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15 Signs You’ve Found “The One”

15 Signs You’ve Found “The One”

How do you know when you’ve met “The One”? There is no fool proof way to know if the person you’re with is your soulmate, but there are often indicators and signs that you have met someone who you are extremely compatible with.

So we’ve found the clearest examples in these 15 signs that you’ve found “The One”.

1. You’re Willing To Improve Yourself

Both people in the relationship know they aren’t perfect, and are willing to work on their flaws and faults. Knowing that you both have areas you need to work on, from trying to be tidier or being better at communication, shows that you are both willing to improve yourselves, which is an important factor in relationships.

2. You Share Everything

Your partner wears your socks to work, and you always finish off their meals. You’ve been together so long you sometimes feel like you’re the same person – at least, that is what you tell your partner when you finish their sandwich.

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3. You Accept Each Other For Who You Are

Your partner isn’t bothered when you rant about why your favorite TV show was cancelled – in fact, they think it’s cute. Your partner appreciates all the little things you do, and they don’t want to change your personality. Instead of wanting you to fill their own personal expectations, they love you for just being you.

4. You Know Each Other’s Families And Friends

Your partner is always happy to join you for dinner with your parents or friends, whether they know them well or not. They know and love you, though, and so they want to forge relationships with the other people you love. From awkward family dinners to your best friend’s drunken birthday night out, they are always happy to be your plus one.

5. You Can’t Imagine Not Being Attracted To Your Partner

Whether you’ve been together for seven months or seven years, you can’t imagine not finding them sexy. You’re attracted to their imagination, their personality, their body, their face – everything.

6. You Are Supportive Of Each Other During Bad Times

Whether you have had a terrible day at work or you just feel upset, your partner is always there for you when you feel bad. From ordering your favorite take-out to listening to you rant and vent for two hours about that jerk boss of yours, there isn’t much they wouldn’t do to make sure you’re feeling better.

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7. You Trust Each Other

You trust your partner with everything, from being faithful to making sure your favorite chocolate is in the cupboard. You don’t worry about your partners actions; in fact, you trust them to always make good decisions. Instead of worrying about feelings of resentment and misunderstandings, you feel supported in the knowledge that your partner won’t let you down.

8. You Have Taken A Trip Together Without Falling Out

Spending the evening with your partner can be a lot of fun, but a solid week together can be much more challenging. Trips can be exhausting, and filled with ups and downs, but your partner doesn’t take this out on you. Instead of having a meltdown in the airport, they subtly let you how happy they are to spend the time with you.

9. You Don’t Struggle To Show Your Emotions

If you have had a terrible day at work, you don’t feel like you need to fake a smile when you get home. In fact, it’s much more likely your partner will open a bottle of wine while you grumble from the sofa – which is perfect.

Although you don’t let your emotions rule you, you understand it is important and healthy to express how you feel. If you feel sad, happy or angry, you let your partner know, and you always try to be aware of your partner’s emotions and feelings.

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10. You’re Both Fine With Sitting In Silence

You both understand the importance of silence. After all of the time you’ve spent together, silences are never awkward. In fact, sometimes there’s nothing you want more than a long, quiet hug.

11. You’re Interested In Each Other, Rather Than Material Things

You know you would still be with your partner if they lost their home or job, and vice versa. You love each other purely for who you are, rather than the money or possessions you each bring to the relationship.

12. You Are Happy To Treat Each Other

You don’t resent doing things to make your partner happy, even if you like different things. From taking them to their favorite department stores, to cooking them dinner, making your partner feel good makes you feel great.

13. You Always Answer Their Calls – Even at 3AM

You’re used to receiving drunken phonecalls from your partner in the early hours of the morning. You know they are probably just drunk, and they probably don’t have anything important to tell you, but you’re willing to lose out on some sleep if it means you get to speak to them.

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14. You Never Feel Like They Aren’t Listening To You

Remember screaming fights in the middle of the night with earlier partners, when you felt like they weren’t listening to you? When you’ve met the one, you will still fight, but each fight is also a conversation about how to fix any issues, rather than feeling like you’re screaming at a wall. Most of your fights are calm and constructive talking, instead of shouting over each other.

15. You’re Best Friends As Well As Partners

You make time to go on romantic trips and dates, but you’re just as happy to slob out in your jogging bottoms watching the new season of Game Of Thrones together. Sometimes you act like a couple, and sometimes you act like childish best friends, and you wouldn’t change a single thing.

Do you know any signs that you’ve found “The One”? Comment your ideas below!

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The Gentle Art of Saying No For a Less Stressful Life

The Gentle Art of Saying No For a Less Stressful Life

No!

It’s a simple fact that you can never be productive if you take on too many commitments — you simply spread yourself too thin and will not be able to get anything done, at least not well or on time.

But requests for your time are coming in all the time — through phone, email, IM or in person. To stay productive, and minimize stress, you have to learn the Gentle Art of Saying No — an art that many people have problems with.

What’s so hard about saying no? Well, to start with, it can hurt, anger or disappoint the person you’re saying “no” to, and that’s not usually a fun task. Second, if you hope to work with that person in the future, you’ll want to continue to have a good relationship with that person, and saying “no” in the wrong way can jeopardize that.

But it doesn’t have to be difficult or hard on your relationship. Here’s how to master the Gentle Art of Saying No:

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1. Value Your Time

Know your commitments, and how valuable your precious time is. Then, when someone asks you to dedicate some of your time to a new commitment, you’ll know that you simply cannot do it. And tell them that: “I just can’t right now … my plate is overloaded as it is.”

2. Know Your Priorities

Even if you do have some extra time (which for many of us is rare), is this new commitment really the way you want to spend that time?

For myself, I know that more commitments means less time with my wife and kids, who are more important to me than anything.

3. Practice Saying No

Practice makes perfect. Saying “no” as often as you can is a great way to get better at it and more comfortable with saying the word. And sometimes, repeating the word is the only way to get a message through to extremely persistent people. When they keep insisting, just keep saying no. Eventually, they’ll get the message.

4. Don’t Apologize

A common way to start out is “I’m sorry but …” as people think that it sounds more polite. While politeness is important, apologizing just makes it sound weaker. You need to be firm, and unapologetic about guarding your time.

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5. Stop Being Nice

Again, it’s important to be polite, but being nice by saying yes all the time only hurts you. When you make it easy for people to grab your time (or money), they will continue to do it. But if you erect a wall, they will look for easier targets.

Show them that your time is well guarded by being firm and turning down as many requests (that are not on your top priority list) as possible.

6. Say No to Your Boss

Sometimes we feel that we have to say yes to our boss — they’re our boss, right? And if we say “no,” then we look like we can’t handle the work — at least, that’s the common reasoning.

But in fact, it’s the opposite — explain to your boss that by taking on too many commitments, you are weakening your productivity and jeopardizing your existing commitments. If your boss insists that you take on the project, go over your project or task list and ask him/her to re-prioritize, explaining that there’s only so much you can take on at one time.

7. Pre-Empting

It’s often much easier to pre-empt requests than to say “no” to them after the request has been made. If you know that requests are likely to be made, perhaps in a meeting, just say to everyone as soon as you come into the meeting,

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“Look guys, just to let you know, my week is booked full with some urgent projects and I won’t be able to take on any new requests.”

8. Get Back to You

Instead of providing an answer then and there, it’s often better to tell the person you’ll give their request some thought and get back to them. This will allow you to give it some consideration, and check your commitments and priorities. Then, if you can’t take on the request, simply tell them:

“After giving this some thought, and checking my commitments, I won’t be able to accommodate the request at this time.”

At least you gave it some consideration.

9. Maybe Later

If this is an option that you’d like to keep open, instead of just shutting the door on the person, it’s often better to just say,

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“This sounds like an interesting opportunity, but I just don’t have the time at the moment. Perhaps you could check back with me in [give a time frame].”

Next time, when they check back with you, you might have some free time on your hands.

10. It’s Not You, It’s Me

This classic dating rejection can work in other situations. Don’t be insincere about it, though. Often, the person or project is a good one, but it’s just not right for you, at least not at this time.

Simply say so — you can compliment the idea, the project, the person, the organization … but say that it’s not the right fit, or it’s not what you’re looking for at this time. Only say this if it’s true — people can sense insincerity.

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