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17 Things You Should Do More Often for a Happier Life

17 Things You Should Do More Often for a Happier Life

A happier life really doesn’t have to be complicated. You are responsible for creating your happiness. Read on to learn 17 ways to create happiness daily.

1.Give Thanks

Give thanks first thing in the morning and before you go to bed at night. When you become upset during the day or things are not going the way you planned, begin to give thanks for what is already going well in your day and your life.

2. Relax

We spend a lot of our time these days rushing around filling our days with meetings, tasks and stuff we need to do, and then we get stressed out and end up worn out or unwell. Make time to relax as often as you can; this will help you break away from the fast paced world and reconnect to your being. Your body will thank you.

3. Disconnect

Have you noticed that people are becoming more and more unsociable and even when they are around friends or family they have their heads stuck in a phone, tablet or other device? Then they wonder why they always feel isolated. It’s time we disconnect from technology and reconnect to other people, with nature or even ourselves.

4. Spend Time With Family and Friends

Spending quality time with your loved ones is necessary if you want a happier life. Sharing your love and company with people you care about can create great experiences, fun and laughter. They will be happier, too. Win-win!

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5. Practice Spirituality

The feeling of acceptance and a community of oneness could lead to a happier life for you. Studies have even shown that people are happier when they are involved in spiritual practices.

6. Write

Writing down your thoughts and worries on paper can release emotional tension, leaving you feeling happier. Putting your emotions on paper can also help the brain to regulate your emotions, leaving a sense of release. If you are going to try writing your thoughts, emotions, worries or concerns for the first time, do this alone in a quiet space to make the process more effective.

7. Pamper Yourself

Why can it be so difficult to treat ourselves once in a while? We have to force ourselves to break away and have a treat, and even when we do (if we do) there is a sense of guilt. Life is short and we are here to enjoy the experience. If you love treats, then treat and pamper yourself often.

8. Dress Up

Getting dressed up can give you a feeling of confidence and swag, allowing you to shine bright and radiate a positive energy wherever you go Dress up often as you like. How about every day?

9.  Laugh

Often. As the saying goes, “laughter is medicine”, and I believe this to be very true. Besides, happier people are lees likely to become ill. So take the time to laugh and create situations that will allow you to laugh, such like watching one of your favorite comedy films.

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    10. Be In The Moment

    Quit looking back at your past failures or worrying about what will happen in the future. Focus on what is happening right now. How do you feel right now? What can you hear? Spend more time being present and fully in the moment. This will eliminate all your worries and leave you feeling at peace. Give all your attention to your present moment and you will see miracles happen in your life.

    11. Forgive Someone

    Did you know that forgiving other people can actually make you happier? When you forgive, you no longer have anger towards the other person, which leaves you at peace with them and at peace with yourself.

    12. Sing and Dance

    You know this is fun, even if you can’t sing or dance!

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    13. Be Optimistic

    Always look for the good in a situation. There are lots of negative people around who talk about negative things, draining your energy and leaving you deflated. Next time you come across someone like this, look for the positive and say something like:

    “Well, at least {insert positive statement here}.”

    14. Acts of Kindness

    “Wherever there is a human being there is an opportunity for kindness.” – Seneca

    Make the time to be kind to others, say kind words and do kind deeds. Your happier life depends on it.

    15. Don’t Take Life Too Seriously

    Seriously.

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    16. Look After Yourself

    Start going to the gym or take up another activity like walking or biking to keep you fit and well. Try eating healthier food. By making small changes to look after yourself, will also have an impact on others around you — and they are likely to make changes in their own lives, too.

    Become passionate about the things you want to do in life. Always make the time to do them.

    17. Have a Goal

    This should go without saying. However, there are many people sleep walking through life who will let other people make decisions for them. They will always be frustrated and unhappy. If you are not working towards something, you are going backwards. Set yourself a goal today, whether for a career, fitness or spiritual goal and know that you have the capacity to follow through, because you are an amazing individual!

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    Last Updated on May 21, 2019

    How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

    How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

    For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

    If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

    Example 1

    You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

    You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

    In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

    Example 2

    You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

    People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

    You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

    Example 3

    You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

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    The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

    Example 4

    You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

    Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

    If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

    Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

    • Understand your own communication style
    • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
    • Communicate with precision and care
    • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

    1. Understand Your Communication Style

    To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

    In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

    Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

    2. Learn Others Communication Styles

    Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

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    If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

    “How do you prefer to receive information?”

    This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

    To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

    3. Exercise Precision and Care

    A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

    On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

    Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

    I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

    I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

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    In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

    The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

    Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

    4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

    Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

    In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

    “Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

    Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

    Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

    It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

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    It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

    It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

    Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

    Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

    The Bottom Line

    When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

    I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

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