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20 Incredible Things Only True Friends Understand

20 Incredible Things Only True Friends Understand

With friendship comes compassion, courage and trust. It is easy to doubt our friendships, especially when you have high and low moments in life. But a true friend doesn’t go away. And you start to understand what commitment means. Thus you are able to know when you are totally in love with your friends.

1. You are thankful for their honesty

Even when you don’t want to hear it they will tell you things that you can’t help but reflect positively on. You are thankful for them always telling you the truth when you love them.

2. You appreciate them for being selfless

You remember that day they came to keep you company when you were broken by your loved one. You could count on them for being there when the odds are against you. You will always appreciate that.

3. You are concerned about the details in their lives

You want to know about what your friend is doing, even sometimes inquiring what he/she had for breakfast. You are concerned about their moods and what is not right in their lives.

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4. You are protective of them

You have a critical perspective of whoever comes into their lives. You want the best for them and you act as a shield for them when they are about to enter into any relationship.

5. You don’t exert any boundaries with them

You are not putting any borders or limitations up with your friend. If you have to stay up late for them, you do. If you have to travel thousand miles to provide something for them, you do.

6. You don’t keep secrets from them

Your friendship is important to you and you want to share your deepest thoughts with your best friends. You want to tell them what is positively and negatively affecting your life. There are no secrets when you love a friend.

7. You are never tired of communicating with them

You keep the communication line open. You text, call, email and make sure you are in touch with your friends regardless of the distance. Whether it is fifty yards, or ten thousand miles you make sure you are in touch with each other.

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8. You disagree but you resolve it quickly

Resolving disagreements comes as quick as starting one. Definitely there are times when you are uncomfortable with your friend’s opinion, but it doesn’t matter because you can work it out and resolve whatever odds you may have.

9. You miss each other a lot

Missing each other shows how much the other matters and is relevant to your world. If the other is gone for a day or a week, you wish you were with him or her.

10. You make each other laugh

As much as you may fight or lose it with each other, you both add value to your happiness by making the other laugh and with this a happier person. Telling each other a joke or recounting a period of stupidity or simply calling her or him by their nickname is enough to ignite a smile.

11. You never loose any time with them

When the other returns after a journey away, it is like they haven’t left at all. You are able to start and connect from where you left off.

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12. You know each other’s softest spot

We all have soft spots. And you know their soft spots, enough to make them light up in a distressing time. You understand them in an instant and can bring out a brighter person in a difficult time.

13. You have thrilling moments that will always bond you

Anytime you look at the photo album or check your photos on social media and on your phone, memories are reignited. You can’t fail to remember something that will strike you to smile about the other person.

14. You have similar interests

A night in watching a Leonardo Caprio movie together is kind of a mutual interest. You enjoy many things together and will always want to do these things together.

15. You can’t pretend around them

Anytime you are around them, you are original and yourself. Farting and making silly faces around them makes you feel real and not like some poster friend.

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16. You are not complete without them

Going to that wedding function or special event without them makes you miss something. You don’t feel complete without them.

17. You can cover up for them

Yes sometimes you will take questionable and stupid actions for them, but you don’t feel bad about it, but it makes you feel validated. You can quickly cover for them without thinking about it or having a second thought about it.

18. You always have things to talk about with them

There is never a period of silence. There is always something to get you guys talking and engaged in a conversation.

19. You know every dirty detail about their lives

From their horrible looking selfie to their unpopular crushes, you know the dirtiest skeletons out of their lives. And you are most reliable to keep them.

20. You will always be there for them

You are going to be a consistent friend and will always stand by them whatever happens. Even when it is not convenient for you, you will keep your loyalty to seeing them become better persons.

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Last Updated on May 21, 2019

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

Example 1

You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

Example 2

You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

Example 3

You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

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The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

Example 4

You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

  • Understand your own communication style
  • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
  • Communicate with precision and care
  • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

1. Understand Your Communication Style

To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

2. Learn Others Communication Styles

Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

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If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

“How do you prefer to receive information?”

This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

3. Exercise Precision and Care

A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

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In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

“Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

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It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

The Bottom Line

When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

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