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14 Things Every 20-Something Woman Should Start Doing

14 Things Every 20-Something Woman Should Start Doing

As the new generation, you, the 20-something woman, experience generational gap and lots of discrimination in a world dominated by the “political correct” policy. You need to learn to survive immediately if you want to become a successful woman, spouse, and mother. To do this, you need to master a number of things which will help you understand how this wacky world is made. The way you spend your 20s will define you, so make sure you make the most out of this decade. Some of these activities are to be tried once in a lifetime, others are life-long skills, but make sure you try each one of the these things every 20-something woman should start doing.

Embrace a healthy lifestyle.

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    As a 20-something woman you might have a great, toned body and a slim figure, so you might think you don’t need to take up a healthy lifestyle yet and still rely on Cosmo and chips to get you through the day. A myth about healthy lifestyles: they are restrictive. Ditch this false idea and embrace a rich diet and a good exercise routine which you can stick with for the rest of your life. This must not be restrictive as you must have all the necessary nutriments needed for your energetic life. A healthy lifestyle promotes better health and can keep away chronic diseases like diabetes or heart issues for a lot of years to come.

    Learn to breathe deep.

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      Learning to breathe deep–using your abdomen–will bring you lots of benefits, but to avoid taking up all the space in this article, I will only number a couple of them: good sleep, better posture, a fit body and a positive attitude towards everything around you. Deep breathing is all about using your diaphragm and inflating your lungs entirely. Practice it until you master it, in order to gain all the benefits from this simple lifehack.

      Get enough sleep.

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        The lack of wrinkles and the boosting energy of a 20-something woman are two of the main reasons why young women party all the night and forget to make use of their beauty sleep. But it is time to get enough sleep for the sake of your health and beauty. A good night’s sleep promotes a positive attitude, lots of energy and great skin. Plus, it enhances your memory, as the memories are formed during sleep. Some believe regularly getting a good sleep can help postpone dementia.

        Learn to meditate and manage stress.

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          Meditation is very important for a 20-something woman as life becomes more stressful, while the responsibilities gather with the speed of sound. Yoga and other meditative practices are great ways to manage stress efficiently and achieve a positive state of mind, even in the most unpleasant situations. You also get in touch with your body and learn to listen to it carefully, thus any early sign of disease becomes more visible than before, so you can start healing sooner. Meditation also helps you gain more sensitivity and experience life deeper, as all the sensations will be enhanced.

          Define your fashion style.

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            Fashion has been a matter of importance since women first discovered the wonders of clothes. As you enter your 20s, you should ditch the teenage clothes (most of them) and get a new wardrobe. The new essentials: a little black dress, a clean office outfit for the interview for your dream job, a pair of pants made from wool, pants which fit you now, a skirt and multiple blouses to go with it, and a couple of clothes which make you feel sexy and powerful, regardless what others say about you. Do not forget about underwear as you enter your 20s and turn from a girl into a woman.

            Master the great art of make-up.

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              Make-up is an art, but one can master it with lots of practice. And what time is better to master it than your 20s? Lean how to use subtle make-up to enhance your features, hiding the ones which don’t complement you. Also, look for tutorials and learn how to make stunning make-up to wear at the club. When you’ve mastered this art, you will look great and your confidence will literally boost, turning you into the lighthouse of your friends.

              Learn to cook.

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                The ability to feed yourself is essential, even if you now have someone else to feed you on daily basis. Moreover, cooking is a form of expressing yourself, so you need to master the dishes and put on a great meal out of anything: fruits, veggies, meat or a couple of leftovers. This will also exercise your creativity and ensure a healthy diet.

                Become an avid reader.

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                  The Internet is a great source of knowledge, but one must not ditch the real deal. There is nothing more rewarding than curling on the couch with a good book and a glass of wine. A 20-something woman is mature enough to know what she wants, but the real personal depth can only be made by reading. Pick famous books, controversial ones, the Bible, the Quoran, anything you can put your hands on will help you develop and gain more wisdom.

                  Learn to play chess.

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                    Chess is an old game and exercises the mind a lot, so it can help you stay away from dementia and promotes sharp thinking. Practice chess each time you can, mostly in the stressful periods, as it can lead to a clear head and help you solve your problems. And because it is a game of two, it is a great opportunity to find friends who match your intellect and passions.

                    Become an efficient financial specialist.

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                      As you hit your new (and hopefully improved) life after you finish your studies, as a 20-something woman you will earn your first money. So it’s time to learn how to spend it wisely, as you also need to start saving. As you are in your 20s, you should keep an eye on your finances and look for ways to save when you go shopping. Read the financial news, stay in touch with the new opportunities and take them as quick as possible, after you analyse the risks and put them in balance with the benefits. And learn how to turn your eyes from those Manolo Blahnik!

                      Travel solo.

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                        Travelling on your own is frightening, dangerous and awesome. Get some essentials in a backpack and start your freedom adventure now. Travelling alone means you will not have someone else to rely on, so you will learn to get out of tricky situations and fend for yourself. Travelling alone is also a great way to master other points in this list, like cooking and managing finances. Your social life will boost, not to mention that you will learn new things, embrace new habits and learn about the culture of other people.

                        Learn to touch yourself.

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                          There is no better time to discover yourself than your 20s, so go ahead and learn how to touch your own body. Pleasing yourself is a great way to become aware of your own body and discover what you like and what you don’t.

                          Ditch the social media and make real friends.

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                            Being social is great, but Facebook & co. are not the way to do it. Close that account and go out and make real friends, not those who just give a like to a post. Relationships are essential, and you will be happier and healthier when you spend time bonding with your friends in front of a coffee or at a concert.

                            Try an extreme sport at least once.

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                              Extremes are all about it when you hit your 20s, so make sure you do all the things you wanted to do or have been afraid of. Yes, that’s right: experience frighting activities, so you can then state you’ve been there, done that and had overcome your fears. For a girl who is afraid of heights, experience sky-diving or hiking to ditch the fear and welcome the awesomeness. Later in your life, you will thank yourself for this.

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                              Published on September 23, 2020

                              6 Effective Negotiation Skills to Master

                              6 Effective Negotiation Skills to Master

                              I don’t know about you, but many times when I hear the word negotiate I think of lawyers working out a business deal or having to do battle with a car salesman to try to get a lower price. Since I am in recruiting, the term “negotiation” comes up when someone is attempting to get a higher compensation package.

                              If we think about it, we tend to negotiate almost every day in a wide variety of things we do. Getting a handle on the important negotiation skills can be incredibly beneficial in many parts of our lives. Let’s take a look at 6 effective negotiation skills to master.

                              What is Negotiation?

                              First, let’s take a look at what negotiation is. Put simply, negotiation is a method by which people settle their differences. It is a process in which compromise or agreement can be reached without argument or dispute.

                              Anytime two people or sides disagree on something, they are almost always looking for the best possible outcome for their side. This could be from an individual’s perspective or someone representing an organization.

                              In reality, it’s rare that one side gets everything they want and the other side gets nothing that they are seeking. Seeking to reach a common ground of sorts where both sides feel like they are getting most of what they want is the key to being successful and maintaining the relationship.

                              Places We Negotiate

                              I’ve mentioned that we negotiate in just about all phases of our life. For those of you who are shaking your head no, I invite you to think about the following:

                              1. Work/Business

                              This one is the most obvious and it’s what naturally comes to mind when we think of the word “negotiate”.

                              When you first started at your current job, you might have asked for a higher salary. It could be that you delivered a huge new client to your company and used this as leverage in your most recent evaluation for more compensation. If you work with vendors (and just about every company does), maybe you worked them to a lower price or better contract terms.

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                              In recruiting, I negotiate with candidates and hiring managers all the time to land the best talent I can find. It’s very common to accept additional work with the (sometimes spoken, sometimes unspoken) agreement that it will benefit your career in the future.

                              Recently, I took over a project that was my boss was working on so that I would be able to attend a conference later in the year. And so it goes, we do this all day long at work.

                              2. Personal

                              I don’t know about you, but I negotiate with my spouse all the time. I’ll cook dinner with the understanding that she does the dishes. Who wants to mow the lawn and who wants to vacuum and dust the house?

                              I think we should save 10% for retirement, but she thinks 5% is plenty. Therefore, we save 8%. And don’t even get me started with my kids. My older daughter can borrow my car as soon as she finishes her chores. My younger daughter can go hang out with her friends when her homework is done.

                              Then, there are all those interactions in our personal lives outside our homes. The carpenter wants to charge me $12,000 to build a new deck. I think $10,000 is plenty so we agree on $11,000. I ask my neighbor if I can borrow his snowblower in the winter if I invite him over the next time I grill steak. And so on.

                              3. Ourselves

                              You didn’t expect this one, did you? We negotiate with ourselves all day long.

                              I’ll make sure I don’t skip my workout tomorrow since I’m going to have that extra piece of pizza. My spouse has been quiet the last few days, is it worth me asking her about, or should I leave it alone? I think the car place charged me for some repairs that weren’t needed, should I say something or just let it go? I know my friend has been having some personal challenges, should I check in with him? We’ve been friends for a long time, I’m sure he’d come to me if he needed help. I’ve got the #4 pick in this year’s Fantasy Football draft, should I choose a running back or a wide receiver?

                              Think about that non-stop voice inside your head. It always seems to be chattering away about something and many times, it’s us negotiating with ourselves. I’ll finish up that report that the boss needs before I turn on the football game.

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                              Why Negotiation Skills Are So Important

                              Put simply, negotiation skills are important because we all interact with other people, and not only other people but other organizations and groups of people as well.

                              We all rarely want the same thing or outcome. Most of the time a vendor is looking at getting you to pay a higher price for something than you want to spend. Therefore, it’s important to negotiate to some middle ground that works well for both sides.

                              My wife and I disagree on how much to save for retirement. If we weren’t married it wouldn’t be an issue. We’d each contribute how much we wanted to on our retirement funds. We choose to be married, so we have to come to some agreement that we both feel comfortable with. We have to compromise. Therefore, we have to negotiate.

                              If we each lived on a planet by ourselves, we would be free to do just about anything we wanted to. We wouldn’t have to compromise with anyone because we wouldn’t interact with anyone. We would make every choice unilaterally the way we wanted to.

                              As we all know, this isn’t how things are. We are constantly interacting with other people and organizations, each one with their own agenda’s, viewpoints, and opinions. Therefore, we have to be able to work together.

                              6 Negotiation Skills to Master

                              Having strong negotiation skills helps us create win-win situations with others, allowing us to get most of what we want in conjunction with others around us.

                              Now, let’s look at 6 effective negotiation skills to master.

                              1. Preparation

                              Preparation is a key place to start with when getting ready to negotiate. Being prepared means having a clear vision of what you want and how you’d go about achieving it. It means knowing what the end goal looks like and also what you are willing to give to get it.

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                              It also means knowing who you are negotiating with and what areas they might be willing to compromise on. You should also know what your “bottom line” is. By “bottom line” I mean what is the most you are willing to give up to get what you want.

                              For instance, several years ago, I decided it was time to get a newer car. I say newer because I wanted a “new to me” car, not a brand new car. I did my research and figured out what type of car I wanted. I decided on what must-have items on the car I wanted, the highest amount of miles that would already be on it, the colors I was willing to get it in, and the highest amount of money I was willing to pay.

                              After visiting numerous car dealerships I was able to negotiate buying a car. I knew what I was willing to give up (amount of money) and what I was willing to accept, things like the color, amount of miles, etc. I came prepared. This is critical.

                              2. Clear Communication

                              The next key skill you need to be an effective negotiator is clear communication. You have to be able to clearly articulate what you want to the other party. This means both clear verbal and written communication.

                              If you can’t clearly tell the other person what you want, how do you expect to get it? Have you ever worked through something with a vendor or someone else only to learn of a surprise right at the end that wasn’t talked about before? This is not what you would call clear communication. It’s essential to be able to share a coherent and logical vision with the person you are working with.

                              3. Active Listening

                              Let’s do a quick review of active listening. This is when you are completely focused on the speaker, understand their message, comprehend the information, and respond appropriately. This is a necessary ingredient to be able to negotiate successfully. You must be able to fully focus on the other person’s wants to completely understand them.

                              If you aren’t giving them your full attention, you may miss some major points or details. This leads to frustration down the road on both sides. Ensure you are employing your active listening skills when in arbitration mode.

                              4. Teamwork and Collaboration

                              To be able to get to a place of common ground and a win-win scenario, you have to have a sense of teamwork and collaboration.

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                              If you are only thinking about yourself and what you want without giving much care to what the other person is wanting, you are bound to wind up without a solution. The other person may get frustrated and give up if they see you are unwilling to meet them halfway or care little for what they want.

                              When you collaborate, you are working together to help each other get what is most important to you. The other upside to negotiating with a sense of teamwork and collaboration is that it helps create a sense of trust, which, in turn, helps provide positive energy for working to a successful conclusion.

                              5. Problem Solving

                              Problem-solving is another key negotiation skill. When you are working with the other person to get the deal done many times you’ll face new challenges along the way.

                              Maybe you want a new vendor to provide training on the software they are selling you but they say it’s going to cost an additional $20,000 to provide this service. If you don’t have the additional $20,000 in the budget to spend on the software but you feel the training is critical, how are you going to solve that problem?

                              From what I’ve seen, most vendors aren’t willing to provide additional services without getting paid for them. This is where problem-solving skills will help continue the discussions. You might suggest to the vendor that your company will also be looking to replace their financial software next year, and you’d be happy to ensure they get one of the first seats at the table when the time comes if they could perhaps lower the pricing on their training.

                              There’s a solution to most challenges, but it takes problem-solving skills to work through them effectively.

                              6. Decision-Making Ability

                              Finally, having strong decision-making ability will help you seal the deal when you get to a place where everyone feels like they are getting what works for them. Each step of the way you can cross off the list when you get what you are looking for and decide to move onto the next item. Then, once you have all of your must-have boxes checked and the other side feels good about things, it’s time to shake hands and sign on the dotted line. Powerful decision-making ability will help you get to the finish line together.

                              Conclusion

                              There you have it, 6 effective negotiation skills to master to lead a more fulfilling life. Once we realize that we negotiate in one form or another almost every day in every phase of our lives, we realize how critical a skill it is.

                              Possessing strong negotiation skills will help you in nearly every one of your relationships at both the workplace and in your personal life. If you feel your arbitration tools could use some sharpening, try some of the 6 effective negotiation skills to master that we’ve talked about.

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