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12 Things Successful People Don’t Do

12 Things Successful People Don’t Do

If you’re an ambitious go-getter who wants to make the most out of this thing called life, watch out for these twelve things successful people don’t do.

1. They don’t give other people the power to define “success” for them.

Successful people pursue what makes them feel happy and accomplished without worrying about what everybody else thinks. They know some people measure success in dollars, while others put more emphasis on creating positive change in the world. There is nothing inherently “wrong” with either of those definitions, but successful people know it’s NOT right to force your interpretation on another person.

2. They don’t accept anything as truth without questioning it.

Successful people are critical thinkers who question new information before accepting it to be true. They understand that all authors (even journalistsare ruled by their prejudices just like the rest of us, so they maintain a healthy skepticism, no matter how “qualified” a source might claim to be.

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3. They don’t let friends or family dictate major life decisions.

Successful people care about their close ones, but they don’t put the opinions of others before their own happiness. They trust their intuition and pursue whatever fulfills them; even if that means disappointing their parents who expect them to run the “family business” or get a degree in a field that is “safe and secure.”

4. They don’t cling to past beliefs that were proven wrong.

Successful people are willing to accept the fact that they don’t have it all figured out. They try to stay humble, because life-long success depends on their ability to be receptive to change.

5. They don’t concern themselves with the unpredictable.

Successful people are comfortable with the reality that their future cannot be predicted. They might wish life came equipped with a crystal ball, but they acknowledge this isn’t the case, so they are ready to improvise when things don’t go according to plan.

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6.  They don’t agonize over criticisms or personal insults.

Successful people don’t stress out about receiving nasty comments online. They strive to make a positive difference in the lives of the people they serve, but they don’t justify ad-hominem arguments or personal attacks with a response.

7. They don’t think success will come “quick” or “easy.”

Successful people pity the fools who fall for “lose weight fast” and “get rich quick” schemes. They are aware that every person evolves at their own unique pace, so no one can make any promises about how long it will take to achieve meaningful progress.

8. They don’t wait for the “right time” to take action.

Successful people don’t say things like, “I’ll open my business when the time is right.” They know there isn’t a “right” time to do anything, so they chase their ambitions without hesitation.

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9. They don’t forget the people who matter.

Successful people make time to tend to their personal relationships, no matter how busy they might be. They realize that no matter how successful you might be, life would get depressing in a hurry without love and friendship

10. They don’t ignore pressing concerns.

Successful people confront problems as soon as possible. They are certainly tempted to neglect things that are difficult to deal with, but they tackle them anyway, because putting off a problem will only turn it into a bigger one.

11. They don’t dodge responsibilities.

Successful people accept responsibility for their thoughts and actions. They are human just like the rest of us, so they do make mistakes, but they are willing to own them by admitting fault and apologizing as necessary.

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12. They don’t care what you think.

Successful people aren’t concerned with the quantity of their friendships, but rather the quality of them. They know it’s impossible to please everybody, so they focus on developing close friendships with folks they care about.

Featured photo credit: Climbing Journal Mount Rinjani package/Trekking Rinjani via flickr.com

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Daniel Wallen

Daniel is a writer who focuses on blogging about happiness and motivation at Lifehack.

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Last Updated on December 3, 2019

10 Life Lessons You’d Better Learn Early on in Life

10 Life Lessons You’d Better Learn Early on in Life

There are so many lessons I wish I had learned while I was young enough to appreciate and apply them. The thing with wisdom, and often with life lessons in general, is that they’re learned in retrospect, long after we needed them. The good news is that other people can benefit from our experiences and the lessons we’ve learned.

Here’re 10 important life lessons you should learn early on:

1. Money Will Never Solve Your Real Problems

Money is a tool; a commodity that buys you necessities and some nice “wants,” but it is not the panacea to your problems.

There are a great many people who are living on very little, yet have wonderfully full and happy lives… and there are sadly a great many people are living on quite a lot, yet have terribly miserable lives.

Money can buy a nice home, a great car, fabulous shoes, even a bit of security and some creature comforts, but it cannot fix a broken relationship, or cure loneliness, and the “happiness” it brings is only fleeting and not the kind that really and truly matters. Happiness is not for sale. If you’re expecting the “stuff” you can buy to “make it better,” you will never be happy.

2. Pace Yourself

Often when we’re young, just beginning our adult journey we feel as though we have to do everything at once. We need to decide everything, plan out our lives, experience everything, get to the top, find true love, figure out our life’s purpose, and do it all at the same time.

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Slow down—don’t rush into things. Let your life unfold. Wait a bit to see where it takes you, and take time to weigh your options. Enjoy every bite of food, take time to look around you, let the other person finish their side of the conversation. Allow yourself time to think, to mull a bit.

Taking action is critical. Working towards your goals and making plans for the future is commendable and often very useful, but rushing full-speed ahead towards anything is a one-way ticket to burnout and a good way to miss your life as it passes you by.

3. You Can’t Please Everyone

“I don’t know the secret to success, but the secret to failure is trying to please everyone” – Bill Cosby.

You don’t need everyone to agree with you or even like you. It’s human nature to want to belong, to be liked, respected and valued, but not at the expense of your integrity and happiness. Other people cannot give you the validation you seek. That has to come from inside.

Speak up, stick to your guns, assert yourself when you need to, demand respect, stay true to your values.

4. Your Health Is Your Most Valuable Asset

Health is an invaluable treasure—always appreciate, nurture, and protect it. Good health is often wasted on the young before they have a chance to appreciate it for what it’s worth.

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We tend to take our good health for granted, because it’s just there. We don’t have to worry about it, so we don’t really pay attention to it… until we have to.

Heart disease, bone density, stroke, many cancers—the list of many largely preventable diseases is long, so take care of your health now, or you’ll regret it later on.

5. You Don’t Always Get What You Want

“Life is what happens while you’re busy making other plans.” – John Lennon

No matter how carefully you plan and how hard you work, sometimes things just don’t work out the way you want them to… and that’s okay.

We have all of these expectations; predetermined visions of what our “ideal” life will look like, but all too often, that’s not the reality of the life we end up with. Sometimes our dreams fail and sometimes we just change our minds mid-course. Sometimes we have to flop to find the right course and sometimes we just have to try a few things before we find the right direction.

6. It’s Not All About You

You are not the epicenter of the universe. It’s very difficult to view the world from a perspective outside of your own, since we are always so focused on what’s happening in our own lives. What do I have to do today? What will this mean for me, for my career, for my life? What do I want?

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It’s normal to be intensely aware of everything that’s going on in your own life, but you need to pay as much attention to what’s happening around you, and how things affect other people in the world as you do to your own life. It helps to keep things in perspective.

7. There’s No Shame in Not Knowing

No one has it all figured out. Nobody has all the answers. There’s no shame in saying “I don’t know.” Pretending to be perfect doesn’t make you perfect. It just makes you neurotic to keep up the pretense of manufactured perfection.

We have this idea that there is some kind of stigma or shame in admitting our limitations or uncertainly, but we can’t possibly know everything. We all make mistakes and mess up occasionally. We learn as we go, that’s life.

Besides—nobody likes a know-it-all. A little vulnerability makes you human and oh so much more relatable.

8. Love Is More Than a Feeling; It’s a Choice

That burst of initial exhilaration, pulse quickening love and passion does not last long. But that doesn’t mean long-lasting love is not possible.

Love is not just a feeling; it’s a choice that you make every day. We have to choose to let annoyances pass, to forgive, to be kind, to respect, to support, to be faithful.

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Relationships take work. Sometimes it’s easy and sometimes it’s incredibly hard. It is up to us to choose how we want to act, think and speak in a relationship.

9. Perspective Is a Beautiful Thing

Typically, when we’re worried or upset, it’s because we’ve lost perspective. Everything that is happening in our lives seems so big, so important, so do or die, but in the grand picture, this single hiccup often means next to nothing.

The fight we’re having, the job we didn’t get, the real or imagined slight, the unexpected need to shift course, the thing we wanted, but didn’t get. Most of it won’t matter 20, 30, 40 years from now. It’s hard to see long term when all you know is short term, but unless it’s life-threatening, let it go, and move on.

10. Don’t Take Anything for Granted

We often don’t appreciate what we have until it’s gone: that includes your health, your family and friends, your job, the money you have or think you will have tomorrow.

When you’re young, it seems that your parents will always be there, but they won’t. You think you have plenty of time to get back in touch with your old friends or spend time with new ones, but you don’t. You have the money to spend, or you think you’ll have it next month, but you might not.

Nothing in your life is not guaranteed to be there tomorrow, including those you love.

This is a hard life lesson to learn, but it may be the most important of all: Life can change in an instant. Make sure you appreciate what you have, while you still have it.

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