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14 Signs That You’re A Truly Beautiful Girl

14 Signs That You’re A Truly Beautiful Girl

Beauty is often judged by our looks. Are you skinny? Is your skin spot free and perfectly smooth? Is your hair luscious like the L’Oreal commercials? All these factors come into play when people define beauty, but that is not what beauty is about. Don’t believe all the media you read, it will mislead you and never lead you to happiness.

What defines beauty is your personality and your attitude. Someone could be perfectly beautiful, yet they are the most shallow and mean person you could ever meet.

Here are the true traits of why you’re a beautiful girl.

1. Your passion speaks louder than your looks

Your passion defines you more than your looks. You are so passionate, you radiate an attitude of ambition and enthusiasm.

Having something you are passionate about means you have goals in mind and you are not afraid to go for it. You are striving for success, not sitting back and saying “I can’t do that, why bother?” You don’t let fear hold you back, but instead you focus on something that will make you happy.

It doesn’t matter if you are a new director who produces films that only a few people view on YouTube. Or that you are just starting out as an actress, who played an extra for a minute in the school play. What matters is your drive and that you are passionate about something and you won’t take no for an answer. Determination and passion is what makes you a beautiful person.

2. You are yourself around others

You don’t let others hold you back from being yourself. To many people, showing your real face to others is terrifying. But you are always yourself.

You don’t let others opinions scare you into being someone else. Instead you choose to be you, flaws and all. You are truly a beautiful girl if you possess this quality. People can often sense when you are being fake, or notice if you are reserved and afraid to speak. To be able to be yourself is inspiring and beautiful, because you are putting yourself out there (without fear).

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3. You don’t chase the limelight

You don’t need to be the center of attention. You are not the one who makes as much noise as they can, just to be heard.

You know that you do not need to be in the limelight to gain happiness. If you constantly aim to be in the spotlight, you are looking to others for validation. In actuality, you should just be yourself. People do not like characters that are always in your line of vision and trying to gain your attention.

You know that you can just be yourself with others, without the need to be in the limelight. People will see you as a beautiful girl when you are being you, not trying to persistently have all attention on you. Who can have a real conversation with someone who is eagerly looking around and making sure all eyes are on them?

4. You know how to talk

You know how to speak to others, with confidence and kindness. You know the importance of communicating properly. You do not shy away from conversation, but speak when necessary, without having an aggressive manner.

You know the value of showing interest in others, instead of speaking about yourself and yourself only. People want to know you are interested in speaking to them as well as listening to them. 

5. You are independent

You are someone who is independent and does not need someone to do things. This means you are not shy about doing tasks on your own, whether it’s going to a workout class alone or going to do the shopping on your own. You are confident in your own abilities and understand that you can do things alone. You never need direction from others because you trust your own instincts.

People love confident individuals who are happy to do things independently. It shows that you are self-assured and trust yourself. Those that aren’t sure of their own abilities tend to be clingy and indecisive (needing others to decide for them). This gives off the impression that you have low self-esteem and do not love yourself. 

6. You care about more than just yourself

You care about others more than just yourself. This means that you show interest in others and you are not solely self-focused (or self-obsessed). You don’t talk about yourself, but ask others about themselves and are concerned by what they say.

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It means that you care about others welfare. When they tell you about their current problems, you show concern and want to help make them feel better.

People love this because it shows that you are interested in them and not waiting to talk about yourself. People love people who care and invest in a relationship. They want to know that you are in the relationship wholeheartedly. 

7. You have an open mind

You do not have a closed mind, but you accept other people’s beliefs, without criticizing or judging them for it. You understand that we all have different opinions. You could even go as far as listening to other opinions with a willingness to accept it.

This makes you a beautiful person because it means you are not judgmental and open to all kinds of people in your life. You give the impression that you are carefree, not allowing others opinions to cloud your thoughts.

It can make you seem caring, as you are prepared to listen to others. How would you feel if someone was interested in your life morals? If they sat there listening intently to every word with a look of curiosity?

8. You have a soul

It’s as simple as it sounds, you have a soul. You are not someone who is cold-hearted and lives in misery. You do not act like a soulless zombie, who simply does not care about anything. You are someone who cares about life and how you can enjoy it. You care about life and those around you because being miserable is a waste of time.

You care about the impact you can have on the world. This makes you beautiful because it shows you have the attitude to enjoy life. You are not simply moping and focusing on the negatives, instead you want to be involved in the world. No one wants to speak to someone who consistently complains about life.

9. You don’t strive for perfection

You understand that you can’t spend your time aiming for perfection. You know that no one is perfect and you can only give your best (without needing to be dead-on perfect).

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Everyone has flaws or makes mistakes, it’s a part of the learning process. Being a perfectionist only leads to a restricted life, meaning you will miss out on life’s opportunities. People see you as beautiful when you loosen up a little and let life guide you. You aren’t focusing on making sure every little detail is precise, but instead you are opening your mind up to new experiences.

10. You are happy

You feel that being yourself makes you happy. After all, why should we let our flaws stop us from being happy? Being happy is more important than focusing on the negatives. You embrace yourself for who you are and don’t focus on any mistakes you may make.

Choose happiness and you’ll find it is the most beautiful thing you can wear! There is nothing more uplifting than having positive energy around. If I had a choice between being around the moping person and the happy one, I know I’d choose the happy one.

11. You don’t need validation from others

You don’t require validation from others around you. You understand that what you do and say does not have to be approved. It is your life so it doesn’t matter if someone else frowns upon one of your choices/morals.

By constantly seeking validation, you will struggle to find happiness. And you will only appear nervous and uncertain, not beautiful and carefree.

If you let go of that need for approval, you will allow yourself that freedom to be yourself. That is the true beauty of freedom from validation, that you can let yourself go completely.

12. You smile often

One of the most beautiful things in life is smiling. It shows you are a happy and positive person, something that will attract others to you.

You smile because you are happy. You smile because it releases those endorphins that bring you extra happiness. You smile at others because it is polite and friendly (and you are glad to see them).

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Your smile shows that you are fond of life. That you are not sitting back, moping about the little things.

13. You are optimistic

You look at the world through optimistic eyes. This means you do not look at the negatives in life. Instead you focus on what you can learn from a bad experience.

You always look at life with love and excitement. You look at what can go right in a future scenario, not at the worst outcome.

People love this as it means you are a happy-go-lucky person. It makes you beautiful due to the positive vibe you give.

14. You are prepared to show your flaws

This can be a hard thing to do, as it means allowing people to see your faults. This is also why it is a beautiful quality to possess, as it shows that you are being yourself.

In conversations you are willing to let go your insecurities. You are willing to share stories to help others out and not be worried by what they will think. You can open up to others and speak with confidence, without focusing on your faults.

True beautiful is never about looks, it’s all about being a good person. What makes you beautiful is being kind, carefree and happy.

I am sure you will be pleasantly surprised to find you how beautiful you really are.

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Last Updated on September 18, 2020

13 Helping Points When Things Don’t Go Your Way

13 Helping Points When Things Don’t Go Your Way

For the original article by Celestine: 13 Helping Points When Things Don’t Go Your Way

“We all have problems. The way we solve them is what makes us different.” ~Unknown

“It’s not stress that kills us, it is our reaction to it.” – Hans Selye

Have you ever experienced moments when things just don’t go your way? For example, losing your keys, accidentally spilling your drink, waking up late, missing your buses/trains, forgetting to bring your things, and so on?

You’re not alone. All of us, myself included, experience times when things don’t go as we expect.

Here is my guide on how to deal with daily setbacks.

1. Take a step back and evaluate

When something bad happens, take a step back and evaluate the situation. Some questions to ask yourself:

  1. What is the problem?
  2. Are you the only person facing this problem in the world today?
  3. How does this problem look like at an individual level? A national level? On a global scale?
  4. What’s the worst possible thing that can happen to you as a result of this?
  5. How is it going to impact your life in the next 1 year? 5 years? 10 years?

Doing this exercise is not to undermine the problem or disclaiming responsibility, but to consider different perspectives, so you can adopt the best approach for it. Most problems we encounter daily may seem like huge issues when they crop up, but most, if not all, don’t have much impact in our life beyond that day.

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2. Vent if you have to, but don’t linger on the problem

If you feel very frustrated and need to let off some steam, go ahead and do that. Talk to a friend, complain, crib about it, or scream at the top of your lungs if it makes you happy.

At the same time, don’t get caught up with venting. While venting may temporarily relieve yourself, it’s not going to solve the problem ultimately. You don’t want to be an energy vampire.

Vent if there’s a need to, but do it for 15 to 20 minutes. Then move on.

3. Realize there are others out there facing this too

Even though the situation may be frustrating, you’re not alone. Remember there are almost 7 billion people in the world today, and chances are that other people have faced the same thing before too. Knowing it’s not just you helps you to get out of a self-victimizing mindset.

4. Process your thoughts/emotions

Process your thoughts/emotions with any of the four methods:

  1. Journal. Write your unhappiness in a private diary or in your blog. It doesn’t have to be formal at all – it can be a brain dump on rough paper or new word document. Delete after you are done.
  2. Audio taping. Record yourself as you talk out what’s on your mind. Tools include tape recorder, your PC (Audacity is a freeware for recording/editing audio) and your mobile (most mobiles today have audio recording functions). You can even use your voice mail for this. Just talking helps you to gain awareness of your emotions. After recording, play back and listen to what you said. You might find it quite revealing.
  3. Meditation. At its simplest form, meditation is just sitting/lying still and observing your reality as it is – including your thoughts and emotions. Some think that it involves some complex mambo-jumbo, but it doesn’t.
  4. Talking to someone. Talking about it with someone helps you work through the issue. It also gets you an alternate viewpoint and consider it from a different angle.

5. Acknowledge your thoughts

Don’t resist your thoughts, but acknowledge them. This includes both positive and negative thoughts.

By acknowledging, I mean recognizing these thoughts exist. So if say, you have a thought that says, “Wow, I’m so stupid!”, acknowledge that. If you have a thought that says, “I can’t believe this is happening to me again”, acknowledge that as well.

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Know that acknowledging the thoughts doesn’t mean you agree with them. It’s simply recognizing the existence of said thoughts so that you can stop resisting yourself and focus on the situation on hand.

6. Give yourself a break

If you’re very stressed out by the situation, and the problem is not time sensitive, then give yourself a break. Take a walk, listen to some music, watch a movie, or get some sleep. When you’re done, you should feel a lot more revitalized to deal with the situation.

7. Uncover what you’re really upset about

A lot of times, the anger we feel isn’t about the world. You may start off feeling angry at someone or something, but at the depth of it, it’s anger toward yourself.

Uncover the root of your anger. I have written a five part anger management series on how to permanently overcome anger.

After that, ask yourself: How can you improve the situation? Go to Step #9, where you define your actionable steps. Our anger comes from not having control on the situation. Sitting there and feeling infuriated is not going to change the situation. The more action we take, the more we will regain control over the situation, the better we will feel.

8. See this as an obstacle to be overcome

As Helen Keller once said,

“Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experiences of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition inspired and success achieved.”

Whatever you’re facing right now, see it as an obstacle to be overcome. In every worthy endeavor, there’ll always be countless obstacles that emerge along the way. These obstacles are what separate the people who make it, and those who don’t. If you’re able to push through and overcome them, you’ll emerge a stronger person than before. It’ll be harder for anything to get you down in the future.

9. Analyze the situation – Focus on actionable steps

In every setback, there are going to be things that can’t be reversed since they have already occurred. You want to focus on things that can still be changed (salvageable) vs. things that have already happened and can’t be changed. The only time the situation changes is when you take steps to improve it. Rather than cry over spilt milk, work through your situation:

  1. What’s the situation?
  2. What’s stressing you about this situation?
  3. What are the next steps that’ll help you resolve them?
  4. Take action on your next steps!

After you have identified your next steps, act on them. The key here is to focus on the actionable steps, not the inactionable steps. It’s about regaining control over the situation through direct action.

10. Identify how it occurred (so it won’t occur again next time)

A lot of times we react to our problems. The problem occurs, and we try to make the best out of what has happened within the context. While developing a healthy coping mechanism is important (which is what the other helping points are on), it’s also equally important, if not more, to understand how the problem arose. This way, you can work on preventing it from taking place next time, vs. dealing reactively with it.

Most of us probably think the problem is outside of our control, but reality is most of the times it’s fully preventable. It’s just a matter of how much responsibility you take over the problem.

For example, for someone who can’t get a cab for work in the morning, he/she may see the problem as a lack of cabs in the country, or bad luck. However, if you trace to the root of the problem, it’s probably more to do with (a) Having unrealistic expectations of the length of time to get a cab. He/she should budget more time for waiting for a cab next time. (b) Oversleeping, because he/she was too tired from working late the previous day. He/she should allocate enough time for rest next time. He/she should also pick up better time management skills, so as to finish work in lesser time.

11. Realize the situation can be a lot worse

No matter how bad the situation is, it can always be much worse. A plus point vs. negative point analysis will help you realize that.

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12. Do your best, but don’t kill yourself over it

No matter how bad your situation may seem, do your best, but don’t kill yourself over it. Life is too beautiful to worry so much over daily issues. Take a step back (#1), give yourself a break if you need to (#6), and do what you can within your means (#9). Everything else will unfold accordingly. Worrying too much about the outcome isn’t going to change things or make your life any better.

13. Pick out the learning points from the encounter

There’s something to learn from every encounter. What have you learned from this situation? What lessons have you taken away?

After you identify your learning points, think about how you’re going to apply them moving forward. With this, you’ve clearly gained something from this encounter. You’ve walked away a stronger, wiser, better person, with more life lessons to draw from in the future.

Get the manifesto version of this article: [Manifesto] What To Do When Things Don’t Go Your Way

Featured photo credit: Alice Donovan Rouse via unsplash.com

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