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15 Things People Who’ve Just Broken Up Hate Hearing The Most

15 Things People Who’ve Just Broken Up Hate Hearing The Most

It is hurting to experience a break up. For some it can be devastating. However there is a healing process to every loss. Most times the best way is to deal with the pain and move on. Through this sensitive period a broken up person needs the concern and consideration of friends and family, and trust me there are certain things they wouldn’t love to hear.

1. Life is hard

This makes the subject seem to be another unfair victim in the cycle of life. Shooting them such words doesn’t serve as a succor but a shot at bringing them to how painful the present situation should be for them. Rather saying something like, “there is a way out of this,” will help them heal better.

2. You made a mistake all along

Singling out the subject and wanting to make them appear stupid doesn’t structure the situation in a green, but a red light. We all do make mistakes, some even get away with their heads high, so why should he or she seem like the most ideal candidate for a break up.

3. You have always being poor at relationships

At a time when he or she is mourning something that would have appeared perfect, listening to a crucifying statement will only make them feel less worthy. Try to build their morale by telling them, “you haven’t met the perfect person yet.”

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4. You can still be friends

No one wants to be friends with someone who has just bruised their emotions. I don’t, and I know every other person neither. Please don’t let a broken heart hear this.

5. You need some time to heal

As if he or she was going through a terminal illness or some devastating disease. The injury of being hurt shouldn’t be aggravated. Of course time will heal the pain but you don’t need her or him to hear this.

6. I am sure they will regret this

That is hitting on a soft spot. You don’t know how much or how deep your friend still feels for their ex. Besides who knows if there will be a reunion. Never cancel out possibilities.

7. You are too emotional

This has a lot of red connotations with it. Of course, it takes some emotions to lose someone you have always cared about. Why make them seem less human.

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8. You should have known

Apparently this should mean that he or she should have been a fortune teller or something. No one in a relationship knows how pleasant or unpleasant a relationship will become. Of course they would never have known. Only things that will help them see the bright side of moving on should be heard.

8. Life goes on

Now this is too painful a thing to hear because you are making it clear that they would move on and could have another break up and will move on. No one wants to always meet break ups. Something soothing like, “at least hanging out on Friday night will be more fun” is better.

9. How long will you keep crying?

Please treat a broken heart with respect. Don’t limit or set anymore boundary. They would love to be more expressive at this point.

10. Cheer up

This sounds like a cliché. As if cheering up is a tablet to healing the pain. Of course the effect of such wouldn’t be as sweet. Understanding the situation would be more ideal than saying anything awful.

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11. Such is life

This sounds poetic. As if life wants to deal a big blow on lovers and broken hearts. It is better to have them hear something considerate.

12. You will receive a call soon

This doesn’t sound nice because it will make them expectant for something that may never happen. False hope raising expectations is not something any broken heart will love to hear.

13. You are a strong person, you will be fine

How can this be ascertained? It is mockery to a broken heart. No one is not emotional or doesn’t show signs of being human at some broken point.

14. You have to deal with it

As if there was some hammer or weapon for that. Hearing this hits a wrong nail into the wall. Make a broken-heart realize they have been through a lot rather than reminding them that being a super-human would be more ideal.

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15. Other people are far worse off than you are

Is this considerate at all, as if there is a race to become a better broken heart? These words show some comparative test. It is best to find a sentence to show that they can be weak at times.

When dealing with a broken heart it is best to show your actions rather than say too much. As a broken person, we would love to hear your deepest concern rather than taunt us for our terrible situation.

Featured photo credit: sad girl in a cafe via shutterstock.com

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Last Updated on June 26, 2020

10 Things To Remember When Everything Goes Wrong

10 Things To Remember When Everything Goes Wrong

Problems and heartaches in life are inevitable. However, there are some things to remember when you’re right in the thick of it that can help you get through it. When everything seems to be going wrong, practice telling yourself these things.

1. This Too Shall Pass

Sometimes life’s rough patches feel like they’re going to last forever. Whether you’re dealing with work-related issues, family problems, or stressful situations, very few problems last for a lifetime. So remind yourself, that things won’t be this bad forever.

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2. Some Things are Going Right

When things are going wrong, it’s hard to recognize what is going right. It’s easy to screen out the good things and only focus on the bad things. Remind yourself that some things are going right. Purposely look for the positive, even if it is something very small.

3. I Have Some Control

One of the most most important things to remember is that you have some control of the situation. Even if you aren’t in complete control of the situation, one thing you can always control is your attitude and reaction. Focus on managing what is within your control.

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4. I Can Ask for Help

Asking for help can be hard sometimes. However, it’s one of the best ways to deal with tough situations. Tell people what you need specifically if they offer to help. Don’t be afraid to call on friends and family and ask them for help, whether you need financial assistance, emotional support, or practical help.

5. Much of This Won’t Matter in a Few Years

Most of the problems we worry about today won’t actually matter five years from now. Remind yourself that whatever is going wrong now is only a small percentage of your actual life. Even if you’re dealing with a major problem, like a loved one’s illness, remember that a lot of good things are likely to happen in the course of a year or two as well.

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6. I Can Handle This

A lack of confidence in handling tough times can add to stress. One of the best things to remember is that you can handle tough situations. Even though you might feel angry, hurt, disappointed, or sad, it won’t kill you. You can get through it.

7. Something Good Will Come Out of This

No matter how bad a situation is, it’s almost certain that something good will come out of it. At the very least, it’s likely that you will learn a life lesson. Perhaps you learn not to repeat the same mistake in the future or maybe you move on from a bad situation and find something better. Look for the one good thing that can result when bad things happen.

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8. I Can Accept What’s Out of my Control

There are many things that aren’t within your control. You can’t change the past, another person’s behavior, or a loved one’s health issues. Don’t waste time trying to force others to change or trying to make things be different if it isn’t within your control. Investing time and energy into trying to things you can’t will cause you to feel helpless and exhausted. Acceptance is one of the best way to establish resilience.

9. I Have Overcome Past Difficulties

One of the things to remember when you’re facing difficulties, is that you’ve handled problems in the past. Don’t overlook past difficulties that you’ve dealt with successfully. Remind yourself of all the past problems you’ve overcome and you’ll gain confidence in dealing with the current issues.

10. I Need to Take Care of Myself

When everything seems to be going wrong, take care of yourself. Get plenty of rest, get some exercise, eat healthy, and spend some time doing leisure activities. When you’re taking better care of yourself you’ll be better equipped to deal with your problems.

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