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15 Reasons Why Artistic People are Difficult to Understand

15 Reasons Why Artistic People are Difficult to Understand

Did you ever get a feeling that someone is simply from out of this world? The fact is that we are all unique in our own way, but if we pay close attention to artistic people, we can all agree that they are a subspecies which can be studied and characterized in a certain way.

Artistic people have a special ability to express their impressions, feelings and memories through different kinds of art, and we truly appreciate what they do, but that doesn’t get us any closer to understanding them, right? Well, I had an interesting opportunity to pick their brains, and here’s what I was able to find out.

1. They have minds that work differently

The fact is, artistic people don’t have the same deduction system or system of values like most people, and that’s the reason why we can’t understand their actions or follow their train of thought. Their minds tick a bit differently than a regular person’s, because it’s moved by different details.

2. They consider the artwork they created to be their children

It’s very important to find a way to appreciate their work if you want to get close to an artistic person. If you have trouble understanding it, I’m sure you’ll get an explanation (and don’t argue with how reasonable it is) if you ask for one.

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3. They are irrational when they are in love

Artistic people usually look like they are gliding the earth, but when they are in love, they are practically flying. Be sure they’ll do anything to show their affection – in their own way, of course – and you better not be there if things don’t turn out the way they planned, because they can fall into deep despair really quickly.

4. They express their feelings through codes

Speaking of feelings, artistic people tend to express them through everything but direct verbalization. If they dedicate a piece of art to you, spend a lot of time around you or give you significant looks you don’t fully understand, you should know they are just trying to show that you’re meaningful to them.

5. They don’t expect to be understood – in fact, they prefer not to be

This is one of those annoying characteristics artistic people have. They live in a world of their own and you can be positive that they like it there, so don’t even try to move them and place them in the real world, because not one artistic person will like it there.

6. They have problems with adjustment

Which brings me to my next point – if you do move them from their surroundings, don’t expect them to fit in. If you’re lucky, you’ll run into a social butterfly (there’s a small group of them which act like that), but the chances are minimal.

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7. They have their own way of looking at the passage of time

This characteristic is noticeable in every aspect of an artistic person’s life. They can spend hours sitting in one place and act like they have been there for only a couple of minutes, but if you catch them while they’re in a bad mood, you won’t be able to make them sit still for a minute, because they’ll feel like hours are passing them by.

8. Their personality is conflicted

It’s difficult to figure artistic people out because they act like introverts and extroverts at the same time. It all really depends on which stage of productivity they are in – when uninspired, an artistic person will feel useless, which will make an introvert out of them. However, if they are satisfied with the place in life they are at, they will act like extreme extroverts.

9. They either over-criticize or over-appreciate their work

It’s completely irrelevant, what you see in their artwork – if they don’t like it, it will probably get torn apart or thrown in the garbage. However, they consider a piece of art to be good, you can expect for it to get glorified and cherished as if it were the most important thing in the world.

10. They don’t take rules too seriously

Just so you know, they don’t have real regards for any kind of rules, because most artistic people feel like they are binding. So, it’s not at all impossible to get in some kind of trouble when you’re in some kind of artsy company.

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11. They are usually great hedonists

Most artistic people don’t really have limits when it comes to food, drinks and bad habits. There are all kinds of reasons you’ll hear from them; some consider it to be freeing and inspiring, while others seek for some kind of solution, especially if they are prone to depression.

12. They are found to be very attractive

No matter what kind of arts they are into, there’s something particularly inviting about them. So, whether you’re wondering why you feel attracted to a mysterious photographer, a pensive musician or an eccentric painter, you should know it’s pretty hard to put your finger on it.

13. They have a fear of being forgotten or irrelevant

If you take a look through the eyes of an artist, each piece of art they create should leave its mark on the world. Most of them have that selfish characteristic in them, because they desire to stay immortal through their artwork. So, normally, their biggest fear would be the opposite of that.

14. Their appearance makes them stand out

Artistic people tend to draw a lot of attention. A part of that attention comes from their charisma, or aura, or whatever you like to call it, but some of that is on purpose. They like to stand out, and they often achieve that with the choice of clothing items.

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15. They need to feel loved

However confident and daring they pretend to be, artistic people have their insecurities. They need someone who will nurture them, make them feel loved and appreciated, push and inspire them to make great things. Artistic people contribute to making our world a better, more beautiful place, don’t they?

They can be difficult to handle or understand, but that’s nothing you can’t figure out with just a bit of patience. I hope you’ll find my pointers insightful, and I look forward to your feedback!

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Last Updated on September 18, 2020

13 Helping Points When Things Don’t Go Your Way

13 Helping Points When Things Don’t Go Your Way

For the original article by Celestine: 13 Helping Points When Things Don’t Go Your Way

“We all have problems. The way we solve them is what makes us different.” ~Unknown

“It’s not stress that kills us, it is our reaction to it.” – Hans Selye

Have you ever experienced moments when things just don’t go your way? For example, losing your keys, accidentally spilling your drink, waking up late, missing your buses/trains, forgetting to bring your things, and so on?

You’re not alone. All of us, myself included, experience times when things don’t go as we expect.

Here is my guide on how to deal with daily setbacks.

1. Take a step back and evaluate

When something bad happens, take a step back and evaluate the situation. Some questions to ask yourself:

  1. What is the problem?
  2. Are you the only person facing this problem in the world today?
  3. How does this problem look like at an individual level? A national level? On a global scale?
  4. What’s the worst possible thing that can happen to you as a result of this?
  5. How is it going to impact your life in the next 1 year? 5 years? 10 years?

Doing this exercise is not to undermine the problem or disclaiming responsibility, but to consider different perspectives, so you can adopt the best approach for it. Most problems we encounter daily may seem like huge issues when they crop up, but most, if not all, don’t have much impact in our life beyond that day.

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2. Vent if you have to, but don’t linger on the problem

If you feel very frustrated and need to let off some steam, go ahead and do that. Talk to a friend, complain, crib about it, or scream at the top of your lungs if it makes you happy.

At the same time, don’t get caught up with venting. While venting may temporarily relieve yourself, it’s not going to solve the problem ultimately. You don’t want to be an energy vampire.

Vent if there’s a need to, but do it for 15 to 20 minutes. Then move on.

3. Realize there are others out there facing this too

Even though the situation may be frustrating, you’re not alone. Remember there are almost 7 billion people in the world today, and chances are that other people have faced the same thing before too. Knowing it’s not just you helps you to get out of a self-victimizing mindset.

4. Process your thoughts/emotions

Process your thoughts/emotions with any of the four methods:

  1. Journal. Write your unhappiness in a private diary or in your blog. It doesn’t have to be formal at all – it can be a brain dump on rough paper or new word document. Delete after you are done.
  2. Audio taping. Record yourself as you talk out what’s on your mind. Tools include tape recorder, your PC (Audacity is a freeware for recording/editing audio) and your mobile (most mobiles today have audio recording functions). You can even use your voice mail for this. Just talking helps you to gain awareness of your emotions. After recording, play back and listen to what you said. You might find it quite revealing.
  3. Meditation. At its simplest form, meditation is just sitting/lying still and observing your reality as it is – including your thoughts and emotions. Some think that it involves some complex mambo-jumbo, but it doesn’t.
  4. Talking to someone. Talking about it with someone helps you work through the issue. It also gets you an alternate viewpoint and consider it from a different angle.

5. Acknowledge your thoughts

Don’t resist your thoughts, but acknowledge them. This includes both positive and negative thoughts.

By acknowledging, I mean recognizing these thoughts exist. So if say, you have a thought that says, “Wow, I’m so stupid!”, acknowledge that. If you have a thought that says, “I can’t believe this is happening to me again”, acknowledge that as well.

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Know that acknowledging the thoughts doesn’t mean you agree with them. It’s simply recognizing the existence of said thoughts so that you can stop resisting yourself and focus on the situation on hand.

6. Give yourself a break

If you’re very stressed out by the situation, and the problem is not time sensitive, then give yourself a break. Take a walk, listen to some music, watch a movie, or get some sleep. When you’re done, you should feel a lot more revitalized to deal with the situation.

7. Uncover what you’re really upset about

A lot of times, the anger we feel isn’t about the world. You may start off feeling angry at someone or something, but at the depth of it, it’s anger toward yourself.

Uncover the root of your anger. I have written a five part anger management series on how to permanently overcome anger.

After that, ask yourself: How can you improve the situation? Go to Step #9, where you define your actionable steps. Our anger comes from not having control on the situation. Sitting there and feeling infuriated is not going to change the situation. The more action we take, the more we will regain control over the situation, the better we will feel.

8. See this as an obstacle to be overcome

As Helen Keller once said,

“Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experiences of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition inspired and success achieved.”

Whatever you’re facing right now, see it as an obstacle to be overcome. In every worthy endeavor, there’ll always be countless obstacles that emerge along the way. These obstacles are what separate the people who make it, and those who don’t. If you’re able to push through and overcome them, you’ll emerge a stronger person than before. It’ll be harder for anything to get you down in the future.

9. Analyze the situation – Focus on actionable steps

In every setback, there are going to be things that can’t be reversed since they have already occurred. You want to focus on things that can still be changed (salvageable) vs. things that have already happened and can’t be changed. The only time the situation changes is when you take steps to improve it. Rather than cry over spilt milk, work through your situation:

  1. What’s the situation?
  2. What’s stressing you about this situation?
  3. What are the next steps that’ll help you resolve them?
  4. Take action on your next steps!

After you have identified your next steps, act on them. The key here is to focus on the actionable steps, not the inactionable steps. It’s about regaining control over the situation through direct action.

10. Identify how it occurred (so it won’t occur again next time)

A lot of times we react to our problems. The problem occurs, and we try to make the best out of what has happened within the context. While developing a healthy coping mechanism is important (which is what the other helping points are on), it’s also equally important, if not more, to understand how the problem arose. This way, you can work on preventing it from taking place next time, vs. dealing reactively with it.

Most of us probably think the problem is outside of our control, but reality is most of the times it’s fully preventable. It’s just a matter of how much responsibility you take over the problem.

For example, for someone who can’t get a cab for work in the morning, he/she may see the problem as a lack of cabs in the country, or bad luck. However, if you trace to the root of the problem, it’s probably more to do with (a) Having unrealistic expectations of the length of time to get a cab. He/she should budget more time for waiting for a cab next time. (b) Oversleeping, because he/she was too tired from working late the previous day. He/she should allocate enough time for rest next time. He/she should also pick up better time management skills, so as to finish work in lesser time.

11. Realize the situation can be a lot worse

No matter how bad the situation is, it can always be much worse. A plus point vs. negative point analysis will help you realize that.

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12. Do your best, but don’t kill yourself over it

No matter how bad your situation may seem, do your best, but don’t kill yourself over it. Life is too beautiful to worry so much over daily issues. Take a step back (#1), give yourself a break if you need to (#6), and do what you can within your means (#9). Everything else will unfold accordingly. Worrying too much about the outcome isn’t going to change things or make your life any better.

13. Pick out the learning points from the encounter

There’s something to learn from every encounter. What have you learned from this situation? What lessons have you taken away?

After you identify your learning points, think about how you’re going to apply them moving forward. With this, you’ve clearly gained something from this encounter. You’ve walked away a stronger, wiser, better person, with more life lessons to draw from in the future.

Get the manifesto version of this article: [Manifesto] What To Do When Things Don’t Go Your Way

Featured photo credit: Alice Donovan Rouse via unsplash.com

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