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15 Things Only People Whose Partners Are Good At Maths Would Understand

15 Things Only People Whose Partners Are Good At Maths Would Understand

My partner has an MA in applied Mathematics,a few years of coding experience and is now getting his joint PhD in Optics and Math. Me – a Philosophy major, with a passion for languages and quirky literature expressions, along with rather basic understanding of what complex figures are and why do we even need differential equations. We make a perfect team together.

One of the things I’ve learned in our relationship is that the world of numbers is pretty fascinating, yet rather complex for everyone to understand. People who are great in Maths view the world from a different perspective. Here are 15 small things that you can relate to if you’ve dated someone with profound knowledge in Maths.

1. You learn a lot of new peculiar notions

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    Now I know how nonlinear dynamical systems function (in simple words); what chimera state is and how pure mathematics stands out from the rest. A simple question like “What are you working on right now?” can turn into an hour lecture about the subject. Surprisingly, I don’t get bored and in small steps try to realize the complexity behind a theory consisting of just one equation.

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    2. Your sense of humor evolves

    As you learn new complex terms, you can now appreciate and laugh on very specific types of jokes – the maths ones. Eventually, you can even shoot back witty math puns of your own. Here’s one of my recent favorites:

    “Two random variables were talking in a bar. They thought they were being discrete but I heard their chatter continuously”

    Yep, not everyone will get it.

    3. You don’t need to worry about analyzing the cost of anything

    Your partner will take care of this – and even run a whole statistical analysis, including various data variables, multiple options and side factors and deliver you a fine report with pure actionable data at hand. Recently, we were planning to move to another city and I spent the whole afternoon researching various moving companies offering different price systems. I thought I’ll go nuts untill I found the best option when my partner came to rescue and ran a fast comparison in less than 30 minutes defining the best value for money deal.

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    4. They are devoted to mathematics

    They are passionate about their science and their aspirations are truly admiring, but expect them to spend Saturday evening doing Maths instead of going social with your friends. Also, my partner loves getting up at 6 am, because he’s got an idea and just needs to test it. Luckily, he keeps things quiet. If they are in the zone, don’t expect them to react at any of your comments, requests and even urges.

    5. They believe they are smart

    They truly are, of course. But sometimes their firm belief that they are smarter than any other person expands into other areas except maths. Say biology, literature, social media trends, relationships and basically anything else even though they may not have much clue of what they are talking about.

    6. They are your personal business consultant

    Whereas I’m planning to re-work my freelance price grid, calculate the ROI of a new marketing campaign or finish filing my tax return, I have a powerful ally to consult with and get an expert opinion on the numbers. I can focus on what I’m good at while staying sure I’m doing ok in terms of income and taxes. Plus, a penny saved on professional accounting services.

    7. They value function over form

    Don’t expect them to dress fancy and follow fashion trends. They will always choose comfy functional clothes and in general pay few attention to what exactly they are wearing. I don’t mean socks of different colors, but I typically point out to my partner that he should look fancier today because we have been invited to that type of party.

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    8. They often don’t notice things around them

    Like a new piece of decor, new couch, your new hairstyle or other small (or not that small) changes of the environment around them. A story from a fellow couple – she sold his old car that was parked in the yard and he noticed that only six month later after a comment from the neighbour. Sometimes mathematicians stay absolutely indifferent to trivial stuff outside their numbers world.

    9. Their magazine subscriptions are pricey

    They need to read top scientific magazines to keep an eye on the new theories and competitors working in the same field. The math world can also be cruel in terms of competition. But the subscription price tag  leaves me pre-occupied each time it’s time to pay the bills. Physical Review Letters – $795.00 per year for paper copies; Nature – $199.00 per year and don’t get me started on others. The good news – I no longer feel guilty for blowing away $108 per year for Netflix.

    10. They are probably introverts

    This doesn’t mean they love living like hermits, but don’t expect them to hang out with your friends every other Friday or go wild on parties. They value their privacy and enjoy being in their secure social bubble. Expect to have more romantic nights in together or get togethers in small company. You should remember these things if you’re in love with an introvert.

    11. You will embarrass yourself once in awhile

    Because you didn’t know that SOHCAHTOA stands for sin = opposite/hypotenuse, cos = adj/hypotenuse, tan = opposite/adj and is not some sort of African greeting. Or because you couldn’t remember immediately the Pythagorean theorem at 1 am in the morning when you were going to bed. You’ll get that surprised look, but they will not love you less because of that. Nevertheless, you should be prepared for such awkward stuff.

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    12. They are open and direct

    They will say exactly what they think. Sometimes it’s cool as you know they won’t play any stupid mind games with you. On the other hand, this straightforwardness can get a bit offensive and can even be considered rude by other people. Including you.

    13. You have paper lying around everywhere

    Their desk is covered with papers, stickers and notes left on various clutters. So does the kitchen table, sofa, bathroom and a lot of other places around the house where they’ve settled to work today. And don’t you even think of throwing away or mixing anything! You can destroy a new revolutionary theory proof by accident!

    14. They need your care

    While getting obsessed with the latest things they’ve been working on, math people can totally forget about buying food, washing the dishes, taking the dog out or doing the laundry. It’s not like they are unreliable or lazy, they just don’t want to waste their precious time on such small things. If you live together, you’ll have to take care of them most of the times, not the opposite.

    15. You will always admire them

    Despite their quirks and odd habits, you will always admire the way how their brains function and how easily they can crack seemingly difficult questions. Even though you may not completely understand what exactly are they working on, you do know they are up-to something remarkable. Who knows, maybe your kids will study a theorem with their name on it someday.

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    Why Social Media Might Be Causing Depression

    Why Social Media Might Be Causing Depression

    A study [1] published in Depression and Anxiety found that social media users are more likely to be depressed. This was just one of the huge number of studies linking social media and depression[2] . But why exactly do platforms like Facebook and Instagram make people so unhappy? Well, we don’t know yet for sure, but there are some explanations.

    Social Media Could Lead to Depression

    Depression is a serious medical condition that affects how you think, feel, and behave. Social media may lead to depression in predisposed individuals or make existing symptoms of depression[3] worse explains[4] the study above’s senior author Dr. Brian Primack. So, the problem may not be in social media per se, but how we use it.

    Signs You’re Suffering From “Social Media Depression”

    If you feel like social media is having a negative impact on your mood, then you may be suffering from “social media depression.” Look for symptoms like:

    • low self-esteem,

    • negative self-talk,

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    • a low mood,

    • irritability,

    • a lack of interest in activities once enjoyed,

    • and social withdrawal.

    If you’ve had these symptoms for more than two weeks and if this is how you feel most of the time, then you are likely depressed. Although “social media depression “is not a term recognized in the medical setting, social media depression seems to be a real phenomenon affecting around 50% of social media users. As explained in a review study[5] published in Cyberpsychology, Behavior, and Social Networking, if a person has a certain predisposition to depression and other mental disorders, social media use may only worsen their mental health.

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    Social Media Could Crush Self-Esteem

    We know that social media and depression are in some way linked, but why is this so? Well, according to Igor Pantic, MD, Ph.D.[6], social media use skews your perception about other people’s lives and traits. To explain this further, most people like to portray an idealized image of their lives, personal traits, and appearance on sites like Facebook and Instagram. If you confuse this idealized image with reality, you may be under the false impression that everyone is better than you which can crush your self-esteem and lead to depression. This is especially true for teens and young adults who are more likely to compare themselves to others. If you already suffer from low self-esteem, the illusion that everyone has it better off than you will just make you feel worse.

    Causing Social Isolation and Other Negative Emotions

    Another commonly cited reason for the negative impact of social media on mental health is its link with social isolation. Depressed people are more likely to isolate themselves socially and chose only to interact indirectly through social media platforms. But communication online tends to be superficial and is lacking when compared to real-life interaction explains Panic. What this means is not that social media leads to isolation but the other way around, possibly explaining why we find so many depressed persons on these sites.

    Lastly, social media use may generate negative emotions in you like envy, jealousy, dislike, loneliness, and many others and this may worsen your depressive symptoms.

    Why We Need to Take This Seriously

    Both depression and social media use are on the rise according to epidemiological studies. Since each one has an impact on the other, we have to start thinking of healthier ways to use social media. Teens and young adults are especially vulnerable to the negative impact of social media on mental health.

    Advice on Social Media Use

    Although these findings did not provide any cause-effect explanation regarding Facebook and depression[7], they still do prove that social media use may not be a good way to handle depression. For this reason, the leading authors of these studies gave some suggestions as to how clinicians and people can make use of such findings.

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    One suggestion is that clinicians should ask patients about their social media habits. Then they can advise them on how to change their outlook on social media use or even suggest limiting their time spent on social media.

    Some social media users may also exhibit addictive behavior; they may spend too much time due to compulsive urges. Any compulsive behavior is bound to lead to feelings of guilt which can worsen depressive symptoms.

    Having Unhealthy Relationship with Social Media

    If you feel like your relationship with social media is unhealthy, then consider the advice on healthy social media use provided by psychology experts from Links Psychology[8]:

    Avoid negative social comparison – always keep in mind that how people portray themselves and their lives on social media is not a realistic picture, but rather an idealized one. Also, avoid comparing yourself to others because this behavior can lead to negative self-talk.

    Remember that social media is not a replacement for real life – Social media is great for staying in touch and having fun, but it should never replace real-world interactions.

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    Avoid releasing personal information – For your safety and privacy, make sure to be careful with what you post online.

    Report users who bully and harass you – It’s easy to be a bully in the anonymous and distant world of social media. Don’t take such offense personally and report those who abuse social media to harass others.

    The bits of advice listed above can help you establish a healthy relationship with social media. Always keep these things in mind to avoid losing an objective perspective of what social media is and how it is different from real life. If you are currently suffering from depression, talk to your doctor about what is bothering you so that you can get the treatment you need to get better. Tell your doctor about your social media use and see if they could give you some advice on this topic.

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