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13 Things Highly Intuitive People Don’t Do

13 Things Highly Intuitive People Don’t Do

You’ve met them. You know, the people who seem to know what’s going to happen before it does, predict your impending breakup or simply seem to read your mind. Before screaming ‘burn the witch!’ it’s important to know that these people aren’t so different from you, they’re probably just more intuitive. Those who are both cursed and blessed by being highly intuitive, they simply go about their lives in a different way. Let’s take a look at some of the things that these people don’t do.

1. They Don’t Ignore Their Inner Voice

Highly intuitive people know that their inner voice is something worth listening to. Sometimes basing decisions purely off logic and reason isn’t the best choice. I realise that to some this will sound crazy, but to those who consider themselves intuitive, they will understand that sometimes the best decision for ourselves are one that comes from that little inner voice, as opposed to the external information that the world provides us with.

2. They Don’t Let the Modern World Stop Them From Taking Time For Solitude

Between increasingly longer work days and technology keeping us constantly connected to one another, it can be difficult to take time for ourselves. In fact, some of us get so addicted to constant contact that taking time for solitude can be near impossible. Intuitive people know that it’s important to get off the grid every once and while, even if it’s just for an hour. They understand that people need time to decompress and get some much need stress relief. Yoga, meditation and Tai Chi are great ways to incorporate this essential ‘you time’ into your busy schedule.

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3. They Don’t Stifle Their Own Creativity

It can be easy to ignore or push down your creativity in order to be more practical. Quite frankly, pursuing creative interests and fields can be scary, and they’re certainly the roads less travelled. However, intutive people know that if they have that creative calling it’s important to let it flourish. Ignoring this urge can lead to a lifetime of unhappiness and feeling unfulfilled.

4. They Don’t Ignore Personal Observations

Part of being intuitive is simply being good at observing the world around you and then interpreting that information to find more subtle meanings. Intuitive people realise that being observant is imperative in order to find truth in people and the world in general. A small look or shift in body language, or a seemingly throw away comment, can be more important than what you may think.

5. They Don’t Ignore the Importance of Connecting With People On a Deep Level

Highly intuitive people love with every fiber of their being. Whether you’re a friend, a family member or a lover, they realise how important it is to connect on a deep level. After all, this is the only way to truly know someone. Both a positive and a negative of these connections is that they can also feel the pain of those they’re close to. Not literally of course, but they care deeply when someone is hurting emotionally. If an intuitive person ever says “I know how you feel”, they probably truly do.

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6. They Don’t Ignore Their Dreams

Highly intuitive people know that truth can be found not only in the physical world, but also in their own dreams. They’re aware that their brains use their sleeping state in order to work out problems and present solutions and pathways for the dreamer. Those who are the most aware of this generally become quite good at interpreting their own dreams and acting accordingly.

7. They Don’t Hold Onto Negative Emotions

People who are intuitive tend to be highly connected to their own emotions. It’s for that reason that they may find it hard to let go of negative emotions. However, they recognise the necessity of it in order to to keep emotionally and spiritually sane, as well as connect positively with others.

8. They Don’t Forget to be Mindful

Intuitive people tend to be incredibly mindful of those around them, as well as their environment. This is somewhat different to being observant because it taps into the feelings they get from what’s happening around them. This can be as simply as discerning how someone feels about them, to gauging whether they are in a potentially dangerous situation, despite appearances.

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9. They Generally Don’t Rush Their Decisions

Intuitive people who are acutely aware of the way they make choices may take longer to eventually come to a decision. This is because they tend to have more information and feelings to consider.

10. They Don’t Take Wrong Decisions Lightly

Highly intuitive people can get incredibly upset if they end up making a bad decision or choice. This makes sense considering that they tend to be equipped with more personal tools to avoid poor decisions and mistakes. However, nobody is infallible and it also makes them all the more careful when it comes to the important choices.

11. They Don’t Mind Crying

Intuitive people tend to be in touch with their emotions, and thus don’t see any harm in a good cry. They realise that sometimes people need a physical release in order to achieve an emotional one.

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12. They Don’t Ignore the Needs of Their Body

Highly intuitive people tend to be in tune with their bodies more and are aware if something is wrong. It’s for this reason that many will turn to spiritual exercises because these pursuits teach them how to be even more sensitive to their body’s needs.

13. They’re Not Afraid to be Spiritual

Highly intuitive people tend to be quite spiritual, but this doesn’t necessarily mean that they’re religious. They tend to be spiritual in terms of their relationship with themselves, those around them and the world.

Featured photo credit: Intuitive via thepennyfriends.com

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Tegan is a passionate journalist, writer and editor. She writes about lifestyle tips on Lifehack.

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How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

Example 1

You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

Example 2

You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

Example 3

You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

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The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

Example 4

You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

  • Understand your own communication style
  • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
  • Communicate with precision and care
  • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

1. Understand Your Communication Style

To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

2. Learn Others Communication Styles

Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

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If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

“How do you prefer to receive information?”

This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

3. Exercise Precision and Care

A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

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In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

“Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

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It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

The Bottom Line

When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

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