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16 Things You Need to Do on Your Own Before Doing with Someone Else

16 Things You Need to Do on Your Own Before Doing with Someone Else

Since times unknown, being alone has been equated to loneliness. This is one of the biggest myths and deep-rooted beliefs that make very little sense. Some people feel terribly lonely surrounded by hundreds of people, but experience the highest level of freedom in isolation.

I am a big believer in finding happiness by doing things on my own. Contrary to popular belief, this has nothing to do with being an introvert, having no friends, or being lost in abandonment. In fact, I am very social and have the most amazing family, friends, co-workers and mentors. While I enjoy spending time with them, I also enjoy my own company. It is not only fun and rewarding, but a great way to reassure yourself that you are capable and independent.

Not convinced? Scared? Out of your comfort zone? I urge you to try these things on your own, unaided and unaccompanied. Disclaimer: You are most likely to experience pure ecstasy.

1. Immerse in a murder mystery.

Pick up any Hercule Poirot novel by Agatha Christie from your nearest bookstore. They are easy to read but gripping enough to let you lose track of time. For more nail-biting thrillers, try Jo Nesbo or choose from the list of best murder mysteries of all times.

2. It’s time for fine dining, at home.

What is your favorite dish? Replicate it at home, buying fresh ingredients and following a trustworthy recipe from a cookbook or the Internet. Create an ambiance in your dining space with your best dinnerware, a glass of wine, candlelight and music. Dress up and treat yourself like a king. You deserve it!

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    3. Play Scrabble® with yourself.

    No one will rush you, and there will be no annoying Mr. Smarty Pants to compete with. You don’t have to resist looking at the dictionary either. At the end of the day you will have some new words under your belt. It’s a win-win situation.

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      4. Create an inspirational word art.

      Even if the paintbrush is not your friend, tap into your hidden creativity by making a simple piece of art using words. Use leftover newspaper, magazines, pens and other random objects lying around your home. Go crazy with your imagination as you make your own rules. Once done, hang it on the wall and pat yourself on the back.

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        5. Travel to a new city.

        If you haven’t been on a getaway by yourself, it’s high time you do it. Don’t rob yourself from the joy of getting lost in an unknown city. Wake up whenever, go wherever and eat whatever you want. Discover and explore the beauty of the world, without a timetable.

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          6. Exercise your vocal muscles.

          Want to feel heard and liberated? Sing at the top of your lungs, while no one is around. The neighbors might hear you. If you enjoy it too much, you may actually break into a dance, which brings me to the next point.

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            7. Dance until you drop.

            Warm up at home and master your moves. Then hit the dance club. Don’t be shy; you may actually end up having a fan following. Freestyle dancing helps increase your self esteem, improve flexibility, balance better and burn calories. What are you waiting for? 5-6-7-8!

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              8. Head to the theaters for an animated film.

              Who needs company to watch an animated movie? You spend approximately two hours gazing at the screen engaged in some serious laughter. Most of the time, you don’t even remember who you came to the movies with. Besides, you own that whole bag of popcorn.

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                9. Meditate in style.

                One of the best solitary activities that can energize you, refresh you, and take all your stress away is meditation. Take time off your routine activities to reflect and introspect. Delve into your inner self and find harmony. For some unconventional meditation techniques, look here.

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                  10. Take an epic ‘selfie’ video.

                  Select a solo scene of your favorite actor or actress. Get into the character and record yourself enacting that scene. Perfection takes practice, so you may need a few takes. Brave enough to put it on Youtube?

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                    11. Be the first person in the gym.

                    Wake up early and wait for the gym doors to open. There is nothing like working out in a clean sweat-free environment, while no one is judging your flab. No gym membership? Mother nature is your treadmill.

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                      12. Sip a martini like 007.

                      Happy hour can be happier when you go the bar alone and stylishly ask for a martini. Savor each sip and open yourself to the opportunity of making new friends.

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                        13. Go for a picnic in the park

                        Give up time spent in opinionated discussions, all for the perfect spot in the park. Soak in the sun, let the breeze flirt with you and observe your surroundings. People-watching is an underrated educational activity.

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                          14. Be your personal shopper.

                          Take yourself shopping for a makeover. If you’re on a budget, accept the challenge and find atypical stores. Getting a new look can be a huge confidence booster.

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                            15. Strike off the longest living item on your to-do list..

                            What is that one thing featured on your ‘things to do today’ that’s been there since last month? Take time on a weekend to finally do it. Find a sense of accomplishment from life’s little things.

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                              16. Make your own Happiness Jar.

                              Every time you enjoy doing something alone, write the activity on a piece of paper. Drop it in a container and label it “My Happiness Jar.’ If you are bored, feeling blue, or stressed, simply draw a random slip of paper from this jar and do what is written.

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                                Featured photo credit: Jump over Mt. Rainier/The U.S. Army via flickr.com

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                                Last Updated on July 3, 2020

                                30 Small Habits To Lead A More Peaceful Life

                                30 Small Habits To Lead A More Peaceful Life

                                In today’s world, true peace must come from within us and our own actions. Here are 30 small things you can do on a regular basis to increase your overall sense of harmony, peace, and well-being:

                                1. Don’t go to every fight you’re invited to

                                Particularly when you’re around those who thrive on chaos, be willing to decline the invitation to join in on the drama.

                                2. Focus on your breath

                                Throughout the day, stop to take a few deep breaths. Keep stress at bay with techniques such as “square breathing.” Breathe in for four counts, hold for four counts, then out for four counts, and hold again for four counts. Repeat this cycle four times.

                                3. Get organized and purge old items

                                A cluttered space often creates a cluttered spirit. Take the time to get rid of anything you haven’t used in a year and invest in organizational systems that help you sustain a level of neatness.

                                4. Stop yourself from being judgmental

                                Whenever you are tempted to have an opinion about someone else’s life, check your intentions. Judging others creates and promotes negative energy.

                                5. Say ‘thank you’ early and often

                                Start and end each day with an attitude of gratitude. Look for opportunities in your daily routine and interactions to express appreciation.

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                                6. Smile more

                                Even if you have to “fake it until you make it,” there are many scientific benefits of smiling and laughing. Also, pay attention to your facial expression when you are doing neutral activities such as driving and walking. Turn that frown upside down!

                                7. Don’t worry about the future

                                As difficult as this sounds, there is a direct connection between staying in the present and living a more peaceful life. You cannot control the future. As the old proverb goes, “Worry is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it won’t get you anywhere.” Practice gently bringing your thoughts back to the present.

                                8. Eat real food

                                The closer the food is to the state from which it came from the earth, the better you will feel in eating it. Choose foods that grew from a plant over food that was made in a plant.

                                9. Choose being happy over being right

                                Too often, we sacrifice inner peace in order to make a point. It’s rarely worth it.

                                10. Keep technology out of the bedroom

                                Many studies, such as one conducted by Brigham and Women’s Hospital, have connected blue light of electronic devices before bed to adverse sleep and overall health. To make matters worse, many people report that they cannot resist checking email and social media when their cell phone is in reach of their bed, regardless of the time.

                                11. Make use of filtering features on social media

                                You may not want to “unfriend” someone completely, however you can choose whether you want to follow their posts and/or the sources of information that they share.

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                                12. Get comfortable with silence

                                When you picture someone who is the ultimate state of peace, typically they aren’t talking.

                                13. Listen to understand, not to respond

                                So often in conversations, we use our ears to give us cues about when it is our turn to say what we want to say. Practice active listening, ask questions, process, then speak.

                                14. Put your troubles in a bubble

                                Whenever you start to feel anxious, visualize the situation being wrapped in a bubble and then picture that sphere floating away.

                                15. Speak more slowly

                                Often a lack of peace manifests itself in fast or clipped speech. Take a breath, slow down, and let your thoughtful consideration drive your words.

                                16. Don’t procrastinate

                                Nothing adds stress to our lives like waiting until the last minute.

                                17. Buy a coloring book

                                Mandala coloring books for adults are becoming more popular because of their connection to creating inner peace.

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                                18. Prioritize yourself

                                You are the only person who you are guaranteed to live with 24 hours a day for the rest of your life.

                                19. Forgive others

                                Holding a grudge is hurting you exponentially more than anyone else. Let it go.

                                20. Check your expectations

                                Presumption often leads to drama. Remember the old saying, “Expectations are premeditated resentments.”

                                21. Engage in active play

                                Let your inner child come out and have some fun. Jump, dance, play, and pretend!

                                22. Stop criticizing yourself

                                The world is a hard enough place with more than enough critics. Your life is not served well by being one of them.

                                23. Focus your energy and attention on what you want

                                Thoughts, words, and actions all create energy. Energy attracts like energy. Put out what you want to get back.

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                                24. Assign yourself “complaint free” days.

                                Make a conscious decision not to complain about anything for a whole day. It might be harder than you think and the awareness will stick with you.

                                25. Surround yourself with people you truly enjoy being in the company of

                                Personalities tend to be contagious, and not everyone’s is worth catching. Be judicious in your choices.

                                26. Manage your money

                                Financial concerns rank top on the list of what causes people stress. Take the time each month to do a budget, calculate what you actually spend and sanity check that against the money you have coming in.

                                27. Stop trying to control everything

                                Not only is your inner control freak sabotaging your sense of peace, it is also likely getting in the way of external relationships as well.

                                28. Practice affirmations

                                Repeat positive phrases that depict the life and qualities you want to attract. It may not come naturally to you, but it works.

                                29. Get up before sunrise

                                Personally witnessing the dawn brings a unique sense of awe and appreciation for life.

                                30. Be yourself

                                Nothing creates more inner discord than trying to be something other than who we really are. Authenticity breeds happiness.

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