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20 Simple Ways To Make Someone Happy

20 Simple Ways To Make Someone Happy

Happiness is something that we all wanted. It could even be somebody’s life goal. Could you imagine how beautiful our world would be if everyone of us could spend some time everyday and do one thing that lift someone up in the midst of their misery?

Happiness may not simply be a feel good emotion, but a weapon to fight all of the negativity in the cruelty of reality.

The thought of “why should we should be the good person while no one has done any good to us” always cross my mind. Turns out doing good deeds have might benefits than you may ever thought.

Benefits Of Making Someone Happy

Relieve Stress

Research on the relationship between volunteering and hypertension had shown that charitable work have significant impact on blood pressure. Those who volunteer more are less likely to develop hypertension in a 4 year period.

Higher life expectancy

It is scientifically proved that giving and unselfishness have a link to a lower risk of early death. Various other reports have also show that regular volunteers have a better health and lower mortality rate.

Better relationships

Being unselfish makes you a better partner! A study of over 10,000 people ages 20-25 from 33 countries found that kindness was more attractive than good looks. Kindness is a sign of gratitude, and gratitude is definitely important in building a relationship.

Make you want to help someone again

A 2012 study published in Psychological Science found that thinking about times you’ve helped others will make you want to help others again. Thinking of the time that you give rather than receive would make you willing to help people again and again.

Fewer negative emotions

There is no doubt that a random act of kindness would bring happiness. It is known to have a connection between kindness, volunteering and altruism with less depression. Studies of people fighting disease, chronic pain, and emotional trauma have also shown that kindness can help them cope better and combat negative emotions.

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Things You Can Do To Make Someone Happy!

1. Make Eye Contact with strangers, smile and Say “Hello” 

Don’t be shy! A random “Hello” or a small talk could be sign of acknowledgement and appreciation of their existence. Such a small gesture could have already save someone’s day. Try this next time when you met someone new!

2. Call a Friend for No Reason

Most of us resort to texting these days and save phone calls for when we need something. But actually sometimes all we need for happiness is just a good chat. Surprise a friend with a random phone call and say, “I actually don’t have a reason for calling, I was just wondering how you’re doing?”

3. Send a Thoughtful E-mail

If a co-worker has been talking about something they hope to accomplish (like writing a book or learning a new language), find a helpful article relevant to their goal and send it to them. They will appreciate the thought.

4. Offer Baby-Sitting Services

If you are a trusted friend of a couple who you know is very busy and unable to go out on dates too often, offer to hang out with the kids next weekend so they can escape the house for some much-needed alone time. Your friend will remember your kindness.

5. Check Up on Your Parents

Sometimes life gets too overwhelming and you forgot those who loved you the most. You know you don’t call your parents

6. Donate to Charity

Giving to charity is one of the easiest way to show your courtesy. How many of the clothes in your closet do you actually wear? How many toys do your kids really need? Eliminate the clutter from your home and give it to someone who needs it. You can even involve your child in the process so they learn the importance of giving.

7. Throw a Party

There is nothing better than having fun with a bunch of friends. It doesn’t have to be anything elaborate, but choose 5-10 of your closest friends and decide on a date that is convenient for all of you. Ask everyone to bring over a single dish or bottle of wine for a great night of bonding and conversation.

8. Offer Encouragement

Do you know a friend who wants to accomplish a big goal in life? Tell them that you believe they can do it and offer your support.

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9. Get people around to sign a card for a specific person.

Let say If someone around you is having a really hard time, take the initiative to get a card and have everyone in the office sign it. Show that you guys care about what happened. It would be nice to have this kind of support during harsh times.

10. Plan something special for your partner

Surprises are always great for a burst of delight. Plan a fun night-out with your partner, but don’t inform them of any of the details. You could get tickets to a live play or concert they would enjoy, reserve spots in a dance class, or simply go on a peaceful hike. Explain the proper attire, but don’t tell them the rest.

11. Celebrate their “belated birthdays”

We have all forgotten about a birthday of a close friend, but that doesn’t mean you can’t make them happy. Surprise them with a thoughtful gift days or even weeks after the fact. Write a little note saying something like, “I kinda forgot about your birthday and feel like a big goof, but hey, this present more than makes up for it, am I right?”

12. Write a Thank You Note

If someone helped you move furniture, land a job or prepare for a big project, write a note expressing your gratitude. Make sure they know that if they ever could use your help, you’d be more than happy to return the favor.

13. Dance the Night Away

This point is mostly targeted to men because I know a lot of you prefer sitting-on-the-side-lines in the club, but don’t you think your partner might like it if you joined her on the dance floor? Your manhood will not wither away and you are not going to look silly, I promise.

14. Do Some Chores

If some friends invited you over for dinner, march over to the sink and start working on the dishes without as much as asking if they could use your help. Such small favor is the courtesy you’ll need.

15. Brew a New Pot

Walking into the break room is a moment of terror that fills all coffee fiends with dread. Save your co-workers from this nightmare by brewing a new pot if you get the last cup. Such simple act of kindness won’t hurt.

16. Make People Laugh

Share a funny cartoon at the office. Tell a silly joke to your kids. Go to a stand-up comedy show with your partner. Laughter is one of the best representation of how happy you are so it’s great to make people laugh.

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17. Be a Good Listener

Do you know someone who is having a really hard time? Ask them if they would like to talk about it and listen without judgment or interruption. Sometimes the greatest gift we can offer is silence and understanding.

18. Appreciate waiters’ effort and tip Generously 

Surprise your waiter or waitress with a tip that is far above the norm. If your lunch was $10, you could make their day with $5.

19. Put Other People First

As soon as you walk inside from work, hug your children, kiss your partner, and/or rub your dog’s belly. These people have missed you all day, so express your love to them before you do anything for yourself.

20. Speak Kind Words

Send a text, email, or Facebook comment to a friend just to say they are a wonderful person and you are thankful that they are a part of your life. Even better, give a specific compliment about one of their strongest qualities as a person, like, “I just want you to know that I’m really glad we’re friends. You have a way of making me laugh when I need it the most.”

21. Write a love letter to a loved one.

Sometimes you just need to show your love directly. Then why not use the old fancy way? Not only is it romantic, it also is a good way to surprise them.

22. List the things you love about them.

There is nothing better then knowing someone that truly love you for what you are. It might just be the warmest thing ever If you can write a list about what you feel affectionate about them.

23. Express your gratitude for what is too often taken for granted

There are so much things in life that we always take for granted and they deserve some recognition. So next time if you see your mother doing all the housework for you, tell her that you are grateful to have her with you. Remember you don’t need to wait for Thanksgiving to give thanks. Go thank everyone that helped you in your life.

24. Spend quality time with them

It may not take much to be happy. All you need could be some quality time. Have a hike with a bunch of friends or even just chill and watch a good movie together. That could be all the fun you need.

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25. Say I love you.

There is no embarrassment of showing your affection to the one you loved. Remind them that you loved them just as every other day. It is nice to know that you are needed by someone in this world.

26. Help out practically with advice.

A helping hand is always a saving grace. If you found someone in trouble or misery, pure support may not be enough. Try your best to provide help.  Not only will you feel good about yourself, you might just saved someone from their rock bottom.

27. Buy them their favorite food if they have had a bad day.

Personally i found food to be one of the greatest source of happiness. A delicious meal or a delightful dessert can wipe away all your worries and bring you pure joy. So if you know someone who are struggling with things in their lives, buy them their favourite food. It could be great tool for stress relieve.

28. Hide a secret note for him or her to find.

It is the unnoticeable things that really arouse the emotions. Leave some secret note around places for people to find. Maybe just a simple line of encourage or bless. These random notes could light up someone’s day.

29. Smile

You won’t be spreading positivity if you are not showing the positivity in yourself! Smile more. Smile to everyone. Let them know that you are happy, and you want them to be happy as well.

30. Be happy yourself.

Now you have read so much on how to make somebody else happy, please do not forget above all that, you need to first be happy yourself. There is no way you can spread positivity if you yourself ain’t happy in the first place. Work on the things that you like to do, spend more time with the people you loved. Selfless does not mean that you have to sacrifice yourself for the better good, it is to share the happiness equally among you and everybody else.

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Daniel is a writer who focuses on blogging about happiness and motivation at Lifehack.

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Published on September 23, 2020

6 Effective Negotiation Skills to Master

6 Effective Negotiation Skills to Master

I don’t know about you, but many times when I hear the word negotiate I think of lawyers working out a business deal or having to do battle with a car salesman to try to get a lower price. Since I am in recruiting, the term “negotiation” comes up when someone is attempting to get a higher compensation package.

If we think about it, we tend to negotiate almost every day in a wide variety of things we do. Getting a handle on the important negotiation skills can be incredibly beneficial in many parts of our lives. Let’s take a look at 6 effective negotiation skills to master.

What is Negotiation?

First, let’s take a look at what negotiation is. Put simply, negotiation is a method by which people settle their differences. It is a process in which compromise or agreement can be reached without argument or dispute.

Anytime two people or sides disagree on something, they are almost always looking for the best possible outcome for their side. This could be from an individual’s perspective or someone representing an organization.

In reality, it’s rare that one side gets everything they want and the other side gets nothing that they are seeking. Seeking to reach a common ground of sorts where both sides feel like they are getting most of what they want is the key to being successful and maintaining the relationship.

Places We Negotiate

I’ve mentioned that we negotiate in just about all phases of our life. For those of you who are shaking your head no, I invite you to think about the following:

1. Work/Business

This one is the most obvious and it’s what naturally comes to mind when we think of the word “negotiate”.

When you first started at your current job, you might have asked for a higher salary. It could be that you delivered a huge new client to your company and used this as leverage in your most recent evaluation for more compensation. If you work with vendors (and just about every company does), maybe you worked them to a lower price or better contract terms.

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In recruiting, I negotiate with candidates and hiring managers all the time to land the best talent I can find. It’s very common to accept additional work with the (sometimes spoken, sometimes unspoken) agreement that it will benefit your career in the future.

Recently, I took over a project that was my boss was working on so that I would be able to attend a conference later in the year. And so it goes, we do this all day long at work.

2. Personal

I don’t know about you, but I negotiate with my spouse all the time. I’ll cook dinner with the understanding that she does the dishes. Who wants to mow the lawn and who wants to vacuum and dust the house?

I think we should save 10% for retirement, but she thinks 5% is plenty. Therefore, we save 8%. And don’t even get me started with my kids. My older daughter can borrow my car as soon as she finishes her chores. My younger daughter can go hang out with her friends when her homework is done.

Then, there are all those interactions in our personal lives outside our homes. The carpenter wants to charge me $12,000 to build a new deck. I think $10,000 is plenty so we agree on $11,000. I ask my neighbor if I can borrow his snowblower in the winter if I invite him over the next time I grill steak. And so on.

3. Ourselves

You didn’t expect this one, did you? We negotiate with ourselves all day long.

I’ll make sure I don’t skip my workout tomorrow since I’m going to have that extra piece of pizza. My spouse has been quiet the last few days, is it worth me asking her about, or should I leave it alone? I think the car place charged me for some repairs that weren’t needed, should I say something or just let it go? I know my friend has been having some personal challenges, should I check in with him? We’ve been friends for a long time, I’m sure he’d come to me if he needed help. I’ve got the #4 pick in this year’s Fantasy Football draft, should I choose a running back or a wide receiver?

Think about that non-stop voice inside your head. It always seems to be chattering away about something and many times, it’s us negotiating with ourselves. I’ll finish up that report that the boss needs before I turn on the football game.

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Why Negotiation Skills Are So Important

Put simply, negotiation skills are important because we all interact with other people, and not only other people but other organizations and groups of people as well.

We all rarely want the same thing or outcome. Most of the time a vendor is looking at getting you to pay a higher price for something than you want to spend. Therefore, it’s important to negotiate to some middle ground that works well for both sides.

My wife and I disagree on how much to save for retirement. If we weren’t married it wouldn’t be an issue. We’d each contribute how much we wanted to on our retirement funds. We choose to be married, so we have to come to some agreement that we both feel comfortable with. We have to compromise. Therefore, we have to negotiate.

If we each lived on a planet by ourselves, we would be free to do just about anything we wanted to. We wouldn’t have to compromise with anyone because we wouldn’t interact with anyone. We would make every choice unilaterally the way we wanted to.

As we all know, this isn’t how things are. We are constantly interacting with other people and organizations, each one with their own agenda’s, viewpoints, and opinions. Therefore, we have to be able to work together.

6 Negotiation Skills to Master

Having strong negotiation skills helps us create win-win situations with others, allowing us to get most of what we want in conjunction with others around us.

Now, let’s look at 6 effective negotiation skills to master.

1. Preparation

Preparation is a key place to start with when getting ready to negotiate. Being prepared means having a clear vision of what you want and how you’d go about achieving it. It means knowing what the end goal looks like and also what you are willing to give to get it.

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It also means knowing who you are negotiating with and what areas they might be willing to compromise on. You should also know what your “bottom line” is. By “bottom line” I mean what is the most you are willing to give up to get what you want.

For instance, several years ago, I decided it was time to get a newer car. I say newer because I wanted a “new to me” car, not a brand new car. I did my research and figured out what type of car I wanted. I decided on what must-have items on the car I wanted, the highest amount of miles that would already be on it, the colors I was willing to get it in, and the highest amount of money I was willing to pay.

After visiting numerous car dealerships I was able to negotiate buying a car. I knew what I was willing to give up (amount of money) and what I was willing to accept, things like the color, amount of miles, etc. I came prepared. This is critical.

2. Clear Communication

The next key skill you need to be an effective negotiator is clear communication. You have to be able to clearly articulate what you want to the other party. This means both clear verbal and written communication.

If you can’t clearly tell the other person what you want, how do you expect to get it? Have you ever worked through something with a vendor or someone else only to learn of a surprise right at the end that wasn’t talked about before? This is not what you would call clear communication. It’s essential to be able to share a coherent and logical vision with the person you are working with.

3. Active Listening

Let’s do a quick review of active listening. This is when you are completely focused on the speaker, understand their message, comprehend the information, and respond appropriately. This is a necessary ingredient to be able to negotiate successfully. You must be able to fully focus on the other person’s wants to completely understand them.

If you aren’t giving them your full attention, you may miss some major points or details. This leads to frustration down the road on both sides. Ensure you are employing your active listening skills when in arbitration mode.

4. Teamwork and Collaboration

To be able to get to a place of common ground and a win-win scenario, you have to have a sense of teamwork and collaboration.

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If you are only thinking about yourself and what you want without giving much care to what the other person is wanting, you are bound to wind up without a solution. The other person may get frustrated and give up if they see you are unwilling to meet them halfway or care little for what they want.

When you collaborate, you are working together to help each other get what is most important to you. The other upside to negotiating with a sense of teamwork and collaboration is that it helps create a sense of trust, which, in turn, helps provide positive energy for working to a successful conclusion.

5. Problem Solving

Problem-solving is another key negotiation skill. When you are working with the other person to get the deal done many times you’ll face new challenges along the way.

Maybe you want a new vendor to provide training on the software they are selling you but they say it’s going to cost an additional $20,000 to provide this service. If you don’t have the additional $20,000 in the budget to spend on the software but you feel the training is critical, how are you going to solve that problem?

From what I’ve seen, most vendors aren’t willing to provide additional services without getting paid for them. This is where problem-solving skills will help continue the discussions. You might suggest to the vendor that your company will also be looking to replace their financial software next year, and you’d be happy to ensure they get one of the first seats at the table when the time comes if they could perhaps lower the pricing on their training.

There’s a solution to most challenges, but it takes problem-solving skills to work through them effectively.

6. Decision-Making Ability

Finally, having strong decision-making ability will help you seal the deal when you get to a place where everyone feels like they are getting what works for them. Each step of the way you can cross off the list when you get what you are looking for and decide to move onto the next item. Then, once you have all of your must-have boxes checked and the other side feels good about things, it’s time to shake hands and sign on the dotted line. Powerful decision-making ability will help you get to the finish line together.

Conclusion

There you have it, 6 effective negotiation skills to master to lead a more fulfilling life. Once we realize that we negotiate in one form or another almost every day in every phase of our lives, we realize how critical a skill it is.

Possessing strong negotiation skills will help you in nearly every one of your relationships at both the workplace and in your personal life. If you feel your arbitration tools could use some sharpening, try some of the 6 effective negotiation skills to master that we’ve talked about.

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