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20 Simple Ways To Make Someone Happy

20 Simple Ways To Make Someone Happy

Happiness is something that we all wanted. It could even be somebody’s life goal. Could you imagine how beautiful our world would be if everyone of us could spend some time everyday and do one thing that lift someone up in the midst of their misery?

Happiness may not simply be a feel good emotion, but a weapon to fight all of the negativity in the cruelty of reality.

The thought of “why should we should be the good person while no one has done any good to us” always cross my mind. Turns out doing good deeds have might benefits than you may ever thought.

Benefits Of Making Someone Happy

Relieve Stress

Research on the relationship between volunteering and hypertension had shown that charitable work have significant impact on blood pressure. Those who volunteer more are less likely to develop hypertension in a 4 year period.

Higher life expectancy

It is scientifically proved that giving and unselfishness have a link to a lower risk of early death. Various other reports have also show that regular volunteers have a better health and lower mortality rate.

Better relationships

Being unselfish makes you a better partner! A study of over 10,000 people ages 20-25 from 33 countries found that kindness was more attractive than good looks. Kindness is a sign of gratitude, and gratitude is definitely important in building a relationship.

Make you want to help someone again

A 2012 study published in Psychological Science found that thinking about times you’ve helped others will make you want to help others again. Thinking of the time that you give rather than receive would make you willing to help people again and again.

Fewer negative emotions

There is no doubt that a random act of kindness would bring happiness. It is known to have a connection between kindness, volunteering and altruism with less depression. Studies of people fighting disease, chronic pain, and emotional trauma have also shown that kindness can help them cope better and combat negative emotions.

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Things You Can Do To Make Someone Happy!

1. Make Eye Contact with strangers, smile and Say “Hello” 

Don’t be shy! A random “Hello” or a small talk could be sign of acknowledgement and appreciation of their existence. Such a small gesture could have already save someone’s day. Try this next time when you met someone new!

2. Call a Friend for No Reason

Most of us resort to texting these days and save phone calls for when we need something. But actually sometimes all we need for happiness is just a good chat. Surprise a friend with a random phone call and say, “I actually don’t have a reason for calling, I was just wondering how you’re doing?”

3. Send a Thoughtful E-mail

If a co-worker has been talking about something they hope to accomplish (like writing a book or learning a new language), find a helpful article relevant to their goal and send it to them. They will appreciate the thought.

4. Offer Baby-Sitting Services

If you are a trusted friend of a couple who you know is very busy and unable to go out on dates too often, offer to hang out with the kids next weekend so they can escape the house for some much-needed alone time. Your friend will remember your kindness.

5. Check Up on Your Parents

Sometimes life gets too overwhelming and you forgot those who loved you the most. You know you don’t call your parents

6. Donate to Charity

Giving to charity is one of the easiest way to show your courtesy. How many of the clothes in your closet do you actually wear? How many toys do your kids really need? Eliminate the clutter from your home and give it to someone who needs it. You can even involve your child in the process so they learn the importance of giving.

7. Throw a Party

There is nothing better than having fun with a bunch of friends. It doesn’t have to be anything elaborate, but choose 5-10 of your closest friends and decide on a date that is convenient for all of you. Ask everyone to bring over a single dish or bottle of wine for a great night of bonding and conversation.

8. Offer Encouragement

Do you know a friend who wants to accomplish a big goal in life? Tell them that you believe they can do it and offer your support.

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9. Get people around to sign a card for a specific person.

Let say If someone around you is having a really hard time, take the initiative to get a card and have everyone in the office sign it. Show that you guys care about what happened. It would be nice to have this kind of support during harsh times.

10. Plan something special for your partner

Surprises are always great for a burst of delight. Plan a fun night-out with your partner, but don’t inform them of any of the details. You could get tickets to a live play or concert they would enjoy, reserve spots in a dance class, or simply go on a peaceful hike. Explain the proper attire, but don’t tell them the rest.

11. Celebrate their “belated birthdays”

We have all forgotten about a birthday of a close friend, but that doesn’t mean you can’t make them happy. Surprise them with a thoughtful gift days or even weeks after the fact. Write a little note saying something like, “I kinda forgot about your birthday and feel like a big goof, but hey, this present more than makes up for it, am I right?”

12. Write a Thank You Note

If someone helped you move furniture, land a job or prepare for a big project, write a note expressing your gratitude. Make sure they know that if they ever could use your help, you’d be more than happy to return the favor.

13. Dance the Night Away

This point is mostly targeted to men because I know a lot of you prefer sitting-on-the-side-lines in the club, but don’t you think your partner might like it if you joined her on the dance floor? Your manhood will not wither away and you are not going to look silly, I promise.

14. Do Some Chores

If some friends invited you over for dinner, march over to the sink and start working on the dishes without as much as asking if they could use your help. Such small favor is the courtesy you’ll need.

15. Brew a New Pot

Walking into the break room is a moment of terror that fills all coffee fiends with dread. Save your co-workers from this nightmare by brewing a new pot if you get the last cup. Such simple act of kindness won’t hurt.

16. Make People Laugh

Share a funny cartoon at the office. Tell a silly joke to your kids. Go to a stand-up comedy show with your partner. Laughter is one of the best representation of how happy you are so it’s great to make people laugh.

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17. Be a Good Listener

Do you know someone who is having a really hard time? Ask them if they would like to talk about it and listen without judgment or interruption. Sometimes the greatest gift we can offer is silence and understanding.

18. Appreciate waiters’ effort and tip Generously 

Surprise your waiter or waitress with a tip that is far above the norm. If your lunch was $10, you could make their day with $5.

19. Put Other People First

As soon as you walk inside from work, hug your children, kiss your partner, and/or rub your dog’s belly. These people have missed you all day, so express your love to them before you do anything for yourself.

20. Speak Kind Words

Send a text, email, or Facebook comment to a friend just to say they are a wonderful person and you are thankful that they are a part of your life. Even better, give a specific compliment about one of their strongest qualities as a person, like, “I just want you to know that I’m really glad we’re friends. You have a way of making me laugh when I need it the most.”

21. Write a love letter to a loved one.

Sometimes you just need to show your love directly. Then why not use the old fancy way? Not only is it romantic, it also is a good way to surprise them.

22. List the things you love about them.

There is nothing better then knowing someone that truly love you for what you are. It might just be the warmest thing ever If you can write a list about what you feel affectionate about them.

23. Express your gratitude for what is too often taken for granted

There are so much things in life that we always take for granted and they deserve some recognition. So next time if you see your mother doing all the housework for you, tell her that you are grateful to have her with you. Remember you don’t need to wait for Thanksgiving to give thanks. Go thank everyone that helped you in your life.

24. Spend quality time with them

It may not take much to be happy. All you need could be some quality time. Have a hike with a bunch of friends or even just chill and watch a good movie together. That could be all the fun you need.

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25. Say I love you.

There is no embarrassment of showing your affection to the one you loved. Remind them that you loved them just as every other day. It is nice to know that you are needed by someone in this world.

26. Help out practically with advice.

A helping hand is always a saving grace. If you found someone in trouble or misery, pure support may not be enough. Try your best to provide help.  Not only will you feel good about yourself, you might just saved someone from their rock bottom.

27. Buy them their favorite food if they have had a bad day.

Personally i found food to be one of the greatest source of happiness. A delicious meal or a delightful dessert can wipe away all your worries and bring you pure joy. So if you know someone who are struggling with things in their lives, buy them their favourite food. It could be great tool for stress relieve.

28. Hide a secret note for him or her to find.

It is the unnoticeable things that really arouse the emotions. Leave some secret note around places for people to find. Maybe just a simple line of encourage or bless. These random notes could light up someone’s day.

29. Smile

You won’t be spreading positivity if you are not showing the positivity in yourself! Smile more. Smile to everyone. Let them know that you are happy, and you want them to be happy as well.

30. Be happy yourself.

Now you have read so much on how to make somebody else happy, please do not forget above all that, you need to first be happy yourself. There is no way you can spread positivity if you yourself ain’t happy in the first place. Work on the things that you like to do, spend more time with the people you loved. Selfless does not mean that you have to sacrifice yourself for the better good, it is to share the happiness equally among you and everybody else.

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How to Deal With Anger (The Ultimate Anger Management Guide)

How to Deal With Anger (The Ultimate Anger Management Guide)

We all lose our temper from time to time, and expressing anger is actually a healthy thing to do in our relationships with others. Expressing our differences in opinion allows us to have healthy conflict and many times come to an agreement or understanding that works for everyone. However, there are times when anger can become overwhelming or damaging, and during these times, it’s important to learn how to deal with anger.

Expressing anger inappropriately can be harmful to relationships, both personal and professional. You may express too much anger, too often, or at times that are only going to make things worse, not better. In this article we will look at anger management techniques that will help you better control your emotions.

Let’s take a deeper look at how to deal with anger.

Expressing Anger

Anger is a natural and normal part of almost any relationship. This includes relationships with your significant other, kids, boss, friends, family, etc. Anger provides us with valuable information if we are willing to listen to it. It clues us in to areas where we disagree with others and things that need to be changed or altered.

Unhealthy Ways to Express Anger

Here are some common yet unhealthy ways to express anger that you should avoid:

Being Passive-Aggressive

This is a term many of us are familiar with. Passive-aggressive behavior happens when someone is angry but uses indirect communication to express their anger.

Some of the more common passive-aggressive behaviors include the silent treatment, making comments about someone behind their back, being grumpy, moody, or pouting, or simply not doing tasks or assignments that they should.

This is a passive-aggressive person’s way of showing their anger. It’s not very productive but extremely common.

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Poorly-Timed

Some people get overwhelmed and express anger in a situation where it can’t really do any good.

An example would be getting angry at one person in front of a crowd of people. All that does is make people uncomfortable and shuts them down. It’s not a healthy way to express anger or disagreement with someone.

Ongoing Anger

Being angry all the time is most often a symptom of something else. It’s healthy and normal to express anger when you disagree with someone. However, if someone is angry most of the time and always seems to be expressing their anger to everyone around them, this won’t serve them well.

Over time, people will start to avoid this person and have as little contact as possible. The reason being is no one likes being around someone who is angry all the time; it’s a no-win situation.

Healthy Ways to Express Anger

What about the healthy ways[1] to adapt? When learning how to deal with anger, here are some healthy ways to get you started.

Being Honest

Express your anger or disagreement honestly. Be truthful about what it is that is making you angry. Sometimes this will entail walking away and thinking about it for a bit before you respond.

Don’t say you’re mad at something someone did or said when it’s really something else that upset you.

Being Direct

Similar to being honest, being direct is a healthy way to express anger.

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Don’t talk around something that is making you angry. Don’t say that one thing is making you angry when it’s really something else, and don’t stack items on top of each other so you can unload on someone about 10 different things 6 months from now.

Be direct and upfront about what is making you angry. Ensure you are expressing your anger to the person who upset you or you are angry at, not to someone else. This is very counterproductive.

Being Timely

When something makes you angry, it’s much better to express it in a timely manner. Don’t keep it bottled up inside of you, as that’s only going to do more harm than good.

Think of the marriages that seem to go up in flames out of nowhere when the reality is someone kept quiet for years until they hit their breaking point.

Expressing anger as it occurs is a much healthier way of using anger to help us guide our relationships in the moment.

How to Deal With Anger

If you feel angry, how should you deal with it right at that moment?

1. Slow Down

From time to time, I receive an email at work that makes me so angry that steam is probably pouring out of my ears.

In my less restrained moments, I have been known to fire off a quick response, and that typically has ended about as well as you might imagine.

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When I actually walk away from my computer and go do something else for a while, I am able to calm down and think more rationally. After that happens, I am able to respond in a more appropriate and productive manner. Doing things that helps you learn how to release anger can make an uncomfortable situation more manageable before it gets out of hand.

2. Focus on the “I”

Remember that you are the one that’s upset. Don’t accuse people of making you upset because, in the end, it’s your response to what someone did that really triggered your anger. You don’t want to place blame by saying something like “Why don’t you ever put away your dishes?” Say something more like “Having dirty dishes laying on the counter upsets me—can you work with me to come to a solution?”

When you are accusatory towards someone, all that does is increase the tension. This doesn’t usually do anything except make your anger rise higher.

3. Work out

When learning how to deal with anger, exercise is a great outlet. If something happens that angers you, see if you have the opportunity to burn off some of the anger.

Being able to hit the gym to get a hard workout in is great. If this isn’t an option, see if you can go for a run or a bike ride. If you are at work when you become angry and the weather permits, at least go outside for a brisk walk.

Besides working some of your anger out through exercise, this also helps to give your mind a chance to work through some ways to address what it is that upset you.

If you’re not sure where to start with an exercise routine, check out Lifehack’s free Simple Cardio Home Workout Plan.

4. Seek Help When Needed

There are times when we could all use some help. Life can be stressful and overwhelming. It’s perfectly fine to seek some help from a mental health professional if it will help you get back to a healthy balance.If you find that you are angry all the time, it might be a good idea to go talk to an expert about learning to control intense emotions. They can give you some sound advice and ideas on how to get your anger to a more manageable and healthy level.

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5. Practice Relaxation

We all seem to lead incredibly busy lives, and that’s a good thing if we are loving the life we are living. That being said, it is very beneficial to our physical and mental well-being to take time out for relaxation.

That can mean spending time doing things that help us calm down and relax, like being around people we enjoy, practicing deep breathing or listening to music. It could be making time for things that help bring us balance like a healthy diet and physical activity.

Many people incorporate techniques such as yoga and meditation to calm their minds and release tension when learning how to deal with anger. Whatever your choice is, ensure you take time out to relax when warning signs of anger start to bubble up.

6. Laugh

Incorporating humor and laughter on a regular basis will help keep anger in check and help you get over a bad mood and feelings of anger more quickly. This isn’t part of formal anger management techniques, but you’ll be surprised by how well it works. Remember, life is a journey that’s meant to be enjoyed fully along the way through healthy emotion. Make sure you take time to laugh and have fun.Surround yourself with people that like to laugh and enjoy life. Don’t work at a job that just causes you stress, which can lead to anger. Work at something you enjoy doing.

7. Be Grateful

It’s easy to focus on the bad in life and the things that cause us negative emotions. It’s vitally important to remind ourselves of all the wonderful things in life that bring us positive emotions, things that we easily forget because we get caught up in the whirlwind of day to day life.

Take time out each day to remind yourself of a few things you are grateful for in order to help you learn how to release anger and invite in more positive feelings.

Final Thoughts

Life can be overwhelming at times. We seem to have constant pressure to achieve more and to always be on the go. People we are around and situations we are in can cause stress, anger, and negative emotions. At times, it can seem to be too much, and we get angry and our emotions start to get out of control.

During these times, keep in mind that life is an incredible journey, full of wonder and things that bring you joy. When you find yourself angry more often than is healthy, take time out to remember the good things in life—the things that we seem to forget yet bring us so much positive energy and emotions.

Use some of the tips included here to help with how to deal with anger and better control your emotions.

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