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17 Things You Should Do More Often for a Happier Life

17 Things You Should Do More Often for a Happier Life

A happier life really doesn’t have to be complicated. You are responsible for creating your happiness. Read on to learn 17 ways to create happiness daily.

1.Give Thanks

Give thanks first thing in the morning and before you go to bed at night. When you become upset during the day or things are not going the way you planned, begin to give thanks for what is already going well in your day and your life.

2. Relax

We spend a lot of our time these days rushing around filling our days with meetings, tasks and stuff we need to do, and then we get stressed out and end up worn out or unwell. Make time to relax as often as you can; this will help you break away from the fast paced world and reconnect to your being. Your body will thank you.

3. Disconnect

Have you noticed that people are becoming more and more unsociable and even when they are around friends or family they have their heads stuck in a phone, tablet or other device? Then they wonder why they always feel isolated. It’s time we disconnect from technology and reconnect to other people, with nature or even ourselves.

4. Spend Time With Family and Friends

Spending quality time with your loved ones is necessary if you want a happier life. Sharing your love and company with people you care about can create great experiences, fun and laughter. They will be happier, too. Win-win!

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5. Practice Spirituality

The feeling of acceptance and a community of oneness could lead to a happier life for you. Studies have even shown that people are happier when they are involved in spiritual practices.

6. Write

Writing down your thoughts and worries on paper can release emotional tension, leaving you feeling happier. Putting your emotions on paper can also help the brain to regulate your emotions, leaving a sense of release. If you are going to try writing your thoughts, emotions, worries or concerns for the first time, do this alone in a quiet space to make the process more effective.

7. Pamper Yourself

Why can it be so difficult to treat ourselves once in a while? We have to force ourselves to break away and have a treat, and even when we do (if we do) there is a sense of guilt. Life is short and we are here to enjoy the experience. If you love treats, then treat and pamper yourself often.

8. Dress Up

Getting dressed up can give you a feeling of confidence and swag, allowing you to shine bright and radiate a positive energy wherever you go Dress up often as you like. How about every day?

9.  Laugh

Often. As the saying goes, “laughter is medicine”, and I believe this to be very true. Besides, happier people are lees likely to become ill. So take the time to laugh and create situations that will allow you to laugh, such like watching one of your favorite comedy films.

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    10. Be In The Moment

    Quit looking back at your past failures or worrying about what will happen in the future. Focus on what is happening right now. How do you feel right now? What can you hear? Spend more time being present and fully in the moment. This will eliminate all your worries and leave you feeling at peace. Give all your attention to your present moment and you will see miracles happen in your life.

    11. Forgive Someone

    Did you know that forgiving other people can actually make you happier? When you forgive, you no longer have anger towards the other person, which leaves you at peace with them and at peace with yourself.

    12. Sing and Dance

    You know this is fun, even if you can’t sing or dance!

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    13. Be Optimistic

    Always look for the good in a situation. There are lots of negative people around who talk about negative things, draining your energy and leaving you deflated. Next time you come across someone like this, look for the positive and say something like:

    “Well, at least {insert positive statement here}.”

    14. Acts of Kindness

    “Wherever there is a human being there is an opportunity for kindness.” – Seneca

    Make the time to be kind to others, say kind words and do kind deeds. Your happier life depends on it.

    15. Don’t Take Life Too Seriously

    Seriously.

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    16. Look After Yourself

    Start going to the gym or take up another activity like walking or biking to keep you fit and well. Try eating healthier food. By making small changes to look after yourself, will also have an impact on others around you — and they are likely to make changes in their own lives, too.

    Become passionate about the things you want to do in life. Always make the time to do them.

    17. Have a Goal

    This should go without saying. However, there are many people sleep walking through life who will let other people make decisions for them. They will always be frustrated and unhappy. If you are not working towards something, you are going backwards. Set yourself a goal today, whether for a career, fitness or spiritual goal and know that you have the capacity to follow through, because you are an amazing individual!

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    Last Updated on March 30, 2020

    What Does Self-Conscious Mean? (And How to Stop Being It)

    What Does Self-Conscious Mean? (And How to Stop Being It)

    Have you ever walked into a room and felt like your nerves simply couldn’t handle it? Your heart beats fast, you start to sweat, and you feel like all eyes are on you (even if they’re really not). This is just one of the many ways that being self-conscious can rear its ugly head.

    You may not even realize you’re self-conscious, and you may be wondering, “What does self-conscious mean?” That’s a good place to start.

    This article will define self-consciousness, show how practically everyone has faced it at one point or another, and give you tips to avoid it.

    What Does Self-Conscious Mean?

    According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, self-conscious is defined as “conscious of one’s own acts or states as belonging to or originating in oneself.”[1]

    Not so bad, right? There’s another definition, though — one that speaks more to what you’re going through: “feeling uncomfortably conscious of oneself as an object of the observation of others.” For those of us who regularly deal with extreme self-consciousness, that second definition sounds about right.

    There are many different ways self-consciousness can spring up. You may feel self-conscious around people you know, like your family members or closest friends. You may feel self-conscious at work, even though you spend hours every week around your co-workers. Or you may feel self-conscious when out in public and surrounded by strangers. However, you probably don’t feel self-conscious when you’re home alone.

    How to Stop Being Too Self-Conscious

    When you’re in the throes of self-consciousness, it’s nearly impossible to remember how to stop feeling that way. That’s why it’s so important to prepare ahead of time, when you’re feeling ready to tackle the problem instead of succumbing to it.

    Here are a variety of ways to feel better about yourself and stop thinking about how others see you.

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    1. Ask Yourself, “So What?”

    One way to banish negative, self-conscious thoughts is to do just that: banish them.

    The next time you walk into a room and feel your face getting red, think to yourself, “So what?” How much does it really matter if people don’t like how you look or act? What’s the worst that could happen?

    Most of the time, you’ll find that you don’t have a good answer to this question. Then, you can immediately start assigning such thoughts less importance. With self-awareness, you can acknowledge that your negative thoughts are present and realize that you don’t agree with them.[2] They’re just thoughts, after all.

    2. Be Honest

    A lie that self-consciousness might tell is that there’s one way to act or feel. Honestly, though, everyone else is just figuring life out as well. There isn’t a preferred way to show up to an event, gathering, or public place. What you can do is be honest with your feelings and thoughts.[3]

    If you feel offended by something someone says, you don’t have to smile to be polite or laugh to fit in with the crowd. Instead, you can politely say why you disagree or excuse yourself and find a group of people who you relate to better. If you’re nervous, don’t overcompensate by trying to look relaxed and casual — it’ll be obvious you’re putting on a front. Instead, nothing is more endearing than saying, “I’m a little nervous!” to a room of people who probably feel the exact same way.

    On the same note, if you don’t understand why someone wants you to do something, question it. You can do this at work, at home, or even with people you don’t know well. Nobody should force you to do something you don’t want to do.

    Also, even if you’re willing to do what’s asked of you, there’s nothing wrong with asking for more clarification. People will realize that you’re not a person to be bossed around.

    3. Understand Why You’re Struggling at Work

    Being self-conscious at work can get in the way of your daily responsibilities, your relationships with co-workers, and even your career as a whole. If you’re facing some sort of conflict but you’re too nervous to speak up, you may be at the whim of what happens to you instead of taking some control.

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    If you’re usually confident at work, you may be wondering where this new self-consciousness is coming from. It’s possible that you’re dealing with burnout.[4] Common signs are anxiety, fatigue and distraction, all of which can leave you feeling under-confident.

    4. Succeed at Something

    When you create success in your life, it’s easier to feel confident[5] and less self-conscious. If you feel self-conscious at work, finish the project that’s been looming over your head. If you feel self-conscious in the gym, complete an advanced workout class.

    Exposing yourself to what you’re scared of and then succeeding at it in some way (even just by finishing it) can do wonders for your self-esteem. The more confidence you build, the more likely you are to have more success in the future, which will create a cycle of confidence-building.

    5. Treat All of You — Not Just Your Self-Consciousness

    Trying to solve your self-consciousness alone may not treat the root of the problem. Instead, take a well-rounded approach to lower your self-consciousness and build confidence in areas where you may struggle.

    Even professional counselors are embracing this holistic type of treatment[6] because they feel that the health of the mind and body are inextricably linked. This approach combines physical, spiritual, and psychological components. Common activities and treatments include meditation, yoga, massage, and healthy changes to diet and exercise.

    If much of this is new to you, it will pay to give it a try. You never know how it will impact you.

    If you’re feeling self-conscious about how your body looks, a massage that makes you feel great could boost your confidence. If you try a new workout, you could have something exciting to talk about the next time you’re in a group setting.

    Putting yourself in a new situation and learning that you can get through it with grace can give you the confidence to get through all sorts of events and nerve-wracking moments.

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    6. Make the Changes That Are Within Your Control

    Let’s say you walk into a room and you’re self-conscious about how you look. However, you may have put a lot of time and effort into your outfit. Even though it may stand out, this is how you have chosen to express yourself.

    You have to work on your internal confidence, not your external appearance. There’s nothing to change other than your outlook.

    On the other hand, maybe there’s something that you don’t like about yourself that you can change. For example, maybe you hate how a birthmark on your face looks or have varicose veins that you think are unsightly. If you can do something about these things, do it! There’s nothing wrong with changing your appearance (or skills, education, etc.) if it’s going to make you more confident.

    You don’t have to accept your current situation for acceptance’s sake. There’s no award for putting up with something you hate. Confidence is also required to make changes that are scary, even if they’re for the better. Plus, it may be an easier fix than you thought. For example, treating varicose veins doesn’t have to involve surgery — sometimes simple compression stockings will take care of the problem.[7]

    7. Realize That Everyone Has Awkward Moments

    Everyone has said something awkward to someone else and lived to tell the tale. We’ve all forgotten somebody’s name or said, “You too!” when the concession stand girl says to enjoy our movie. Not only are these things uber-common, but they’re not nearly as embarrassing as you feel they are.

    Think about how you react when someone else does something awkward. Do you think, “Wow, that person’s such a loser!” or do you think, “What a relief, I’m not the only one who does that.” Chances are good that’s the same reaction others have to you when you stumble.

    Remember, self-consciousness is a state of mind that you have control over. You don’t have to feel this way. Do what you need to in order to build your confidence, put your self-consciousness in perspective, and start exercising your “I feel awesome about myself” muscle. It’ll get easier with time.

    When Is Being Self-Conscious a Good Thing?

    Self-consciousness can sometimes be a good thing[8], but you have to take the awkwardness and nerves out of it.

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    In this case, “self-aware” is a much better term. Knowing how you come off to people is an excellent trait; you’ll be able to read a room and understand how what you do and say affects others. These are fantastic skills for people work and personal relationships.

    Self-awareness helps you dress appropriately for the occasion, tells you that you’re talking too loud or not loud enough, and guides a conversation so you don’t offend or bore anyone.

    It’s not about being someone you’re not — that can actually have adverse effects, just like self-consciousness. Instead, it’s about turning up certain aspects of yourself to perform well in the situation.

    Final Thoughts

    When you’re self-conscious, you’re constantly battling with yourself in an effort to control how other people view you. You try to change yourself to suit what you think other people want to see.

    The truth, though, is that you can’t actually control how other people view you — and you may not even be correct about how they view you in the first place.

    Being confident doesn’t happen overnight. Instead, it happens in small steps as you slowly build your confidence and say “no” to your self-consciousness. It also requires accepting that you’re going to feel self-conscious sometimes, and that’s okay.

    Sometimes worrying that there is a problem can be more stressful than the problem itself. Feeling bad for feeling self-conscious can be more troublesome than simply feeling it and getting on with the day.

    Forgive yourself for being human and make the small changes that will lead to better confidence in the future.

    More Tips for Improving Your Self-Esteem

    Featured photo credit: Cata via unsplash.com

    Reference

    [1] Merriam-Webster: Self-conscious
    [2] Bustle: 7 Tips On How To Stop Feeling Self-Conscious
    [3] Marc and Angel: 10 Things to Remember When You Feel Unsure of Yourself
    [4] Bostitch: How to Protect Small Businesses From Burnout
    [5] Psychology Today: Self-conscious? Get Over It
    [6] Wake Forest University: Embracing Holistic Medicine
    [7] Center for Vein Restoration: What Causes Venous Ulcers, and How Are They Treated?
    [8] Scientific American: The Pros and Cons of Being Self-Aware

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