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14 Signs That You’re A Truly Beautiful Girl

14 Signs That You’re A Truly Beautiful Girl

Beauty is often judged by our looks. Are you skinny? Is your skin spot free and perfectly smooth? Is your hair luscious like the L’Oreal commercials? All these factors come into play when people define beauty, but that is not what beauty is about. Don’t believe all the media you read, it will mislead you and never lead you to happiness.

What defines beauty is your personality and your attitude. Someone could be perfectly beautiful, yet they are the most shallow and mean person you could ever meet.

Here are the true traits of why you’re a beautiful girl.

1. Your passion speaks louder than your looks

Your passion defines you more than your looks. You are so passionate, you radiate an attitude of ambition and enthusiasm.

Having something you are passionate about means you have goals in mind and you are not afraid to go for it. You are striving for success, not sitting back and saying “I can’t do that, why bother?” You don’t let fear hold you back, but instead you focus on something that will make you happy.

It doesn’t matter if you are a new director who produces films that only a few people view on YouTube. Or that you are just starting out as an actress, who played an extra for a minute in the school play. What matters is your drive and that you are passionate about something and you won’t take no for an answer. Determination and passion is what makes you a beautiful person.

2. You are yourself around others

You don’t let others hold you back from being yourself. To many people, showing your real face to others is terrifying. But you are always yourself.

You don’t let others opinions scare you into being someone else. Instead you choose to be you, flaws and all. You are truly a beautiful girl if you possess this quality. People can often sense when you are being fake, or notice if you are reserved and afraid to speak. To be able to be yourself is inspiring and beautiful, because you are putting yourself out there (without fear).

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3. You don’t chase the limelight

You don’t need to be the center of attention. You are not the one who makes as much noise as they can, just to be heard.

You know that you do not need to be in the limelight to gain happiness. If you constantly aim to be in the spotlight, you are looking to others for validation. In actuality, you should just be yourself. People do not like characters that are always in your line of vision and trying to gain your attention.

You know that you can just be yourself with others, without the need to be in the limelight. People will see you as a beautiful girl when you are being you, not trying to persistently have all attention on you. Who can have a real conversation with someone who is eagerly looking around and making sure all eyes are on them?

4. You know how to talk

You know how to speak to others, with confidence and kindness. You know the importance of communicating properly. You do not shy away from conversation, but speak when necessary, without having an aggressive manner.

You know the value of showing interest in others, instead of speaking about yourself and yourself only. People want to know you are interested in speaking to them as well as listening to them. 

5. You are independent

You are someone who is independent and does not need someone to do things. This means you are not shy about doing tasks on your own, whether it’s going to a workout class alone or going to do the shopping on your own. You are confident in your own abilities and understand that you can do things alone. You never need direction from others because you trust your own instincts.

People love confident individuals who are happy to do things independently. It shows that you are self-assured and trust yourself. Those that aren’t sure of their own abilities tend to be clingy and indecisive (needing others to decide for them). This gives off the impression that you have low self-esteem and do not love yourself. 

6. You care about more than just yourself

You care about others more than just yourself. This means that you show interest in others and you are not solely self-focused (or self-obsessed). You don’t talk about yourself, but ask others about themselves and are concerned by what they say.

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It means that you care about others welfare. When they tell you about their current problems, you show concern and want to help make them feel better.

People love this because it shows that you are interested in them and not waiting to talk about yourself. People love people who care and invest in a relationship. They want to know that you are in the relationship wholeheartedly. 

7. You have an open mind

You do not have a closed mind, but you accept other people’s beliefs, without criticizing or judging them for it. You understand that we all have different opinions. You could even go as far as listening to other opinions with a willingness to accept it.

This makes you a beautiful person because it means you are not judgmental and open to all kinds of people in your life. You give the impression that you are carefree, not allowing others opinions to cloud your thoughts.

It can make you seem caring, as you are prepared to listen to others. How would you feel if someone was interested in your life morals? If they sat there listening intently to every word with a look of curiosity?

8. You have a soul

It’s as simple as it sounds, you have a soul. You are not someone who is cold-hearted and lives in misery. You do not act like a soulless zombie, who simply does not care about anything. You are someone who cares about life and how you can enjoy it. You care about life and those around you because being miserable is a waste of time.

You care about the impact you can have on the world. This makes you beautiful because it shows you have the attitude to enjoy life. You are not simply moping and focusing on the negatives, instead you want to be involved in the world. No one wants to speak to someone who consistently complains about life.

9. You don’t strive for perfection

You understand that you can’t spend your time aiming for perfection. You know that no one is perfect and you can only give your best (without needing to be dead-on perfect).

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Everyone has flaws or makes mistakes, it’s a part of the learning process. Being a perfectionist only leads to a restricted life, meaning you will miss out on life’s opportunities. People see you as beautiful when you loosen up a little and let life guide you. You aren’t focusing on making sure every little detail is precise, but instead you are opening your mind up to new experiences.

10. You are happy

You feel that being yourself makes you happy. After all, why should we let our flaws stop us from being happy? Being happy is more important than focusing on the negatives. You embrace yourself for who you are and don’t focus on any mistakes you may make.

Choose happiness and you’ll find it is the most beautiful thing you can wear! There is nothing more uplifting than having positive energy around. If I had a choice between being around the moping person and the happy one, I know I’d choose the happy one.

11. You don’t need validation from others

You don’t require validation from others around you. You understand that what you do and say does not have to be approved. It is your life so it doesn’t matter if someone else frowns upon one of your choices/morals.

By constantly seeking validation, you will struggle to find happiness. And you will only appear nervous and uncertain, not beautiful and carefree.

If you let go of that need for approval, you will allow yourself that freedom to be yourself. That is the true beauty of freedom from validation, that you can let yourself go completely.

12. You smile often

One of the most beautiful things in life is smiling. It shows you are a happy and positive person, something that will attract others to you.

You smile because you are happy. You smile because it releases those endorphins that bring you extra happiness. You smile at others because it is polite and friendly (and you are glad to see them).

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Your smile shows that you are fond of life. That you are not sitting back, moping about the little things.

13. You are optimistic

You look at the world through optimistic eyes. This means you do not look at the negatives in life. Instead you focus on what you can learn from a bad experience.

You always look at life with love and excitement. You look at what can go right in a future scenario, not at the worst outcome.

People love this as it means you are a happy-go-lucky person. It makes you beautiful due to the positive vibe you give.

14. You are prepared to show your flaws

This can be a hard thing to do, as it means allowing people to see your faults. This is also why it is a beautiful quality to possess, as it shows that you are being yourself.

In conversations you are willing to let go your insecurities. You are willing to share stories to help others out and not be worried by what they will think. You can open up to others and speak with confidence, without focusing on your faults.

True beautiful is never about looks, it’s all about being a good person. What makes you beautiful is being kind, carefree and happy.

I am sure you will be pleasantly surprised to find you how beautiful you really are.

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Last Updated on January 15, 2021

7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

The popular idiomatic saying that “actions speak louder than words” has been around for centuries, but even to this day, most people struggle with at least one area of nonverbal communication. Consequently, many of us aspire to have more confident body language but don’t have the knowledge and tools necessary to change what are largely unconscious behaviors.

Given that others’ perceptions of our competence and confidence are predominantly influenced by what we do with our faces and bodies, it’s important to develop greater self-awareness and consciously practice better posture, stance, eye contact, facial expressions, hand movements, and other aspects of body language.

Posture

First things first: how is your posture? Let’s start with a quick self-assessment of your body.

  • Are your shoulders slumped over or rolled back in an upright posture?
  • When you stand up, do you evenly distribute your weight or lean excessively to one side?
  • Does your natural stance place your feet relatively shoulder-width apart or are your feet and legs close together in a closed-off position?
  • When you sit, does your lower back protrude out in a slumped position or maintain a straight, spine-friendly posture in your seat?

All of these are important considerations to make when evaluating and improving your posture and stance, which will lead to more confident body language over time. If you routinely struggle with maintaining good posture, consider buying a posture trainer/corrector, consulting a chiropractor or physical therapist, stretching daily, and strengthening both your core and back muscles.

Facial Expressions

Are you prone to any of the following in personal or professional settings?

  • Bruxism (tight, clenched jaw or grinding teeth)
  • Frowning and/or furrowing brows
  • Avoiding direct eye contact and/or staring at the ground

If you answered “yes” to any of these, then let’s start by examining various ways in which you can project confident body language through your facial expressions.

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1. Understand How Others Perceive Your Facial Expressions

A December 2020 study by UC Berkeley and Google researchers utilized a deep neural network to analyze facial expressions in six million YouTube clips representing people from over 140 countries. The study found that, despite socio-cultural differences, people around the world tended to use about 70% of the same facial expressions in response to different emotional stimuli and situations.[1]

The study’s researchers also published a fascinating interactive map to demonstrate how their machine learning technology assessed various facial expressions and determined subtle differences in emotional responses.

This study highlights the social importance of facial expressions because whether or not we’re consciously aware of them—by gazing into a mirror or your screen on a video conferencing platform—how we present our faces to others can have tremendous impacts on their perceptions of us, our confidence, and our emotional states. This awareness is the essential first step towards

2. Relax Your Face

New research on bruxism and facial tension found the stresses and anxieties of Covid-19 lockdowns led to considerable increases in orofacial pain, jaw-clenching, and teeth grinding, particularly among women.[2]

The National Institute of Dental and Craniofacial Research estimates that more than 10 million Americans alone have temporomandibular joint dysfunction (TMJ syndrome), and facial tension can lead to other complications such as insomnia, wrinkles, dry skin, and dark, puffy bags under your eyes.[3])

To avoid these unpleasant outcomes, start practicing progressive muscle relaxation techniques and taking breaks more frequently throughout the day to moderate facial tension.[4] You should also try out some biofeedback techniques to enhance your awareness of involuntary bodily processes like facial tension and achieve more confident body language as a result.[5]

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3. Improve Your Eye Contact

Did you know there’s an entire subfield of kinesic communication research dedicated to eye movements and behaviors called oculesics?[6] It refers to various communication behaviors including direct eye contact, averting one’s gaze, pupil dilation/constriction, and even frequency of blinking. All of these qualities can shape how other people perceive you, which means that eye contact is yet another area of nonverbal body language that we should be more mindful of in social interactions.

The ideal type (direct/indirect) and duration of eye contact depends on a variety of factors, such as cultural setting, differences in power/authority/age between the parties involved, and communication context. Research has shown that differences in the effects of eye contact are particularly prominent when comparing East Asian and Western European/North American cultures.[7]

To improve your eye contact with others, strive to maintain consistent contact for at least 3 to 4 seconds at a time, consciously consider where you’re looking while listening to someone else, and practice eye contact as much as possible (as strange as this may seem in the beginning, it’s the best way to improve).

3. Smile More

There are many benefits to smiling and laughing, and when it comes to working on more confident body language, this is an area that should be fun, low-stakes, and relatively stress-free.

Smiling is associated with the “happiness chemical” dopamine and the mood-stabilizing hormone, serotonin. Many empirical studies have shown that smiling generally leads to positive outcomes for the person smiling, and further research has shown that smiling can influence listeners’ perceptions of our confidence and trustworthiness as well.

4. Hand Gestures

Similar to facial expressions and posture, what you do with your hands while speaking or listening in a conversation can significantly influence others’ perceptions of you in positive or negative ways.

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It’s undoubtedly challenging to consciously account for all of your nonverbal signals while simultaneously trying to stay engaged with the verbal part of the discussion, but putting in the effort to develop more bodily awareness now will make it much easier to unconsciously project more confident body language later on.

5. Enhance Your Handshake

In the article, “An Anthropology of the Handshake,” University of Copenhagen social anthropology professor Bjarke Oxlund assessed the future of handshaking in wake of the Covid-19 pandemic:[8]

“Handshakes not only vary in function and meaning but do so according to social context, situation and scale. . . a public discussion should ensue on the advantages and disadvantages of holding on to the tradition of shaking hands as the conventional gesture of greeting and leave-taking in a variety of circumstances.”

It’s too early to determine some of the ways in which Covid-19 has permanently changed our social norms and professional etiquette standards, but it’s reasonable to assume that handshaking may retain its importance in American society even after this pandemic. To practice more confident body language in the meantime, the video on the science of the perfect handshake below explains what you need to know.

6. Complement Your Verbals With Hand Gestures

As you know by now, confident communication involves so much more than simply smiling more or sounding like you know what you’re talking about. What you do with your hands can be particularly influential in how others perceive you, whether you’re fidgeting with an object, clenching your fists, hiding your hands in your pockets, or calmly gesturing to emphasize important points you’re discussing.

Social psychology researchers have found that “iconic gestures”—hand movements that appear to be meaningfully related to the speaker’s verbal content—can have profound impacts on listeners’ information retention. In other words, people are more likely to engage with you and remember more of what you said when you speak with complementary hand gestures instead of just your voice.[9]

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Further research on hand gestures has shown that even your choice of the left or right hand for gesturing can influence your ability to clearly convey information to listeners, which supports the notion that more confident body language is readily achievable through greater self-awareness and deliberate nonverbal actions.[10]

Final Takeaways

Developing better posture, enhancing your facial expressiveness, and practicing hand gestures can vastly improve your communication with other people. At first, it will be challenging to consciously practice nonverbal behaviors that many of us are accustomed to performing daily without thinking about them.

If you ever feel discouraged, however, remember that there’s no downside to consistently putting in just a little more time and effort to increase your bodily awareness. With the tips and strategies above, you’ll be well on your way to embracing more confident body language and amplifying others’ perceptions of you in no time.

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