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19 Things Highly Sensitive People Do Differently

19 Things Highly Sensitive People Do Differently

I’m what you would call a highly sensitive person. I cry at the drop of a hat and I can’t even watch movies that focus on animals “in case they get upset at some point.” Don’t even get me started if the animal dies; I’ll go into a meltdown for about a week. Maybe that’s more about me being a Crazy Person than sensitive.

When it comes to being sensitive, it isn’t all bad. There are even some significant benefits. You have to take the bad with the good, and either way it becomes obvious that there are a lot of things that highly sensitive people do differently.

1. They Feel More Deeply

This is simple and self-explanatory. They simply feel things more deeply than some other people.

2. They Cry Easier

The downside to the above is that they’re also more likely to cry easily.

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3. They React With Their Emotions

Someone who feels deeply and cries easily is naturally also more likely to think with their emotions. Even those who are incredibly capable of utilising logic and reasoning may have an initial instinct to go with how they feel.

4. It Can Take Longer For Them to Make Decisions

Those who are acutely aware of the way they make choices may take longer to eventually come to a decision. This is most likely due to the above; they’re weighing up their emotions with logic.

5. They Can Get Upset Over a Poor or Wrong Decisions

Because highly sensitive people tend to be intuitive (more on that later), they can get incredibly upset if they make a bad decision or poor choice. As people who feel things more deeply, this is hardly surprising.

6. They Are More Prone to Anxiety and Depression

One of the biggest downsides to being highly sensitive is the higher likelihood of having a predisposition for anxiety and depression. Although these can also be hereditary, feeling things deeper and stronger than others means that these illnesses are all the more likely to occur. If you feel like you’re suffering from either, make sure you talk to someone and seek professional advice.

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7. They Can Be More Detail Orientated

Highly sensitive people are generally quite aware of their surroundings and thus notice fine details.

8. They’re People Magnets

People tend to be drawn to those who are sensitive, as they tend to have a kind of draw power, whether they wish to or not.

9. They’re Listening Magnets

People also tend to want to talk to highly sensitive people about their problems. Perhaps its the aforementioned intuition or the fact that they are so in tune with how people feel.

10. They’re Advice Dispensary Magnets

Listening tends to go hand in hand with advice. Again, highly sensitive people are so in tune with others, observant and empathetic that they’re the perfect people to offer life advice.

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11. Animals are Drawn to Them

Animals also seems to be drawn to sensitive people. They can sense love and empathy and are thus drawn to the people who care deeply about all creatures; they will love and look after them better than anyone else.

12. They’re More Intuitive

As previously mentioned, highly sensitive people seem to have a predisposition for intuitiveness. Particularly if they’re aware of it; they can sense when something is awry with someone and can see problems coming in relationships before anyone else can. The slightest look or seemingly unimportant comment can enable them to predict the outcome of a situation.

13. They Can Read People

Being more intuitive means that highly sensitive people can also read people far easier than most. This means that it’s difficult to lie to them because they’ll see right through it. This skill can also be quite handy during poker.

14. They Can Sense and Feel the Pain of Others

Because of their intuitiveness, empathy and attention to details, they can also feel the pain of others. Not literally of course, but they care deeply when someone (especially if they’re close to them) is hurt or upset. If a sensitive person ever says “I know how you feel”, they probably truly do.

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15. They Love Passionately

Highly sensitive people will love with every fiber of their beings. Whether it’s familial or friend related emotions, they will love those closest to them for life. When it comes to romance, they will love profoundly. particularly when it comes to their chosen life partner. The downside to this is that they take loss particularly hard.

16. They Can Also Hate Passionately

It isn’t all sweet-smelling roses though. Although it’s an ugly word, highly sensitive people also have the ability to hate, or at least dislike passionately, too. If you hurt, offend or betray one of these people they will feel it deeply and are not likely to forget, even if they do eventually forgive.

17. The Problems in the World Profoundly Affect Them

Highly sensitive people will be more likely to take note of the problems in the world and take them to heart. They will truly worry and care about world issues and may even go so far as to get involved in organisations or protests in order to help.

18. They’re More Spiritual

This doesn’t necessarily mean that sensitive people are likely to be more religious; quite the contrary. Instead of following mainstream religions, highly sensitive people tend to be spiritual in terms of their relationship with themselves, those around them and the world. It’s more this reason that these kinds of sensitive people will lean more towards Buddhism or Wicca if they choose to follow a particular religion.

19. They’re in Tune With Their Bodies

Sensitive people tend to listen to their bodies more and are aware if something is wrong or off balance. It’s for this reason that many sensitive people turn towards spiritual exercises such as yoga and tai chi as they get older; these pursuits teach them how to be even more in tune with their bodies, as well as how to keep them fit and healthy. These kinds of sensitive people are also more likely to abide by a ‘clean eating’ lifestyle.

Featured photo credit: Sensitive via allthingshealing.com

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Last Updated on April 11, 2019

How to Improve Communication Skills for Workplace Success

How to Improve Communication Skills for Workplace Success

Possessing strong communication skills will help you in every phase of your life. This is especially true in the workplace.

I have personally worked with several leaders who were masters of communication. A few were wonderful speakers who could tell a great story and get everyone in the room engaged. Those of us in attendance would walk away feeling inspired and eager to help with what came next. Others were very skilled at sharing a clear direction and job expectations.

I knew exactly what was expected of me and how to achieve my goals. This was the foundation of an energized and vibrant role I was in. What I have found is strong communication skills are incredibly helpful and sometimes critical in how well we perform at work.

Here we will take a look at how to improve communication skills for workplace success.

How Communication Skills Help Your Success

Strong communication skills pave the way for success in many ways. Let’s look at a few of the big ones.

Create a Positive Experience

Here are two examples of how well developed communication skills helps create a positive experience:

When I first moved to the city I now live in, I began a job search. Prior to my first live interview, I was told an address to go to. Upon arriving at the address provided, I drove around and around attempting to find the location. After 15 minutes of circling and looking for the address, I finally grabbed a parking spot and set out on foot.

What I discovered was the address was actually down an alley and only had the number over the door. No sign for the actual company. The person that gave me those very unclear directions provided a bad experience for me.

Had they communicated the directions to get there in a clear manner, my experience would have been much better. Instead the entire experience started off poorly and colored the entire meeting.

As a recruiter, I frequently provide potential candidates with information about a job I’m speaking to them about. In order to do this, I also provide a picture of the overall company, the group they might be joining, and how their role fits in and impacts the entire company.

Time and time again I have been told by candidates that I have provided the clearest picture of a company and role they have ever heard. They have a positive experience when I clearly communicate to them. Even when the position does not work out for them, often times they will want to stay in touch with me due to the open communication and beneficial experience they had during the interviewing process.

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Strong communication skills will provide a positive experience in virtually any interaction you have with someone.

Help Leadership Skills

It’s certainly a skill all its own to be able to lead others.

Being a mentor and guiding others towards success is a major hallmark of great leaders. Another characteristic of effective leaders is the ability to communicate clearly.

As I referenced above, having a leader who can plainly articulate the company’s mission and direction goes a really long way towards being the Captain of the boat that others want to follow. It’s like saying “here’s our destination and this is how we are going to get there” in a way that everyone can get on board with.

Another critical component of everyone helping to sail the boat in the right direction is knowing what your portion is all about. How are you helping the boat move towards its destination in the manner than is consistent with the leaders’ vision?

If you have a boss or a manager that can show you what it takes for not only you to be successful, but also how your performance helps the company’s success then you’ve got a winner. A boss with superior communication skills.

Build Better Teams

Most of us work in teams of some sort or another. During the course of my career, I have led teams up to 80 and also been an individual contributor.

In my individual contributor roles, I have been part of a larger team. Even if you are in business for yourself, you have to interact with others in one manner or another.

If you have strong communication skills, it helps to build better teams. This is true whether you are in an IT department with 100 other fellow programmers or if you own your own business and have customers or vendors you communicate with.

When you showcase your robust ability to communicate well with others while interacting with them, you are building a better team.

Now let’s jump in to how to improve communication skills to help you pave the way for your workplace success.

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How to Improve Communication Skills for Workplace Success

There are many tips, tricks, and techniques to improve communication skills. I don’t want to overwhelm you with too much information, so let’s focus on the things that will provide the biggest return on your time investment.

Most of these tips will be fairly easy to become aware of but will take time and effort to implement. So let’s go!

1. Listen

Ever heard the saying you have two ears and one mouth for a reason? If you haven’t, then here’s the reason:

Being a good listener is half the equation to being a good communicator.

People who have the ability to really listen to someone can then actually answer questions in a meaningful way. If you don’t make the effort to actively listen, then you are really doing yourself and the other person a disservice in the communication department.

Know that person who is chomping at the bit to open his or her mouth the second you stop talking? Don’t be that person. They haven’t listened to at least 1/2 of what you’ve said. Therefore the words that spill out of their mouth are going to be about 1/2 relevant to what you just said.

Listen to someone completely and be comfortable with short periods of silence. Work on your listening skills first and foremost.

2. Know Your Audience

Knowing your audience is another critical component to having strong communication skills. The way you interact with your manager should be different than how you interact with your kids. This isn’t to say you need to be a different person with everyone you interact with. Far from it.

Here is a good way to think about it:

Imagine using your the same choice of words and body language you use with your spouse while interacting with your boss. That puts things in a graphic light!

You want to ensure you are using the type of communication most relevant to your audience.

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3. Minimize

I have lunch with a business associate about 3 times a year. We’ve been talking for several years now about putting a business deal together.

He is one of those people that simply overwhelms others with a lot of words. Sometimes when I ask him a question, I get buried beneath such an avalanche of words that I’m more confused than when I asked the question. Needless to say this is most likely a large portion of why we never put the deal together.

Don’t be like my lunch business associate. The goal of talking to or communicating with someone is to share actual information. The goal is not to confuse someone, it’s to provide clarity in many cases.

State what needs to be stated as succinctly as possible. That doesn’t mean you can’t have some pleasant conversation about the weather too.

The point is to not create such an onslaught of words and information that the other person walks away more confused than when they started.

4. Over Communicate

So this probably sounds completely counter intuitive to what I just wrote about minimizing your communication. It seems like it might be but it’s not.

What I mean by over communicating is ensuring that the other person understands the important parts of what you are sharing with them. This can be done simply yet effectively. Here’s a good example:

Most companies have open enrollment for benefits for the employees in the fall. The company I work for has open enrollment from November 1 to 15. The benefits department will send out a communication to all employees around October 1st, letting them know open enrollment is right around the corner and any major changes that year. There’s also a phone number and email for people to contact them with any questions.

Two weeks later, we all get a follow up email with basically the same information. We get a 3rd communication the week before open enrollment and another one 1 day before it starts.

Finally we get 2 emails during enrollment reminding us when open enrollment ends.

There’s minimal information, it’s more of a reminder. This is effective over communication.

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5. Body Language

The final critical component to how to improve communication skills for workplace success is body language. This is something most of us have heard about before but, a reminder is probably a good idea.

When I am in a meeting with someone I am comfortable with, I tend to kind of slouch down in my chair and cross my arms. When I catch myself doing this, I sit up straight and uncross my arms. I remember that crossing arms can many times be interpreted as a sign of disagreement or conflict.

In general, the best rule of thumb is to work towards having open body language whenever possible at work. This means relaxing your posture, not crossing your arms, and looking people in the eye when speaking with them.

When you are speaking in front of others, stand up straight and speak in a clear voice. This will convey confidence in your words.

Conclusion

Possessing strong communication skills will help you in many facets of your life and most certainly in the workplace.

Good communication helps create better teams, positive experiences with those we interact with, and are critical for leadership.

There are numerous tactics and techniques to be used to improve communication skills. Here we’ve reviewed how to improve communication skills for workplace success.

Now go communicate your way to success.

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