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15 Things People Who’ve Just Broken Up Hate Hearing The Most

15 Things People Who’ve Just Broken Up Hate Hearing The Most

It is hurting to experience a break up. For some it can be devastating. However there is a healing process to every loss. Most times the best way is to deal with the pain and move on. Through this sensitive period a broken up person needs the concern and consideration of friends and family, and trust me there are certain things they wouldn’t love to hear.

1. Life is hard

This makes the subject seem to be another unfair victim in the cycle of life. Shooting them such words doesn’t serve as a succor but a shot at bringing them to how painful the present situation should be for them. Rather saying something like, “there is a way out of this,” will help them heal better.

2. You made a mistake all along

Singling out the subject and wanting to make them appear stupid doesn’t structure the situation in a green, but a red light. We all do make mistakes, some even get away with their heads high, so why should he or she seem like the most ideal candidate for a break up.

3. You have always being poor at relationships

At a time when he or she is mourning something that would have appeared perfect, listening to a crucifying statement will only make them feel less worthy. Try to build their morale by telling them, “you haven’t met the perfect person yet.”

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4. You can still be friends

No one wants to be friends with someone who has just bruised their emotions. I don’t, and I know every other person neither. Please don’t let a broken heart hear this.

5. You need some time to heal

As if he or she was going through a terminal illness or some devastating disease. The injury of being hurt shouldn’t be aggravated. Of course time will heal the pain but you don’t need her or him to hear this.

6. I am sure they will regret this

That is hitting on a soft spot. You don’t know how much or how deep your friend still feels for their ex. Besides who knows if there will be a reunion. Never cancel out possibilities.

7. You are too emotional

This has a lot of red connotations with it. Of course, it takes some emotions to lose someone you have always cared about. Why make them seem less human.

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8. You should have known

Apparently this should mean that he or she should have been a fortune teller or something. No one in a relationship knows how pleasant or unpleasant a relationship will become. Of course they would never have known. Only things that will help them see the bright side of moving on should be heard.

8. Life goes on

Now this is too painful a thing to hear because you are making it clear that they would move on and could have another break up and will move on. No one wants to always meet break ups. Something soothing like, “at least hanging out on Friday night will be more fun” is better.

9. How long will you keep crying?

Please treat a broken heart with respect. Don’t limit or set anymore boundary. They would love to be more expressive at this point.

10. Cheer up

This sounds like a cliché. As if cheering up is a tablet to healing the pain. Of course the effect of such wouldn’t be as sweet. Understanding the situation would be more ideal than saying anything awful.

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11. Such is life

This sounds poetic. As if life wants to deal a big blow on lovers and broken hearts. It is better to have them hear something considerate.

12. You will receive a call soon

This doesn’t sound nice because it will make them expectant for something that may never happen. False hope raising expectations is not something any broken heart will love to hear.

13. You are a strong person, you will be fine

How can this be ascertained? It is mockery to a broken heart. No one is not emotional or doesn’t show signs of being human at some broken point.

14. You have to deal with it

As if there was some hammer or weapon for that. Hearing this hits a wrong nail into the wall. Make a broken-heart realize they have been through a lot rather than reminding them that being a super-human would be more ideal.

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15. Other people are far worse off than you are

Is this considerate at all, as if there is a race to become a better broken heart? These words show some comparative test. It is best to find a sentence to show that they can be weak at times.

When dealing with a broken heart it is best to show your actions rather than say too much. As a broken person, we would love to hear your deepest concern rather than taunt us for our terrible situation.

Featured photo credit: sad girl in a cafe via shutterstock.com

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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