity if you are not showing the positivity in yourself! Smile more. Smile to everyone. Let them know that you are happy, and you want them to be happy as well.

30. Be happy yourself.

Now you have read so much on how to make somebody else happy, please do not forget above all that, you need to first be happy yourself. There is no way you can spread positivity if you yourself ain’t happy in the first place. Work on the things that you like to do, spend more time with the people you loved. Selfless does not mean that you have to sacrifice yourself for the better good, it is to share the happiness equally among you and everybody else.

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Daniel is a writer who focuses on blogging about happiness and motivation at Lifehack.

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Last Updated on January 15, 2021

7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

The popular idiomatic saying that “actions speak louder than words” has been around for centuries, but even to this day, most people struggle with at least one area of nonverbal communication. Consequently, many of us aspire to have more confident body language but don’t have the knowledge and tools necessary to change what are largely unconscious behaviors.

Given that others’ perceptions of our competence and confidence are predominantly influenced by what we do with our faces and bodies, it’s important to develop greater self-awareness and consciously practice better posture, stance, eye contact, facial expressions, hand movements, and other aspects of body language.

Posture

First things first: how is your posture? Let’s start with a quick self-assessment of your body.

  • Are your shoulders slumped over or rolled back in an upright posture?
  • When you stand up, do you evenly distribute your weight or lean excessively to one side?
  • Does your natural stance place your feet relatively shoulder-width apart or are your feet and legs close together in a closed-off position?
  • When you sit, does your lower back protrude out in a slumped position or maintain a straight, spine-friendly posture in your seat?

All of these are important considerations to make when evaluating and improving your posture and stance, which will lead to more confident body language over time. If you routinely struggle with maintaining good posture, consider buying a posture trainer/corrector, consulting a chiropractor or physical therapist, stretching daily, and strengthening both your core and back muscles.

Facial Expressions

Are you prone to any of the following in personal or professional settings?

  • Bruxism (tight, clenched jaw or grinding teeth)
  • Frowning and/or furrowing brows
  • Avoiding direct eye contact and/or staring at the ground

If you answered “yes” to any of these, then let’s start by examining various ways in which you can project confident body language through your facial expressions.

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1. Understand How Others Perceive Your Facial Expressions

A December 2020 study by UC Berkeley and Google researchers utilized a deep neural network to analyze facial expressions in six million YouTube clips representing people from over 140 countries. The study found that, despite socio-cultural differences, people around the world tended to use about 70% of the same facial expressions in response to different emotional stimuli and situations.[1]

The study’s researchers also published a fascinating interactive map to demonstrate how their machine learning technology assessed various facial expressions and determined subtle differences in emotional responses.

This study highlights the social importance of facial expressions because whether or not we’re consciously aware of them—by gazing into a mirror or your screen on a video conferencing platform—how we present our faces to others can have tremendous impacts on their perceptions of us, our confidence, and our emotional states. This awareness is the essential first step towards

2. Relax Your Face

New research on bruxism and facial tension found the stresses and anxieties of Covid-19 lockdowns led to considerable increases in orofacial pain, jaw-clenching, and teeth grinding, particularly among women.[2]

The National Institute of Dental and Craniofacial Research estimates that more than 10 million Americans alone have temporomandibular joint dysfunction (TMJ syndrome), and facial tension can lead to other complications such as insomnia, wrinkles, dry skin, and dark, puffy bags under your eyes.[3])

To avoid these unpleasant outcomes, start practicing progressive muscle relaxation techniques and taking breaks more frequently throughout the day to moderate facial tension.[4] You should also try out some biofeedback techniques to enhance your awareness of involuntary bodily processes like facial tension and achieve more confident body language as a result.[5]

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3. Improve Your Eye Contact

Did you know there’s an entire subfield of kinesic communication research dedicated to eye movements and behaviors called oculesics?[6] It refers to various communication behaviors including direct eye contact, averting one’s gaze, pupil dilation/constriction, and even frequency of blinking. All of these qualities can shape how other people perceive you, which means that eye contact is yet another area of nonverbal body language that we should be more mindful of in social interactions.

The ideal type (direct/indirect) and duration of eye contact depends on a variety of factors, such as cultural setting, differences in power/authority/age between the parties involved, and communication context. Research has shown that differences in the effects of eye contact are particularly prominent when comparing East Asian and Western European/North American cultures.[7]

To improve your eye contact with others, strive to maintain consistent contact for at least 3 to 4 seconds at a time, consciously consider where you’re looking while listening to someone else, and practice eye contact as much as possible (as strange as this may seem in the beginning, it’s the best way to improve).

3. Smile More

There are many benefits to smiling and laughing, and when it comes to working on more confident body language, this is an area that should be fun, low-stakes, and relatively stress-free.

Smiling is associated with the “happiness chemical” dopamine and the mood-stabilizing hormone, serotonin. Many empirical studies have shown that smiling generally leads to positive outcomes for the person smiling, and further research has shown that smiling can influence listeners’ perceptions of our confidence and trustworthiness as well.

4. Hand Gestures

Similar to facial expressions and posture, what you do with your hands while speaking or listening in a conversation can significantly influence others’ perceptions of you in positive or negative ways.

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It’s undoubtedly challenging to consciously account for all of your nonverbal signals while simultaneously trying to stay engaged with the verbal part of the discussion, but putting in the effort to develop more bodily awareness now will make it much easier to unconsciously project more confident body language later on.

5. Enhance Your Handshake

In the article, “An Anthropology of the Handshake,” University of Copenhagen social anthropology professor Bjarke Oxlund assessed the future of handshaking in wake of the Covid-19 pandemic:[8]

“Handshakes not only vary in function and meaning but do so according to social context, situation and scale. . . a public discussion should ensue on the advantages and disadvantages of holding on to the tradition of shaking hands as the conventional gesture of greeting and leave-taking in a variety of circumstances.”

It’s too early to determine some of the ways in which Covid-19 has permanently changed our social norms and professional etiquette standards, but it’s reasonable to assume that handshaking may retain its importance in American society even after this pandemic. To practice more confident body language in the meantime, the video on the science of the perfect handshake below explains what you need to know.

6. Complement Your Verbals With Hand Gestures

As you know by now, confident communication involves so much more than simply smiling more or sounding like you know what you’re talking about. What you do with your hands can be particularly influential in how others perceive you, whether you’re fidgeting with an object, clenching your fists, hiding your hands in your pockets, or calmly gesturing to emphasize important points you’re discussing.

Social psychology researchers have found that “iconic gestures”—hand movements that appear to be meaningfully related to the speaker’s verbal content—can have profound impacts on listeners’ information retention. In other words, people are more likely to engage with you and remember more of what you said when you speak with complementary hand gestures instead of just your voice.[9]

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Further research on hand gestures has shown that even your choice of the left or right hand for gesturing can influence your ability to clearly convey information to listeners, which supports the notion that more confident body language is readily achievable through greater self-awareness and deliberate nonverbal actions.[10]

Final Takeaways

Developing better posture, enhancing your facial expressiveness, and practicing hand gestures can vastly improve your communication with other people. At first, it will be challenging to consciously practice nonverbal behaviors that many of us are accustomed to performing daily without thinking about them.

If you ever feel discouraged, however, remember that there’s no downside to consistently putting in just a little more time and effort to increase your bodily awareness. With the tips and strategies above, you’ll be well on your way to embracing more confident body language and amplifying others’ perceptions of you in no time.

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