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20 Simple Ways To Make Someone Happy

20 Simple Ways To Make Someone Happy

Happiness is something that we all wanted. It could even be somebody’s life goal. Could you imagine how beautiful our world would be if everyone of us could spend some time everyday and do one thing that lift someone up in the midst of their misery?

Happiness may not simply be a feel good emotion, but a weapon to fight all of the negativity in the cruelty of reality.

The thought of “why should we should be the good person while no one has done any good to us” always cross my mind. Turns out doing good deeds have might benefits than you may ever thought.

Benefits Of Making Someone Happy

Relieve Stress

Research on the relationship between volunteering and hypertension had shown that charitable work have significant impact on blood pressure. Those who volunteer more are less likely to develop hypertension in a 4 year period.

Higher life expectancy

It is scientifically proved that giving and unselfishness have a link to a lower risk of early death. Various other reports have also show that regular volunteers have a better health and lower mortality rate.

Better relationships

Being unselfish makes you a better partner! A study of over 10,000 people ages 20-25 from 33 countries found that kindness was more attractive than good looks. Kindness is a sign of gratitude, and gratitude is definitely important in building a relationship.

Make you want to help someone again

A 2012 study published in Psychological Science found that thinking about times you’ve helped others will make you want to help others again. Thinking of the time that you give rather than receive would make you willing to help people again and again.

Fewer negative emotions

There is no doubt that a random act of kindness would bring happiness. It is known to have a connection between kindness, volunteering and altruism with less depression. Studies of people fighting disease, chronic pain, and emotional trauma have also shown that kindness can help them cope better and combat negative emotions.

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Things You Can Do To Make Someone Happy!

1. Make Eye Contact with strangers, smile and Say “Hello” 

Don’t be shy! A random “Hello” or a small talk could be sign of acknowledgement and appreciation of their existence. Such a small gesture could have already save someone’s day. Try this next time when you met someone new!

2. Call a Friend for No Reason

Most of us resort to texting these days and save phone calls for when we need something. But actually sometimes all we need for happiness is just a good chat. Surprise a friend with a random phone call and say, “I actually don’t have a reason for calling, I was just wondering how you’re doing?”

3. Send a Thoughtful E-mail

If a co-worker has been talking about something they hope to accomplish (like writing a book or learning a new language), find a helpful article relevant to their goal and send it to them. They will appreciate the thought.

4. Offer Baby-Sitting Services

If you are a trusted friend of a couple who you know is very busy and unable to go out on dates too often, offer to hang out with the kids next weekend so they can escape the house for some much-needed alone time. Your friend will remember your kindness.

5. Check Up on Your Parents

Sometimes life gets too overwhelming and you forgot those who loved you the most. You know you don’t call your parents

6. Donate to Charity

Giving to charity is one of the easiest way to show your courtesy. How many of the clothes in your closet do you actually wear? How many toys do your kids really need? Eliminate the clutter from your home and give it to someone who needs it. You can even involve your child in the process so they learn the importance of giving.

7. Throw a Party

There is nothing better than having fun with a bunch of friends. It doesn’t have to be anything elaborate, but choose 5-10 of your closest friends and decide on a date that is convenient for all of you. Ask everyone to bring over a single dish or bottle of wine for a great night of bonding and conversation.

8. Offer Encouragement

Do you know a friend who wants to accomplish a big goal in life? Tell them that you believe they can do it and offer your support.

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9. Get people around to sign a card for a specific person.

Let say If someone around you is having a really hard time, take the initiative to get a card and have everyone in the office sign it. Show that you guys care about what happened. It would be nice to have this kind of support during harsh times.

10. Plan something special for your partner

Surprises are always great for a burst of delight. Plan a fun night-out with your partner, but don’t inform them of any of the details. You could get tickets to a live play or concert they would enjoy, reserve spots in a dance class, or simply go on a peaceful hike. Explain the proper attire, but don’t tell them the rest.

11. Celebrate their “belated birthdays”

We have all forgotten about a birthday of a close friend, but that doesn’t mean you can’t make them happy. Surprise them with a thoughtful gift days or even weeks after the fact. Write a little note saying something like, “I kinda forgot about your birthday and feel like a big goof, but hey, this present more than makes up for it, am I right?”

12. Write a Thank You Note

If someone helped you move furniture, land a job or prepare for a big project, write a note expressing your gratitude. Make sure they know that if they ever could use your help, you’d be more than happy to return the favor.

13. Dance the Night Away

This point is mostly targeted to men because I know a lot of you prefer sitting-on-the-side-lines in the club, but don’t you think your partner might like it if you joined her on the dance floor? Your manhood will not wither away and you are not going to look silly, I promise.

14. Do Some Chores

If some friends invited you over for dinner, march over to the sink and start working on the dishes without as much as asking if they could use your help. Such small favor is the courtesy you’ll need.

15. Brew a New Pot

Walking into the break room is a moment of terror that fills all coffee fiends with dread. Save your co-workers from this nightmare by brewing a new pot if you get the last cup. Such simple act of kindness won’t hurt.

16. Make People Laugh

Share a funny cartoon at the office. Tell a silly joke to your kids. Go to a stand-up comedy show with your partner. Laughter is one of the best representation of how happy you are so it’s great to make people laugh.

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17. Be a Good Listener

Do you know someone who is having a really hard time? Ask them if they would like to talk about it and listen without judgment or interruption. Sometimes the greatest gift we can offer is silence and understanding.

18. Appreciate waiters’ effort and tip Generously 

Surprise your waiter or waitress with a tip that is far above the norm. If your lunch was $10, you could make their day with $5.

19. Put Other People First

As soon as you walk inside from work, hug your children, kiss your partner, and/or rub your dog’s belly. These people have missed you all day, so express your love to them before you do anything for yourself.

20. Speak Kind Words

Send a text, email, or Facebook comment to a friend just to say they are a wonderful person and you are thankful that they are a part of your life. Even better, give a specific compliment about one of their strongest qualities as a person, like, “I just want you to know that I’m really glad we’re friends. You have a way of making me laugh when I need it the most.”

21. Write a love letter to a loved one.

Sometimes you just need to show your love directly. Then why not use the old fancy way? Not only is it romantic, it also is a good way to surprise them.

22. List the things you love about them.

There is nothing better then knowing someone that truly love you for what you are. It might just be the warmest thing ever If you can write a list about what you feel affectionate about them.

23. Express your gratitude for what is too often taken for granted

There are so much things in life that we always take for granted and they deserve some recognition. So next time if you see your mother doing all the housework for you, tell her that you are grateful to have her with you. Remember you don’t need to wait for Thanksgiving to give thanks. Go thank everyone that helped you in your life.

24. Spend quality time with them

It may not take much to be happy. All you need could be some quality time. Have a hike with a bunch of friends or even just chill and watch a good movie together. That could be all the fun you need.

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25. Say I love you.

There is no embarrassment of showing your affection to the one you loved. Remind them that you loved them just as every other day. It is nice to know that you are needed by someone in this world.

26. Help out practically with advice.

A helping hand is always a saving grace. If you found someone in trouble or misery, pure support may not be enough. Try your best to provide help.  Not only will you feel good about yourself, you might just saved someone from their rock bottom.

27. Buy them their favorite food if they have had a bad day.

Personally i found food to be one of the greatest source of happiness. A delicious meal or a delightful dessert can wipe away all your worries and bring you pure joy. So if you know someone who are struggling with things in their lives, buy them their favourite food. It could be great tool for stress relieve.

28. Hide a secret note for him or her to find.

It is the unnoticeable things that really arouse the emotions. Leave some secret note around places for people to find. Maybe just a simple line of encourage or bless. These random notes could light up someone’s day.

29. Smile

You won’t be spreading positivity if you are not showing the positivity in yourself! Smile more. Smile to everyone. Let them know that you are happy, and you want them to be happy as well.

30. Be happy yourself.

Now you have read so much on how to make somebody else happy, please do not forget above all that, you need to first be happy yourself. There is no way you can spread positivity if you yourself ain’t happy in the first place. Work on the things that you like to do, spend more time with the people you loved. Selfless does not mean that you have to sacrifice yourself for the better good, it is to share the happiness equally among you and everybody else.

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Daniel is a writer who focuses on blogging about happiness and motivation at Lifehack.

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Last Updated on March 30, 2020

What Does Self-Conscious Mean? (And How to Stop Being It)

What Does Self-Conscious Mean? (And How to Stop Being It)

Have you ever walked into a room and felt like your nerves simply couldn’t handle it? Your heart beats fast, you start to sweat, and you feel like all eyes are on you (even if they’re really not). This is just one of the many ways that being self-conscious can rear its ugly head.

You may not even realize you’re self-conscious, and you may be wondering, “What does self-conscious mean?” That’s a good place to start.

This article will define self-consciousness, show how practically everyone has faced it at one point or another, and give you tips to avoid it.

What Does Self-Conscious Mean?

According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, self-conscious is defined as “conscious of one’s own acts or states as belonging to or originating in oneself.”[1]

Not so bad, right? There’s another definition, though — one that speaks more to what you’re going through: “feeling uncomfortably conscious of oneself as an object of the observation of others.” For those of us who regularly deal with extreme self-consciousness, that second definition sounds about right.

There are many different ways self-consciousness can spring up. You may feel self-conscious around people you know, like your family members or closest friends. You may feel self-conscious at work, even though you spend hours every week around your co-workers. Or you may feel self-conscious when out in public and surrounded by strangers. However, you probably don’t feel self-conscious when you’re home alone.

How to Stop Being Too Self-Conscious

When you’re in the throes of self-consciousness, it’s nearly impossible to remember how to stop feeling that way. That’s why it’s so important to prepare ahead of time, when you’re feeling ready to tackle the problem instead of succumbing to it.

Here are a variety of ways to feel better about yourself and stop thinking about how others see you.

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1. Ask Yourself, “So What?”

One way to banish negative, self-conscious thoughts is to do just that: banish them.

The next time you walk into a room and feel your face getting red, think to yourself, “So what?” How much does it really matter if people don’t like how you look or act? What’s the worst that could happen?

Most of the time, you’ll find that you don’t have a good answer to this question. Then, you can immediately start assigning such thoughts less importance. With self-awareness, you can acknowledge that your negative thoughts are present and realize that you don’t agree with them.[2] They’re just thoughts, after all.

2. Be Honest

A lie that self-consciousness might tell is that there’s one way to act or feel. Honestly, though, everyone else is just figuring life out as well. There isn’t a preferred way to show up to an event, gathering, or public place. What you can do is be honest with your feelings and thoughts.[3]

If you feel offended by something someone says, you don’t have to smile to be polite or laugh to fit in with the crowd. Instead, you can politely say why you disagree or excuse yourself and find a group of people who you relate to better. If you’re nervous, don’t overcompensate by trying to look relaxed and casual — it’ll be obvious you’re putting on a front. Instead, nothing is more endearing than saying, “I’m a little nervous!” to a room of people who probably feel the exact same way.

On the same note, if you don’t understand why someone wants you to do something, question it. You can do this at work, at home, or even with people you don’t know well. Nobody should force you to do something you don’t want to do.

Also, even if you’re willing to do what’s asked of you, there’s nothing wrong with asking for more clarification. People will realize that you’re not a person to be bossed around.

3. Understand Why You’re Struggling at Work

Being self-conscious at work can get in the way of your daily responsibilities, your relationships with co-workers, and even your career as a whole. If you’re facing some sort of conflict but you’re too nervous to speak up, you may be at the whim of what happens to you instead of taking some control.

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If you’re usually confident at work, you may be wondering where this new self-consciousness is coming from. It’s possible that you’re dealing with burnout.[4] Common signs are anxiety, fatigue and distraction, all of which can leave you feeling under-confident.

4. Succeed at Something

When you create success in your life, it’s easier to feel confident[5] and less self-conscious. If you feel self-conscious at work, finish the project that’s been looming over your head. If you feel self-conscious in the gym, complete an advanced workout class.

Exposing yourself to what you’re scared of and then succeeding at it in some way (even just by finishing it) can do wonders for your self-esteem. The more confidence you build, the more likely you are to have more success in the future, which will create a cycle of confidence-building.

5. Treat All of You — Not Just Your Self-Consciousness

Trying to solve your self-consciousness alone may not treat the root of the problem. Instead, take a well-rounded approach to lower your self-consciousness and build confidence in areas where you may struggle.

Even professional counselors are embracing this holistic type of treatment[6] because they feel that the health of the mind and body are inextricably linked. This approach combines physical, spiritual, and psychological components. Common activities and treatments include meditation, yoga, massage, and healthy changes to diet and exercise.

If much of this is new to you, it will pay to give it a try. You never know how it will impact you.

If you’re feeling self-conscious about how your body looks, a massage that makes you feel great could boost your confidence. If you try a new workout, you could have something exciting to talk about the next time you’re in a group setting.

Putting yourself in a new situation and learning that you can get through it with grace can give you the confidence to get through all sorts of events and nerve-wracking moments.

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6. Make the Changes That Are Within Your Control

Let’s say you walk into a room and you’re self-conscious about how you look. However, you may have put a lot of time and effort into your outfit. Even though it may stand out, this is how you have chosen to express yourself.

You have to work on your internal confidence, not your external appearance. There’s nothing to change other than your outlook.

On the other hand, maybe there’s something that you don’t like about yourself that you can change. For example, maybe you hate how a birthmark on your face looks or have varicose veins that you think are unsightly. If you can do something about these things, do it! There’s nothing wrong with changing your appearance (or skills, education, etc.) if it’s going to make you more confident.

You don’t have to accept your current situation for acceptance’s sake. There’s no award for putting up with something you hate. Confidence is also required to make changes that are scary, even if they’re for the better. Plus, it may be an easier fix than you thought. For example, treating varicose veins doesn’t have to involve surgery — sometimes simple compression stockings will take care of the problem.[7]

7. Realize That Everyone Has Awkward Moments

Everyone has said something awkward to someone else and lived to tell the tale. We’ve all forgotten somebody’s name or said, “You too!” when the concession stand girl says to enjoy our movie. Not only are these things uber-common, but they’re not nearly as embarrassing as you feel they are.

Think about how you react when someone else does something awkward. Do you think, “Wow, that person’s such a loser!” or do you think, “What a relief, I’m not the only one who does that.” Chances are good that’s the same reaction others have to you when you stumble.

Remember, self-consciousness is a state of mind that you have control over. You don’t have to feel this way. Do what you need to in order to build your confidence, put your self-consciousness in perspective, and start exercising your “I feel awesome about myself” muscle. It’ll get easier with time.

When Is Being Self-Conscious a Good Thing?

Self-consciousness can sometimes be a good thing[8], but you have to take the awkwardness and nerves out of it.

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In this case, “self-aware” is a much better term. Knowing how you come off to people is an excellent trait; you’ll be able to read a room and understand how what you do and say affects others. These are fantastic skills for people work and personal relationships.

Self-awareness helps you dress appropriately for the occasion, tells you that you’re talking too loud or not loud enough, and guides a conversation so you don’t offend or bore anyone.

It’s not about being someone you’re not — that can actually have adverse effects, just like self-consciousness. Instead, it’s about turning up certain aspects of yourself to perform well in the situation.

Final Thoughts

When you’re self-conscious, you’re constantly battling with yourself in an effort to control how other people view you. You try to change yourself to suit what you think other people want to see.

The truth, though, is that you can’t actually control how other people view you — and you may not even be correct about how they view you in the first place.

Being confident doesn’t happen overnight. Instead, it happens in small steps as you slowly build your confidence and say “no” to your self-consciousness. It also requires accepting that you’re going to feel self-conscious sometimes, and that’s okay.

Sometimes worrying that there is a problem can be more stressful than the problem itself. Feeling bad for feeling self-conscious can be more troublesome than simply feeling it and getting on with the day.

Forgive yourself for being human and make the small changes that will lead to better confidence in the future.

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Featured photo credit: Cata via unsplash.com

Reference

[1] Merriam-Webster: Self-conscious
[2] Bustle: 7 Tips On How To Stop Feeling Self-Conscious
[3] Marc and Angel: 10 Things to Remember When You Feel Unsure of Yourself
[4] Bostitch: How to Protect Small Businesses From Burnout
[5] Psychology Today: Self-conscious? Get Over It
[6] Wake Forest University: Embracing Holistic Medicine
[7] Center for Vein Restoration: What Causes Venous Ulcers, and How Are They Treated?
[8] Scientific American: The Pros and Cons of Being Self-Aware

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