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14 Signs That You’re A Truly Beautiful Girl

14 Signs That You’re A Truly Beautiful Girl

Beauty is often judged by our looks. Are you skinny? Is your skin spot free and perfectly smooth? Is your hair luscious like the L’Oreal commercials? All these factors come into play when people define beauty, but that is not what beauty is about. Don’t believe all the media you read, it will mislead you and never lead you to happiness.

What defines beauty is your personality and your attitude. Someone could be perfectly beautiful, yet they are the most shallow and mean person you could ever meet.

Here are the true traits of why you’re a beautiful girl.

1. Your passion speaks louder than your looks

Your passion defines you more than your looks. You are so passionate, you radiate an attitude of ambition and enthusiasm.

Having something you are passionate about means you have goals in mind and you are not afraid to go for it. You are striving for success, not sitting back and saying “I can’t do that, why bother?” You don’t let fear hold you back, but instead you focus on something that will make you happy.

It doesn’t matter if you are a new director who produces films that only a few people view on YouTube. Or that you are just starting out as an actress, who played an extra for a minute in the school play. What matters is your drive and that you are passionate about something and you won’t take no for an answer. Determination and passion is what makes you a beautiful person.

2. You are yourself around others

You don’t let others hold you back from being yourself. To many people, showing your real face to others is terrifying. But you are always yourself.

You don’t let others opinions scare you into being someone else. Instead you choose to be you, flaws and all. You are truly a beautiful girl if you possess this quality. People can often sense when you are being fake, or notice if you are reserved and afraid to speak. To be able to be yourself is inspiring and beautiful, because you are putting yourself out there (without fear).

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3. You don’t chase the limelight

You don’t need to be the center of attention. You are not the one who makes as much noise as they can, just to be heard.

You know that you do not need to be in the limelight to gain happiness. If you constantly aim to be in the spotlight, you are looking to others for validation. In actuality, you should just be yourself. People do not like characters that are always in your line of vision and trying to gain your attention.

You know that you can just be yourself with others, without the need to be in the limelight. People will see you as a beautiful girl when you are being you, not trying to persistently have all attention on you. Who can have a real conversation with someone who is eagerly looking around and making sure all eyes are on them?

4. You know how to talk

You know how to speak to others, with confidence and kindness. You know the importance of communicating properly. You do not shy away from conversation, but speak when necessary, without having an aggressive manner.

You know the value of showing interest in others, instead of speaking about yourself and yourself only. People want to know you are interested in speaking to them as well as listening to them. 

5. You are independent

You are someone who is independent and does not need someone to do things. This means you are not shy about doing tasks on your own, whether it’s going to a workout class alone or going to do the shopping on your own. You are confident in your own abilities and understand that you can do things alone. You never need direction from others because you trust your own instincts.

People love confident individuals who are happy to do things independently. It shows that you are self-assured and trust yourself. Those that aren’t sure of their own abilities tend to be clingy and indecisive (needing others to decide for them). This gives off the impression that you have low self-esteem and do not love yourself. 

6. You care about more than just yourself

You care about others more than just yourself. This means that you show interest in others and you are not solely self-focused (or self-obsessed). You don’t talk about yourself, but ask others about themselves and are concerned by what they say.

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It means that you care about others welfare. When they tell you about their current problems, you show concern and want to help make them feel better.

People love this because it shows that you are interested in them and not waiting to talk about yourself. People love people who care and invest in a relationship. They want to know that you are in the relationship wholeheartedly. 

7. You have an open mind

You do not have a closed mind, but you accept other people’s beliefs, without criticizing or judging them for it. You understand that we all have different opinions. You could even go as far as listening to other opinions with a willingness to accept it.

This makes you a beautiful person because it means you are not judgmental and open to all kinds of people in your life. You give the impression that you are carefree, not allowing others opinions to cloud your thoughts.

It can make you seem caring, as you are prepared to listen to others. How would you feel if someone was interested in your life morals? If they sat there listening intently to every word with a look of curiosity?

8. You have a soul

It’s as simple as it sounds, you have a soul. You are not someone who is cold-hearted and lives in misery. You do not act like a soulless zombie, who simply does not care about anything. You are someone who cares about life and how you can enjoy it. You care about life and those around you because being miserable is a waste of time.

You care about the impact you can have on the world. This makes you beautiful because it shows you have the attitude to enjoy life. You are not simply moping and focusing on the negatives, instead you want to be involved in the world. No one wants to speak to someone who consistently complains about life.

9. You don’t strive for perfection

You understand that you can’t spend your time aiming for perfection. You know that no one is perfect and you can only give your best (without needing to be dead-on perfect).

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Everyone has flaws or makes mistakes, it’s a part of the learning process. Being a perfectionist only leads to a restricted life, meaning you will miss out on life’s opportunities. People see you as beautiful when you loosen up a little and let life guide you. You aren’t focusing on making sure every little detail is precise, but instead you are opening your mind up to new experiences.

10. You are happy

You feel that being yourself makes you happy. After all, why should we let our flaws stop us from being happy? Being happy is more important than focusing on the negatives. You embrace yourself for who you are and don’t focus on any mistakes you may make.

Choose happiness and you’ll find it is the most beautiful thing you can wear! There is nothing more uplifting than having positive energy around. If I had a choice between being around the moping person and the happy one, I know I’d choose the happy one.

11. You don’t need validation from others

You don’t require validation from others around you. You understand that what you do and say does not have to be approved. It is your life so it doesn’t matter if someone else frowns upon one of your choices/morals.

By constantly seeking validation, you will struggle to find happiness. And you will only appear nervous and uncertain, not beautiful and carefree.

If you let go of that need for approval, you will allow yourself that freedom to be yourself. That is the true beauty of freedom from validation, that you can let yourself go completely.

12. You smile often

One of the most beautiful things in life is smiling. It shows you are a happy and positive person, something that will attract others to you.

You smile because you are happy. You smile because it releases those endorphins that bring you extra happiness. You smile at others because it is polite and friendly (and you are glad to see them).

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Your smile shows that you are fond of life. That you are not sitting back, moping about the little things.

13. You are optimistic

You look at the world through optimistic eyes. This means you do not look at the negatives in life. Instead you focus on what you can learn from a bad experience.

You always look at life with love and excitement. You look at what can go right in a future scenario, not at the worst outcome.

People love this as it means you are a happy-go-lucky person. It makes you beautiful due to the positive vibe you give.

14. You are prepared to show your flaws

This can be a hard thing to do, as it means allowing people to see your faults. This is also why it is a beautiful quality to possess, as it shows that you are being yourself.

In conversations you are willing to let go your insecurities. You are willing to share stories to help others out and not be worried by what they will think. You can open up to others and speak with confidence, without focusing on your faults.

True beautiful is never about looks, it’s all about being a good person. What makes you beautiful is being kind, carefree and happy.

I am sure you will be pleasantly surprised to find you how beautiful you really are.

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How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

Example 1

You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

Example 2

You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

Example 3

You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

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The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

Example 4

You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

  • Understand your own communication style
  • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
  • Communicate with precision and care
  • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

1. Understand Your Communication Style

To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

2. Learn Others Communication Styles

Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

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If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

“How do you prefer to receive information?”

This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

3. Exercise Precision and Care

A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

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In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

“Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

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It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

The Bottom Line

When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

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