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15 Signs You’ve Found “The One”

15 Signs You’ve Found “The One”

How do you know when you’ve met “The One”? There is no fool proof way to know if the person you’re with is your soulmate, but there are often indicators and signs that you have met someone who you are extremely compatible with.

So we’ve found the clearest examples in these 15 signs that you’ve found “The One”.

1. You’re Willing To Improve Yourself

Both people in the relationship know they aren’t perfect, and are willing to work on their flaws and faults. Knowing that you both have areas you need to work on, from trying to be tidier or being better at communication, shows that you are both willing to improve yourselves, which is an important factor in relationships.

2. You Share Everything

Your partner wears your socks to work, and you always finish off their meals. You’ve been together so long you sometimes feel like you’re the same person – at least, that is what you tell your partner when you finish their sandwich.

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3. You Accept Each Other For Who You Are

Your partner isn’t bothered when you rant about why your favorite TV show was cancelled – in fact, they think it’s cute. Your partner appreciates all the little things you do, and they don’t want to change your personality. Instead of wanting you to fill their own personal expectations, they love you for just being you.

4. You Know Each Other’s Families And Friends

Your partner is always happy to join you for dinner with your parents or friends, whether they know them well or not. They know and love you, though, and so they want to forge relationships with the other people you love. From awkward family dinners to your best friend’s drunken birthday night out, they are always happy to be your plus one.

5. You Can’t Imagine Not Being Attracted To Your Partner

Whether you’ve been together for seven months or seven years, you can’t imagine not finding them sexy. You’re attracted to their imagination, their personality, their body, their face – everything.

6. You Are Supportive Of Each Other During Bad Times

Whether you have had a terrible day at work or you just feel upset, your partner is always there for you when you feel bad. From ordering your favorite take-out to listening to you rant and vent for two hours about that jerk boss of yours, there isn’t much they wouldn’t do to make sure you’re feeling better.

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7. You Trust Each Other

You trust your partner with everything, from being faithful to making sure your favorite chocolate is in the cupboard. You don’t worry about your partners actions; in fact, you trust them to always make good decisions. Instead of worrying about feelings of resentment and misunderstandings, you feel supported in the knowledge that your partner won’t let you down.

8. You Have Taken A Trip Together Without Falling Out

Spending the evening with your partner can be a lot of fun, but a solid week together can be much more challenging. Trips can be exhausting, and filled with ups and downs, but your partner doesn’t take this out on you. Instead of having a meltdown in the airport, they subtly let you how happy they are to spend the time with you.

9. You Don’t Struggle To Show Your Emotions

If you have had a terrible day at work, you don’t feel like you need to fake a smile when you get home. In fact, it’s much more likely your partner will open a bottle of wine while you grumble from the sofa – which is perfect.

Although you don’t let your emotions rule you, you understand it is important and healthy to express how you feel. If you feel sad, happy or angry, you let your partner know, and you always try to be aware of your partner’s emotions and feelings.

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10. You’re Both Fine With Sitting In Silence

You both understand the importance of silence. After all of the time you’ve spent together, silences are never awkward. In fact, sometimes there’s nothing you want more than a long, quiet hug.

11. You’re Interested In Each Other, Rather Than Material Things

You know you would still be with your partner if they lost their home or job, and vice versa. You love each other purely for who you are, rather than the money or possessions you each bring to the relationship.

12. You Are Happy To Treat Each Other

You don’t resent doing things to make your partner happy, even if you like different things. From taking them to their favorite department stores, to cooking them dinner, making your partner feel good makes you feel great.

13. You Always Answer Their Calls – Even at 3AM

You’re used to receiving drunken phonecalls from your partner in the early hours of the morning. You know they are probably just drunk, and they probably don’t have anything important to tell you, but you’re willing to lose out on some sleep if it means you get to speak to them.

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14. You Never Feel Like They Aren’t Listening To You

Remember screaming fights in the middle of the night with earlier partners, when you felt like they weren’t listening to you? When you’ve met the one, you will still fight, but each fight is also a conversation about how to fix any issues, rather than feeling like you’re screaming at a wall. Most of your fights are calm and constructive talking, instead of shouting over each other.

15. You’re Best Friends As Well As Partners

You make time to go on romantic trips and dates, but you’re just as happy to slob out in your jogging bottoms watching the new season of Game Of Thrones together. Sometimes you act like a couple, and sometimes you act like childish best friends, and you wouldn’t change a single thing.

Do you know any signs that you’ve found “The One”? Comment your ideas below!

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Amy is a writer who blogs about relationships and lifestyle advice.

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Last Updated on October 14, 2020

Had a Bad Day? 7 Ways to Rebound From It and Feel Good Again

Had a Bad Day? 7 Ways to Rebound From It and Feel Good Again

Today didn’t turn out as you planned, but it doesn’t mean you’re weak. It simply means that you’re human, and you’re not bad just because you had a bad day.

“Not everyday is a good day but there is something good in every day.” -Alice Morse Earle

It’s not the end of the world when you find yourself thinking “I had a bad day,” but it can feel like it. You may have had plans that fell apart, experiences that set you back, and interactions that only did harm.

You may have started the day thinking you could take on it all, only to find you could hardly get out of bed. When you have a bad day, you can forget to look at the good.

Sometimes, self-care helps us to remember why we are worth it. It helps us to recharge and reset our mindset. It helps us to know that there are still options and that the day isn’t over yet.

Love yourself today, no matter how hard it’s been. That’s the way to find yourself amidst the hardships you have. That’s how you center yourself and regain focus and live a more meaningful life. Give yourself some credit and compassion.

Here are 7 ways to rebound from a bad day using self-compassion as a tool. If you had a bad day, these are for you!

1. Make a Gratitude List

In a study on gratitude, psychologists Dr. Robert A Emmons and Dr. Michael E. McCullough conducted an experiment where one group of people wrote out gratitude lists for ten weeks while another group wrote about irritations. The study found that the group that wrote about gratitude reported more optimistic mindsets in their lives[1].

Overall, having a gratitude list improved well-being and made one truly grateful by counting the blessings in their lives.

Write a list of what you are grateful for if you had a bad day. Make it as long as you like, but also remember to note why you’re grateful for each thing you write.

What has given you the most joy? What has set you up for better days? Keep a tally of triumphs in mind, especially when you do have the bad days.

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The day doesn’t define you, and you still have things of value that surround you. These could be material things, spiritual connections and experiences, relationships, basic needs, emotional and mental well-being, physical health, progress towards hopes and dreams, or simply being alive.

Here are some other simple ways to practice gratitude.

2. Write in a Journal

Journaling affects your overall mental health, which also affects physical health and aids in the management of stress, depression, anxiety, and more[2].

All you need is a pen and paper, or you could do an online, password-protected journal such as Penzu. The key is to get started and not pressure yourself on how polished or perfect it is. You don’t need to have prior experience to start journal writing. Just start.

Write out everything that is bothering you for 15 minutes. This helps with rumination, processing problems, and can even aid with brainstorming solutions.

However you approach it, you can find patterns of thinking that no longer serve you and start to transform your overall mental state. This will impact all areas of your life and is a great coping skill.

3. Meditate

Meditation can help you overcome negative thought patterns, worrying about the future, dwelling on the past, or struggling to overcome a bad day[3]. It shifts your mentality and helps you focus on the present or any one thing you truly want to focus on.

Here is an example of a meditation you can do:

Get into a comfortable position. Close your eyes. Rest your body, release tension, and unclench your jaw. Tighten and release each muscle group in a body scan for progressive muscle relaxation.

Focus on your breath, taking a few deep breaths. Let your belly expand when you breathe in for diaphragmatic breathing. Empty yourself completely of air, then return to normal breathing.

Next, focus on the idea of self-love and let it erase negative thoughts. Think about the ways you’ve been judging yourself, with the narratives coming up that your mind may create.

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Give yourself unconditional love and release judgment. Take your time meditating on this because you matter. This is particularly important if you had a bad day.

Check out this article for more on how to get started with a meditation practice.

4. Do Child’s Pose

Yoga Outlet says:

“Child’s Pose is a simple way to calm your mind, slow your breath, and restore a feeling of peace and safety. Practicing the pose before bedtime can help to release the worries of the day. Practicing in the morning can you help transition from sleeping to waking.”[4]

When you do Child’s Pose, it can be between difficult positions in yoga, or it can be anytime you feel you need a rest. It helps you recover from difficulties and relax the mind.

It also has the physical health benefits of elongating your back, opening your hips, and helping with digestion[5].

To do Child’s Pose, rest your buttocks back on your feet, knees on the floor. Elongate your body over your knees with both arms extended or tucked back, with head and neck resting on the floor[6].

Had a bad day? Try Child's Pose.

     

    Do this pose as a gift to yourself. You are allowing yourself to heal, rest, get time for yourself, recover, and recharge. When you’ve had a bad day, it’s there waiting for you.

    5. Try Positive Self-Talk

    Engage in positive self-talk. This is essentially choosing your thoughts.

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    When you have a negative thought, such as “I can’t do this,” replace it consciously with the thought “I can do this.” Give yourself positive affirmations to help with this.

    Negative self-talk fits into four general categories: personalizing or blaming yourself, magnifying or only focusing on the negative, catastrophizing or expecting the worst to happen, and polarizing or only seeing back and white[7].

    When you stop blaming yourself for everything and start focusing on the positive, expecting things to work out, and seeing the areas of grey in life, you reverse these negative mindsets and engage in positive self-talk.

    When you speak words of kindness to yourself, your brain responds with a more positive attitude. That attitude will affect everything you do. It’s how you take care of yourself if you had a bad day.

    Check in with yourself to know when you are having negative self-talk. Are you seeing patterns? When did they start to become a problem? Are you able to turn these thoughts around?

    6. Use Coping Skills and Take a Break

    Use your coping skills. This means not letting your thoughts take control of yourself.

    You can distract yourself and escape a bit. Do things you love. You can exercise, listen to music, dance, volunteer or help someone, be in nature, or read a book.

    It isn’t about repression. It’s about redirection. You can’t stay in thoughts that are no longer working for you.

    Sometimes, it’s okay to get out of your own way. Give yourself a break from the things going on in your head. You can always come back to a problem later. This may even help you figure out the best course of action as sometimes stepping away is the only way to see the solution.

    If you had a bad day, you may not feel like addressing what went wrong. You may need a break, so take one.

    7. If a Bad Day Turns Into Bad Days

    “I believe depression is legitimate. But I also believe that if you don’t exercise, eat nutritious food, get sunlight, get enough sleep, consume positive material, surround yourself with support, then you aren’t giving yourself a fighting chance.” –Jim Carrey

    If you’ve been feeling out of control, depressed, or unstable for more than a few weeks, it’s time to call a mental health professional. This is not because you have failed in any way. It’s because you are human, and you simply need help.

    You may not be able to quickly rebound from a bad day, and that’s fine. Feel what you feel, but don’t let it consume you.

    When you talk to a professional, share the techniques that you have already tried here and whether they were helpful. They may tell you additional ideas or gain insights from your struggles of not being able to rebound from a series of bad days.

    If you’re having more than just a bad day, they will want to know. If you don’t have the answers, that’s okay, too. You just need to try these tools and figure out how you’re feeling. That’s all that’s required of you.

    Keep taking care of yourself. Any progress is progress, no matter how small. Give yourself a chance to get better by reaching out.

    Final Thoughts

    If you had a bad day, don’t let it stop you.

    Know this: It’s okay not to be okay. You have a right to feel what you feel. But there is something you can do about it.

    You can invest in yourself via self-care.

    You are not alone in this. Everyone has bad days from time to time. You just need to know that you are the positive things you tell yourself.

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