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14 Things Every 20-Something Woman Should Start Doing

14 Things Every 20-Something Woman Should Start Doing

As the new generation, you, the 20-something woman, experience generational gap and lots of discrimination in a world dominated by the “political correct” policy. You need to learn to survive immediately if you want to become a successful woman, spouse, and mother. To do this, you need to master a number of things which will help you understand how this wacky world is made. The way you spend your 20s will define you, so make sure you make the most out of this decade. Some of these activities are to be tried once in a lifetime, others are life-long skills, but make sure you try each one of the these things every 20-something woman should start doing.

Embrace a healthy lifestyle.

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    As a 20-something woman you might have a great, toned body and a slim figure, so you might think you don’t need to take up a healthy lifestyle yet and still rely on Cosmo and chips to get you through the day. A myth about healthy lifestyles: they are restrictive. Ditch this false idea and embrace a rich diet and a good exercise routine which you can stick with for the rest of your life. This must not be restrictive as you must have all the necessary nutriments needed for your energetic life. A healthy lifestyle promotes better health and can keep away chronic diseases like diabetes or heart issues for a lot of years to come.

    Learn to breathe deep.

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      Learning to breathe deep–using your abdomen–will bring you lots of benefits, but to avoid taking up all the space in this article, I will only number a couple of them: good sleep, better posture, a fit body and a positive attitude towards everything around you. Deep breathing is all about using your diaphragm and inflating your lungs entirely. Practice it until you master it, in order to gain all the benefits from this simple lifehack.

      Get enough sleep.

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        The lack of wrinkles and the boosting energy of a 20-something woman are two of the main reasons why young women party all the night and forget to make use of their beauty sleep. But it is time to get enough sleep for the sake of your health and beauty. A good night’s sleep promotes a positive attitude, lots of energy and great skin. Plus, it enhances your memory, as the memories are formed during sleep. Some believe regularly getting a good sleep can help postpone dementia.

        Learn to meditate and manage stress.

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          Meditation is very important for a 20-something woman as life becomes more stressful, while the responsibilities gather with the speed of sound. Yoga and other meditative practices are great ways to manage stress efficiently and achieve a positive state of mind, even in the most unpleasant situations. You also get in touch with your body and learn to listen to it carefully, thus any early sign of disease becomes more visible than before, so you can start healing sooner. Meditation also helps you gain more sensitivity and experience life deeper, as all the sensations will be enhanced.

          Define your fashion style.

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            Fashion has been a matter of importance since women first discovered the wonders of clothes. As you enter your 20s, you should ditch the teenage clothes (most of them) and get a new wardrobe. The new essentials: a little black dress, a clean office outfit for the interview for your dream job, a pair of pants made from wool, pants which fit you now, a skirt and multiple blouses to go with it, and a couple of clothes which make you feel sexy and powerful, regardless what others say about you. Do not forget about underwear as you enter your 20s and turn from a girl into a woman.

            Master the great art of make-up.

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              Make-up is an art, but one can master it with lots of practice. And what time is better to master it than your 20s? Lean how to use subtle make-up to enhance your features, hiding the ones which don’t complement you. Also, look for tutorials and learn how to make stunning make-up to wear at the club. When you’ve mastered this art, you will look great and your confidence will literally boost, turning you into the lighthouse of your friends.

              Learn to cook.

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                The ability to feed yourself is essential, even if you now have someone else to feed you on daily basis. Moreover, cooking is a form of expressing yourself, so you need to master the dishes and put on a great meal out of anything: fruits, veggies, meat or a couple of leftovers. This will also exercise your creativity and ensure a healthy diet.

                Become an avid reader.

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                  The Internet is a great source of knowledge, but one must not ditch the real deal. There is nothing more rewarding than curling on the couch with a good book and a glass of wine. A 20-something woman is mature enough to know what she wants, but the real personal depth can only be made by reading. Pick famous books, controversial ones, the Bible, the Quoran, anything you can put your hands on will help you develop and gain more wisdom.

                  Learn to play chess.

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                    Chess is an old game and exercises the mind a lot, so it can help you stay away from dementia and promotes sharp thinking. Practice chess each time you can, mostly in the stressful periods, as it can lead to a clear head and help you solve your problems. And because it is a game of two, it is a great opportunity to find friends who match your intellect and passions.

                    Become an efficient financial specialist.

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                      As you hit your new (and hopefully improved) life after you finish your studies, as a 20-something woman you will earn your first money. So it’s time to learn how to spend it wisely, as you also need to start saving. As you are in your 20s, you should keep an eye on your finances and look for ways to save when you go shopping. Read the financial news, stay in touch with the new opportunities and take them as quick as possible, after you analyse the risks and put them in balance with the benefits. And learn how to turn your eyes from those Manolo Blahnik!

                      Travel solo.

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                        Travelling on your own is frightening, dangerous and awesome. Get some essentials in a backpack and start your freedom adventure now. Travelling alone means you will not have someone else to rely on, so you will learn to get out of tricky situations and fend for yourself. Travelling alone is also a great way to master other points in this list, like cooking and managing finances. Your social life will boost, not to mention that you will learn new things, embrace new habits and learn about the culture of other people.

                        Learn to touch yourself.

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                          There is no better time to discover yourself than your 20s, so go ahead and learn how to touch your own body. Pleasing yourself is a great way to become aware of your own body and discover what you like and what you don’t.

                          Ditch the social media and make real friends.

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                            Being social is great, but Facebook & co. are not the way to do it. Close that account and go out and make real friends, not those who just give a like to a post. Relationships are essential, and you will be happier and healthier when you spend time bonding with your friends in front of a coffee or at a concert.

                            Try an extreme sport at least once.

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                              Extremes are all about it when you hit your 20s, so make sure you do all the things you wanted to do or have been afraid of. Yes, that’s right: experience frighting activities, so you can then state you’ve been there, done that and had overcome your fears. For a girl who is afraid of heights, experience sky-diving or hiking to ditch the fear and welcome the awesomeness. Later in your life, you will thank yourself for this.

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                              How to Talk to Strangers Without Feeling Awkward

                              How to Talk to Strangers Without Feeling Awkward

                              Many of us feel awkward talking to strangers. I’m a very outgoing person, even though I sometimes feel uncomfortable walking up to someone and asking a question or starting a conversation. I consider myself pretty high up on the extrovert meter. So what is it that makes us pause and become worried or anxious about talking to people we don’t know?

                              In this article, we will discuss why we feel this way as well as some tips on how to talk to strangers without feeling awkward.

                              Step right up, don’t be shy!

                              Why We Feel Awkward Talking to Strangers

                              The next time you feel uncomfortable talking to a stranger, tell yourself that’s completely normal. There are numerous reasons why it’s actually natural to feel awkward talking to strangers:

                              Our Stress Levels Rise Around Strangers

                              Numerous studies have show that our levels of cortisol go up when we are around strangers.[1] Cortisol is the hormone inside of us which produces stress responses.[2]
                              So there you go, right off the bat you can see part of your standard response to strangers is due to a chemical reaction!

                              A very interesting by product of increased cortisol is that it makes us less empathetic. More than likely this can be traced to our evolution. The increase in the cortisol and the corresponding decrease in empathy makes us want to stay away from strangers. We are biologically wired to feel concern around strangers.

                              Evolution Taught Us to Be Wary

                              Evolution has also taught us to be wary of strangers in general. Humans as a whole have spent a large chunk of their history banded together in small protective groups. We did this in order to help protect each other and maximize resources.

                              When you think about it in this context, outsiders to our small groups or strangers are considered potential threats. Fear of strangers is common across almost all human cultures.

                              Culturally Conditioned

                              We can also thank our society for helping us feel uncomfortable and sometimes afraid of strangers. The term “stranger danger” is something most of us can relate to either growing up or raising kids. Or both.

                              I remember hearing this from my parents, mostly about not getting in someone’s car I didn’t know. And as the father of 2 teenage girls, you can be sure I’ve talked to them about this very concept more times that they want to hear.

                              The thought that strangers can be dangerous is built into us as it is. Toss in the amplification of the media on strangers doing things such as kidnapping kids and it takes it to an even higher level.

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                              Now that we’ve reviewed some of the reasons why we are nervous, let’s look at why you should talk to strangers more.

                              Benefits of Getting over the Awkwardness

                              Let’s take a quick look at some of the advantages of how to talk to strangers without feeling awkward. These are some high level benefits of talking to strangers.

                              1. Broadens Your Network

                              After you talk to someone, you didn’t know previously they become someone you know at least a little bit. This alone helps broaden your network of people you know. This is helpful in many ways whether it is work related or socially related.

                              2. Improves Your Communication Skills

                              I am a huge proponent of the value of solid communication skills and have written about it often. The more you talk to people, especially people you don’t know, the better your communication skills become.

                              Interacting with a wider variety of people will bring the added benefit of improving your communication skills.

                              3. Continually Learning

                              So many of us don’t actively seek to learn new things. This is one of the primary keys to staying engaged in life and our own personal self fulfillment.

                              Almost every time I speak to someone I didn’t know previously, I’ve learned something new. When we speak to strangers, it pushes us out of our comfort zones and we tend to learn new things.

                              4. Increases Self Confidence

                              Every time we learn to do something we were previously anxious about, we feel better about ourselves.

                              Forcing ourselves to talk to strangers will lead to increased self confidence. As we get more and more comfortable doing something that previously made us feel awkward, our self confidence will go up and up.

                              So, how to talk to strangers to reap these benefits?

                              How to Talk to Strangers

                              Here are some tips to on how to talk to strangers without feeling awkward.

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                              1. Say Hello

                              Putting “say hello” first may seem a bit obvious but let’s take a deeper look. Much of the social awkwardness when speaking to strangers is simply breaking the ice. The first words that will engage someone.

                              Most people will respond when someone says hello or hi to them. And those that don’t, you probably don’t want to talk to anyway.

                              Practice being the person that opens the door to a conversation. Say hello.

                              2. Ask About Them

                              Something that I have noticed over the years is that people love to talk about themselves. Even fairly private people tend to open up when asked about events in their lives.

                              You can ask leading questions that get people to talk about themselves and recent events. Things like recent movies watched or the summer vacation are great to get someone talking.

                              As a father, I also know that people love to talk about their kids. Asking about kids is a fairly easy topic to bring up and in general, most people will expound upon all the great things their kids do or are involved with.

                              3. Just Do It

                              One of the biggest reasons we don’t do things we want to or know we should is because we overthink it. Quit thinking about it so much and just do it.

                              When you give yourself the time to analyze every little angle about a situation, you also give plenty of time to talk yourself out of it. You’ll wind up thinking what if this happens or what if that happens.

                              Try to force yourself to jump right in without thinking about it too much. Whenever I have done this, I always feel great about it afterwards, no matter how it turned out.

                              4. Don’t Take It Personal

                              One of the greatest lessons in life I ever learned was don’t take anything personally. We all go through life with our own sets of experiences and see things through our own lens. The way people react to different situations has almost nothing to do with us. It has to do with previous experiences and the way people feel about things other than us.

                              When someone’s reaction isn’t what you’d hoped or expected, chances are it has nothing to do with you. Remember that and keep it in context.

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                              5. Get a Chuckle If Possible

                              I used the word chuckle purposely because it makes me laugh. In my opinion, it’s one of those funny words. We all like to laugh because it makes us feel good. And when someone makes us laugh, we typically remember those people in a positive light.

                              One of the best ways to make a conversation easy and free flowing is to get some laughter going. It doesn’t mean you have to be the master joke teller or anything. See if you can work in a way to make the person you are talking to get a smile or some laughter in. In fact, laughing at yourself maybe a nice try.

                              6. Detach

                              A great feeling is when you don’t mind which way something turns out, that you will be fine no matter what happens. Kind of like when I watch my two favorite football teams play against each other. I don’t really care who wins, I just want a fun game.

                              Treat talking to strangers the same way. You don’t really care how the conversation goes because you are detaching from the outcome. Make it a fun time with yourself and if the conversation goes well, awesome! If not then no big deal, move on.

                              7. Share Your Stories

                              Well, all like to feel connected to other people. And many times we wind up hanging out with people that we have things in common with. No surprise here.

                              To help with how to talk to strangers without feeling awkward, tell stories that have commonalities with the person you are talking to. Kids are an easy one. I have a daughter who was a competitive cheerleader and now plays club volleyball. I have instant connection and stories with strangers I speak with who have kids that play sports. It’s easy to relate to.

                              So when you are speaking to a stranger and you have a story or mutual connection point, bring it up.

                              8. Give a Compliment

                              Almost everyone likes hearing a compliment, whether they admit to it or not. As a general rule, we don’t give out enough compliments. It’s amazing how one small remark someone tosses your way about how good you look can literally make your entire day.

                              When you are speaking with someone you don’t know, see if you can work a compliment in. Nothing creepy here. Not a good idea to tell someone you just met that they are the prettiest or handsomest person you ever met. However, if you can share how you like their tattoo or shoes or something like that, it will help put the conversation into an easy going, smiling place.

                              9. Relax Your Body Language

                              If you go into a situation all worried and nervous, it shows on your body. Your shoulders are tensed up, there’s a look of consternation on your face, things like that.

                              When you engage a stranger in conversation, make it a point to relax your body language. Take a deep breath before you engage the person, let your body relax, and put a smile on your face. This will help relax you and it has the added benefit of putting the other person more at ease.

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                              If they see that you are relaxed, it helps them relax. Plus having open, engaging body language is very conducive to inviting someone to open up into a conversation with you.

                              10. Practice, Practice, Practice

                              Like everything else in life, talking to strangers gets easier with practice. The more you do it, the easier it becomes.

                              Make it a point to talk to several strangers each week and it will definitely help you relax as you do it more and more.

                              After a while, it will become something you don’t even think about, you just do it. And that takes all of the awkwardness out of being in these type situations.

                              The Bottom Line

                              As we have seen, it is perfectly natural to feel awkward talking to strangers. We are biologically built that way and we have our own society constantly warning us how dangerous it is. It’s no wonder we feel awkward talking to strangers!

                              There are numerous benefits to learning to be more comfortable talking to strangers. See if you can employ some of the techniques mentioned to learn how to talk to strangers without feeling awkward.

                              Once you start practicing speaking with strangers more often and utilizing some of the tips, you will become more comfortable doing so. This in turn will lead to a learned new skill and increased self confidence.

                              Remember, everyone you know was a stranger at one time. Now get out there and make some new friends.

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