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13 Things Highly Intuitive People Don’t Do

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13 Things Highly Intuitive People Don’t Do

You’ve met them. You know, the people who seem to know what’s going to happen before it does, predict your impending breakup or simply seem to read your mind. Before screaming ‘burn the witch!’ it’s important to know that these people aren’t so different from you, they’re probably just more intuitive. Those who are both cursed and blessed by being highly intuitive, they simply go about their lives in a different way. Let’s take a look at some of the things that these people don’t do.

1. They Don’t Ignore Their Inner Voice

Highly intuitive people know that their inner voice is something worth listening to. Sometimes basing decisions purely off logic and reason isn’t the best choice. I realise that to some this will sound crazy, but to those who consider themselves intuitive, they will understand that sometimes the best decision for ourselves are one that comes from that little inner voice, as opposed to the external information that the world provides us with.

2. They Don’t Let the Modern World Stop Them From Taking Time For Solitude

Between increasingly longer work days and technology keeping us constantly connected to one another, it can be difficult to take time for ourselves. In fact, some of us get so addicted to constant contact that taking time for solitude can be near impossible. Intuitive people know that it’s important to get off the grid every once and while, even if it’s just for an hour. They understand that people need time to decompress and get some much need stress relief. Yoga, meditation and Tai Chi are great ways to incorporate this essential ‘you time’ into your busy schedule.

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3. They Don’t Stifle Their Own Creativity

It can be easy to ignore or push down your creativity in order to be more practical. Quite frankly, pursuing creative interests and fields can be scary, and they’re certainly the roads less travelled. However, intutive people know that if they have that creative calling it’s important to let it flourish. Ignoring this urge can lead to a lifetime of unhappiness and feeling unfulfilled.

4. They Don’t Ignore Personal Observations

Part of being intuitive is simply being good at observing the world around you and then interpreting that information to find more subtle meanings. Intuitive people realise that being observant is imperative in order to find truth in people and the world in general. A small look or shift in body language, or a seemingly throw away comment, can be more important than what you may think.

5. They Don’t Ignore the Importance of Connecting With People On a Deep Level

Highly intuitive people love with every fiber of their being. Whether you’re a friend, a family member or a lover, they realise how important it is to connect on a deep level. After all, this is the only way to truly know someone. Both a positive and a negative of these connections is that they can also feel the pain of those they’re close to. Not literally of course, but they care deeply when someone is hurting emotionally. If an intuitive person ever says “I know how you feel”, they probably truly do.

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6. They Don’t Ignore Their Dreams

Highly intuitive people know that truth can be found not only in the physical world, but also in their own dreams. They’re aware that their brains use their sleeping state in order to work out problems and present solutions and pathways for the dreamer. Those who are the most aware of this generally become quite good at interpreting their own dreams and acting accordingly.

7. They Don’t Hold Onto Negative Emotions

People who are intuitive tend to be highly connected to their own emotions. It’s for that reason that they may find it hard to let go of negative emotions. However, they recognise the necessity of it in order to to keep emotionally and spiritually sane, as well as connect positively with others.

8. They Don’t Forget to be Mindful

Intuitive people tend to be incredibly mindful of those around them, as well as their environment. This is somewhat different to being observant because it taps into the feelings they get from what’s happening around them. This can be as simply as discerning how someone feels about them, to gauging whether they are in a potentially dangerous situation, despite appearances.

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9. They Generally Don’t Rush Their Decisions

Intuitive people who are acutely aware of the way they make choices may take longer to eventually come to a decision. This is because they tend to have more information and feelings to consider.

10. They Don’t Take Wrong Decisions Lightly

Highly intuitive people can get incredibly upset if they end up making a bad decision or choice. This makes sense considering that they tend to be equipped with more personal tools to avoid poor decisions and mistakes. However, nobody is infallible and it also makes them all the more careful when it comes to the important choices.

11. They Don’t Mind Crying

Intuitive people tend to be in touch with their emotions, and thus don’t see any harm in a good cry. They realise that sometimes people need a physical release in order to achieve an emotional one.

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12. They Don’t Ignore the Needs of Their Body

Highly intuitive people tend to be in tune with their bodies more and are aware if something is wrong. It’s for this reason that many will turn to spiritual exercises because these pursuits teach them how to be even more sensitive to their body’s needs.

13. They’re Not Afraid to be Spiritual

Highly intuitive people tend to be quite spiritual, but this doesn’t necessarily mean that they’re religious. They tend to be spiritual in terms of their relationship with themselves, those around them and the world.

Featured photo credit: Intuitive via thepennyfriends.com

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How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

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How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

You’re standing behind the curtain, just about to make your way on stage to face the many faces half-shrouded in darkness in front of you. As you move towards the spotlight, your body starts to feel heavier with each step. A familiar thump echoes throughout your body – your heartbeat has gone off the charts.

Don’t worry, you’re not the only one with glossophobia(also known as speech anxiety or the fear of speaking to large crowds). Sometimes, the anxiety happens long before you even stand on stage.

Your body’s defence mechanism responds by causing a part of your brain to release adrenaline into your blood – the same chemical that gets released as if you were being chased by a lion.

Here’s a step-by-step guide to help you overcome your fear of public speaking:

1. Prepare yourself mentally and physically

According to experts, we’re built to display anxiety and to recognize it in others. If your body and mind are anxious, your audience will notice. Hence, it’s important to prepare yourself before the big show so that you arrive on stage confident, collected and ready.

“Your outside world is a reflection of your inside world. What goes on in the inside, shows on the outside.” – Bob Proctor

Exercising lightly before a presentation helps get your blood circulating and sends oxygen to the brain. Mental exercises, on the other hand, can help calm the mind and nerves. Here are some useful ways to calm your racing heart when you start to feel the butterflies in your stomach:

Warming up

If you’re nervous, chances are your body will feel the same way. Your body gets tense, your muscles feel tight or you’re breaking in cold sweat. The audience will notice you are nervous.

If you observe that this is exactly what is happening to you minutes before a speech, do a couple of stretches to loosen and relax your body. It’s better to warm up before every speech as it helps to increase the functional potential of the body as a whole. Not only that, it increases muscle efficiency, improves reaction time and your movements.

Here are some exercises to loosen up your body before show time:

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  1. Neck and shoulder rolls – This helps relieve upper body muscle tension and pressure as the rolls focus on rotating the head and shoulders, loosening the muscle. Stress and anxiety can make us rigid within this area which can make you feel agitated, especially when standing.
  2. Arm stretches – We often use this part of our muscles during a speech or presentation through our hand gestures and movements. Stretching these muscles can reduce arm fatigue, loosen you up and improve your body language range.
  3. Waist twists – Place your hands on your hips and rotate your waist in a circular motion. This exercise focuses on loosening the abdominal and lower back regions which is essential as it can cause discomfort and pain, further amplifying any anxieties you may experience.

Stay hydrated

Ever felt parched seconds before speaking? And then coming up on stage sounding raspy and scratchy in front of the audience? This happens because the adrenaline from stage fright causes your mouth to feel dried out.

To prevent all that, it’s essential we stay adequately hydrated before a speech. A sip of water will do the trick. However, do drink in moderation so that you won’t need to go to the bathroom constantly.

Try to avoid sugary beverages and caffeine, since it’s a diuretic – meaning you’ll feel thirstier. It will also amplify your anxiety which prevents you from speaking smoothly.

Meditate

Meditation is well-known as a powerful tool to calm the mind. ABC’s Dan Harris, co-anchor of Nightline and Good Morning America weekend and author of the book titled10% Happier , recommends that meditation can help individuals to feel significantly calmer, faster.

Meditation is like a workout for your mind. It gives you the strength and focus to filter out the negativity and distractions with words of encouragement, confidence and strength.

Mindfulness meditation, in particular, is a popular method to calm yourself before going up on the big stage. The practice involves sitting comfortably, focusing on your breathing and then bringing your mind’s attention to the present without drifting into concerns about the past or future – which likely includes floundering on stage.

Here’s a nice example of guided meditation before public speaking:

2. Focus on your goal

One thing people with a fear of public speaking have in common is focusing too much on themselves and the possibility of failure.

Do I look funny? What if I can’t remember what to say? Do I look stupid? Will people listen to me? Does anyone care about what I’m talking about?’

Instead of thinking this way, shift your attention to your one true purpose – contributing something of value to your audience.

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Decide on the progress you’d like your audience to make after your presentation. Notice their movements and expressions to adapt your speech to ensure that they are having a good time to leave the room as better people.

If your own focus isn’t beneficial and what it should be when you’re speaking, then shift it to what does. This is also key to establishing trust during your presentation as the audience can clearly see that you have their interests at heart.[1]

3. Convert negativity to positivity

There are two sides constantly battling inside of us – one is filled with strength and courage while the other is doubt and insecurities. Which one will you feed?

‘What if I mess up this speech? What if I’m not funny enough? What if I forget what to say?’

It’s no wonder why many of us are uncomfortable giving a presentation. All we do is bring ourselves down before we got a chance to prove ourselves. This is also known as a self-fulfilling prophecy – a belief that comes true because we are acting as if it already is. If you think you’re incompetent, then it will eventually become true.

Motivational coaches tout that positive mantras and affirmations tend to boost your confidents for the moments that matter most. Say to yourself: “I’ll ace this speech and I can do it!”

Take advantage of your adrenaline rush to encourage positive outcome rather than thinking of the negative ‘what ifs’.

Here’s a video of Psychologist Kelly McGonigal who encourages her audience to turn stress into something positive as well as provide methods on how to cope with it:

4. Understand your content

Knowing your content at your fingertips helps reduce your anxiety because there is one less thing to worry about. One way to get there is to practice numerous times before your actual speech.

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However, memorizing your script word-for-word is not encouraged. You can end up freezing should you forget something. You’ll also risk sounding unnatural and less approachable.

“No amount of reading or memorizing will make you successful in life. It is the understanding and the application of wise thought that counts.” – Bob Proctor

Many people unconsciously make the mistake of reading from their slides or memorizing their script word-for-word without understanding their content – a definite way to stress themselves out.

Understanding your speech flow and content makes it easier for you to convert ideas and concepts into your own words which you can then clearly explain to others in a conversational manner. Designing your slides to include text prompts is also an easy hack to ensure you get to quickly recall your flow when your mind goes blank.[2]

One way to understand is to memorize the over-arching concepts or ideas in your pitch. It helps you speak more naturally and let your personality shine through. It’s almost like taking your audience on a journey with a few key milestones.

5. Practice makes perfect

Like most people, many of us are not naturally attuned to public speaking. Rarely do individuals walk up to a large audience and present flawlessly without any research and preparation.

In fact, some of the top presenters make it look easy during showtime because they have spent countless hours behind-the-scenes in deep practice. Even great speakers like the late John F. Kennedy would spend months preparing his speech beforehand.

Public speaking, like any other skill, requires practice – whether it be practicing your speech countless of times in front of a mirror or making notes. As the saying goes, practice makes perfect!

6. Be authentic

There’s nothing wrong with feeling stressed before going up to speak in front of an audience.

Many people fear public speaking because they fear others will judge them for showing their true, vulnerable self. However, vulnerability can sometimes help you come across as more authentic and relatable as a speaker.

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Drop the pretence of trying to act or speak like someone else and you’ll find that it’s worth the risk. You become more genuine, flexible and spontaneous, which makes it easier to handle unpredictable situations – whether it’s getting tough questions from the crowd or experiencing an unexpected technical difficulty.

To find out your authentic style of speaking is easy. Just pick a topic or issue you are passionate about and discuss this like you normally would with a close family or friend. It is like having a conversation with someone in a personal one-to-one setting. A great way to do this on stage is to select a random audience member(with a hopefully calming face) and speak to a single person at a time during your speech. You’ll find that it’s easier trying to connect to one person at a time than a whole room.

With that said, being comfortable enough to be yourself in front of others may take a little time and some experience, depending how comfortable you are with being yourself in front of others. But once you embrace it, stage fright will not be as intimidating as you initially thought.

Presenters like Barack Obama are a prime example of a genuine and passionate speaker:

7. Post speech evaluation

Last but not the least, if you’ve done public speaking and have been scarred from a bad experience, try seeing it as a lesson learned to improve yourself as a speaker.

Don’t beat yourself up after a presentation

We are the hardest on ourselves and it’s good to be. But when you finish delivering your speech or presentation, give yourself some recognition and a pat on the back.

You managed to finish whatever you had to do and did not give up. You did not let your fears and insecurities get to you. Take a little more pride in your work and believe in yourself.

Improve your next speech

As mentioned before, practice does make perfect. If you want to improve your public speaking skills, try asking someone to film you during a speech or presentation. Afterwards, watch and observe what you can do to improve yourself next time.

Here are some questions you can ask yourself after every speech:

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  • How did I do?
  • Are there any areas for improvement?
  • Did I sound or look stressed?
  • Did I stumble on my words? Why?
  • Was I saying “um” too often?
  • How was the flow of the speech?

Write everything you observed down and keep practicing and improving. In time, you’ll be able to better manage your fears of public speaking and appear more confident when it counts.

If you want even more tips about public speaking or delivering a great presentation, check out these articles too:

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