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20 Incredible Things Only True Friends Understand

20 Incredible Things Only True Friends Understand

With friendship comes compassion, courage and trust. It is easy to doubt our friendships, especially when you have high and low moments in life. But a true friend doesn’t go away. And you start to understand what commitment means. Thus you are able to know when you are totally in love with your friends.

1. You are thankful for their honesty

Even when you don’t want to hear it they will tell you things that you can’t help but reflect positively on. You are thankful for them always telling you the truth when you love them.

2. You appreciate them for being selfless

You remember that day they came to keep you company when you were broken by your loved one. You could count on them for being there when the odds are against you. You will always appreciate that.

3. You are concerned about the details in their lives

You want to know about what your friend is doing, even sometimes inquiring what he/she had for breakfast. You are concerned about their moods and what is not right in their lives.

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4. You are protective of them

You have a critical perspective of whoever comes into their lives. You want the best for them and you act as a shield for them when they are about to enter into any relationship.

5. You don’t exert any boundaries with them

You are not putting any borders or limitations up with your friend. If you have to stay up late for them, you do. If you have to travel thousand miles to provide something for them, you do.

6. You don’t keep secrets from them

Your friendship is important to you and you want to share your deepest thoughts with your best friends. You want to tell them what is positively and negatively affecting your life. There are no secrets when you love a friend.

7. You are never tired of communicating with them

You keep the communication line open. You text, call, email and make sure you are in touch with your friends regardless of the distance. Whether it is fifty yards, or ten thousand miles you make sure you are in touch with each other.

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8. You disagree but you resolve it quickly

Resolving disagreements comes as quick as starting one. Definitely there are times when you are uncomfortable with your friend’s opinion, but it doesn’t matter because you can work it out and resolve whatever odds you may have.

9. You miss each other a lot

Missing each other shows how much the other matters and is relevant to your world. If the other is gone for a day or a week, you wish you were with him or her.

10. You make each other laugh

As much as you may fight or lose it with each other, you both add value to your happiness by making the other laugh and with this a happier person. Telling each other a joke or recounting a period of stupidity or simply calling her or him by their nickname is enough to ignite a smile.

11. You never loose any time with them

When the other returns after a journey away, it is like they haven’t left at all. You are able to start and connect from where you left off.

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12. You know each other’s softest spot

We all have soft spots. And you know their soft spots, enough to make them light up in a distressing time. You understand them in an instant and can bring out a brighter person in a difficult time.

13. You have thrilling moments that will always bond you

Anytime you look at the photo album or check your photos on social media and on your phone, memories are reignited. You can’t fail to remember something that will strike you to smile about the other person.

14. You have similar interests

A night in watching a Leonardo Caprio movie together is kind of a mutual interest. You enjoy many things together and will always want to do these things together.

15. You can’t pretend around them

Anytime you are around them, you are original and yourself. Farting and making silly faces around them makes you feel real and not like some poster friend.

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16. You are not complete without them

Going to that wedding function or special event without them makes you miss something. You don’t feel complete without them.

17. You can cover up for them

Yes sometimes you will take questionable and stupid actions for them, but you don’t feel bad about it, but it makes you feel validated. You can quickly cover for them without thinking about it or having a second thought about it.

18. You always have things to talk about with them

There is never a period of silence. There is always something to get you guys talking and engaged in a conversation.

19. You know every dirty detail about their lives

From their horrible looking selfie to their unpopular crushes, you know the dirtiest skeletons out of their lives. And you are most reliable to keep them.

20. You will always be there for them

You are going to be a consistent friend and will always stand by them whatever happens. Even when it is not convenient for you, you will keep your loyalty to seeing them become better persons.

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Last Updated on July 13, 2020

9 Simple Ways to Always Stay Positive

9 Simple Ways to Always Stay Positive

It’s common to be struck with a bout of pessimism, or to naturally be more towards the pessimistic end of the perspective spectrum. It’s hard to see the positives in life and become an optimist when you’re lost in the murky waters of negative thinking.

However, Henrik Edberg, the founder of The Positivity Blog is here to share nine ways we can create a more optimistic outlook and positive perspective:

“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” — Maria Robinson

When I was younger — in my teens and early 20s — I was trapped. Not physically, but mentally: by the destructive thought pattern called pessimism. This negative thinking poisoned what might have been a pretty good and opportunity-filled childhood, adolescence, and early adulthood. This pessimism created ceilings and walls where there really were none.

Throughout the period when I was ridden by pessimism, my life and I mostly stood still. Looking back, it was a terrible waste. If you are in pessimistic place, you don’t have to stay there for the rest of your life. I didn’t, for I learned to replace my negative thinking with optimism.

In this article I’ll explore nine positivity habits that have helped me to go from someone who was pessimistic most of the time to someone who is now optimistic almost all the time. I recommend to not try to add all the habits at one go but to choose one habit and to practice it for 30 days so it becomes a habit, before adding the next.

1. Ask Yourself the Right Questions

This is the simplest but perhaps also the most important habit I have discovered in adopting an optimistic mindset. The questions we ask ourselves day in and day out when we wind up in negative, difficult or uncertain situations make all the difference in our life.

A pessimist might ask him/herself questions like:

  • “Why did this happen to me?”
  • “Why do bad things happen to me all the time?”

But an optimist asks him/herself the questions that open up the mind to new viewpoints and possibilities. A few of my favorite questions for finding the optimistic perspective are:

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  • “What is one good thing about this situation?”
  • “What can I learn from this situation?”
  • “What is one small step I can take today to start solving this situation?”

2. Create a Positive Environment to Live In

The people you spend your time with and the information you let influence your mind will have a huge effect on your attitude and how you think about things.

Watch this YouTube video and learn the power of a positive environment:

So choose to:

  • Spend more time with the people who lift you up. And less time – or no time – with people who just bring you down by being negative and critical. Read: You are the Average of the 5 People You Spend the Most Time With
  • Let in the information that supports you. Spend less time on negative and self-esteem damaging media sources and spend more time reading positive and constructive blogs and books, watching motivating movies, listening to inspirational songs, and listening to audio books and podcasts created by optimistic people. Check out 12 Inspirational Movies With Important Life Lessons To Learn and 25 Most Inspirational Songs of All Time.

3. Be Grateful for What You Have (Don’t Forget About Yourself Too)

A very simple and quick way to boost the positive energy in your life is to tap into gratitude.

I usually do it by asking one or more of these questions:

  1. What can I be grateful for in my life today?
  2. Who are 3 people that I can be grateful to have in my life and why?
  3. What are 3 things I can be grateful for about myself?

Just spend 60 seconds or a few minutes during your day with answering one of these questions to reap the wonderful benefits.

4. Don’t Forget About Your Physical Self

Being an optimist isn’t just about thinking in a different way. It is also about caring for the physical part of ourselves.

I have found that working out a couple of times a week, enough quality sleep each night and eating healthy food has a huge effect on my mindset.

If I mismanage those very basic things then negative thoughts pop up far more often and I become more pessimistic and shut down about the possibilities in my life.

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So don’t neglect these basic fundamentals. Just caring for your physical self the right way can minimize a whole bunch of problems in life.

5. Start Your Day in an Optimistic Way

The way you start your morning can set the tone for the rest of your day. For example, a stress-free morning often leads to less stress during the rest of the day.

So how can you set an optimistic tone for your day?

A three-step combination that has worked very well for me is to ask myself a gratitude question during breakfast, read some positive information online or in a book very early in the morning and then follow that up with exercising.

This sets my mind on the right path and fills me up with energy for my day.

6. Focus on Solutions

A sure way to feel more negative about a situation is to sit around and do nothing about it. Instead, use the questions I shared in step one and open up your mind to the possibilities of the situation you are in.

If you have trouble to get started with taking action, ask yourself:

What is one small step I can take today to get the ball rolling?

Then take that small step forward. However small this step is, it can have a big effect in your mood and thoughts. If the step feels too big or it just makes you procrastinate, then ask yourself:

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What is an even smaller step I can take to move forward today?

The most important thing is to move forward, even if it’s a tiny baby step.

7. Reduce Your Worries

The worrying habit is a powerful and destructive one and can take over anyone’s thinking. It used to be one of my biggest obstacles to optimism and to moving forward in life.

Two effective steps that have helped me and still help me to this day to minimize the worries are:

  1. Ask yourself: how many of my worries ever happened in reality? If you are like me you will find that the answer is: very few. Most of the things you fear throughout your life will never happen. They are just nightmares or monsters in your own mind. This question can help you to do a reality check, to calm down and to realize that you have most likely just been building another imaginary nightmare.
  2. Focus on solutions and the action you can take. The worries grow stronger in a foggy mind and an inactive body. So use the questions in Steps 1 and 6 to move out of your worries and into resolution.

8. Don’t Let Ideals Ruin Things

A common mistake people make when making a shift in their attitudes is that they think that they have be perfect and do things perfectly all the time. This traps them from being positive.

Changing to a positive attitude can be gradual. While you may slip and stumble, continuing this way over time will strengthen your positive viewpoint more and more.

But if you set an inhuman standard for yourself and think you have to go from being a pessimist to always being an optimist, then you may find it hard to live up to that. And so you may feel like a failure. You get angry with yourself. And you may even give up on changing this habit and fall back into negative thinking.

So instead, focus on gradual change. If you are optimistic 40% of the time right now, try to improve this to being optimistic 60% of the time. Then, increase that to 80% when you are used to the new standard, then subsequently 100% if you can.

This focus on gradual improvement is far more sustainable and likely to bring long-term success than trying to reach an inhuman standard grounded in perfection.

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9. Finally, a Reminder to Help You to Not Give Up

I would like to end this article with a simple but powerful and timeless thought that comforted and encouraged me to continue on when things looked bleak.

That thought is: It is always darkest before the dawn.

This thought has helped me to hold on and keep going when my social skills and dating life was just plain bad. It has helped me to continue on in my online business when things looked like they would never pick up. It has helped me to put one foot over another even when things looked dark.

I have found this thought to be very true. Why? Because when things seemed to be at the lowest for my blog, business, dating life or life in general, something positive would always happened. That’s probably because being at a low point forced me to change how I did things.

But maybe also because life has a way of evening itself out when I go on. By taking action rather than give up, something good will always happens.

Seeing this thought live itself out has strengthened my belief in staying optimistic, in taking action and to keep going even when going through rough patches.

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